- When we think of the goal, like, okay, what's this goal we're after? This happiness, fulfillment,
contents, so on, we paint it as this supernatural like, I'm happy all the time and
I'm clouds all the time like it's old school, you can
say enlightenment conditioning where it's like you're never
lazy, you always feel inspired and motivated, is that the case? No, is there are times
where I still get mad? Of course.
Angry? Of course.
why procrastinate? Of course.
why I'm lazy? Of course.
Come up with excuses? Of course, okay. why I make mistakes? Of course. But what's the goal,
it's more of like this. I'm okay and I'm loving all of it. You know, you can think for a lot of us who placed the bar so high, it's like I must reach this point and only then does what
I want match reality. And when we're doing this work it's no, it's fine if you're up there, but if you're down there, be with it, there's always the match, and that's like the ups and
downs that add the contrast to life that makes life
interesting ,that makes it amazing. But there's not that same
suffering if you will, you know. Another way of viewing it
is, for a lot of people, you're swung back and forth, there's things that you've
labeled as acceptable, to say, feel and stuff
that's unacceptable. And most people it's that whole Buddhism attachment resistance,
where it's like, yey, and then you feel sad
you're like, fuck, yey, I feel angry, fuck, like that it's this constant back and forth. Someone who goes into deep
apathy or like somebody said, you started numbing yourself,
if someone was like, you know what, fuck this, all right. I'd rather just not feel,
sure i won't feel super happy but hey, at least I won't
feel super bad as well. I'd rather just be numb
and just live in this, like, resisting all state, okay. But that doesn't get you
what you're after, okay. By resisting all you
actually feel worse within more disconnected within, you get completely out of touch
with your needs, your wants, ask someone out with
you, what do you want? It's like, I don't
know, they're just lost. They're drained, why? Cause there's all that energy resisting. Someone who's an apathy
is still feeling a lot. They just placed out
their awareness, okay. The way out of this state of suffering, 'cause it is suffering, is
not by resisting everything, is by embracing everything, right? And that's the thing, it's like the goal here is
the more you do this work the more you change your
relationship with all those things. So, say you experience sadness. Does anyone here want to
experience some sadness? Everyone's like, oh fuck no,
they all label is unacceptable, right. And that's why when we experienced sadness we feel bad about feeling sad. We feel bad about feeling bad. And then we feel bad about
feeling bad, about feeling bad. Imagine this is the thought experiment, you were raised in a society where for the moment you're born like an alternate universe,
from the moment you're born. They're telling you, hey,
feeling sad is the best. And you go on YouTube and there's
all these how to feel sad. How to, you know, it's like,
you just got to feel sad. That's the best state to be in. That's when you're the most attractive. That's when you're the most
successful, you gotta be sad. What would happen if
you started feeling sad? You'd be like, oh, I'm feeling sad, yes. And you'd be because you're embracing your experience of that sadness changes. Okay, that is the goal
of this type of work. It's like, whatever's coming up. You're just with it and experiencing it. And instead of again, our
minds are fearing judging. This is good, what does it mean? This is bad, stuff it
down, so on and so forth. So it's like you're in this
flow of things, you know. That's the biggest thing I noticed, its like you're in a flow of
things, you enjoy feeling. Number two, you know how
to process new things that are thrown your way. Like there's still gonna
be adversity, challenges, so on and so forth. And for a lot of us, we
get, you know, overwhelmed. And for most people, they just
stuff more down with that. Here, you learn how to just
feel your way through it. You're free from being triggered. Okay, now, do I still
get triggered at times? Of course, okay. But way fucking less than before, imagine just no longer being triggered no longer having your
strings pulled like that. Just the pure freedom where it's like, oh, now we can finally live
a life of my own design. Until then if you're always
doing stuff in reaction, that's not the life of your own design. Right, you've all heard the saying, if you don't have a plan for your life, someone else has a plan for you. Now we always think like, oh yeah, it's the governments and other stuff. You know, you know, who has
a plan for you, past trauma. And it's not a good plan, right? Totally has it planned for you. So the more you let go, it's like the more you're
starting to respond appropriate to reality, you're no longer held back. You're not grabbing your strings
pulled or buttons pushed. It's fucking awesome. So I'll say and the
other thing too is like, it allows you to just
also like, somebody said, like embrace every step of the journey. You know, if you think about
this rush to get somewhere like I gotta reach this point,
I gotta succeed at this. What is the assumption behind it, that you just really hate where you're at and who you are now, right. And that's the thing, you can love and accept
everything about you now, and still go in a certain
direction and accomplish things. Right. But the thing is, you're
enjoying every step of the way. Moving in that direction,
nothing stays the same. So it's the difference between
I hate where I'm at now. And I crave that, placing the
destination in the future, versus, I love where I'm at now. And instead of craving and desire this is my intention to
move in this direction. And every day I'm just gonna love it. You know, I used to compare it. If you've ever played an instrument this is the best way to put it like, or even like a flow state, right. You're getting this flow state
or if you're composing a song and some bit of genius kicks in, if you ever tried composing
that's what happens, like have this and then, oh shit, this is, what the fuck and its kicking it. And you know, it's like, this is amazing. And when it finally
turns into a whole song, it's gonna be so cool so on and so forth. But you're enjoying the process. It's like this assumption, like of course, it's
gonna be a great song. Let's enjoy, you know, adding to this, tweaking this, playing
around with this versus, Oh, this is great. But I'll only be happy when
the song is recorded and done. That's what we do with life. No, it's like just embrace
every step of the way. You know, there is really
nowhere to get, we all die. That's where we all get. No matter what you do can
guarantee your destination, death. Right. You can always do more, you
can always accomplish more. So the key is hey, are you enjoying the right here right now? You've already passed the finish line. That's the whole part of this work is instead of placing the
finish line out there, you've passed it. Start loving yourself and enjoying it. And then from that, still go
thrive and crush it in life. This is actually what allows
you to crush it in life and to enjoy the results you're getting. And that's the thing too with everyone, who's like very hustlery. They never enjoyed where they're at. And even the results they
get through their hustle, they don't enjoy either. So it's like, what are you tasting? You're tasting all this stuff. You never even like when you get it. If you're someone who's also very, you project a lot. It's like if only I got this,
if only I got a partner, if only got a, It's like,
as soon as you get that, you're immediately like,
well, it didn't work. What's next? And you're chasing the next
thing, and the next thing you're not even enjoying what you get. Okay, so, for me, what I've noticed is, in terms of feeling that's what helped. And then in terms of just action steps, loving every part of it. So much self sabotage is gone. And that's, I mean, fuck, if you, if you think about most people's lives it's really like, you know,
you think you're moving up and you hit different bumps and obstacles but in reality, you're capped
and people move up, down up, down, and they always
stay behind this line. You pass this line where you think you're not worthy anymore. For some reason you self sabotage and then you fix the mess you made. So you keep creating
messes and fixing messes. So it gives you this illusion
of progress, but not really. Realistically, this is
not even what happens. You wanna know what happens? Its this, dead, so a downhill fall of self sabotage, giving you the illusion
fixing the messes that you unconsciously create. You know, that was a ton of my life and a ton of the advice out
there that you'll see too, which I got damn good at, is
anti self sabotage device. Right, it's like, you know that thing that keeps pulling you back and we're like trying to fight against it but it never gets rid of the
thing that pulls you back. It's like the social anxiety challenges you're a grasping onto them. And as soon as you stop
doing them, you're back. So for me, this is the one where it's like There's no longer that pull
back or at least far less You know. And what I will say too with the type of change that happens it's very, it's very subtle and it sneaks up on you. So remember that, okay. What does mainstream
condition us to think? Transformation is like, it's like a "Dragon Ball Z" like a, like that, you know I think it was in New York. I've joked about this. Like someone asked me, or
maybe Berlin, someone asked me. Hey, so how do you know
when you transformed? And I literally like jokingly, but serious for a bit just to see if, how people would react to me. So, you know, "Dragon Ball Z" And he's like this. And it's like, like that's what happened and the guy was like, wow, that's amazing. I'm like, no dude, no,
that's not a transformation. Will you have moments like this? Of course. And those moments are great, but, because it's so over the
top, overwhelming, it's like, it's not permanent. Okay, the type of
transformation you want is, when it seems like you've
always been this way, the type of change you want is the change that's actually tough to identify. And you only catch it when
you start looking back. And I would even recommend, by the way, don't be obsessive over the top of this, maybe now and then just
journal down, how you think, how you react to certain
things and then say a month down the road,
two months down the road, three months, look back at that. And that's when you see, you're like, what the fuck, I used to think like that? That's how I used to react to things? That used to trigger me? I used to be in that state? I wrote that post? What? I thought I was always like this? Now, you know, it's permanent. When it seems like this is just me, it's always been like this. It's no effort to maintain. It's just how it is, now It stays. If it's this crazy thing,
you're like, see I'm doing it. I'm maintaining it. Yeah, that's not permanent. It's not you yet. Okay, so it's like that
constant looking back. It's like, oh shit. Okay, and just again, it is a
process, it's a way of life. You could say, this is our
natural way of life, right. If you were born and no one told you, hey, this is good, this is bad. You would just feel your way through life and embrace your way through life. But then our mind interferes. Okay, and no one teaches us. People just say, hey, you know what. Just to compensate it, go chase success, get successful help throw some money at it,
throw some money at it. Throw some validation at
it, throw some drugs at it throw some drinking at it,
throw some Netflix at it, distract yourself, throw some food at it. Yeah, it's like, no, what about just being with it? You know. And I do think as well,
like somebody said, like this isn't just the most important
work for you on yourself. But also just the ripple effect it has. A lot of people ask me. It's like, so you know,
does anyone have kids? Anyone here have kids,
raise your hands if so. No one, one, cool. All right, so, the question I get like that is like, So say you have a kid it's like, what would be the right way to raise him? And everyone is gonna be
like, well, avoid trauma. Right, If you hear trauma is the enemy that's where letting go of
you're probably thinking, teach the kid to avoid trauma just shelter the kid, but
that'll just fuck the kid up. Right, if you think about it, like overwhelming situations are gonna get you. Yeah, sheltered the kid
from bad stuff obviously. But guess what? The loss in the grocery store or a kid interpreting something very from alluded to perception,
it's just gonna happen. That's life. Instead, support your kid,
throw your kid in life, but then guess what? Teach your kid how to process it. That's the thing, if we just
started processing this, we just let it build up our entire lives. And here we are like, let's
start processing it now. What if you did it the entire time? That's what animals actually do. You can, you can research this. Like, there's the spiritual angle to this. And the more like down to earth scientific people do studies with say PSD or who look at how animals process trauma. So if you at an animal,
there's the whole fight, flight and freeze. That's the three. If they were faced with a threat like say, you're a deer and there's a fucking bear. It's like, you can either run,
you can fight or you freeze. If you can't run or fight,
we go in this like altered frozen state where you'll
see an animal play dead. 'Cause it's like your only option. There's nothing you can
do, you're like, fuck, I'm gonna die. Just, you know, play dead. Maybe the animals, the bears
is gonna think I'm dead and get, and bounce. And on my end, I'm just
gonna retreat and dissociate as much as I can from reality. 'cause as a deer, I'm about
to fucking die and get my legs and arms like ripped off. Okay, you go in the state
like you'll hear people talk about this even with like abuse, where they see themselves
from the ceiling, right. You completely disconnect. You even do that people say like to not even experience the pain, like if an animal is killing you, it's like things are being ripped off and you're still alive. You're so dissociated
that you don't even feel the ripping off, It's just over and its like this never happened. It doesn't even consciously register. Now say we take that
example, there's the deer, okay, lying down and say the
bear's like, you know what, fuck it and just leaves. Now. although the deer
is like completely frozen inside the nervous system, it's
fucking supercharged, okay. Now what they say is in the studies. Once the threat is gone,
you'll see the deer slowly like bring back life into its body, stand up and just start
shaking uncontrollably, like spasms, like that,
unleashing all that surcharge. Now, then it just goes on with its day. If you have an animal you'll even see like your dog do this multiple times a day, it just shake it out. And then like totally chilling Right, like one second to the next, you know, I have a dog like, I'll take her out and
she'll like, see some trees and leaves and freak
the fuck out, just like, and then shake it off and
just literally totally chill. Right, moment to moment, fine. What we do as humans though,
is we never shake it off. We never shake it off. We then get up still supercharged and then keep going through
life and just keeps piling on and piling on and piling
on and just destroys us. And what are we doing here with this work? We're going back to all that. Even by diving deep, we're
summoning all that stuff that we should have processed back then. And we're finally processing it now instead of work ethic,
develop a work magnet 'cause what is work ethic? Just another illustration here, work ethic is saying, okay, here is me. I want to go here, okay. This is where I wanna go. However there is a part of me, let's say a little devil part, right. A little part of me that
doesn't wanna go towards you know, having my own
best interests at heart. A part of me that wants to
drag me all the way down. This is, these are flames, okay. Now, unless I discipline this little devil, right, work ethic, like,
no we're going this way. Then by default, I'm gonna go here. That's what people think. I need to make myself say be healthy, by default otherwise I
would not be healthy. Wait a minute, what the
fuck do you mean by default, you wouldn't be healthy? Why is it that by default you don't have your own
best interests at heart? I need to make myself succeed. Or by default, I would go towards failure. Why would you go towards failure? So what are we doing by letting go, It's letting go of this
little inner demon. Now it's not letting go in a way. You can go in a little bit more subtle by you know, whipping and
kicking the demon out. It's by actually loving
the demon and realizing that there was no demon. And by embracing it, it just fades away. And then guess what? You're pulled towards your goals. There's no longer this weight,
this counter direction. For example, when it
comes to self sabotage, you could have it around
any of these levels All right, you could
have self sabotage around a certain desire, a need, right. This is a subtle one. The more you need something, the more you're addicting
yourself to not having it. That's your comfort zone. If you get it, you
would no longer need it. So if you've been needing
something for too long, you're gonna self sabotage 'cause you're gonna wanna keep
feeling your comfort zone. You know, the need of it. It could also have to do with fear, could have to do with you being a victim and trying to stay here. So, by focusing on it, through this map and you can see immersing
yourself on each level it's like, there's a bit
of the demon in each level. So you do this general sweep
and it just catches it. Two key sayings that I give everyone in the mentoring is number one, shut the fuck up and keep releasing. That's a mantra. Shut the fuck up, keep releasing. 'Cause your mind is gonna
have all these doubts. It's like shut the fuck
up and keep releasing. And the other key saying is action, trigger, release, repeat, action, trigger, release, repeat. Okay, so you gotta start catching yourself whenever you're triggered or you can proactively trigger yourself
as we discussed here. Okay. The letting go, the internal
work doesn't take away from taking massive action,
by taking massive action. You're gonna get triggered, but instead of the numbing yourself, it's like action trigger, release and then just keep repeating,
go through your life that way. And you'll be amazed at how fast, not only cause you're
taking action moving forward but like it becomes easy action. There's no self-sabotage and you're using it to
dive deep at the same time. And it's just this upward fucking spiral. Okay. Action. Trigger, release, repeat. Start auditing your life. Okay, if you look at
this map, this is key. Try to identify what
your default state is at. Where would you reside most of the time. Now we all have pockets of each, but what's the one that's the most you could say dominant. Right. So for example, when things happen in your life and you look at even like the self-talk or the general theme, are you
someone who easily reverts to victim hood as an example? Like that's your comfort zone. Something doesn't go your
way, your like, poor me. You see all the things are against me. Are you someone who
gets angry all the time? 'cause we're in a state of anger. Someone was in a state
of fear all the time. Okay. Now with this, it shows you
the direction you gotta go in. Now this goes against mainstream advice. Mainstream advice says follow feel good. So if you're in say grief and suddenly you start
experiencing fear or anger. You're gonna be like, this is bad. I'm going backwards. No, you're actually moving up. Someone coming from up here
going down is obviously good, but not this way, okay. So now you have the direction. The mistake people make too
is they try to aim too high. So say you're in fear and it's like, I wanna follow my purpose. It's like, no, you gotta
aim for the next step or two steps up, work your way up. And then the other thing is
you move up by letting go. But also at each level there's
different mindsets and tools and you need to know which
ones go with each level. So when you catch
yourself, oh, I'm in fear. This is the mindsets and tools. Oh, I'm in grief. This is the mindset and tools, okay. For example in grief, if you're a victim, it can be helpful to be like foot down, stop being a little
bitch, be mad at yourself, say, fuck you to your inner victim, right. It's not time to forgive
and grief per say. Usually if you forgive it just kind of perpetuates the grief. So it's hey, fuck that. Be pissed at yourself. Now you're in anger, now
that you're in anger. Now you can forgive. Okay. This is also why you hear
sometimes contradicting advice, like be motivated, like me
literally right now saying be angry and use that as motivation. But then you also hear me say
hey, let go of this anger, discipline motivation, and be inspired and motivated by love. Which one is it? Depends for where you're at on the scale, which level you're at,
different advice for each level. Right now you know you're
probably in a very, you could say not to label higher or low,
like a higher state, right. A more conscious States and
in a more conscious state it can be very inspiring to do things you know, that are authentic. You might feel very connected and love, and you wanna help people
and better the world and all that shit. But guess what? You're not gonna stay in this,
especially until you start you know, putting in this work
and sticking at the process. And there's gonna be
times where you drop down to your lower self and does
the lower self give a fuck about changing the world
and helping people? Yes or no? No, fuck no. So what you do here is ask yourself, what is my lower self motivation? Okay. I do this with everything
myself, by the way. Okay. And even to this day, like,
you know, he was asking like, I still fall into
pockets where, you know I'm petty, for real, an
event like this, for example what's my drive to help as
many people as possible. That's literally my drive. Does it mean though that every
single life event like this before showing up, I'm like, can't wait to change the
world and help people. Yes or no. No, most of the time yes, being honest. But there are some times
where I'm like, fuck this. I don't wanna do it. Literally, fuck this I don't wanna do it. Now, why is it though that I
still go all out and kill it? Cause I did this. I literally said like
higher self, lower self, higher self I listed out impact,
legacy, changed the world you know, from where I came
from and like the shitty ass like miserable, anxious
state, like getting out of it. I couldn't live with myself
if I didn't pass that on and help people like
literally the ripple effect that this will have for those of you who fully commit to stick at it and how that'll affect
people and affect people. It's like, that's what I fucking live for. And I have a list of this,
but also have the lower self. So say I wake up one day and
I'm like, you know what, fuck. I don't wanna do this shit,
lower self, I'm all petty. I don't know. It's like, do I care about like, I don't even care about
changing the world. Fuck those people, they
could just be miserable. So and so forth. what's some petty motivation? Petty motivation is, well,
you'll make some money. Literally, I'll start
thinking about money. Is that the best drive? Fuck no. What am I gonna think about too? Well, I want, I would literally
link it to validation. I'll get some validation. I'll get word of mouth
and they'll talk about me. And then their friends or
whoever they talk about will eventually buy in more money. Now, all these petty things,
what do they lead to? Me performing a fucking amazing seminar. Right, they lead to the
same goal, the same outcome, me coming here and like, you know what? I wanna do such a sick ass
event, even petty says petty. I want to do such a sick ass
event that you love it so much. That you talk to more people and they buy at least the same thing. Okay. So now what happens is no
matter where I find myself now by doing this work, you
move out of the lower self as much as you can, but even
say you're starting out, no matter where you're at, you're moving into
direction towards success and giving it your all. Right. But we fail to do is we don't do this. We, again, we overestimate,
it's always the higher self. And when you're in petty
stuff, you're like, fuck it. And you don't do it. So this is all about
once more, being honest with yourself and listing
it out for all your goals write down higher self
motivation, lower self motivation. And depending on the
day or where you're at and it can fluctuate. Pull it out, those days you don't want to, pull out the petty stuff. It's fine. Okay. So that'll help tremendously
moving forward as well. This is Julianne. And if you're someone
who has social anxiety you fear putting yourself out
there or you procrastinate. You put things off, you come
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