The Secret about Sex and Holiness

uh spoiler not spoiler heads up uh this is gonna be a pg-13 video maybe pg-15 i'm not sure you'd be the judge but they're gonna be we're gonna talk about sex so uh whatever that means for you and your family just fair warning here we go [Music] hi my name is father mike schmitz and this is ascension presents so we have the seven sacraments right seven sacraments right we have the seven sacraments are three sacraments of initiation baptism confirmation holy eucharist the two sacraments of vocation and the two sacraments of healing anointing of the sick and confession okay cambers what is a sacrament i ask i ask this of my marriage prep couples every every time i make but not every time i meet with them at least once in the course of our meeting and i've had maybe five couples be able to answer that question with a definition that is adequate and i understand i'm putting them on the spot in this moment where they're not expecting a pop quiz from the priest in the middle of their marriage prep of hey what is the definition of a sacrament but i'll ask you what's the definition of a sacrament there are some really good definitions out there one helpful i think definition is very simple it's a sacred sign instituted by christ that gives grace a sacred sign instituted by christ that gives grace okay so what's grace grace is the very life of god right so it's it's sanctifying grace it's what makes us like god it makes us holy and brings us into relation with god it brings us closer to god sanctifying grace is the grace that transforms us it's without it we're done right you know we're we're dead with it we become like him with it we become holy we become saints essentially okay so that's what a sacrament is sacred sign instituted by christ that gives grace when it comes to marriage it's really interesting because i will always tell our couples this this first part that when you're at the altar some people will say things like oh father mike you married my sister i'm like no i promise you i'd never married your sister i'm unmarried i did not marry anybody um like you know what i mean you know you did the wedding yes that's very different your sister married your brother-in-law and your brother-in-law married your sister the catholic theology when it comes to matrimony is that the groom gives the sacrament to the bride and the bride gives the sacrament to the groom in fact the two ministers of the sacrament are the bride and the groom so i don't know if you mean that the priest is there deacon is there the bishop is there to witness to bear witness to that and to essentially officiate to be the you know official witness of the church to receive their vows essentially when the groom says i jack take you jill to be my wife etc and bride says i jill take you jack to be my husband etc with those words in the power of the holy spirit the sacrament is ratified like at the altar the sacrament is ratified what i mean by that is it's made real it's a true and real sacrament but that's not where it ends because it's ratified at the altar but the sacrament is not completed until the sexual embrace i'm gonna stop that again stop here for a second so when you have a couple at the altar i jack take you jill i jill take you jack ring on the finger ring on the finger okay that sacrament is real the two have become one but the sacrament is incomplete until the sexual embrace when with their bodies they say what they said with their words at the altar in fact the sacrament remains incomplete i think you can even say it remains invalid until that moment of the sexual embrace and what that means is an essential part an essential element of the sacrament of matrimony is the sexual embrace so when i was in 10th grade or 9th grade whenever i went through the sacraments course in religious ed and i was like oh this is so boring i can't believe here we are talking about the saints i had no idea that an essential part of one of those sacraments was sex and i might have i think maybe i might have been a little more interested if i had known this what's the ramifications about this well what the ramifications are are incredible what do i mean well i remember when my parents had their 25th wedding anniversary the priest came over to the house and they celebrated mass in the house they renewed the vows is beautiful my parents a few years ago had their 50th wedding anniversary i was the priest they got to celebrate the mass and then received their renewal of vows it was it was beautiful incredible but did you realize and so renewing that was awesome super good well done gold star keep it up but do you realize that every time husband and wife entered into the sexual embrace they are renewing their wedding vows that's what's happening is at the altar they say i am totally yours i'm freely fully faithfully and fruitfully yours in the sexual embrace that's what they're saying again and they're not simply saying it with words they're re-participating in the sacrament in fact it's it's like this you and i we go to confession because we need grace right we hope we become holier we go to adoration we go to mass and receive the grace of the eucharist because we want to become holier did you realize that as often as a husband and wife enter the sexual embrace this is just what father mike is saying this is what saint thomas aquinas had said every time as often as a husband and wife enter into the sexual embrace in a state of grace they are growing in grace and in glory which is one of the reasons why i want to have like a a book that i can write called how to get holy through good sex or something like this because this is blows the mind that this is actually the teaching of the church why does the church say that sex is so is only for marriage it's not because okay it's dirty because it's it's kind of it's kind of gross and so you need to save it for someone you're really special someone's really special someone you really love like no it's because sex is so good it's actually not just good it's holy not just holy it is a path to holiness if a sacrament is a sacred sign instituted by christ that gives grace that gives the very life of god and marriage is a sacrament and the sexual embrace is the renewal of that marital sacrament as often as a husband and wife enter into the sexual embrace in a state of grace they are growing in grace they are growing in glory this is incredible this is i mean this is this is remarkable in fact whenever i tell our couples this it goes from one hand which is like oh my gosh that's weird that seems really weird i don't know if i can like they imagine that when it gets to that point in their relationship where they're married and they're having sexual embrace that they're gonna shut the door saying okay god stay outside we're gonna shut the door we'll open the door for you when you when when we're done and there's this kind of queasy you know kind of squeamish about the idea of like no god is participating in this on the other hand you have people who are mad i've had brides who are so mad like why didn't they tell us this when i was in high school why didn't i when i hear about this beforehand why is the church keeping this so secret and the answer is i don't know is it and not intentionally be kept being kept to secret this is just the truth the truth is that as often as a husband and wife enter into the sexual embrace in a state of grace they are growing in grace and growing in glory again i want to say it it's like when you go to adoration when you go to confession when you go to mass and receive the grace of god through confession the grace of god through the eucharist husbands and wives when you enter into the sexual embrace in a state of grace you're receiving the grace of god by being a gift of yourself in the name of jesus to your bride to you or to your groom this should transform the way in which husbands and wives approach each other it changed the way our boyfriends and girlfriends and fiances approach each other as well because this is one of those things where i can't celebrate the sacrament until the sacrament's been ratified right i can't actually consummate the sacrament until the sacrament has been ratified because that's why the church says hey stay away from premarital sex not because it's bad but because it is so incredible that actually it's meant to be the pathway to holiness not the road to hell it's meant to be an expression of love not an expression of mutual self-destruction it is so good such a gift so my invitation is if you're dating invite the lord into those small gestures of affection those embraces those kisses invite the lord into that okay lord you're part of this if you're married to be able to approach your spouse with that sense of okay we're actually renewing our vows here in renewing our vows we're allowing the lord to give us a renewed dose of sanctifying grace his very life that transforms our lives and raises us up to the level of saint i'm not making this up i'm telling you this is this is incredible this is um hidden it's a secret uh teaching of the church but it's not meant to be a secret i think just too many of us haven't heard it so don't just hear it live it franco's here at ascension presents my name is father mike god bless

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Id: 8hKRpVmTygU

Length: 8min 44sec (524 seconds)

Published: Wed Dec 01 2021