The Ideal Wife

[Music] [Music] why do i see most of you in the hell fire so they were very scared what did they do they said okay they take the bull take it whatever it is we give them sadaqa but they asked him why he said two things one you uh slander your husband you bad mouth you say bad things you're cursing a lot and the second thing was you know you actually disregard the good things he does for you or you don't remember them or you don't appreciate them but you don't recognize them or you don't admit them that your husband does something good you know the hadith says he is good to you all the time he makes one mistake what happens and what do you say i've never seen any good from you i should have never married you and you were a loser from the first day i met you you have to stay away from these two characters inshallah you know ibrahim alaihi islam you know when he visited islam in the beginning and he knocked on the door and he said how is your life so she started to complain about everything every aspect of her life you know this and that is difficult for us we're in the message on to uh this mahelz wife it says when your husband comes home tell him that the man the wayfarer the traveler says change the doorstep of your home so when islam came home his wife is now telling him that one man a wayfarer came and visited us is how is it going and he's left the message for you he says change the doorstep of your home. so he divorced his wife he married another wife and again said he comes to visit and he has alhamdulillah a beautiful wife how is it going and she did not complain about anything alhamdulillah we're content to whatever allah gives us and grieves us by all means do so and we are good in all of that stuff alhamdulillah he says tell your husband when he comes back hold on and be steadfast on the doorstep of your home and he kept her so again your complainer are you content and so on and so forth a husband doesn't like a nagging wife does it like a wife who always talks and talks and and is never tired of talking and commenting and everything asking about every detail whom did you go with today what were you doing who's this person who called you and so on and so forth not only because she wanted to share something but there are many subjects that do not attach themselves or they're not related to his personal life his work his friends and so on and so forth she needs to refrain a bit from these things and only talk about necessary things you know a man comes home he's tired from work he needs some rest he doesn't want to buggle his mind with so many questions or so many issues but she's willing to open a whole chapter yes she needs to choose the right time when she communicates with the husband and communicates also in a nice and softer way so that he can act accordingly and i think once she's the one who has the key for a successful conversation and successful communication with the husband and therefore she needs to look after the tongue once she holds that tongue i think a lot of things would be so much easy in that relationship between a husband and wife let me give you something that is allah is beautiful prophet muhammad said have i not told you about the woman in jannah among them he says if a woman is angry with her husband or her husband is angry with her she knocks on the door says i will not go to sleep unless you are pleased with me because she is in heaven yes isn't that a beautiful thing so how was your relationship with your husband how was she the prophet muhammed she was there and she supported him he says she believed in me where nobody else did she supported me when everybody else did not so i want you to be like please understand remember when i told you don't kick a man when he's down i'm telling a true story now i remember one time i went through difficulties but you know my wife she sold her gold you know i know how much you love gold i went through difficulties whatever that may be that difficult time and she didn't kick me when i'm down just like she was there for him supported him and i can tell you when my wife especially looked after my mother wallahi i will never forget that her stock went through the roof yes please understand somebody else will come and deal with you as same as you've dealt with this man somebody will marry your son and will do the same thing to you how a man allows his wife to go out the house with perfume how do you allow his wife to go out without her hijab how he let his wife to go out he's just mixing with men how did man just allow his wife to do that the prophet shallallahu gave a name for that man the youth this is the man he does not he don't mind his wife shaking hands with men he don't mind his wife sitting down next to men being chummy with them he don't mind leaving his wife in halwa with another man he don't mind his wife leaving the house with lipstick and perfume on and all that in the door how do man let his wife leave like that he is the youth and the prophet salallahu said allah won't even look at him on a day of judgment he won't even look at you because you let your prized possession your wives and your daughters you let them go like that so sisters one regarding your behavior you are the mothers of the future generation you have your children's eyes on you 24 hours a day more than they see their father they are looking at you listening to your voice looking at your face looking what you do in the morning if you don't pray do you think your children will pray if you are cursing and complaining what do you think your children will do if you are watching television all day what you think your children will be raised up thinking if you are always demanding give me this give me that why don't you this why don't you that what you think your daughters will do when they grow up if you are uncovering yourself disrespecting yourself showing your aura outside to the people and what is the aura of the muslim woman her entire body the message of he allah through his masjid and he passed by some women and he said to them oh women verily allah subhana tala allowed me to see into the hell fire and i saw that many of its inhabitants was women and they said ya rasulullah how come he said because they are given to cursing complaining and spreading gossip and they are also ungrateful to their husbands so that if their husband gives them everything when they become angry with him they say you never give me nothing our sisters should guard themselves and control themselves and understand that they are the flowers of islam they are also the handmaidens of allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala so my sisters inside of your homes keep your home clean keep yourself clean keep your children clean make your husband feel good and relaxed when he comes home don't meet him at the door badgering him where have you been where is the groceries where is the money what you promised me who you talking to take care of him and be grateful to allah subhanahu wa especially if he's a believer and he is praying and i'd like to remind our brothers that none of us if we were given the awesome responsibility could do what the women do psychologically you cannot do it your mind is not prepared to do what they do day in and day out and still she's taking care of herself and she's taking care of her husband may allah reward those sisters [Music] and may allah cover their faults may allah cause their husbands and brothers and sons to appreciate them because they are the goodly trees that bear the goodly fruit allah subhanahu wata'ala mentioned in the quran you

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Keywords: the marriage series, the ideal husband, love before marriage, istikharah for marriage

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Length: 10min 10sec (610 seconds)

Published: Mon Sep 03 2018

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I'm a man. Is there a video for the ideal husband?