The Four Attachment Styles of Love

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box love up neatly into categories nor does it mean you're stuck with one attachment style forever in fact it's important to note that as time goes on your attachment style can change from the way you evolved as a lover if things have become fragile between you and your partner realize that this is your chance to grow here are the four attachment styles in love number one secure when you have a secure attachment style you have a great advantage in love you feel comfortable going to your partner when something is off and in return you allow your partner absolute freedom people with a secure attachment style tend to have honest open and equal relationships where both partners can thrive and grow together at a healthy pace they understand how to merge together to form a stable ground they can stand and operate on this probably sounds too good to be true but security is not to be confused with perfection people with a secure attachment style experience conflict and bad days just like any other couple but what sets them apart is their higher emotional intelligence that helps them communicate their feelings effectively and their ability to problem-solve rather than attacking their partners essentially they're highly resilient individuals who understand how to move past obstacles with great care and self-awareness number two anxious preoccupied people with an anxious preoccupied attachment style tend to romanticize love because it's easier for them to form a fantasy bond with someone instead of something based off a reality they are often attracted to partners they can save or in some cases those who can save them people who have an anxious preoccupied attachment style can be demanding obsessive and clingy they're prone to over analyzing situations having mood swings and often mistake turbulent relationships for passion they can struggle from insecurities low self-esteem and establishing a strong sense of self because they grew up without healthy boundaries and little to no guidance on nurturing their individuality number three dismissive avoidant people with a dismissive avoidant attachment style tend to be emotionally distant in relationships they come across as self-sufficient independent and can avoid true intimacy although space is essential for two people to breathe and be themselves in any relationship people with a dismissive avoidant attachment style can seek it more frequently to push themselves away from being vulnerable with their partner if at any point their partner threatens to leave them they have the ability to shut their emotions down and pretend like they don't care but extreme independence is an illusion because humans need connection in order to survive as a result people with an avoidant dismissive attachment style have very few close relationships with others number four fearful avoidant people with a fearful avoidant attachment style experience a delicate mixture fearing being both too close or too distant from their lover they can be unpredictable and are often overwhelmed by their own emotions they understand they have to approach others in order to find love but when people get too close to them they often hurt them they fear being abandoned but struggle with being confident in their partner and relying on them they face a lot of inner conflict between wanting intimacy and resisting it as a result they usually experience many highs and lows in relationships cling to their partners when they feel rejected and if not careful can end up in abusive relationships similar to the dismissive avoidant attachment style these individuals have very few close relationships with others accepting what your attachment style is and recognizing the work that comes with it can be life-changing and powerful and we hope that this information can teach you to become more self aware and help you become a better lover which attachment love style do you resonate with and how has it affected your relationships please share your 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Channel: Psych2Go

Views: 1,976,714

Keywords: Psych2Go, attachment theory, relationship styles, attachment styles, avoidant attachment, secure attachment, ambivalent attachment, adult attachment styles, love styles

Id: 23ePqRkOKtg

Length: 7min 18sec (438 seconds)

Published: Mon Jul 09 2018