Taking Control Over Our Feelings | IHOPKC + Tracey Bickle

[Applause] [Music] [Music] so [Music] [Applause] [Music] good morning forerunner church so glad to be with you all this morning welcome everyone that's joining us online as well so glad that you're with us let's go ahead and rise if you'd like to we're going to go into a time of worship holy spirit we come before you during this time father we thank you we thank you for the opportunity to worship in public together as a spiritual family to be joined and connected through technology in person lord we thank you for our children's equipping center we thank you for our youth ministry we thank you for our support teams our parking teams foreign teams our ushers and security teams lord we thank you that we get to come together and look at you and worship you and speak words to your heart that you hear us and that it moves you and touches your heart lord we bless you father this morning receive our praise we ask in jesus name [Music] [Music] let our praise be your welcome [Music] we are here for you let your bread come from heaven fill our hearts with your life we are here for you we argue for you [Music] only you are worthy god let your fire fall down [Music] let us [Music] we are here for you [Music] to you lord [Music] [Applause] [Music] is [Applause] [Music] is [Music] let your fire fall down is [Music] lord we welcome you with praise we welcome you with of praise be welcomed in this place we welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise [Music] [Applause] we welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise [Music] wow [Music] let it fill the sky we are here for you we are here for you [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] you [Applause] is [Music] [Music] we cry [Music] i'm [Music] welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise we welcome you with grace almighty god of love be welcomed in this place [Music] we welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise welcomed in this race [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] yes we welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise almighty god of love be welcomed in this place we welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise almighty god of love be welcomed in this place let every heart adore me let every soul the ways oh mighty god of love be welcomed in this place we welcome you with praise we welcome you with praise almighty god of love be welcome in this place welcome you here lord with open hearts open hearts [Music] the blood of jesus we lay aside our expectations of what we thought it was supposed to be like today we lay aside our expectations of [Music] in my heart in this place lord forgive us for putting limits on your spirit will forgive us for resisting how you want to move let this place be a place where your spirit brings liberty [Music] we say yes to your spirit we say yes to your presence however that you wanna cross however that you wanna call we say yes to your spirit [Music] we say yes to your spirit we say yes to your presence however that you want to crawl however lets you want to call we say yes to your spirit we say yes to your presence however that you want to crawl however that you want to come we say yes to your spirit we [Music] [Music] to your spirit we say to your presence [Music] [Music] so we come with expectations [Music] when we say yes to your presence we say yes [Music] to your spirit we say yes [Music] to your spirit we say yes to [Applause] [Music] to your spirit we say yes to your [Music] with [Music] you are [Music] you alone are holy only you are worthy god let your firefall [Music] nothing here is hidden you are one desire you alone are holy only you are worthy god let your fire fall down [Music] let your spirit come visit us god [Music] [Music] lord would you come and visit [Music] or would you come with your presence come and visit us again to lay aside disappointment to open hearts to hope against [Music] the prophecies for your children dreamer can't dream again [Music] again it's not over till he says [Music] is [Music] dream right now he's giving new words and new insight and new visions and new dreams to restore the things that we lost because we've been in grief he's giving double honor [Music] once he breaks it restores [Music] [Music] pour your spirit [Music] the power of your presence [Music] the fragrance of heaven for your spirit [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music] foreign [Music] [Music] upon [Music] we can hear the wind [Applause] [Music] prophecy [Music] [Applause] [Music] upon our grace [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] for your spirit eyes [Music] [Applause] for your spiritual [Music] foreign [Music] oh [Music] i'll wash my expectations [Music] today is uh communion sunday today is communion sunday so we're gonna have those that are serving communion to go ahead and come up and get ready for that we do this once a month together corporately as warfare we do this once a month together as a spiritual family as i was reflecting on communion uh this week just in anticipation of this time i was i was struck by the idea of the breaking of the bread jesus says this is my body that's broken for you and how his body was broken and it was dispersed it was shared and how a holy transcendent uncreated god decided to break his own body to become flesh to become a man and break his own body so that we who are created his former enemies sinners could receive a portion of who he was the divine life was broken intentionally because what was in his heart as a father was to to bring a family together in him that we who were mortal would have fellowship with an immortal god i mean this is remarkable and as we share this morning i want us to consider that i want us to think about the bigness of god the vastness of who he is that he would take on flesh and decide that in his glory that he would lay aside his comfort that he would lay aside his reputation that he would humble himself to the point of death even death on a cross and that he would allow his body to be broken so that it could be imparted to in each of us and just as the father broke his body and shared the sun with us today we share it with one another we fellowship with one another around the lord's body around his blood that washes away our sins heavenly father we come before you with a spirit of sobriety of holiness realizing that as we partake of the sacraments lord that we are sharing in something that is divine that we're sharing in something that is mysterious you said this is my body this is my blood we've become partakers of what is divine as we remember you lord we we love you we bless you in jesus name we pray we want to invite you to come to the front we have stations at the back as well go ahead and grab those elements and and take them i want you to pray before the lord you can pray with another individual you can do it alone if you'd like but but to talk to him what does that body mean how do you need that blood today that washes away sin in a fresh way just a reminder we have stations along the back as well thank you father we love you in jesus name [Music] all things have passed [Music] your love is [Music] your constant praise [Music] [Music] you cause your [Music] this will be our anthem song jesus we love you [Music] [Music] the hopeless [Music] [Music] all that was lost [Music] you make us strong instead you took these [Music] jesus we oh [Music] jesus will love you you [Music] is [Music] our devotion [Music] [Music] invite you to stem and sing this with us [Music] [Music] jesus [Music] jesus [Music] of jesus [Music] [Applause] [Music] jesus [Music] [Applause] [Music] jesus we love you oh how we love you you are the one a heart [Music] this we love you jesus thank you for your blood poured out for us we pour out our lives for you give us grace holy spirit to do it in a way that honors you and brings you glory we love you amen amen thank you brenton and worship team i want to invite you to remain standing we're going to recite the apostles creed together we do this once a month as our statement of faith together as a spiritual family i believe in god the father almighty creator of heaven and earth i believe in jesus christ his only son our lord who was conceived by the holy spirit born of the virgin mary suffered under pontius pilate was crucified died and was buried he descended into hell on the third day he rose again from the dead he ascended into heaven he is seated at the right hand of the father almighty and he will come to judge the living and the dead i believe in the holy spirit the holy catholic church the communion of saints the forgiveness of sins the resurrection of the body and the life everlasting amen well amen just go ahead and turn to the folks near you and greet them just for the next few moments hi i'm ali this is my husband david and we're the directors of immerse we want to invite you to join us for a five-day deep dive experience into the 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things that are happening here well number one number one is the global bridegroom fast begins tomorrow that's our monthly three-day fast that we encourage our spiritual family to participate in and there's many different ways that folks in our community participate in that some will fast food some will fast media some will just press into the lord and seek more time together in prayer corporate prayer individual prayer and that type of thing we want to make you aware of that that will begin tomorrow gbf all right announcement number two uh the justice for the fatherless golf tournament is next monday and today is the last day to register and sign up so i want to encourage you if you're waiting to sign up don't wait any longer we're almost at capacity and really excited about all the people coming alongside of us to help make this event successful awesome number three the national faith in blue that's a nationwide emphasis to celebrate and support our law enforcement these men and 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some tools on how to relate to those that are in need that are going through a difficult time that need some support that need prayer and encouragement i think we've all been in situations throughout our life where we're encountering those that are suffering that are hurting and a lot of times we just kind of feel frozen like i don't know what to say i don't know what to do and so this training just provides some really practical tools and helpful ways to engage with those that are suffering and hurting in our life and so we have that training coming up the information's there number five if that interests you let's have our ushers get ready to receive this morning's offering we'll have the information on how to give will be up on your screens and if you're joining us online there's a button that you can click to sow into what the lord is doing here at ihop kc and forerunner church father we love you and we worship you we ask lord that your presence would touch our hearts we want to be joined to you in the deepest way we want more of your presence we want more of your spirit we want the increase of the activity of the lord in our lives our marriages our families in our communities lord in our neighborhoods we want to see jesus glorified your word go forth prayer strengthened in this city and across the nations of the earth we love you in jesus name amen [Music] your face is all i [Music] [Music] to me [Music] your face is all i [Music] to me i wanna take your word and shine it all around first help me just to live [Music] has given glory to you oh lord please like the fire [Music] that once burn bright and [Music] that burns with holy [Music] i wanna take your word and shine it all around first help me just to live [Music] do you is take your word i wanna take your word and shine it all around first help me just to live [Music] to is my reward is given glory to you [Music] my reward is given glory [Music] amen i love that song i really do good old keith green man good morning how are we doing good good okay so this morning i would like to talk about self-control anyone want to chat about self-control okay how about if we talk about the self-control of the person next to you that's an easier topic we can do that one right okay so galatians 5 2 23 says but the fruit of the spirit is love joyce peace long-suffering kindness goodness faithfulness gentleness and self-control so we have to ask ourselves what is self-control what is it actually referring to and self-control really means it's the ability to control yourself in particular in your emotions in particular in your emotions and in your desires and in the expression of those emotions and desires in your behavior that's self-control i think we often just landed on behavior but we're going to drill backwards and talk about emotions aren't you glad guys we're going to drill backwards talk about emotions and talk about thoughts and talk about how our behavior is truly fed and energized by our emotions so i'm going to give you a couple of scriptures joshua 1 9 i have have i not commanded you to be strong be not afraid do not be discouraged for the lord will be with you wherever you go john 14 do not let your heart be troubled you believe in god believe also in me luke 12 22 then jesus said to his disciples therefore i tell you believe also therefore i tell you do not worry about your life about what you will eat and or about your body proverbs 3 5 says trust in the lord with all your heart philippians 4 6 says do not be anxious in anything but in every situation that's a drag of a verse right there right anybody anyone obviously they weren't they had never gone through covid right they've never gone through lockdowns but it says do not be anxious in anything but in every situation by prayer and petition with thanksgiving present your request to god and the peace of god will transcend your situation and your understanding and that proverbs 4 says keep your heart with all diligence for out of its bring the issues of life as in water will reflect your face so a man's heart reveals the man so these are just a few i mean listen the bible's full of how to deal with your emotions we don't really talk about it though we don't we're not often connecting the dots because we think heart and we're not saying oh that's talking about our emotions and our desires but in the greek heart means the center seat of your emotions it's the seat of your emotions as far as it affects and stirs up your life it stirs it up for good bad your emotions your affections um the the deep desires of your heart and so we we want to connect with what god is actually saying to us here like what is he truly saying in these scriptures what does he mean what is he saying do not be wor do not worry do not be anxious be of great courage do this do that he's not actually not one of those verses said to pray for it they said do it isn't that a bummer i'd rather just kind of keep praying and go well god's not helping me but he's not saying that to tracy we can we can extrapolate from those scriptures that i am and you are in charge of your emotions you're in charge of your emotions and god's requiring us yea commanding us to rule them oh it's so easy isn't it no it's not it's complicated it's deeply complicated it's deeply challenging and because our emotions are in every fiber of our being and they are the things that are that are talking to us they're the things that are screaming for relief they're the things that are screaming for our rights they're the things that we have to connect with and it's not easy i think it's really challenging yet he gives us a way out and we're going to look at that way out but we can't just ignore our emotions right i mean some of us just keep shoving them aside shoving them down shoving them over and we're like i've controlled my emotions until it comes out sideways with the people you live with and suddenly they're like dude i didn't do anything i said hello i said good morning and you're already cranky and that's because we've often shoved them down as to control them and they come out sideways that's not actually what he's asking us to do he's not looking at us to go just have no emotions no we love emotions amen we love them they're gifts from god emotions are the gift that god gives us to connect with him to know how he feels about us to connect with the people that we know and love to to connect and bond with all that is around us it is they're beautiful things until they're complicated and when they're complicated which they are on an everyday basis for all of us none of us are free from this message that's the challenge none of us are we we have to work at not just shutting our emotions down or letting them rule us are you with me they don't get to drive my bus i might be on a little short bus but they still don't get to drive it they don't get to tell me how to behave i actually tell my feelings where to go and that is counter um that is counter-cultural because we're in a culture that says to us all day long be your authentic self don't let anyone tell you it doesn't matter how you feel which that's not what we're talking about it does matter how you feel but we have to let our because our feelings inform how we're feeling and thinking inside but then we have to place them into submission about what jesus is saying about us and about society around us but that's not what society says society goes be your authentic self don't let anyone tell you that's not how you feel how many of you have been within arguments you don't have to raise your hand but how many of you have been in arguments where you're like you can't tell me that's not how i feel it's like well i don't think i am well you've hurt me it's like i hear you that's not what well you've and we're arguing feelings because we've been told our feelings are preeminent we've been told be your authentic self and i just want to know is your authentic self before coffee or after coffee is it before you have your chocolate bar i'm i'm a chocolate girl is it before i have my chocolate bar or after it when i crash you want you want that little 10 minute window with me after i have my child i love everybody right is it when you're hungry is it when you're you when you've eaten a great steak is it when the chiefs win or when the chiefs lose but that authentic self which one no but i'm actually kind of being serious it sounds silly but which one is it who's authentic when are we authentic and i'm here to declare none of that's you being authentic authentic is actually me knowing who jesus says i am and that sounds so great and it's so hard because he's looking at me going tracy they may think you're a little crazy after this message but i get you i get where you're going you may not have done it great but it's going to be okay that's actually i have to align myself with who he says i am with how he feels about me now it does matter how the people around me feel we we we want those relationships to go well but we're talking i'm doing it in a general sense we're talking about the ways in which we have to navigate our emotions folks we have to navigate the ways in which often our emotions are running the show and i'm here to tell you if you are following your emotions you're following a really bad leader some of the worst advice i've heard people give is follow your heart i'm like no no no don't do that really do not this is going to crash i appreciate that our heart wants something but we have to actually align our heart with what the bible says and how god is telling us to live multiple car like multiple car crash up happens when we just follow our hearts and then we're mad that it didn't turn out but then we get a little crankier than we want to be are you following me anybody it's like this is how it goes and he's looking at me going you you're gonna do this tracy you're gonna learn to subject your emotions into the things that i've spoken of now here's the thing my emotions actually matter i'm a trauma victim from my childhood i'm a sexual abuse survivor i'm a date rape survivor i'm a survivor of uh egregious betrayal in a marriage i'm i'm a survivor so my emotions had lots to say amen nothing wrong with my emotions having a voice but how i respond to it is the thing that shifts our life what we do with that is the thing that shifts your life and the thing is is because i'm hurt or because i've been betrayed you've been betrayed we've all been betrayed can we just settle that issue we are in a betrayal culture we are all being betrayed and or and or will be at some level matthew 24 makes that clear how am i responding to that what am i doing with my emotions what am i doing with my feelings and if i'm not working them out well it's going to go south on me because her it's a continuum you get hurt you get wounded and you get a little cranky you get a little this you get a little fat and soon you've got to stay away from sharp things because you're going to hurt someone and it it it's funny but it's real and we're all a little bit crankier than we actually want to admit now we realize christians aren't angry amen we're not angry what we are is a little frustrated all day long christians go i'm just a little frustrated no no no no i'm okay i'm just a little frustrated just give me a minute i'm just not i just give me a minute i'm just a little frustrated i'm just a little irritated and all day long christians get to say those words and actually not be required any behavior any behavior modification and it's become acceptable to say to you i'm a little frustrated and you're like oh how can i help you as opposed to going really so why and it's i'm just unpacking or i'm just venting you see it on facebook social media all day long venters you're like no this is horrible you're vomiting your anger on everyone and the thing is is if we connect with frustration irritation a little you know add your words to those their derivatives their secondary emotions to anger so every time you communicate that you're saying you're angry welcome to being angry are you hearing me i'm saying this on purpose and the reason i'm saying this is because if you don't deal with your anger you're going to live an incredibly bitter life and the challenge with that is the bible makes it super clear that that bitterness is the thing that causes your love to grow cold my love to grow cold now i've written a book on this it's in the bookstore if you want to unpack a little bit more some of you are like no we're good this is fine but there is way more unpacking than what i'm going to do and i've really my story and and my i would say my one message the lord has given me is to help people walk free from disappointment and bitterness and anger and uh and so it's on sale over in the bookstore but i i'm saying we have to figure out how to step out of anger how to work out our emotions how to be counter-cultural because our emotions are going to get us in trouble if we're not working them out if we're not having a place in which we can speak of them if we're not working out our emotions chances are our internal worlds are a little crazy now the thing is is we can come out looking cute we can come out looking all put together but our emotional worlds are chaos which is anxiety frustration anger disappointment all manner of behavior going on inside of us amen and so he's looking at us going those small things that were just little tiny things in your life today are escalating to huge things and the smallest things are irritating you the smallest things are bugging you and then we start telling ourselves we're misunderstood you don't really get it well you got a great spouse or you've got children that blah blah and we've got all these reasons why no one really gets us and it's like no i kind of do get you i may not know that particular situation but i get you life is hard amen anybody i mean life is hard it is not easy but it's okay because he's given us a way to walk it out if we choose to partner with him and one of the ways that we're going to walk it out is we're going to have a conversation with ourselves i need you to start talking to yourself some of you are going wait a minute i thought i wasn't supposed to hear voices and now you're telling me to hear that voice yes i am your voice is the loudest voice you hear you hear your voice over god's voice the enemy's voice we all want to blame the enemy don't we come on we just want to blame him for everything don't we but the catch to it is it's it's our voice we hear the most and so what's your voice saying to you and some of you are going i don't know because i don't really pay attention the catch to it is your your your soul your heart is actually paying attention to what you're internally saying to yourself you may not be we want to start paying attention is the way forward with our emotions is to have a conversation with ourselves and to hear what it is that we are saying when we look at that i'm going to just give a couple of scriptures there's plenty of them david in psalms 42 43 psalm 103 he's done a number of times in 103 talk to himself about rising up about taking control telling his heart where to go telling himself how to respond when he was distressed we see it again in samuel he said strengthen it says david strengthened himself how do you think he did that he did it by speaking to the lord by by talking to himself and saying you you can do this you have to get off that emotional cliff anyone ever feel like they're on an emotional cliff where you're thinking this isn't gonna and it might have just been this morning right just getting to church and then if you've got children it was an emotional cliff getting to church and that emotional cliff we have to actually talk ourselves off of it i have to talk to myself regularly going tracy gotta settle down honey it's okay it's okay they did not leave you out you're gonna be okay your friends get to go have lunch with you instagram it and you not actually be hurt by it it sounds silly but it's real it's what we do this golf tournament is going to stir up a few people well they didn't invite me isaac bennett didn't come around to every section and say hey you want to go to the golf tournament hey you want to go well so they didn't invite me so i'm not going and then they're going to start talking about in a couple weeks and you're going to go this dumb tournament who cares and your heart actually is going to be slightly injured that you were left out now it sounds silly but it's actually not because these are the places it starts and if we don't work it out if we don't at least acknowledge what's going on we end up a little crankier at our friends we end up a little crankier at church we we just go this is stupid that i knew they were gonna leave people out there just a bunch of clicks we just start labeling and why it's okay that we get to be frustrated are you following me and so i have to have a conversation with myself who what's your conversation with yourself what are you saying how are you saying it we want to take control of it i want to rule my conversation now we know that scripture says where you set your mind your heart is going to follow that's not an exact scripture it's an overall understanding of scripture continually says set your mind on things above think on things that are pure do this with your brain do this do this right and the thing is is it's going to ultimately cause your emotions to follow you it's telling you to control your emotions of just the few verses i gave you it's commanding us to control our emotions now some of us go well i'm just a feeler well i'm an enneagram 436 you know it's like uh okay i appreciate that i really do i'm not mocking it it's like i'm not sure what that means well i just feel more than you do bickel it's like well thank you for the insult but okay and i'm thinking then you're just going to have a bigger challenge and you get to rejoice that the lord gave that to you and not me if that's how you're looking at it that doesn't mean you don't get to control your emotions it doesn't mean well i just the christians do i just pick things up in the spirit and that room just made me really sad it's like i think you might just be really sad because you came into the room and it felt lonely and you're sad and you get to be sad but you get to work that out and actually understand why you're feeling what you're feeling are you following me and so i we were we're encouraging you i'm taking you on my journey of my private prayer with the lord by the way he because he's encouraging me so i'm encouraging you and he's like tracy i i need you to connect with the ways in which you're ludding little root systems of crankiness of your system of the people you love of your family of whatever you're letting it actually seep back in uh and i i want you to catch these ones root systems are real amen root systems are wicked because they tangle us and we don't even see them because they're underground root systems are underground which is why when we look at um hebrews 12 it says look diligently lest anyone fall short of the grace of god lest any root of bitterness spring up and by it cause you trouble i'm like well what root i don't see a root he's like well dig a little bit deeper bickle there's there's a whole system growing underneath that you're not paying attention to and i'm sure most of us aren't thinking i'm digging into my heart issues we're just trying to act reasonably normal tomorrow or today or at lunch right and he goes well there's an easier to act to require yourself to behave in an appropriate manner if you work out your heart's issues are you following me and so what we want to do is we want to look at a conversation that god has with cain now we all know the story of cain abel but god actually talked to cain god actually looked at king god actually said to cain here's the deal i get that you are not happy because i blessed your brother i get it but i'm going to ask you a couple of questions and in this counseling session god asked kane three questions i'm asking you these questions why are you angry or frustrated irritated offended why are you why are you sad hey dr cain and says why is your face downcast kane why are you sad what are you depressed over besides the chiefs losing but what are you depressed over why are you oppressed what what's actually happening i i need you to think it through he god asked cain that question you guys he didn't ask cain that question because god's confused god was not confused on why cain was doing what king was doing amen not confused he knew cain was he knew there's a root system growing in cain's heart of of disappointment of being frustrated that he didn't get what he wanted of being disheartened and becoming depressed because he didn't get what he thought he deserved now there's three areas that we think we deserve things in the area of promotion the area of position and the area of position of money and of honor those three things honor position and money those three things probably filter into every area of our life did we get the monies we deserve well heck no we're on a deferred payment plan people or god is paying attention in heaven what we're doing with our monies on earth amen but i joke but it's real but if you're working for a company and you didn't get the raise that you thought you deserved you didn't get the bonus you thought you deserved you didn't get the promotion you thought you deserved your in fact your company your business your ministry said oh i'm sorry we don't need you anymore so not only did you not get the promotion you were relieved of your duties that's gonna cause a little crankiness anybody you're like i do you know how long i've worked here do you know how long i've given to this company and all we get these things we don't deserve and then honor you they honor how many of us are are the last born in large families just let you know you're not getting the honor you deserve right i mean family systems where you don't get the honor you deserve or you think you deserve those three things actually play out in so many areas of our lives and he was looking at kane going why what's going on i'm looking at you what's going on i'm looking at me saying tracy you kind of know what's going on because you have this conversation all the time i love this this is what i do i love this stuff i it's it's bread water life i'm you're going to say hello to me in the morning at higher grounds and i'm going to talk to you about your emotions because i love it and so i'm having it regularly with me and i'm still finding my root system weeds there that i don't want and because it says to look diligently so i'm just asking you that how are you doing with that how are you doing with your frustration not how's the person next to you listen we all can help the person next to us amen if they would just listen to us their life would be going great i mean it's a conversation i have with my children all day long my adult children i'm like listen they're like mom we're good i'm like oh right i'm not asking you to help them i'm asking you to talk to you about you we all know if they would change your life would be better but but life proves that not to be true unless you're in abusive situations that's a whole other conversation and so what are we what are we asking ourselves what are we saying to ourselves i really believe if cain had dealt with his frustration his irritation if he dealt with his disappointment differently his betrayal of his brother right significant betrayal of a brother if you're killing that's some serious betrayal amen but he it's betrayal and i believe that he'd done it differently we'd be looking at life a little differently in christendom i think he would have shifted history but he didn't now here's the challenge the challenges we all kind of want god to do a shondula bundle of bam and then like hey i'm good but that's not how feelings work he's not going to deliver you from your feelings your feelings are you he may deliver us from depression oppression he may deliver us from addictions he may deliver us from all those things but the challenge even with that is you're gonna wake up with you tomorrow and you are the reason you're there i mean really my response to sin done against me and i've had some sin done against me we've all had sin done against us my response to sin done against me injures my life more than the original sin my abuser wasn't my problem my response to my abuser was my problem now the abuser we don't like that and it was wrong on so many levels but that still wasn't my bigger issue my bigger issue is how i handled that and we are not told that we're living in a culture who says no i've been injured and therefore you have to pay i do think abusers have to pay but i you have to pay because i'm the hurt one and the hurt ones have the loud voices and a whole society is circling around making sure hurt people get heard in an appropriate way i think that's beautiful but they're not the answer hurt and relieving that hurt there's only one way to truly do it it's through the blood of jesus now it's complicated it's not easy it's not we're going to pray for you and it's going to open the door for you to start a journey but this isn't the journey folks to go well i got prayed for i'm good it's like ask the person next to you what they think they're going to go no i think therapy might be a little better for about five years maybe six if we get a good one are you following me like it's real in the the the the emotional world our hearts are the theater in which i'm consistently letting the lord know i love him because i'm navigating my emotions in a healthy manner that feed my behavior you can change your behavior but you actually are much better off dealing with your emotions that feed that behavior are you following me how are you doing it when's the last time you had the conversation when's the last time you've said my life i hate my life why am i at where i'm at self-pity becomes your go-to and i i get that i don't i don't even think there's any shame in that there's no shame in being depressed to me there's no shame in any of that the shame is not walking it out the shame is not asking for help all manner of addictions of abuses of relational dynamics of spiritual brokenness comes from wounded hearts are you with me all manner come from that wounded heart i have to work that out grace grace i'm not in trouble for being wounded i'm not in trouble it's not my fault i got wounded but i have to work it out i have to work it out well and i and that often takes other people in my life helping me that takes me reading books that takes me gaining understanding that takes me going i can do this that takes me re-signing back up that takes me taking classes taking courses making sure finding people who are really reasonably skilled in these arenas you know there's a lot of people who are not skilled lots and they give some really bad advice in the church and out of the church grace grace i probably have given more bad advice than i want to think about now that i'm saying it out loud forgive me lord help me help me but what we want to do is connect with the reality of galatians saying a fruit of the spirit tracy is you controlling yourself i just talked to my granddaughter about being nice to her siblings she's got three siblings she just turned a teenager yesterday and i said you know spells we can blah blah blah yeah we could be nice to your brothers she goes why i go well honey i mean i mean i the thing i love about you is you love the lord jesus yeah i go well that's part of loving the lord she goes really i'm like a little bit she's like i think i'm going to be okay i thought i'm good with that i'll let your parents deal with that but it's like the thing is is that's a lot of christians today the thing is that actually is a lot of christians like i act i actually because i said to her i go well you know i i don't want to like proclaim i'm a believer bells and just not care that i work out some of my stuff like grams doesn't want to do that she goes oh i love that you do that grams like you do you now do me is what she was saying and i appreciate that but i'm just thinking i thought to myself that's a lot of christians that's a lot of us in this room i don't really have to do my emotions i can kind of be irritated because you really i'm going to repent for being irritated actually you are because irritated is angry frustrated is angry it's real you guys and and anger is probably one of the primary emotions believers feel today they used to go yeah i'm kind of angry i'm kind of crankier than i want to be but you know it's kind of the world today it's like sure the world has gotten a little complicated or more complicated but i still have to work it out jesus in his conversation with the disciples the night before he dies is such a beautiful conversation on so many levels and that even sort of like doesn't do the conversation justice but tomorrow he's going to face the most most egregious thing ever seen in human history and his response is he's looking at the ones that he loves all of them and he's going this is going to go really bad for you in about 12 hours and you're going to have a really bad couple of months and so then he tries to care for them he tries to take he tries to pastor them he loves them he washes their feet he lets them know he starts prophesying you can do this i'm thinking if i'm getting something that's going to be really hard tomorrow i need you to take care of me i need someone to rub my feet i'm not rubbing yours i'm the one and i'm the one having the operation tomorrow or going through the hard thing tomorrow are you following me and he goes no tracy there's a better way of doing this and i need you to connect with how to do it betrayal culture is real we are not going back we're not going back to the cute towns that we know in all of our sitcoms we're not going back to little stars hollow we're not going back to mayberry we're not going back to some of these cute little towns we are in a culture that encourages us to betray one another and then actually you get in some sense in some arenas you get honored for doing it don't be fooled we're touched by that betrayal meaning we do it let's not be fooled that we're not touched by the world because whatever we say to ourselves the world touches all of us to some degree i have to connect with that so i can work it out well are you with me and so one of the ways that we work think this out there's only one small way honestly we just don't have enough time to unpack this but one of the ways is choosing to be thankful and i know some of you are like oh i know we go we're thankful we get it we get it we it's like no we don't get it because if we got it we do it choosing to be thankful changes your brain chemistry neuroscience has proven it they don't even believe in the bible and they've proven that neuroscience gives you dumps of of of of endorphins in your brain have serotonin in your brain just saying hey i'm thankful hey thanks for that cup of coffee i'm getting a dump of serotonin in my brain neuroscience has proven that the bible doesn't hold it long so i have to choose to be thankful for the situations i find myself in bretton we're going to end here but i have to choose to be thankful to say hey i'm gonna walk this way and then i'm gonna have to get myself back up and sign up again because well two hours ago i was thankful and i then forgot some of us are gonna have to choose to be thankful at halftime some of us are gonna have to choose to be thankful we're gonna have to choose to be thankful when we lose our jobs when our children don't behave the way we want when we don't get what we want we're gonna have to choose to be thankful when we're in incredibly difficult situations corey ten boom's a beautiful one they chose to be thankful for the lice in their bunkers that kept the guards out i'm like i'm not really ready to be thankful for lice i'm just not i mean i like clean like but i'm serious but this woman like you listen to her and you're thinking they chose to be thankful in some of the most egregious situations and the lord sustains them we have to choose so how are you handling our emotions how are you how are you walking out the fruit of the spirit this morning how are we choosing to have a different conversation some of you go okay i'm gonna start actually talking to myself when i first started talking to myself i'm 62 here in a couple months but when i started talking to myself it was when i was like 30 i didn't know you were supposed to and i just did it out loud just so it helped me i still sometimes do it out loud i'm just talking to myself tracy you gotta calm the heck down it really is gonna be okay no i don't think it is i mean i argue with myself that's okay gideon argued with god gideon argued with himself i ain't doing this god no no this ain't going to work and so i get permission to do that but in the end i've got to yield to the lord amen in the yield i've got to i've got to align myself with what the bible says that is our true north that is the thing we live with my emotions that are all over the place i have to align them with what the word says and i've got to bring them in some of you have never rained your emotions in you let them feel what they feel when they feel how they feel they're like well they're my i don't i why am i you're supposed to reign them in you're actually supposed to talk to them you're actually supposed to explain to them it's going to be okay you got this i know it feels this way but just because it feels this way it doesn't make the matter true just because your emotions are screaming doesn't make the matter true the truth is the bible the truth isn't your side or my side or their side or his side the truth the bible you guys and so we want to do that amen so i'm going to encourage you to stand we're gonna pray we're gonna although many of you have already signed up to this many times and you don't have to resign back up but i want you to help me we're gonna sign back up you're encouraging me so i'm gonna have everybody close their eyes we're going to go before that great throne of grace he sits on the throne jesus at his right hand the sea like glass four living creatures 24 elders jerobian the seraphim multiple multitude of angels the rainbow around that throne that circles it find yourself there because that's who you're talking to and i ask you right now lord come touch these ones in this room help us help us understand about us what you see about us help us see what you see help us know what you know we're saying to you father we want to walk in your ways we're saying to you father psalm 139 search me lord because i don't even know what my feelings are but you do so search me lord search me if you don't know what your feelings are that's okay the lord does psalm 139 search me come lord that's it touch us we're just stay here for a second you're having a conversation with god you're looking right at him some of you might be hiding in that room but that's okay he sees you you're speaking to him not to this worship not to me you're speaking to him show me lord where i'm irritated way more than i want to be show me where i'm walled off show me where i ignore my emotions show me lord we invite you to come forward if you'd like prayer come on these lines we're inviting the prayer team up if you want prayer for healing if you want to encounter the lord in a new way we're inviting you forward [Music] as we continue to pray i'm going to pray for you whether you're on the bleachers or whether you're on these lines but we encourage you to keep to come forward that's it lord stay there yep come lord [Music] we know you know us lord you know us love us god like you're jealous for us you're jealous for me [Music] that's it we're giving you how about uh there's dark places in our hearts that we've never given over before i'm just gonna share god this is what my heart is i'm giving it to you my depression that's it stay with us how about you if you're with your spouse your significant other i encourage you to grab their hands and look at each other and say we're not going to let our our households be run by irritation by frustration by silent anger we're signing back up to working our emotions out well how about us sign up with the one next to you [Music] say help me we have small groups we have a counseling department i encourage you to reach out to reach out and say i need help that conversation with god say god i actually need help i've never told anybody i need help but i'm so angry i'm so sad i'm so disappointed i need someone to get me out of this mud some of you are in quicksand and i see it you're in quicksand and you think you're gonna crawl out of the quicksand by yourself but you need help and that's i'm okay you to reach out for help how about i encourage you to not discourage the one next to you getting help don't do that they say i want to go [Music] we're gonna give you our ashes [Music] let us know how you feel about us [Music] let us know how you see us [Music] you're having that conversation with the lord [Music] i really grab the hand with the one next to you if you came with him if you did don't but if you came with him grab the hand of the one next you say let's do this i want to do this battle don't go you need to do this better say i want to do this better [Music] give us grace to walk this out grace grace grace lord holy spirit lead us in humility we're asking for grace lord a greater grace to step out of hiding a greater grace we need some more prayer team here if some of you are in the room it'd be super helpful to come pray for the ones over on this site [Music] we ask you to shift shift things for us father let us see what we haven't seen before [Music] let us see what we haven't seen before there you go we sign back up father [Music] we're going to say yes to doing it well that's it to see with your eyes [Music] holding back [Music] [Music] yes lord [Music] make it a good day [Music] if you want prayer you can still come down and get it [Music] again [Music] we're going to give you our affection lord we're going to give you our ashes father [Music] we're going to [Music] quit acknowledge [Music] sickness [Music] [Music] so i [Music] [Applause] [Music] so [Music] so [Music] so [Music] right now i'll give you my questions [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] sometimes to my focus in real life

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Length: 94min 35sec (5675 seconds)

Published: Sun Oct 03 2021