She’s Back!

[Music] hi I'm coach Queen and this is my video coaching newsletter and the topic of today's newsletter is going to be she's back so I've got four emails that I'm gonna go through with you today the first one is from a guy who basically follow the instructions in the beginning so what you gonna see is kind of a collection of people doing things right and then wrong and obviously the last email is a guy who was able to turn things around and get his girlfriend to become retracted and want to be back together with him again cuz I see the majority of guys that come to my work they're in the middle of some kind of a relationship or a dating crisis whether their girlfriend or their wife dumped them or friends that own them or once space or a girl that they thought was the ultimate woman blew them off goes to them doesn't want to date him anymore only thinks of them as a friend that kind of thing so they feverishly start looking over the internet and then come across my videos and articles and one of the emails also is actually from a woman who validates the stuff that I teach as well so you're gonna see a combination of guys doing things right and wrong and obviously a woman's perspective and one of the other emails a thirty amount I'm gonna go through with you as a guy who has a younger sister actually an older sister who's trolling the hell out of him and because he's new to some of the things he's learning for me and some of the other self-help people he's studying obviously he's displaying some doubts and some fears and obviously he's getting trolled by his older sister so he's like what do i do how do I handle her so this is a got a lot of great emails that go through with you so I got a quote that I wrote on this particular topic and then we're going to jump right into the first guy's email and the quote says humor playfulness and not taking yourself too seriously are the hallmarks of happy people who accomplish their grandest goals and dreams optimistic people simply accomplish more than average people due to their positive attitude and expectation that things always are and eventually will work out in their favor optimistic people never focus on their current circumstances as a permanent reality but simply maintain a laser-like focus on taking action and looking for better ways to do things to accomplish their goals in the shortest time and most efficient way possible win or see things as they could be and eventually make it happen losers commits themselves that success is hopeless and impossible and therefore their actions match their beliefs so for guys that are in situations that they're struggling usually it goes back to their mindset how they perceive themselves and because of how they perceive themselves determines their actions or lack thereof and how they interact with the world to get what they want or avoid trying to experience the pain they hope to avoid so if you're going to be able to get the things you want your personal and your professional life on a consistent basis you got to get your mindset right and so again most of what's in here is gonna be based on 3% man my first book you can read for free at understanding relationships calm all you got to do subscribe to the email newsletter but you want to learn the fundamentals don't try to cherry-pick because you're gonna see what this first guy's email he got success he got attainable success but he really didn't learn the fundamentals he didn't read it 10 to 15 times he got lazy and he's really suffering and he paid the price because of it but he had about three three and a half years of bliss until it happened so the goal is to learn from this guy's mistake and not repeat it because it's really a painful one to recover from so he says every time I read your book every time I watch one of your videos it hurts it makes me suffer but don't get this the wrong way the pain which I am experiencing whilst engaging myself and your teachings is not one and run away from it's as though the true masculine man deep inside of me is breaking through my bones and ripping through my skin crawling with everything he's got to surface essentially giving new birth to the real me morphing into my natural state one that was altered and crippled after many years of not understanding how masculine and feminine energy works and not allowing me to flow with the current I was able to get my first long-term girlfriend a partner of three and a half years and I was successful in doing so because that was the time I started reading your book and it applied to things you were teaching so far so good I say I probably said this hundreds and hundreds of times and videos over the years but guys start getting some success they start getting laid they start hooking up their thing and things are going well the girl starts to fall in love the guy's thinking hey I got it I finally arrived I'm one of the exceptions to the rule I don't need to read Corey's book ten to fifteen times because I'm special I'm smarter than everybody else well obviously we know differently now he says my mind blown by how the things I've been reading about are actually true seeing it with my very own eyes and that's the greatest proof because you maybe you think I'm full of and you can't learn anything for me all you gotta do is apply what's in here three percent man and you're gonna see that it works I mean the book sells itself and that's the beauty of truth when you give it away it sells itself and also it should make you question all these other people that supposedly teach this stuff it's like if their material was so great why aren't they giving it away got something to think about low and behold I stopped and the consequences came I write this today as the relationship has ended and I've gotten back into your teachings a mistake many of us have made and ironically one that you've made a video about well actually made countless videos about the topic but people still don't listen I still see comments people why I always say read the book ten to fifteen times that's ridiculous people don't listen a coach teaches the fundamentals and he goes over it every practice every coaching session I mean every interaction he has with his clients or the people that he's coaching or his students because everybody learns at a different pace some people are better at certain things and others some people know it's like everybody knows a certain amount of a certain amount of percentage of this stuff that they need to be successful the goal is to fill in your knowledge gaps and then get to the point where you're living this stuff and you understand the mindset you're not just trying to cherry-pick and if a happens I'll do B if C happens I'll do a and E together because that's just you're not gonna get sustainable long-term success like this guy found out the hard way either way he's learning because of the pain he's experiencing now he says but I suppose a lesson learned without blood is soon forgotten it's so true my man I have had it hard this past month anything unlike anything I have ever experienced crying every night with genuine pain going through my heart but I'm fighting it and know that I will come out a better man in the end because I can see the improvement even now I would be positive whenever speaking of this experience but in this message I want to tell you the truth and I simply want to thank you for helping me to get back on track I'm a college student and I live far away where the average monthly salary is 350 pounds roughly since whenever I hear you utter the words donate how much you think this information was worth to you I can think of a number as it is unmatched compared to the info but I would at least like to buy you some coffee with this donation by the way if you are so inclined and you'd like to make a donation underneath every video under the show more and also my website all you gotta do is click the little button on the bar at the bottom of the screen the little tool bar that says donate if you're so inclined donations are always appreciated this is one that you can sip on while you're reading this message and enjoying your life well again thank you for the donation and I'm sorry that you're going through this but all I can do is you know as the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't make a drink and now you're drinking but it's a little too late but at least you're still young dude you're in college Christ you have your whole life When I was your age I had no clue about this stuff and look at you you've had a three and a half year relationship as a result so you're further ahead at your age then when I was at your age just imagine where you'll be a fifty dude as long as you keep applying to fundamentals hopefully things settle down with this whole corona situation at the moment as this is making things even harder on top of it all wish you all the best stay safe this time so let's go to second guys email Oh actually this is a woman she says Wow Cory you really don't need the validation but for those guys out there who doubt whether this stuff works or is really what a woman wants yes at least the well-adjusted women want this the idea is this book 3% man is gonna help you get a good quality woman because if you've got a chick that's a fruit loop and a lunatic she's probably not gonna react too well to you behaving this way it'll bring out the insecurities really fast and the worst women up front and that's what you want you want to find out right away if you're dealing with a lunatic so you can kick her to the curb instead of falling in love with a lunatic and then trying to fix her that's just at work there may be some domineering women who have issues but you wouldn't want them anyway I'm a single woman who was not taking care of herself as far as exercise and eating I have struggled with that in recent relationships and given in to weak men because I thought that was the best that I was going to get so you see both men and women do this if you don't take care of yourself and you don't think highly of yourself why work out why eat healthy and if you don't think very highly of yourself why hold out for a really good person to date or have a relationship with just take whatever shows up and settle that's what most people do but I commend you for recognizing that you've been kind of settling for mediocrity and choosing to do something about it because that's what exceptional people do exceptional people do something about their situation when they're not satisfied about it mediocre people run their mouths and then they do nothing there's there's two types of people in this world they're doers and there's talkers and we all have to decide which one are we going to be a doer or a talker I ended up taking the Alpha role because he abdicated and I didn't stick around for long I did not realize that this is what was happening until I started watching your videos a week ago I'm using the videos a book to bolster my perspective and to not blame myself when a relationship does not work out that's what self-reliant people do they say I must have done something wrong I must have been giving off the wrong vibe to attract that crazy person or that dishonest business partner or that client or that employee that ripped me off I'm also pulling up my big-girl panties and getting into shape good for you people who love and value themselves are gonna take care of their bodies and appreciate their bodies because it didn't today it's the only place you have to live but again you can lead a horse to water but you can't make a drink because most people just they don't care their continued their content with just being on the conveyor belt to an early grave which is sad and tragic but that's their choice I am a typical woman who accidentally tests a guy accidentally not doing it consciously or to play games before your videos I would have been taken aback if a guy treated me the way you suggest now I realize just how much I am yearning to be handled that way I would actually be able to relax and be feminine rather than having to be the masculine person I usually have to be yeah if you're settling for weak guys you're probably settling for beta males that don't have a clue what they're doing and that forces you in a masculine role which is not your natural essence and obviously you're going to resent it it would be a revolution to be able to be my true feminine self and I might need help to learn how to be that given I have been in a masculine role all of my life keep doing your doing now we need a dating site where men are men and the women want them to be that way well maybe there's a business opportunity for you there so let's go to the third email and so this guy's got a older sister who's always breaking his balls he says how's it going coach says I'm writing this I've been feeling really pissed off with my friends and family my sister who was 22 and me being 18 had gotten into an argument over yours in Tony Robbins book which I owned 3% man and his awaken the giant within she claims that these books I am reading could brainwash me to which I didn't react at first but eventually I'd had it after any of you I had different to her she would question me or be about it she's trolling you because she's testing you dude because probably since you're relatively new to this stuff you're not really a hundred percent certain of it and plus she's your older sister and she's gonna like to break your balls because you're her little brother so like I talked about in the quote at the beginning of this you always want to have a better more playful comeback if you get upset and mad and pissed off at her you want to have a different kind of attitude kind of a adopt a cockier type of attitude say some of the things that I tend to say like you're just mad that I'm always right and you're always wrong and the fact that I'm working to improve my life and you're just working to be mediocre but that's okay but could you still be my big sis and I love you even when I'm rich and famous and I have a hot wife I'll still love you I also invite you over you want to have fun with her and be playful and not let her get under your again and mess with her and flip it around so she's trolling you and she's causing you to lose your Center and you're falling for it that's the wrong vibe and so you want to have this vibe with your sister with the girls you work with with the girls you go to school with with the women that you're gonna meet in your career or whatever you do for a job so you want to practice this with everybody practice thinking of something funny to say as a comeback to show that you're not bothered and on top of the fact that you're not bothered you use a comeback and some kind of humor to break her balls a little bit flip it around on her you're just jealous because I got all the good-looking genes in the family and I'm more handsome as a man than you are pretty as a woman like I understand you being jealous like that you're just jealous cuz mom and dad treated me better because they like me more than you things like that Santa with a smile on your face it's BS it's nonsense it's ridiculousness but that's the whole point playful and fun that's the way you always want to be nothing gets under my skin I'm smarter than you I'm better than you and a playful but not an arrogant way maybe a little cocky little humorous little humility as the older sibling she would have been in the one that's always right and I'm wrong I said that you got to flip that around well I'm the younger one and obviously mom and dad liked me better because they made all the mistakes with you and they got everything right with me you're just jealous cuz I'm better the smallest things I do different to her triggers her like a laser sensor obviously she's insecure Buster on that teaser about that you're just jealous because I'm gonna make something to myself but I'll coach you babe we're family I'll take care of you you can come over and wash my car someday when I'm rich and famous in the end my parents got involved and stood up for me saying it's good he's choosing to learn things on zone to this day she refuses to agree with anything I say there are some people that like to disagree just for the sake of disagreeing well you said in this case she's breaking your balls because she's able to get under your skin and women don't like weakness that's why they become she's becoming because you're acting like a so don't act like a how do I cope with a cig sibling who always puts me and the wrong flip the script flip it around on her put her on the wrong in a playful way bust her about something you're just sitting there taking it you're just [Music] she's smacking you all around she's trying to help you grow and become a better man naturally this is just what women do but you're not handling it appropriately I acknowledge what she has to say and sometimes agree but I've read your book to all times and I'm certain in your material is not after having a heartbreak from a crush I found your work a year and a half ago final point what really are friends I'm going to become a successful songwriter in the future and everyone tells me how hard it is to be one it's true it's long and it's hard and it doesn't work out for most people and it's interesting that you mention that because I was just watching yesterday I was watching I saw a clip of Bob Dylan back in 1976 you look like he's playing some arena or some stadium and the song was pretty good but I was listening to his voice in it it mean everybody knows who Bob Dylan is from apart and he's not known for having a great voice he's known for being a great musician so just because your voice sucks doesn't mean you can't sing and be rich and famous at it and anybody who says differently all you do is say look at Bob Dylan look at all the people in the bands that you've listened to over the years and like that guy can't sing but that's a good song so what's your love and music your obsession with being a great musician is what's gonna carry you there and so being 18 years old you're always gonna have naysayers your whole life you're always gonna have people even people close to you gone yeah you can pull it off you know remember that they're giving you their story not yours he says I don't care I will become one whatever it takes I just want to have a group of friends that like me for me and not just after I'm successful well that's why it's really helpful to make those kinds of friends when you're not successful because then if you're broke is a joke and people still want to hang out with you it's because they want to hang out with you not because your stuff says thanks for reading I'm dropping a donation for helping me so much through difficult times donations are always appreciated like I said earlier there's a donate button on the bottom of my website on any page if you're so inclined all right so let's go to the fourth guy's email and so this guy obviously found my work because his relationship started going sideways and he was able to turn around so he says hey Cory I don't have a question but I do have an overdue thank you I was fortunate enough to have gotten my heart broken at 19 years old which led me to stumbling upon your work needs to say I went down a rabbit hole of consuming your YouTube content and how to be a 3% man that inevitably changed my life at the time I was a freshman in college the year was a tough transition and I had not been applying myself as much as I should have been I was wasting my money regardless I fell into my first meaningful relationship despite my wild freshman antics I had been indulging my bad habits making reckless choices and almost getting myself kicked out of school problem-child look at you the final straw came when the girl I fell in love with broke things off with me a couple of months after the school year ended to my luck I felt something in my gut tell me our relationship was teetering on it on an edge weeks prior to the break thus I delved into the internet for answers as any confused person would that's when I saw your handsome face come across my searches for clarity even though it wasn't enough to save the relationship of time I found the whole predicament Abel in disguise after obsessively reading your book and listening to every YouTube video all I got over 2,000 you listened to all I mean we take like a year of constant listening to listen to all his videos ok I'd say you probably listen to a lot of them I wouldn't say all of them I took immediate action in the same week as the break-up I began MMA classes and took more shifts at work to stay productive so he's getting focused on his mission and purpose in life and if you're kind of struggling with your mission and purpose in life and figuring out what you want to do read my second book mastering yourself it's also available for free to read in the members area at understanding relationships so I got to do subscribe to the email newsletter when my sophomore year was about to start I took what you taught and began planning accordingly I told myself that I was going to manifest my own success and create my own look I was so scared of being worthless but I adhered to your advice had started and stared at my fears bulldozing right over them this was three years ago now I am near the end of my college career and I have accomplished everything I plan to do I became my fraternity chapters president yes a short asian kid convinced a group of white guys to pick me as their leader I love it well you guys are usually the smartest ones in the room anyway so it's off your an obvious choice bro while serving for my fraternity I was able to make our chapter the best in the nation seriously in the first Greek organization in our University history to be recognized as student organization of the year dude you've been ballin out in college moreover I became popular on campus landed the best job a student could dream of received the highest Student Leadership Awards for eternity man of the year outstanding leadership and university best and most importantly got the girl back dude nice job sidenote she reappeared into my life just a month after no contact I followed your guidance by just having fun and hooking up expecting nothing out of her and letting her come to me at her own pace so what's really important when you're in that situation you're trying to get an ex back is that the relationship is feminine energy in other words the commitment bonding connecting relationship labels dating labels that's all feminine energy and the woman's Department as a man your job is simply to create the next opportunity for sex to happen hang out to have fun in the hookup focus on that if you're focused on the relationship and getting back together and fixing things it's not gonna work out if you've been dumped and blown off the woman has to earn another chance with you that's why it's up to her to call and text you first when you're in a situation where you're trying to get an ex back she dumped you if it was her idea to end it it's gonna be her idea to fix it and rekindle it that's why you let her come back to you at your own pace and it usually happens because you over pursued or you didn't communicate with her properly so she felt hurt and understood he says what do you know after six to eight weeks of keeping things simple she said I can't believe I love you more than I ever thought I could well you know what that's Dave I'm gonna read that again I can't believe I love you more than I ever thought I could that is so not surprising to me at this point in my life when I was younger I was like I had a girlfriend that said that to me after she said I never thought my feelings would go anywhere beyond just platonic friendship for you and I just went what can I do but smile I knew what happened eventually once I got it right but and now it's just it's so sweet to hear those kinds of things and to see people from all the world having their girls see the same to them and so I'm not surprised it's the way it's supposed to be its inevitability to this day I can't help a smirk at how well your guidance has turned my love life into clockwork in a positive experience dude all I can say is I envy you I wish I'd have had those kinds of experiences in college but I've had lots of great times since and you'll continue to have them as well so good for you he says to continue she stuck with me throughout my journey of success and I wouldn't have been able to do it without your knowledge I'm 23 now and I continue to strive for excellence I've recently negotiated my own terms for a real estate investing internship that pays well above average and my future prospects are looking bright even throughout this pandemic if you want to learn how to negotiate and things of that nature you're gonna need in the real world of career mastering yourself definitely want to read that because I go in extensive detail about how I use those strategies to make to maximize my income earning potential working for other people and later myself and although I have much to learn and accomplish I'm grateful to have found your work as early as I had I am now turning into a new chapter of my life but I look at the uncertainty with confidence abundance and excitement and if it weren't for the clarity you provided to me when I was 19 I would have known where I would be now when I gained stronger financial holding I will be sure to be a paying client and return my appreciation well thanks for the great success story and welcome to the 3% club my man it's the sweet nectar of life and if you'd like to get one the sweet 3% club mugs go to teespring calm and just search for Coach Cory Wayne mugs and they should come up or there's links on my website you can click and go they're there in every email and if you click show more underneath every video and scroll down to the bottom there'll be a link that will take you to tea spring and if you're in a situation and you'd like to get my help to help you get out of it and you want to do a coaching session go to understand relationships calm click the products tap your stop your screen on any page and put a coaching session with yours truly and until next time I will talk to you soon [Music]

Channel: Coach Corey Wayne

Views: 63,215

Rating: 4.9167604 out of 5

Keywords: get her back, get ex back, relationship help, attraction

Id: _XlDqXgaHgE

Length: 29min 15sec (1755 seconds)

Published: Mon May 25 2020