Shay Mitchell on the Toxicity of Mom Shamers

as always this episode is sponsored by my go-to brand for anything makeup Revlon hey everybody I'm Ashley Graham and this is pretty big deal where confidence is key every episode I get to pick the brains of brilliant inspiring honest new and old friends who are a pretty big deal [Music] today we are talking to a screw multi-hyphenate shave midsole today is an actress entrepreneur content creator author and so much more after her breakout role in Pretty Little Liars Shay builds a loyal platform of millions across social media and YouTube thank you thank you for having me here no see I just want girlfriend friend vibes yeah whatever I love it super chill um congratulation thank you and congratulations yeah oh gosh every time I see somebody who's pregnant I'm like wow I'm so excited for you and I'm so happy I'm not pregnant let's be honest but you look insane I just have to say like thank you edible no you look so beautiful through your pregnancy to you I loved how you hid it for so long six months yeah that was hard that was are so active yeah social and YouTube and yeah there were a lot of just like head shots you know what I mean and or a dog pound like an oversized shirt oversized shirt yeah you know that trick too so yeah it was a lot of hottie I just wanted to come out with it when I wanted to come out with him I want to get into like all of that pre-announcement stuff cuz I went through a lot of stuff too but now that you've literally just pushed your daughter out of you what do I need to know how real can we get yeah please get as real okay because I am taking notes listen I wanted to experience both sides I want to experience it without the epidural and I want you after going through it for fifteen hours experience it with the epidural so the plan walking in was no epidural well the plan was let's see what happens I didn't have a birth plan you didn't know my only birth plan was Matt needs to be to the side or behind there is no one front we're gonna put tape right here and he is this is the Nomad zone okay because Justin my husband he wants to watch oh sure I know it Oh in front yes that's amazing what right exactly and that what's my thing that's what scared me a little it sound like you're to the side so he was inside that was my only birth plan and it was just like rule number one and then everything else was let's see what happens cuz you don't know you can't what can you plan for us no it's not up to us it's whatever happens and what's safest for the baby right because you know you hear about makeup birth plan make a birth plan and so like I want to walk into similar to you I don't want an epidural right I don't want to have to do pitocin right I don't want a c-section I'm like even if he about having it in an actual hospital I know like I'm really I'm trying to go the natural route right but to your point you just don't know what's gonna happen my water broke and they say you know you have a certain amount of time after your water breaks so I'd gone to the hospital and by that point it was like six hours they had checked me I wasn't dilated at all so eventually after going another five or six hours they were like we have to give you pitocin now when you get pitocin now wait did they say you had to get pitocin because of the baby like was it they just say it's dry when your water breaks there's a certain kind of timeframe okay no because they can only check you a limited amount of times because every time they check you there's another closet maybe who get an infection right your water's not there so that was um interesting I had heard from other people that one you heard pitocin it kind of meant like an epidural goes hand-in-hand with that because the contractions we both like working out we both work out with Kiera it's like that times a thousand Ava Chen just said to me from Instagram she said have you ever had really bad cramps I was like yeah pretty bad she's like it's like knives being jabbed into your lower abdomen but think but then being like pulled down right yes that's a perfect way to describe it so it's like that and I did that and I was like all right this is cool I'm gonna I'm gonna take the epidural now and then I did and I was sitting there and I don't know how many different seasons I've watched of a bunch of different shows just chillin as I saw the like pitocin level go up and up I didn't feel anything so I'm just saying I experienced both of them and you kind of just have to go with what feels right were you glad that you did this on your in person yeah and as you were in labor for 33 hours yes I have to say I'll be equally honest I watched the video on YouTube and I cried like a baby there's gonna be a warning like no but seriously because first of all I felt violated for you that everybody was in like you had the camera so you had like everybody's watching it's like okay but this is what she wants yeah so that I got that out of my head right and it was a controlled situation exactly and it wasn't like a crowd of people watching you and then I was like okay but now she didn't want the pitocin why she gave me my pitocin she was like I was literally living and then when the screen went black and you could just read the words and it was like oh my god she's here I was crying like a child like I couldn't even explain to you it cuz it was just so beautiful it's a miracle it is it it is and I don't know about you but throughout my entire pregnancy I never felt like as if it were real I thought I was kind of just lying the whole time like people even have a baby I'm like really like I didn't clicked in until you hear the baby cry and the doctor pulls him or her out and you're just like it's a baby and they're like yeah and you're like oh I just that just that came I ate a lot of chips and a lot of you don't I mean and that's what happened yeah like for nine months it was wild what happens when you go home no sorry don't you go home it's when you put the baby in the car seat and you're like how do we do this that is like the first thing when you're like wow and the nurses can't really help you do that they can only verbally help you when you're there so like it's a whole thing so it's mad and I trying to put her in there but then she looks uncomfortable but then they need to be uncomfortable a little bit because you want them to be secure and safe over comfort and it's a whole thing and then we're driving back and I remember we left at night and I'm in the back seat with her and he's driving and anybody that drove like past the speed limit by like whatever a mile whatever I'm like Hello Baby in here can you slow down sir get off your phone like I was crazy with the windows down just like screaming at everybody I'm like drive safe so yeah I'm gonna come out with like a neon sign for four new parents and you're gonna have the like the bumper sticker I'll tell ya that car yeah okay so you had your baby girl when October 8th oh yeah surprise surprise to Instagram holy gosh post a photo and then you plan on going out even to the grocery store for ten seconds like let everybody know one Fairborn because you post it so she was born October 8th yeah you posted you have a cute little Libra girl I have a Libra and that's a Libra too thank god she's not an area so two libras and then he posted on October 20th 1/2 that you had her and there was backlash yeah which I was we surprised I was so surprised now I'd seen that before you know there's been people that had gone on her more when Christie left her house after whatever several weeks after Myles was born she went to dinner and people lost it right and I thought he was so weird back then I don't know for some reason it didn't click into me when I was getting ready maybe I had a little inclination that I could hear something but I didn't really care so yeah when it all went down and people were leaving comments like you're the world's worst mother already the child needs to be taken to child services I was like wow he said that oh yeah they went crazy and I was just so a I kind of spun it around I was like this is really flattering that you think I'm superwoman and couldn't go out 3 days after having my daughter what in a diaper still like that thank you but no I'm not it had actually been a couple weeks after and you know it felt like it was the right time we went out for an hour and a half and I was back and not even like I feel like I have to explain myself but it bothered me for the other women and new mothers out there that maybe don't have the great support system around them to be like don't listen to it you know and that's what pissed me off is I was like how dare you already you know make a new mom who's already going through a lot of like doubt and guilt obviously when she leaves the first time but that should be something that celebrated you're living your life you know as you did before and as you will continue to with your child and that's how you've always been just been like the your workhorse you didn't want to have a maternity leave that's like a quote you kept saying like I don't want a maternity leave yeah and my first reaction was like I can't believe she's going back to work because it's what you see on Instagram is all the information you get exact or YouTube or whatever it is instead of your platform you're posting and you have to remind yourself everything on and sir Graham is an altered reality yeah and then it reminded me also what are people gonna say when I have my kids right you know right so I apologize for having those thoughts ya know everybody goes through their own process yeah and I'm glad to know yours and to know first of all that you're so strong to handle of a hater right you've had them for a while we all have exactly and you have 26 points something million dollars but honestly like I just want to say thank you because you have proven that like it doesn't matter what you put out go back to work do what you want was right to you work from the bed exactly and that's what I've been doing and you know she's the best assistant ever oh it's it's so great but yeah I was actually surprised with how comfortable I was going to be after the fact of just sitting kind of in stillness like hours are passing and I'm just staring like this is crazy and I'm like oh [ __ ] okay I have to reply back to this email but it's nice because you realize when you have a child just how fast time passes that's what I heard like it's crazy to me you see the changes every single day you know and are you doing like a photo a day of her I haven't done a photo a day and I actually didn't even take that many photos at the beginning because I was just holding her and just like eye contact just in awe which is kind of an amazing thing that I was more in the moment than taking the photos but it's yeah you are just so comfortable with actually stopping and just being in the moment more than ever where did you guys end up on the breast feeding where do we end up again cuz I know Matt so so this is the thing if you know at home everybody who doesn't know about Matt Matt is Shay's boyfriend it's been together for three three years each other for like 10 plus right yeah he's Canadian yeah we're Degrassi and then you guys got pregnant and then he had his idea of a lot of ideas yeah I had a lot of ideas Sal and I don't know if you noticed but in the video when we were in the hospital he had that no veries no opinions t-shirt yeah so he learned you know he actually did Oh Bravo yeah he actually did he learned his lesson um look again just like I didn't really have a birth plan I didn't know if I was gonna be able to breastfeed or not right who knows you never know you know and both of my sisters the baby wouldn't last wait but my mom breastfed all of us yeah so I'm kind of I'm doing gametime decision exactly and I think that's all you can do so in this quarter whatever or I don't watch a lot of I'm I'm able to right now and it works for us so yeah so I'm doing that are your breath bottles yes breastfeeding also money I heard it hurts it hurts I just want to say something I don't know if you ever heard of encouragement what is that when your boobs get really hard like this rock that's when your milk comes in and that yep rock seems like pebbles hard rocks just painful it's painful and they don't tell you about that I never knew about that I thought when I was done with labor that was it I was like okay maybe with the breastfeeding you know crack nipple whatever like all that kind of stuff may be painful for a little bit in the engorgement phase which was like two days three days for me was unreal so you are just gonna massage your husband's gonna love it you just need all of us the hajeck because the first three days is the colostrum yes and then they heart him yes and then the milk yes and then you're in pain oh yes yes yeah yeah I would say I don't know I'm obviously not a lactation nurse but I was pumping at the beginning I was so excited like oh cool this is like let's see when this comes in and then I think of all testing you just put in your bra you guys exactly does that I haven't tried that one okay guys probably want to have the other ones that I'm gonna like download you on everything but it was it was interesting because I read something else that was like don't pump maybe this early on because then your body actually thinks oh there's two babies so I need to produce more milk so I did that at the beginning and I kind of learned my lesson at least that was my experience and so I kind of weaned off that until your breasts and the milk all settled then you can maybe pick that up this is good no yeah it's so crazy how incredible it is right that it knows and when the baby's sick the saliva that back it tells your body it needs to produce more anti-bot whatever so it's it's crazy someone told me to start looping my nipples oh okay I didn't hear about that I heard about you want to put that like oil and all that stuff Joey Hernan ol massage perineal perineural I can't say it perineal did you do that yes are you glad you did yes did you rip I had about stitches but okay no I exactly I was really lucky so I'm gonna say it maybe yet so would that do the massages down there I'm gonna massage the nipples okay I didn't turn the loop and then you just want to have load up on all the nipple cream you can okay yeah I'm doing like this is really exactly conversation do you have like the golden milk in your fridge just like lined up I needed I have it dated and it's not lined up okay but it's definitely in a drawer and it's it's it's crazy you're just kind of like whoa but yo I'm also look at Matt sometimes and I'm like honestly I carried her for ten months I went through the labor now I go through the basement oh yeah and I don't know but they say for a lot of like first-timers you go past your due date I was thinking I was gonna be a couple weeks early my parents came in early yeah I don't know but now I wasn't because were you were working out a lot during her pregnancy right yes but not towards the end oh when did you stop I kind of stopped around the six-month market oh yeah I was active like I was on my feet and travel yeah I was like the pizza in my mouth and they were not here oh no Kyra I was getting jealous and texting her being like I'm so jealous of you guys working oh my god it really is great she's insane yes now I want to talk about something that you had said it and I think that you said the term prepartum yeah depression mm-hmm I want to talk about this because I can't say definitively that I went through it right but I can say that I feel like I might have gone through something like it because here I am I'm pregnant it's not that I was trying to get pregnant or I wasn't trying but I just happened it was a surprise but then a sudden my body is like my emotions my mind my body things that I always had control of him are now totally out of whack I can't talk to anybody about it my husband doesn't understand I'm trying to be as supportive as possible my mom is like oh you'll be fine yep I think I was spiraling a little bit yeah and I was crying a lot yeah and I want to talk to you about like what your experience was I mean every single thing that you just said is exactly what I went through my mom said the same thing and I'd be crying her she's like you're just emotional it's just the hormones and okay cool it might be but you don't want to hear that like yes it is okay if it is the ramones I'm still feeling that way it doesn't take away from this feeling and it's completely isolating and because of the experience that I'd gone through before with the miscarriage I didn't want to tell even my closest friends that I was pregnant this time because the thought of having to go back to them after and be like me and didn't happen this time again you know was really a painful thought for me so I just thought I'll keep it to myself for as long as possible and you know the staying at home to hide from the paparazzi so they don't get that bump photo if I'm gonna be a good fry exactly I also am like a control freak and I wanted to have it you know be out when I wanted it to be but it was just really lonely and Matt also is traveling on a bunch and you're not feeling as secure about your body because there's no bump or you die thing you don't feel sexy you don't have that beautiful bump it's just actually you don't even feel fat you just feel heavy heavy like I said like puffy like thing I said to my friends I was like you know like a bike tire pump you just go I feel like you just like I took me up once with that tire that's exactly it yeah so you just don't feel yourself and then you know it was just really really lonely and I personally haven't ever experienced anything like this but I just didn't want to get out of bed and I was I was also putting having a lot of guilt because I felt so fortunate to be able to be pregnant you know and I was like okay I shouldn't be feeling like this there's so many people that would love to be in this position and then you know how can I not want this right now I'm saying with me we hadn't planned it and so I was like is this what I want oh my god and my whole life's gonna change it's never gonna go back now I'm to be a mom huh nice is gonna impact my career it was just all of those thoughts that happen and you know you're walking down the street and you just see all these girls and you know what I mean and you're like well that was me that was anyways you know I get really crazy period that I don't think people talk about enough cuz I heard so much about postpartum which is also real bright but I had never heard of a progression no that's why when I heard you say it I was like wait yeah that resonated with me yeah and I had a really crappy day even after we had announced and I posted a photo of myself from the side and there was like extra rolls new stretch marks I forgot what I even it was a beautiful pose bye thank you but it was like I had just finished like a crying sound yeah and then I post that because I think in that moment what I wanted to do was use social media to find a community that wasn't just about like body positivity right it was more so about like I'm in this space that I'm not happy but I'm gonna talk about it exactly and it was a reality check for me too it was hard it was really hard and that's why I think also like with that post I wanted to do the YouTube show with Matt even though I had never been really public about him or really any of that kind of stuff in my life but I felt like there's so many of us on this journey and it's also individual all of our experiences but at the same time there's a lot of common feelings that we feel throughout this process that isn't spoken about enough so okay I have two more questions and this realm first of all have you ever in your life felt the community of motherhood like like in any other community I mean I wild yeah it's wild oh yeah it's a whole club it's a whole cup like I said it's it can be great and it could also be bad yeah because a lot of those comments that we spoke about earlier weren't coming from guys and other people they were coming from other moms which it was like the heartbreaking part of all this and I was like oh yeah okay so what I'm talking about ya know now social media everybody is an expert exactly didn't you know exactly but when I tell other people it's like oh let me send you my list yeah oh let me tell you about my doctor yes what's your birth plan yes Wow Wow it's crazy okay cuz I haven't gotten the negative stuff because I haven't had the kid yet okay because I think it's when you pop the kid out no but I'm still gonna be real with you okay even after this I'm gonna be texting you but okay okay you know cuz I think it's good to know the good it look at the end of the day I'm sure it's gonna be amazing and you know again it's such a personal experience that I almost even feel bad too when I talk to the people I'm like it's gonna be the best day of your life because who knows but what I can say is it's an experience that you've never had and that I can definitely say because this is your first child so it's just incredible I'm so excited yeah okay the last part of this conversation is I want to know how you and Matt met cuz I don't know the back oh my gosh did you say you knew each other from way back yeah you've been together for three years yeah we've been together for three years I know I don't know if I've ever talked about this before giving you the scoop we both are from Toronto oh yeah we met when I was like 19 ish we have a lot of common friends being from Toronto and Toronto see exactly and I think I was doing bottle service at a mutual friend's party and the next day he kind of he called me and we connected and we realized we lived down the street from one another which was crazy and you know so we had our moments a couple of times in my younger years yeah didn't work out I ended up coming to LA and we yeah we're you kindled it a little while ago so it's wild but it's kind of cool because I'm also like you knew me in Toronto 19 and we have a lot of like history so thank you before the Popoff its yeah my husband and I met before the Popoff - yeah I mean it's just it's nice it's nice it's nice it's like you can grow together exactly the actual cheerleader yeah you know yeah you can really build something right and we're both Canadians so he doesn't make fun of me for the words that I say tomorrow tomorrow sorry sorry it's kinda nice yeah okay so your reality show is called almost ready yes and you really put everything out there yeah diapers I you yeah okay so you were actually wearing diapers towards the end of your partner I still Amory sure yeah no it's not even for that it was like that those kind of diapers are done thank goodness but the other time it's just like a comfortable thing I think I just enjoy wait so like let's just say you're on an airport maybe like I mean hello I was working on my show up until I was six months and having to go to the bathroom being on location you know I'd ask where the panniers washroom was or whatever outhouse was maybe like it's like five ten minute walk well when you're doing that fifty times a day because your bladder is uncontrollable it was really uncomfortable so I came up with the solution and that was to wear diapers oh yeah let me say this you don't want to do it like a baby you can't really get like three of them I actually only think I've maybe done it like once okay let's be honest was it in the night or was it were you like it was 100% no I can imagine you looking in somebody's eyes feet I joked all the time with Monica it was myself I was just like this when I look at you and I'm really comfortable you just know she's like you're gross but yeah I mean hello you're going to the bathroom a million times in the night so I know I know I just I'm here from New York and I think I got up ten times yeah just to pee just a dribble yeah and you're like really as a dribble comes in handy actually you know what a dribble in a diapers right not that uncomfortable to sit in for a couple hours Oh exactly but now enough of the mommy stuff because I know you know I could literally go on and on you worked very hard and then all of a sudden II had this breakthrough moment of pretty little liars as Emily and you switched gears you went from TV film to you - mm-hmm what was your fan base like were they cool with it my family's was awesome towards that it was a different type of fan base it doesn't always crossover from even the other social platforms but it was interesting because even just like fellow actors I think we're kind of an I was done you know I started my youtube channel before the rock did before Will Smith did before it was like before was it big yeah and I I think at that point when I had launched it people were kind of like oh that's cute she'd want to act anymore oh she's going to you too she's yeah exactly and I got a lot of that and I didn't really care because I kind of saw the trajectory just kind of moving in that direction of people being a lot more social and wanting to really be a lot more personal with the content they're putting out you know and I wanted to try my hand in it and so like everything else if I want to do something I kind of just do it and that's what happened with you too but then I started to enjoy it because it was a platform where I really could be in control the content I was putting out there and it was you know longer form content than just a caption on Instagram or a minute video on Instagram or whatever so beautifully I mean it's not like a reality show there's like multi camera yeah the sound is perfect it's the lightest gorgeous but it's fun of traveling stuff from that well yes when I started with Sheikh Asian videos those were so much fun because I really wanted to be able to share the experience as I was having and the cultures that I was getting to witness right when I would travel because it is a big deal I mean we've had the privilege to travel the world and get paid to travel the world er yeah first of all where's your favorite place to go oh my gosh gave me like top three top three Italy oh yeah both in Italy this summer oh we were at the same time yeah I was I was oh yeah yes I loved it you were like hey bomb I was like I can't pull my bump back yeah I'm just hiding I was I was doing my bump I was eating the the prosciutto what you're not supposed to do the cheese which I found out after I got oh I did mine yeah zoomy had a glass but no Italy was amazing exactly I would say Tokyo is another incredible place I want to go there oh it's incredible you haven't been yet no it's amazing oh you've been yes that's where you get a little research yes exactly I have a whole a whole travelled list that you need to go and visit and then I would say how Africa is just incredible Africa where come on okay you want like the D yeah I mean like I love Morocco I love Seychelles I got South Africa right South Africa is incredible I would say I was my favorite place in Africa's maybe Kenya just isn't what I was doing like draftsmen or over there and yeah there's okay yeah but you were into kiyo yes because you were doing loads of research so it's a racer or your problem is called face yes I'm saying it right yes you are so talk to me about base like where where did the adventure of first of all wanting to create a company come from you know I feel like as much as I've always loved acting there was also a huge entrepreneurial side in me as well you know the whole multi - it and being able to do that I love that I love being able to wear different hats and for me because I traveled so much and obviously had purchased so many different travel accessories and luggage and all of that I wanted to create something that I couldn't find out in the market myself for me it was coming out with something that was affordable and yet chic and functional and I would be on airplanes and just kind of sitting there like huh this little you know thing in front of me is really disgusting cuz I put my ear pods in there and then I'd lose him I'd pull my hand and then some sticky snack from a kid who was sitting there prior would comment with it and I'd kind of just sit there and then I started drawing and doing all these little doodles on airplane napkins and that's kind of how it started to happen and I remember sitting down with my team and they were talking to me about possibly wanting to come out with something in the beauty you know world and my mind would just kept drifting back to travel and I was like you know what this is truly my love I could talk travel forever and even just travel accessories and this is truly what I love so that's kind of how base came came about and I just absolutely love it you just have your first year anniversary yeah first year was October 17 you have five employees yeah about five or six yeah well it's a really small team which is great it's it's amazing and the fact that even you know I can just interest in them right now being a little bit taking a little breather and you know just knowing that they're crushing it is awesome but you know it goes with everything if you're really passionate you love something then you know it's doing well is just the cherry on top talk to me about building the team and the business aspect of it and being an actual business woman yeah it's crazy because this is different from anything else it's not an endorsement it's not a collab you're my company and with that I really wanted to be involved in all aspects not just the sexy stuff of this photoshoot this launched this on social I'm hitting the fabric right exactly I wanted to be involved with you know the spreadsheet so the tariffs all of the stuff that maybe isn't so fun you know having to figure out how many the inventory the warehouse all that kind of stuff to because to be involved in the way that I wanted to be I needed to understand everybody's roles in it so I could speak about it and know what I was talking about when we were in meetings but again because I love it nothing was boring to me was all interesting and this isn't something that I've ever done before either I didn't go to school for business I didn't go to school for design but I learned about it from people that I trusted and that I brought on to the team and we've been really fortunate to be doing well and Forbes yeah actually reported that base has seen a 200 percent growth yeah watch even when I got that cause like okay this may not be the cover just yet but this is so next year right oh my gosh it was so cool to be able to talk about in our first year which is insane for a lot of new companies so yeah I was I was yeah really proud of my team for that and just super excited to I mean walking into the airport or being away somewhere or being at the gym and I see somebody with a bag or a luggage or whatever it is it's like such an awesome feeling and I'm always that freak that runs up to them I'm like hey love your backpack I have a lot of times you know which is actually even better they don't know that I have anything to do they don't know who the hell I am and they're like Biggs it's a really great backpack I'm like cool that's just so awesome you know to really witness people we say seen it in the wild so whenever I see somebody wearing it I'll take a photo or my friends will take a photo all those send out they'll be like this girl in front of me and I'm like wow it's in the wild that's sick so you just launched hard cases yes what we had hard cases we're launching a new in between size 26 inch and the exact area that's a check-in okay okay and then we're doing diaper bags first quarter of 2020 oh I know yes so I like it's been fun because I'm now using it and I've got every single diaper bag on the market so to kind of just take what I've like all them and then add in my own ideas is awesome what's the number one thing that I need is a new mom by the way drifting Oh one sec honestly and this is not an ad I bought them my best friend it's this pillow that you put cuz you're at gonna when you're at the hospital if you choose to breastfeed they'll just line you with pillows and you have your baby here and it's kind of awkward but if you go home you maybe you don't have the same pillows if you have this thing it's like a strap pillow it clips in here it has a little thing for remote some snacks whatever you want in this little pocket and then like humps cuz you're gonna be like this and it's so comfortable so I bought three of them for like different rooms in my house and it's amazing so yeah that's my breast friend okay thank you yeah so what is the next thing for base what are you guys working on I think just organically evolving with whatever I feel inspired by and what I feel like the consumers are wanting you know and that's really cool too to be so interactive on social media with base and their customers it's cool because I can actually ask them and see what they want and now with the poles and all of that I can get so much feedback with everything so I think you know as I continue to evolve as our fan base continues to evolve fan base yeah it's um it's gonna be really cool so maybe more in the mom world for a little bit and then who knows man it's like another kid you know exactly backpacks for kids yes cute yeah you probably already did that yeah okay you are such a hard worker and I am so I don't look up to you for that because being a mom now and you you have your hats on so for so many different avenues where does your determination come from loving what I do and I love it and I feel so fortunate to be able to do what I've always dreamt of doing and that's it if I didn't love what I was doing it would be really difficult because yeah I do feel like especially now there's not a lot of sleep but at the same time I don't mind it I'm like I'll do that later I love so much getting to wake up and work with people even if it's a glam session sometimes for me those are even more fun than the actual events themselves that I go to yeah they are yeah you know and I love I just I love working with people I love being interactive I love social media and I just feel like once you find what it is that makes you happy that's all the fuel you need and so yeah I wear a lot of hats but I just feel super grateful that I can awesome so love what you do love what you do period yeah that what's one thing that you wish people knew about you being an open book but also having a private side hmm I feel like I've put so much of it out there to be hard question you know what I mean I don't know I feel like less about you know figuring out something that maybe I haven't shared with with people but more so about I feel like as the older you get it just gets better so it's not even like this is a fun fact about me that you may not know but something that I didn't know when I was maybe younger that I think is just it just I don't know about you but like when I hit 30 everything was just amazing I mean holy you know 3287 87 yeah gosh wait one month again October 30th okay I just turned 32 just for it I'm older than you April 10 yeah exactly so I don't know I've just I've loved being in my 30s yeah it just you know I hundred percent agree with you when I hit 30 it was like this like Eureka yeah yeah and I'm here less about what other people think you know yeah like I look back at my younger self and I'm like oh he shouldn't have carrots you know what I mean there's a hundred percent yeah the twenties you'll be fine exactly exactly so what's next what's happening for Shay Mitchell who knows oh no music video drops tomorrow whoa no you never know I don't know just enjoying this time right now with her and yeah it's uh what's her name Atlas I mean hello yeah Atlas Noah Babel oh and I have to tell you it was actually a funny story with her name because our really good friends had their daughter about a couple years ago and they were telling us their list of names and they're like what do you think about this what do think about this atlas came up and right when she said it I was like I hate that name yeah I was like you know what I think you should go with that one and she ended up doing it and it's perfect for her daughter so thank you but I was like oh my god Atlas I'm like Matt that's it he's like that's it I'm like perfect we didn't get pregnant for like another couple years ever but when it happened you know we've known this entire time so I felt so bad lying to people like what's your name I'm like we don't have one yet meanwhile so what no times you'll name they do know thing we're not good baby same till they come out great yes exactly I recommend that so the last thing we do on pretty big deal is a little bit of a live boldly lightning round okay I love it what's the last pretty penny you spent last pretty penny I spent something for the baby oh god I think it was like a little purse for her or something crazy yeah I think that's probably the last thing pretty penny who she is like oh my god I know it's ridiculous yeah biggest deal-breaker ignorance yeah yeah deal-breaker yep and because you're a pretty big deal and I only have pretty big deals on pretty big deal mm-hmm what's a pretty big deal to you family and friends oh yeah important yeah family friends yet shade thank you so much for coming right thank you for getting out of mommy world I come I'm like okay I can feel the times I would say you need yes you do it's like yeah mommy said I've been away right now no I know I'm gonna go so honor you so much I know what that means thank you of course don't forget to join the conversation on social follow 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Channel: Ashley Graham

Views: 947,554

Rating: 4.9693766 out of 5

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Id: YrJ192FahEg

Length: 37min 49sec (2269 seconds)

Published: Wed Jan 08 2020