The ability to plan for the future is a cornerstone
of our civilization. The human race would never have flourished
if we didn’t organize, arrange, design, prepare, and delay gratification for greater
causes. Take, for example, this structure: the Kölner
Dom, which is a massive cathedral in the German city of Cologne. The construction began in 1248 and was completed
no earlier than 1880, taken into account that the project was halted for about three-hundred
years. Nevertheless, this meant that generations
of people have spent lifetimes building something that they’d never see finished. So, this displays how the human capacity for
long term planning can lead to mind-blowing achievements, like traveling to the moon,
and, in all likelihood, a manned trip to Mars. But there’s a fundamental difference between
planning and worrying. Planning is constructive and focuses on our
own actions in a conceptual future, while worrying is trying to control the uncontrollable
by repeating possible and even unrealistic scenarios over and over again. Our worries can even consist of fantasies
that are totally out of touch with reality. Therefore, as opposed to planning, it’s
destructive. Nevertheless, we keep worrying because, for
some reason, we think that this is going to help us in one way or another. Unfortunately, worrying generally does more
harm than good. This video lays out reasons to stop worrying. (1 )The vast majority won’t happen There’s one thing certain about the future,
which is that the future is uncertain. History has known numerous people that claimed
to have the power of foresight, but their predictions have mostly been vaguely true
or downright false. And sure, from a deterministic perspective,
the future is already written in the stars. But did someone ever succeed at reading them? As long as we are constrained by time, we
perceive the future as an empty canvas. Anything can happen, which is a blessing and
a curse at the same time. Our minds, however, do not like uncertainty. This is why religions that offer answers regarding
human destiny can be so comforting, as they feel secure because they fill the empty canvas
with something substantial. But even for a religious person, life can
be extremely daunting: as they might have knowledge about the afterlife; whether they’ll
be sent to heaven or hell, or what life on earth has in store for them is still a mystery. Faced with an uncertain future, our minds
tend to create possible scenarios. When it comes to preparedness, this is actually
a good thing. Because thinking ahead gives us an advantage,
as we calculate the possibilities, so we can take the necessary measures based on speculations. For example, knowing that financially difficult
times are coming, we can prepare for them by spending less and saving more. But when we worry, our minds are mass-producing
predictions, even about things that don’t really matter, and, even worse, repeating
them over and over again. The problem is that in the present moment,
a situation that we have created hundreds of possible outcomes for unfolds only in one
particular way. Moreover, chances are that this situation
won’t even happen! We could figure out a million possibilities
and still be wrong. What’s the point of the impossible task
of figuring out exactly what the future is going to bring? There’s no point. As author Eckhart Tolle states: “worry pretends
to be necessary but serves no useful purpose”. (2) We can’t control the future Trouble arises when we want to control the
future. To control the future, the mind tries to think
about it as it were the present. The mind somehow thinks that by calculating
every possible option, it will gain control in the end. If we’d know what exactly would happen,
then we’d indeed have an advantage in regards to our own actions: we’d know, for example,
when our relationships end, and what stocks we need to buy to become rich. But the future is still out of control; the
only difference is that we already know what happens, which makes it no different than
the past. And we can’t control the past, either. The only thing we can control are our own
actions in the here and now. A cause for procrastination, for example,
is the inability to retreat from past and future, and focus on the task at hand instead. In the present moment, we can create a new
past, and influence the future, but this requires us to keep our focus on what we can do right
now. By compartmentalizing a task, we can work
on manageable pieces, which makes it much easier to focus, as we forget the end result
for a while, and only think in terms of hours, sessions, or days. This relieves us from the undermining weight
of goals that seem almost impossible to reach, while still working on them in the best possible
ways. Worrying only keeps us from acting. And the more we live in the future, the more
our anxiety sabotages our efforts to make a change. As it’s written in the Bible: “Therefore
do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” End quote. Or in Seneca’s On The Shortness of Life: “You are arranging what lies in Fortune’s
control, and abandoning what lies in yours. What are you looking at? To what goal are you straining? The whole future lies in uncertainty: live
immediately.” End quote. (3) We often don’t value certain events
properly A hallmark of chronic worriers is that they
desire certain outcomes while being averse to others. For example, many people worry about social
interaction because they want to be liked, or about their jobs because they’re terrified
of losing them. By exploring many possible scenarios, the
mind tries to prevent what it’s averse to from happening and incur what it desires. But, again, the future is uncertain. And for that exact reason, we don’t know
if the things that we want to happen are truly good, and things that we don’t want to happen
are truly bad. There’s a Taoist story that portrays what
happens to people who judge based on what they don’t know. This story tells about an old farmer, whose
horse ran away. After they heard the news, his neighbors came
to visit and said: “Such bad luck.” “Maybe,” answered the farmer. But the next morning the horse came back,
accompanied by three wild horses. “That’s so wonderful,” the neighbors
exclaimed. “Maybe,” replied the old man. The next day, the farmer’s son tried to
ride one of the wild horses, but he was thrown and broke his leg. “What a misfortune,” the neighbors said
full of sympathy. “Maybe,” answered the farmer. The next day, military officials came to the
village to draft the farmer’s son into the army. But when they noticed the broken leg, they
passed him by. Then, the neighbors congratulated the old
farmer, telling him how lucky he is that his son is spared from war. The farmer replied: “maybe”. This Taoist story shows that we can’t judge
what’s desirable or undesirable when it comes to present events, because we don’t
know how things will turn out. Things that seem bad, may turn out to be blessings
and vice versa. Thus there’s no point in desiring certain
outcomes if we cannot judge their value. Maybe, losing a job is the best thing that
could happen to us. Maybe, losing our money leads to us living
a much happier life. We just don’t know. But it’s comforting to keep in mind that
every cloud has a silver lining. To conclude this video, it’s essential to
mention that worrying is terrible for our health. Worrying comes from a place of fear, and only
generates more fear, which makes it a vicious downward spiral. The chronic anxiety that comes from worrying
affects the immune system and can lead to physical illness. And when we become more receptive to illness,
we have given ourselves yet another thing to worry about. Being aware of the devastating consequences,
combined with the knowledge that the majority of the things we worry about won’t happen,
and that we can’t correctly judge present events, we might want to prioritize our mental
hygiene over all those things that we can’t control anyway. Thank you for watching.
