r/Amiwrong Wife VS Pregnant Mistress

welcome to r/ Am I Wrong where op ends a 20-year marriage over cheating am I wrong for leaving my husband over a relatively small incident long story short my husband has been a Serial cheater for most of our marriage what how is a Serial cheater a relatively small incident what whatever boundary we set up and agree to together he violates it I've spent years setting a boundary being crushed when he violates it sweeping it under the rug and then setting a new boundary which eventually is broken towards the end of summer I'd finally had enough and ended it he convinced me to give him one more chance with therapy I agreed he's made a lot of progress and he's implemented many changes that I've been asking for for years but even still I just haven't been feeling the connection last week I caught him again red-handed the act itself wasn't a big deal to me it was the fact that yet again trust was broken it just feels like I can't trust him to keep his word I said that it's over I'm done we had a therapy session this week and our therapist actually inferred that I'm making a bit of a hasty decision choosing to end a long-term marriage over a relatively small infraction I said that it's not just about this incident but about the whole relationship and the breach of trust he said that a few months of therapy isn't really enough to expect drastic change and that I might want to consider and give him more time since he's actively pursuing therapy and making an effort Opie honestly this therapy is just putting a Band-Aid on a gunshot wound move on and let this guy screw whoever he wants to because obviously he's going to do it with or without your approval am I wrong for ending a 20-year marriage because I learned that my wife cheated on me while we were dating I'm a 43-year-old man and my wife is 44 we've been married for 20 years we started dating in high school when I was a junior and she was a senior we were long distance for her first 2 years of college while I was in high school and did one year of Community College then we went to college in the same city for a year and have lived together ever since we got married this Summer after I graduated college our marriage has been pretty great so far but I initiated a divorce after I discovered that she was sleeping with multiple other men for the 2 years that we were long distance just after Christmas we got together with a few friends of hers from college to catch up have dinner and hang out we talked about a lot of stuff and my wife mentioned that we met in high school not that we dated just that we met her old college roommate commented that it was crazy that we met met up in high school had a few wild years in college and then ended up together I played along and commented that I didn't know that my wife was as crazy as I was the roommate started to tell a story but my wife cut her off and said that she was uncomfortable about it I sense something was up so I said that we actually started dating in high school and we were together for my wife's entire time at College all of my wives friends got real quiet and the rest of the dinner was awkward on the way out one of her other roommates took me aside and said that I should have an honest conversation about what happened in college I asked my wife on the way home and she kind of blew me off unlike how she blew all those other guys off I told her it was important that she'd be honest with me and again she said that it wasn't important when we got home I told her that I was going to stay at my brother's house until she was ready to talk about what happened in college the next day she came over and admitted to sleeping with several men during her first two years at college she said that she didn't consider it a big deal at the time because we were long distance and she didn't think that a high school romance would last I pressed her for more details and she said that it was at least 10 different men including at least three guys that she introduced me to as friends when I came to visit on weekends and one guy that she's still in contact with I told her that I wanted a divorce and I'd be starting the paperwork as soon as I could which I did January 2nd her family and most of my family is telling me that I shouldn't throw away my marriage over a few mistakes I've stood by my belief that cheating on me with multiple men for years is unacceptable no matter when it happened and the fact that she continued to maintain relationships with these guys right in front of me was an unacceptable amount of disrespect we have two kids but their ages 17 and 19 and I'll believe they'll understand why I need to end the marriage am I wrong for leaving I feel like I'm going crazy with the amount of people telling me to overlook years of infidelity and Decades of Lies op man there's no turning back from this absolutely a few mistakes this is 10 plus mistakes in college with 10 different guys and then repeatedly making mistakes over and over and over over the course of decades as she lies to you day after day about these men in her Lives who she slept with oh man Opie I feel really bad for you man your wife is a piece of work I sure hope your two kids are are actually your kids also op ads in an edits some clarifying details and listen to this guys this is so bad this is actually so bad op says we were definitely exclusively dating at the time first dating culture was a lot different 20 years ago so exclusive was kind of the default for most people second we had a long and difficult discussion before she left her College about continuing the relationship long distance she specifically wanted to stay together and even joked about her dad coming after me if I started sleeping around with girls at my school finally at my senior prom she wasn't able to attend and was very upset when I proposed going with a platonic female friend of mine as a result I ended up skipping my prom and hanging out with her instead while we never said the word exclusive I think the above reasons combined with the general relationship before she left are more than enough to assume exclusivity also I followed up with that one friend who said that I should have an honest conversation she told me that 10 guys sounds like it's on the low end and that her biggest concern was that there was apparently at least one pregnancy scare that I didn't know about honestly I don't really think that changes much it's less about the number for me and more about the fact that she seems incapable of recognizing why this was wrong or why I feel betrayed yo man this gets worse and worse op man your wife is awful she was being all jealous and possessive of you while you were in high school while she was off sucking some other dude off give me a break man oh my God the title of this post am I am I wrong for asking my husband to pick between me or his pregnant mistress my husband had an affair that lasted for 6 months and he got his girlfriend pregnant I didn't know that Last Detail until recently before the pregnancy came to light we decided to give it a trial and reconcile he said that he was so sorry and that he would always picked me and that his girlfriend was a mistake now that I found out that she was pregnant while he was drunk I told him that he should choose between his two families he got angry and asked me to let him be a parent to the new kid and to stay with him because he loves me I was about to agree and then he showed me a text while drunk about how the two of them were planning a wedding am I am I wrong for setting up boundaries and asking him to either pick me or his pregnant mistress Opie the only thing you're doing wrong here is choos to continue to be in this relationship what do you mean pick me girl pick yourself dump this loser and move on man some people have no self-esteem I feel bad for op honestly am I wrong for losing it when I found out that my underage niece who's 15 is dating a guy who's at least 21 you read that correctly I'm feeling like a crazy person for even asking if I'm wrong my niece Maddie is 15 she's visiting my parents and my sister Ashley who's 20 for the holidays I am too we went to a festival tonight and I was told that I'd meet Maddy's boyfriend I was a bit shocked because Maddie is so young but I'm a teacher as well so I know that kids their age are probably thinking about dating a lot I asked my mom and sister about how they met and my mom said they met at church and then when I asked what school the boy goes to they seemed awkward and avoided the question imagine my shock when I meet the dude and he's balding he also has the face of a 25-year-old I love op's storytelling here I point blank in front of everyone asked him hey buddy how old are you he said 21 no effing way he is not 21 I can tell I I turned to Maddie and asked how old are you she said 15 I looked at the man and asked him are you okay okay with dating a minor my parents flipped out and tried to hush me I verbatim told I verbatim told them not to interrupt and to let the p word answer my parents told me that I'm being accusatory and causing a scene they took the p word home when the rest of us went home I blew up and asked if my brother Maddie's dad knew about the grown adult chasing his daughter they told me not to meddle and that her parents were aware that she's seeing him I repeated no no my question wasn't if they knew she's dating him my question was do they know that he's a few years younger than myself and for context I'm 27 they started yelling and I just decided to call my brother I told him what was happening he knew that his daughter found a boyfriend but didn't know that the dude was a bald grown man now my parents are pissed and saying that I'm overreacting and that I'm acting childish they're saying it's not my place to meddle with how my brother chooses to raise his daughter that it's a vacation fling and that nothing will happen since it's only 2 weeks long my my sister even said that it's not that bad because the age of consent in our country is 16 she's right legally that is our age of consent but just because it's legal but just because it's legal doesn't mean it's moral but it's not legal because she's not 16 I don't know am I insane here am I really overreacting I want to go no contact with him after this because I 100% hate Predators we had a huge fight and words were said now I'm actually wondering if I'm wrong because my dad mom and sister are all saying that I'm overreacting am I the butthole here you know the funny thing about this op is that we as a society have gotten together and we've all agreed that it's wrong right we've agreed that it's wrong so much that all of our lawmakers got together and made a law saying we as a country believe that it's wrong for a 15-year-old to date a 21-year-old so much so that if you do it you're going to jail and then Opie has to be like am I wrong here am I am I the weird one no you're not the weird one they're the weird ones op maybe it's time to go over everyone's heads here and just report it man talk to the cops you said you're a teacher right don't teachers have mandatory reporting policy so just report them obviously you know how to do it if you're a teacher so maybe the cops will bust down his door and arrest him and then you don't have to worry about this guy diddling your 15-year-old man it's so funny to me they were trying to use six yeah but but 16 is the age of consent yeah well she's not 16 is she so that's literally you admitting that it is illegal Am I Wrong to force my husband to sleep outside in the cold I'm in complete shock at the moment my hands are shaking even writing this I found out that my husband of 11 years has been living a double life and has been doing something so disgusting I can't even fathom how this was getting past me in my own household told I feel so ashamed and so embarrassed my husband is a truck driver and more times than not he'll be out Trucking for months at a time he doesn't really have to be out Trucking that much but he reassures me telling me that it'll help him make more money I thought nothing of it until recently I feel so stupid because I didn't put two and two together that he's been making the same amount of money since he's been doing all this extra work he wasn't out for months at a time back then and he hasn't made more money now so where's that extra time gone to well I found out from a friend of his who revealed to me that he's not only been cheating on me with several hookers but he's also been running around having an affair with his friend's daughter yo what how old he's been letting her stay in his truck I have no clue how old she is because the guy was steaming over the phone I didn't even get a chance to ask him about her age he came home last night and I couldn't even look at him I was disgusted I made him pack his stuff and told him to leave he's been calling and texting non-stop saying that he's out in the freezing cold in his truck and he doesn't want to get to a hotel because of her all morning he's been banging at the door and part of me feels bad because of the weather I just don't want to let him in the other part of me wants to just leave him to the Wolves and the elements he keeps saying he wants to be at home because he works hard he's cold and he wants to explain I just feel like there's nothing to explain though I don't know what to do I'm freaking out right now I feel so betrayed my life is falling apart before my eyes words cannot describe the pain I feel and I know what he did is so wrong but am I wrong to not let him stay here until I figure out what I'm going to do about him I'm just so worried because we both have ownership of the house I don't know if I'm even allowed to keep him out so am I wrong to make him stay outside man I checked op's comments hoping that she would post an update about uh the kids age but unfortunately we don't know so man that sucks how was just as curious as you guys are anyways op I would say don't feel too bad about it his hookers can keep him warm am I wrong for refusing to associate with my brother's Unfaithful partner early last year my brother Robert who's 23 slept with a married woman yavon who's 23 and broke up their marriage I happened to know yavon and her husband socially the husband was very dist during the whole Affair and almost took drastic action initially my brother and yavon pretended that they weren't a couple and that she was leaving her husband due to abuse This Is objectively A Lie now this is where I'm accused of being a butthole Robert has repeatedly tried to patch things up and introduce yavon to the family I told him directly that I will never acknowledge her existence it got to the point where we were at a family event and he brought her over to stand in front of me I just sat there silently as the two of them got increasingly frustrated yelling at me to talk to yavon I understand that people will be unfaithful for various reasons but I just don't want to associate with cheaters and I don't feel like I should be compelled to Am I Wrong yo this woman cheated on her husband and then told everyone that her husband was abusing her so that she could get out of the relationship scot-free without looking bad what a winner what a what a gy of a human being you don't want to be friends with this woman I'm so confused op why not Opie I would just be like well I don't want to talk to her because I'm concerned about being accused of abuse that was r/m I wrong and if you like this content check out my podcast where I publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit videos every single day

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Length: 15min 48sec (948 seconds)

Published: Tue Feb 06 2024