Q&A: The Hardest Part of Being a Mom...|Yasmine Simone

oh hey it's a family cameo welcome back to my channel my name is yasmeen simone for those of you guys who are new and today i'm bringing you a q a because i did not really film a vlog for this week there will be one up probably next week so this week i thought i'd just close off the week with a q a this is gonna be a really quick video because i actually have a male appointment in like 20 minutes so we're gonna try to do this video in 20 minutes the first question is whose behavior does yara have the most you or adam by the way yara is in her clay yard play area i'm gonna try to i'm gonna put a video what she looks like right now she is in her little play area she has her toys yara yara yara say hi she's ignoring me right now but yeah this is her little play area and it's right next to me so okay in terms of her behavior i literally think she is both of us like yara can be very dramatic and i feel like me and adam mostly me can have our like dramatic moments but then also yara has like this really like focus like chill side to her that i think she gets from adam so i think she's like a really good mix of both of us like personality wise but it's so crazy like when you see yourself in your kid it's like wow i do that like when she does just like super extra stuff i know it's for me but she also has her own personality too i feel like she she she's such an individual now like she really does have her own personality definitely see me and adam's personality in yara a lot advice for dealing with romantic loneliness and fearing you won't find true love i get a lot of questions about this and i feel like a lot of people expect people in relationships to know how to deal with like not finding a relationship but to be honest i don't think i'm the best person to give advice on this i will say i personally feel like if you are in search okay i had to pick yar up because she's just hollering away i feel like if you are someone who wants to find romance and you want to find your person i feel like you should focus on bettering yourself as much as possible because i feel like the better you are the better you're going to attract and i feel like also sometimes things happen more when you're not i guess so focused on looking for them may not always be the case i feel like you should go out and try to find you know your person and try to you know socialize and stuff but sometimes people just fall out of thin air like literally you just never ever know so i feel like if you're lonely just focus on being with your friends focus on learning how to be happy alone before you you know end up with someone else pregnancy tips avoiding stretch marks okay i need to talk about this why is everybody so against stretch marks i really need to know like i know they're not the most desirable thing to get like during pregnancy and like just life in general but why are people so against stretch marks they're your tiger stripes like i say wear them proudly i i don't think like there's anything detrimental about a stretch mark i i know some people do but i really don't think like as women we should like be so focused on not getting stretch marks because they're natural especially during pregnancy they're so natural yar is dumping out all my makeup right now excuse me ma'am it's so natural to get stretch marks you guys even i i prevented stretch marks in pregnancy but i really ended up getting them because i think genetics plays a big part in stretch marks too so um other than that for preventing them if you really want to prevent them just keep your skin as moisturized as possible every single solitary day your belly not just your belly though like your entire body but you know focus on your belly and make sure you drink a lot of water even if you do those things you could still get stretch marks so i really don't know but that's my advice the next question will you ever put yara in daycare no i'm saying a definite no just because i really don't see myself doing that unless it's a daycare with like two kids like of people that i like trust but i really don't trust anybody with my baby yeah she will not be going into any daycare as far as i'm concerned if you could choose the best skincare product you have which would it be all right this is hard right now i'm really loving the it's called um it's the squalene oil by biosoft that is really good also you guys just a really good hyaluronic acid amazing like you can use any hyaluronic acid i'll put down below like you know the ones i'm using i also recently just did a skincare routine on my instagram so you guys can go there if you want to see my recent favorites i've been loving this vitamin c serum from skin skin skinceuticals i always mess that name up skinceuticals has a really good vitamin c serum yara the next question do you guys have yara okay sorry y'all intermission i had y'all really fussy right now the question is do you guys have arguments i'm sure this is pertaining to me and adam do we have arguments yeah no it's funny just go live [Music] do we have arguments put your head in really quick and answer um see i don't do arguments but she do like to argue with me sometimes you know what oh what do you mean we have arguments i'll say we bicker more than we have arguments but yeah i want to see this argument every relationship should have arguments how do you deal with friends that suddenly leave you out and do their own thing you know what's crazy i've actually been in like not a lot i've actually been in friend groups of three where i've been the person that's been left out and i've also been the person that leaves another person out and i it's hard like i feel like in friend groups of three there's always going to be two i feel like out of the three that just mesh well better but you guys i don't know like it's just i don't know i don't really have advice for this question if you're the person that's being left out i'd say just bring it up tell them if you don't want to do that then i mean [Music] try to make new friends i guess i don't know okay sorry yara had to go because she was being too loud anyways the next one tell us how you have adjusted to mom life now that yara is eight months so yara's not quite eight months she'll be eight months on the first which is in a week but she's pretty much eight months i feel like i've adjusted pretty well being a mom definitely gets easier when your baby's not a newborn like a newborn is so needy and even though yara's still needy she's way more independent now she can like crawl around almost walk stand up by herself she can just occupy herself she's way more expressive she's very tonal like i really i feel like i can communicate with her now and i definitely notice that she understands pretty much everything we say so i think being a mom has definitely gotten easier just because she's gotten more independent that's just the gist of it like newborns are just so needy and the newborn phase is so like when you're in the newborn phase it feels like you're never ever going to get your life back like at least that's how i felt like i just was like this is insane like this baby needs to be fed every hour they don't you know sleep is non-existent so i think you know now that she's almost eight months it's so much fun she's so much more independent you know we're feeding her solids now and she's just amazing like she's just the cutest little ball of energy it's never boring and even though it's still challenging i love it and i just i love the eight month stage person week are you planning on having another kid please say yes are you gonna say please say yes what if i said no if god wills it i really would love to have another baby probably when yara is around three three years old listen if i get pregnant before that please do not come back this video and clock me because i don't know what's gonna happen but i really would prefer yara to be three or at least two and a half ish like that's kind of how i want their age difference to be because i do want her to have a sibling that's like relatively close to her in age they are selective when it comes to people holding her of course i feel like every baby is selective honestly she's not super selective y'all just doesn't like loud people like if you're chill and you hold her and she can like see us or if she can like if she's if she's comfortable and fed and then we give her to someone else she's usually fine like um i've left her with my mom you know people come people have visited us and they hold her but i noticed the loud people that come over she does not like loud people at all does yara always suck her fingers you know what's crazy i got so many people messaging me like don't let your baby suck her finger she's gonna have crooked teeth yadda yadda and to that i'm sorry but y'all just need to mind your damn business like straight up like honestly she's a baby she does suck her finger she she uses to self she does not always stuck her fingers she only sucks it when she's hungry or sleepy and she uses it to self-soothe i personally do not have a problem with her sucking her finger right now i think even if she did suck her finger when she had teeth you get two sets of teeth in life i personally sucked my finger as a young child and my teeth were pretty crooked but then they fell out like every kid's deep do and not tripping about her sucking her finger i think y'all need to chill but yeah she does not always suck her finger and what was yara's first solid food and how does she like it yara's first food we gave her was carrots and she was around four months so we kind of gate like let her taste it it was pureed carrots and she loved it but then we kind of just stopped giving her food until she was six months because you know the doctor was like you should wait till six months and i was like okay i mean there's no real rush but she did taste carrots why is she crying i think she just fell okay the next one you and adam didn't end up going on your honeymoon why i really couldn't tell you why we really just didn't prioritize it like after me and adam got married we kind of just were so focused on moving in together and starting our life together and we really didn't prioritize like going on like a real honeymoon we did travel a lot though like as newlyweds we went you know we traveled to like visit friends we we went to vegas a lot because my cousin who's adam's best friend they lived in vegas we'd go out there and just like go on like weekend trips we um i think after we got married we went somewhere i can't remember where i think i think we went to california i can't remember you guys but we did travel together and you know we did a lot of like little little teeny vacations together but never like a floor flawed like tropical or like legit honeymoon but i do want to go on one we couldn't go on a baby moon either because you know covet but um we're definitely going to go on one for sure because i've never really taken like a trip trip with adam before like just us where the purpose of the trip is to just relax so that would be really nice do you ever plan to visit africa and where specifically of course like that's like the first place i'm going after after i feel safe enough to travel i really really want to go to africa i don't know where in africa there's like a few places i really want to go i really don't know i really would love to go to tanzania i want to go to senegal my best friend is have something else and she just went and she loved it she has like a huge family over there i'd love to go to morocco let me know where i should go in africa down below the last question of this little q a is what is the hardest part about being a mother i actually just saw like a post on my friend's story she's also a mom and i when i was reading this post i related to it so so much so i'm gonna read you guys the post because i feel like this pretty much sums up exactly like how i feel like it was crazy how it just like literally was me if you guys ever like read something you're just like yes that's exactly how i feel it's not a secret but no one tells you the hardest part about being a mom has very little to do with your child at all it is other aspects of your new title balancing your work maintaining your new relationships navigating your hormones learning to live with your postpartum body battling with your anxieties learning to work through your guilt agonizing over parenting decisions or missteps operating on very little sleep and also keeping this little person safe while trying to figure out this monumental identity shift not to mention the isolation that tends to creep in when you least expect it those are the hard parts it's not your kid it's you it's managing yourself this new you it's the part that takes the work learning and evolving every day knowing that some days you'll kill it and other days it feels like it could kill you when they say motherhood is hard it is loving your baby on the other hand that's the easy part to all you mamas you got this so when i read that it was just like that is exactly how i feel like being a mom is not hard because kids are hard being a mom is hard because it's hard to like it literally is an identity shift like i feel like i don't even i'm not the same per like i'm not the same me as i was before having a baby like i still have to remind myself like you're still cute you know like you you can still put on makeup and you still look cute you might not look the same but like you still got it like i feel like that's that was the hard part for me is reminding myself like i'm still me even though i do have a baby now even though i love my baby yara is like my world i have things and talents outside of being a mom that i still need to cultivate and you know use to my advantage and i feel like for all moms out there if you are struggling with the same thing like the post said you got this and um just try to focus on the good if you're going through a rough patch believe me i know all about rough patches so um yeah just be strong and remember that you know you have a baby to love through all of it if you need to go hug your baby that post really just um resonated with me this week so yeah but that's the end of this q a it was pretty brief let me know if you guys want to see how i got this makeup as well it's really basic but it's my kind of makeup like i love this makeup recently that's all for this video i will see you guys in my next one you

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Published: Sun May 02 2021