What Having a Baby is REALLY Like... | Q&A

i had a feeling it was coming though let me take her to be done hey everyone welcome back to another video today's video is going to be a q a i'm basically going to be answering all the questions you guys have about having a baby i do these questions a lot on instagram so i thought i'd do one on youtube and just have all of the answers in one place how and when did you and adam come up with her name yar's full name is yara sabrine sharif we picked the name yara honestly i think i got it off google her name is so pretty i've never thought that i would name my kid yara i would be on google just pouring over names i just read the names off to adam i'd be like how do you feel about this name that name and he'd be like yes no yara was the only name that we both really really liked another name adam really liked that i also liked was amara i thought that name was really really pretty it was a very close second i love the name aya i love like short names those are my favorite you know the name kind of just stuck i'll put what yara means on the screen because it has a few different meanings i'm sure there's more meanings that i don't know but these are the ones that i was able to find her middle name sabrine adam's mother is named sabrine and she's she's just such a beautiful person if you guys don't know sabrina means patience when i was pregnant i felt like yara was making me more patient as a person i felt vibes from her when i was pregnant like i felt like she just was rubbing off on me as a person i was becoming a lot more patient and a lot more chill and relaxed as someone who was always anxious and frantic in my head so i thought that it fit her very well and i think it still does fit her like every single vibe i got about her when i was pregnant is so true like she's a very very chill baby she doesn't really like to cry that much she definitely has a dramatic flair which i'm sure she gets from me she's pretty dramatic she makes the most hilarious dramatic sounds she's hilarious definitely say that she's super patient and that's where her middle name came from and adam's mother his name sabrine and you know it just made sense you know grandmother yeah a lot of people asked about this breastfeeding how is breastfeeding going does breastfeeding hurt just in general like how is breastfeeding going for me i am exclusively breastfeeding right now meaning yara only drinks breast milk it was a rough transition transitioning into breastfeeding it was not this easy breezy thing i don't want to say i'm like the best eater like i feel like i could definitely eat a lot better but i feel like eating well and drinking a lot of water has helped my milk supply but i struggled so much with my milk supply the first month honestly the first two months i feel like i've just now gotten to a place where i'm happy with my milk supply and i really know how it works you know like i feel like it's a supply and demand thing so i've gotten the hang of when i need to pump how often i need to do it if you are someone who is breastfeeding for the first time and you're feeling discouraged do what's right for you i don't want to say breastfeeding is for everyone i know some people who just can't do it it messes with their mental health mental health too much and if that's the case for you then it's probably healthier for you to do something else maybe formula maybe pumping a lot of people say breast is best i feel like fed is best and whatever works for you and your baby works for you and your baby and you have to make sure that you're you know in a good space because if you're not then the baby's not gonna be there were so many times that i wanted to quit breastfeeding and i just told myself to push through i felt like it was best for my baby so i tried you know my best to push through and it was definitely worth it i feel so much more comfortable what do you do to take care of yourself as a mom a wife and a student me and adam i feel like we're a really good team like we make sure that we i don't want to say take turns but we make sure that we like both do our fair share when it comes to yara adam is super hands-on with her you know if i need a minute if i need to take a shower if i need just like a second to myself i know that he'll be able to you know take her and i'll be able to have my you know little time to myself self-care for me looks like putting on skincare taking a shower like making some food just having like a few minutes to myself is self-care to me what bassinet did you end up buying the bassinet we went with was the halo bassinet i don't really like it that much we don't really even use it anymore yara sleeps in her own room now she is in her crib she's in her own room every night so the bassinet is kind of just taking up space right now but she did sleep in her bassinet the first two months i feel like the bassinet is okay if i had to like rate it i feel like it's okay it's not like something i would ever buy again but that's the one we went with and it served its purpose it was very very useful at first not so useful right now what's the most surprising thing about being a mom the most surprising thing everyone talks about how when you give birth like the minute you see your baby you're gonna have this like intense amazing bond with the baby when yara was born i was literally sitting there waiting for that magical like like don't get me wrong it was magical the moment was amazing when you see your child for the first time there's nothing like it but definitely was surprised to not feel this intense bond with her right away we went through a lot when yara was first born i didn't really talk about like what happened after she was born she actually went through a few days like where she couldn't breathe that well she had a lot of fluid in her lungs the first few days of life we ended up having to take her to the hospital two times we had to get her um chest suctioned out it was very scary it was probably the scariest thing i've ever experienced in my whole life i had a few breakdowns that week like the first week of yar's life was so hard you guys i don't remember what the question was what was the question oh what was the most surprising thing i feel like that whole week i didn't really felt feel like i had time to bond with her i felt like i was just struggling to keep her alive you know i was struggling with breastfeeding i was i was like oh my god i don't want to give her formula but i have to she can't breathe and it was just like all this stuff going on and i didn't feel like i truly started to bond with her until maybe like week three or four if you guys have had a baby and you relate please let me know because i felt like so horrible for not like instantly feeling super connected to her and yeah i don't know it just surprised me that i didn't feel that bond now i feel way more connected to her she's like my best friend my little broke best friend she can interact so much more now i know like me and adam both know now like how she likes to be held we know how she likes her milk we know like what she doesn't like what things irritate her we know how she gets when she's sleepy like i feel like we know her now the first week it was literally so weird and new just a huge transition so i think that really surprised me i was expecting the first week of her life to go very different how has your sleep schedule been going since after you had yara do you have sleepless nights because of the baby or do people exaggerate it so sleep is definitely a really big thing when it comes to having a baby everyone told me when i was pregnant like you're never gonna sleep again you're probably not gonna get five hours of sleep till she's six months sleep now because when the baby comes you're never gonna sleep like literally that's all i heard from people when i was pregnant average every night i'm able to get maybe five or six hours of sleep like straight through part of that is my fault because i don't really go to bed when she goes to bed which is also something else everyone told me like sleep when the baby sleeps if i were to go to bed at yara's bedtime which is seven pm i would probably get seven eight nine ten i'd probably get nine hours of sleep honestly i could be getting nine hours of sleep but when she goes to sleep it's just it's just so freeing like it's just like babies asleep i can literally sit here on my phone for two hours if i want to i can go get some work done i can clean the kitchen there's so many things that you want to do when the baby goes to sleep but really you should be sleeping it's hard i don't know it's difficult because stuff needs to get done but also you need your rest especially as a breastfeeding mother getting rest is so important so people might not be exaggerating it because everyone's not in the same situation i have a very very hands-on husband he's awesome and not everybody has a partner to help them out you know the way i do not everyone has access to a partner some people's partners have to go to work every day i'm really blessed that me and adam are both working from home right now so we're both able to just work on being parents and work on growing as parents together i don't know what i'd be doing if adam had to go to work all day and i was just here by myself with the baby i don't know that might be a whole different story sleep wise i don't know i'm hoping that when yara starts to sleep throughout the night with no feeds pretty sure we'll be back to normal when it comes to sleep how much did home birth cost without insurance and all that stuff it ended up costing us around six grand i think it was so worth it and i would not have changed my birth experience for anything because i think it was absolutely perfect how is postpartum recovery for you please make a list of things you need as a first-time mom kind of lost on where to start okay number one i want to say that i'm planning on filming a baby must-haves video like things you should add to your registry i'm gonna do that with adam though because i want both of us to be like in it to talk about like things that we like and dislike or whatever that video is coming up really really soon i feel like i've healed very very well i'm really really grateful about that because i feel like i definitely could have had a way worse experience if i had not like prepared i did tear when i gave birth and they were only first i don't even think they were first degree they were like first degree tears i didn't have to get stitches for them but they definitely still hurt and it took a long time for them to heal postpartum is just something that not a lot of people talk about so i had to seek out a lot of videos and of course i had my mom and like a whole bunch of other people to help me out when it came to postpartum but no one really talks about the fact that you bleed for like weeks after giving birth when the baby is born you're left with like all this skin and this weird little like jelly pouch thing it's just weird like the hour after she was born i looked in the mirror and i just was staring at my stomach like oh my god like i cannot believe that yara was in my stomach like an hour ago it was crazy our bodies are just amazing like i feel like my stomach is like 80 back to normal 80 90 percent i definitely could do some sit-ups and i definitely need to start working out but don't get me wrong i'm in no rush to snap back i don't believe in a snapback because number one it took nine months for my body to get like this it's probably gonna take around nine months for it to get to where i want it to be and i'm not like rushing to snap back for anybody i feel like my body looks pretty decent considering i just had a baby the main thing that i used in my postpartum was the freedom mom postpartum recovery kit comes with a whole bunch of things pads like a whole bunch of cooling products like there's like this cooling foam that you put in your pads you know you have to wear pads for like a long time after giving birth well ice packs they were awesome i love those it just came with a lot of things all in one place my mom also was staying with us when yara was born and my mom was you know making me a lot of herbs that i drank and then i also used down there which really really helped all in all i say honestly the freedom mom postpartum recovery kit was the goat and if you're about to have a baby i recommend you guys get that for postpartum how do you find time to put on makeup with an infant this one i don't really wear makeup you guys to be honest i'm wearing it right now because i hurry up i did my makeup super fast when she was taking a nap that's honestly how i do my makeup how long did yara last in each clothing size and how many sleep suits did you buy in each size right now yara is in zero to three month clothing she's pretty much outgrown all her newborn clothing the rolls the rolls are so real and right now i'm trying to like slowly buy her things that are in like three to six months six to nine months like she has she already has a whole bunch of six to nine month stuff because i want to be prepared because she's growing so quickly all her newborn stuff is pretty much like over and done with i recommend if you guys are about to have a baby do not go nuts when it comes to buying newborn stuff get a few onesies like her first couple weeks we literally rotated the same like seven or eight onesies and she pooped up half of them anyways so don't buy expensive clothes things like that for your newborn unless you want to i mean that's on you for every day it's really not practical and they grow really fast what do you use to keep your baby's skin moisturized someone else asked if yara had um baby acne her skin was very red and she definitely had some bumps she had a little pimple on her chin when she was born the teeniest little pimple ever and i wanted to pop it so so bad but obviously of course i would never ever pop a pimple on my baby's face but it was just right there and it had a little white head on it and it took everything i mean not to pop that thing other than that her skin was pretty much fine we use honest code natural healing balm on her body and her face we still use it i've been using that product since before i even got married and i love it been working out really well for her for her hair we've been using a product that my mom actually created it's actually going to be available for purchase really really soon which i'm so excited about because this product has been something i've used since i was a little girl and finally finally it's going to be available it's a product that was made primarily to deal with eczema and eczema is something that i have grown up with yara actually does have little bits of eczema i've seen it she has like little teeny flare-ups and teeny places but they never really last that long when she gets it behind her ears sometimes and this product is amazing she had a breakout yesterday actually and i i cleaned her ear because she had it behind her ear and what i want to get the clip um yeah and so i put the um i put it on her ear and today it's gone so it definitely works but other than that she didn't really you know have any other skin issues did you experience postpartum depression you know it's crazy i was very scared about getting postpartum depression i'm someone that has suffered from depression i've suffered with anxiety my whole life i just felt like if anybody was gonna get postpartum depression it'd be me but thankfully i have not experienced any postpartum depression i did get the baby blues like the first few weeks were very very hard i felt very overwhelmed sad that i couldn't like you know do everything i wanted to do the house was a mess 24 not 24 7 because i definitely had help to help like clean up around the house but you know like it wasn't where i wanted it to be i'm someone that like cleans as a form of self-care so i couldn't really do that the first few weeks it was bothering me i would sit there and get sad just thinking about y'all growing up and not needing me anymore like who am i like she was one week old and i'm sitting here thinking about her going off to high school and it was just little like thoughts like that would get in my head and it definitely made me sad do not think i got any type of depression and i think honestly that is due to the fact that i am blessed with the best support system i feel like if i didn't have the help that i had after giving birth then you know i don't know what would have happened i'm really really super happy with everything lately it's just been going so great career-wise you guys have probably noticed that i put a lot more energy and time into my channel i'm really really happy to just see everything paying off how did yara handle colic yara actually did not have colic there was a time where i thought she had colic but it turns out she was just very gassy and it was from some antibiotics that i was taking does yara look like you or adam i feel like she's a really good mix right now at first she looked smack like me she had moments where she would make she makes a lot of faces that adam makes so when she was first born she would make certain faces that were him but for the most part she really looked a lot like me now that she's older her her features are more mature i would say she's like a perfect mix of both of us that leads me to the next question a lot of people are asking why do i hide yara's face why don't you show your baby's face why is her face not in videos blah blah you might notice that her face is not hidden anymore in the beginning i did not show her face on social media i just didn't want to have her face on social media until i felt like it was appropriate for me to post it and she was a newborn i just felt like she was so small and helpless and i just kind of wanted her to myself i wanted to experience her you know grow in that first couple months with just you know our family and i felt like that was what was best and when i felt like posting her i did and she's on my instagram if you want to follow me on instagram please do i do post her on my story here and there you might see her the picture that i posted of her on instagram she already looks so different from that picture even if you go back to when i was hiding her face you can still see like parts of her i just wasn't in her face if you know what i mean does your baby cry a lot at night i've been told all babies do for three months but people shouldn't make it seem like all babies do like one thing because they definitely don't this sounds like colic to me like crying at the same time every night sounds a lot like colic y'all like i said she's not really a crier like she cries but it's i feel like when she cries it's really to just communicate something like she never really cries for no reason i i quickly learned what a i need to burp cry sounds like or i'm sleepy or i'm still hungry like it's easy for me now to like differentiate those cries someone said how has motherhood changed you i absolutely love you dmv gang oh i love you too so adam told me that uh because i wasn't really sure if motherhood even changed me but adam said that he thinks that i don't really take everything as seriously i guess that means like i don't freak out over little stuff anymore and to be honest i feel like i don't because at the end of the day it just takes up extra energy to like get irritated about things like small things that don't really matter even when i do feel myself getting upset or overwhelmed i try to just brush it off if i can because i don't want yara to like feel negative negative vibes from me i don't want her to associate me with negativity and i don't want to teach her you know to be stressing about every little thing so i'm trying to change that before she gets super big like i want her to see her mom as someone who is very positive i want her to see me as someone she can like talk to about things and not like feel like i'm this ball of stress if that makes sense even though having a baby is so stressful is so hard to be positive all the time i'm really trying to work on being more positive were you nervous about becoming a mother uh yes of course i was super nervous but i love it someone asked has your relationship changed with adam some other people said is it hard to find time with your husband um since having a baby i would say our relationship has definitely changed before we were literally like free we were able to go wherever we wanted whenever we wanted we traveled we could go anywhere leave the house without worrying about having a babysitter you know but now you have yara and it's just kind of like our world revolves around her now we make time for each other we've been able to go out together my mom will come over and babysit and you know we have our time when yard's sleep we just chill together we still find time to watch our favorite shows that's kind of like our us time we watch grey's anatomy we started watching new girl we just we just chill together when y'all is asleep and also when you're always awake we just chill as a family like to be honest we chill all three of us i do think our relationship has changed if anything i feel like i've grown even more in love with adam as like corny as that sounds i just love seeing him as a dad he's such a good dad it surprised me how amazing and like quickly like he grasped like everything like adam number one i don't think i've ever seen adam hold a newborn he doesn't hold other people's babies so when yara came he literally like just went into dad mode it was crazy to watch like he is a master swaddler he was swaddling her like pretty much the whole time we don't swallow her anymore but when we were he was the main one doing it because i suck at it you know he's just great so i feel like if anything you know i love him even more i'm just so grateful that i have him and he's yara's dad he's just doing such a great job i got a few questions about like how my body is postpartum did i get stretch marks if not how did i prevent stretch marks i had stretch marks prior to getting pregnant just from like puberty but i did get some stretch marks and the funny thing is they did not come till after i had the baby i didn't get any stretch marks on my stomach but i did get some of my legs after she was born which was weird they just popped up but you know they're my tiger stripes i accept them with open arms they are just proof that i carried a human and i have nothing against them but if you don't want stretch marks i recommend you just keep your skin as moisturized as possible use shea butter i use that my entire pregnancy coconut oil just use natural things i feel like those are best okay well that was all of the questions that i had and i hope you guys enjoyed this video let me know if you have any more questions down below and be sure to subscribe to my channel if you want to see more baby related videos i have coming up i'm definitely planning to do a baby favorites very very soon so make sure you subscribe so you don't miss when i upload it and i will see you guys in my next video you

Channel: Yasmine Simone

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Length: 22min 55sec (1375 seconds)

Published: Sun Dec 13 2020