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i was accused of stealing money people who were disowned by family members what happened i was disowned from my family because i didn't want to go to college and live my dream i always wanted to be my own boss and work from home my family thought it was ridiculous and not practical rather i should contribute to society with a degree i was kicked out once i graduated high school and never heard from my family again i just turned 39 am happier than i have ever been and i'm thrilled to be living my dream life i pull in a heck of a lot more than what i would have with a degree i'm glad to have my toxic family out of my life so i can live my life the way i have always envisioned follow your dreams y'all i was disowned because i refused to believe that a man in the sky was in control of my life i live in the us and my family is very very very religious it really wasn't until i was in middle school and was told i couldn't date or marry certain people because of their religion being smart in history i told my parents that it is legal in the u.s for me to marry whomever i want that didn't turn out so well and not only was i mistreated i was homeschooled until i graduated high school but of course that never really helps or stops the behavior i turned 16 and started to work at a restaurant in huda thunk was my co-worker the boy that i liked he worked in the kitchen and i was a hostess and a lot of the other hostesses were friends so my parents were pretty clueless anytime my boyfriend and i wanted to hang out we'd throw in my other friends and he'd say yes never had a clue of course two years after graduating i told my dad i was moving out and had gotten a job in a city a few hours away that was a lie my boyfriend had actually gotten the job as a mechanic and was making the 50k his first year he had also asked me to move in with him and i had also told him that i was pregnant with his baby he was excited my parents unfortunately got word from my friend's parents and they forbid me from seeing him and my father told me that i was to terminate my mother called the cops saying i was violated and my father was becoming hysterical the cops arrived and i explained the situation they told my parents that according to the victim it was consensual and planned my father lost it then and had ran for his gun but the police had tased him and arrested him for resisting arrest as i was leaving the house he and my mother cursed my name and told me i wouldn't be doing this if i were their daughter i am now 33 i have four wonderful children my husband is the chief of the mechanic shop and is making enough for us to live comfortable we always visit his family for the holidays and when my children ask me why we don't see my parents i always tell them i don't have any parents my husband's family knows the situation and they've been respectful and repeated what i told my kids when my children understand i would be the one to explain them what happened i am an ex hey ava and my family on my mom's side disowned me for not believing in it anymore during the start of this year i'd searched up about apostates but i was always told to never do so when i did i felt like my whole life was a lie i just couldn't believe in it anymore so i came out and said how i don't believe in it anymore and my mom stopped speaking to me my dad is not a jehovah's so i could always rely on him for support if i needed it i moved out soon after july and don't really talk to my mom or sister anymore since they view me as bad associate it's more of a vice versa scenario where i disowned my family my mom was always extremely controlling of all of her kids she had five to the point that she ostracized my dad completely and told us all he was a terrible person i didn't realize it until i got my first girlfriend who pointed out her bs as soon as i started wanting to do anything really on my own she got super weird with me and tried to do whatever she could to keep me around her finger she even had a tracking app on my phone i called her out on some of her bs and she ostracized me as well and the only one i still have contact with is my 11 year old sister and my dad who is on my side completely i disowned my catholic relatives in order for me to achieve my childhood dream of feeling genuinely happy i need to embrace myself and find people who will fully accept and love me for me as traditional catholics they are against anything lgbt plus and they will never own up to the severe physical and emotional mistreatment i was subjected to as a child preferring to instead blaming it on me for still remembering it and that makes me a horrible person according to their logic holidays are always going to be tough and i will be in therapy for the rest of my life but it's better than being forced to pretend to be this uncaring angry witch in order to protect my heart around them or begil trip into spending another holiday or two with them i am unsure as to what to do or feel if one or both of my parents passes away but that's for future me to worry about the people i share my home with are dense not the best at critical thinking or receiving criticism and have a ton of issues with ego also the type of people inclined to use emotion over logic where only logic should reside opting for i said what i said or something stupid like that all except for my dad are incapable of having thoughtful conversations because they are as shallow as their ego as a person who's the complete opposite being around them is infuriating prove them wrong either i have an attitude or no one wants to be around slash interact with me our parents especially our mother not only participate they enable these negative responses in others her approach is oh well then proceeds to complain about the problem she's been like that for years never taking the role of problem solver or parent where their kids obviously have problems mediating themselves because of this i have had many screaming matches and fist fights with my siblings because i am so sick of dealing with their bs and no one checking them for it they don't act that way with strangers though and seem to think i wouldn't handle them as such when physically threatened physically i haven't been disowned it is me being intellectually honest that makes me a black sheep i haven't yet been disowned but i'm beginning to expect it i was born a female jehovah's witness and was peer pressured into being baptized in my mid-teens i had always since very very young wanted to work for the county sheriff's department that isn't a big no-no to the group but it is frowned upon it also got me questioning everything it didn't take long for me to stop believing if at least quite a bit and start wanting to do other more worthwhile things with my life a good way to get into law enforcement is to go into the military first which is a big no-no with witnesses i would love to go army for a few years then apply for the rangers or the green berets maybe a 10-year military career for the experience before moving on to local law enforcement i also realized that i had never mentally been a woman and even my ultra-religious family will admit that i've always been more of a boy so now i identify as male people always mistook me for a boy anyway so it wasn't that much of a change in my professional life the kicker my family knows none of this except the county sheriff's goal i'm living a very transparent double life and i can tell they're beginning to notice i'm old enough by a couple years to enlist but i love my mother dearly and don't want her to never speak to me again when i would inevitably be disfellowshipped my dad would probably still talk to me but my mom and almost that entire half of the family never would again i'm in between a hell of a rock and a hard place it wasn't me who was disowned but i disowned my half-brother we grew up in two different countries i stayed with my mother in germany while my half-brother was raised by my grandmother in italy because he wanted to stay there when i was 11 my mother told me my half-brother was going to move in with us because my grandma has alzheimer's and is unfit to take care of him any longer at that point he was 16. it started off fairly good we got to know each other i soon began accepting him as my brother however this peaceful atmosphere didn't last for long he began lashing out on my mother things got physical and he was threatening to harm me if i were to tell my mom about all the bs he was doing behind her back while she had suddenly fallen ill and was bedridden we're talking drugs getting into fights stealing money from my mother and giving up his traineeship his then-girlfriend organized for him and that's only the tip of the iceberg of inexcusable things he's done to us it went on for two painfully long years the physical abuse became so frequent the teachers at my school noticed the bruises and cps was about to take me away from home so my mother decided to kick him out the day he left i decided i no longer have a half brother and that i'm better off being an only child he was ready to fight my stepfather over trivial stuff daily and took away the first laptop my mom ever bought for me my mom hasn't disowned him but it's clear how estranged he is from the rest of the family he has serious mental problems but refuses to seek help last time i heard from my uncle he has fathered several children but the relationships never lasted even now i get ptsd when i see men who even remotely look like him i hate him for everything he's done to my family [Music] reversing the role here i disowned my mum and sister it's been a few years now i disowned them because of the years of drama they caused me then proceed to play victim the years of me raising my two brothers whilst my mother was across the road with her best g pal neighbor the revolving door of men my mum and sister fighting 24 7 the many years of abuse from my sister and never owning up to her bs i raised my brothers while my mom was too busy not getting the help she needed and then she would proceed to yell at me for raising her kids my own brothers feel like they are my sons as a 15 year old at the time i shouldn't have to be a parent and the icing on the cake they didn't like my current boyfriend things got worse mistakes made on both sides but last straw was them ganging up on me because i am the one dating him the last straw is when i told my mother to f off and never talk to me again and then she proceeds to send a photo of my brothers and i that says you can't see them without me i haven't seen them in a while i'm heartbroken without my boys i don't know how i cope without them my boyfriend is super supportive i'd be worse off without him after my mom died last year my dad asked me and my husband to stay with him i hesitantly agreed because as an only child i did feel obligated and i wanted the opportunity to get closer to him while helping him find some financial papers i came across their will i didn't even know they had one so i was curious and i read it i found out they were leaving everything to my daughter and left me and my two sons completely out i was very hurt then i couldn't help but think here i am doing everything for daddy and my daughter is getting everything as it happened me and dad were never going to be able to bond or get along here i was a 54 year old woman being treated like a teenager one thing led to another and daddy started charging us 100 a week rent he should have been paying me for all the work i was doing my husband and i remolded the house put up and painted fences hung new blinds painted the house and outdoor furniture i mean we were in no way mooching after a bitter confrontation it became clear daddy had no intention of changing his will or leaving me anything he just said i better be nice to my daughter if i wanted anything so i decided to take what i was owed i know that sounds awful and in hindsight wasn't the right thing to do my childhood with alcoholic parents is a story for another time i stole fifteen thousand dollars from him and he in turn threw away all my clothes i brought with me and those he bought me he threw away my dentures contacts mama's jewelry all the clothes i kept of my mamas my husband's clothes and shoes i literally was there for seven months and left with only the clothes on my back we had a redneck show down in the yard and up and down the neighborhood streets with my husband on the hood of the car and daddy trying to sling him off the law was called all the neighbors were looking big scene so my daddy has rejected my letters and phone calls and my daughter nor any of my dad's brothers will talk to me or update me on his health i live an hour away so i've totally lost all contact and he will never ever forgive me i'm a recovering alcoholic during my active years my children's father divorced me and i moved in with my widow or father the deal was i would take care of him and the house in lieu of rent my older siblings didn't like that i wasn't paying rent as time went on my father needed more and more care as he was getting older and more feeble i had more responsibility i hated seeing my once vivacious and strong father become weak and losing his faculties so the more i drank my older siblings did nothing to help with his day-to-day care when he needed cash he would write a check in my name i'd cash it and give him the money i was left out of family celebration since 2009. i was accused of stealing money and forging his signature after he passed when he couldn't defend me the accusations of things i was accused of goes on and on the nasty things they said about me to others astounds me they even said to a cousin that they were afraid i would get more of our father's inheritance that didn't happen they even had me set up to go to jail they even accused me of stealing from my father's house when i was in a 90-day residential rehab 20 miles away my siblings said to my children's father that after my father passed they never wanted to see me again that's fine with me because they're toxic family is supposed to help their family members and mine just threw me away thanks for listening to radio tts and special thanks for submitting your answers hit the subscribe button and activate the notification bell for more community videos click the right box for the related playlist let us know in the comments what you think about these stories

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Length: 13min 53sec (833 seconds)

Published: Thu Dec 03 2020