Overcoming Anger

lord you are so good and your mercy is everlasting and your truth it endureth it endureth it endureth and your mercy god it over takes us your goodness and your mercy it follows and overtakes us and we are grateful this morning we are grateful god we are so grateful we're grateful that you are mindful of us that you love us and you demonstrated your love god by sending your son jesus how we say thank you come on say thank you hallelujah god we bless you today for jesus and we thank you for what we have in christ we thank you for the atoning blood of christ we thank you that it sanctifies it sets us free we thank you for the healing love that flows in the blood of jesus that's reconciled us back to you father we honor you this morning god i submit in your presence today and i asked lord that you blessed this word that this word would be planted into the rich soil of the hearts of your men and women and that it would bear fruit in their lives let us leave this place changed forever god and only you god can do that so we submit now in your presence we yield and we say god have your way in jesus name amen amen amen amen amen amen the lord is good and some of this i think i've shared with the ladies in our women's conference but i really want to share it with the whole family because i really believe that this is a word that will heal it healed me i got into a place in my walk and some of you may be able to attest or testify to this where i just hit a wall i just hit a glass ceiling in my relationship in my growth i was reading the word i was spending time in prayer i was listening to praise and worship singing songs and just kept hitting a wall and i knew that i was hitting a wall and it's a dangerous place for you to be when you're in ministry because when you're out on the front line you need a breakthrough because you make yourself a moving target and so i began to cry out and i asked the lord i said god what is going on the bible says that when the righteous those who are in right standing with god cry out that god will hear their cry and he will come to their defense and he will save them out of all of their troubles and when i cried out god heard my cry and i want to share this message with you because i really believe that it is a gift that god has afforded us through the blood of jesus through the life through the death through the burial and through the resurrection of jesus and through the ascension of the power of the holy spirit god has afforded us this gift and many of us have not received the gift and allowed for it to work in our lives it's a gift that we've left unopened and many of us have left it unopened because we don't even realize that we need the gift and that we need to open it and i really believe that it's one of the greatest gifts jesus said he came that we would have life and that we have it more abundantly and if we would be honest just be honest we would the word abundant means more than enough it means more than enough he says i came that you would have life and that more abundant meaning more than enough not just peace but more than enough peace not just joy but more than enough joy not just power but more than enough you see because it's out of the overflow of the abundance of his life in us that we impact other people see we're not just surviving we're overcomers overcomers mean i overcame my stuff and i got enough what i got it that in the overflow you can have some i really believe that's how we are true witnesses somebody said she chasing a rabbit i was told it's okay to chase him as long as you kill him and bring him back i promise you i promise you this is gonna all make sense it would be an affront to god if we not ever open this gift and in a minute i'm going to let you know what the gift is because for me if anyone had asked me if i needed to unopen to open the gift i would have said not me i'm cool i'm all right but i still had hit that that wall it was like a glass ceiling i'd hit it my prayers was just ritualistic there wasn't an expression where heaven opened up and i commune and connected with god and when you've had the experience of connecting with god you know when you're not if you're honest and so as i cried out god allowed me to know that i had some unresolved anger inside of me and i fought for real now if anyone had asked me if i had a problem with anger my answer would have been no not me but what i had done was i had learned and i had mastered connecting with people who didn't wake it up i had i had mastered staying out of circumstances and situations that provoked me to anger you see i knew what would you know set me off if you live long enough and be honest with yourself you you and so you say you know what your personality and my it don't work so i'm gonna be a good sister at a distance amen and i'll throw you a lifeline but i can't bring your clothes up on me cause you'll wake up sister girl inside of me and i don't need her woke up she need to stay in the basement but how many do you know if you stay long saved long enough the holy ghost will go in the basement and get sister girl amen so i had the opportunity of going to a seminar title of the seminar i was un it was resolving uh it was anger resolution the name of this seminar and i thought i would go just to get the information cause i knew some angry people but as far as me i was you know i was cool and the seminar was held in birmingham alabama and i grew up in montgomery alabama during the 60s hey man and now if you are making the connections you will understand where i'm going now i really was clueless to the fact that i still had some alabama unresolved anger in me a lot of y'all still do too in fact church at large does we still got some bama anger in us amen god set me up i had never gone to the civil rights museum for um to to visit to just see it and i believe every african-american every american needs to go but especially every african-american i went to the museum and i thought well i'll do that during the day since i'm here in birmingham and at night i'll go to the conference never made the connection as soon as we parked there was a dog launching a statue of a dog launching at a little girl and the files popped back up and let me tell you oh i got so mad and as i walked through the museum i began to boil on the inside you know when you really want to be free how many you know if you really really want to be free god will set up and he'll he will create an atmosphere to reveal to you just how in bondage you really are when you really want to be free now some of us we play around with this thing we don't really we just don't want other folks to know that we are not free but when you really in your heart want to be completely free god will create an atmosphere and when i walk through that museum and i looked and i read and i saw the history of segregation and what jim crow really was that those laws they were real laws y'all they were real laws and the more i read them the angrier i became i was so angry i was fuming smoke was coming out of my ears and as people passed and let me tell you something i was angry i got angry with the folks in the museum i got angry because there were more white folk in there looking at our history than there were us i got angry that they were there i just got angry i still didn't connect the dots until that evening i went to the seminar and the seminar was being hosted by an all-white ministry and the only black folk that were up in us in there with myself and the group that came with me and listen it's a mess to go try to get delivered from some bondage that you didn't know you had in the midst of people looking like the folk that's connected with your bondage oh god will get it at the root when he really want to get it and we have to sit there and eat that truth and when i tell you the the truth of god's word will destroy every yoke and so i want to share with you just some of the information that changed my life can i do that i want us to look at hebrew 12 15. the word says that we are looking diligently less or we are to look diligently lest any man fail of the grace of god lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you that's what bitterness will do it will trouble you and thereby mean be defiled now not only will it give you trouble that root of bitterness and the root of bitterness takes place as a result of unresolved anger see anger in itself is not a sin but the sin enters in when you allow that anger to rest in your heart or in your mind and you don't resolve it it starts with an offense it starts with an offense someone did something to offend you whether they actually did it or it was perceived but it was an offense and then the the the word offense literally means a trap the word offense and and when when you hear the word offense think of an apparatus a trap you know like a mouse trap or where you trap animals it's where the the snare is set the offense is this the the bait but the trap is when you refuse to forgive the offense someone offended you and you neglected to forgive them the offense the pain of the offense caused agitation irritation aggravation of your soul the wound the the impact of the the acknowledging of the offense causes anger when you refuse to forgive the offense then it becomes a trap that's why god says in the word that we are to forgive 70 times seven because when you do it releases the trap you forgive for what it does for you not what it does for the offender it doesn't let the offender off the hook you forgive because it lets you off the hook because when the offense the wound of the offense afflicts your soul and you refuse to forgive somebody said why does she keep repeating that i want you to get it because you are trapped now you can pretend it didn't hurt you can suppress it you can implode rather than explode but the trap trapping me from what holding me from what the gift of the abundant life that god has promised you see when we get saved satan doesn't give up he says well he's going to miss hell she's going to miss hell but i can make sure that they never experience all that god has given to them as an inheritance because of their lives being hidden in christ i'll say this true he said you won't spend eternity with me in hell but a hellish life for a believer a hellish life for a believer is to just miss living in the complete reality of what they've inherited in christ and because satan when he was lucifer he had an opportunity to be in the presence of the most holy one he knows what we're missing when we're trapped and so that's his strategy for us anger in itself is not a sin it is only when we refuse to resolve it the bible says in ephesians 4 26 says to be angry and sin not the word says let not the sun go down on your wrath the reason you don't want the sun to go down on your wrath see most of us think that folk wake up on the wrong side of the bed no they went on the wrong side you don't wake up on the wrong side you go on the wrong side because whatever you go to sleep with in your spirit and in your psyche and in your soul it has an opportunity to just saturate and just marinate in your heart and in your mind and it'll set up an atmosphere so you don't wake up irritable you went to sleep irritable that's why the bed the bible says don't let the sun go down because when you let the sun go down on your wrath you give place to the devil and he'll build a stronghold romans 12 18 says if it be possible as much as lieth in you now you know what i like the first few words of this verse the first four words says if it be possible hello meaning that because you can't control other folk there may be a possibility that they are so out of control with their anger and rage and malice and bitterness that it might not even be possible to live in peace with them but if it be possible if there's anything that you can do to create an atmosphere of peace the bible says do that and live peaceably with all men so we're instructed to do it and then colossians 3 8 says it says but now he also put off say put off let it go say put off let it go it says put off all of these anger wrath malice blasphemy filthy communications out of your mouth now here's what i like it starts with an offense and the word is so clear it shows you how anger is progressive you are authentic someone offended you whether they actually did it or you perceived they did it it has the same effect on you it doesn't stop at anger because if someone asked you do you have a problem with anger and you would say absolutely not and you're probably right your problem may have progressed to wrath and malice and blasphemy there's a progression of it and the bible says to pull it off now let me give you real quick the definitions of these so i can go on with what i want to share with you because i promise you we're going somewhere angry is an agitation of the soul a violent emotion in fact the word anger if you go into the greek and look up the greek word it's it's where we get the word orgy from it's a violent uh emotion it's a an agitation of the soul in fact uh lust and anger are two spirits that kind of they're like twins they both manifest the same way you both they both cause you to act out of control you do something in the heat of the moment that you can't have any control over and you just wake up on the other side of a mess amen let me give you the definition of of of of wrath and blasphemy and then we're going to go somewhere else uh the word wrath means it's a passion it's heat anger balling up and soon subsiding again wrath is like a rage it's intense anger and it arises out of a deep hurt you know when somebody really really really hurt you you know you wanna you get that explosive reaction you know it rises up and you just kind of lose it y'all don't sit up here and act like y'all don't know what i'm talking about somebody did it this morning before they came up in here folk wasn't cooperating with you you just lost it it's not you know it doesn't last long you just in fact you know the word says fret not i remember i like doing word studies i looked up the word fret and when you look up the expanded definition of fret it means to fret it's like wrath it's it's you know when you douse uh you're cold when you're gonna barbecue and you put a lot of lighter fluid on your cold and here's what freddy is you know when you strike the match and you drop it in the coals and the heat the fire from the coals just whoosh that's the definition of what fret looks like that's what wrath looks like because you know that if you don't know how to start a fire you know you have to wait and let that lighter fluid soak long enough because if you don't let it suck long enough it'll just blow up and then go right out that's what wrath is like you can have folk they'll blow up go off on you and they want to take you to lunch in a marriage a husband can blow up go off and then at night won't lay ministry to take place hello that's right okay somebody said keep going keep going here's what malice is malice is long-lasting bitterness against a person it means to be depraved it's a hateful feeling it's malignant it's mean it's when a person have a evil disposition in fact the word malice this is as evil as it can be a person that's filled with malice is always looking for the worst in other people and it'll pass it on he'll ruin others with his mouth or with his action that's a malicious person in fact another word for malice is diablos named after the devil himself and see you can know when you are dealing with a person that's filled with malice see none of us will walk around and say girl listen i'm struggling with i have never heard anyone say girl i'm struggling i'm struggling with wrath i just lose it now as women we'll say other things girl it's just you know it's that time or i'm just you know none of us wear a sign that warned people that we are filled with malice but you can discern it and here's how you can know if a person is filled with malice you can start complimenting another sister or brother to that particular person and as you are giving out this list of compliments to the about the person the person with malice will sit and they will agree with you and they'll say yes that's true yes that's true you're sure right but when people do that that's malice diablos that's the devil that means that the anger has simmered it has soaked now malice also means you ready to hurt somebody malice means you've been offended it wasn't made right you didn't forgive it let it go and you have let this thing soak and marinate and now you are contemplating in your mind how you can get even with that person and if you can't get to them you're going to get to somebody who looked like them somebody who remind you of them or someone who does anything close to you that they did see a lot of us if we didn't forgive our father for over correcting us or our mother neglecting us or if we didn't forgive our parents for some of the things that we've experienced as offenses we would carry that stuff right into our marriage and we'll make our spouses pay for it or if you came out of another relationship that wounded you that you never fixed it you never got it right you never resolved that thing at the root then you make that person pay for the offenses of someone else and blasphemy is cursing a person that curses has a spirit of anger that is controlling them so you don't slip and say curse words the bible says that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speak you don't slip and say nothing you know how people say mean things to yourself oh girl i was just kidding no they were not they were not just kidding they are cowards they want to say mean things and cover it up and say they're kidding they're not kidding they have malice and blasphemy in their hearts because there's a root of anger in there that has never been resolved and they thought stuff how many of you have you've thought cussing somebody out you didn't cuss them out but you just thought it in your mind i thought ooh if you and some of us have perfected it we can smile at folk and cuss them out under our call them some mean ugly names never never come out of our mouths your heart is full of it full of it out of the abundance of that heart the mouth speak don't nothing slip out of your mouth stop lying to yourself don't be deceived don't let nothing slip out say don't nothing slip out your heart is full of it see and this is the only way we get really free when we just deal with the truth as it is written in the word of god amen oh this gonna help somebody it set me free y'all i'm real free too i really am psalms 37 8 says cease from anger and forsake wrath fret not thyself in any wise to do evil stop it proverbs 14 17 says he that is soon angry deal is foolishly a man of wicked devices is hated and proverbs 14 29 says he that is slow to wrath is great is of great understanding but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth fooling or falling and then proverbs 14 29 says he that is slow to wrath say slow he that is slow to wrath is of great understanding but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly proverbs 16 32 says he that is flow to anger is better than the mighty and he that ruleth his spirit then he that taketh a city james 1 19 says be slow to rise slow to speak slow to wrath and you know why the word says be slow because in this life as we live on this planet with other fallen humans and with other imperfect people we will offend each other we will be offended things happen just in the course of living that's life and so the bible says it's going to happen but if you're born again of the spirit be slow to react and always forgive let it go let it go let it go proverbs 19 11 says the discretion of a man deferreth is anger and it is his glory to pass over a transgression ecclesiastics 7 9 says be hasty be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry for anger rested in the bosom of a fool now y'all know what have you ever read the word that it just offended you i was like i'm just called a fool i don't want to be a fool how many of you you just don't want to be a fool been there done that bought the t-shirt gave some away i don't want to be a fool i don't even want to be in the class of being a fool and the bible says that anger literally rests in the bosom of a fool numbers 25 3 says 3 and 4 says to kindle anger means to stir it up meaning to fan the flames now don't you want to know how do you stir up anger how do you stir it up a wrathful man stirs it up you know the way you stir up anger is you open your mouth and you begin to rehearse offenses have you ever had someone to share with you something that happened to them that offended them and it causes you to remember what happened that offended you and you can get as angry or angrier at the remembering of it than you did when you were offended hello now listen here's how here's what i need you to do if you got pencil and paper write down the word offend o-s-f e-n-d and then i want you to break it up in a syllable in syllables what do you get say it again off in that's what offenses does that's what satan wants to happen to us see god says he has an end for us a future he says it's to give us a hope it's to prosper us and the last thing satan wants you to experience is the end that god has for you and so what he has to do with offenses is knock you off your end and he does it by allowing weak hurt people to hurt you many times it can be done out of ignorance but nevertheless the wound is there the word goes on in in in in job 5 2 to say for raph killeth the foolish man so anger rests in the bosom of fools a wrathful person stirs up strife hello and then wrath kills the foolish man and so that's why the word continually says cease from anger forsake wrath in psalms 37 8 and fret not thy says in any wise to do evil now you might ask the question that has a lot to say but how can i know if i'm really dealing with anger now this was what just blew me out of the water there are some visible signs if a person is dealing with unresolved anger or if there is a spirit of anger that is ruling their person you see it's impossible to look at a person to determine if that person is an angry person because you can have there's some comedians i see and when i look at them i'm thinking you laughing and you got everybody laughing but you angry person you angry hello the only real way that you can know if a person is controlled by a spirit of anger is really to ask the folk who live with it and if you really really really want to know ask some of your family members and depending on the degree of the unresolved anger you might just get the truth but now if a person is really afraid of you and you intimidate them because of your theory and your wrath they might not answer you correctly so listen to this it says does other people say that you are angry when you don't think you are in other words does other people say is everything okay do you have people are you all right if focus con you know they are doing that a lot to you you know if they're walking around you you know tiptoeing like they're walking on thin nights with you everybody have to be quiet the dog can't bark too loud it could be or are you the kind of person it's my way or the highway some of us we can discern a spirit of anger in our own selves if we be honest or do those around you live in tension for fear that you might blow up let me share some things with you that helped me some of the visible signs of a person with a spirit of anger is irritability you know you always irritated everything just grades your nerves are you impatient do you lack tolerance for weakness in other people that's a spirit of unresolved anger do you have a raised voice you know you just loud your tone is harsh and you lack love in your voice in other words do people feel emotionally safe around you another visible sign is glaring eyes penetrating a frown furred brow intense facial muscles some of us look mad when we ain't mad we just look like that i remember before i got this this this deliverance my husband would say things to me like smile baby and i'm thinking i'm smiling ain't nothing wrong with me he'd say things like lighten up and i'd be lightened up and you know what i would i would try to you know spiritualize it i said well you know i'm just thinking i'm intense that's all until i got the truth and i realized that a spirit of anger was manifesting through me hurtful words say words like you make me sick you get on my nerves you just like your you know the rest why can't you ever get it right why do you always have to hurt for words that's your problem and can i can i interject this real quick don't nobody make you mad can nobody make you mad you mad waiting to manifest it's called it is called floating hostility it means that right beneath the surface of your skin there's just a thin layer and right beneath that there's some hostility just waiting some of us don't get mad we stay mad and things happen see anger unresolved let me say this because someone help somebody and then we go i promise y'all we're going home delivered i promise you listen when someone wounds you a an offense takes place and you don't deal with it it just lay there and it becomes a sword and then later on and that place become real sensitive so you can you know some people they won't say they bitter they'll say i'm just sensitive and just she's sensitive you know but it's like emotional gangrene because a sensitive person can say some of the most cruelest things because they've been wounded and they've lost life in that part of their soul and so it's easy for them to be cold and callous and indifferent and mean spirited and yet be really easily offended you know why because they have been wounded and that wound never healed and let me tell you god made us he designed us physically to where if we get a physical wound and if it's not too serious the body will heal itself well the soul is not like that the soul doesn't heal itself if you don't address it and apply what needs to for healing to take place it won't heal and so it accumulates so these wounds are cumulative so that's why when we get to 40 or 50 see there's nothing magical about 40 or 50. it just means that you didn't have enough stuff to happen to you until by the time you 40 and 50 it has accumulated and your body just can't take no more and that's why we end up with cancer and other diseases because the body the spirit and the soul are connected the wound takes place in the soul and it's never healed and it affects the whole person so you start out with offenses after offense after offense after offense and it accumulates and after you reach a certain age your body can't take anymore and you end up with diseased hurt for words we justify anger a little anger is permissible but you know what if it only takes a little 11 to 11 the whole lump then i don't believe a little anger because the bible says to put it away it's just to put away all anger hello and can i say this for the deep folk there is no such thing now you find it in the bible and i'll believe it but there is no such thing as a righteous indignation there's just no such thing look it up explosive action slamming doors throwing things and using extra force to put them down closing off your spirit no eye contact silence and avoidance now some of us those of us who are deep and this was the one that killed me wiped me out you offended me in my mind i perceived you knew what you were doing so what is there to discuss you didn't do it on accident you did it hello what is there to talk about and so what i would do is i just shut it down i just disconnect i just closed my spirit off until i got the word you know god don't leave you in a mess god said patricia that's the spirit of murder i was like oh god today jesus said to me i don't do you like that when you offend me i don't shut you down i don't close my spirit after you and if you're gonna be like me you're gonna have to forgive people you're gonna have to give people a second chance attitude of superiority you challenge opinions ideas or instructions especially those people in authority you think you're being the devil's advocate you may have a spirit of anger when you always challenge everything when you've been offended now listen you verbally say mean words see when you are uneducated and impatient your spirit of anger manifests in cursing but when you're intellectual and has mastered a vocabulary they say most of us use about 5000 words but those of us who have expanded our vocabulary we've mastered our vocabulary and we don't have to curse people to manifest a spirit of anger what we use is sarcasm a sarcastic person is a person who is manifesting a spirit of anger as a result of unresolved conflicts hello and then you have those folks who are aggressive aggressive folk you see their eyes bulging they start breathing real hard sweat pop across their nose everybody know that and then they get a little vein some people get a vein in their neck and then some people get a vein right in their forehead and you see their jaw you know you know they clenched your teeth that's the person who is aggressive and an aggressive person they're malice they come at you but then you have another person because see an aggressive person their anger it explode but a passive aggressive person their anger it implodes now the person who has the kind of anger that implode their passive aggressive you wouldn't even suspect them of having a problem with anger in fact you call them sweet oh she's so sweet oh he's so sweet and an aggressive passive-aggressive person they know how to cut you send you home believe me and you won't even know you've been cut until you get home and try to figure out what's wrong what happened my spirit feels x what happened to me you see a passive aggressive person became that way because they lived with somebody who was filled with malice and rage and they controlled and dominated them and they were never free to express anything but what pleased the person who was dominating them i know this is right y'all and you know what we especially as a people of color we've got some stuff in us that's so deep we are living in what could be called the age of rage we got road rage we we have our children are angry and that's what the word says that the iniquities of the fathers are visited down to the first second third and even to the fourth generation so you might say well i've been this way all my life this is all i know you need to break this cycle for your children you don't manage anger and you know what there's no such thing as managing anger you can't manage it you have to resolve it you can't manage anger anger is a spirit that's why you go to anger management classes you know now since oj you know when a man and a woman get in a fight whether she jumped him and he jumped her when the police come somebody got to go to anger management somebody go but you don't manage anger you cannot manage it it's a spirit and it needs to be resolved it needs to first be recognized and that's why i'm wasting i'm spending so much time i hope i'm not wasting time it's not wasted i'm spending so much time on showing you how it manifests because we will hide and we will pretend like we're okay and some of us we may know that we have a problem but we've just accepted it as part of our personality and this is who we are but the bible says a new and a living way jesus the blood of jesus purchased for us to walk in that we can walk in the spirit and be controlled by the spirit and not the dictates of our flesh or the stuff that's been generationally passed down to us and you see here's what you got to know that when someone offends you to knock you off your end the bible says you can forgive them and god will send you the amount of grace that you need to walk in forgiveness the before the offense come for the believer before the offense come grace will come for you to forgive the person so as a believer we are never justified in walking in unresolved offenses listen i don't even have time to share with you how anger affects the body but trust me high cholesterol high blood pressure let me tell you something there are some things that actually take place in your body when an offense comes and you have an emotion of anger your body physically reacts to it and there's a cycle of sequences of things that takes place that causes directly causes high blood pressure it can be directly connected to unresolved anger or not knowing how to control your health not having control over your soul when someone offends you it may feel good to vent cuss slam doors act out your anger when someone you know i i'll go out trust me it is foolish to keep going off you are killing yourself god did not design our bodies to keep letting anger rest inside of us let me say this real quick there is an atmosphere in your body where diseases can live and fester there's a ph balance that's supposed to be inside of us of alkaline and acid there are certain foods that we can eat that would cause us to be off balance where our where our bodies become more acidic it is healthy for there to be a proper ph balance of alkaline and acid if you eat raw food say raw food it will help your body to be have a proper alkaline because that's what you want you don't want more acid than alkaline because if you have more acid than alkaline then we all have cancer cells in our bodies and when your body is more alkaline than it is when it's more acidic than it is alkaline then it breaks down your immune system and your the the disease that's already in your body can overtake you hello arthritis lupus or any autoimmune ms it's where your immune system is compromised but if you can get your body ph balanced right then disease literally cannot live in your body so when you say to a person you make me sick that's exactly what they're doing but they're not making you sick you're making yourself sick because you you are allowing that offense to rest up inside of you so high blood pressure a lot of strokes that we have we don't have to have those strokes i don't care who in your family had strokes high blood pressure cancer trust me we can be in good health eat the right foods not only that and there's a list of foods any those of you who have access go out online there's a list of foods that will feed acid they're a list of food that would cause you and help you to have a proper alkaline balance just drinking lemon water will help you hello lemon distilled water it helps you but when you allow negative thoughts to rest inside of your mind and when you harbor that stuff and carry it around in your heart you are breaking down your immune system and you are making your body acidic for diseases now here's another one this one's real deep taking up offenses of other folk you're not the one that's been offended and you know what i need three people three from up here you all can help me i need three people to help me i want to show you what taking up an offense look like i need three people come on three three hurry three people the this illustration will help you i need three people okay what's your name wade katherine sony wade catherine and sony they love jesus all three of them with their whole heart and they love each other and they love serving the lord and they are committed to what god has called them to do but wade accidentally or inadvertently offend catherine didn't know he did it didn't try to do it didn't do it on purpose just accidentally did it how many of you know that happens and wade still love jesus now the moment the offense took place before it took place because god knows everything he dumped on catherine the amount of grace that she needed to forgive him but instead catherine calls sony and catherine begins to share with sony come on come on hello she began and that's exactly what she said she said what i can't believe he did that he did what now wayne is clueless all we know is that we're just trying to get the job done it's about advancing the kingdom it's about praising god it's about doing the work of the ministry that's all just getting the job done but he offended her and offended her for real it was a for real offense and so now move over here wait wait approaches catherine she comes into the sanctuary and wade's glad to see his sister and so he tries to reach her and she hello see she knows the script got an attitude he don't even know why so why he just figured well you know what maybe that's maybe she's having a rough day oh well you know and being that this is a male female thing he could even say well you know women they just go that way sometime now here comes sony and so wade figure well katherine's having a bad day well maybe so you know we can connect and so he tries to approach a song and she acting distant and disconnected and now he's confused like have you ever walked in a room and everybody was laughing and talking until you walk in and the atmosphere changed you don't know what was said but you know it was about you based on the way other folk are acting towards you well that's what wade realized now here's what happened he offended catherine he really didn't offend sony but she took up katherine's offense now here's what happened the bible says that woe unto those of us who sow seeds of discord among the brethren that's what you do when you take up an offense because here's what sony was supposed to say to catherine catherine probably see the bible says love beareth all things that believeth all things that endureth all things that hope all things it's long suffering so in love catherine was supposed to get some counsel from her sister that said give him the benefit of the doubt communicate with him maybe he didn't realize what he had done how many of you you've offended folks you didn't know you had offended him but they never gave you a chance to make it right instead they get with someone and collaborate over and this thing becomes ugly now because seeds of discord has been sown and there's a rift and a division in the body of christ not only in the body of christ but in our families and in our nation healing has to take place and she had the perfect opportunity to be the meek to be one who would restore but instead she started out saying what and never took her into the throne room never prayed for her never gave her the wise counsel to go back to wade to fix it so now here's what happened because they all three love god catherine is in a quiet time and she's lifting up her hands and she's trying to pray and the heavens is brass and god isn't connecting and the logos word is not becoming right mature and she's wondering god what's wrong why isn't there a breakthrough my communion with you is not sweet like it used to be my intimacy i'm missing it and then she began to cry out to god what happened god shows her wade's face and then she remembers she remembers the word that says when you come and bring your gift to the altar and when you get there and realize that your brother and you have ought with your brother leave your gift and go find your brother and first allow restoration to take place and then come back in other words god is saying you want to commune with me and be intimate with me and not walk in relationship with your assistant brother god says i'm not gonna let it happen like that because i'm a relational god and if you love me you've got to love what i love and if you love me you've got to love life i love and you can't walk in this harmony with your sister and brother and think you're gonna be intimate with me god said it's not happening he goes on to say if you don't forgive your sister and your brother don't think i will forgive you and it's gonna hinder your prayer life some of you you think your prayer life is stuck you might need to look horizontally and say god what's going on and so here's what catherine does when god shows her wade's face she immediately approaches him and she explains to him the offense and he takes responsibility for the offense and he asks her to forgive him for the offense and she releases him and she forgives him and they embrace reconciliation has taken place now they can advance the kingdom of god then now here's the real problem going over there by way they in fellowship loving the lord singing the praise of god and here comes something come on and she see the two of them in good fellowship now she got attitude with all both of them she's now mad with catherine cause catherine is no longer mad with wayne hello but she's stuck you know why because the grace that god gave catherine for the offense there was no grace for her you know why because the offense wasn't hers god gives us grace in measure and we take up you know some of some of you all you may have a spirit of anger working and you're sitting even here right now trying to figure out where it came from and you know what it could be that you took up your mama's offense you had an angry father you took up your mother's offense because of the things that she endured by him or you took up your sisters or your brother's offense if the thing didn't happen to you it happened to somebody else you took up their fence and you stuck them you don't even know you angry you don't even know the source of it but you don't take up somebody's offense and just as mad and twisted and messed up and on your way to disease and an early death and you don't even know why you didn't took up somebody else's offense now here's what happens the work for sonia sony is is greater even than it was for her now remember there's no grace for her now here's what she's got to do she's got the first ask god to forgive her for not being a peacemaker then number two she's got to ask katherine to forgive her for not giving her godly counsel y'all this is mature love then she's got to go from asking catherine to forgive her to expose the fact that she was the one whenever there's discord cease of discord's been sown there is always some secret person in the background feeding that thing you better know it whether it's on your job in your house in the church there is somebody feeding it somebody's feeding it and for the most part you never know who they are because they are cowards and they'll never reveal themselves they'll never reveal themselves but when we grow in mature love and because sony really loves god and she loves assisted a brother and relationship and fellowship has been broken with god and her sisters and brothers and she don't want to live out of fellowship with god it means more to her than her pride and so she exposes herself and she goes to wade and she asks way to forgive her for not giving kathleen council and she see they just running ahead of me she said i want to hurry and get this thing off of me she asked wade to forgive her and now come on give a group up relationships are restored it's restored amen amen amen amen thank you thank you so much thank you stand to your feet listen now i spent the majority of my time exposing the visible signs but let me tell you how you can be free first of all you can ask god to reveal to you if there be any unresolved anger inside of you jesus said of himself that when satan came he could find nothing in here we want that to be our testimonies i'm so convinced that the church age is coming to a close i really believe that and ultimately god's design and desire and purpose for us is to walk in mature love mature love the greatest gift is love god is not impressed with our numbers he's not impressed with our gifts what i really believe that impresses god is when we his bride walk in mature love what is mature love it doesn't hold offenses mature love goes the distance mature love doesn't let racial lines divide them mature love let those who oppressed you off the hook that's what mature love does and i mean you do it for real not only do you let them off the hook but you walk in a consistent lifestyle of forgiving and forgiving folk doesn't mean that they were not wrong forgiving them mean you no longer act as a little god god says vengeance is mine i will repay says the lord so you turn god a loose to be god and you say to yourself my desire is to be shaped in his image my desire is for the true character and the true nature of christ to live inside of me before i lay myself down never to awake again before jesus breaks through the clouds to come back for the church god wants us to mature he wants the character of christ to manifest through us i'm convinced that there are some blessings there are some things that god has for us that he wants us to get back on our end some of us have been knocked off our ends by offenses as you're standing on your feet today i had a woman to say to me one of my european sisters love jesus and i would honestly share with her my struggle and what was going on and she said pat when people say things or do things just don't let it get in your spirit now you know people said that my husband used to say that to me when i would go into sometimes white ministries they would be bringing me in and i'm going to tell you racism exists stronger in the church than it does anywhere i'm a witness i know it does it's stronger up in here than it is anyway because see back in the 60s the systems every system was confronted the church has never really been confronted and we've been whitewashing this thing but i believe god has saved us for last we gonna get this right before we go to heaven oh yes we are oh yes we are we'll get it right we're gonna learn how to walk in forgiveness we're gonna learn how to overcome and not be subjected to sicknesses and diseases because of unresolved you're standing today let me ask you a question bow your head close your eyes if there was anyone right now if they walked up in this room right now we've been singing songs of praise we've been ministered to we've been in the presence of god is there anyone right now in your past or even in your life right now if they walked up in this room it would create a whole nother atmosphere for you an ex-husband an ex-wife a child a boss a partner a colleague a neighbor if they walked in this room right now the whole atmosphere would change anybody out of your pants if it is that's someone that you need to let go and really you're letting yourself go is there anyone who offended you and they never made it right and when you remember it it causes the pain and the anger to arise see we call it hurt but any time you've been hurt and it's allowed to stay there it turns into anger it can manifest different ways god wants today he wants you to open up the gift by letting it go you open up the gift by receiving the grace of god god has a grace for you right now for you to walk in healing there's a level spiritually that god wants you to operate in there are blessings that god wants to unfold and he wants them to manifest in your life but because you've been knocked off your ear god wants you today to get back on your ear by letting them go by receiving the grace god wants healing to take place the greatest christmas celebration that you can experience today is to say god i won't let the blood of jesus be wasted i'm gonna apply it he came to the straw the works of darkness and to set those who have been held captive free it's an affront to god for us to still be in bondage over offenses you

Channel: Patricia Ashley

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Length: 77min 38sec (4658 seconds)

Published: Thu May 30 2013