Our Role Model Asiya the Wife of Fir'aun - Yousaf Jahangir

then we are here to discuss an illustrious personality in our religion as he had been to muzahim the wife of fir on the queen of egypt of her time now whenever we are looking at any concept or any personality the first thing that we need to look at is what does the quran and sunnah say about this concept of this person because as muslims the outlook that we have in anything in this dunya the first thing that we do is we look at what does the quran and sunnah say about this what is the perspective of allah and the messenger with regards to this topic and this is a holistic principle that we can take away for every aspect of our lives the first thing we look at is her is her virtue and she is mentioned in the quran and allah praises her in different places in the quran and of course we find many many ahadith which speak about her great virtue and her father in our deen the first virtue that i bring to your attention is just the fact that allah mentions that famous dua that she made on her deathbed which are going to be covering inshallah allah mentions that in the quran and allah has given this remembrance and this to our a remembrance of eternity but the believers come after her by thousands of years and they remember this dua and they memorize it and they try to understand its meanings and implement it in their lives and focus on its importance allah tells us at the end of surah he mentions four women allah says allah put forward an example for us to ponder and reflect over imra remember the wise of luth and nu haleigh is that they were married to two righteous prophets the best men of their times fakhana tahuma that relationship that they had with the prophets being so close to them seeing their guidance throughout the day throughout the night that did not benefit them in any way but rather they betrayed them so their connection to the prophets and messengers did not benefit them in any way and it will be said to them and it will be said to them enter the fire of hell with everybody else who's going to enter it showing us that their closeness to the prophets and messengers was of no avail to them because their hearts did not accept the truth and nor did their actions reflect that truth and then allah continues and allah says ford an example for those that believe imran the wife of fir own if call it when she made that dua rabbini phil janna oh allah make me a house next to you in paradise fir on and save me and protect me from the evil of your own and save me and protect me from the evil company that he has surrounded himself with and we're going to revisit this story later on inshallah so that's the first virtue that she has this famous dua that she made that we memorize and it's in the quran and we learn and ponder and reflect over its meanings the fact that allah has accepted her as one of his chosen slaves from her virtue is that with the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam he told us there are many people many men that have reached perfection in their faith as for the women then from them is asia the wife of your own when maryam been to imran and mary the mother of jesus and the virtue of ayesha the prophet's wife over the rest of the women is like that of tareed over the rest of the food who knows what farid is who can enlighten us what is we learned that is one of the most favorite foods of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam so it's like it's like a stew so it has vegetables it has like a broth to it it has meat and bread so it's like a stew that has all these different things and the process alone's time it was from the most virtuous and the most luxurious of food and it was from the prophet's most favorite food so the process islam said here the ayesha is like thirth compared to the rest of the food and moving on from the virtues of asiya bint mazahim is that the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam told us she is from the best women in paradise from the best women in paradise but he told us that the best women of the people of paradise are going to be these four the wife of feron maryam the mother of isa the process wife khadijah bin khawellit and the prophet sallam's daughter fatima bint muhammad that they had reached this special pleasure of allah where they are going to be the best of women in paradise when speaking about these ah hadith in fatoulbari hafidhib no hajjar he speaks about asean why she has such great virtue and the summary of what he said is that she chose to die and sacrifice her life for the truth when she had this entire dunya her husband was fir owned that evil tyrant but she did not let his evil restrict her iman and she gave up this entire dunya for allah's pleasure he goes on to say she chose to sacrifice the treasures of this world for allah's pleasure she saved the lives of the life of musa and she had this feeling this instinct that this baby is going to be of benefit to her and by following his guidance at that time she gained the highest positions with allah so these are some of her virtues some of her virtues with regards to her story then when we look at the authentic sources it seems like there are three authentic stories regarding asia two of them are in the quran and one is in the authentic sunnah of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam so in surah qasas she is introduced to us when she adopts musa alaihissalam so as we know fear only had this vision of this dream that he is going to from the people that he is enslaved from the bani israel that one of their sons is going to come and destroy his kingdom so being the evil tyrant that he was he said i'm going to kill all of their boys and i'm going to enslave their women so this is what he would do one year he would kill the boys and the year after the the boys that were born he'd let them free so they could work for him and help build work in his in his kingdom so allah reveals to thee to the mother of musa that when you are scared for his life put him in a talbot in a box and put that box in the river nyle testing her faith to the very core where she is told to put her son into the river nile in a box and allah promises her that an enemy of mine and his is going to take him but he will be safe and he will be returned to you and she believes and she trusts in allah's plan and this is exactly what happens so muslim he is placed into the river nile placed into the river nile and then he is found by asia on the other side so when she is with her maids the narrations tell us they thought that they had found some sort of treasure in this box but when she saw it was a baby she instantly fell in love with musa not only does she go on to save his life but she goes on to adopt him because she couldn't have her own children so she goes on to adopt him and take him as her own perron still wants to kill him this is before they knew who he was of course and allah calls this part in the quran but the first mention she gets is where allah says and remember when the wife of your own she said to the pharaoh that this boy he is a coolness to the eyes he is a source of peace and happiness in our lives for me and for you so therefore do not kill him do not kill him so that we can take him as a son or that he can bring us some benefit and allah says that they did not know about what was actually happening so before we continue we look at some of the lessons that we learn straight away she's introduced to us as somebody who loves the weak she cares for the vulnerable this child could have easily been killed it wasn't her problem she's married to the most richest most powerful man at that time there's many other issues that concern her but she cared for this orphan so what do we learn straight away from her story as believers we have to have this care for our week for our vulnerable for our orphans this is something which we have to pay attention to she doesn't just save his life but she adopts him as her own gives us a strong insight into the high standard of her character and no matter what position and status we may reach we have to always care for those people that are vulnerable in our community we also learn that allah works in the most subtle and best of ways if your own hair is killing the new born boys of banu israel he is killing them because he is scared one of them is going to be born and destroy his kingdom subhanallah his own wife ends up bringing that baby into his palace and saying we are going to adopt this boy and now we go back to musa's mother we find in the quran allah tells us in surah qasas that moosa's sister used to work in the palace of fir on so when musa needed to be breastfed he refused all of the women and then his sister said there's a woman that i know that may be able to help and within the same day the scholars of tafsir explain musa was brought back into the life of his mother showing us that when we trust in allah and when we are tested and we stay strong allah's plan is always the best i see there's a lot of young brothers here today i have a question for you youngsters musalam at this time is a few days old an infant allah speaks about the difficulty that his mother faced and he said even though is for a day she was about to expose the plan if we did not give her strength in her heart so we find the great hosun the great difficulty that musa's mother faced on that day the question is did musa did he know the difficulty that his mother was facing this extreme sadness and this difficulty that she was facing that she had lost her son and she doesn't know if he's going to be safe what's going to happen and she loves him more than anything as we know the the love of the mother is not like anything else in this dunya question is did musa did he no one understand and appreciate about the whoson that his mother had what's the answer say it again no musa did not know at that time he would have been a baby so the lesson that we can take away from this is that we can relate to this our parents our mothers our fathers okay may not maybe not to this extreme but there will be struggle on a daily basis even before we are born and when they are raising us and we cannot understand and even when we grow older the things that our parents hide from us from the struggle just to put food on the table just to make sure that we are safe that care and that love that they provide for us this is something which we cannot appreciate in reality but it's something that the believer has to ponder and reflect over because the gift of parents is not an internal gift we are raised to think that our parents are always going to be here they're always going to be here and i'll always have my mother and father to lean on for their support and for whatever it is that i need the guidance and the care and that love but the reality is my brothers and sisters our parents are a gift that we have to make the most of every moment of every day because that gift is on borrowed time and only allah knows when we are going to be sitting thinking if only i did this if only i did that this stupid pathetic argument i have with my parents now that shame that will be there in your heart will be difficult to remove this small petty feud that i had with my mother with my father once they are not here it is going to haunt you my brothers and sisters may allah protect us all and give us the ability to be righteous children and give our parents long healthy lives and may enable us to utilize this gift this is why the process alone said the one who is meets one of his parents or both of them in old age and he does not enter paradise because that's how easy it is to attain paradise when your parents are around in serving them in being there for them checking if they are okay expressing how much you love them giving them the support that they gave to us when they were children said the one that does not attain paradise when his parents are there and this person is going to be distant from the mercy of allah because he has been blinded to how easy it is to attain paradise so this is the first thing we can do when we walk away from this lecture reach out to our parents and make that effort just to check if they are okay to put a smile on their face on a daily basis and for those whose parents are passed on then to make dua for them to make dua for them the next part of the story or the second story that we learn about asia may allah be pleased with her is the that which we learn in the muslims of imam ahmad and other places which is authentic hadith is about the hairdresser of the daughter of fir pay attention to this story the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam he is and he smells this fragrance in paradise this beautiful fragrance and he asks jibril what is this beautiful smell gabriel replies this is coming from the hairdresser and the hairdresser's children of her own's daughter your own daughter's hairdresser and her children and then gabriel goes on to tell the process sallam her story the hairdresser was combing the hair of her own's daughter and she drops the comb she drops the comb and she says bismillah and the daughter of says do you mean my father you are saying in the name of allah and the only god that we know is her father fer owned the pharaoh the hairdresser said no because they used to hide the iman because of what an evil tyrant he was she said no i'm referring to my god your god and the true god of your father as well so the daughter says i'm going to tell my father she says fine go tell him your own summons her and he says how is it possible that you worship a god besides me but i have all of these rivers and all of these this amazing kingdom and all these palaces and these pyramids how is it possible that you worship something besides me and the hairdresser stayed strong because he felt insulted at this he ordered for a huge pot to be boiled and that part was big enough for a cow to be boiled in and he tied her up and he brought four of her children and one by one he threw these children and boiled them to death and made a watch this was the oppression that those people in the past would face and they were strong in subhanallah something that we cannot even begin to imagine this is what those people of the past would sacrifice for the iman and subhanallah we have people or we ourselves we cannot even sacrifice small amounts of time to attain allah's pleasure and to pray our salah on time and to learn to us and learn the meaning of our prayers and to check up on our parents and do the basics of aberdeen the last child was an infant of hers he was an infant and because he was so small she began to shake and from the miracles of allah is that child spoke to her and he said yeah um that child spoke in his infancy and he said oh my mother stay strong be patient because this this torturing and this punishment that we are facing in this dunya it is temporary something small compared to how allah is going to deal with him for his evil in the next life and she stayed strong when asia heard about this story this lit that candle of iman in her heart this is where she she heard what had happened and this inspired her and inspired her iman it shows us that sometimes allah will send us one sign and this should be sufficient in accepting the truth and being motivated to worship him not like today we want to chase something bad and allah is sending us signs day and night stay away from this thing it's going to cause you harm there's no success in this there's no happiness in this thing for you and we pursue it and pursue it and pursue it and we say allah does not send me any guidance he does not send me any signs she heard this one story of the tyranny of your own and this lit that candle in her heart but even at that time her faith was still hidden her faith was still hidden so this is how she came to the guidance of the prophet moses of that time we learn also about the importance of unity and brotherhood because when she saw her sister an iman being tortured and punished like this it caused her to be sad and caused a great sorrow rightfully so it shows us the importance of brotherhood and unity and that we should be caring as muslims especially for our brothers and sisters who are suffering in a positive way being able to help others abdullah bin abbas when he narrates this hadith and he speaks about the miracle of this infant speaking he said this was one of the four infants that spoke when they were small who can tell me who the other three are prophet isaiah when i say issa good we have the hairdresser's son we have the story of juraj that was the third one the infant that spoke in that story and then who knows the fourth one the story of yusuf alayhi islam one of the witnesses that spoke was was an infant but we'll move on we won't get into those stories and moving on the third and final story that we know about asiya bint mazahim may allah be pleased with her and reunite us or unite us with her in the highest parts of paradise third story we learn about her is her martyrdom and this was the i mentioned of hers in the beginning of the lecture where on the day that there is that duel and that battle between musa alayhi salaam and the magicians of fir own she asks who has won and then when she is informed that is musa she comes out and she is open about her iman and she confronts pharaoh and tells him about her iman and if your own hears this he takes it to his council to those people around him and he says what do you people think about asya they said she is from the best women in this kingdom he said then she has taken a god besides me and she has disbelieved in me they responded she is from the worst of people you should kill her straight away should repress the rebellion and her iman straight away what do we learn from this straight away we learn about how brutal people can be and how the believer he's not concerned about the opinion of the masses and his acceptance is the acceptance of allah that he is concerned about not the acceptance of the masses of the people because that is not going to be of any benefit to him just the way us here she is the queen of egypt she is the pharaoh's wife she has all the riches in the world as soon as she does something or say something that is the truth but they are not happy with what happens she's the worst of people kill her and get rid of her so how if your own tortures her is that he had four stakes put in the desert and he tied her hands and her legs to these stakes and he tortured her but he did not want her to die he kept saying to his the people that were torturing her as soon as she rejects allah and rejects the message of musa then bring her back as my wife he didn't want her to die but when he saw after a number of days that he her iman was strong and it was not shaky and it was not unwavering he realized that she was not going to give up so he said bring a great boulder a great stone and throw it on her head and just get rid of her when she saw this was going to happen this is when she made this dua oh allah make me a house next to you in paradise scholars say she chose to be allah's neighbor before even being into paradise he said oh allah make me a house next to you in paradise and save me from your own evil and the evil of those people around him at this time allah showed her this house in paradise that she was so beloved to allah as soon as she made the dua not was it accepted allah showed it to her there and then allah showed it to her there and then and this caused her to smile and laugh and after she was smiling her soul was taken so if her own did not get the pleasure of torturing her or killing her her soul was taken this is something for us all to remember the process told us whoever loves and wants to meet allah allah is going to love that person and allah is going to want to meet him in return a man carry her allah and whoever hates to meet allah allah too will hate to meet that person so we do not know when we are going to pass away but we do know that we have to work tirelessly to be in a state that allah is pleased with us in the next part of the lecture and we're coming towards the end now i'd like to focus on some benefits that we can take away as individuals helping us in our personal iman at the same time looking at the benefits as a community that we can take away one of the lessons that we learn is about oppression and injustice she was oppressed by the greatest tyrant she faced the greatest form of thumb from him and something that we can take away is that from this dunya the way allah has created it there are tests and trials throughout our lives we are going to see tyranny and oppression may allah protect us in our personal lives when we watch the news when we see what happens across the world there's going to be difficulties but we need to understand that we are not responsible for being victims that's not something which we are responsible for for an example one of there's a person and one of his parents may be an alcoholic or he may be addicted to some drugs or there may be some sort of abuse he's born and he's raised and all he has ever seen is that his mother has been abused by his father is that child does he bear any guilt of course not he's not responsible for his circumstances he's not responsible for being a victim however we are responsible in how we let that tyranny and the oppression and the injustice affect us how we respond to it there's a choice that we make do we become oppressors in return do we carry that cycle on do we think it's okay to continue this is how the standard of living that we have in our lives and we continue that cycle on do we let that oppression define us and restrict us in who we are in life i'm never going to be a good person because i never had a positive role model in my life i'm not going to be a good person because this is what i saw when i was younger or this is what my neighbor went through so because of this no asia did not let the oppression that she saw from fir own definer nor did she restrict her she used that as an opportunity to better herself to help the orphaned musa to help others and to attain the most highest parts in paradise process told us she's on the four women to reach perfection with her iman so she didn't let this difficult situation that she's in she never let that define her and restrict her to who she was and what she was going to achieve as a person but rather she uses it as an opportunity to attain the highest parts of paradise even when she's faced in the middle of the difficulty what does she say she says oh allah build me a house next to you in the in the highest parts of paradise and save me from this situation and save me from the oppression of these people and save me from your own evil so this is something which we learn from this story we have to use the tests and trials of life to become stronger and better believers and better people and this includes in strengthening our iman and our relationship with allah and this also includes taking the relevant help that we may need from counseling and therapy and the different services that are available to us but allah has favored us and blessed us and honored us to have available to us we find that asia she is married to the most evil oppressor and this quran in many different places mentions the oppression of and how evil he was that he thought he was allah they would enslave an entire nation and kill all of their men and enslave their women and he will torture people to death like this allah says in surah and remember how he was destroyed and he took pride in being the torturer of stakes and he did this to his own wife in the middle of the desert he had those four stakes and tied them up and tortured them this is what he would do but even with all of that oppression she did not let that defeat her she did not let the evil prevail and continue the cycle we're not responsible for the actions of others but we are responsible how that affects us and how we respond from the lessons that we learn from the story of asia is the importance of role models of course she's a role model for us all and the process said about these four women that they are the ones that reach perfection in their iman this is something which we can all take away from in particular our sisters these are the standards that allah has set for you not these musicians and celebrities of today that will do nothing except cause facade in your life and these influences no this is the standard that the believer sets for himself and herself there's a study in the year 1955 there was a study that was taken in an island in hawaii and they went to this island and they said we're going to do a 40-year study for 40 years they took 700 children 700 children and out of these 700 children one thing that they all shared was that they had very difficult upbringings chaotic lives difficult circumstances like what we mentioned extreme poverty extreme abuse real difficult situations after 40 years in 1995 they went and they monitored these people and they realized that one in three one in three of these children had become stable yet become stable and successful never got trouble in the law got a job tried to sort his or her life out when they studied this one-third of people and they thought what is the common denominator that has made all of these people successful and helped them turn it around they found that each one of these people had one positive role model in their lives one positive role model who was stable that would give them good advice had a positive routine had a positive impact and because they had just that one person this had a positive impact in their lives and that's what they aspire to be like so we learned that us here she is a role model for us and in particular our sisters but then we realize she is also the role model for musa himself because allah saved his life through her when she found him at the river nile and where was he raised was he raised an environment of iman and piety and righteousness no he was raised in the palace of fir surrounded by tyranny yes it would have been nice it would have been a palace it would have been luxurious or whatever but he was surrounded by tyranny at that time with your own is from the most evil of oppressors but she was the positive role model that he had in his life at that time this is before the message came to him this is when he is being raised being turned into an adult from my baby but this is something for us to ponder and reflect over what kind of role models are we and you don't have to be a leader of something or a teacher or whatever that may be we are all role models in one way or the other especially our fathers in this community remember your child when they are young they see you as a superhero whatever you do has a great impact on them and if we nurture our children correctly we won't have to force them to pray you'll get up and you'll pray and you'll see them as toddlers coming and praying next to you do they understand what they're doing no but they want to be like you they want to emulate your way but remember this when they see the bad side when they see the oppression or speaking incorrectly or the anger whatever that may be that also is something that will that they will pick up on so we are all role models in one way or the other and we don't know how our behavior will impact the next generation or somebody younger or somebody vulnerable that is looking up to us if you are in this position make sure your tarbia is correct and on point from the benefits of this amazing story is we learn about our personal lives we learn about the importance of tarubia in the home because asia gave this tarbia to musa and this would have laid the foundation for his iman to be correct and for him not to be like fir on because he would have had that choice to be like firaoun or to be like asia and what did he choose he chose to be like asean follow the righteous guidance that she had given him we learn about the importance of creating a peaceful a loving and harmonious home and when we cause facade and corruption in that special place called home the impacts under are catastrophic the fact that our children will start looking for guidance in other places and in the times that we're living in there's no shortage of misguidance for our children to lead our children to the fire of hell there's no shortage from this story we learn about the issues that affect every community those social ills like domestic violence and domestic abuse as he or she is tortured to death by her husband from the story we learn about the harms of such practices and how that is the way of evil tyrants and the way of and not the way of the prophets and messengers and not something which is pleasing to allah from this story we learn about thee we learn about caring about those that are less fortunate than us as soon as asia is introduced to us she is somebody that cares for the loved ones she picks up the baby from the river nile she adopts him having that love for our orphans for our week for our vulnerable not putting anybody outside of the community or not being there for them because they are lesser than us we learn from this story about the importance of fostering the importance of fostering we look at asia she takes this child she saves his life and she adopts him takes him in gives him that home that's musa that's a prophet the kalima allah spoke to directly he was fostered and adopted the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam himself was fostered by his uncle abu talib when his parents passed away at his mother passed away by the time he was six years old his grandfather abdul muttalib took him till he was eight then after that until he's 25 years old we find his uncle abu talib fostered him and this was something which was had a great impact on the process life this is why as soon as he got married he took ali with him and ali would live with him because this was a favor that he always remembered and a great virtue that his uncle had over him and the process of salaam when he was married he also fostered himself they did was the adopted or the fostered son of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam asiyah she could not have children and this is something which is in our community today as well where sometimes a couple may find it difficult to conceive or to have children and maybe one of the wisdoms behind allah doing that is that so these vulnerable orphans and these children can be fostered and be raised in a house of iman and righteousness and piety something that needs to be addressed in a lot more detail from the things that we learn from the things that we learn from this story is the definition of success what do we define as our success you young brothers your young sisters what is our happiness what is our success is it what other people think of us because asia she was seen as the queen of egypt and the people sunas feron came and asked them they said she's the best of us as soon as he said but she's rejected me and rejected my message straight away they said she's the worst of us kill her get rid of her did that affect us here the opinion of such brittle people no success is our relationship with allah what does allah think of me am i close to allah am i far away from him as soon as she makes the dua allah shows her having that conviction when we make dua and understanding that yes sometimes will be answered immediately like this situation other times it won't it will take time allah is saying you are not ready for this yet and other times allah will say this is no good for you let me give you something better but now is not the time you are not ready for that he doesn't just leave us be so the believer should not ever think i'm making dua my to ours not being accepted why is this no that's not how the believer thinks asia she gave up this entire dunya the palaces the rivers the kingdom of egypt for allah's pleasure when the truth came to her that's what success was for her what does allah think of me one of the final points of benefit is when it comes to the attributes of your own unfortunately we find that some of our brothers may allah make it easy outside of the house they have the attributes of musa he is the most humble most beloved person most righteous person but inside his house and to his wife and to his children he has the attributes or some of the attributes of your own where he's from the worst of people this is something which is a problem this is something which is a problem we need to understand that when we are not behaving the way we showed with our wives and our spouses and vice versa we are setting the example and the precedent to our next generation and to our children about how we are to treat others so when a man abuses his wife verbally mentally physically he is now setting the standard for his daughter who is witnessing all this that this is how you are to be treated because the most sacred relationship that you know that bond of the parents this is the norm in this environment and this bubble so now you are saying to your daughter this is okay and this is the norm how you are supposed to be treated and then you are saying to your son this is how you are to treat your mother and your sisters and tomorrow when you get married and the cycle continues and continues and continues and this my brothers and sisters is something which really needs to be addressed and we have to remember that we are responsible for our actions and our behavior like i mentioned before in the election we are responsible we're not responsible for other people do we're not responsible for how we are provoked we're not responsible for the circumstances that we sometimes may find ourselves in but we are responsible for our actions and how we treat ourselves and like i mentioned at the beginning of the lecture our role model and our guidance is the prophet salallahu and we look at his life for every aspect of guidance in particular when it comes to raising our children and having that that family environment in our married lives the process the best of you the best of you is the one that is the best to his family and i am the best to my family more than anyone else that was the prophet saw sallam the best of mankind when the be al-aswad came how was he in his in the privacy of his home how was he as a person the first thing she replied with he was in the service of his family and we look at the prophet sallam's life and how he was with his family we find that he was from the best of people to his family the most generous the most loving the most caring the most patient the most emotionally intellectual this is something which we have to focus on and we have to set the standard of ourselves to be like the process not that which our culture says or that which the norm is within our culture and how we treat one another or the standard that's set culturally no yom al qaiyama we're not going to be asked about the facade that we caused according to our culture or the oppression that we caused with the difficulty that we caused according to our culture we are muslims before anything else and the guidance of the quran and sunnah comes before anything else this is what i wanted to share with you brothers and sisters here today surely allah knows best

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Length: 52min 59sec (3179 seconds)

Published: Sun Sep 12 2021