Modest Isn't Hottest (But It's Better) | David Marvin

allow me [Music] all right well hey let's go welcome friends of the room friends in houston texas northwest arkansas in boise idaho cincinnati ohio tulsa scottsdale arizona cedar rapids iowa wherever you're joining us and for the very first time tonight north houston at champions forest reports live north houston we are kicking a series off hot take summer where we are going to look at some hot takes from god's word a hot take is something that you know you throw out there that you would say man i'm just spitting facts but there's a lot of people that may have see it as a hot take as though it's not the consensus of the world or of maybe even most people let me give a couple hot takes that i would say are for me personally hot take michael jordan is without question undeniably uncontroversially that's not a word the greatest basketball player of all time hot take number two mcdonald's is delicious i don't care what you say it's amazing and if you're saying ooh it's you if you knew that you could lose weight and eat there every meal you would eat there fact hot take this was gonna sting a little bit cheerleading is not a sport okay saying that's in my bible uh hot take a meal a meal without meat is not a meal that is a snack man okay hot take iced coffee is the only way to drink coffee man these are not hot takes at all so at home i take the show friends is overrated [Music] wow good night everybody man you guys on another level tonight hot take whataburger is better than in and out hot take texas is in fact sorry everyone tuning in for everywhere else the greatest state in america and hot take some of you don't come to the porch to hear about jesus you come to look for a spouse just call it like it is all right tonight we are going to look at another hot take and it's one of the more unusual topics that we have covered but god's word talks about it and we think it's an appropriate and important one especially as we kick off summer and that is this hot take modest isn't hottest but it's better hot take modest isn't hottest but it's better if you grew up like me in church or you grow up around the church you may have heard phrases or even honestly outside of the church where people are like in an environment where you know it's a co-ed pool party junior high mom comes up remember ladies modest is hottest or you were at a youth group event summer camp someday and somebody came up and the wardrobe was like and let's all remember modest is hottest in the back of your mind everybody went no it's not no no no it's definitely not and that's because it's not in other words modesty in dressing modestly is not always as hot if you will especially in terms of how culture uses it and anybody who says that it is is just kind of kidding themselves but it is better and so we're going to look at what god's word has to say about this subject because it's a really important one and kindly it's a it's a topic that there are so many different mixed messages that come in so many ways that i think even as christians our thinking has been impacted and influenced more by what the world says as it relates to how you dress as it relates to the way that you look as it relates to what's okay and what's not that are robbing some of us of who christ is calling us to be i think the topic tonight is directly related candidly to who some of you are going to marry because you're going to get this right and as you're going to see it it matters a lot and it's directly connected to the type of relationship that you have the type of person you're marrying so we're going to look at why modest although it may not be hottest it is better but first i'm going to set up hey even what modesty is so as it relates to modesto tatus oh this is my like favorite meme that i saw this week that captures maybe the only guy who thinks modest is hottest and it's this meme it's just one of those like boom oh man that's hot that ankle other than this guy and maybe your grandma modest definitely is not hottest but it is better but first we got to unpack what is modesty and i want to unpack first what is it what modesty isn't just before we dive in then we're going to look at three reasons why it's better three myths about modesty number one it's simply a woman's problem it's just not true some of the most unaware people as it relates to being immodest and how they dress and what they're doing with their body and just how what they post are often guys it's not that it's not a woman's problem it's all of our problems it's something that the bible commands all of us to be about but it's not just a woman problem that's myth number one myth number two it doesn't matter it doesn't matter what or where i can wear whatever i want that's true unless you're a follower of christ because as we're gonna see it's a really big deal to god that he cares a lot about your heart and he cares about how that heart leads you to dress myth number three being modest is about being a prude the truth is that no it's not god is all about sex he's all about immodesty in an appropriate boundary called marriage where the two are naked without shame all together that god is not a prude god's not against sex he's all about sex he invented sex we did an entire series called radar for romance one of my favorite series we did it was on the book of song of solomon song of solomon was a book that was so scandalous that until you were 30 years old jewish boys could not read it because of the sexual content think about that in other words they were sneaking in to read some of the bible as a young boy as a teenager hoping to not get caught with a lamp and like oh my gosh i can't believe this that song of something that's all about it in proverbs chapter 5 it says this let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you it's talking about sex rejoice in the wife of your youth she's a loving dear let her breasts always satisfy you may you always be intoxicated or captivated by your love god is all about amazing sex in the context of marriage it's not because he's approved myth number four modesty is about your clothes as we're gonna see modesty is about your heart in first timothy chapter two verse nine paul says this i want women you could say apply the same thing to men to dress modestly with decency and propriety propriety is not a word that we use often it just means with appropriate dress or appropriate clothing adorning themselves not with elaborate hairstyles gold pearls expensive clothes but with good deeds appropriate for those women who profess god what is he saying god's against hair style no in this day and age this was written to timothy who is inside of the city of ephesus ephesus was a city that oftentimes women would put all kinds of things and flashy things in the hair in order to attract the attention of other men it's also where the temple of aphrodite was and so it was a very sexually promiscuous city and environment and paul's not saying god's against those things he's saying let your true beauty come from inside may you be adorned with a modesty of the heart it's not just about your clothes it all comes down to the heart behind what you wear he says may they be marked with good deeds focused not just on good looks but on good work so here's the biblical definition of modesty modesty means dressing in a way that reveals godliness and humility of the heart it doesn't mean mean frumpy doesn't mean being unstylish you'd be on trend and all of that and still honor god with how you dress yourself but modesty is a matter of the heart one of the reasons it's further challenging and it is a matter of the heart is what it looks like to be modest in different cultures looks different if you go to different areas in remote parts of third world countries today they would not be described in our culture as modest you got a different time period throughout history and 100 years ago what's totally appropriate today would not be appropriate you guys know what this is this is a bikini i know you guys have probably never seen one of these before a lot of awkward laughter just now the bikini was invented in 1946 by a guy named louis reard he was a french guy it's always the french man he invents this thing and he named it bikini you know why because at that time in 1946 there was an island off of west new guinea it was an island that america occupied that had done all types of testing for nuclear atomic bombs and on that island was where they were testing these atomic bombs and reard said this invention that i've come up with this two piece of clothing will be an atomic bomb throughout culture and fashion and it was rear was famous for saying that he came up with an invention a two thief bathing two-piece bathing suit that reveals everything about a girl except her mother's maiden name it was so scandalous at the time tell us it's not scandalous at all it was so scandalous at the time that spain italy and america outlawed it in other words that teeny weeny itsy bitsy yellow dot poke yellow polka dot bikini you have a song before that's about a girl who won't come out of the water because she's afraid she's gonna be seen because if you got seen you would be dismissed or not able to swim at the beach it was scandalous and then the sexual revolution took place and we have all been so desensitized i don't know if you guys like hot tubs one thing happens anytime you get a hot tub this just took a weird turn we got bikinis hot tubs you know what happens when you get in it's like 103 degrees feels great this is awesome 10 minutes in what you're sweaty yeah that's true you're like it's not hot you're kind of like oh man because you want the hot tub just bring it just a little bit on you but and whenever you get used to it it's not as hot and it's not because the temperature changed it's because you got desensitized to it the same thing has happened as it relates to modesty for all of us and really as a culture so our cue doesn't come from culture and what the world says around us is the appropriate standard of modesty it comes from what god's word says and it comes down to a question in a matter of the heart why am i wearing what i'm wearing is what i'm wearing honoring to god so modesty first and foremost is a matter of the heart it is choosing to reflect through my dress godliness and humility that exists inside of my heart because christ has changed my heart it often leads to me changing my clothes so here's three reasons why that type of modesty at a heart level will you begin to evaluate hey is what i'm wearing honoring to god or not begin to evaluate why would i wear this why would i post this picture three reasons why modesty is better first one is huge because modesty attracts the right people modesty attracts the right people or attracts the right person most of us in the room will say we're single and we are interested likely and hopefully not being single forever and if you in this stage want to make sure that you attract the right person along directly related to that is how you dress because how you dress is going to determine who you attract it's not just similar to this i don't know if we got any fishermen in the room there we go man represent bro this is a bunch of tackle and fishing stuff depending if you know anything about fishing like this guy does you would go fishing and depending on what type of bait you use will determine what you're going to catch so if you're going to use you know live worms or stink bait or something like that you're going to catch catfish if you want to catch a bass you're going to use something that looks closer to something like this and i just now i'm bleeding poke myself with a hook you're going to use something more like this if you want to track the striper or some other i don't really fish so so whatever you're going to attract it just determines what you're going to catch every fisherman knows whatever you use is bait determines what you're going to catch because there's certain fish that they're not going to be appealed to by this they're not going to bite on that and then there's other ones that are but they wouldn't be appealed to by this as it relates to what culture tells us when it comes to modesty or really when it comes to attracting someone the message is that you use your body as bait you use how you dress you shake what your mama gave you you dress in a certain way that shows off your lady humps you you put your biceps out there and you show the girls where it's at here's the danger in that whatever you use as bait is going to determine what you catch if you want to catch a bass use those things you want to catch a dumb bass you use your body i'm just talking about fish man [Applause] if you want to catch somebody who is a body snatcher that they want you for your body then you should use your body you should pose post more yoga pics of you doing yoga you should post more pictures of you and crop tops in those biker shorts you should be more seductive you should do everything you can out in public right right now this is not meant to put shame i'm saying i'm literally just giving you advice if you want to catch somebody that wants you for your body then you should go full sin in that direction but if you want to catch a godly guy or a godly girl let me give you the honest facts you come in and you're wearing you know beyonce's super bowl outfit from two years ago every guy in the room is going to think you're attractive godly guys will not be attracted to you they may struggle with lustful thoughts about you but they will not be attracted to you because the godly guy does what the godly guy is attracted to the things that god is attracted to just like a godly girl is attracted to the things that god is attracted to what is god attracted to in first samuel chapter 16 it says this do not look at the outward appearance for the lord does not see as man sees man looks on the outward appearance but the lord looks at the heart the lord looks at what's inside of a person that's what makes them attractive their heart their character this is what a godly guy looks for and when i say hey godly guys you're there if you come dressed in that way you're going to catch the attention of men who are like wow but the people who are going to be drawn in and bite onto that bait are not going to be the godly men that you want or the godly women that you want they're going to be people who want you for your body you know the danger if you catch a guy from your body or catch a god for your body you catch for your boobs catch from your leg gap you will lose him for someone else with better boobs better leg gap better butt more fit younger because you caught a body snatcher that's what you did you baited you use the bait i'm gonna catch somebody that doesn't care about what's on the inside like god does he cares about what's on the outside so the moment he finds something better on the outside he's moving on and god and i i think most of us are your heart of hearts you don't want to be somebody who just attracts somebody based on the superficial characteristics that's why you ended up gotten got a man the danger further is that and this is where like canada my heart breaks for the women in the room as a dad of a daughter my heart on this issue has only become more concerned and more heartbroken of all the different temptations the things that candidly the women in this room and men have challenges temptations as well but from an early age all the different messages about what's beautiful and what you need to look like and how you should be thinner and how you should be skinnier and how you should physically display yourself and nuance and show off your curves and show off different accentuate parts of your body and how dangerous that is if that's at the centerpiece of your relationship if that's ultimately the reason why you attracted that person specifically for women because do you know the standard of beauty for men and women as they age varies dramatically in other words the average age of what a woman when she's 22 is attracted to and a woman when she's 42 and attracted to and 52 and attracted to is very very different than what a man when he's 25 and attracted to 35 and attracted to 45 and attracted to the average man in fact let me show you here's the chart of a woman a woman's average age of attraction so this is if you're 22 on the left all those numbers represent the age of the woman so she's 26 she's attracted to 27 year old on average she's 29 29 year old 33 32 year old 39 38 year old 44 she gets a little crazy goes for the 40 year old 50 46 it just generally speaking follows that's why your mom is like oh my gosh george clooney oh george george but most you girls would be like a man sean mendes is way more attractive than he is let me show you the mail chart boom yeah it's pretty shocking why this really matters one it shows how much more shallow guys are number two the average guy if you attract and bait with the average guy or even the average girl out there you want to find somebody who doesn't just love you for your physical characteristics or attraction but that you can take that down but they are attracted to your character like god is god says that you and i look for other people or spouses of noble character because unlike beauty all of that is going away gravity wins on everybody nobody beats gravity even even the 57 year old who's botoxed to the roof doesn't beat gravity she just looks like she can't stop smiling and so you want to make sure in this stage of life next to who you're going to worship as your god who is going to be your master in life who's going to be your mate that you run with is one of the most important decisions you make and you want to make sure that it's not a relationship that's built that starts that's initiated by you baiting with your body second reason why modesty is not hottest but it's better is modesty reveals your dignity it says something about you when you decide i'm gonna dress modestly like i'm aware i'm thoughtful i'm not frumpy not ugly not unstylish i'm classy i reveal my dignity first peter chapter three says this your beauty should not come from outward adornment such as elaborate hairstyles wearing a gold jewelry fine clothes not that those things are a problem that's just not where you should find your beauty your worth rather it should come from your inner self from the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is of great worth in god's sight it should come from inside this is the way holy women of the past put their hope in god used to dress or adorn themselves let me read that verse in esv it's another translation it says let your adorning come from the hidden person of the heart with the imperial beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is precious and gasping that you are a person you don't dress in order to accentuate a part of your body you're so much more than a body part you're a person you're made in the image of god you have no idea how of a measurable worth you are and accentuating your butt your boobs your biceps any of that stuff in order to get the attention of a person belittles you down to a handful of hearts you're a person and peter says your beauty should reveal or modesty reveals the dignity that you have for those of us who believe especially as a child of god of the king maybe the best way of putting modesty is modesty is not about hiding your body that's typically what people think it is about revealing your dignity modesty is not about hiding your body covering up it is about revealing your dignity that you're a person you're not a part of some parts or an object to be used there was a princeton study that was done that guardian wrote about where it basically says this it links to the fact that there's an association that happens and this is really important girls and this is science saying something happens when a person is seen and either an outfit or scandal clad or is immodest and here's what they wrote this from princeton university in a princeton study male students were shown images of women they did not know that were scandily clad underwear mid-drift bikini brain scans were done as they saw them that revealed when looking at the pictures the section of the male brain that responds to tools like hammers and wrenches lit up scans of some of the men found that a part of the brain associated with empathy or concern for other people's emotions went completely dark after looking at the pictures the lack of activation susan fist the psychologist at princeton in this area is really odd because it hardly ever happens it's as if they are reacting to women as though they are not fully human it's consistent with the idea that they're responding to these photographs as if they were responding to objects not people what is it what's the princess study saying it's saying hey when we show these pictures of images of women and they were not fully clothed in all the way that would be modest it activated something in the male brain and it shut something else down where it began to see the person they were looking at not as a person but as an object to use there's a really tragic movement right now that has attached itself to some really positive things like women's empowerment and go women which we are all about god made you uniquely you beautifully in the image of god you are a queen sister but it is attached itself to a freedom you can't tell me what to do my body my choice you want any right i'm gonna do whatever i want dress however i want i'll go out naked if i want to which is ironically in an ironic twist under the name of power that i can do whatever i want it's exercising power but the power princeton university says after studying that power is to shut down a male's ability to see you as a person and become an object ironically the exact opposite of what would actually empower women that i'm i'm more than just some breasts in a body i'm a person and our culture rages on about man you should do whatever you want just however you want it is empowering to see beyonce get up and do what she does it is empowering to see cardi b get up and do that it's powerful in all the most destructive ways modesty reveals your dignity to those in the room i know there's part of us candidly honestly when you hear about like oh man a scene as an object lusted after there's something in you that's like i kind of want that i just want you to ask the question why am i telling you that what you wear and you can't wear something no i'm saying you're so much bigger than what you wear you're a person you have dignity you're made in the image of god and maybe you're trying to fill some hole because you didn't have a strong father figure that was around in your life you didn't have somebody that called you beautiful so there's something inside of it just craves you know the attention because it makes you feel beautiful and it's leading you to look for affirmation that candidly you can feed and you can post pictures you can go on instagram today post the whole butt picture do whatever you want and you know what you're going to get you're going to get attention from men you're going to get that itch scratched but that itch isn't going away it's going to come back and come back and lead to cycles of insecurity and need for approval and need for attention all in the name of trying to fill some void some emptiness and the guy who's going to give that attention he doesn't care about you what's going on in his brain right there is object to use object to use object to use you are so much more valuable than that a friend of mine was he's a graphic designer and he was certain kind of a side he works full-time as a graphic designer and he was starting his own private company and we went to lunch and i was catching up with him and i asked him how stuff was going and he had just started it and i asked him what do you charge what he charged per hour and what he charged was like so low i was like dude you're worth so much more than that you totally need to charge more than that people one will pay it and two you are worth way more than what you're charging per hour to do graphic design for things don't sell yourself short to every person in the room who is using their body giving themselves away putting themselves out there trying to get attention you are worth so much more than that you were so much more than the fleeting attention of some dumb bass guys that yeah they'll give it to you and they want to see it thank you you are worth the very life of jesus on the cross and everything that i'm saying may not be enough and i just want you to examine your heart and ask yourself because remember modesty's that matter of the heart why and maybe the most godly thing you could do tonight is go it's not enough i'm not enough i find who i am and what other people think about me i find who i am and what other people say about how i look i find who i am and getting attention from people girls and guys and that would be the most positive step you could take because you can't change and you can't face or you can't fight what you're not willing to face so second reason is it reveals your dignity and reason number three the reason modesty is better is because of who it attracts it attracts the right people reason number two and that it reveals your dignity and that modesty number three honors god by serving others modesty honors god by serving other people you may not know this and be aware but the bible says that you and if you're a christian this is only the christians by the way there is something far more important if you're not following jesus that you understand and that you learn than how you dress whatever you came in but as it relates to christians the bible says you and i are connected and to be aware and to be thoughtful about how we interact and how our actions impact other people around us in first corinthians eight it says this be careful this is first corinthians eight verse eight that the exercise of your rights hey i'm free i can do anything nobody can tell me what to do be careful that that exercise of rights does not become a stumbling block or cause other people to stumble to sin stumbling block to the weak one of the ways that modesty and dressing modestly and being thoughtful about why am i wearing what i'm wearing is what i'm wearing honoring to god what is what i'm wearing communicating is that it serves other people around us how does it serve other people honestly it serves both sexes here we live in this weird environment and culture where social media makes everything this constant comparison game and one thing that we as christians to do is not feed into it where i'm gonna make sure that i'm not putting a thirst trap out there for other people to post on and tag on and and you're gonna get comments from people that are going to be positive like oh man that body though but it is feeding into this comparison insecurity constantly evaluating and comparing myself and then you know i i need to go home make sure that i post this picture of me on the beach with my girls from up top and it's not serving other people in one way that you and i can say i'm just not going to feed into that i'm not going to be doing tick tock videos in my underwear running around trying to get attention from people that's a thing okay i think it's a thing i don't know honestly but if it is a thing if it's your thing maybe worth evaluating but one way it does is it serves others it serves the opposite sex by not being a stumbling block and this is really really tender so let me try to be as careful as i can because it can be really challenging a lot of times when this comes up it's like hey it ain't my problem if he lusting over this okay i could wear a burlap sack and he'd be like oh girl where you get that burl up from it's not that's his problem being an astronaut suit and he'd be like hey girl where you at astronaut fact that is correct that is his problem that is somebody's sin and the decision to give into that sexual temptation or to lust after somebody else that is their own problem we talk a lot about that issue all around here but the bible says that you and i are to be thoughtful to not put a stumbling block in front of somebody else to not put a stumbling block in front of a brother in christ or a sister in christ the decisions that we wear and the response of hey well it's my body i can do whatever i want with it that is right unless you're a christian first corinthians chapter 6 says this about the idea of whose body it is you are not your own you were bought at a price that price was jesus on the cross therefore honor god with your bodies you remember cain and abel one of the very first sins of humanity was a story cain and abel genesis chapter 4 early in the game straight out the gate first two kids on the planet things didn't go well because 10 minutes in cain kills abel god shows up to cain says where's your brother and cain says what am i my brother's keeper and the response was yes you have a responsibility and i have a responsibility to do this inside of our life so one of the ways that modesty is better is that it serves god and honors other people around us i i think one of the challenges of this issue is it can only just to be really real when sin entered the world everything fractured every person in this room every person who's ever lived has a sin nature things are not as they're supposed to be our thoughts are not as they're supposed to be our heart is not as it's supposed to be because we have something called a sin nature which means sin comes naturally to us that's what happened when sin into the world the male brain as it relates to lust and i'm sharing this not to create anything other than a better understanding where i think there is a bit of a gap as it relates to a woman when you walk in the room and you're wearing your workout clothes and there's a mid-drift and you think oh my gosh matching so cute he's not thinking that he's thinking if he's a godly guy he's thinking oh my gosh i do not want to look at that i do not want to look at that i do not want to look at that because i'm going to picture her naked and part of me will think through or could lead to thoughts of having sex with her it's just it's easy to go there i was talking with some of our team earlier today and um you know we had i was mentioning the bikini thing where honestly this further is just like confusing and breaking my heart where on the label it's like something cheeky about like the level of cheekiness i was like there's levels of cheekiness and this led to oh yeah i went to the store and there was a mannequin display of like cheekiness levels what would go through and one of the other guys responding to this guy saying that was like dude you should be looking at those mannequins like that if you're a girl in the room you're thinking what is wrong it's a mannequin if you're a guy you're like yeah i got that get that yep i connect those dots there's just something when sin entered that broke and it's not right and godly men fight it surrender to the spirit they pursue purity and they prioritize intimacy and sex inside of the context of marriage but you have to understand the visual aspect of men partly in order to just love your brother and understand it and know that they live in here's what you don't know about men we live in a world where pornography for most of us was introduced at least for me at age 12. it was introduced at such a young age and that brokenness gets attached to it we live in a world where we can't drive around and you know all that visualness and you're like yeah i like visual too it's not the same for most psychological studies even show the sexual drive of men and women is very very different i don't have time to go into all of that right now but you live in a world where every man around you the ability to have a woman in lingerie and the moment that he sees her be the very first time that he's ever seen her be their wedding night was taken from him he can't drive down the street or drive down the road without seeing a billboard with that he can't watch the super bowl without seeing janet jackson's exposed all of that was taken same thing was taken away from women in this room i mean imagine a world where the very first time you ever saw someone naked of the opposite sex was your wedding night not even like you never saw a bikini ever so laundry anything be and that's sin of the world and it's fractured everything and as christians we can just decide that you know we're going to feed into it and contribute it and be okay with it and go along with it or we can say i am worth so much more than my body i'm a person i'm not going to feed into that i don't need that to feed inside of me and the parts of me that candidly i kind of do want it to feed you know and i want to feel attracted and desired i want to surrender those to god confess those to people around me because i'm going to honor god by serving other people around me other people if you're listening this isn't just about guys and it's not about girls because guys can be just as guilty and just as unaware of walking around with your shirt off or posting a picture shirtless with sunglasses being like check out my new sunglasses and it's like bro yeah thirst trap man that's your thirst strap this is exactly what you're doing but christians the command that jesus said would be the criteria or the quality that would mark us this is how you'll know you're my followers john 13 said by this one thing the whole world will know that you're my followers that you love one another in romans chapter 13 i'm about to end the land the plane paul wrote something that i think is such a beautiful way of putting it where he he talks about how christians should interact with each other and here's what he says romans 13 verse 7 let no debt remain outstanding in other words pay off every debt accept the continuing debt to love one another for whoever loves has fulfilled the law the commandments you shall not commit adultery shout out murder shall not steal covet whatever other commands you could find are summed up in this one command love your neighbor as yourself love does no harm to a neighbor therefore love is the moment fulfillment of the law as we wrap up i just want you to think about why do you wear what you wear when you get dressed tomorrow about why am i going to wear what i wear why am i posting what i'm posting is it to draw attention to myself is it to draw attention or to get some affirmation that i just feel like there's such a hole or is it to honor god to reveal my dignity whose i am and who i am in conclusion modest isn't hottest it's holy and it's better because it attracts the right people it reveals your dignity and it honors god by serving other people around you there's a show my wife and i have been watching called the crown and it's a it's like it's a show about the british royal family and it's a fascinating kind of show because queen elizabeth who's a queen right now has been queen for like 10 000 years and it goes all the way back to when she was a high scorer or yeah a high schooler and it goes up through today essentially or it will inside of the royal family it's really interesting because um one of the designations i didn't realize this but you know every member of the royal family has a crown in other words when you go to a wedding you know a banquet you go to a state event one of the ways you can know this person is a royal this person is not is they have a crown based on what they wear you know who they are based on what they wear you can just see if they're a royal what's further interesting about the royal family is it's all pretend i i know we think like no it's not like harry they just had a baby yeah it's all pretend they don't have any authority they're mascots they don't have any legislative law they don't even have any ability to hey you know what we're changing this whole thing parliament and you're done they're mascots they're all based on the opinion of people assuming like oh you're a royal it's pretend and all these ancient etiquettes and all that stuff it's cool and it's it's um you know some ways kind of historically poetic but it's pretend there's nothing special about the royal blood in fact the families not even english they changed their name to the house of windsor from sax gotha because it sounded too german in the war and they were like german's not a great look right now let's change it from the blood of the english heritage it says pretend you know what's not pretend or infinitely more true if you were a christian this is not cliche you are a daughter of god you are a son of the king of kings the royal blood of christ has both covered you and the dna of god almighty runs through your spiritual veins you are a part and have been adopted into the family of god there's no title there is no job there is no honor you could hold that will be higher than that unlike a pretend king of england you were a royal and you could tell what a royal is by what they wear in galatians chapter four says this at the right time god sent his son born of a woman and jesus came to buy freedom for those of us who are slaves to the law so that he could adopt us as his very own children and because we're god's children he sent the spirit of his son into our hearts calling us the crowd abba which means dad father and now you're no longer a slave but god's own child and since you're his child he's made you an heir so often we post things because we want to be wanted we want to be chosen we wear things because we want attention we want to be chosen we want to be wanted and the truth behind that lie is you already have been if you are a follower of christ you have been chosen i've got a two and a half-year-old daughter here's a picture of her from today her mom went picking berries she's the best she's about to be three we call her her name's monroe she's a firecracker we call her momo and she is gonna be a handful for the rest of her life already she's obsessed with shoes with pink with clothes like i mean a girl has some opinions here's what i want for her so desperately i want her to know that no matter what she does in life no matter what she looks like who she marries who she dates that she is of such extraordinary value of incredible dignity because she was made in the image of god she was so valuable to god that he would give his life on the cross for her that he would go to that cross and he would pay for every sin that she's ever committed everything that she will ever do and die in her place she has been chosen and that in accepting that she's adopted into the royal family of god the only royal family there is and she doesn't need to look to men and my heart breaks because i know that i can't protect her from all the temptations and all the different lies and all the different identity problems and all the different insecurities that are going to come for her but i pray that when she does she will do what you do which is cling to because of what christ did i am a daughter of the king i am chosen i'm forgiven i'm not going to settle for any man who treats me less than that how long are you to give yourself over to guys who are jerks they want you for your body they want you for sex or girls on the flip side guys how long are you going to give yourself over to settling for somebody who doesn't have the characteristics of a godly woman you are worth so much more than that and i hope she knows modest isn't hottest it is holy and it is better and it leads to life let me pray father i do pray for protection i just i want to pray for every person in this room who they feel like they are damaged goods they feel like their value comes from how they look they've been told messages maybe from people who said they were christians maybe from parents who said you know you really need to cut back on what you eat or you shouldn't look this way you need to change i pray that you would be louder right now would you bury into our minds the truth that we through christ we are children of god almighty we are a part of the only royal line there is and ever will be and we would live and carry ourselves as such we wouldn't settle we wouldn't allow we wouldn't tolerate being treated as such or living as anything less than that i pray for every girl in this room who fights thousands of lies that i may not even be aware of i probably never will fully understand that you would fill them with strength clothe them with strength and honor like you say in the proverbs and they would be godly god-fearing women who end up marrying godly god-fearing husbands and be godly parents together and we would raise up a generation who doesn't find our worth and how we look but who we worship we worship you in song amen

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Id: 84JI8BDPk7c

Length: 45min 50sec (2750 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 09 2021