Men - The forgotten gender | Deepika Bhardwaj | TEDxIIFTDelhi
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Length: 19min 0sec (1140 seconds)
Published: Wed Feb 25 2015
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If people fighting for equal rights (as opposed to equality) would be more pragmatic about gender there wouldn't be as much hypocrisy when addressing the issue.
Similar thing happened to my uncle in india, his first wife claimed domestic violence. He eventually came out innocent after a long case, and is now married to the lawyer who helped defend him.
A non-white woman arguing on behalf of men... checkmate feminists.
A friend of mine was married with 3 kids and his wife had an affair... Not once but 4 times. He forgave her 4 times and they tried again, when she did it for the fifth time he got the hint and they separated. Even though she was the unfaithful partner she got the house and custody of the kids. He on the other hand lost his home and had to pay her so much for the kids that he couldn't afford to keep his job (he was a policeman), she on the other hand had his money for the kids coming in and her new live in partner was working as well. He ended up on benefits ( he lives in uk don't know if it's same in the states). My point is that men ARE the forgotten gender, the law is heavily on the woman's side 99.9% of the time. If you are a man then often times you are the one being discriminated against!
"Now because I told you in the beginning whatever I'll have to talk about I'll have to give a lot of evidence for. Because we are talking about men. When talking about women we don't really need to give evidence."
I don't think I have ever heard this sentiment worded quite so perfectly. I wish evidence helped. I personally believe that the figures that women make 23% less than men for the same work and that 1/5 women are sexually assaulted in the US are nothing more than misrepresentations of studies that we're cherry picked because they present findings at a much higher point than other similar studies. The studies are literally outliers that stand out from the majority of other studies finding. Every single time I have brought this up I've been attacked personally, yelled at, or mocked for reading or knowing specific studies. I have a career in the social work field and am finishing my degree in psychological science but ALWAYS when voicing that I even question this type of shit I'm "that guy" and the issue gets laughed aside, the subject is awkwardly changed, and I'm getting looked at like I'm a fanatic with a sandwich-board.
But when my colleagues have anything to say about how hard women have it or how privileged I am to be male it's feminism and the person is SO BRAVE.
62% upvoted.....
Let the asshurt games begin.
You still couldn't get away with saying that about affirmative action
...if any of you know anything about the history of women in India, dowry laws, or the dowry prohibition act, you would know that what this woman is saying is very far from representative of Indian marital problems. The law she is talking about that makes it hard for men to win court cases is the anti dowry act, which prohibits men from requiring money from the wife's family when married so that the husband wouldn't just kill or torture his wife if she didn't satisfy him, (yes, that happens) and these payments were known as dowry. It should disturb you enough that the dowry laws seemed necessary to any people in the first place, but they existed in nearly every culture.
The anti-dowry laws are beneficial, as many poor families in India couldn't pay dowry, and so subsequent harassing, torture, and extortion of the wife and her family was (theoretically) eliminated (that doesn't mean it still doesn't happen). In fact, in 2010, there were 8,391 dowry related deaths or suicides, even with the act; all women.
The laws that this woman is talking about, yes, while not perfect and criticized by men's rights groups, are for women's protection and representation, and are long standing laws that originated in the 1961 and have been scrutinized and challenged by India's lawmakers. And honestly in my opinion, requiring dowry is incredibly insulting on top of dangerous. It is unfortunate that these individual men may have been abused and committed suicide, but I fear the perspective she is giving in this talk is narrow and unrepresentative of the whole issue, and takes advantage of many people's ignorance to India's abuse and abuse history. This unfortunately has triggered only a reactionary response judging from the reddit and YouTube comments. Just want to make sure the reaction is valid, because by what I'm seeing, it's not. I'm a man.
what is a dowry case? I don't understand dowry and how it works legally.