Martha Beck: The Way of Integrity & Why You Should STOP Doing What You’re “Supposed to”

if you decide that you're going to turn your life in the direction of what you yearn for you may or may not get what you want but you always get the things you really in your heart know aren't meant to be yours and they express themselves as yearning hey it's marie forleo and welcome to another episode of marietv and the marie forleo podcast i am so excited about today's episode if you ever feel like you're just not living a life that is true to you my goodness my guest today has literally written the book on how to get yourself back on track dr martha beck is a new york times bestselling author life coach and speaker she holds three harvard degrees and ms oprah winfrey has called her one of the smartest women i know martha is known for her unique combination of science humor and spirituality her latest book the way of integrity finding the path to your true self is available now martha beck oh my goodness this has been such a long time coming like right now i gave you an air hug air hug big air hug and i i said this in the opening but i want to reiterate it so for everyone watching right now i was just telling martha before we began recording recording that this book shook me in the best ways i have so many underlines so many highlights and martha i talked with josh i talked with my best friends like it sparked so many real important healing conversations so i'm excited to dig into this with you but i'm even more excited for everyone in our audience to get this book and most importantly do this book i think again i know i'm just kind of going at it right now but one of the gajillion things i admire about what you did with this masterpiece is how actionable it is and you know we we know each other through our friends like i am the the queen of like insight into action like insight is amazing and we love inspiration but like how do we make it real in our own lives and you've given right this beautiful fun funny science rich road map so um let's talk about what inspired you to write this book in the intro you say integrity is the cure for unhappiness period and i was like boom i know tell me about this 30 years of doing this stuff and i finally like boiled it down to one thing which and integrity by the way it's not a moralizing word it's kind of like i compare it to an airplane being in structural integrity so when everything in your life is working together so your mind your heart your body and your soul are all in alignment and you're just one thing i realize there is no suffering at that point and i've been obsessed with stories of awakening and enlightenment from all over the world in all periods of history and in particular i got obsessed with dante who i think was talking about the same thing and you reach a point if you go into your own integrity deeply enough that there is nothing else left to do and i just did it to be honest but it ended up being magical it ended up being transformative and and it ended up being the answer to unhappiness i felt it so deeply you wrote this too out of all of the strategies and skills that i've ever learned the ones that actually work are the ones that help people see where they've abandoned their own sense of truth and followed some other set of direction directions right martha i felt like you were like preaching to the choir with me when i was younger i had always felt um different and like i didn't quite fit in to the cultural narratives that i grew up with like just base level stuff like i remember as a young girl and also as a teenager and a young adult like when are you gonna get married when you're gonna have kids you know and i and i would always like i'm not i don't want them and people you know it was just for years and now i'm in my 40s and people have stopped asking thank god but it's just this notion of following some other set of directives how often do we do this it's it's everywhere isn't it constantly yeah well you you correctly named it as the cultural archetypes around you the cultural pressures and i don't mean culture as an art i mean uh i'm a sociologist so terence mckenna said whenever there are two people in a room culture is the third guest at the table so you and i having just met are already setting up a cultural norm to help us communicate and cooperate and that's great as long as culture matches nature so if we're born into our true nature and from the moment we're born i mean literally from birth we start absorbing social messages about how our nature needs to be modified to fit in with our culture and as long as the two go together then we're in integrity it's just one thing but when the pressures just to follow culture which are universal for humans when those split off even the tiniest bit from our true nature we tend to sell out our nature hard we go straight for the culture we want to please everyone you're so rare and having been able to tell people no i don't want that most people would have caved in yeah it is um i think part of and i don't know this this is just me making stuff up or just listening to what i hear from the inside but i've always felt like one of my gifts on the planet it's not that i know anything it's just that i've been given this ability to hear my intuition and again we were talking about this before we hit the record button i was telling you with integrity for me the moment i step outside of it or i'm in a situation that is not aligned with whatever my truth is my body starts to fail i start to get sick headaches i mean it's how i knew i needed to leave wall street when i was on wall street and thought that that was going to be like my career on the new york stock exchange i had a panic attack and couldn't breathe on the floor and it was like i was totally fine but wow this thing wasn't and every single point in my career so that's why i get so like for everyone listening i don't mean to talk about myself but i'm so pumped up about this idea because i talk about yourself we care why do you think we're watching this i love you but it's just because this is nothing we're taught in school and martha the whole reason i even became a coach was because as i started to discover these ideas concepts practices around personal development i was like why are we not learning this in school like why when teaching us this in this whole notion of the split between our nature and culture and the devastating impacts that has on us physically emotionally and spiritually mentally it's like you've got it all the way i mean you say you've been given the the gift of intuition but actually everyone has it yes you just everyone has access to their intuition you and i have an additional advantage in that our bodies cave very badly when we are off our truth so you know everybody does this so this is why polygraph machines work the second we leave our truth our immune system function goes down our heart rate goes up our adrenaline goes up all the stress hormones increase and the moment we go back to telling the truth everything starts to settle in they did this one study where people just agreed not to lie quite as much for like three weeks and they didn't even like police it they just said try not to lie so much after three weeks the people who just reduced lying a little bit had better health better relationships their jobs were going better everything was going better because they just stopped lying a little bit and i don't mean lying like you're trying to deceive people for an evil reason every time someone says are you okay and you say sure and you're not that's a lie yeah you know yes and so and we lie with our actions and everything yeah and and i was noticing that for myself too and uh my mom is a really unique special character and one of the things i admire about her so much is she is so blunt with how she feels and what's going on you know what i mean in the moment and i'm always like i love that it may be really sharp and it might not feel good for a second but you always know where she stands and it's right i have a i have a daughter like that yeah yeah and it's kind of like i so appreciate her for that like there have been times in my life even like wanting this notion of what my relationship should be with my mom and how we should be towards each other and she should want to take me you know we should want to go do brunch and i was like i don't care about that i don't want to no oh thank god thank god she sent you that example and look what you've done with so i want to go back to dante's divine comedy i it's such a beautiful framework for this journey that you take us on you have said dante's divine comedy might be the first great self-help book ever can for anyone who's unfamiliar um with this beautiful masterpiece tell us more well i my very first self-help book finding your own north star starts with a quote supposedly from dan age 35 and it's like right in the middle of my life i just realized i was completely lost i had no idea how i'd gotten here and i couldn't find my way out and i quoted dan because that was dante at age 35 which was midlife in 1320 when he was writing and i thought oh that's me i mean i read it when i was what 18 19 years old and at that point still at this point i read everything as self-help because i have to it's like help me so then he describes how you know he tries to climb this mountain to get out of this dark awful forest he's stuck in and he can't make it he can't get up where the other people look so happy and then he runs into a guide who says in your case you have to go through hell to get to paradise and he goes into the inferno and the thing that really struck me was he goes down and down things get worse and worse and it was just like therapy for me i was in therapy at 18. as in as maybe a little balanced wanting to kill myself and he talks about going down down down to the center of the earth where there's a monster satan or locked in ice and his guy tells him you have to keep going down and he's like there is no down from here and virgil his guide says no there is and he has to climb on the body of the monster and when he gets right to the center he finds himself having to turn around to keep climbing because having passed the center of the earth what was down has become up and the last lines of the inferno are like there's this whole nightmare getting down to the bottom and then it's like and then we went up and once again beheld the stars and i'm like that's what i'm doing okay and then he has to climb this mountain called purgatory where he has to take all the new truths he's learned he's gotten free of his demons from hell but now he has to learn to walk his talk which is where you are so brilliant at helping people walk the talk and so many people talk to talk and not walk it if you walk your talk all the way to integrity you get to a place called paradise which i believe was dante actually having an awakening experience in asia it's called awakening we now know that it is a measurable effect of the brain that can be seen and and toward which we are biologically compelled so dante's journey and all the metaphors in it i think he was saying here's the a metaphorical road map of what i did now you come you come do it too and you'll see so many and you see yeah you see and i just loved how you built that in as you know someone who again obsessed with personal development and self-growth and and love reading all the books i just also want to admire and appreciate you for the artistry that you bring to this journey because you know it and again i'm i'm always happy to learn people have great information i'm so happy to receive it but when it is delivered in this artful way that takes you on a mysterious adventure it just all for me um sticks that much deeper in the lost in the woods section you share the most common reason people feel lost is because we're doing what we're supposed to even after doing everything we can to be good we don't feel good and the reason i wanted to highlight that is because it is such a common refrain and and so many emails and video messages that we receive from our audience that i've gone through at so many different stages of my life that i talked to friends about of just you know folks have things maybe sometimes kind of together or it seems like it's together they're doing what they're supposed to do but they feel absolutely awful inside so i don't know if there's anything that you want to expound upon in terms of this lost in the wood stage yeah we do we in my view what happens is we have our true nature and then we sacrifice that for our culture and at that point it's the split between our truth and what we think is true that's so confusing but let me explain it this way when i'm when i used to speak to groups back when groups were a thing um i'd stop in the middle of a speech and just say is everybody comfortable and they'd say yes and i'd be like no no seriously are you comfortable they were like yeah move on really comfortable yes okay so how many of you if you were home by yourself now would be in the position you're in at this moment and not a hand goes up and then i'd say why not and they would sit there like these really bright people are going man figure and then somebody in about five minutes goes oh wait this isn't all that comfortable and the the problem is not that they're a little uncomfortable because that's tolerable the problem is that they feel uncomfortable the body knows every non-mental part knows and the mind absolutely believes that they are comfortable so what happens if you push that far enough is that the discomfort just gets bigger and bigger and at the same time everything is the way it should be so if you watch the like oprah's interview with meghan markle what could be a more dream come true existence than that and she was miserable so everybody thinks that they're feeling miserable because they haven't achieved enough and in dante he calls it mount delectable you climb up this delectable mountain but look at the people who really have achieved and you've probably coached many of them i've coached some it has nothing to do your your circumstances in society have nothing to do with happiness the only thing that has to do with happiness is how closely are you adhering to what you know at the deepest level is true and right for you that's it and the whole culture says otherwise but your life will tell you the truth yeah and i love these symptoms you know for for people again tuning in and watching and going i don't know feeling purposeless that's one of the big ones what is my purpose some emotional misery like the brewing of bad moods physical deterioration again i will raise my hand to that if i have been adhering to cultural norms if i've been trying to be the good one overachieving all these things i'm gonna raise my hand too the my body is just like nope can't handle it right consistent failure in relationships consistent failure at work or bad habits you can't break um you also went on to say that feeling bad is a signal that our internal guidance system is working perfectly and i love this imagery you said imagining persistent negative emotions as dante's wild beasts whose job it is to make your life unbearable whenever you stray from your true path martha oh it's just so good it's all happening for us it doesn't happen to us it happens for us as byron katie says every bad mood every illness is there to help and serve us to serve our happiness and i know that sounds glib but i was in chronic pain for 12 years and i still have you know i have to take really good care of my body um and you've been there you know what i'm talking about and every ache and pain every moment of depression was a gift was a a loving signpost saying honey turn and go a different way yeah and i think that's such a great helpful like i just even feel my shoulders release and a sigh of like spaciousness when you say that because i even think in an older kind of framework of personal development you know perhaps it's like oh well if there's something wrong you're not thinking right enough or you know it's just you're not really taking it as a compassionate alarm clock to just step back and go oh things are working exactly as they should but i need to dig a little bit deeper here and see where i'm at alignment um this is also this made me chuckle i love your sense of humor you also write if whatever you're doing isn't working don't do it harder i was like yeah that's definitely been me in the past like oh i gotta do it harder the problem isn't how hard you're working it's that you're working on things that aren't right for you can you say more about that and how we may begin to stop that cycle for those of us who are you know determined to achieve and like work our faces off yeah and it often comes up in terms of of career for us because our culture is so wildly materialistic and the acquisition of status wealth and power is like the that's the golden fleece of our culture right so we tend to just push and push and push that quote actually came from a coach that i trained her name is sonia alar can i say what she she said here's some advice for men who want to do well in the bedroom with their women if what if what you're doing doesn't work don't do it harder [Laughter] so that was her little sex tip for men um and the same thing holds true in in every area of life but in in most of our lives it's that we we're following a set of rules that we think is going to bring status wealth and power or make people love us make people like us and we feel worse and worse and worse so we think i should do more i'm a classic example like i went to harvard when i was 17. this will make me happy this is the top of the pyramid and then it didn't i felt miserable so i was like all right i'll get a masters and that i was still miserable more miserable i must need a phd from harvard i just kept getting more harvard degrees because one of them certainly would make me happy and it wasn't until halfway through my doctorate when i had a child with down syndrome that i kind of went wait wait um this isn't making me happy people with down syndrome that i've met can be incredibly happy i'm not sure passing another test is going to make me feel it took that long i was that stupid it's incredible i loved also too when you were recounting your pregnancy with your son and also just that that experience of watching your mind spin out yeah about what having this child was going to mean for your career yeah for his well-being happiness and dependence like and just that break this is my interpretation of it where you begin to just observe those stories and recognize them they don't have to be true and and you and i are both fans um i don't want to go too far but i but byron katie's the work that has saved my butt so many times continuously right like magic she is the real deal yeah people always sometimes people have asked me like uh when we get into these kind of conversations like you know is enlightenment really real i'm like i think there's only like a handful of people the only two that i've met that um are eckhart tolle and yeah and byron katie i remember seeing eckhart at uh oprah was having like a super soul event and i am a i'm just i'm a huge fan of so many people because i've received so much um benefit from their work and i remember just seeing eckhart totally like rolling up to a bar i'm like this is amazing and he was like just so wonderful and him and he's got such a great sense of humor but do you want to speak any more into that experience when you were carrying your child and you had all of these cultural directives you had your own stories spinning out and then you started to hear a different truth your own inner teacher yeah it was before i i think what's very interesting to me is that my first child who my name catherine and i called katie was born as far as we can tell the day that byron katie woke up on the floor of that house with her enlightenment experience in the halfway house that was the day i gave birth to a daughter and named her katie so there was something hooked into our i don't know our fates are interwoven or something because i i owe her so much but um she hadn't written any books yet and adam my son was my second child and i found out that he had down syndrome when i had two weeks to choose to terminate legally which means the baby's really pretty far along and i am very pro-choice and don't want to shame or diss anyone who makes the opposite choice absolutely go with it if it's your north star do whatever you need to do but i've been having really strange um supernatural experiences psychic experiences from the moment that adam was conceived before i even knew i was pregnant i started having these abilities i could see what was happening to people when they were far away i knew what was going to happen before it happened it really floored me because here i was halfway through my third harvard degree and suddenly i'm psychic like what so then when you all these things happen and then when he was diagnosed there were five doctors on the harvard university health gynecological staff and all of them told me that the only sensible thing was to end the pregnancy and the the most prestigious of them he said it was like having a malignant tumor and he said if you keep this baby you are throwing your life away and i remember looking at him and i was 25 years old and i looked at him and i could see his regular face and then kind of in front of his regular face was the face of the same face but absolutely terrified and i just i looked at him and i thought oh you're so scared and i realized he was trying to get rid of the defective little boy in me because he was afraid of the defective little boy and himself and it was so clear and and everything like that's a byron katie turnaround he's telling me that i'm doing something wrong for me when it's actually he's the one who's scared so he was right you know i did throw my life away i said no i'm not gonna i'm not gonna terminate the pregnancy and it threw away my life but the life i threw away sucked and the life i got back oh my god the life i got back is amazing so i'm a big fan since then of throwing my life away this is why i love you so much um oh my gosh and this was again as i'm telling y'all there are so many incredibly deep insightful powerful what i would call insight to action challenges exercises in martha's book and one of them is from a chapter around culture or nature and it's on page 30 and this great question martha i love this in the quiet of the night what do you yearn for and not want but yearn for and i know it may seem like i keep going back to this but i think this is so important right now i've been doing a lot of thinking a lot of studying a lot of research and a lot of writing particularly around you know the proliferation of these things right we've had these things for quite a while right and i've been fascinated with the impact uh of social email news with here and most importantly with right so can you walk us through the distinction you know uh how we can really detect what might be a a yearning versus right delectable kind of want or culturally induced like brass ring kind of thing it's pretty simple i did it just this morning i was being interviewed by someone who's very like advanced he's a coach he's brilliant and um i said i just said what do you want what what are things you want and he was like i want to get a better apartment i want a better car and all of us want stuff like that i mean i want a hamburger whatever there's nothing wrong with wanting stuff but then if i say in the quiet of the night what do you yearn for i get four answers and i've done this all over the world with the poorest of the poor the richest of the rich everywhere and the four things we yearn for are peace freedom joy and love that's it because that's what we are and every time we split from ourselves it's those four things that are calling us back and really they're just one thing they bond together in what i call the that integrity is when all four of those things are present peace joy freedom and love and nobody yearns for anything else after 30 years of this i'm like that's so bizarre and if you decide that you're going to turn your life in the direction of what you yearn for you may or may not get what you want but you always get the things you really in your heart know aren't meant to be yours and they express themselves as yearning yes and it just feels so good i've always had a clear bell on the freedom bit freedom has always been my highest value but when i was reading uh freedom joy love and peace and peace when i read that again it was another moment of my shoulders relaxing and just this spaciousness opening up and i'm like yeah yes that ring of truth um can i just say that i added to that that the buddha said famously many times wherever you find water you can know if it's the sea because the ocean always tastes of salt and wherever you find enlightenment no matter what form it takes you can recognize it because enlightenment always tastes of freedom always so it might take you into pain it might take you into effort it might take you into loss but it will give you freedom and that's enlightenment um let's talk about walking the walking back the cat self-sacrifice and some eggs and some eggs i thought this was great because self-sabotage this notion of it is something that again we hear uh time and time again in our audience so i just want to leave it to you welcome back to cats eggs i got some pressure to take that out because they're like you don't want to vilify eggs they're and people aren't bad for eating things i'm like dude you have no idea how bad i feel when i eat eggs and my doctor has way of tests in front of me you cannot eat eggs so one day i just went into a diner and i sat down and i was like i had some eggs and i just saw eggs and then i felt horrible and i'm like why do i do that so walking back the cat i love animal metaphors in any shape or form that is actually a phrase from spycraft they really in espionage they use it if an op goes badly and everybody dies they walk back the cat by reversing the situation and they look at it like slice by slice going backward so the one i wrote down was that i'd eaten these eggs and i was sitting there going uh why and i walked it back while i was riding okay i was in some i was actually in liz gilbert's apartment um she'd let me stay there for a while and i was i was cleaning it up and i'd gone to the laundromat and i got the sheets washed and i came back and i got in there was a hot summer day and i i thought so it going backward though sorry i moved forward backward i remember going into the diner okay i was hot i was lit i didn't feel good go back to liz's apartment ugh don't feel good go back to the moment i walked into the apartment i felt pretty good it was a good day i was happy and there was a moment when i said i should say i thought i should sit down and have a cool drink before i clean up and then part of me said no you got to keep going you've got to keep working which is you know that's like one for the ages right who doesn't have that one and i kept working and the moment i broke from my nature which said just sit down for 10 minutes and have a drink and i pushed through it i went off kilter and i started to suffer and i pushed and i pushed and by the time i got to that diner the wild animal of my nature was like you wanna you wanna clean an apartment i want some eggs and then i was like and my nature's going to take that clean an apartment now why don't you so yeah it's that moment that we break from our truth that we need to trace back and and it's always a really clear moment i've done it with hundreds of people walking back the cats so brilliant um let's talk now about once we begin to walk the path of integrity stop telling lies do our best to to really make those little turns and that's where i want to end um actually we won't get there yet um with this it may ruffle some feathers one might think with loved ones or colleagues or entire religions all of the above yes um yeah that pushback can be intense um can you so first if you want to tell us a little bit about your own experience with that and then maybe we get to a piece on on change-back attacks and how yeah yeah so the way you go through hell is you go inside yourself and you find your inner demons and they're all the pieces of yourself that are stuck in false beliefs usually for by accident like they just were taught to believe things like keep working when you don't have to so as you go through the hell you you detach from those you just go okay that one's not true that one's not true that one's not true every time you recognize it as untrue you're free from it and at the end going the same direction you come out and then you have to climb the mountain of purgatory so now you know what's true inside but now you have to begin living what's true on the outside and without exception we are all abandoning our true nature to serve some version of culture so in my case i was born and raised in one of the mormonist families in the mormonist town in the mormonist state in the union i will not tell you what it was i'm going to keep it incognito but and one of the things that happened when i was 29 i had read the truth will set you free so i was like okay i am not going to tell a single lie in the coming year and i was at a new year's eve party with a bunch of mormon friends and they all just went pale and just went don't do that and they were right because that year was the year i just decided i don't mormon isn't it's not me i'm sorry i just it does not work for me and my family was very like central to the church and there had been abuse involved and that all came up and uh i didn't make i wrote a book about it ten years later i didn't fuss about it then but i immediately all my relationships started cutting off i got death threats i got oh and i figured out i was gay also yeah so the three great enemies of the mormon church in the latter days this is what the president the prophet said that year the three enemies of the church were intellectuals feminists and gay people and i was like oh boy three strikes oops i'm satan who knew um so yeah the pushback was absolutely monumental and they people really um they pulled out all the stops shaming downright abuse physical threats and it felt so free to let my mind out of that trap you know that enlightenment taste of freedom and it was like pow and i literally didn't care if i was killed i thought it would be when i wrote about it i genuinely thought i'd be killed and i got a lot of threats credible threats um and you know what i figured out it's better to die telling your truth than to live without it and i really physically faced that and i can tell you for sure nothing is worth giving up your integrity nothing thank you for that and again for those of you you gotta get this because martha goes i mean you have so many books that go into so many different aspects of your life but this one is the one we're focused on right now and uh your stories in there are amazing let's wrap up with something that you wrote on page 225 you said positive transformation happens more quickly when we do it in small steps rather than heroic leaps can you tell us more about the power of one degree turns yeah i mean i use the metaphor of an airplane periodically in this book and one thing i say is if you're on a long flight like 10 000 miles and every half hour the plane turns to the right by one degree it's never going to feel like the plane is turning very far but you'll end up in a completely different place right another metaphor i like to use is things called trim tabs on these have you ever been on one of those huge ocean light liners that are like the size of a city block they are massive they're so big that the rudders if they had a rudder big enough to to turn the ship it would sink it so they have to have a smaller rudder and on the back of the rudder which is pretty big are these tiny little things called trim tabs and they're only like six inches wide and when the captain turns the wheel what turns is the trim tab not the whole rudder the trim tab changes the water pressure and then it allows the whole rudder to turn and then that massive ship turns around it so if we can just make a trim tab change just a one degree change today tomorrow the next day you know like glennon doyle says to build her massive empire what she did was press send every day for you know however long it took and it was never a big action you never take a big action the journey of the thousand miles begins beneath your feet and it's always beneath your feet it's always just one step sometimes that step is off a cliff but it's still just one step and there's a ton of research to show that small changes work better than large changes large changes tend to fail small accumulated changes are the bomb they were well they're so much fun i've been doing this in my own life i've given myself a few challenges recently that are not big in nature but they're so exciting like one of my um one of the things that i'm just enthralled with is gently learning italian so i'm of italian descent and so i have like four different um language learning apps on my phone and i martha i have so much fun in my 10 to like 15 minutes a day and it's not it's not like a ton like oh i have to cram everything but it's like so joyful and after a couple hundred days of a streak i'm like i'm i can hear myself starting to think and identify things in a new language yeah so but just it's like i love this notion it's just one degree just one degree one degree turn towards your truth one degree turn towards coming back to wholeness and i also love the analogy too of airplanes from the beginning like you don't really personalize it it's just physics it's physics yeah things aren't aligned they're not going to work and you don't have to take it so personally it's like no it's physics right nobody's mad at you it just won't work if you're out in the in the forest trying to build fire with two sticks and you do it wrong mother nature doesn't come say oh you bad child you got a d-minus it just doesn't work and when you get it right mother nature is not saying you're a goddess it just you just get fire it just it's just physics my goodness is there anything of this has been such a joy i cannot wait until the world comes to a place where we're going to get to hang out in in person and talk even more but as we wrap up is there anything else about the message of this book what you hope people get from it anything else that you want to share before we wrap up today it's just a word of encouragement no matter how miserable you are no matter no matter how far you think you've strayed from whatever your true path should be it is waiting right inside you and the moment you say i'm going i'm going to trust myself i'm going to follow my truth immediately the healing begins in your body in your psyche in everything around you it's that fast martha beck you are a treasure thank you so much for taking the time today congratulations on this new book and for everybody watching get yourself your friends your family a copy of the way of integrity today now martha and i would love to hear from you so i'm so curious we talked about so many good things today what's the one insight that you're taking away from this conversation and most importantly how are you going to put that insight into action starting right now leave a comment below and let us know now as always the best conversations happen over the magical land of 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