Love Me - Mail Order Brides (documentary)

that's here's a very simple question but what is it mom people try to define that for the longest time well this one you can look in each other's eyes and just know they're gonna she's gonna be there for you it's that feeling of I can't I can't live without her don't want to live without her you want to be with someone take care of someone be close with someone finding someone you can be compatible with and be committed to you [Music] I do want to be married so I've got looking on the internet and of course you know you can find anything out in the Internet my name's Travis need him from playing Wisconsin 38 years old [Music] [Music] never really dated girls well then one [Music] let's just leave there's a lot of guys I could think of [Laughter] meeting someone from overseas I felt like if I could meet the right one and as he might be more serious about actually building a relationship and giving it the time we would need my name is Erik Ayrton I'm mechanical engineer I live in San Antonio Texas 45 what's your favorite gun favorite guy I don't know it's hard to have a favorite turkey so Magnum first handgun a bak kut my 12 gauge shotgun ak-47 ar-15 little 22 caliber with the 20 gauge shotgun over/under what was your last serious relationship like here I've never had one I tried the army and a few of these other regular dating sites never work for me my name is Bobby cannon I'm 46 and I work in human resources for the federal government and my views are mine alone not the government's so this is the living room this is where I spend most of the day when I'm at home got my some of my collection I tend to be a little bit shy so I don't meet a lot of folks for relationship purposes and it to be honest you know I'm a little bit heavier so that is something that is a real negative in the United States I hated dating I got on your popular sites and my first five days lasted less than five minutes all five Oh I'm Ron Kirby I'm from North Carolina and Pinehurst I married my childhood sweetheart met her when she was 12 I was 13 got married at 18 three kids by 26 we were married for 28 years if there was one thing missing in our marriage there was this I felt taken advantage of I got frustrated with American women so I typed into Google something about Russian brides a Foreign Affair came up welcome to the fascinating world of a foreign affair where true love knows no boundaries my name is John Adams president of a horrid affair and I would like to thank you for taking the time to learn more about this exciting and very real process of finding your special someone you look at John Adams and and John if you're looking at this don't get it mad at me but he's an average guy he hidden the best-looking guy in the world he's got a little bit of a pooch like he said and yet it would work for him I was lucky enough to find my Russian bride several years ago with the assistance of a Foreign Affair and I assure you now they can work for you as well so then you have to say if it worked for John you know certainly maybe maybe it could work for me [Music] they're moving up to somebody's else for the fairer is really just an international version of any kind of local dating service that you will go to online in order to try to meet someone well then we focus more on the international sector all you do is find the computers you can register you just start meeting people from everywhere I was lucky enough to meet Tanya through a Foreign Affair actually so I am a great example of how it can work and it does work what happens when you're lucky enough to meet the love of your life I was 27 when I was 29 952 knighted States I came from some Petersburg Russia John Seine it's my first marriage and your last yeah that's it second one the Aaron have really changed the way we do both internationally and domestically well the men do go to the site they have to register on the side and then they can start writing letters to the left you gotta pay for letters because it will actually translate letters for you and get them to the women and get three pies back for you I got on the AFA website and I started getting some letters from some women and Ukraine I really didn't even know what Ukraine was the women that are just gorgeous found 10 women that I really liked so I started writing to them all 10 wrote back we always preach they should actually get on a plane and go over and meet these women in person because that's the only way anything's ever gonna happen for you if you want something to happen for you the raw masters is absolutely amazing it is the best experience that you'll ever have we're going to three separate cities during the trip are Odessa Nick alive and here song it starts in New York at JFK everybody's being for the first time everybody's kind of sizing everybody else up it's kind of like a road trip if you're in a fraternity in a way but it has a purpose of course which a road trip does not I don't really feel like it's my last chance but I just didn't want to be alone anymore and nothing was happening earlier why would a mile spend this kind of money find a wife there's a lot of faith involved in this it has to be because you're asking man look fork over a few thousand dollars take a couple of weeks out of your schedule and come over with us [Music] that's ours all right guys you can watch the guys on the bus and they're kind of looking around out the window like wow wow they're a little bit of apprehension a bit of fear maybe a little bit of all these things going through their minds because there's not the easiest process in the world alright guys we're going to get started here with this orientation you know social is it's not a cocktail party it's a great opportunity to meet a lot of different people at one time right it's all about moving around as much as possible to try to meet as many different people as possible the first big event of this whole tour is the social enough what everybody's looking forward to so everybody is ready for that I don't have any expectations my plans are to shake the hands of every single woman there tonight [Music] I really want to welcome you all for coming enjoy important that if you see someone that you like don't be shy [Music] I guarantee you that the men are more shy than you are it was like being a kid in a candy store wasn't really quite sure how to handle it [Music] we had 210 women at that social 20 guys a 10 to 1 ratio welcome to paradise fit for me it's been very nerve-racking a lot of beautiful women and not like that at home they just can't believe that these women are interested in them because they're used to the situation at all or nobody's interested in [Music] these women believe in family first not career first family first I'll tell you it's like dating a girl from the 50s so dating my mom [Music] we're getting on that dance floor going up Southern Baptist I've never danced if I find the right one I might I've been trying to be realistic in my search I'm a pretty good shape for my age but I can certainly feel my age in the last three years [Applause] would you like to dance I want someone that still loves me for me you know when I'm not as viral when I am starting to fall apart you know and I wouldn't mind falling apart with someone my name is Ron so you speak English [Music] well that's important if they're 25 years younger than they've been they're not going to be falling apart with me tell me about the woman that you met why happened when you met her instance first yeah I can't explain it even though she speaks very little English and I speak no Russian it was just instant sparks her name's Victoria we had the social dance for a while talked for a while never left her side till late next afternoon the global hotel freshen up and went back to spend more time with her in a perfect world this would just keep going as awesome and wonderful as it's been and if it keeps going in the direction that it is I plan on being engaged before I leave [Music] okay guys I'm glad to see that you all survived s is so far so now that you have one social under your belt yet a little better idea how to manipulate and maneuver in this social in Nick live the social will be held at a nightclub and only you're gonna find that one woman that you can really connect with [Music] we arrive at the social of five o'clock and it's jammed I mean there are women everywhere guys are making time in the line I mean they're talking the girls and the girls aren't even India they got two coats to us got one so start over Beltre they're veterans now they're not rookies anymore they know what they're doing [Music] [Music] I've been to Ukraine on six different trips and I walk into the social of course I'm always uncomfortable because there's a lot of people in that room and there's a lot of beautiful women in that room so the hardest part for me is just starting with the first one and I take my interpreter and we start walking in the room there or sitting at this table by herself is a very tall beautiful girl with long blonde hair [Music] yes Emma got a default pal Angelica look at the shoulders mmm when I took up shots almost pretty much to say she fit all the criteria that I kind of went on this trip with ocean solution studio isn't swollen I'll suddenly up anymore switch I could utilize you cook up a Thon's as opposed to treatment we talked for quite a long time and she was definitely interested in the possibility of what it could have turned into you some of these guys just haven't dated in a long time these passions and these feelings that I don't think they felt for years and years and all of a sudden they're really just exploring it all over again [Music] I'm skeptical on this having talked to some of the translators here when I asked them tell me what percentage of the women here are truly in their heart interested in finding a man being married I mean they're giving me some really low numbers do you have any children okay I'm look I'm looking for someone with no children I've certainly not met anyone age-appropriate for me you've now survived two socials I congratulate all of you for going to the third and final social here in here song it's going to be over before you know it nothing really matters just go up talk to whoever you want to talk to make something happen I mean you know don't sit there and be shy use go up and do it because we probably never see her kid anyway she lives in the Ukraine this is your opportunity this is it [Music] it's the last cities and I'm down to one to be honest this is probably the one that my I always came back to her name is Julia she works in a travel agency incredibly beautiful we've been writing to each other for it's got to be seven eight months now well meet at the social I'm coming to basically try to sweep her off her feet do you have pictures er yeah how old is she 26 she was a little bit under my target age this is the one from the website where she looks like Angelina Jolie yeah she does how can you go wrong there [Music] [Music] just waiting that this is the last hour and a half wait is just drive me up a wall something a little special all the other guys they brought in buying roses I wanted to get something that would last hopefully as long as the relationship so one gold rose hopefully it get through this and everything will be okay I'll be either really happy or really except this is like prom for guys that's the way I'm looking at it which is nice since I never went to prom every time I say someone with black hair walk in the door my heart goes well when I did my search I look for certain specific things I like women that have black hair blue eyes people that are smart or independent someone that's gonna make me want to be a better me Oh when the guys come over they have their own set of expectations which may be on target and may not be on target they think oh gee I've been writing too Irina's fit Alana Elena I've been writing to all these women and they write to me and I wrote to them I told them I was coming over and maybe that works and maybe that doesn't [Music] [Laughter] [Music] hi the women checking in with you 200 no English perfect [Music] I thought she was going to show up I really did so I made sure I was staying off by myself because I didn't want to have fend off other women trying to keep them away while I'm trying to wait for her you know I wanted to come in here to this place to give this person and now we don't I don't know what's going on [Music] so how are you feeling it's like anybody would feel and definitely not good so I had a conversation with John Des Moines it said you know the lady I'm talking to online the lady I'm writing to works full time in a tourist agency Monday through Fridays half a day Saturdays and isn't a student and the person that max is talking to is a student halftime I said you know I've been writing this lady you know were almost daily for four months now emails for $10 a pop going and coming so I'm probably out 10 grand my biggest fear is that it was a scam that she's writing to 50 or 60 guys and she's getting a cut of the fees for the emails going back and forth Johnson he's concerned about that too so he's trying to find out what's really going on they finally got ahold of Julia and she is supposed to be coming here in about a half an hour hour for our first date I have to go in there approaching it like she's honest and all that and hoping so I'm not being screwed so and it's been hours I've been sitting here thinking the same thing over and over how do I know how do you know how do you tell we've been riding for about seven eight months now I was wondering what your feeling is on the relationship we've been running for so long I was hoping that we'd be able to move on I came here to see you that's the only reason I came was to see if you wanted to move maybe further in the relationship do you feel like she was the woman that was writing to you I had some questions and doubts because what was the pictures I showed her pictures of things that she's seen before the house the yard my work this is actually pictures from the last shuttle launch letters does it matter it would have it probably should but what I don't want to do is for me to overthink and it caused the problem that isn't only there because honestly I can't get this girl out of my mind do you want to come to America and marry me that's moving to this direction did you get her email address no gotta still go through the service because I need to have the translations so we'll go through that I can ask her through that if she wants to give me your email address I don't know she has one didn't even think to ask little Priyanka engaged they're not that [ __ ] friendly they're not just now they're leaving Stetsons that's how I feel no I don't think the people you're like Americans particularly you take a woman from the Ukraine and you have to overcome the language barrier if she doesn't speak excellent English more importantly you have to overcome the cultural difference but when I come back to the Ukraine or anywhere to look for a bride no I met one girl that I really liked so he probably spent about a total of three hours actually face to face yet the solution for your company washed oh don't be a [ __ ] large dome a high-dollar stuff so I understand you go back a killing machine machine after what you did with Coco Coco - no colonists Nikita Nikita sleek I just forgot today because I am back until I read it I was only hoping that this would happen I never dreamed that actually would really don't want to leave can I have two earlier off leaving Victoria here I will try to keep in constant contact with her please okay plot talk on the phone anything else you want to say before say goodbye to Victoria too much I'm pretty torn them down very you gonna be okay I don't know we'll see it's so hard to tell you who I think will be successful because to me if someone comes over has a wonderful time it opens their eyes that's a successful time but as far as finding that one woman and getting married if you define that as success that's really hard to tell because this is real life this isn't control they're all adults we're introducing and whatever happens happens [Music] [Music] it's been almost three months since I've seen Vika when I left Odessa I knew we had a great connection and you know we obviously liked each other very much you know I I can't say I was in love I knew I knew what I liked her a lot I've never felt that right away with anyone house and I didn't want to lose that after coming back home I did not know I was in love with her until I seen the video if they had on their website from the summer tour first time I seen it I bawled my eyes oh that was it that was what I knew it just brought back everything because I knew exactly what she was doing she was singing to me in Russian brought that back instantly I still can't watch it I'll be there in 1 week today I can't hardly sleep [Music] [Music] I've been to Ukraine on six different trips over the course of about nine years I've probably dated 35 to 50 women that I met there and all indications are that I have found someone that is truly serious about building a committed relationship and come into the u.s. so I leave on my seventh journey in two days and we will be back together in about a week and a half camara de Chile in papa victor Nagar a similar incident home Oona's was the rest Rijo days nights get more than is a motion similar specimens deleted a partial one from una foto de Kristie Ducati lakenya shapira's revoir shosanna budget jiu-jitsu nozawa nachi guru no cocoa chili panama a foreigner I got her this engagement ring scheduled reality Elizabeth Delacour mysteriously Agata saputo marks approval a coup d'etat little it ethically antennas will cocked a new watch in Vietnam at a union that we usually cut your connection to everybody I can't wait to see you at the airport I agree I I'll miss you until I see you at the airport goodbye I really am looking forward to coming through that gate at the airport and looking into her eyes again and reconnects physically I just want to want to hold her how are you feeling anyway mixed feelings I mean sort of good that you know I met her she's very it was very attractive lady thinking that maybe something's gonna happen but still had that nagging feeling that something was gonna something was wrong Freda thinking you were engaged I was I left thinking that we were gonna get married when I got back we were corresponding very very frequently but every time I would ask her something personal she just never answered a question so it really started bothering me but eventually I just gave up I said listen you either got to answer the questions or the said I'm done I don't want to talk to any more so she sent me one final letter saying that she was hurt you know I wasn't the person she thought I was I was like well okay it was over so why did you propose to her knowing that something was wrong what was I gonna lose at that point you don't think that he was misled her scam I don't think so that I'm not wondering I'm just not 100% yuria you know I have my doubts so we removed the woman from the site so we have taken off you know if since if she wasn't legit he still hasn't made anything right by me you know I spent thousands of dollars you know just for the trip letter translations photos thousands of dollars out-of-pocket for this all I can say is that we worry about us we worry about a Foreign Affair and we always try to do the best we possibly can for our clients we'd always try to act ethically if we find a problem we try to work to resolve the problem there's always gonna be problems but I think the measure of the company is how the company deals with the problems [Music] [Music] big houses big supermarkets [Music] when T Valley this weekend with the main purpose of introducing ena to my family and showing her a little bit of the town where I'm from getting her to actually see and experience some of the things I've been telling her about [Music] okay [Music] how did your parents feel about you coming over here [Music] yeah sure it was very hard for them yeah of course my mom just very cry and when I was in Ukraine just when we talked about it always cry and when they go it's it was very difficult of course I don't imagine that I did imagine that it was so difficult I was so back right now I grew up in a very small town and I was scared to death of the world oh I couldn't have gone to some other country [Music] anyone that would make the effort to come to the United States from a country like Ukraine it's got to be hard something really driving them to to want to do that to leave behind their family home though the only home they've known all the familiarity motivation could be either positive or negative you know fortunately all's well that I've experienced that she's here for all the right reasons he's showing us that video of her family or not our families are not that much different you know I can see they were doing the same kinds of things we do and it's kind of the same place you know people are more alike than they are diverse so it's kind of your two worlds together it's a very big challenge and it will take constant work but so is I forget the relationship [Applause] just as you get older you have new challenges you don't expect it think that people are old enough to make up their own minds and they be able to decide for themselves what they want to do with their lives it's their business I wouldn't intrude on that from one way or another so the flags are up for Memorial Day which is one of my biggest fears is this whole thing not working out to me this is for life and that's what I'm certainly hoping for and doing everything I know to see that that's how it goes oh nine Vienna right now I'll be boarding here shortly going to a Desa pretty excited can't wait to see Vigo many people just assume that women from other countries are just looking to get into America for a green card and after money and I believe there might be a few people out there like that but I think the majority of the people actually go through the process are fairly serious they're looking for love [Music] look what we can made me pop nicer day here with Vika I don't know what to say not quite as I expected you know I thought everything would be hunky-dory and I think it I think everything's gonna be alright I guess I did something for some reason something just doesn't seem right but I think everything's gonna be all right I don't know what to say [Music] on the last day early in the morning somebody was banging on the windows one was a police officer the other one was a loan shark the police officer explained that she owed orthos and he said if we didn't pay it right away she'd have to go to jail when I said well I don't have forth all of them he said well what do you have I said well I have a couple hundred bucks Lisa you give us a couple hundred dollars we won't put her in jail so I just kind of greeted them to make sure that I would get the airport on time I was hoping to formally get engaged but everything kind of seemed fishy so I decided not to [Music] what's happening today today we're going to the justice of the peace for our legal marriage [Music] that's true she [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] how much cafeteria and it shows your lady less good news which I introduced a comment to Delta yeah I'm pretty / - um I'll just activate another supported do-si-do Tonto hooded top eight injured yeah Bridget on etiqueta I need to shock jihad through ugh ohh [Music] no Mary Kim Yuna okay here we go greetings to friends and family we're gathered here today to celebrate the lives of herring Tanana will now be joined in marriage now their marriage will be the intertwining of two life stories Eric do you take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife to have and to hold Richard for sickness and health till death do you part do you take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband to have to hold for richer for poorer in sickness and health till death do you part so by virtue of the authority vested in me by law as Justice of the Peace racing - I now pronounce you husband and wife you may kiss the bride [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Applause] [Music] at the end of the whisper boss Dorothy says something like this I've learned that if what I'm looking for is not in my own backyard that I didn't need it anyway so I've learned some appreciation for the women back at home dating a woman now we actually dated before I went to the Ukraine and then we broke up and I think I had some areas of my life that I needed to give on I think she has something she need to give on a special person like that doesn't come around with so often [Music] after all this I got depressed for a while it really definitely affected me finally work through it pretty much stop trying to date anything like that until just recently I'm here to might try it one more time this is her mom yeah this is Vika it's not the same as Julia so i'm getting personal responses and actual yeah it looks like someone's actually putting some thought into the email do you ever just feel like you're just writing a photo yeah would you say you're in love with Vika all right no I don't know I thought I was and then it's just funny thing it's completely to my if it wasn't for the mine that means moto it seems like it's gotten worse after this last trip as far as asking for money I don't I told her no more after this last trip I'm Philip why I'm just fed up with it as if we weren't going to use the process there's no way I keep going on with it [Music] most people think it's the guy going over there they pick Norman they're not waiting to be picked they want the same relationship today every other woman once they don't want just anybody they want someone that's right from it your mother and father told us about a big development what is it I might have family what I always imagine I've seen things in Eric that I've never seen before when he's within I'm so happy for him to have somebody somebody to be with somebody even do things with somebody to love you need somebody to love and to love you guys it'll never ever happen just sitting on your couch whether you go with us you go someone with someone else are you I don't care get on a plane just go with yourself put yourself in an opportunity to meet someone Rob with all anybody thank you very much and we will see him in just two weeks with another great shot so until then bye bye what is love [Applause] we'll start to cry laughs it's one your money you can say that I will just give my life for somebody you think this is love how do how does one find love I don't know I think you have to be like it to find it you have to keep looking and if you like it you will find it it's not some people will never find it so you will be you just you just need to keep looking [Music] [Music] Oh with you [Music] [Music]

Channel: The Documentary Channel

Views: 1,136,824

Rating: 4.6422086 out of 5

Keywords: documentary, film, sideways, channel, documentaries, clips, news, social issue, politics, world, affairs, TV, feature doc, feature docs, mail, order, brides, love, online, ukrain, internet, marriage, couple, eastern, europe, usa, sex, exploitation, money, web, women, woman, men, single, foreign, affair, agency, meet

Id: hKkXWNwThtc

Length: 52min 14sec (3134 seconds)

Published: Thu Aug 01 2019

Reddit Comments

[u/corianderfox]

Such an interesting watch. I followed up on that bizarre couple in the thumbnail. Turns out she had a baby, divorced him and then got her LPN. Lol good for her. That dude was so creepy

[u/KrisAlly]

Based on the cover photo, I genuinely believed this was an SNL skit and not an actual documentary. Could it be anymore of a stereotype? Lol. I’ll have to check it out when I have some time, thanks OP.

[u/St_Clinton]

As I watched this, Vegas David kept coming to mind.

[u/ladydothprotestmuch]

Oooo I can’t wait to watch this, thanks for sharing!

[u/valerian_spiel]

Anyone know what happened to the pretty brunette translator who left her husband and took up with one of the Americans from the group? I think they mentioned she brought her young son here to the states with her, but was wondering if she wound up getting married

[u/WindyFan]

I find these people fascinating as it's so alien to me - I've seen, I'm almost certain, all the english and french documentaries on pay-to-love type of relationship but this one is probably one of the saddest :(

Some of these men clearly have unresolved issues, I hope they are better now.

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Edit: If anyone wants a good fix, just look up "Ukraine dating" there is a lot of similar stuff. DM if you're french I can send you other docu