- Part of you does not want success. You don't wanna move up. Everyone thinks like, man,
I just wanna make billions and have this company and all
these people working for me. If that happened, you
would freak the fuck out. You'd be like, man, all the
responsibility, oh my god! All the extra headaches, now people are texting me for
this, I gotta deal with that. You'd freak out. I saw this for years even
in success with women where everyone's like, I
really want a beautiful girl, I want a beautiful girlfriend. Go say hi. And you think that rejection is scary? Like hello, no, thank you. You think that's bad? You know what's scarier? Hi. Hey. (gasping) (audience laughing) She reacted well! She smiled! Now what? And they freak out. They freak out and either
bounce like, ah, and gone, or they freak out and they do some completely
uncalibrated thing. Ah, (mumbling), they're gone. The girl's like, what the fuck? They just can't let it land. So there's a force within you that is consciously trying
to make success happen, but then there's also an unconscious force that's much more powerful where you're simultaneously
pushing it away. And that's the whole
driving with the brakes on. Please, push away, please, push away. And what do we all focus on? Well, I just gotta make
it happen even more without realizing that the dynamic of pushing away is still there. And we all have this ceiling. Things may change in the physical world, but if you look at the patterns, it's always the same patterns at play. Your life is this constant repeat. Even with money, my
favorite example is like, you think money will make you happy. Now, as I joked about
before, it actually will, 'cause now you can afford
Transformation Mastery, but apart from that-- - It's all about us, guys. - It's all about us! Apart from that, it's what? Just more resources to numb yourself. That's really it. Instead of numbing yourself, getting lost into some game on a PS4, you can now travel the world
and go on a yacht with models. But guess what? You're still numbing yourself, you're still trying to escape yourself. Underneath the surface, it's
the same dynamic at play. And in reality, it's
worse, 'cause guess what? If you're at the bottom with your PS4, playing some GTA or Red Dead Redemption, (audience laughing) - How do you know what that is? I love that you know what that is. - I see the posters everywhere. You'll see every fucking street. - I wanna play that.
- Red Dead Redemption. It actually looks pretty fucking sick. - I wanna play that.
(audience laughs) I haven't played a video game in years. I once watched my buddy play video games.
- Red Dead Redemption! - I was like, this is so cool. (audience laughs) - Oh man, I mean, think about it. If you're playing your
fucking little Red Dead thing, it's easy to rationalize,
well, I'm not really happy, yeah, I'm escaping myself, but hey, I'm at the Red Dead level. Right? There's so much more I'm missing. If I was on the yacht,
everything would be different. But if you're the person
who's on the yacht surrounded by all the models and you're still feeling that
same shittiness under it all, goddamn, does that fuck with you. That is hell. That's when you're like,
wow, if this doesn't work, what if nothing works? And this is where you start
freaking the fuck out. There's that saying, and I'm paraphrasing, "The road to enlightenment is
paved with disillusionment." The more you realize it
didn't work, it didn't work, it didn't work, and didn't work, until you've tried everything, and you're like, well, last resort. Face those internal demons. Do the inner work part of you knows you should've been doing from the start. And once more, with this whole
work ethic or work magnet, identify the part of you
that's pushing it away. It's asking yourself those
uncomfortable questions. Why don't I deserve success? And once more, I'm not saying you don't, I'm saying ask the part
of you that believes that. There's a part of you
inside like, you know what? You don't deserve success
'cause you're short. It could make no sense but if
a part of you believes that, until you address it, you're
gonna keep pushing it away to stay congruent to that. What if nothing changed
since your childhood? You think it did, but did it? How often are you repeating
the same patterns, the same relationships, the same dynamics? More often than not, you
project even your father and your mother on different people. They take on the father
figure, the mother figure, and they trigger you the exact same way. No? The same friendships. If you were someone as a kid
who was extremely isolated, you think you move and you grow up and you make more money
and now it's all different. No! You find your way back to that position. If you're the class clown, you find your way back to that position. You can move around the world. Maybe in this country, it'll be different, with these people. And you can delay it using
hustle and discipline and putting on a certain front, but eventually, you find a
way back to what you know, the same with what you
believe you deserve. I only deserve this, the
rest, I'm not worthy. That is formed during your childhood. You take on this identity, you take on these ceilings of success when it comes to your health, your wealth, your relationships, and then you let this run you. And we just chase the physical, rearranging our circumstances, but it's the same dynamics if
you look beneath the surface. You're replaying the same fucking script over and over and over again. That's what you have to address. Don't fall for the illusion that things are gonna change externally. It's the same shit underneath it all. Remember, wherever you go. - [Audience] There you are. - There you are.
- It goes like this. The regular life, something
bad happens, (groans) something bad happens, (groans) something good happens, oh, also, (groans)! Oh, cool, cool, cool, yup, oh cool. Forgot about that. Oh, lost that thing that was cool. I lost that thing that was cool! (groans) How often has your positive response ever been proportional to
your negative responses? - [Audience Member] Not very often. - [Julien] Everyone's like, eh, shit. (audience laughs) - Right now, if you
waited to be at this event to meet Julien and I, and maybe, I don't think everybody in the world feels this way, but if you're here in this audience, I would hope that you're excited about it. Now, think of how pissed off you get from the things that bother
you when you're triggered. But right now, let's just say in theory,
we'll just give us this, that you were really
excited to be here for this, right now, are you just like (gasping)? (audience laughs)
It's not proportional. Part of why you get so upset is that you think, delusionally, that if you were at that thing that you're looking forward
to that it'd be so great. So then when you go down so hard because you envision this
super awesome external reality that it could've provided for you, so when you move away from
that super awesome reality, you get upset, not realizing that the
super awesome reality would not have even been that much better, and that the happiness is something you have to
generate within yourself. - Mm. Yeah, another dynamic I love
with self-sabotage is this. What do most people do? (marker lid clicks) (air whooshing) (audience laughs) They have the illusion
that they're going up, but if you actually look
at the different patterns, you're staying below this ceiling. You're going up until you hit that ceiling and you're like, not worthy! Fuck shit up, self-sabotage, fall down, spend your time fixing it. Not worthy! Fuck shit up. And you just stay beneath that line. The same patterns, Groundhog's Day. - If I look at my life, I definitely, and I think all
of us could relate with this, I definitely went
through those kinda loops where I thought that happiness
was found externally, happiness was found externally, happiness was found externally, and I tried that through meeting women, through making money,
through going on vacations, and so on and so forth. I've had experiences where I did my first
of launch of a program called The Blueprint Decoded
and it sold at $2 million. I'm in my mid-20s. I remember after that, I went on a six-week vacation to Mexico and I just stayed in little
castles and things like that. I could talk for hours about what that did to me psychologically. Yeah, 'cause Mexico's
actually amazing, by the way. Most people don't know
this, it's stunning. Most people think Europe's
the only stunning place. You go to Oaxaca City and
Puebla and Guadalajara, there's all these places most
people have never heard of. It's incredible! Cielito is awesome. (chuckles) Anyway, okay. Off-note, okay. I'm back. (chuckles) But basically, what that did to me, or things like being able to eat at a five-star dinner every night, or have a partner who
you have intimacy with, who's very attractive, and live in the place that
you wanna live, right? This is all things that we
think will make us happy. I had the experience of
really hammering myself, mostly 'cause I was so miserable. So feeding off of that misery, hammering myself to
put myself in positions to do those things. Now, I love that because I can
teach people how to do that. I think there's a space for that, I wanna live a great life, I wanna show you and
Julien wants to show you how to live a great life. So it's not either/or. I don't like the either/or. I think that's really messed up. It should be both, it
should be synergistic. But I definitely had the experience where without doing any
work on myself internally, I'm just furiously running
towards these external objects, these external things
that I think will help me. And it was weird living in Hawaii. I've mentioned this in some other videos, but it's weird being in Hawaii, living in an oceanfront apartment with a girlfriend who has perfect body, screwing my brains out
everyday, no condoms. (chuckles) Girlfriend, okay. Eating, at that time, living in Hawaii, I'm eating at Alan Wong's, La Mer, and all these baller freakin' restaurants, some of the best in the world, so tasty, and Sasabune, okay, good stuff, and literally still
being fucking miserable. I remember body boarding in, I'm in front of my apartment on the ocean, body boarding in and being like, all those feelings of
depression and misery that I felt my entire life
have not really changed. I'm like, this is cool, I'm on a wave, but that lack of, call
it lack of serotonin or lack of dopamine in
my brain is still there. What is your relationship
to the present moment? Say what is my relationship. - [Audience] What is my relationship? - With the present moment? - [Audience] With the present moment? - Am I friendly. - [Audience] Am I friendly. - With the present moment? - [Audience] With the present moment? - So you're degree of friendliness
with the present moment is gonna dictate your
ability to get that big win and even enjoy it at all, to enjoy that incredible new partner or intimacy with some attractive partner. You think that you're gonna find happiness by getting these certain things. It helps, don't get me wrong, but often the work that you have to put in and the effort and how much
you have to draw outta yourself will create so much chaos. In Notorious B.I.G., "Mo'
Money, Mo' Problems". I'm trying to say that
like how he said it. More money, more problems. (audience laughs) Why try? So what you have is like just be aware, you have to cultivate your friendliness with the present moment. Now, part of that, if
you've read Eckhart Tolle, "The Power of Now", incredible book. I actually even prefer
the sequel, "A New Earth". Incredible book, but
you read the first one to understand the second one better. And he draws that from Buddhism
and Eastern philosophy. You don't need to be a Buddhist or someone into Eastern philosophy to gather lessons from that. There's Harvard teachers
that have done tests on how meditation affects happiness. They just do it from a
scientific standpoint. Don't get caught up in
the metaphysical aspect. I think that stuff's really cool, but don't let it be a barrier if you're having trouble with it. The main thing to take is what is your relationship
to the present moment? And on one level, Eckhart
Tolle would say be present. Again, he's probably my
favorite speaker and author, but that being said, it's like
saying your house is on fire. Okay, your house is on fire and when you put out the
fire, you will love life. And you're like, got it, Eckhart. And then you're like, okay, so, how do I put
the fucking house out? And I think he does talk about it and he has a lot of what he says about it, and I love that, and that's why he'll always be like, Eckhart to me is just a living legend and I would probably cry like
a girl at a NSYNC concert if I hung out with him. But the point being is what
Julien is showing you here is he's showing you a lot
of ideas on how to let go. He's showing you, wait a minute, there's a lot of negativity in trauma, you're stuffing it, running
from it, medicating it, doing anything to get away from it, and that is burning up
huge amounts of energy. Then, you somehow power
through that and go make money or meet a cool partner or
whatever the heck it is, and you think it's gonna work. Doesn't work, actually
adds more complexities, makes you more miserable, and so what he's showing
you how to do here is instead let go of a lot of
that heavy negative energy, just take chunks out of it and wake up, and then when you've woken up, ironically, you're like a car that has more power to go to your goals anyway and you begin to resonate
with better situations for you rather than going after something that resonated with your negativity, resonated with your trauma, picking jobs, or businesses, or friends, or relationships, or lifestyles that stimulate your trauma energy and then furiously go into that. A lot of the time, when
you let that stuff go, did anybody here have an experience today, and it's maybe just one or
two people, could be all, I don't know, it just
depends on the crowd, did anybody here have an experience today where you feel like you woke up and realized that a lot of
things in your lifestyle now you couldn't go back to? Did anybody here have a feeling like that? Okay. It's quite intense, isn't it? It's pretty crazy. I had that experience as well with this where I was like, what am I doing? Do I even wanna do this anymore? I still kept with what I'm doing, but I reprioritized and realigned and put my focus into things that if I got hit by a
car on the way outta here, I'm just lying there,
thinking I'm gonna die. I'd be like, you know what? I like what I did this year. This was good. As opposed to, by the way, the
first time I got hit by a car and thought I was gonna die many years ago and I was like, that was bad. (audience chuckles) So that was a very eye-opening thing. It's about enjoying life,
getting results faster, and getting the right result. You're digging down a cave. If you're digging down some cave and you realize it's the wrong cave, you don't just get to go this way. You gotta go all the way back up. You gotta walk back now, take a break, and then go down the new cave. So we wanna kinda pull you out any cave if it's not the right cave for you, we wanna make you aware
of that and tune to that and then get you going down
a cave that works for you. - Yeah, that's what's
funny with the whole hustle or discipline, work ethic. It's like, one, you're never really happy 'cause you're using
misery as your main drive, and two, when you get the results, you don't even enjoy those results. If you're not enjoying your
results, those are not results. On top of that, do an audit on your life. How much of your life
are you spending working? Just actually look at it. Write it down everyday. Okay, I work Monday to Friday from this time to this time, boom! How much is that in a month, a year? How many years of your
life are you working? And there you're like, holy shit, that's most of my life
just spent in misery. There's no reason for you to not feel
fuckin' amazing right now. There's no reason at all. In this moment, right here, right now, sitting here in this
room, you're all alive, you're all here in this room, no one's cutting your fucking arm, so why is that relationship
to the now kind of eh? Okay. Now you hear, be present. And it's a great first approach,
but you know what's better? Identify everything that's
pulling you away from presence and let go of it. So by default, you realize presence. You can't pursue presence,
you can only attract presence. And that's by focusing on
all the uncomfortable shit. But then also, look at
how even this process of, say, letting go can be used as a way to resist the
right here, right now, and get on that destination thinking, get hooked on that even more. Like, someday, someday. How? Someday, I'll have all the
money and I'll finally be happy. Someday, when I will have let
go completely, I'll be happy. Someday, when I will have
healed all my trauma, I will be complete and then
things will be different in the future. What did we say at the beginning of today? It's not about the future, it's not about going
from here to up there. On one hand, it's endless, 'cause you're just telling yourself and addicting yourself to in the future, in the
future, in the future. And not just that, but then it's endless 'cause you're assuming that right here, right
now, you're incomplete. You can only realize it. It's more so what is,
say, this is presence, what am I hanging on to that's
pulling me away from it? What's pulling me away from
feeling amazing right now? You have to realize you've
already passed the finish line. Stop projecting it in the future. This is why you hear those
cheesy sayings when people ask, when will I have let go completely? When you stop asking the question. Don't you just hate that? You're like, goddamn it, fine! You can't really say anything. You're just like, whatever. But why do people say
that, including myself? Because the more you let go, the less resistance there is to being you, the less resistance there is to being you right here, right now. And what's that question? When will I have let go completely? It's once more that destination thinking. When will I have made it? Trying to escape where you are now. Hating and resisting where you are now. If you feel okay with where you are now, there's no longer that need to escape and that question doesn't arise anymore. So it's identifying what's in the way? What's all this bullshit? Can I let go of it? Asking yourself or that part of you why don't I deserve to be happy right now? Why? Why don't I deserve success? Why do I deserve to be punished? Why does my life have to be hard? Why do I deserve to suffer? Ask yourself. Write it down. Identify it and then
once more, let go of it. The same with the movie
character, let go of it. And don't fall into the trap either of thinking that you need some
crazy event to realize this. He was talking about Hawaii. Eckhart Tolle was like, I was sitting on a bench for two years. You don't have to sit on a fucking bench. You don't have to be
crying on your little board in the water in Hawaii, the same with-- (Tyler laughs)
(audience laughs) Yeah, that's how I visualize is it's like, you just like, (cries)
just paddling in tears. No, but it was the same for me. You might've heard me talk about this. Right before that scandal I went through, I was going all out. This is how it started, for real. As soon as I found out about, say, dating success with women,
I was like, you know what? If I could just get a girl to react well to me in
front of my friends, I never have to see her again. I don't need it. I just need her to smile or
laugh at something I said. That was my one goal
in success with women. Say that little joke,
make sure they see it, walk away, go back to
them, have them ask me, whoa, what did you do? What did you say? And answer, just be cool. (audience laughs) That was it. If I got that, I'd be
like, my life is complete. And it's funny how we project that, my life is complete, my finances
will be complete forever, no worries in the world, if
I could just experience that. And I did. And you get the little
high, but then what happens? I need more. Now, what? You're back to (clicks mouth) who you are. Wherever you go, there you are. So I'm like, okay, well I need more now. Maybe if I get a phone number. And then you get a phone number and you're like, okay, nothing. Maybe a kiss? Maybe a date? Maybe intimate relationships? It didn't work. Maybe more women, more women. Maybe more beautiful women
by society's standards. Didn't work. Okay, maybe it's not just the women and validation from women, what about talking about this in front of crowds of hundreds and not just get the validation from women or telling your friends about it, but then having people pay you and listen to you talk
about it and cheer you on and travel the world talking about it, have more money you can
spend, visit everywhere, have girlfriends everywhere. It was, from my perspective at the time, being in my 20s, I was like, I am Jesus. I literally thought I was Jesus. I was like, if there was a second coming, and I joke, but it's actually
true, I'd lay in bed, I'm like, I think I actually
am the second coming. (audience laughs) It's weird. And then, I reached that point where it's like, I had everything. I couldn't think of
something that was missing. Again, the road to
enlightenment, disillusionment, and I'm like, but I
still feel shitty inside. And then I was like, well,
maybe I need more validation, more extreme validation, push
my marketing, shock marketing. Oh more common, shocking market,
(blows explosively) done. Everything crumbled. And that's what actually
got me to finally let go and get a glimpse that, oh man, it's not out there, you
gotta deal with this. But you don't have to go through
a worldwide media scandal. All you have to do is take a moment to reflect back on your life on all the things that didn't work. I would even make a list. All the things you thought would make you happy and it didn't work. He even said before, even this event, if you're not ecstatic here, and again, it's a process, we all had a glimpse here, we let go of tons of
resistance, we dove deep, you now have your homework
to go home and practice on, but if you're not ecstatic
now, it's like, wow! Is this how I thought I'd be feeling, sitting here listening to these two motherfuckers
up here in front? - And a big key to it is, if you look at, say, how
Julien went through that, you can see how he went
through a paradigm, hit the end of a paradigm, and that the healthiest thing
that could've happened to him was that crazy meltdown. But that being said, and I got
a similar experience from it, that being said, that
shit was fucking stupid. It shouldn't have to be like that. That's what it took, but it
shouldn't have to be like that. You don't want to move towards creating that kinda chaos in
your life if you can avoid it. Because as much as we could say, oh, that's some kind of eventful thing and it all happened for a reason, the way things are politically right now, that same bullshit could
happen to us again. And then what would we
say was the benefit of it? You see, 'cause it's just getting so crazy out there these days. So you see the main point, right? It's like you don't need to let this kind of
stupid shit happen to you. What does that mean? Have a relationship to the present moment. Let's look at some practical steps. When you're out with your buddies and you're talking about something heavy, can you make little
jokes to lighten it up? That's a simple step. Can you make little
jokes to lighten it up? I actually view it that
if I'm not having fun when I'm doing regular mundane
things, I am being robbed. I'm not getting the chance to cash in. I'm sitting here, I'm 39
as I'm talking right now. When's that future? For you guys that are younger, it's like, 39, that's when life is. I promise you, as much as my life that
I built is right now, if I don't maintain
these habits of releasing and of maintaining a healthy relationship with the present moment, my life will be as miserable as it was subjectively and emotionally as when I was 19 or 21 or whatever else. What I got from getting older, even more so than any
material things that I got, was the relationship
to the present moment. And I could've had that
from a younger age. Also, my negative energy growing up caused me to slow down the
growth of my business, my goals. All of that was slowed down. If I could've learned this
kinda stuff at age 19 or 21, now, it's debatable whether or not I would even resonate
with it or just zone out. So for that reason, you could argue that you
do have to go through it. But if you can trigger someone and kinda smear it in their face the way that we're
doing a little bit here, and get you to have that epiphany sooner, because the cool thing with human means you can learn from others. You can learn from the
experience of other people. Remember Jay-Z, "Hov did that, "hopefully you don't
have to go through that." No? Okay, I'm old. So yeah. Hov sold crack, hopefully
you don't have to go to. Old blooper now. So it's like, you shouldn't
have to go through that. You can learn from the
experiences of other people and then quickly move forward. So at our level now, we're not looking to have
to go through a nightmare to keep learning lessons. We want to learn quickly. And a big factor of that
is again, like I said, viewing it that you're harvesting money. View it like you're getting
paid every time that you smile. View it like you're getting paid every time that you crack a joke. View it like you're getting paid every time that you're silly. View it like you're getting paid every time that you're
present to the moment and just feeling the
fucking glory of life. View it like you're getting paid when you stop to look at the
tree, to look at the sky. Marketers will make you believe that you need to get some
perfect little this or that or the other thing in
order to have a benefit. They make a movie and then they hold the
keys to your happiness. That's fine, I love
products, I love marketing. That's all awesome stuff. Someday, we wanna make YouTube channels on how to make a product or how to market. I love it all. That being said, you also have to be aware how this is affecting you. Study books like Gabor Mate, "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts". Get his perspective on how most people that are in the streets shooting up heroine, on the streets just killing
themselves, just doing meth, go look up meth case, heroine case. Look, here in downtown L.A.,
you don't gotta go far, man. Seriously, go to one of
the little tent cities. Go talk to these people, see
what's happening to them. I don't wanna judge or make a conclusion, 'cause I'm not them. I'm just giving you one man
sharing another his opinion. So my personal view, and having
read the Gabor Mate book, where he's worked with
these people for many years, he talks about the trauma and then just shooting up
medication aka heroine or whatever to try to stop that trauma. You know what's so messed up too if you get stuck on hard drugs? Even if you get off it, it's like this huge part of
just your willpower day-to-day is just staying clean. For you guys, you're like, okay, I went to gym today, good for me, I worked on my career today, good for me. For somebody who had a hard
drug addiction in the past, for many of them, it's
like, I, another day sober. That's their version of a successful day. They probably had to exert more willpower to just live a very unproductive
day without shooting up than you did to go do
all this other stuff. That's really great. That's what's so dangerous with drugs. Opioids that are taking over. Look at our country, opioid epidemic. - Even painkillers. Most regular people? Painkiller, two painkillers a day. Just daily.
- Prescription meds. - So wake up, it's like,
oh, painkiller time. Another one, and they just
pop it like fucking M&Ms. That's the default. It's weird if you don't
take fuckin' painkillers. No? Crazy! And that's the other thing. Even if, let's just say hypothetically, you manage to use all these techniques to fight against self-sabotage and get that seemingly
successful look in life, and say you just power
through and you're like, man, I'm just gonna do it, and you get it, you're not gonna enjoy it, you're gonna feel miserable inside, and that external failure
will still find you. If it's not in your money
success, it's in your health. We see it all the time. Even people we know, friends of ours, they achieve a certain amount of success and it gets them on their health. - It's so hard to watch. So hard to watch. The hardest thing you'll ever watch. - You'll see it. Even hustlers, it's like how
many hustler's do you see, it's like, man, I burnt out. I had a fuckin' ulcer and shit. That's like the go-to of the hustler. If you do hashtag hustle
or hustler on Instagram, it's like the most miserable
looking people you'll see. Is that what you want? It's like, low sleep, this. They're fucked! Nootropics to balance it out. It gets them. That energy will find you, it'll get you. You can try to run away from
it, you can try to escape it. The only way out, as we talked
about today, is through. You gotta face it, you've
gotta let go of it. Doing this type of work
isn't something that's fun. It's not like, oh, it's this fun, cool, spirituality, self-help, really fun. It's a requirement. You are fucked if you don't do this. It will get you. - And I mean, unless you
got that serotonin button pressed down genetically in your brain. Some people win the
serotonin lottery, man. And if you're a serotonin,
dopamine lottery winner, props to you, bro. - But if that's not you, you are screwed. You will not just ruin
opportunities, relationships, money, just stay stuck nonstop, it will get you physically,
mentally, emotionally, it will ruin you. The default of most people isn't success. It's not stagnating, it's failing. The default for most
people is being a loser. That's the default.
- A floating turd. - It's being a floating fucking turd. - So the kinda work that we do here today at Transformation Mastery is
meant to really tap you in and show you how to let that go so that you can cultivate a relationship with the present moment. You can bring about positive
energy into your mind. Your potential is so much more
than you realize right now. When you do this work for
an extended period of time, you see people and you see them being held down in their
potential and you feel so sad. For us, the first kinda taste that we got was learning social skills, learning dating advice-type content. And we'd be out and you kind
of just slip in this state, and you're like, this is weird, I'm funny. My voice is projecting. People are attracted to me even though they're a lot more physically attractive than I am. Everybody wants my attention. I don't feel sad anymore. I don't feel traumatized anymore And you kinda spike up,
you get a taste for it, what your potential is. I'd have that in public speaking. I'd go in front of a crowd,
it would just flow out. It was weird, I'd ride the wave. This is weird. And as I was doing that, I was like, something weird is happening to me. What is this? What is this that I'm seeing right now? And as I saw that, at first, I would just use it
to try to socialize better, and that's fun, I love that! I love showing that to people! We love it so much. That being said, we also saw
other applications of it. Then, we started to think, well, why can you slip into
that maybe when you go out, why can't we be like
that a little more often? Maybe not all the time. I'm not, he's not. But why not more often? Why can't you default to that and then if you had a bad day, that was just a bad day, instead of bad being
the default or average. And that's where we began
to realize, wait a minute, there's a lot of trauma
energy holding you down and it's just bleeding
into you all the time. Like the sound of this? (projector humming) The little hum? But you don't notice
it unless you clue in. Listen to how loud this
silly little projector is. (projector humming) It's kinda fucking weird, isn't it? Can I turn it off? It's freaking me out. So it's like-- (audience laughs) That's trauma release. (sighs) It's gone. (laughs) Okay? It's gone. So that's what we wanna be doing. We have to be letting go. We have to take chunks out, let it go, and snap into alertness. And again, if you're
riding off the right fuel, ideally, you wanna be feeding off of work. You wanna be gaining energy from work 'cause it gets you outta your head. It gets you more into real life. And then of course, you do need a break and
to do proactive recovery 'cause you kinda fired
up your immune system, don't get me wrong. But in general, you wanna
be feeding off of it. I don't wanna be up here like, oh, this sucks, and I gotta
fuckin' do my fuckin' sucky talk and tell all these fucker. That's horrible! Oh my god! You would never succeed at
a high level doing that, in my view. Or some people do but what
outcome do you really get? So just that awareness alone
and moving on that track is the difference between
looking at you in 10 years and seeing you with the big bright eyes, energy flowing through
you, creativity, intuition, energy, health, wealth, alignment, versus seeing you in 10
years a fucking train wreck like the majority of people
you meet, the floating turds. - When we say start cultivating a healthier relationship
with the present moment, accept who you are, let
go of all that resistance, to you right here, right now, that does not mean
stagnate and do nothing. By default, things change. Nothing is permanent. You don't have to make them
change, they will change. So you do have a certain intention in terms of where you're going, but one of my favorite sayings in terms of self-acceptance and growth is from a book called
"The Presence Process" which I highly recommend reading. And what he says is it's a
state of continued ripening. That's the best way of putting it, a state of continued ripening. You're here, you're feeling
fucking amazing in this moment, there's no rush or need
to be anywhere else, and you're like, how could it possibly
get better than this? And every second, you're
surprised how you just get riper and it just gets better and
better and better and better, and it feels effortless
and you just get fueled. And once more, it's like how
are you gonna live your life so that when you die, 'cause you will die, you will look back and be like, damn, I milked this experience
that is being alive. I took it in every fucking bit of it. I took it in. And remind yourself of this,
you will die, take it in. Even what it feels like to be alive. I always joke, why do people
go into swimming pools? Really? Do you ever think about that? Why do you like going to a fucking pool? It's just water. The only reason is we're not used to it! Here, we're like, air! So you're underwater, you're
like, whoa, slow motion! That's the only reason
you like going to a pool. People will pay and spend hours
hanging on in this liquid, just hanging out in there
'cause you're not used to it. You're used to being alive. You're used to breathing. You imagine this is the fucking pool, like whoa, air! (breathes in) Aliveness! Milk it and start now. Don't wait. Remember, you've passed the finish line, you have the tools, start
now. (clicks tongue) - That make sense, guys? - [Audience] Yeah! (cheers and claps) (rock music) - This is Julien and welcome
to Transformation Mastery. - It was fucking amazing. - This was huge for me. This was so, so important. - This gave me by far the
greatest epiphanies I've ever had. - It just made me finally
confront my deepest fears. - And we got real deep and I found some issues within myself. - One of the best things
I've seen so far in my life. - What you're about to experience
going through this program is what completely changed my
life on every single level. Be it health, wealth,
relationships, higher purpose, you name it, this is the stuff that finally, finally produced that true, long-lasting
personal transformation we're all after.
