- My favorite part and this is why I like
learning it from you. And this is why I wanted so much from you and watching your program has
been so eye opening for me is 'cause you're someone
who I can take seriously, because you have results. Whereas a lot of people
don't have results. They're just like, well,
my result is my state. I don't care about anything. And how do you know that guy? Even isn't a great state or that he hasn't just given up on life. Maybe he's given up on life and that's why he's positive. Like, I don't care about money anymore. I don't care about sex. I don't care about anything anymore, that's why I'm happy. Well, that's not the
kind of happiness I want. To me it's about, is
happiness is a platform from which to go live life. - What I say is it's never the thing, but the place is coming from. So what I teach here, doesn't
take away from quote, unquote, hustle or success or
money, so on and so forth. Like, fuck, no, but it's about changing
what's driving you. We've designed our lives in a
way where we're never actually with ourselves, like you never
actually experience yourself. I'm a little, you know, scenario
to bring some awareness. This is, imagine you're meeting a friend and imagine your friend is late. And the first thing we do, like say, you're waiting for your friend. Like where the fuck's my friend,
first thing you do, bang, pull out your phone, start checking. You know, whatever's online. Start checking your
Facebook, jump on Twitter. It's like, what's the latest news. Anything to keep yourself occupied, anything to stay away from
what's going on inside. As soon as you get home,
it's immediately, okay, let's turn on the television. Let's blast the music. Let's jump online. Anything to stay distracted. And it's literally reached
a point where we're all conditioned this way. I remember even me. This was like, there was one
day I forgot what it was, but I, it you know, happened
to just be a free day. It's like, oh, you know
what, nothing going on today. And immediately I'm like, oh shit. How do I fill this day with activity? How do I fill this day? So I'm just constantly on the go and I can avoid being me. You know, I can avoid experiencing this. And what happens is we're in
this constant state of just anxious, escapism, like just
trying to escape ourselves, trying to stay distracted. And we never bring some
awareness to what the fuck's going on inside. And this is all that we
know our lives fueling it. It's this feedback, you
know, loop, if you will. And that's why a lot of people are like, what the fuck is this? Like low vibration energy,
a shitty experience? Like I don't have that, I'm normal, but no, if you actually
stop distracting yourself, if you stop escaping yourself and you just sit down with yourself, it's probably not that
pleasant objectively. And I do this exercise every
seminar it's like, sit down, bring awareness into your body, stop escaping in the outside world. Stop escaping in your mind,
what's going on inside? And if you objectively rate it, like if someone else other than you is transported in your body, experiencing what's going on inside, if they had to rate it
on a scale of one to 10, how pleasant it is, you know, as it is. - And without the distractions. - Yeah, without distractions.
- Without the phone. - Like imagine you just
sitting at home right now, alone, doing nothing. - It's only they were experiencing you. Would they be like, shit, this is awesome being this person or fuck,
I'm glad I'm not them. And I can guarantee you, you're probably not that 10 out of 10. And none of us are due to the
way that we're conditioned. None of us are 10 out of 10. And this is the lives that we live. - Rate yourself right now on a scale of a one to 10 on what's called
your happiness set point, your state set point. So what that means is that
with no cell phone sit up, with no entertainment
going on or stimulation, without someone having sex with you, without having a perfect meal, but you just sitting with yourself, what state are you in from zero to 10? Now, also, this is
something that's sort of, we talk about more in our content is like, I'd almost call it your state spike point. What can you spike yourself to? Because say you get into
a massive flow state. You can spike yourself up. And the beauty of that is that by spiking yourself more frequently, you can habituate a better mood. It actually becomes more normal, but what's most important is recognizing if you're say at a five out
of 10, like a lot of people, six out of 10, four to 10, two out of 10, even seven out of 10, whatever it is, recognizing where you're at
without external stimulus and saying, what could I do to change it? So that my default, where I land without having
to be externally simulated, lands at a higher point, and this is where the hidden
versions of what, you know, spiritual teachers call
low vibration energy. This is where it kicks in. And that is recognizing that refrigerator that's always there that
you're not familiar with things like frenetic energy
it's feels like you're happy, but it's untethered, it's ungrounded. It's a discombobulated energy
where you're kind of just like riding this kind of
dirty high, so to speak. And that comes from getting what you want. Yes, yes, getting what you want, yes, yes. You know, maybe you're out meeting people and you've got a good reaction. You've got a good reaction. Or maybe you're at a gambling casino and it's like, oh, I'm
winning, I'm winning. Right, so you're on a
high, you're not in it. You wouldn't think that's a
low vibration energy state. You're on a high ' cause you're throwing
down, you're winning right, on the, in the physical world. You're getting what you want, but you're craving more of it. And you know that when
things don't keep going, how you expect that,
that good mood goes away. So it's an ungrounded good mood. What ways of speaking? And what ways of thinking
would it resonate with me to be at an eight out of
10 emotional addiction or a nine out of 10 or 10 out of 10? Or at least let's start
at a six out of ten or seven out of 10. So how would you speak and how would you think in order
to re addict yourself fully 'cause it takes time, but to slowly re addict yourself to a higher state set point. - I view it as like disrupting
the self fulfilling prophecy. It's because you're hooked you know, on this certain states set
point of view where like, let's just say you're a three out of 10. You're someone who's always
just kind of pissed off this you know, continuous state of
anxiety, a little no worrisome because you're hooked on that. You're going to start on one
hand, seen it everywhere. Okay, it's like the internal
colors, the external, the fearful person, like all
that person sees is, oh my God, all these scary things. But not just that. You're also going to
start looking for evidence to confirm your defaults. So you're going to block out
anything that goes against it. Like anything good. Or you might just grasp on it briefly, but immediately try to find
something to reinforce that. And it's just this loop,
you know, you're like, I feel scared, I feel scared. Oh my God, look at all
these scary situations. Look at that, reinforce it, feel scared. And you got to disrupted and you got to ask yourself
if right now is feeling, say nine out of 10, 10 out of 10, what would be the feedback loop here? How would I be talking? What would be the actions
coming from there? Where would my focus go and starts tweaking that. And I mean, just bringing
some awareness is huge. 'Cause it's really like, we never do this. We just take it for granted. It's like, this is me. - Well, people are clueless about it and defensive about it. - Oh, yeah. - As soon as you even say, that's just your emotional
addictions and dialogue, they will often feel diminished because it's almost like you're saying, your thoughts are invalid, you're invalid, you're ridiculous. So you really see them shut down when you question them on this. - What's the thing you're
the most hooked on. 'Cause again, you've been reinforcing this and like operating in this paradigm pretty much from the moment you're born. You know, it's like, you look
around, everyone's in this, say three or four out of 10. So you're like, well,
this is how it must be. You take it on and you live your life
investing in that paradigm. Like this is the thing
you're the most invested in and the most hooked on. And what basically telling you
here is you gotta drop that. You gotta let go of it. And yeah, you're gonna
feel extremely whoa, like what the fuck? Defensive a lot of resistance, but this is how you truly change your life 'cause that's, you will
follow you anywhere. You know that expression
wherever you go, there you are. That little experience will go with you no matter what you do externally. And it's about really
bringing awareness to this. And then again, changing the dialogue. - Now, this is where this gets really, really fucking trippy, okay? So you got to pay attention here. This is really trippy. This is really outside the box, okay? You're in the box. You're gonna go outside
the box for a minute here. You think that you wanna be high status. Everybody says, I want this
like really hot girlfriend. You know, if it's a girl, she wants this like really
cool husband or boyfriend. They say they want to be really wealthy or things like that. But human beings we're wired to be tribal. So let's say that most of
our evolutionary development was in, let's just say in
theory, 150 person tribe. Well back then, there
weren't all these laws that are protecting you
from being murdered. So let's say that you're a guy and you got four of the
most attractive girlfriends. And then another guy wants
to have sex with those girls to meet with them. Or let's say you've got the most nuts or the most meat or the best cave. Well, some other guy can come
and just stab you to death and kill you unless you have
the alliances to protect you. So if your brain believes that
you do not have the alliances or the status that you
need to protect yourself, your brain needs to shut you down and keep you in a low
non-resourceful state so that you don't get too high status, so that you don't get killed. And this is why you see
typically people who are say, self-made successful in their careers. They say the size of the problems reflects the size of the man. So if you're really
successful in your career, you probably don't spend a huge, or at least in order and
an amount of time gossiping or shit-talking or complaining, or being a victim or being dramatic or wasting mental capital or wasting emotional capital, you probably focus on
what you're grateful for. You're seeing opportunities. And yes, you're looking at
things that are problematic, but you're looking at them
in a way to find solutions rather than a ruminating on it. And this needs to be understood 'cause this is really crazy. In order to keep you at a low status, you will be kept at an emotional
setpoint of a two or three or four or five or
something in that range. You might spike up to a tad here or there, but you'll be kept there so that you don't get too much
emotional and mental capital because if you had too
much emotional capital, mental capital freed up, next thing, you know, you'd be high status and some caveman might
come and murder you. - Some of the things you
will notice, you know, when you're addicted to say a
three, four or five out of 10, in terms of that internal
dialogue is that for one, you're gonna be speaking in
stories as opposed to facts, you're gonna be obsessing over the story. For example, that, let's just say very negative kind of angry. - My life is ruined. - Yes, like you wanna climb over. - Is ruined, I've been mistreated. - That's the worst thing
that's ever happened to me. I don't want to talk shit,
dude, with this fucking guy, I kid you not like every time
I talked to him, he was like, yeah, dude, we're friends,
you know, you can trust me. And I think we are. And then as soon as I'm gone, like you talk shit behind my back. Like, shit, that's not even true. Like you can't get his
fucking facts straight. And you know, I try to move up. Like I know he's a good
guy as his reasons, but no, it's like, it keeps going on. And now I find out he's
doing that with everyone. Like not just me, fucking everyone. It's like, what the fuck? You know, fuck that guy, I. - Julian goddammit, we're monkeys
on a spinning fucking rock sooner we're gonna be dead. We don't even know for
sure there's an afterlife. We won't remember any of that shit. That even if there is an afterlife, it's even more significant wake up, we don't know why we're here, we don't know what we are doing at his all fucking balls Jad. (screams) - As soon as it gets a
little negative, oh my God. That's when the stories just explode and it's extremely dramatic. It's a very, you know,
this is all happening to me as opposed to, for me, type of thinking, if you just change the wording, next time you deal with a problem or next time you're a little stressed and just put it in a frame where you're grateful
about it, immediately, shit will start shifting inside. - Or dramatic words versus factual words. Like, this is a challenge. This is disruptive or
problematic as opposed, this is so fucked. - Yeah. - How could they do this? Oh my God. - Yeah. (both laugh) - The stories versus facts. - The worst day of my life. Like people price it out
every single fucking day. - That guy should die. - Oh yeah, yeah. - They're horrible. - Instead of, you know, I'm pissed off. Do you ever say that? - I'm fucking pissed. - I'm pissed. - I have no peace. - God damn it. He just says, hey, if you just changed the word pissed and just notice how that feels. Say it to the video right now. I'm pissed. - I'm pissed. - I'm pissed. - I'm fucking pissed. - Like own it. You should be looking at
your phone, your computer, like I'm pissed. You just feel like this heaviness pissed and just change it now, pissed off. - I'm pissed. - Change it now. And notice if there's perhaps a shift. If you say instead, I'm
peeved, are you pissed? Or are you peeved. - I'm peeved. - I'm peeved. - I'm so peeved. - You can't even say it. - I am peeved, It's like, I'm peeved. - This is getting me off. - I mean, yeah, you just
instantly feel lighter and you're probably
laughing, like try saying it, is pissed off as you can. Like, I am peeve, Devin peeved. You just can't. So that's just a simple example. Another one is, you know,
this situation is fucked. - I'm so fucked.
- Is fucked. - I am fucked. What about using pickled? You know, this fuck situation. It's quite a pickled
situation, very differently. - What are some words that you, 'cause it's funny, you
mentioned the word fucked. What are some ones that you actually use? Like I'll be all off into, I'll be like quite the predicament. I'll say that like, this is
quite predicament right now. Quite to the circus. Is there any, what is any use for that? - Pickled is my code too. - Okay. - Or sometimes because
I've studied this a lot. I'll pull for exaggerated. So the more I find it quite
amusing where it's like. - It's over.
- It's over. The world's want to explode all over the top.
- It's like kind of funny. Or you could go so far past. - Yes, but those are some common ones. Like I'm fucked, I'm screwed, it's over. - Yeah, 'cause you can even say I'm fist fucked in the ass until I bleed. And that could be funny. 'Cause you gotta figure
out your style, right? I don't, we don't want to
like make you say like peeved if you're not gonna really say it, right? So you could, you know, you could say, just go with something that
works for you, that's the point. - Try to say that I am
this fucked in here. Like I can't. - It's gotta make you laugh. The dialogue has to make you laugh and make others laugh. And you have to be aware of how you're hypnotizing yourself and others. - You'll see this. Like people like shoot me now. Just kill me, fuck my life. That's common word, FML,
you'll see that all the time. Like there's no point like,
eh, there's nothing I can do. No point common, no point stuck. Ugh, that person's dead to me. Those words there, dead
to me, absolutely insane. And once more, this is disempowering you and you must learn to communicate
to yourself and others if you want to move up and achieve massive
success in your health, your wealth, your relationships, and more importantly,
your overall happiness. - I can remember that I was
just very, very at deliberately, including anything
negative into my vocabulary or thought patterns. And I would listen to
people like Trent Reznor, nine inch nails or Billy
Corgan from smashing pumpkins. I think these are, I mean,
what's so crazy with those guys. These are some of the best
musicians of all time in my view. They're so incredible. I still listen to the stuff
right now to this day. I think it's incredible. But I would literally train
myself lying in bed, like ugh, ♪ Hurt self today ♪ ♪ To see if I still feel a focus on, ♪ ♪ Oh, my pain, ♪ - You like that song, right? - Oh, that's true. That's a good point. But he made it so. - He did compose it. - No, I think it's like Johnny Cash. It's like some older guy. - Somebody cash or he did a custom, one of them did it. - Well, he did a great
job of emoting it, right? And I'm just like, ♪ I focus on the pic
Theo thing that reo. ♪ I can't remember, even now, Courtney love who I wound
up living with later, I project Hollywood had, I think she had an album
called the Slit Wrists Album. And it was like this picture
of like these slit risks. And as a teenager, I
think I got that right. I'm not quite sure, but as a teenager, we
can make a whole video on stories from that
period of my life too. That could be fun. But anyway, the thing that I learned was the more depressed you are, the more that you're
winning the victim Olympics, the more that people
would give you attention. And so for that reason, I would always, I just continually had
this vocabulary about how messed up my life was. Now, I want to fast
forward to me sitting here at 39 years old. And we're sitting here running a business, an eight figure business that is very, very complicated. And I wanna put in perspective
for you that very rarely is there a day that I wake up out of bed and there's not a very serious problem. I mean, there are balls
getting dropped left and right. And every year I learned
to get better with it. And I learned to build better systems and to avoid that. So don't get me wrong. You don't want to be
like that in perpetuity. You wanna get older and fix your systems. But every day in my life, I mean, there are $50,000
mistakes, $100,000 mistakes that could be getting made at any point. And if you're running a
business where you've got people worldwide, all over the world, there's different things happening. There's a lot of consequence at stake. If every single time something
goes wrong, you go into the, ah, hurt myself today. Good luck, (laughs) good freaking
luck surviving like that. So if you wanna be a business tycoon, or if you wanna be
somebody who accomplishes anything at a high level, you've got to understand
there's gonna be a lot of different obstacles that come up. And if you don't learn
how to talk to yourself and sort of in the same way that you might hypnotize yourself in high
school, like, okay, (indistinct) okay, you're literally spending hours training yourself in the victim Olympics. If you don't learn how to train yourself in the opposite way, your ability to accomplish
big things in your life is gonna be very, very limited. Are you focused immediately to solution or are you going at ruminating on problem? And you'll see it again in
that emotional addiction, because what's happening is
the person who is addicted. I'd say a three out of 10 or
four to 10 or five out of 10. You're gonna notice consistently that they'll ruminate on it 'cause they're getting their hits. And if you try to disrupt
that with solutions, oh, they're pissed. Stop ruining my little
negative emotion, in here man. Stop talking about these solutions. I'm getting my fix right now, right? It's like, they're smoking a cigarette, and you're like squirt, gutting
the cigarette thing like. - You're ruining my
life man, dammit, yeah. It's like, let me have this. Yeah, I mean, it's crazy. It's like, when you get really pissed off, I love this example. You can get so pissed off and you start fuming. And then it turns out that the
reason you were pissed off, again, facts versus story. Let's say you find out that there's nothing to be pissed off about. You're not just gonna
switch immediately to, oh, okay, we're good then. You're gonna be like, but still. And you're gonna keep
looking for reasons to keep. - And even if that is true,
this was still fucked anyway. So this is justified this feeding
to my emotional addiction, this feeding like this vampire, like, I don't want to ha right? Like the feeding, it's
still justified, but still. - Think about all this stuff that just kind of pisses you off. The stuff that pisses you
off, that stresses you out, that makes you mad in life
for the next 20 seconds here. Indulge me, just kind of dive into this. You know, I'm pissed off
that cold weather exists, pissed off about the
traffic, about my boss, this fucking guy pissed
off that I have to work, pissed off that I can't sleep
in, I wish I could sleep in. You know, I wish people would
smile more that pisses me off, pissed me off big money. - People are so negative. - You have to make money to live. That's fucking annoying, isn't it? All this shit that pisses you off. And you just feel that energy, that momentum building just
kind of dragging you down. Now let's stop, okay. And let's shift this. Can you go over that same list of things that pisses you off, stresses you out, and find a way to perhaps
be grateful for them, all the stuff you hate, can you find a way to appreciate them? And if you go over that
list, like, you know, I'm pissed off about traffic. Could you perhaps be
grateful that, you know, you have a car to be stuck
in traffic, that cars exist. If you have a job that you're
not a fan of a boss, you hate, could you be grateful that
you have a boss to hate. Things could be a lot worse. And just that little shift
there, if you go over that list and I'd really recommend
doing this, writing it down and then taking each point and finding a way to be grateful for it, just shifting perspectives. You're gonna sense yourself,
perhaps smiling more, feeling lighter and moving up. So that's just one example. And you sense, there's a certain language that brings you down and another language that brings you up and you feel the energy like even here, it could be very easy
to be like, you know, it pissed me off that it's cold. God damn so annoying that
we're out here in the cold or, you know what, I'm grateful that I'm able to record a video out here. This is amazing. And suddenly, oh, there's that life force that comes back, okay. To little victim, as opposed to, for me gratitude, appreciation. - It gives you a new
appreciation for California. - Yes, you know, or just
grateful for cold weather. Just the experience of cold weather. This is very unique, you know,
to have my fingers freezing. This is amazing. As opposed to why has my fingers freezing? Oh, it brings you down. Say as an example, facts versus stories. You're, is it's Friday. It's the last day at your job. And you know, you leave and it's about, you're about to head into the weekend. And so you get an email, you know what everyone important meeting Monday morning, very important. And you just see that an email
you're like what's happening. And there's like, you know what, and John, I want to talk to you
specifically you, that's the fact, there's an email saying, hey,
there's a meeting Monday, John, you know you, or whoever you are, you have to be there specifically you and your mind might be looping. Like, oh man, maybe
I'm going to get fired. What did I do? What are they gonna say? Oh my God, bringing you down. And you're focusing on a
story that you created. It's not the actual fact. Okay, so instead of
obsessing and you know, adding to the story, which we do all, and then if I could fired then this and what am I gonna do? And Trent Reznor comes back and oh my God, it's the end, it's all over. Stop yourself there, focus on the facts. The same with someone texting you. I mean, that happens all the time. That's probably one of the best examples. Like how many times you
misinterprets a text message. You're like, how dare they, when that was not the intention
at all facts versus stories. And another great concept
that goes with this is seek first to understand
then to be understood. This is back in the day I
was getting to the airport and I was late. And the whole time it's like, God damn it. God damn it, God damn it. I'm like flipping out to the bars, like stressing out in
the back of this taxi. And literally we start driving. It's like, we're stuck. And it's been like that for 20 minutes. And we finally get to where it ends. And there was an accident and it was like seven cars. I could have seven cars
that get each other. I don't, I didn't see anyone hurt, but like there was like some ambulances and it just like made me shut up. Like that could literally be me. Here I am bitching. I'm like, God damn. It's like, Holy fuck. You know, and it's true. Like we think that stressing
out about something. We'll fix it. - Trump, Trump. - We literally think like, it'll fix it if we just stress out. But in reality, as you said, or, you know, as GI as famous GI once said, you know, whether you're stressed out or not, it doesn't change anything and say, it doesn't happen. Like you make it on time. Stressing out was a waste of time. And if you miss it, guess what you know, stress out then if you like, but stressing will help either. So it's a lose, lose. There's nothing you can do. And it's to reflecting back on your life. There are so many instances
where I thought it's over. Like we literally overblown. We're like it's over buckets or situations where you think there's no way
out where it's flipping out. Like in the end here, we all are. Imagine the right now, if you're going through a lot
of adversity watching this, imagine two, three years
in the future, I told you, hey, it'll be okay. You had an eight guaranteed
signed contract from the universe from God saying, it'll be okay. Your experience going through
it would it be much easier. - Any situation you can become a victim or you could move up. Okay, you can get bitter
or you can get better. I love reading about modern psychology. I love reading about neuro
chemistry or biology, science, things that are tested. But I also love reading
the spiritual books, that kind of Wu books,
I like to read it all, to be honest with you. So to me, I'm not one of these people that just bought into anything I read, I love different perspectives. So one of the perspectives they have in Eastern spiritual growth, or even a lot of like
the new age movement, which I don't identify with
Julie, doesn't identify with, but we love it 'cause
it's just kind of cool. Having just sort of take
some things from it. Even if it kind of rubs you the wrong way and the people in it
don't sync up with you, you can still get a
lot of value out of it. And I really enjoy that. So what they will say is we actually are and before we're
incarnated into this earth, we choose our problems. And we forget that we're souls. We come to the earth
with all these problems that we preplanned and shows. And I mean, this kind of weird, but they'll even say that
we come with a soul family. And so our soul family
actually comes to the earth, free plants, even people
that were enemies with funny enough, and our soul family comes and plays these roles
so that we can learn. That's why sometimes
if you've ever seen me have a dispute with somebody and then I'd never speak that to them, it's as fucked up as this is in my mind. I'm like, that's probably
a guy for my soul family, this here to teach me something. So I'm like, I'm not gonna be mad at him. (laughs) now, you know? Okay, crazy the dumb shit in my mind is, but that's the frame that
I try to take is that we were incarnated on this earth with all the problems preplanned and every time that the problem happens, that's a chance to move up. Now, what's funny about that frame. Here's, what's interesting about it. Whether you believe that
like those soul family or whether you're more of a
scientifically minded person or you like a modern day psychology, simply ask yourself a question. What outcomes would it have to believe some nonsense like this whole family? Well, not nonsense,
really this soul family, but you see the idea of that. But what would happen is
whenever something bad happens, you would have a powering belief systems where you feel like you planned this and then you'd be like, oh, this is cool. What's the lesson here, I'm excited. - Yeah. - And there's not a moment wasted. I'm getting another lesson right now. I don't get to fall in my comfort zone. 'Cause usually people
fall in the comfort zone it kind of sucks. So whether you believe
the soul family argument or that you incarnated
here with this all plant, don't worry about that. But maybe just try it as an experiment and see how it affects you. And what you might find is
that it affects you so well by being you don't a year from now, you start to believe it,
even though it's nonsense, but you start believing it just because it's so helpful. I just thought that was
something that I found. - Yeah. - Maybe you don't for other people. I think that other edit things
kind of sync up with them and that's just too out there. - I'll use everything like
I view that as a tool. Like I choose to believe that at times. I also question, if again, I know it's bad or not like
say you really want a promotion and you don't get the promotion. You might think like,
fuck, this is horrible, but isn't, maybe in the
long run, it helps you. And if you got the promotion, something would happen
where you're not very happy or like a relationship
you want it to go well and say, you break up and now you're with someone else. They're like, oh, thank God, that ended. You don't know if it's good or not. - The breakup one I
think is the most visible and obvious of almost any of them because every breakup I've
had, I've been just crushed. If it was a girl I was really tight with. And yet every single time, it always turns out
her greatest gift to me was to let that die. And that is so, so strange
that it works out that way. And I don't even know if
it's just a trick of the mind and it just feels that way, but I've never gone backwards. I've never had my next girlfriend and been like, no, I really want back that previous girlfriend, I'm always just incredibly happy and grateful that she allowed
that to end strangely, right? - Yeah. - But it's very powerful to
go through that experience. - And that's why the first
breakup so it's hard for people 'cause they're like, will
I ever get this again? But when it happens, say a few times, then you have that trust where it's like, the universe has my back. It'll all be fine, I'll still
be here two, three years from now watching a video
with my new girlfriend. And it'll be better. - Yeah, that's, true
comment in the comments if you're watching this a year from now with your new girlfriend and you were crushed at the time, and by the way, my theory on this is, and I'm sure you agree. This is that the universe has her back. If you strive to understand
universal principles and to surrender to those principles. So every moment that you have
a challenge is an opportunity to say, what is the
universe asking for me? And can I use this as a
chance to surrender to that? Because when you want the physical, you crave the physical to
look how you want it to look, you're now moving down. But when you say, okay, you know what, I'm going
to go into presence now, I'm gonna move up and I'm going to move with the world. Imagine you have a force
field around you that stops negative energy from coming in. You imagine that
negativity was almost like negative spiritual entities that are floating around
that when you get negative, you start to attract them because you resonate with them and they clump onto you
like little leaches, imagine that, and. - Floating around. - Just floating around, okay? And if you begin to, if
you're like really positive, then like happy little
positive spirits, jump on you. And if you're negative,
these naughty little negative ones, jump on you and they just suck the life out of you and whatever you resonate with, you kind of draw these towards you. So that being the case, you want to imagine that
your force field around you has different holes in it. There's these different
holes where negative energy can get in there. And the basic holes that we look at is approval, control and safety. And those are the three
classical ones, right? - Yeah, in the spiritual world,
you'll see this everywhere, like approval control, security,
approval, control, safety, security, you know, survival if you will. - And so what can happen is whatever is negative in your life, you could often break it down to like, like I know for myself
as a man, it's like, I couldn't control this. I can't just make it do this. And it drives you crazy. Or like that person said this about me. I didn't get the approval. Or maybe something makes you feel unsafe. Now, some other ones that are
amazing is also self attack. You just it's like another
hole in the forest. So we're kind of just adding onto these. You could add on you own, you can make your own four seals. So basically again,
another one is self attack where the negative energy just boom, you start self attacking her. But I think there's a degree
to which spiritual type people can avoid self attack a little
bit too much because they don't let something land. They mess up and they won't
let it land at what they did and own it. Take the lesson and move on. And then there's other
people which is most people who self attack too much. So there's sort of a balance here. And everybody is at a different
space with self attack, but self attacks and other ones. So again, lack of safety, lack of control, lack of
approval, self attack. Now another one and this is a massive, and really it's anything
that takes you out of the present moment is not knowing what's gonna happen and looping on it. So it's like, what's
gonna happen with this. I don't know, I don't know. And you keep thinking and
thinking and thinking and thinking and the energy gets denser and denser and it creates this sort of frenetic or discombobulated energy where you're looping on
something where you don't know what the answer is right now. Another one is just any
kind of general attachment. You have too much of an
outcome towards something or an aversion to something and that aversion of something or outcome to something again
is shoving you in your head. So you want to think of these as anything where you're not present to the moment, and anything that's
shoving you into your head, it's making you loop in your head. And then from there, the way that you want to think about it is that negative energy attracts or attacks you through your thoughts. So when you're in your body and present to the moment, okay, when you're out of your head and in the present moment, its very, very hard for
negative energy entities to attack you again in our little funny
mill foreseeable model here, our hypothetical one. And, when you're in your head, it is very easy to attack. And that's why people that
are often are very logical and very in their head. You can see the life
being sucked out of them because negative energy is
having its way with them. It is literally just pumping them, just taking him, having his way with them and they are under the
spell of negative energy. So what we want to do here is, again, we wanna be thinking about
control approval, safety, self attack, not knowing
what's gonna happen, attachment or aversion to
anything, just things like that. And again, you can make your own triggers. Cause you could also argue that
every individual throughout life will get these other
holes through their forcefiels, where the negative energy can get in. And by the way, this is
a little bit off topic. But my theory is that if that were true, I don't know. But if it were true, I believe that people
with personality disorders like dark triad, whether that's sudden
sociopathy or it could even be a borderline personality disorder, what I've observed in
people who experienced that is that they often the negative energy seems to have almost like in the movie, the matrix where a cable
is like plugged in the back of their head, that negative energy
almost has a cable right in the back of their head. There is no force field at all. And that's why they also say
with this force field thing, is that when you drink or use drugs, what winds up happening is that
the negative energy is like, Oh, they're messing up their forcefield, let's let them do it. And the negative. So when you start doing
things that hurt you, the negative energy goes away. You feel euphoric, it punctures holes in the forcefield and later there's the more
your, your force field. It's like Swiss cheese. And then what starts to happen is that people who have longtime
history of drug use often commit suicide. So if we look at say Chris
Cornell, the guy Chester, Bennington, Robin Williams, Avici, and many others, what happens is that they've
had this party lifestyle, which they're having a lot
of fun, I guess, right? I mean probably incredible amount of fun, but the consequence of it is
it just punctures, punctures, punctures, punctures that are forcefield and later in life, and sadly, even after they've cleaned up, they develop this kind
of like relationship to like, if you ever seen the show Dexter, he calls it like the dark passenger. There's almost this relationship to the low vibration energy. And it just winds up
taking them happen too. I think Anthony Bordain also
used to party pretty hard. It's my understanding. And it can even get them later in life. So you've got to get really really good at building that forcefield
through food choices that you make lifestyle decisions
that you make many other decisions you make will
make lots of videos on this. But also the big one
that we're covering here and we're gonna get a lot deeper into is your dialogue, the way that you're thinking and the way that you're
expressing yourself and the way that that's reverberating and creating all these
self-fulfilling process. You want to be the master
of your own reality here. You want to be the master
of your universe here, and you've got to become aware of this. - Yeah. And if you just
want to notice too, how they'll just take
a hit by those things. Notice how you feel right now. Notice the thoughts you have and what comes up when you hear me ask you, what are all the things you're
trying to control right now? Just notice the shift, all the things in your life. You're trying to control, control different people, different outcomes,
things you really wish. Oh, I hope it goes this way. Trying to control it. Control how people perceive you, how they feel about you. Control your life, all the little things
you're trying to control, control yourself, what you're
feeling, what you're thinking. Just take a moment to take that in. Like, wow, all the things
you need to control. The heaviness that comes from that, or the need for validation, for acceptance, for recognition, for love. What comes up around there? What are all the different things you try to do for that? You know, trying to dress
a certain way for approval, acceptance, validation,
acting a certain way, living your life a certain way, saying certain things, liking certain things, you know, putting on this
little front, trying to fit in. How does that run you in your
life with the need for safety, security, like financial worry. Do I have enough money? Am I gonna be safe? Am I gonna be secure? Do I have a shelter over my head, a job, what if I lose my job? Thinking about the future, what's gonna happen? What's the answers. What if I don't know the answers and then self attack over that? You don't know the answers. You should be like this. Why are you so pathetic? Why do you procrastinate? Why do you let control
approval, safety, security, and not knowing the answers
run you you little shit on and on. What are all the different
ways you self attack? What comes up around that? Or attachment aversion? The things you're really hoping
will happen or not happen. The people you're hoping. You'll see they'll like you wonder which swish you don't see them. What comes up around this? And just sitting into this now you're probably a little round up and that's how it gets you right now. We just opened up a couple
holes where we brought your awareness more so to those holes. And that's what you got to fix. When you're in this state, it's very easy to start looping for one of those little
and that's to get you. - I'm going to die before. And the weirdest thing, when you lie there, thinking
you're going to die is wow. All that energy and I'm dead anyway. All that. - Yeah, I've not had the
near death like that, but it is said like either in a near death or some kind of life crisis situation, there's a glimpse where they just kind of all disperse and you're like, Whoa, like, this is what I actually care about and what, you know, it's like, even the people you're
probably chasing right now, it's like, it's all about them. Like if you died and you reflect on your
life from the perspective you've been dead, you're
like, what was I doing? Those are not the people
I actually care about. It was these people. People always have my back and it might not have been there for them as much as I should have. It just brings a lot of clarity. It's like, all of those parasites are gone and you're like left with the real you. But as long as those holes are there, they're running you. And probably even right now, as you're watching this, they're just attached to you. Just suck in the living shit out of you. (laughs) You're on your arm. They're right there. They're everywhere. - Human beings. We are wired to detect
threats more than opportunity. What happens if you miss that tiger in the hedges, rustling the hedges and you miss one threat, one threat. What happens? That's why most animals
this far through evolution are very, very attuned to a threat. And so if you're watching the news and they show opportunities,
you may change the channel. But if you see a threat, it's
hard not to keep watching. Now what happens? That that threat energy
has its own momentum. And when you get up,
you're in a light level, state of adrenaline, right? When you watch the news, you're not in this like
horrible, horrible state. You're in this kind of
light state of adrenaline. And if you're in a nice
light state of adrenaline, that's infecting your
behavior on an ongoing basis. Now, what if you went to a party and you're joking with your friends, let's say that you
stayed sober even, okay. You didn't go poison yourself. (laughs) So you stayed sober. You're joking with your friends. And it's just a whole night of
cracking jokes, being silly, playing around, sharing energy. How do you leave that kind of environment? - Okay, so what's also
important to recognize is how that changes your perspective. One type of input makes you
focus on obstacles and threats the other makes you see opportunities. Now, if you're always focused
on obstacles and threats, is that, is there any good to that? There is some good, there are threats, always on the horizon. Great, that being said, are
you gonna miss opportunities? Are you in an expansive state or a contracted state? You're in a contracted state. So a lot of people in general society, they could learn how to be filthy rich, but they're so afraid of
losing their little job. They could be really happy, but they're so afraid of
letting down their guard . They're in a fear state and there's opportunities flying over your head left and right. And this is how the
system keeps people down. It is a media system and it's a self perpetuating loop. You're in a fear state. You look for media that
feeds that fear say, cause you want more of whatever you have. You watch it. They in the media, look
at what the clicks are. They put up the story with the kitten and you don't click. Let's not just blame them guys. You gotta start with yourself. If everybody would clean
up their own porch, there will be a lot better. Don't just point the finger at the media. You've got to own what you're looking at. What kind of content you're consuming. - If you're only focused on
the threats, you're screwed. You think it'll keep you safe, but it does the exact opposite, right? Like you're looking
for threats to be safe, but by always looking for threats, you never feel safe. And then guess, what I know
someone's like, damn right. And not only that, but you will most likely
manifest more and more threats. It's like someone who's in a relationship and it's like, I'm afraid
of my partner's gonna cheat. Gonna cheat looking for reasons like how did they prove their
cheating, cheating? What's going to happen. They're going to fucking cheat,
the same with the threat. If your threats obsessed, you will attract more and more threats. They will come to you and you will find them. Your RAS will create
that reality of threats. And guess what? There's an infinite amount of threats really catch yourself too. When you're like looking
for that negativity. Like first thing you do in the morning, I can bet 95% of you do this reach for your fucking phone. First thing you wake up, you're still like the first light you see is not the light of day
is the fucking blue light. Just blasting you from your phone. And then you're scrolling through and catch what your intention is. You're not looking for good news per se. That's kind of assumed. It's like good news, good news. What's the triggering one. What's the one that'll piss me off. There's a mother fucker. And then you flip out, we all do this. And then it starts our day. And you could even argue one we're hooked on it. And we become addicted to this state. But you could even argue that because we are also conditioned to live in
this state of apathy. You feel alive, this is your purpose. It's like, where's my spike
of adrenaline to feel alive. My outrage, my fear, my anger, my terror. I want to feel threatened cause at least I feel fucking something. And then you're like, Oh, and then you keep going around
like the chain of events. Like the reaction chain
of reaction starts, fuck that person got
damaged in the shower. Fucking shit. Look at it again, God damn it. And just keep going about your
day like this it's insane. And then again, you keep looking for more, the system feeds it to you. Like, why is it that like
what sounds catchier here? Like this video will reveal
the truth about success and hard work and the exact
steps you need to take. But it will be a lot of work or like the actual truth, the exact roadmap, or this person lied to
you ... truth revealed. Lies, revealed, Oh, you
are being manipulated. Like this is how good it is. Like Julian and Tyler reveal
the ... some say content, or how fast would you click on this? Julian exposes Tyler for
the lies and manipulation. Everyone would click on that. Notice it gets triggered in you. So let's dive into some
of the lower paradigms. One could say, and just follow my voice here and just see what comes up, okay. Just look at the life you've lived so far. Pretty hard, huh? There, I feel like it just
a little harder for you just looking around at everyone else, having so fucking easy. For real, I'm not even joking here. Do you ever sing into this? Like seeing people just kill it, whether it's dating success,
they just have it so easy. But for you, it's a little different. And it's always been that way you know. Even from a young age, just
looking around and it's like, why do people have it so easy? Why is it so fucking hard for me, right? Why do I have all these fucking
limitations and beliefs? Why is it so hard for me? Is there something wrong with me? Do you ever feel like there's something a little off with you? What did you do to deserve that? What did they do to
deserve it going so well? People who didn't deserve, just
take it for fucking granted. You ever see that? Like say you want a good dating life. Why is it that those assholes are the ones who get the girls. Right? They just take it for granted
a good person like you can't even do it. Why were you at posed
those limitations and shit? No, aren't you a good person? Why are you being punished? Do you agree? Do you ever feel that? Like, what did you do? Like for real, it's like
you're being punished. You have all these good intentions yet. For some reason it's
different and harder for you. Why couldn't you be born in
the easy track to success? - Whoever it feels that way. Put your hand up. I used to wonder that so much. - And by the way, notice how you feel. We just descended. This is that reality. Blame others, self pity,
outrage, fear, grief. We've descended in those
lower realms right now here. Let's shift it. Notice if you notice a difference here, although yeah, it's a
little harder for us. Aren't you grateful for some
of the shit you went through? It led you to this. It made you realize and learn different lessons that others might have not realized. And although you might see
someone have it easier, are they more whole as a person perhaps they're missing
some of those Epiphanes that you had, perhaps there's a certain
pride in that journey. The fact that they was, you know, quite a turbulent journey. And when you look back, that'll make the most Epic fucking movie. You don't want it smooth. You'll look back and be like that used to be me. Yeah, I had those stuff. I had to work through
it, but look at me now. And God damn. Was that a sick fucking movie? Hey, no, I notice a shift, right? Different languages, different focuses. This one here is more gratitude based like I'm grateful for the challenges as opposed to I'm a victim. It's happening to me
for me, to me, for me, the world has my back is on my side. I can trust the world. Things are happening for
my own best interests, possibilities stuck. The world is against
you out to get you God, the universe is against you. It put these limitations on you. You're being punished. You're a bad person, Same facts. Just someone say going through
some different challenges, different perspectives,
different realities. And two people could
go and be going through the exact same thing. But once more in those parallel reality. - Can you guys see that when
you see someone else speaking, if they're in a higher
reality or lower reality, based on what they tend to focus on in this situation, can
you see it in others? Can you see it in others? - [Crowd] Yes Okay, so that's one of the first ones is just being aware in others. And then eventually you can see
in yourself, the vocabulary. - What I just did here, you can apply to anything
even just general advice. Like here's one, you wanna be successful. You can do this. And like you'll unleash your best self. And then you'll be able to provide for a change the world and world peace. So on and so forth, right? There's one or are you sick and tired of just being
stuck at the bottom, right? Seeing other people move ahead. Isn't it your turn to rise up and take what's yours. People are lying to
you with that bullshit, positivity piece fucking shit. You want to take yours, don't you, it's your birthright to take yours, put your Mark on this world and get the shit. You know, you deserve inside. Fuck the liars, fuck the
people who hold you down. How many people are
holding you down, right? It's like, everyone's like,
you sense the riling up. You're like, yeah. And then guess what, it, your focus. - You take an action. And if that action has within it, the seed of the energy of perspective, the energy of abundance, the
energy of the bigger picture, it has that within it, that action moves you up. And if an action has the seed within it, of that dense energy,
this, this me, me, me, I'm not getting enough. I'm in scarcity. Even if what you're doing
appears to be moving forward, oftentimes it's actually
moving you backwards. And so a weird way of
thinking about it is like actions that contain perspective and that are brought
about through perspective. They will make things better
in the bigger picture, in the greater picture of your life. They make things better. But in addition, your
interstate transmutes into a higher state, okay, you move up internally, you go into higher vibration or whatever you want to call it. Conversely, when your action
is too much in the ground, what happens is you make things harder. So as an example, let's say
like that guy wasn't nice to me. And then you're mad about it. And then you trigger him and
you think you're helping. And then he triggers you and then you trigger him
and then he triggers you. And what happens is now you're
both using that as a way to ignore the awesomeness of life. You're not letting in the gift and you're using each other and fighting with each other. Not letting you not see this
with close friends and my brothers and my family, mine to where shit is going so awesome. Everybody's doing so amazing. And it's almost like you
just can't let yourself win because there's that addiction
to being stuck in place and you see it in the pupil, you see it right in people were like, it's almost as if when you open up the pupils open up and there's a softness in the pupil. Like I'm letting it in. I'm receiving the gift. But conversely, when they're closed off, there's a hardness in it. And I think that what's
really critical here is that when you give weirdly it
prepares the vessel to receive. So when you're too much in the earth, it's like me, me, me, me, me, you're not preparing
yourself to actually receive. And that's where you go
into that kind of land of hungry ghost mode. Like I say, in Buddhism with
like these little creatures, like the fat belly and like the straw mouth. And they're always needing more because people are unaware of the kind of karmic
consequences of their action. Now, if you don't believe in karma or spiritual growth, that's okay. Just look at it with your own two eyes and see how actions that you take that are based in this kind of me me me at first, in the short term,
they appear to be helping. But in the longer term, they wind up blowing up
in your fucking face. - I mean, even with karma too, by the way, it's not just your actions
where it say it keeps you stuck, but it attracts more people that resonate with that type of action. So just there, like say you're someone who's like very petty. You're going to attract other people who are like hooked on that same pettiness and it's going to be self-reinforcing and this is one of the big, big obstacles they're going to have to plow through. When you say commit to moving up, it's stop fueling the pettiness and start resonating with
new people, you know? And you'll be tempted. Like people come up to
you like you're like, no, what I know for depending
just enough of the blame higher perspective, and some will come up to you
and find that one little thing that just triggers you and you have to stay fucking focused. Like, Nope, I'm not
gonna acknowledge this. Like yeah, I'm aware of it, but I'm not going to feed it. I'm just going to keep moving forward, keep committing to moving up. And that may mean, you know, perhaps say disconnecting with
certain people in your life. - I want you to imagine
yourself as this infinite being that this being who, whose potential is, just beyond anything
that you could imagine, the somebody who has the
ability to do things that just you have no fucking idea right now, amazing things could be. I'd love you to imagine that and that awesome newness in many ways, just as a thought experiment, perhaps you could
envision that it parallels the awesomeness of the universe. Now I understand that, you know, just some fucking humans here, some evil monkeys are not
exactly quite the awesomeness of the universe by a way of looking at it. But another way of looking at it, we are a microcosm of the universe. It's almost like the universe is in us. So that being the case, what
is holding back our potential, what's going on there. And again, going back
to this balloon analogy, it's like, you're trying to rise, but something is holding you down and when something's holding you down now you've got to try to make decisions or move forward in your
life with these chains. So a lot of the things
that seem to make sense, like things that you make
complete fucking sense, and this moment they make sense to you within the paradigm, within the reality that you're
dealing with the chains. So say they're trying to fly around. You've got these chains attached to you. Well, now all of a sudden, whenever you take a
left turn or right turn, you've got to account for these chains, but what would happen if you let them go? So a simple example will
be like take alcohol. And so you don't drink. I mean, you'll drink the
tiniest amount of wine or whatever it is, I don't drink. And people will come up to us on route and they're like, you're not drinking. How's that possible? How could you even have fun? Well, within a paradigm that you are stuffing down trauma energy and that you need alcohol
to kind of Medicaid, that trauma energy, it makes perfect sense that
you need alcohol to have fun within that paradigm, that makes sense. But all of a sudden, if you've let that go and you're connected to your source and you're in abundance and you're present,
you're feeling amazing. Then if anything, alcohol just drags you down at that point. Now, you know, a small amount can be like this kind of nice little
warm buzz at dinner. Somebody that everything
within moderation, I don't think we were trying to make like this teetotaler video here, but I think you understand
the general context of what we're saying. Likewise, imagine, say with
pharmaceutical pills, well, if you're eating the sad, the standard American diet and you're poisoning yourself because you're addicted
on oily French fries or, you know, chemical filled
chips that you get a seven. - Burger just grease. - So say you got that. Well, if that's the
paradigm that you're in and you're not to get out,
you're not able to get out of it. Well then of course, something like a pharmaceutical
pill makes sense, like say that you're depressed. Well, the reason you're depressed is because your brain's neurotransmitters are being taken down by the food that you're eating. And if you're not willing
to let go with that food, if that's something that
you're addicted on to then a SSRI, selective
serotonin reuptake inhibitor, maybe will at least get
your brain working properly. And there's so many
different examples of this, where when you're in a limited paradigm and your consciousness is suppressed, that you have these
things that you're using, which allow you to cope and to get by. - This whole world is
run on, take the pill, like don't address the cause
here let's work on the effects. Oh, you, you feel as
depressed here, take the pill. Oh, you know what? You eat you feel like shit. Here's some alcohol. - You have a headache? - You've headache,
yeah, take some aspirin. Oh, you're bored here. Watch a movie, watch a TV show. Here's millions of TV shows
millions of hours of TV shows. Here's how to distract yourself. You want to, you feel a little bit bad, a little bad inside here, buy a new, t-shirts go to
this store, buy a new movie, go on Amazon, here's Amazon prime. It makes it even easier. We'll deliver it to your doorstep million things you can buy. I mean, yeah. Society thrives on that and it really prevents us
from like taking a step back again, cultivating that
larger perspective on things and letting go of those
chains, getting to the cause. - Within a state of your
mind being suppressed, you are limited. So if you're, in a state
where you can't think clearly, and then we say to you, okay, you know, we could get you on this type of diet. We can help you with this. We can help you. This will help you. It's like, Whoa, it's too complex. So, you know the best example
I can think of say a headache. If you have a headache, one thing you could do is you could take an Advil and
get rid of the headache. But another thing that you could do is you could get a chiropractic adjustment because your neck is out of whack. You could also massage your neck because the muscles on the back
of your neck are too tight. You could go to crowd therapy
because you're inflamed. You can take turmeric shots, ginger shots take greens
because you're inflamed. You can sleep in a pitch black room because you're under slept. You could go get water because you're dehydrated and all of a sudden, and also you can just
take a fucking break. You're probably stressed. You could release, you could meditate. So all of those things are a little bit too complex to do when you're in a suppressed state. So you can't see that larger paradigm. Now notice the lower, the level of the paradigm that you're in. This is a rule. So pay attention, the lower, the level of
the paradigm you're in the more simple of a
solution you fucking crave. And anytime that somebody shows you a solution of the higher paradigm, because your consciousness, your awfulness has been suppressed. You can't process that solution, but not only can you not process it because you're just too
goddamn tired to process it. You don't even resonates with it. Let's say that you want
to evaluate somebody and see where they're at. Here's a general way of telling them, let's say you're driving with them and somebody cuts them off and you feel them just get so offended and you can feel it there's
this sort of low vibration energy reactiveness to
that cutoff in traffic, or maybe they get a meal. And instead of the French fries coming, they order the sweet potato fries. They got the regular French fries. Well, I don't know. Maybe, maybe you'd have to be pretty
lightened to get past that one. But you see the general idea and you can see this
with everything to where anything will be triggering them to pull them back down into this kind of low suppress state. And again, let's go back to pettiness. So what is the definition of petty? Petty is where you've
got this awesome world in front of you is fucking incredible. Like we're sitting out
here just some old city, like Denver, beautiful place, just all struck just by
looking around at everything from the like, I mean, stop and pause. Think about this. The odds that the galaxy would ever exist. The fact that there's a sun, the fact that planet earth is the right distance from the sun to be nourished by the sun. The fact that we have
water different matter, all that that came together. Then the dinosaurs, the,
you know, like the fish, the fish little things coming out of there to great dinosaurs, dinosaur
extinction, all this shit, that gods weren't where humans around now, humans not getting eaten by animals to people figuring out
all the architecture and Gregg people, Roman
people, everything. So we could breathe this air so that this world could exist. All this on this camera, on this internet, all of this fucking exist. The awestruck inconceivability of it. I mean, right now, just look up any video about the universe and realize that even like, this is one little chunk of Denver, and then it expands to Colorado, to America, to the world, the world, into our little solar system, to the Milky way, to
the trillion, bazillion, whatever fucking Milky ways. Go look this up on YouTube. The inconceivability that monkeys like us are sitting on a fucking rock. And all that you can think of is, Oh my God, I got cut off. I didn't get led in the club. Oh my God, and anything that you could do to cut yourself off from that, but notice that when you conceive of these higher level paradigms, the mind becomes still and watch how perception
goes from being zoomed in on this little fucking bullshit that makes you reactive to suddenly it starts to open up and open up and open up. And you're like, Whoa. And you start to feel at peace. And you see things from
a different paradigm. You see it in a different light to where maybe things are not a big deal. And all of a sudden, even
though that, that guy, that fucking cut you off in traffic, it seems like a big deal. Maybe you say, say a piece. And if I say a piece and I'm in a good mood, then how does that affect me? When I get to my next destination and the people who I relate with and how they want to be around me and how, when I'm in a great state, other people want to be
around me in a great state. And when I'm in a great
state of more resourceful, in which case my mind has opened up, there's more solutions present. And it doesn't fucking matter that this one stupid fucking situation, like I got cut off and look at anybody and watch their reactiveness
with each little thread. And you can see how that's
holding down their greatness. Also look in the pupil. And you know, it's funny because in a lot of our videos, people will say is that they on cocaine or some shit that because our peoples will be big, even when light is
shooting in, by the way, funny enough. Right? Cause we think pupils
gonna be big when it, when it's dark. I know what my peoples
look like right now. I call myself out. But you see the general
idea and people say, how do you get eyes like that? A lot of it is a shift in the mind to where you're coming
out of this dense energy. And as you open up, there's
a softness in the pupil. I think the guy who's, you
can really see it from, it's kind of funny as Ralph smart, infinite waters, let go breathe
in the Purana babe, right? I mean like talk about perspective. Right. He's he's maybe
a little ahead of us. So what's that Ralph? Okay. So the basic idea being
he like watching this, like what the fuck? So bro, okay. You're in Venice or in
the Hollywood Hills. Come see us. Okay. So you see the general idea where as you open up in perception, you'll see it in the eyes and people whose, whose
perception is closed down. You'll see these beady little eyes and you'll see their face will
start to wrinkle prematurely. You'll see black bags under the eyes and sort of a gone to look. And I mean, it's a bit cliche to say this, not a bit cliche, it's
very cliche to say this, but it's almost like the evil has taken over. And if you really want to see this, okay, if you're ready for me to
really fuck your brain up, what actually happens is
that as you move into an, a more open abundant mode
at, in more presence, in a more high vibration,
whatever you want to call it, I don't care what you call it. Just get the idea. You don't need to get
hung up on the jargon. What starts to happen is that
your gaze becomes more steady. Follow this year, subtle. Your gaze becomes a more steady. And as you come out of abundance and the connection to the fucking
awesome rest of the world, out of presence, you'll
notice that your gay starts to kind of look away more because what's happening is you're getting reactive to the person. So that person is making you reactive or maybe you're reacting to the situation. And so you're closing in those
karmic threads are kind of pulling you down and in. Now what happens is, if
this is you fully present and your eyes are boom like
that, as you move down, you'll notice that you'll flinch more. You'll look away more all
the way down to say neutral. Now then as you go into say what, you'd almost call low vibration
energy, I call tollway, you would call it the pain
body into negative energy, whatever you wanna call it, do not get hung up on the jargon. Just get the fucking idea. Then what starts to happen again? Flinching, flinching, flinching. But then what starts to happen
is actually the gaze resets because instead of being
steeped in the abundance and awesomeness of the world, you become steeped in pettiness. And that low vibration energy
that kind of in the physical, that dense energy actually consumes you. And you start to look at like, say Charles Manson or Elliot Rogers. If you look up some at
Elliot Rogers, final videos, the steadiness of his gaze, it almost looks like a
very confident person. And yet it's fueled by evil. - It really is no winning as
long as that chain is attached, you know, and you might be
convinced like, okay, I get that. I'm reactive here. Like say, you're cut off in traffic. You're like, you know what? I get it or say, you're
having a battle with a friend. You're like, fuck that person. Or, you know, you're in a relationship. You're like, oh fuck that. And you know, I could do this and I'll fucking win. And you think win externally, but there's still that chain. And as long as that chain is there, you can kid yourself as much as you want. And you may even temporarily
succeed externally, but it'll rock you on the inside. It will get you one way or
another, one way or another. It will come and bite you in the ass. And yeah, some good movies that
really illustrate this point are casino, if you watch that Scarface, you may think you're winning. And then you can just see again, if it's fueled by the wrong
thing, it's never sustainable. And it'll get you. - Yeah, there's so many movies like that blow up straight outta Compton
funny enough with easy. I love easy prize biggest fan of all time. I love the dude, but he was definitely fueled
by low vibration energy. You could see it. And so at the end, when you
watch it all fall apart, you can see that. - I don't buy into the belief that the more intense the emotions, the more authentic they are and the more you must take action. 'Cause we think that, you know, I'm feeling it strongly. That means it's real. That means I must take action. In reality, the less
of a charge the better. - Present energy, abundance, and perspective are tied together. And when you take action
from a place of perspective, abundance, present energy,
high, vibration, energy, whatever it is, that action tends to be more true and moves you forward and moves you up. Whereas when you take
action out of reactivity, it tends to move you down. Whenever you receive, take a moment as you're
receiving it to get present, almost like the ozone layer
around the earth, right? The sun comes in and hits
the ozone there for a minute, get present and see how it feels, what you're about to receive. And if you take that
moment to get present, and as you receive whatever
you're gonna receive, whatever good blessing
you're gonna receive, it feels like it's
fixating, that's negative. It's like, if you eat McDonald's
you're like, McDonald's. But then if you go present
for a minute, like, yeah, it's too much. Whereas say a kale salad,
you go to receive it. It doesn't really taste good. It tastes kind of bitter
taste very bitter. But then when you open up your
perception instead of being boom and pettiness, you
open up your perception and actually have gratitude
for the bigger picture of the fucking kale salad could give you. And then you eat it and your body starts to feel good. You feel more present. And all of a sudden you
can connect to that. You get a palette for that. Each one has a place at a
certain point in your evolution and in your life, you're gonna resonate with circumstances at each level. So you're going to have
these different circumstances that come in your life and it's gonna be like this rebirth, this reverb feedback loop,
that's continually reverberating. Your level of energy will
dictate your behavior. It will dictate who you
attract into your life, the way that you react to
circumstances, situations, the decisions that you make. And it tends to lock you in there. - It's so easy to just stay locked in. You know, once you're in boom
fear, once you're an anger, you just stay there. You're like, I've made it, the same as I already
got it, I've made it. 'Cause you feel empowered. There's that little boost up. You're like, this is it. And then guess what? You start locking in. You stop looking for the next level. You stay stuck in your
little comfort zone. Similarly to again, your
friends, you show them this. You're like, hey, help
spirituality moving up. They're like, what the fuck is this shit? 'Cause they stay locked in. What is your level of staying locked in? Okay, and you really have to
do an audit on who you are and on your life right now, what state, if you had to place herself on the scale, not in terms of emotions, but in general state, where are you at? Are you run by fear? Is that coloring your
experience of the world? What is your RAs? Your selective focus pick up on? Reasons to be afraid,
threats all the time. Is it anger, pissed off? Are you easily pissed off at everything? Looking for reasons to be pissed off, track your Ras, your selective focus. That might give you a general
idea of where you're at. What can get you to that next level? What's the mindset someone
at that next level has? What's the payoff of being at this level? What am I getting out of this? What are the tools that
might've got me this far that I will have to let go of now? 'Cause they won't get you all the way. What gets you the first half will not get you to the finish line. You have to accept that. And don't be so fucking stubborn. We're way too stubborn with this. Always question yourself and be willing to let go of tools and think that is now no longer true. The truth changes as you move up. And it's also letting
go of this obsession. We have to also just come
up with the ultimate truth, seeking the ultimate truth, there is none. Be adaptable, keep
changing, keep moving up and not just your RAs on like say what you focus on, but on what you resonate with, the people you resonate with, the situations you resonate
with, what are they? They will also give you a general idea. What are situations you
keep getting yourself into? Is it a lot of angry fights and shit? What is it? Are you seeking validation
all the time to feel superior, to feel better? What's your main drive right now? - The whole hater thing, what is that? It hurts the person to
see somebody else winning because it puts too much in their face. What they could be doing. You'll know that you've gone
from coping to thriving. When you could look at someone who just, it just burns you up to see
how much they're winning and you have to call them a douche. I'd say that they're conceded. That's the common one, right? They're douche and they're conceded. So people who are in coping
often use moral high ground as a way to avoid looking at results and comparing themselves. But then later when
you see someone winning and you're like, dude, that's awesome. I could replicate that, I could do that. That's when you begin to shift. - It also shows you some
of the different beliefs you have that trigger you. Like when you see someone
making money, for example, or being successful. If you're like, fuck that person. What does that say about
your relationship with money? As opposed to, that's great
that person's winning, let them win and you'll probably let yourself win. If you shame them for
making money, chances are, there's probably a part
of you that is shaming you for making money as well. - You don't want somebody to
get paid or be successful. What does that say about your belief about your own ability to make money? What's that say about it? It means that you're probably
not gonna make money. It means that you have
an underlying belief. People shouldn't compensated
justly for super hard work. Even if somebody works
super hard, takes risks, media persecution powers
through, goes to the limit. They should not, they shouldn't
be compensated for that. They should just be, they
should just do that for free 'cause I'm in pain. What it means though, is
that if they work hard, they don't believe that they can get paid. So people like myself, I tip big. I get it huge tips when I go out, also, I'm always the first
person to grab the cheque. You always know who's the most rich when you see who grabs the cheque, but it's not because that
person has more money. What do you think is the single
most important thing to do when you're broke? Buy gifts for your friends? Why do you guys think that is? Can you take a guess? What is the single worst
part of being broke? It's this, it's that you
could get infected with scarcity mentality, even
if I'm broke, I'm rich. Say that with me, even
if I'm broke, I'm rich. So if you, that doesn't mean to go blow your whole rent money on a
present for somebody on a, like, I'm just gonna oversimplify
my financial situation rather than taking the
time to fix it properly. I'm just gonna spend my whole cheque on a present for my friend and hope that the universe
gives me free money. That's idiotic move. That's one of the dumbest
things you could do, okay? How many of you guys
have been maybe single, dating a lot of people at, in abundance with your dating life and then you kind of get
hooked into one person. Maybe you lose momentum
with talking to people. And next thing you know,
you slip into scarcity and you're you're dating. And then that next thing you know, you're all needy with that person. And what happens when
you're needy with a person, you drive them away. Your greatest fear should be the scarcity, fighting, financial scarcity
is a very real thing. You start to believe that
there's a scarcity of money in the world, people that are in coping, they're hanging on so tight to everything. And it's a very bad look. Let me tell you when guys get rich and they're still in that coping mindset. I've had friends that do that and the things they do to
each other and what not. It's disgusting, just
not able to let it go. And unfortunately, if somebody
is a material evolution, evolves faster than
their spiritual evolution that can result in some really ugly, disgusting situations that are quite, almost comedic in their nature, how laughable and pathetic they are. And seeing grown men get petty. It's a bad look getting
petty, man, let me tell you, and especially two petty individuals that start fighting with each other. Now, from there, what you have is that's
one level to it, right? Just like getting past that
pettiness or unwillingness to invest in yourself or to give to others. It's a mentality. Even if you make $200 a week, you can, at that point, you've got
to adjust your lifestyle. I would rather use that
$20 to buy gifts to people and to invest in myself and live off 180 that have
the 200 and try to, you know, and try to stretch that out because at 200, I'm still in scarcity. You're still stuck the knots in the back, that knots just getting
deeper and deeper and deeper. You've got to unlodge that not now. That's just my thinking towards it. You've got to make your own for
how you can feel about this. That same mindset can go
for things like apologies. People that are in a
very low level of energy, they can't apologize, I've seen this. They always have to be right. They can't own their mistakes. They're afraid they'll be
kicked out of the group. If they own a mistake, I've seen people make horrible mistakes. They'll never own it. They always have to blame
everybody but themselves. I think that saying, sorry, one of the most incredible
things you can do. I use that word liberally. Anytime that I think I
could be in the wrong, I look at what I did, I apologize. I say what I did wrong and what I do different. And then I check back in with the person what I would do differently. Just the word, sorry, okay? As a Canadian it's quite
funny when I say it. Okay, say the word sorry. - [All] Sorry. - With Canadian accent, sorry. I'm sorry. - [All] I'm sorry. - Okay, or the word thank you. Just saying thank you to
somebody, giving a big tip. Why is it that when I'm
broke, I get the tab because I wanna stay in
that gratitude state. Not as scarcity state, apologizing,
owning what's happening. You'll see a lot of that. Again, when you're tired and you get in the Uber, the Uber is like, how's it going? You're like fine. 'Cause you're exhausted. You're just like, shut up. I don't wanna talk right now. When you're in a thriving
state, hey, how's it going? Great, how are you doing? Oh, I'm doing great. You're laughing, you're sharing energy. What is your contracted? Another is your expansive. You ever been out socializing. You feel contracted
versus expansive at times, ever had that feeling? Well, that same feeling is what got Julian teaching law to this, right? Remember I talked earlier
about feeling like you'd know everything. That's a very contracted
mindset, I already get it. You want to know what's scary. The majority of people
think they already get it. That is some scary stuff. They do not wanna go learn that. Like for most of you guys, have you showed this content
to most of your friends, they will not even look at it because they get it. I'm not depressed, I don't need help. Dah, dah, like all this kind of stuff. And then you just watch them stuffing it because they're in a pattern. So this needs like I
already get it as opposed to investing in yourself and being a lifelong learner all the time. So what we want to do
right now is challenge you and challenge your reality. And the reason that we wanna do this is because I've had a chance to accomplish a lot of the financial goals that I want or dating goals that I want or travel goals that I want. Julian's had a lot of the same
opportunities to accomplish a lot of financial goals, state
and goals, travel goals, hang out with the coolest people and that kind of thing. So both Julian and myself had a chance to reach a lot of the goals that most people think will make them happy. There's things that you think
right now, if we talk to you, you believe will make you happy. But what we're gonna tell
you is that a lot of these things are actually very, very hollow. So I wanna lead into this by
talking about a good friend of mine, John James, who actually
died earlier this weekend, you know, I don't mean
to say that without like crying forever or anything. I love this dude and made me very sad to see him go. At the same time, I want to share with you from a present space,
what I learned from it or what I took from it. So my friend, John, he's
a guy who does rap music. You spoke about John James. I think he's awesome. You should look him up. And he would do base jumping and skydiving while rapping. It's kind of crazy, like a white
dude from Canada doing rap. He was actually in the X
games when he was younger, he got an injury. He decided he want to be a rapper. So John died. Now this is maybe less than a week ago that I found out about this. It's very, very shocking. So John and I have had a lot of conversations in our friendship and talk a lot about
challenges that we have or problems that we have. And John's a super positive guy, but like anybody else on this earth, he's also had challenges just
like I've had challenges, you've had challenges. And it was very, very weird for me to see my friend who had
various different, you know, amazing things with life, but also turmoil in his life
suddenly have his life end. And it makes you think, okay,
so you're worried about, you know, what this person thinks of you or reaching this goal,
you know, in John's case, maybe he wants to get his
rap career off the ground, all these things that you
sweat and worry about. And what I love to say to John, if he was here watching John,
if you're watching this, what I'd like to say is, isn't it funny to think
that we're all so caught up in these different things? What would you think
of it if you knew that you were gonna be dead at next week? And obviously that's not the
most practical thing to say, because in truth, you're probably not gonna be dead next week, but what if you were and what does that say about how you're living your life authentically? What I would say to you, and this is what I even
learned a bit from John, because I've done this to an
extent throughout a lot of my own life is that a lot of times we live for approval of other people. We live because we want
to reach a certain goal, a certain number, you know, say that June does YouTube do YouTube. Maybe we wanna get to a
certain number of subscribers or video views or, you know, people giving you props
or things like that. And there's a practical element there because you have to make money and you have to have an art, you know, in our case, we have to have
an audience and whatnot, but then you ask yourself,
like, who would you be Julian, if it weren't for you teaching? I asked my Owen, who would
I be if I wasn't a teacher. What if nobody ever did come up and give me prompts? What would that be like? How could that even be a gift
for us to experience that, is sort of funny to think about, right? Who is that rock star? My buddy is a rapper without the fans. What is authentic to you? What is an authentic life to you? What I would say to you
is that for the most part, you are in a matrix and that matrix is trying to encourage you on other people's scripts
says make so much money. So that compared to other people, you can feel successful, right? Like as human beings, we typically don't
analyze absolute wealth. We analyze relative wealth. So you could argue that
all of us have more wealth, absolute wealth that a King
or queen from 300 years ago, but we have a lot less relative
wealth than they had, right? Cause the king or queen
had a lot more money compared to the people around, right. This is evolutionary because we're status oriented creatures. But what's crazy is that, I mean, just when I hear things that
people say, there'll be like, you know, we've got to
care about our reputation. Like we can't let people screw with us or it'll get around town like
that we could be screwed with, or this person made fun of me or this person didn't think well of me. And it's like, who cares, man? Like anytime that my friend
John James got teaser marks, does it matter now? Anytime that he, maybe
he didn't have a shoot go the way he wants to. Does it matter now? I mean, this has even
been something big for me and I, we've talked about this. Like even for me, like back in the day, I always made every video that
I ever did to last forever and ever, it was everything
I ever did was meant to be, it was meant to last
for thousands of years after I was dead and gone. That doesn't mean that it will, that's a very arrogant assumption to make, but that was my goal when I was shooting, it was to create content that was, that had class, content that
would stand the test of time. That was always what my effort was. And it's funny to think that
even now it is with YouTube, generally speaking, it's
people like the content is just getting to the point
of just like saturated content, just tons and tons of tons
of content and whatever. Just having a lot of content
coming out is more popular than waiting around to
do the classic video. And that made me start to
realize what I'm not around here to promote my content anymore. Probably there's not gonna be
a lot of people watching it. And even that was a hard
thing for me to deal with. I've had things like reputation loss, and I believe that because of how as a lot of our content is, we may suffer massive
reputation loss again. I mean, there was even times
where during your media fiasco that people who I thought
were such good friends, went into the media to trash us. And again, it's not the end of the world, but it just made you realize like, okay, so I'm so worried about getting approval or having the different people like me. But when push comes to shove, whatever, you know, whenever
there's immediate fiasco, these same people come and trash you, are the people that said they support you. You're probably, they know
they'll say good luck, bro, but they're probably
not gonna do that much. So, you know, in most cases, obviously there's some
people that really stood out and didn't come out, but that was amazing. But for the most part, you just realize you're being
driven on somebody else's script, which is be a
battery for the matrix. Go make money, go get
status, go look cool. And I would ask you how
much of your thinking is basically ego, but you know, ego
gratification looking cool, caring what people think of you, biological drive fulfillment, just I'm hungry, I'm already, I'm cold. I'm this I'm that I need to sleep. All that kind of stuff. And then social conditioning, which is basically just
mindsets that are putting, that are being implanted inside of you. You can even see in the
politics in this day and age in America where, you know, the divided politics and things like that. And people are literally just
essentially parroting back tropes that they've heard
from whatever side of the political aisle that
they fall on oftentimes. So what you're seeing, what you're realizing is
that you have been plugged into a matrix where other people who are kind of controlling the script, who benefits from you being unconscious, from you being driven by
these kinds of ego needs, are poking on those ego needs and pushing you out like a hamster. But what would you say? You know, where like a
rat in a maze actually try to get a piece of cheese, but what would you say
if you knew right now you're gonna die. And really that awareness of your debt is the ultimate equalizer in
getting you to think about what it is that your life really needs. - One question really asks
herself that helps with this 'cause you can hear us talk about it. Like, you know, money,
doesn't buy happiness. It's not gonna fix you. You think it will, but it won't. And you're like, okay, well,
it's easy to say, you know, you experienced some of those things, ask yourself this right now. If right now you had all
the money in the world, all the wealth in the world,
all the status in the world, all the friends in the world, everything, it's impossible to make more. You have it all. It's physically impossible to make more, would anything change or would you start freaking out and see where I was like in
this rat race, like more, more, more, more, more trying
to chase new conditions. Just always pushing that
finish line a little further. And we never just stop and ask yourself, what am I chasing? What is driving me? Like, why aren't you on this chase? Is it for the approval of
your parents, your father, your mother, approval of friends. I got to show them, are you running away from
perhaps past trauma growing up? And I saw all those kids in high school, which funny enough doesn't work either. That did push me a little
bit in my earlier days. And I remember when I
first started traveling, doing seminars, I was like, man, I'm gonna post these
pictures on, say Facebook and everyone in Switzerland, we'll see. And I'll show them. And no one gave a fuck. You know, there was a
couple of comments like, oh, that's cool. But then it's like back to
their lives, no one cares, you know, chasing the approval of society. Or I would go even as far as say chasing the approval of the
universe of God, you know, it's like so much what we do. If you actually think about it, it's like, we're trying to justify our existence. Like, am I worthy yet? Do I have enough money to be worthy yet? Have I made it yet? Is it okay to be me yet? Just literally trying to
justify our existence, stop trying to justify it and start living. You don't have to justify your existence. Just by being you, you're there. Reflecting on death to it
can be extremely powerful. You know, we think it's dark, like reflecting on death. Like, don't think about your
own death, focus on life. However, and this even
goes back to stoicism. They would say always keep the
fact that you will die active in your mind, like
meditate on your own death. We tend to live like we're immortals. You know, it's like I have
all the time in the world and we put so much off. It's like this habit of waiting, just I'll put it off. I'll allow myself to experience joy then, I'll allow myself to live then, I'll allow myself to relax
then, so on and so forth. But you could die, that
moments may never come. A question, ask yourself here too, is what would you do if
you knew you had a disease that was gonna kill
you, would things change because guess what? You have a disease that's gonna kill you. And it's called being alive. None of us get out of
here alive, we all die. - I think a lot of people
don't pause to consider that their mind hasn't been trained in a way where it could be at his peak. And so, because most people
tend to be in a very Derpy or fuzzy state, they're
very much vulnerable to being that battery in the matrix. And the reason why people love this is because they can sink into
this kind of easier life, or they don't have to make decisions. They don't have to own their decisions. They can ignore the bigger
questions about life and death, about what really matters to them. Anything to shield themselves
from the greater reality with which we are all confronted and essentially just plug
themselves in as a battery on somebody else's agenda, because they'll get some sort of consumer culture reward to this. And I think New York was
actually a great place to shoot this. We're actually on the
Brooklyn bridge right now because New York's the place
where it is very beautiful. I think it's one of the
most incredible cities in the entire world, and it could be the best. And I love that, I think
it's a stunning place, but at the same time, it's
also a place that does sort of represent that plugged into
the matrix sort of mentality is both very beautiful. And also kind of is with that
consumer culture much like, you know, the matrix in the movie, the matrix is very beautiful. There's a lot of good things about it. There's even that guy that
choose to get plugged back in, but also you're not facing reality. So again, with the matrix,
do you take the red pill or the blue pill? Are you willing to look at a reality? That's a little bit harsher
in order to see reality for what it is, and to have super powers
like Neo in the matrix, flying around doing
Kung Fu whatever it is, having your version of that. But at the same time, have a look at something harsher. And then that way you're
not just a battery on somebody else's script. And what I would even ask you is, is it more important for you
to live an authentic life where you actualize your
potential, even if there's pain, or would you rather avoid the pain and say the matrix? Now, what I've experienced is that most guys want to say the matrix until the matrix itself
becomes too painful. So if your life is going along well, being plugged in and being a
part of the consumer culture, whatnot, really this video
might not appeal to you because you're comfortable
where you're at. But I find just in my experience, most people who seek out
this type of content, I know yourself, myself, you
probably not satisfied, it, you know, the matrix
didn't quite work for you. And for that reason, you're saying, look, if you've got to show me
something painful, wake me up, show me so that I can actually
have the type of experience of life that I wanna have. So this is why Julie teaches
programs like transformation mastery to wake you up from trauma. But this is also why you've got to change many different things if you wanna be on the
path of self actualization. And what I would say to you is
realize that everything from your food intake, to the
way that you use your body, to the people who you are around, to the decisions that you make, to letting go of negative
energy or trauma to learning, what's ready, you essentially, what you're doing is
you're spending your life figuring out what is running you, what you are in reaction to, opening your eyes to
these different things. And then from there getting in touch with what you really want and moving more in that direction. And it really just embracing the pain and shock of that freedom,
which for most people, it's really almost too much to bear, but of course an authentic life is a very, very beautiful life and a very legendary life. And I think that it is worth doing. So that being the case, what I
wanna get you doing right now is I want to get you
auditing what is running you, what different forces are controlling you? Where are you in reaction
to your ego or beliefs that essentially in the face of
death will be completely pointless versus by the way. And I think that's where the
things said at, you know, maybe where are some
areas where you care about what people thinking it is important, who are those five or
10 people in your life, who you do care about what they think, where you do value being in
harmony with them versus where the, you know, the people who
you don't care about them. - Yeah, one way to also
notice or become aware of who those people are,
what you truly care about is a process I do in
transformation mastery, where you sink into the
perspective that you just died. And this is an exercise you can do at home where just lie down and sinking to that perspective. Imagine you died right now and through the motions like you died, who would find out about your death, how would they react to the
news that you just died? How would your relatives react to that? Your friends, your partner, are there any words left, unsaid? What would your funeral be like? Who would be there? What would they say about you? Who would you wish were there? Who are the people you wish
you can come back to life for and say, thank you for
being there too for me, you matter people who
might've always had your back, but you were chasing the
approval of people you realize now that you're dead and don't really care about them. I should have been there
for those people instead, it just brings a lot of truth to life. And a couple other things
I'd add to what you said is it really starts with committing to life and committing to reality. You know, it's like, do you
wanna stay in this fantasy land? And there's a strong pull for that too. It's like take that blue pill. You know, even with things
like virtual reality now, or video games, I mean, what is it? - More so. - It's like going further and
further in that fantasy land. It's like it conditions you to consuming. And that's another question on your audit. It's how often are you producing
as opposed to consuming? 'Cause if you start training
yourself to just consume, like you sit at home, turn
on Netflix, play video games, you know, eat food, just always consuming. You lose touch with what it's
like to produce, to generate, to create, to take action and partake in this world. And it can be very hard
to reconnect with that to the point where it's like, you're just so lost and consuming, your solutions will just be
more consuming on top of that. So committing to life, are you ready to see life for what it is not for what you want
it to be for what it is, including the fact that
life is not always fair. The bad things happen,
that it can be harsh, that it's not all peachy. Are you willing to see it for what it is? And it's a choice you have to make, like you have to sit down with yourself. You're like, what do I want? The blue pill or the red pill? Do I feel like there's something missing? Am I ready to face the
fact that I'm gonna die? Am I ready to right face the fact that harsh times are gonna happen? I mean, I have to confront
a lot of my inner demons. And that's another thing
you were talking about, like past trauma running you,
where does this need for more, this constant, endless chase come from reflecting back on your childhood. And this is something
we all go through, dude, the way that we're
conditioned, where as a kid, you're rewarded, when you're good, you're punished when you're bad. So by default, you're taught and conditioned that I'm not good enough. Only the good rewarded part of me that could little kid is good enough, but not this bad part of me. So you label it that way. And then you live your
life trying to compensate for that stuff you have inside. And that's a whole other process. We have to go back and learn how to read own that. Otherwise you're just
chasing more and more. It doesn't matter how much you compensate. You're still gonna be compensating. So it's sitting down making that pact and then just diving deep
into what's going on. I'm ready to see it, I'm
ready to see, you know, the raw, you know, real part that is life like the ugly truth. That is in fact also
beautiful at the same time, as opposed to the fantasy, I'm ready to embrace
uncomfort in doing so. And I would even write this down. Like, what are you willing to
sacrifice for that red pill? Are you ready to sacrifice your ego? The answer should be yes. Are you ready to sacrifice
your comfort zone? The answer should be yes. Are you ready to sacrifice
who you think you are? The answer should be yes. Are you ready to challenge
all of your beliefs? The answer should be yes. All of your bearings of the world and be open to something new,
the answer should be yes. Are you willing to take that risk? And I don't know if everyone,
let's just say is ready yet. If you talk to some of your
friends that might be no, maybe you're like, I don't know, but eventually something
will happen that might create that opening a bit of adversity perhaps, or just sitting with yourself and noticing that mild
refrigerator hum of uncomfort, just not feeling at ease, asking herself, why did this movie, the matrix really connect with me? Is there that seed of
potential inside of me, is there that possibility for more, is that voice kicking in
now, watching this video, that voice you've quieted all your life, all these years in the
background, like listen, listen,. Are you gonna let that
voice come a little closer to the surface? Or are you going to stuff it back down? That's the question. Within you, there's a splits and you're attached to only
being certain parts of yourself and you're resisting other parts, okay? We all have this split, do the way that we're conditioned or attached to this idea of ourselves and all of the things
that are unacceptable that we've been told, that's not good. That's all you, you're not
going to survive if you're that we disowned them and we live our lives that way. Now, many of the things
that you want here, you're like, I want a Lambo. I want money, I want approval. You know, I want people
to look at me right now and just think, wow, that guy's cool. You know, walking down this,
mall with that swag, you know. Look at everyone. Yeah. He's so cool. You know, we think that
that will make us happy when in reality, a lot of those things are driven by this ego, by this split, by this attachment and resistance. And in reality, you even
getting those things just increases that ego,
you double down on it and things become a lot heavier, okay? And this is an easy way to tell if you're run by your ego or not, how heavy is
your experience of you? You know, there's a famous
saying ego equals efforts. Okay, ego equals efforts. We think that succeeding
will make us happy, free and light, but what does it do? It reinforces the heaviness and reality. It's when that thing you're craving, you're lacking, you're needing
is taken away from you. You have a chance if you take it to move up and become lighter. - I mean, even break this down, as far as your image of when you'd be completely free and loose and having fun and smiling, and everything's going great. I want you to imagine right now you're in your best clothes and you stepped out of a Lamborghini and you're walking into
the best party in town and all these super cool
and beautiful people - Food thrown at you. - They're walking up to you and everything's just perfect. Right, just think of your perfect life. Maybe you came from floor
seats at the Lakers game. That'd be, that'd be my perfect life. And so basically you'd imagine that when you're in that situation, you'd walk around and you're getting all
this social reinforcement of how great you are. And at that moment,
you'd feel really happy. You'd feel really free. You'd feel like you can act how you want. You feel like you can
behave from your core and be that person that you want to be. And here's why I mentioned
this, ultimately, that feeling of freedom
and lightness and happiness and joking around and being goofy and just sort of taking in all the moment. That's really what you want more than even just the
Lambo itself, right? The Lambo, you're just
in a car that, you know, at it a hundred years from now, it's conceivable that a Lamborghini will be like the crappiest
car in the world. Cause, do keep this in mind, this is a subtle point human beings, we tend to respond more to relative wealth than absolute wealth because the average poor
person today has access. I mean just, if you look around you here in this mall area, the Lincoln road mall here in Miami, the average poor person who has access to many of these facilities has access to more than a King or queen from two or 300 years ago. But if there's somebody
who's richer relatively, they have more relative wealth that poor person might feel more deprived than the King or queen felt, right? It's not absolute wealth,
it's relative wealth. So the relative wealth creates sort of a halo effect and that halo effect
actually hypnotizes the mind. And you think that you need that in order to be light and free. Now, as a funny side note
too, we're here in Miami. The show that made me
really, really realize this was actually Miami vice. So if you watch Miami vice, I believe it was shot in the eighties and what you see. I think it's Don Johnson's
the main character and yeah, and he's wearing this is, what's kinda funny about Miami vice. You might not even know this
unless someone tells you, I didn't even know initially he's driving the best Porsche for the 80s. He's wearing the best suits for the 80s. Like the suits and the glamorous clothes. The designer clothes was the best stuff. I think he's even dating
the most attractive women from the 80s. Right? A very different look than
today's attractive woman. Very, very different look. And if you watch it now, the car that he's driving
by a way of looking at it, depending how you feel about it is actually less nice than a car that somebody would drive now. The clothes that he's wearing are less cool than the
clothes that somebody now would be wearing. Right? So what's funny is that there's a halo effect
of that relative wealth. Because if you're wearing
those same clothes from the 80s, from Miami vice or the car, I mean, to be fair, you
might feel super cool. Cause you feel retro nostalgic. Like you don't mind me
to be pretty awesome, but there's a relative welder. There's a halo effect. And what happens is that you start to think like these things hold the keys to your happiness. They actually it's like you're in jail and they hold the keys. Like
if you don't have those things, you can't experience that
lightness, that freedom, that ease of just enjoying life. Because again, we have
many wealthy friends who have a lot of these incredibly powerful,
superficial things, reputation, material objects, all
that different stuff. And their lives are incredibly heavy. I mean, you'll even see people who have a very attractive partner and you know, you'd think in your mind, if you don't have an attractive partner, like if I just had that, that I would get anything for that. And little do you realize that even people with attractive partners can be completely miserable. It is a halo effect. And so you're thinking in your mind, if I could just get both keys, if I could just get the keys, suddenly I'd feel joy, I'd feel happy. I was just let loose. I'd start dancing. But what you don't
realize that ironically, by the time that you get those things, you're so attached to them that you're spending most of your life just holding onto them, just trying to preserve them. And the ego is in defense mode. When what's funny, we call it the competitive
versus collaborative frame. And when you're in the
collaborative frame, having fun, that's actually where
the lightness comes from. And so what we see is even
in third world countries, a lot of people that
are poor will have like, even for myself and Julian who have really, really actively
studied how to be happy, how to have more fun,
all that kind of stuff. There's people in third world
countries I've been to Africa. I've been to South America. I've been in Mexico. There's people down there
living in when it gets too poor, it can be very sad there. They're just miserable. Let's, let's be honest when,
what is destitute and hopeless, but we've definitely seen it. We're in these core areas. Like you go down to Rio de Janeiro. People are dancing, laughing. It's so different. The vibe in Rio de Janeiro
than in a Hollywood club where they're sitting
there trying to look cool for Chris Brown and Drake, you know, like looking at their phone, try to see what their reputation is, try to figure everything out. You see somebody in real, they're just dancing. They look at America. They're like, what is
wrong with these people? They have been robbed of their joy. And so you're thinking in
your mind that your joy is going to finally come
when you have all this stuff, it is a halo effect of relative wealth. You thinking that you need it,
you are being pimped by this. And you don't realize it's often when this stuff has taken away from you. That you'll find your greatest happiness. - Yeah. I love that point. You said too, where even if you get it, you're just going to be so
worried about losing it. And this is key to reflect on, you know, you think you want that approval. As soon as you get it, you double down on it. You become even more paranoid, just like in those clubs. You know, those famous
people in the clubs, just look at how stiff they are. You know, those people are made it to the top. Like all eyes are on me now. It's like, Oh my God, all the eyes are on me. More pressure. And now it's like, did someone look away? Because someone looked
away the same with money. You'll see someone like,
I need a lot of money. I need a lot of money and say
they actually get that money. Are they happier no. Now they're worried about losing it. And they become even more
obsessed with the money. Okay. So this, like you
said, is a halo effect. This strategy doesn't work. Even reflecting back on your life, on all the things you thought
would finally complete you, you know, those are the keys. How many times have you been deceived? Right. Like, think about it. How many times have you
been to see, look at, make a list of your life? - Have you spent trying to
feed into this pimp dynamic on your self? - I mean, that's the life for most people. It's like this continuous
just deceivement. Like this will work. No, it did it. This will work. No, did it? This will work. No it didn't. Why are you so stubborn? Like look around everyone here. I'm going to buy the new thing. This'll work. This'll work. That'll work it won't okay. So stop being so naive that there, even if you get what you want, more ego, more heaviness. It doesn't work. Okay, now on the flip
side, though, as you said, it's when those things get taken away, you know, whatever you
care about the most, whatever you think will save you the most, when it gets taken away, there's an opportunity for true growth. - Now this is very heavy. I'm going to cover. I'm going to get real. I'm going to get really, really real here. Okay. You know, my firstborn son, Vincent is autistic and he's pretty hard. You know, he has a lot of
challenges to communicate. I think for a lot of people, that's one of the biggest
fears you could have having a child who has something that would cause a disadvantage for him. I learned quickly. First of all, that Vincent's experience. He's a happy kid. He's one of the happiest
kids you'll ever see. And his experience of life is great. It's more the ego of the parents. Who's like what I have my kid, he's going to be the national
spelling bee champion and the captain of the football team, or, you know, whatever it is, right. That's your ego. You know how parents will try
to put their kids in some, some career path that they wanted. - You're like, this is my
object, the extension of me, you will be what I want you to be. - Yeah. And Vince's living his life. He's happy. He's happier than a lot of kids that don't have the
disadvantage that he has. He's been raised in such
a positive environment. So again, just seeing that or for me going bold. I remember when I was in my
mid twenties, early twenties, I said, I'm going to go bald. And that really freaked me
out with so many insecurities that I was dealing with. I was like, God, why have you
forsaken me to also be bald? Half of what motivated me
to work on my social skills was I thought that I had to be married before I went Boulder. I would never be able to meet somebody. And it terrified me. But what going bold did for me was it made me realize life is short. You have to enjoy this. I think the divide is like
full bristling head of hair because I still feel so young.
I'm more energy than ever. Honestly I probably wouldn't
realize if I wasn't going bald. This is gonna end. Yeah. I wouldn't know that
I wouldn't work as hard. I wouldn't know what's as important. Now, I know that sounds ridiculous. Oh, going bald, look
at my age at almost 40 going bald out of big deal. But to be honest, at 24, I thought I had like two
years left, you know? And it was scary, but anybody who's bald watching this knows it's all in your head. No one cares about you. And I've had a number
of other things happen. I mean a lot. And these are pretty heavy things. So again, it's in many ways,
like a lot of like a lot of my, honestly my greatest fears, I mean, I'm really scratching the surface or I'm talking a lot of really bad ones where it all gets taken away. It's those subtractions,
not the additions, but the subtractions that will call me up and let me see my life more clearly. I would ask you what have been your subtractions? What has been taken away from you that was far more valuable
to your experience of life and to your joy and
freedom than any kind of material benefit you could get a reputational benefit. The truth of life is that
what you'll carry with you is the knowledge that you gained through whatever
reputational loss you have through whatever loss
of material possessions that you have. And you see people, many celebrities who get
so much in their favor and they turned to hard drugs because they don't go
through that process. And the weight of it is too heavy to bear. So what we'd encourage you to do is look at those people
that are the most free and having the most fun and ask you what price tag can you put on that? In my view, that is priceless. That is living, it's about authenticity, the actual, authentic experience of life that you're getting through that audit yourself and ask yourself, where is it that the subtractions, even as painful as it was burned away, that which is not true and gave you a better life. - Yeah, there's a saying I love, which is if you have big goals, life will test you to
make sure you're serious or to see how serious you are. So if those biggest fears, you know, that you have like they're coming true and all these things are
being taken away from you. It's very easy to get. Like I said, before you
get negative, you get sad, you get depressed, you start losing hope, but you can also view it as life realized you got big goals, you have big plans and it's testing you to
make sure you're serious and it's helping you to
realize those lessons. And here's the other thing too, kind of building on that audit, look at your life and look at those things
that were taken away and ask yourself, did
you learn the lesson? Did you move up? Because if you didn't,
here's the other kicker life, we'll find a way to come back with a bigger bubble and a bigger burst. If didn't learn it with a small one, it'll get bigger and bigger and bigger until you have no choice, but
to let go of that heaviness, to let go of that part of your ego and move up. So did you learn the lesson? Look at those life experiences, look at your fears, the
ones that came true. Did you just ignore it? And perhaps, like you said, medicated yourself just to get through it and doubled down on the ego, or did you really learn from it and take that opportunity to grow? It doesn't mean that you
should go and just, you know, live on an Island with nothing like, Oh, you know what? I realized that I just need to
take everything away from me and be this isolated monk. No, there's the saying which I want you to
actually write down here, which is you were not born to be idle. No one was born to be idle. If that were the case,
you would be dead. Okay. You're not here to just be like, I'm just going to let go of completely and do nothing. No, you're here to experience the world, but coming from a different place. And here's the beauty of it. It's when you let go of it. That's when you're finally
able to truly experience and enjoy this material thing. That is life. That is the world, including
even our own emotions. You know, we become so attached
to feeling a certain way, resist feeling another way. And that's also the ego that we never truly allow ourselves to feel like the relationship we have with our emotions is saturated. The relationship we have
with things, with food, with money, with, you know,
validation, with approval, with friends, with relationships, it's all saturated until you
let go of that attachment and everything changes. And then you start seeing
people for who they truly are. You know, you start seeing the
world for what it truly is. And one example that comes to mind that really illustrates
how it all changes. When that relationship
changes is a relationship. Like say, you're you have a partner. Okay? Most people view their
partner, not as a human, but as this extent,
again, part of their ego, this is my partner. It's now completes me. It makes more of me and you don't even see them as a person. And what you experience isn't really love. It's just pure attachments. And when you either
proactively start letting go of that attachment through say releases or transformation mastery, or any teachings like that, until you do that, you will not see them as a human and it won't be love. Or you might have to go
through the harder way of it being removed to really trigger that for you to finally let go and then meet someone new and see them for who they truly are. - You know, and the big thing here is that are you gonna get bitter or better pitcher or better? And what that means is when the ego is getting messed with when the structure of the
ego is being tinkered with, are you going to make
a new ego as a victim? The ego loves being a victim. It creates separation. It creates that unique form-based identity as the biggest victim, and that biggest victim
identity separates you. It makes you greater than the others. You're the baby or victim, the person who it's been victimized more so, and that's why we say victim hood. Are you going to get bitter a better? Because that temptation to get bitter and to emphasize the
separateness is always there to get better, what that means is that you use it as an
illusion from the ego. And it means that you recognize
what you were attached to. You recognize the heaviness of it, and you move into the light. You choose to move up into more real joy. See what happens with the
material possession stuff or the reputation stuff is that it becomes a
serigatte for really living. It's a way to ignore the
larger truths of life. The fact that you're going to die someday. The fact that life doesn't maybe have that one set purpose, right? Having more followers on Instagram or social media network, it gives you a sense of perfect it's. It takes the complexity of life and simplifies it down to one thing. And we all want that because we all deal with that existential crisis of what life is all about in my mind, when I see somebody
just laughing and joyful, or even an eat to be real, even in pain. But if it's a pain that is a part of life, that creates depth. That to me, is what we're
here for, to live life fully, rather than to hide from that larger truth of the fact that the galaxy is so big. We don't know what we're doing here. Where's the aliens. Why haven't the aliens come visit yet? What is all this sands? This ocean, as we look to the ocean here, we can't even see what's going on. The birds everywhere. The seaweed right here,
growing, expanding the sands. What's in the sand. Where did the sand come from? The oxygen breathing it
in all this simulation. And yet we don't even
know what to make of it exactly do we? It's confusing, it's overwhelming. So we focus and simplify that into reputation, possession, things that we think
will make life easier. Finally, if I'm in that Lambo, getting out of it in my suit,
that's, that's the epicness. And yet it actually makes things heavier. You're in that competitive frame
versus collaborative frame, viewing yourself as
separate from the world. And so what you have to do again, is audience and look at your life and say, what is real about your life? One of the greatest questions
you could ever ask yourself is how do I make this easier? See, I have friends that
say I'm results oriented, but they never laugh. They never joke around. I'm making this a more serious speech to reach people like that. Because I find if I joke
around, they tune out. So I'm going into that
world with you here. They say that they're about
being results oriented, but they're not laughing. First of all, let's look at the fact that what's the point of doing all this. If you can't be happy, I
guess there's some point, but that would kind of
make you a sociopath people that are sociopathic. They just want a result because they can't be happy either way. But if they just kind of logically know they got a result, that's the closest thing
they get to happiness. And then they often still, because the emotion part
of their mind is dead, but they still have
access to their hormones. Apparently this is what I read. I don't know if it's true. They sell facts to their hormones so they can still feel rage. The rage of their hormone and
rage, jealousy, and anger, but they can't feel happiness. So they just try to like
get one over on everybody. And when they're in a
very competitive frame, they call that winning. But what is winning if
we can't win together, when I go create all the content, when Julian goes and
creates all the content, our team does that so
that we can win as a team. I don't want to just beat you all. I want us to go up together as a team. That's what gives it meaning and context, me sitting alone at the
top of the little castle, all on quiet is weird. Funny enough, I basically live in a castle in Hollywood Hills and sometimes no one's there. And I sit there overlooking
the city in my mini castle and I'm like, Whoa, pretty cool. (crowd laughs) Well, here I am is me in the view. How's it going Mr. House? I'm fine. It freaks me out, man. Okay, I don't want to
just win with myself. I want to win together. Why do I love to have children? Why did I want to have a team? I want my team to win. I want you guys to win. I want my tribe to it. I want the world to win. I want to spread positivity. So what does winning
even need at that point? Is it shoving somebody
down so you can win? Even when people have
gone after me, I've never, I don't think I've really
ever gone back after him. To be honest with you. Not in years, because I did that as a kid,
it sucks the life out of you. You can see the life being
sucked out of somebody. When you look in their pupil, look them dead in the pupil. Look at the bags under their eyes. Look at the aging in their face. Look, anytime that you're
watching somebody online who is in that mode, press pause and look at their face and you'll see these
demonic looking like faces. You'll see it now to be fair. I'm trying to go into that
reality with you right now. So if we pause on me, I may well look like that. Like, you know, okay. Cause we're going into
that world with you. You know, so we like to just joke around and have fun most of the time. But occasionally I want to
go into that world with you. I want to go into that harder world because when I show it to you easy, you're not going to get it. So I want to begin this by going into that difficult world with you. And I want you to consider how you're making your life difficult. You're making it harder, okay? So we're sitting here as guys
who've done millions in sales. We've been pioneers in different areas. We've tested things and we could have done way better. I look at what we could have done and I'm like, we could have
done better, but you know what? We did the best that we could just like you did the best that you could. I've made mistakes. Julie's made tremendous
mistakes as have I. I'm not proud of everything I've done. There's things I'm
embarrassed of what I've done, but you know, what's cool about that. I can talk about it freely. Maybe I'll do more videos on that topic. I can talk about it. I can learn from it. I could teach it and I can continue on my journey and I can own the mistakes. So again, if we say that
we're results oriented, why are we wanting to remove trauma around the areas of health,
wealth, relationship, or higher purpose is we
want the car to drive. What happens when you have
here's the deal, okay? This is the key of what
I'm going to say here. So pay attention to this. What happens when you
have the parachutes on you are unaware that the
parachutes are there. So again, go quiet for a moment. Listen to what you can hear. Go quiet. How loud is that air conditioning. But again, when you don't focus on it, because you're so locked in, what happens is you don't even know that that sound is there right now, I'm yelling over a sound. How much better would it be? If we could shut that thing? The fuck, but it's all good, right? Well, we want air conditioning, so we're going to go with it. But what if that's emotional trauma? What if that means that
you can't read a book for more than five or 10 minutes without getting distracted? Because you're carrying
low vibration energy. What does that means? That when you're talking
to your boss at work, you flip out on him or you said
a nasty company, wide email. What does it mean when
you're an entrepreneur? And you start fighting with
the people who you work with trying to win and then wind up exploding
everything that you do and humiliating yourself and all the people that you work with. What result does that have? What result does it have
when you're stressing so much that you're eating food, that poisons you and it makes you sick and you need to eat that food in order to get through the day, how much of our music is oriented
around drugs and alcohol? How many people are consuming, inappropriate amounts of drugs and alcohol to get through the day they go get crunk, get crunk. All that I hear is I'm
traumatized, I'm traumatized. I'm not, I don't think they're cool. I don't like that person's cool and crunk. I mean maybe a bit, but you know, for the most part, I
don't think they're cool. I'm like, you're traumatized. That's all good, you're
making the best out of you're. You're you're a survivor. You're like when I see
like some get crunk person, I'm like, that's a beautiful survivor. They don't know that
they're carrying trauma, but they're trying their best to get through the day. And they're trying to make light of the circumstance they're in. So when you have those
parachutes behind you, you make everything harder. - Most people can't even
sit still five minutes. I give you one challenge. Try it tonight. Try tomorrow, sit down in silence. No distractions, nothing for five minutes. And I can guarantee you. And it sounds harsh, but it's fucking true. 80% of you can't do it. You'll sit there and like, I'll do it. Or now you might do it. He's like, I'll prove him wrong, but you can't sit in silence. You design your life in a
way to always avoid this. You go home immediately. Music, TV, phone, you sit silence. All that negative shit starts surfacing. You start noticing that
refrigerator, hump, there's that little voice like you piece of shit. You know this person, fuck that person. It's like it's endless. And you laugh cause you know, it's your light taking
away a second at a time. We all have that little voice. It's like you piece of shit. You know what you did. You know, your parents don't love you. You know, you're a horrible person. You know, you're toxic. I'm not saying you are, but there's a part of you
that fucking believes it. Hey, you remember that horrible
thing that happened to you remember being shamed,
remember being mocked, remember being bullied,
remember feeling unloved. You're probably not good enough. If you were things would be easy. Look at everyone else. How easy it is, but not for you. Look how ugly you look. You're disgusting. You're pathetic. You're a slug. You're scum those words. And I see this smiles, you resonate. You're like, yep. That's pretty much try it. Look at yourself in the mirror, see what your fucking voice says, you ugly piece of shit. You deserve to die. - And its so self-indulgent I had a friend die earlier this week, buddy of mine. You think he, thanks, man. You think he ever knew
he was going to die? That it would just end. And if he had known that, how, what his inner dialogue and his day to day decisions be different. And yet none of us here
can guarantee tomorrow or even the next five minutes. I'm sure we'll all make it five minutes. But the point is like,
we can't guarantee it. Yeah, and look at your dialogue
as if you'd live forever. When are you gonna make a
decision to make that shift? And what we're talking
about here is being a fully, or at least much more evolved adult living up to your
potential as a grown human, rather than the type of conditioning that you're exposed to in
day to day media influences and consumers culture. - Yeah, and living to your potential. Isn't stuffing this down. It's processing it. If you don't process it, if you're just external, external, external, trying to escape it. And that's why it's
also so easy to resonate with that external. Cause you don't have to
deal with your inner demons. You're not going to get very far. I mean, I'm sure you've heard
the sane, smart work, right. And hard work. Like a lot of hard, dumb fucking work. Most people are hard workers, but dumb workers, stupid workers, people grind their wheels who fight against self
sabotage are stupid. They're not results oriented. They are stupid. It's a rationalization. It's an easy label to place to justify all that hard work. We're like, look at
all the work I'm doing. You want to be a smart
worker, all that energy, stuffing this down,
coping with who you are, which is truly what it is, coping with yourself
instead of feeling awesome. And then thriving from there that is stupid work. - It's a shame too, because often people who
are brilliant intellectually and logically can often hold
themselves back so much. And sometimes you're too smart for your, when he said stupid, they're smart for their own good. Many of the friends
I've had over the years who have self sabotage the most are the most brilliant people I've met. I'm in all of their intellects, but they get so smart that they get myopic and analytic and they're
seeing things too much in the logic of it. If you even said that to them, they're like, wow, good. You go, I'll go into logic, right? And it's like, wait up. You're unhappy. No, right, and then, and also somebody who's bogged down by that type of energy. They're infected with it. If you show them any path
to getting out of it, they zone out because that
energy is a parasitic. And therefore the parasite
will resist being extracted. - In that paradigm where self-sabotage is a thing where self hate as a thing, you need techniques to fight against it. So it does make sense. Hey, I'm self-sabotaging
I keep fucking things up. I'm a toxic person. What can I do all of these
different techniques? And this is what's pumped into
you in the self-help world and the socializing world and the spiritual world. Even in mainstream, it's all these little
techniques in this paradigm. And you can't see that
there's another paradigm outside of coping,
outside of self sabotage. You can't imagine that self
sabotage doesn't exist. We never questioned that. Like why do I have this to begin with? What about a paradigm where
there is no self sabotage and all that energy I'm spending, trying to fight against it, trying to get a result
and keep the result. Like why isn't this natural. You could be spending it
towards thriving even more. And there's so much investment
in the current paradigm. And that's why we tend to block it off. One of the best ways to illustrate this is imagine right now
we're in San Francisco. We are, I give you a map of LA say right now you're in San Francisco. I'm like, here's a map of LA go find your way around San Francisco. Are you going to find your way around? No but what if this guy
decides to fucking hustle decides to look up techniques,
to read the map better, gets the right mindsets, uses that anger of frustration, of not finding his way
around is even more fuel. Is he going to find his way around? No, now imagine he's been doing this his entire life from
the moment you're born. I'm like, here's the map of LA. Find your way around. And you're going around. You're trying everything. How old are you? - [Learner] 25. - 25 years of your life. Trying to find your way
around San Francisco using this damn map of LA. And I come up to you and I'm like, dude, I know you're putting in a lot of work, but it's stupid work. It's dumb work. And you're all frustrated like, Oh, but the hospital find a way. I'm like, it's the wrong map. There is another map. There's another paradigm
outside of this where it's easy. Here's the map of San Francisco. It's the wrong map. Is you just going to be like, okay, no, cause that means you've been
fucking up your entire life. You're digging down a tunnel. And to realize that the tunnel
was actually over there, you'd have to rationalize all that work that you did to dig down there. I'm telling you, you can't just hop over to the other tunnel. You've got to walk all the
way back up that tunnel, locate the location, where we should begin
digging the other tunnel and then begin digging
and doing that work again. But as a 25 year old young man, we sit up here looking at you and seeing your potential. And we want to see you
maximize your potential because we can see the
future of your life. Not by being a psychic, but by common sense, based on what we've seen over the years, I don't know exactly
what your life will be, but I can look in your pupil and take a lot of guesses. And that would probably
freak you the fuck out. But you know, I've had many, many years. I'm 39, I've had many years to see the direction that people are gonna go. You know, they say that if you
sit by the river long enough, the dead bodies of your enemies will go floating by. And it's really true. You over time, you get to see how far
people made it stumbled and had to quit and burned out, ran out. You're looking for that. You want to play that long game. - You think making a lot of
money will make you happy. No, what's a lot of money going to do. It's going to give you more resources to cope with yourself. If right now you're coping with yourself. You don't feel too good. And you're trying to numb yourself and escape yourself. That's all that money's going to do. It's going to give you access to more resources to do so. Instead of drinking cheap vodka from CVS, you can now afford top shelf instead of playing a PlayStation game, you can now travel to a yacht, but guess what? You're still escaping yourself. Nothing changes, you
just have more resources. And by doing all those things, cause at least at the
bottom of the PlayStation, you're like, well, okay, I guess I'm not happy
because I'm not on the yacht. But now that you're on the yacht, it's even more infuriating. You're like, wait a minute. I'm on the yacht. And nothing changed. Bond, people go insane. There are two worlds inside of you, okay? There's that split? There's the conscious you and the subconscious you, the subconscious, you will start floating up
whenever you're alone with yourself, doing nothing. You can try this as a
challenge, go home, sit down and don't distract yourself. Don't go to your phone. Don't put some music on. Don't put some TV on, just sit there with yourself in silence and just see what starts bubbling up. And that voice will start
getting louder and louder and meaner and meaner. It'll be insane. You know, that's why
we get home after work. We're like quickly the music
before the voice kicks in the TV before the boy. - Are you guys actually
letting the sink in? How much are you even able
to sit alone in your chair without jumping out on your
phone, jumping into your TV, thinking about some nonsense. This is a sickness. A lot of this incredible
information is housed at his squats in this weird subculture. And that it attracts other
people in that kind of crystally, Venice beach, nor Cal subculture. And so hardcore entrepreneurs
don't even want to look at it. Cause they're like, I don't want to, I don't want to just hold a crystal and Sarah out in whatever, you know. Right. I get it. You know, who's like that me, me, me, me. That's what I'm like. I don't look like the typical guy that would be falling out content. Right? That freaks people out. I freak out the entrepreneur crowd that I would even look at content like that and live by
it that freaks them out. But I even freak. - Out the crystal Chode crowd because they're like, he looks, he looks so freaking edgy, right? I'm not like, so that freaks them out, basically that riding this
weird in between line, June's riding this weird in between line. We're like nobody gets it, but that's why we love teaching it to you because it's that big. This is really the foundation for everything in my view, everything. And that's after me going through the meat grinder in so
many different areas. But what we've seen is that when people don't have an awareness of the energetics winds up
happening is again massive. Self-sabotage inability
to see opportunities, massive miss waiting bias. And also you want to know the worst. One of the whole thing,
they're just unhappy. And so even if things did go well, they'd still be miserable. So that's a lot of what we're
trying to condition you all. We want you to begin to see what your own energy level is. And we want you to begin to see it in others. So you can make predictions
of your own behavior, but also you can make
predictions of others. - Yeah, the blocking off of opportunities. Think of it like this. A lot of people can't see compliments. You know, how do they see it as an attack? If I walk up and I'm like, Hey, I like your shirt. You might see it. Like, why is he making fun of my shirt? Now, as you move up, what happens? You see it as a compliment, but it's still too good for you. So you push it away. You self-sabotage, I'm like,
Hey, I like your shirt. You're like, Oh, this shirt, well, it was cheap. It was nothing. You qualify yourself. And then as you move up, you're able to take the
compliment to let it land and be like, thanks. Now that's just with a
compliment for a shirt. Think about your entire life. How many opportunities
are being thrown at you? And just like the shirt
you're interpreting them as insults or non opportunities. We're blind to them. It's crazy. The more you dive into this and once more always bring it back to, okay, what's my version of that. If you see it in others, we have so many blind
spots to what we need. If you're unhappy. And again, you're putting all that work and getting these results. If you're not enjoying the
results, what's the point. Those are not results. People are so proud. It's like, look at all the results, but they're not enjoying it. They're not happy. It's like, why are you wasting your time? Then if you're not enjoying it, why are you putting all this work? Those are not the good results. And look at the people you model or you're sure they might be getting the results, but are they the right results? - The chaos that you'll see too, by not having this handled is so crazy because
you'll be in relationships that should have gone so well. And they'll go sideways because the person's addicted to trauma or your addicted to trauma. You'll even be drawn to people
who will pull up your trauma. And that's where it gets really
scary because what you have is attraction specifically for the people that will hurt you the most. And they're attracted to you. If you'll hurt them the most. And the reason why is because
the trauma wants to come out and it wants to come out so bad that it's even manipulating
your attraction compass. So that's why this is so serious to get out because a lot of time, if you don't have this handled it. So it's almost like you
might as well not do anything because every single action you're taking, oftentimes like you spinning
your wheels in the mud, it's just leading you towards more crap. The problem is when you don't
fix this demented infection inside yourself, your reticular
activation system, okay? Your selective focus will tend to zero in on anything negative, no different than now. Somebody watching amazing video can't see the content or it even warps the content in a way where they feel
is to manipulate them, to trick them, to mislead them, to give them a path of false hope. And they can't see outside of that. And that's real to them. That's not a joke to those people. You just saw a video that
somebody who went out and did experiments for 40 50 hours a week for almost 20 years created for you for free and at what did you get out of that? You're like, Oh look at the person crossing
the street, this is stupid. That's what you got. That means you are local. You are crazy man. But they don't think of it like that. They're just sitting there and they're DERP state and they want to reinforce it. So anything that they're seeing that would move them out of
that state, they're blind to it. Now we can point at some
weird internet freak and we can say to ourselves,
Oh, I'm not like them. Actually, I beg to differ. I think that people like myself or Julian are worse than them. You want to know why? Because we may not have it
like that at all, to be honest. But we're the areas that we do, habits that are hard to excavate or dig out are causing us
to leave more on the table. That guy making the
weird internet comment. If he changed his ways right now, maybe he'd make an extra
$1000 a month or something. If Julian and I were to
fix our last little areas, what benefit could we get funny to think about that? We're probably leaving more on the table. You are leaving more on the table by not fixing this then
the average person. And you're not even seeing it. You're blind to it. And you're seeing how much better you are than the freak. And you're using the freak as rationalization that you're doing fine. Interesting to think about this trauma energy that people are sitting on top of is so heavy. It is so dense. It is so crazy. You don't even know that
you're sitting on top of it, but everybody is to an extent. And that trauma energy is going to be the number one thing that holds you down in your progress. Whatever, I see somebody
highly intelligent screwing themselves up. I asked myself the
question right off the bat. Where's my area. Where's the version of that, that I have. So other humans failures that
we so readily see like, Oh, they're fucking, they're
fucking up. (laughs) - Yeah. It's like, who's fucking up. You're like, fuck all these people. - Very easy, very easy to see what other people are fucking up because it feels good. You actually get good emotions when other people fucking not right. Like in reality TV shows people watch it just to see other fuck-ups so they can feel good about themselves. But recognizing that in yourself is actually very, very painful. So that being the case, it
can be really, really hard to see your own failures. Because whenever you
see your own failures, it lowers your confidence. And whenever you lower your confidence, you lose status within your tribe because people can see that
you've lost confidence. So we actually have an
evolutionary mechanism that makes it difficult oftentimes for us to see our own failures or the low quality elements
in our own thinking. Now that being the case, what I like to do is
have a model in my mind and say to myself, what are the different areas that are causing people
to have these fuck-ups? So one of them which
we'll go into right now is some of that Julian covers in depth and transformation mastery, which is spiritual jargon. And you can go with this
jargon or you can't, it really doesn't matter. At least know the idea of it, high vibration or low vibration energy. Now whether you're into the
energy aspect of it or not, the basic way to understand
it is that sometimes you're very present to the
moment at an optimistic state, at an empowered and resourceful state. And other times you're
in a very pessimistic and shut down negative
non resourceful States. So the main practice here is tracking the thoughts and being hyper aware
of exactly how you feel in a high state and exactly how you feel in a low state. And we're going to make
a distinction here. You rarely hear anywhere else. And I don't know why, because
to me, it's just so obvious, but you have the degree of
low vibration trauma energy or negative energy that you're carrying. So everybody's carrying their burden of low vibration energy that
tends to infect their thoughts, but simultaneously
there's also the degree. And here's the key. Here's the key. There's also the degree to which you are identified or duped by the negative energy. So for example, I know a lot of people that are very negative, but they're aware of how that
negativity is affecting them. And so they're not going to make decisions on that negativity versus for example, the mother of my kids, she's a hilarious example. One of the most high vibration
creatures I've ever met in my entire life. That's why I gravitate to her originally is that she's really
just one of the single most positive people on the planet. But it was really funny as a couple areas where the low vibration
energy gets into her head, she gets totally identified. You'll just hear like flustered, like and am like really? I'm like, you're not
really in this, are you? And she's like, eh, nah, because even that little
bit of negative energy that she carries it dupes her easily. So you want to get to
the point where you're, where whatever amount of negative energy that you're carrying, it doesn't dupe you very easily because the duping is
what makes you act on it. A very simple example, I think anybody could relate to is sending a company wide email and
I'm 38 is recording this. But I remember back when I was 22, 23, 24, and I get really pissed off and I could feel myself
being consumed negativity, I would send these
company-wide emails, right. Start bitching somebody out publicly, or I'd start bitching about, you know, to the whole team about things. And the really key thing to notice here is that there's an energy
people that bitch together, by the way. - You saying something, do you know, will like trigger other people and then they'll just
create switching system. - Well, what's funny is
that you logically know, but then at the same,
because logically speaking, surely when you send a bitching meal, you're not gonna have
everyone go great point. Oh wow, thanks for fucking shitting on me. They're just gonna start bitching back and become defensive. They're going to get triggered. But in the moment you don't even know what you're doing or you tell yourself a story that's like, this just needs to be said, this needs to be said. And I always say that there's
probably about one time in 10 when the bitching wide email actually does make sense. But ironically, it is that one time in 10, when it would make sense that fools you the nine other times now, the way that I learned this was AC and the response on the emails. But also actually when we were coming up, I was always participating on chat forums. One guy posts, something to trigger the other people reading it. And then when other people respond back, they trigger each other and everybody starts
triggering each other. And when you're older and
you know, what's happening, it's kind of funny to look at it's to realize that those people don't know what they're doing. I'm going to see it even
in YouTube comments, but those people are simply unaware of what they're doing. And so I would see that, and I remember here's what happened. Somebody would send me a criticism and I would write back
this like 15 page manifesto on why this is bullshit and why am right. And the funny thing was,
every time I posted it, people sensing the negative
energy contained within the writing would post that
picking apart what I'm saying. And then I'd feel more, a low vibration energy
and negative and angry. And then I would charge
the pendulum, send it back. They would charge 15
pendulums, send it back. And it would keep it's
like this charge pendulum of negativity going back and forth. Now what I trained myself to do. The simple practice what's right out. The negative condescending,
antagonistic post or email, email, or post. And then I would save it. And the next day, when I'd
wake up with a clear head, because for whatever reason, whenever you're annoyed, you usually will wake up feeling clear. Also the downside is a lot of times, if you go to bed feeling awesome, you kind of wake up feeling
around normal, right? Like if you're down here, you wake up feeling here. If you're up here, you kind of wake up feeling
you're in most cases. So I'd wake up and I would reread what I wrote. And I'm like, why did I write this? And then I just write some short little, one sentence thing and it would always make more sense. So since that time, I've definitely cleared doing
a lot of the type of stuff. Julian teaches in transformation mastery. I've cleared a lot of that negativity. I don't carry that anymore. That's really cool, but I certainly still
carry some negative energy, but here's the key is that I've learned to be aware
of when it's running me. And so I'm not as identified with that negative energy anymore. So what I feel myself in that state, what I do is I wait a
day to respond, okay? Or I wait until the negative
energy or the charge is gone. And then I can communicate
in a rational way. Or sometimes if I feel confident enough, I will actually kind of
move through that haze or fog of negative energy. That's hijacking my thoughts and I'll remind myself what I would normally write or respond with. Usually something short
and not antagonistic. And then I just do that. - You know, you're hijacked when, instead of being proactive about it and having your intention being, I'm going to fix this when it's taken over your response is
disproportionate to reality. You're freaking out more than you should. And your intention is to poke at that or amplify that versus
actually fix the problem. You don't even want to fix the problem because you just want to keep fueling what's going on inside. - Oh yeah, I mean, you'll see that because when somebody is triggered and they're coming at you and you keep offering solutions, it actually makes them more infuriated because they're not getting
their hits of negativity. And what I'd like you to do is not only track your highest thinking and your lowest thinking, but I'd also like you
to track your reactions when you do get negative. And then compare those over, say a one year or five year period. So let's say that right now, you're 27, anything bad that happens. It's your write it down or even make a video of how
much you're freaking out. And then from there, when
you're about 32 or 33, it's been about five years. Take note of how utterly irrelevant it is, how you barely even remember it. And that will also allow you
to keep a lot more centered. And it really key here is also that whenever you're getting triggered or getting negative or having a freakout, be aware that what your
mind is going to do, the low vibration energy
is going to trick you because it's going to pick things that are real and are
legitimate in most cases. But what it's going to do
is it's going to obscure the larger context. So buddies of mine, who I've seen, like really fuck up their shit whenever they're freaking out, it's usually right, what
they're freaking out about. But what they're doing is they're obscuring the larger context of how awesome this moment in time is, or all the other really positive things they could be emphasizing. So de-emphasizes those. And then it overly
emphasizes the negative thing and it makes it feel so utterly relevant. But really what it's trying to do is give you that fucking
hit of low vibration energy, which essentially is keeping you locked in place into whatever energetic reality you are currently
experiencing or addicted to. - Look for the recurring
patterns in your life, and your entire life
on a day to day basis. What are the thoughts you're addicted to? What are the emotions you're addicted to? What do you feel the most? We think every day is a new day. No, every day is fucking
Groundhog state today. Like 90% of your thoughts
are the same thoughts you had yesterday the day before. And the day before that, the same with your emotions, you wake up, same little concern. Like, ah, here we go. Another day, get to work. I fucking Ben fucked me over again. God damn it. Ah, the customer fucked me over this thing, fucked me over. Oh, I'm tired. I don't really want to do it. Like super common, everyone. Like I'm tired. It doesn't matter what you do. What time of day you are, what activity you're doing. I'm tired. I'm tired. Same excuses, same excit
over and over and over again. If there are patterns in your life, you are hooked on something, you are being rough. And that's really the question. Are you in control or
is it control of you? And anything can be an addiction. You know, we're talking about, say the mind thinking and also catch the rationalizations there. Anyone who's like, Oh,
I don't know about this. You know, being present to the moment, the rationalization is often I consider myself an intellectual. I don't know about this. I'm a very smart, logical,
analytical person. This present stuff doesn't apply to me. No, it applies to you more
than anyone else. Okay. So catch the rationalizations. And oftentimes they make sense too. It's like it's based in
real facts. You know? It's like, well look, I'm complaining, but it's because this
person fucked me over and they might've fucked you over. But what you're doing is instead of, for example, addressing it
and moving on from that, you just keep fixating on it and using it to fuel
that emotional addiction. Okay, so look for the patterns, do an audit, write it down,
catch the rationalizations. And don't think that this
doesn't apply to you. It does, and once more, there's a lot of resistance
to being aware of it. Because as soon as you realize this, now you're like maybe there
are a couple patterns. Now you're fucked. Now you have to change. Now you have to let go of
the ultimate comfort zone. Like this is the ultimate comfort zone that deep rooted addiction to your identity on those emotions. That just keep coming over and over again. The same thoughts over and over again. No, we think every day is a new day, but no, you're really
living Groundhog's day. Like tomorrow might be different. Let's hope for it to be different. It's the exact same thing. You wake up, same worries, same emotions. If you're someone who experiences, anxiety a lot, it kicks in and not just that, but then it also affects your focus. You know, you start filtering
the world through this. So say right now we're hanging
out on this little grid. If you're in this state of anxiety, most of the time you're going to pick up on all these things like, Oh man, are people dangerous or
people out to get me here? Oh my God, what about this? I don't know. It's nighttime. Oh, we're standing out with the light. You're going to focus on that. If you're someone who's
pissed off all the time, you'd be like, Oh, it's fucking cold. Look at this shit. People walked so close on. Dammit, I dunno about the shot. I'm like complaining someone is happy. You're going to start being like, Oh, look at this awesome one
fucking Vegas filming, doing something we love
expressing ourselves. And you seek things to reinforce that. So the next thing to understand is your RAS your selective focus, where if you look around you, there's just way too much
information too much to take in. You could be watching this
on your phone right now. You're looking at us and a focus just for fun
on a little corner side of your phone, notice
all the little details. You know, you didn't notice it before, but now you did. It came into your focus. So because there's just
way too much to take in. We have this little mechanism, your RAS, you can Google it. - You'd be like really, really Google RAS and spend the next week observing RAS. You got nothing else out
of this video go to that. - Google it. And basically what's going to happen is you're going to start filtering out. As I mentioned before, people situations things
in a way to reinforce current beliefs, current assumptions, to reinforce what you're
thinking in the moments where you're feeling in
the moment, you know, to keep that going and keep it alive. So if you're angry, you'll usually notice like
something will piss you off and suddenly you'll start
focusing on everything else that pisses you off. You're gonna find that'll help reinforce you being pissed. - Or your shitty version of people, your shitty view of the world. - Well, yeah, even on
a more general scale, like the people you hang out with, that's most likely fulfills a certain emotional addiction. You know, people will get pissed off, hanging out with other people, get pissed off and they
will seek each other out. - Well, it's called a low
vibration energy circuit. - And you can see it too. Especially in relationships
like with people are really hooked on drama. They will find a way, you know, or if you read a lot on, you know, say narcissism, I mean, it's insane how you see
this in relationship. Like if there's one narcissistic person and the relationship and they will find each other and start triggering each other, and it becomes like this
loop of a relationship. - When somebody is addicted
to a shitty reality, they will seek out and only seek out someone who
will treat them like shit. - Talk about it now as the RAS flip, and this really explains
a lot of what goes on in cheating, breakups, whether it's romantic
partners, friendships, business partners, where say, for example, you're dating someone and you start getting a little
less out of the relationship. There's that same value your DNA kicks in. It's like, Hey, you got
to get out of there. You got to find a partner
where there is more value. You know, you're going
to feel a little bit bad. You're like, well, I don't really want to
fuck this person over. And what's going to happen is your RAS is going to kick in. And instead of focusing on all the amazing things about your partner, suddenly you're gonna start noticing, you know what? My partner chews a little loud, you know what, my partner, they were a little late for this thing, all the little bad things. And you're going to focus more and more on this to justify, say, cheating or leaving the person and to not feel so bad about it, you'll rationalize it like, Oh, it was their fault. You know, fucking chewing
with their mouth open, fuck that person, I'm out. - DNA, hijacks and manipulates RAS to make the person believe
it's in their favor to do this kind of shady thing. And this is why countries go
to war against each other. Like let you know, Britain can go to war against
Germany in world war two. And both sides have believe that they are on the side of God. And both side believes that
they're the good guy, 100%. And then they can rationalize physically killing each other and shooting each other. And it just makes sense
in that moment, right? So you can see friends, but the best of friends. And then all of a sudden, when it's convenient to the
DNA to go against each other. Now all of a sudden they
fucking hate each other, or maybe they like something
about their friend. And that was like their cool
quality that they had like, Oh, maybe we're a little different, but then all of a sudden it's like, those fucking differences
are fucking bullshit. And the problem with this, what happens is that it promotes separation rather than promoting togetherness
or coming together. Now sometimes that RAS clip can actually help the person to kind
of get out of a situation that they shouldn't be in. And it can also help them
to stay mentally sane. Like, so for example, say you had a breakup
it's just too painful. It honestly just hurts too much. You can't cope with it. Well, now you get that RAS clip. It's like, well fuck them. Anyway, because that's the
only way that you can flip it. Now, funny enough, if I've had an ex and say that, ask her friend, does she still talk about me and say her friends, like, she fucking hates you. I'm like, okay, I can get her back if she hates me. But if she's like, Oh,
she wishes you the best. I'm like, Oh, it's done. Yeah. Because if she's neutral towards me, she no longer requires
an RAS flip to move on. But if she's still attached, then she needs the RS slip to move on. Now, ideally you could
be present to the moment, take a situation for what it is and just say it, that was kind
of fun and ended and move on. But some people do need
that kind of RAS flip. And you're going to see this
in your personal relationship. So whenever you see somebody and you're watching their selective focus, what they are focusing on and emphasizing in that
relationship to you, when you're seeing it begin to shift, you know that that's the
onset of an RAS flip. And likewise, when you see it in yourself, you're gonna notice in yourself. And again, track this. - With the RAS too, you're gonna seek out
people who reinforced that. And you gotta be really careful in terms of surrounding
yourself with yes men or yes women that'll reinforce beliefs. And it's like this constant feedback loop. And once more, that's like another trap you need to step out of like surround yourself with
people who challenge you, who challenge your ways of thinking, not who agree with everything you think and everything you say. And it's so easy to do that. You know, it's like, I
don't like that person cause they don't agree with this. I like this person cause
they always agree with that. I know people who literally
only wants fans around them. Not because they're famous. Like no one knows them, but like friends, like
friends who are fans, you know, it's like, they love him. They just supplicate. And just follow around to just keep reinforcing their ego and never having to question it. So look at the people you hang out with, look at all your friends and ask yourself, are they yes-man or do you have some people who, you know, disagree with you every once in a while who actually say it? So we're going to start with a story about a client that came
on a program with me. And he was very knowledgeable
in the whole self-help world about only surrounding yourself with positive people. You know, it's like cut out
negativity from your life. The number one tip is you are who you surround yourself with. Cut off negativity. Anyone who whines, anyone who bitches, anyone to just says stuff
that kind of pisses you off, just cut them off and you will kill it in life. - Let your feelings be your guide. It doesn't feel good. It's low vibration and cut them off. - Exactly. So that's
what needed in his life. And he comes on this program and he just absolutely wants
to kill it really positive guy. And I started giving him some feedback, you know, just very real raw feedback, this stuff he needs to hear
to just crush it even more. And I saw him starting to experience a little bit of resistance and looking a little confused. I'm like, is everything okay? And he's like, well, I don't know if I should say this
Julian, but I've made it. You know, I put in a lot of work to only surround myself with positive people and I just freak out whenever there's something that's not positive. And I'm like, well, wait a minute. Like, this is still very positive. It's the stuff you need to
hear to just really kill it. He's like, no, no, no, but it can only be positive. And it has to always be, you know how to say it in agreement with everything that I already believe it
can't really challenge beliefs. Cause then I don't feel too good. And I don't feel positive. - Now, did he directly explicitly say that or was it kind of just implied, but the frame behind what he said? - Directly implicitly says
yeah, actually said it, like I made an effort. This is my year I cut off people. I fired people for not being positive. I fired people for disagreeing. I'm like, Whoa. And he was basically
using this idea of okay, cutting off negativity by just cutting off everyone
who has conflicting opinions and only surrounding himself with yes-men. - Now I'm guessing that he had a mindset of he's coming from a positive underlying frame and positivity is always good. And therefore just like,
cause there's a smart guy. - Yeah. - Cause he's running. Was he running a business? Running a business, just sold it successfully. - Yeah. So smart killing it,
smart guy, killing it again. Very knowledgeable in terms of self-help however, he took this piece of
advice can only be positive, surround yourself with positive people. And basically used it as an excuse to just cut off anyone
who disagrees with him, anyone who kind of challenges
his way of thinking his way of being. And you could just kind of
see it in his personality. He was very complacent, very soft. There wasn't that kind of like hump. - They call that fire in the belly. - Yeah, there was that fire in the belly. He was like, Oh, I'm
very, very positive. Yay. Well like kind of like that. And as soon as we kind
of talked about this and then he was like, okay, I'm going to be open to
receiving some advice that, you know, might not be, you know, in agreement with my beliefs right now, the challenge, my beliefs, he just started waking up and just absolutely killing it. But this is a trap that I see guys and women of course
fall into all the time. It's like only with positive people, no one that disagrees with me. And I mean, that's used
to become complacent that's you just become stuck and you just lose that fucking alignment. - Human beings, we respond to
people's sense of certainty. So the leader of groups or people that have
high status have a sense of certainty about the way
that they're communicating. And that's part of survival in a tribe is that you come across as
having status or certainty. So if somebody begins picking
at your sense of certainty and it causes you to kind of just be uncertain about everything, it actually could get you
lower status in the tribe. It could lower your mating privileges and whatnot within that tribe and the way that we're evolved. So as a result, we are biologically wired to preserve our sense of certainty because if we lose it too much, we lose status and could die. Okay. That's the way that we're wired. So people will defend
their sense of certainty because if you poke at them at one thing, they begin to question that they could be wrong about everything. Now as a side tangent, the
way that you get around that is some people, they form
their sense of reality in a web like one premise, one, one idea, another idea, another idea, they form it in web to be
wildly certain about everything, but a better way to form
your sense of reality is separate each idea. So that even if this
idea gets knocked down and this idea gets knocked
down, you're good to go, okay? - Take our chiropractor. The lovely Dr. Iris, I love
her to death, what's up Iris. She oftentimes will, you know, maybe have a business challenge. And she's really into the
kind of like the secret, the law of attraction,
raise your vibration. And by shifting how you
are within yourself, you will attract better circumstances. So oftentimes when her
business has a new challenge, she might say, you know,
I think I need to, I mean, I'm kind of just paraphrasing here. It's been a while since she said this up, but it was like, you know, like cleanse myself energetically, right? I need to raise my vibration. And there's wonderful books
that I know about that. My favorite author on that topic right now is Fredrick Dawson. And it's just got some
really cool stuff on that. I certainly don't agree with all of it. And anybody who does, I think
is really just an easy sell, but I love his books, but I would never recommend
that to our chiropractor ever because what she needs to
read is something nasty, something awful, something
that would unsettle you, something that would make it, that you can't sleep like Felix Dennis had a get rich, right? Felix Dennis will give such
lovely high vibration advice. As in business, you are a weasel who must see the throat
of your competitor, go get into organizations,
steal the secrets and leave, get a staff, hire them
for seven years at once. They are complacent, fire them off. (laughs) Okay, somebody like that. - Which is an amazing book by the way. - It really is. It's like I couldn't sleep at her. I, it, I was horrified, but at the same time, you know, what was so wonderful about
it is it's a conflicting view. It shakes shit up, it gets you creative. And so just Dr. Iris, does she need to read
yet another book saying, raise your vibration,
she's been reading that. And she's still having
whatever natural challenges that any business would have. Rather the best thing to do would be to read a different book, but for five years now, I'm like, Iris, read something like this. And she's like, oh no, no, oh no, no. You know what? I'm just like ah, and you know, and it's, I use her as an example because she is highly
intelligent, highly skilled, and very successful and amazing at what she does and to see even someone as smart as her having that challenge. And I've just said this
to her so many times. So Iris come on, you know, to me, that's just an example that
even the smartest among us have this challenge and the reason why is
whenever we read resources or are exposed to ideas
that disagree with us. As far as I can tell, it actually kind of raises your cortisol. It makes you feel negative
spikes of emotion, similar to rejection because our egos are
identified in our ideas. And when our ideas are
threatened, we feel threatened because their sense of self is
identified in their opinions. If you threaten one of their opinions, you are threatening them. You're threatening their sense of self, you're threatening their
sense of certainty. And they are gonna shut down
any feedback that you give. So anytime that you're getting feedback, there is a way in which
it is constructive. And then there's the way that
it's just either a F=frank control play or insulting. - Yeah. - Okay, so there's constructive way that actually makes an impact where there maybe even open to hearing it and maybe making change. And then there's the way where
you're either insulting them. Like this sucks, that's not constructed. Like what do you get out of that? This sucks, thanks. Like, what's the feedback stop existing. That's not helpful. Or you're just making
a frame control play. So in a helpful frame, we use what's called a feedback sandwich and we do this all the time. Because anytime that we don't,
any time you can expect that really you're not getting feedback. All that you're doing is you're
just fucking with the person they're gonna fuck with you back. - So for example, instead of
me being like, you know what? You need to fix these
hands in your pocket. I don't know about that. And just ending it there. - That's cool though. - I know it'd be like. - Makes me look relaxed. I'm like, but keep
talking, having a blast. I'd be like, you know what? I really love, man. Like this shirt is awesome. One thing that could make it
better is maybe, you know, if you just moved your hand a little bit. - To take it to another level. - Take it to another level. - Take this excellence. - Instead of having a fully
in, pull them out a little bit. And beyond that, dude, I also love the Scot
positive feedback positive. I'd add also an example,
like on the opposite of Dr. Iris, who is very, you know, woo. So on and so forth, we have a lot of friends
like business friends who are just very fuck that woo shit. Just really, again, hustle,
head down, beat yourself up. Like you've got to make it happen. You gotta fuck it. You know, fuck everything
til you get there. And there are some benefits like, yeah, they do have at times a work
ethic, it's not sustainable, but they have a strong work
ethic instead of, you know, just sitting back like waiting
for something to happen, they'll actually make it happen. But it's also very
limiting at the same time. It's like you have to combine the two and be open to paradoxical ideas. - One of the great signs
of an intelligent mind is the ability to hold conflicting views in your minor paradoxical ideas and not necessarily need to resolve them. And this is very difficult to understand, but the map is not the territory. So the verbal idea or explanation of something is still limited because it's a map. So sometimes there just, isn't a way to verbally communicate an idea and that's why you need conflicting views. Now this is so critical because consistently across the board, what you're gonna see
is people who don't have conflicting feedback
really go in a direction that you would never, never want to go in. The greatest example that we
see here in Los Angeles is you see you know, young, beautiful women, and you can see, they have, you know, a beautiful feminine spirit and they've got a lot to offer and they radiate energy in the environment and they have so much
great stuff going on. At the same time it's just, and you know, a lot of guys,
I think are mad about this, but I feel more of an empathy or sympathy or whatever you'd call it because what winds up happening is they have a lot of booby traps. And these booby traps
that these, you know, girls have thrown at them
are, you know what girl, you're a rockstar, oh great. I know the girl says something
dumb, great idea, bravo, because they're in a laundry
machine of false feedback from guys who want to sleep with them. And so, because every guy
either wants to sleep with them or girls want to be friends with them or to get social proof, they wind up getting this huge,
just torn of false feedback. They never know what's going on. They never know, or not never, but they often don't know
in certain types of cases I'm talking about, you know, it could be a beautiful girl watching. This has a different opinion, I guess. But you know, in the cases
that I've just personally seen, the girl will have so many
beliefs that are just wrong. An example is it here in LA is cocaine doesn't hurt my brain. You know, you're a rock star girl, like so many of these really
hot girls in LA or on cocaine, that is a horrible
example of false feedback because you're getting a substance that is really messing
with your brain chemistry and turning your brain into Swiss cheese in certain respects. What an awful one to have
false feedback about, her personality could be just
getting rotten and nasty. And she doesn't know. And when she gets older, she hits that you don't
later phase of her life. And you'll see this in LA. I've seen this me and you out
where a girl is, you know, getting up there in age, you know, she's hitting the wall and she walks up to a bar and she tries to stroll in just like me and my friends are going in. And the bouncer says,
no, you're not coming in. And that's that moment when she realizes I have a rotten personality, that's never been put in check and I don't have my looks anymore. And I've seen them have
these demonic outbursts, like, fuck you. And like calling the bouncer,
like, you're fucking ugly. You mother fucker. You know, all this kind stuff. It's this crazy false feedback. So anytime that you get
feedback that contradicts you or makes you feel like maybe
you have to look at yourself, just ask yourself, do you wanna be like
one of those hot girls who isn't a laundry
machine of false feedback. And I think the answer is no. - So the average person, whenever they're interacting with someone, they're typically thinking four things. The first is, you know,
say, we're talking, how does this relate to me? If you say something that
just doesn't relate to me. And I'm your average, Joe,
I'm just gonna block it off. It's just like, oh, you
know, these chips here, this little vegan restaurant,
if I'm not hearing, you're calling me, I'm just like, when is he gonna switch to something else that refers to me? When do we talk about me? My favorite topic, okay. So how does this relate to me? Number two, they're thinking, do I get it? So if you're explaining something, as soon as it clicks, oh, I got it. I'll just cut off the rest. You just don't listen to the rest. Number three, when is it my turn to speak? And number four, am I being tested? Did I pass the test? These are the four things
that your average Joe is thinking about whenever
interacting with someone, thinking that it'll help
that person, you know, maybe be higher value or passed the test. When in reality, it just lowers your value and people sense it immediately. If you're actually there presence, like if we're talking
you'll sense immediately, if I'm like listening to you or if I'm drifting off,
like, oh, I got it. Oh, is he talking about, oh
me, you're just not there. You're just in tracking
someone through these filters and it just kills your value. It turns you into this
very unlikeable person. Yeah, just this little past. - Yes, what you want
to try as an experiment for where for one week, and this experiment is
gonna make you wanna like blow your brains out
when you see it, where watching different conversations
that people are having. And what you're gonna see is that whenever you watch two people talking, you'd think that the two people are interacting kind of having fun. And sometimes they are, for sure. It definitely happens. Sometimes alcohol is involved. It helps them to do that. But one person is on the other person and you can see that little
hamster in the person's brain and they're continually going, what does this have to do with me? So, you know, if you're talking
about some kind of light, like we're in LA right now, and you know, there's somebody issue
going on in LA the person, rather than just talking
about the issue itself that's happening in LA, they're gonna keep bringing it back to themselves. You know, so we had like a big rainfall a few months ago to say like, yo, the rain is getting crazy. I'm like, well, up in my
place, doesn't matter. Rather than just talking
about the topic itself or say, you're saying all the rainfall thing, I'm just waiting for you to finish talking so I can give my opinion on the rainfall. Like, well, you know
what, here's my opinion, because I don't actually wanna listen to let the other person talk. Or maybe I feel like I'm being like, like it's some kind of test,
like a self qualifying thing, like I've got that on control or. - Or you try to top it with a story. Like, you hear a story, like, hey, I bought this new thing and I'm like, how do I pass the test? You know what I bought? Or, oh, I get the, you
experienced LA the rainfall, but you know, up in
Seattle or in Switzerland, you would imagine the rain,
my rain beats, your rain. No big deal. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. And the funny thing with
that one is like, so say, you're, say two people are talking, right? The general purpose of
conversation socially is to elevate mood. So people who are not cool, they think the purpose
conversation is as a test or a self qualification. - To win. - To win, so people that are cool, they view it like it's
to increase the emotion. So if you're like, yo,
the rain here is crazy. And then I said, dude, you
haven't even seen rain, man. Okay, like it's in Switzerland. It's super crazy, this is nothing. And then you're like, and it sucks the energy
of the conversation. 'Cause you're like, woo, woo, woo. Like, okay, well then good for you. You saw more rain than me, great. And then the vibe is not going up. So what you have to understand is that this comes back to coping versus thriving. And so somebody who's in a coping mode, they tend to feel more like
what's this have to do with me. What's the test here. When can I stop? - It is very defensive, yeah. - Versus when you have somebody
in thriving, they underline. Here's the key. The underlying assumption
is I'm fine either way. I don't even need to
have this conversation. I 'cause I have what I need in life. So I'm having this
conversation to amuse myself, there's nothing I need to get out of this or to pull out of it. Everything's chill, I'm good. But rather how could I increase the vibe? And so the example that
I've taught it before. You'll hear me say this to, you know, in videos until the day I'm dead is when coping versus
driving, whatever I say, I'm rushing to the airport and I get into an Uber or taxi, you know, the Uber might
say, how are you doing? And I'm always like good, right? Like it's about me, it's just like, good. Like I'm too fucked up. Or it's they just had a breakup or something really
messed up, just happened. And they're like, how are you doing? You're kinda like, like good, because there's just too much. There's too many different
mental faculties being absorbed to be able to absorb it. Like if you take that guy who just, you know, put the plate down
right in front of the camera there, just guys running around here, frantically he's in coping right now. He's like, I got to get them
the Brussels sprouts here. I got to get to this. He's probably not too thrilled to be doing this kind of work. Maybe, maybe not. But in addition to that, the last thing he's thinking of is like, am I disrupting anything when
I slammed down the Breslins, even when we're recording your not, it's not even like distant
like the dude, just like, you know, he's fucking, he's busy. And so that's a great
example just to happen, write that in there, right? Whereas you know, if everything in your
life is going awesome, you're not in some major rush. Maybe you actually are like, well, this thing that
they're staring at right now, maybe I shouldn't just slam
a process in front of it so. - Or people cut in front of the shots. Like if you shoot in a busy street, like say New York and you see people rushing to work, shoot right in front of the
camera, shameless, you know? And then you'll see someone
like maybe on their vacation, tourist see is taking their time and they'll see the show and be like, oh, let me walk around. You know, versus yeah, fuck this. Usually I'd walk around,
I'm rushing, yeah. - Yeah, somebody we see all the time. - Yeah. - So that being the case
when you're in thriving, you don't say that I'm in
a good mood in the universe is how are you doing? I say, oh great, man. How are you doing? Because I'm good. So now I'm gonna be more focused on him. If you're watching this
in a mode right now where you're not feeling super great. The last thing that you want
to hear is me or Julian, be like, yeah, I care
more about other people. You're like, dude, I'm in
fucking coping like last. And the waiter wants to
hear is like, you know, every time you put a plate down, look at where you're putting,
he doesn't give a fuck. He just wants to finish this job. But what I'd say to you to kind of, to bait you in a little bit
is that if you get this down, your social status will actually increase and you won't have to worry
about when's my turn to talk. Or is this a test or how does this affect
me or those things? Because you'll just be so
good in life that you won't, none of this stuff will
even matter to you anymore. But weirdly, by having it matter, you're kind of like in this weird spiral, it's like a self fulfilling prophecy. Like this is weird. A loop that's, self-reinforcing where your social status is lower. Versus when you can break out of this, your social status will actually go up. - And you'll feel more energized. Like you think like if you're
in that Uber situation, 'cause I've had it too, where
I'm just like really tired. I'm like, oh, I know. Do I wanna spend the energy talking back? And I'll just talking
back asking him like, how are you doing? What if he talks more? What if he asks me more
questions, it's draining. But in reality, it's like
that concern like, oh, how does this relate to me? Will I have to talk more? Is even more exhausting than
just letting it come out and actually asking the person, how are you doing as well? So let's take that example. Okay, you go out as you've all had, and you're just in a venue
and saying, you're like, I don't belong here. Like that's the first
thought that kicks in. You might think I'm confident
on the way you might be hyping yourself up with music. As soon as you enter that venue, your mind goes to analyzing threats and you wanna add that? First thing you do analyzing
threats, like, okay, where do I stand here? Who here has more value,
more status than me? Do I belong? Am I allowed to be loud? Who might I offend? Ooh, are they staring at me? Is my dress okay? What about me, me, me, me, me and suddenly it's you
versus the environment instead of, oh, these are my peeps. We're all on the same
team, let's hang out. How's it going? It's there's the enemy. And we literally view everyone
as the enemy, by the way. And what we do is how can I
use some of the social tips to win this enemy over? (audience laugh) And that doesn't work, okay? Not only will it not work as you're in a very competitive mode and they just feel it, but because you're so
caught up in your head, there is no soul. And this is huge. This is a big difference
in terms of you going out and just chatting and it just
clicks versus you chatting and it doesn't work. Sometimes you say the exact same thing and it doesn't work. Why, there's not that soul. And this is the stuff it's
really hard to put into words, but think of music, right? You can have someone who's very logical, very smart in their heads. And they're just analyzing everything. They're like, let me take notes. Let me practice the perfect timing yet. When they play the song,
it's like a robot, right? Have you ever done like music programming? It's like, you've just
programmed in the notes and it's like, to, to, to, to, perfect timing, perfect notes. But you just don't connect. There's no humanity in it, right? It's just too logical. There's too much of you. There's a great quote from Osho that goes, the more of you, there is in your art,
the less perfect it is. If you're very creative, if you're trying to think too much and make it too perfect, too much to you, too much ego involved. It stifles true genius from coming out. And what he says is the more
you can remove yourself, you analyzing everything. What are people gonna think? Is this gonna work? Remove yourself and let it come out. It's pretty much like
something from the other side comes through you. And that's really what it feels like when you're in that flow state, I'm sure you've experienced it. You're out just chatting, having a blast. You're like, wow. It's like something else
is coming through me. And this feels amazing. Now you can go spiritual. And he says, it's the
universe acting through you. It's God, it's something supernatural. Which is why when you hear beautiful art or you see like a painting or a song where someone
really let it shine through, you're like that is, you
know, beyond human, it is. It's something that came
through the other side. Whether you choose to believe that or not, we all connect with it, that's the soul. But to get in touch with that soul, you got to get in touch with the body. You can only emotionally recognize it. It's something you can
logically recognize. And I mean, we've been
showing it for years. It's like, look, this is for example, an interaction where
there's not much soul. And it's like, hey, how's it going? It's just very flat. It just doesn't click. Here's the soul. And you're like, oh, and that's, what's missing. We're trying to learn, for example, socializing logically it's pre-verbal, it's not the words. The words are simply the
vehicle for that person to experience you for experience that soul for you guys to connect and create something emotionally together. Start training yourself to
be more aware of out there. Like what's the context. That's a question I always ask
myself, what is the context? What is appropriate in
this context beyond me? Okay, start also trying to
put yourself in the heads and bodies of other people. This sounds weird, but
you got to start doing it. What is the world through their eyes? That's the question. What's it feel like to be them? What are the thoughts they have? And you gotta be in touch with this, okay? It will require time
to get a feel for this. But there is such a thing as
getting a feel for people. We have it like say
you're really stressed. You're gonna feel that shit. Your next time, you're gonna be like, that's stressed energy will transfer. If you're just living in your head. And that's what he said. It's like mentally retreating as opposed to being full body awareness, you won't feel shit within you and you won't be able to
connect to the outside world and other people. And that's why it's also very hard. If you're as someone
who's mentally like, well, I don't understand, what do
you mean a bigger context? Like you're not even
feeling the wave of energy that we're building here
in this seminar room. You're just looking at
the content and data, like a fucking computer, like a robot. Like what is the data and contents? I don't know about this soul, the soul of this fucking
seminar, the soul of the content, the soul of the person
where you experience. Like even right now, the
way I've put this out there, there's a certain buildup and I hope you feel it. If not, you're like what's built up. I'm just hearing sole word quite a lot. There's some soul, okay? That's something you've
got to learn how to do, how to inhabit your body. Most of us just stay trapped up here and you can see it too, by how much life is in
their body, as opposed to so this is also what I'm gonna talk about and right now I'm only in my head. I might do a couple of little movements, but I'm only in my head right
now, delivering content. And this is the data. And I believe souls are very
important saying the soul might help a lot different, right? Get a read for that. Feel your body, meditation
helps with this. Yoga helps with this. You got to learn body awareness again. - The average person who's
addicted to their control muscle will watch me and Julien doing speaking. And they'll say no,
that came from practice. That came from years of
doing it over and over. They got a technique. Look at the technique. No, do you want to know
what this was, I'm learning? Do you really think I learned this or you think I unlearn this? What do you think? - [Audience] Unlearn. - Okay, who here has ever
been out with me to the club and kind of see me do
my thing, anybody here? Okay, so when you guys see me do my thing, do you think that I learned
that or unlearned it? What do you, what's your guess? - [Audience] Unlearned it. - I unlearned it, okay? Just going around and joking with people and flirting. We can all do that. You got to unlearn what's
stopping you from doing that. You've all done it at times. Now, why have you been put in this mode? Simple, is called corporate greed. You've always known it. You've always known why the
movie, the Matrix is popular because it's called corporate greed. It's also called demented demonic energy. There is and guess who
runs the corporations? The same demented, demonic energy. It's the same thing. And they're doing it in scale. Now, that's just an opinion. I can't prove all that. I don't think every corporation is bad. I'm not joining some anti-corporate group. I just like to have fun. I'm not about that life. And I actually think
corporations do awesome stuff. We're at a hotel right now. I think this hotel is awesome. I love this hotel. Don't get me wrong. Okay, love corporations. But I also know that our
society energetically, do you really believe
that the state of mind that most of us are in is how human beings got from
the Southern tip of Africa, all the way up the coast
in Europe, into Asia, into Australia, into North America, crossing the Bering Strait. You really think it was this kind of crew? [Audience] No. - No, okay? So clearly we do have certain potentials that we're unaware of. Many of these people that came
around before modern society, they were in a trance. They were connected to the gods. Even if there was no gods, but they felt that in an empowered them, there was things that
they could see like myself and keeping my immune system up. I know when I'm about to get sick, I can feel it, I can stop. I can rest, there's things I'm attuned to. I know what thing to
say next, I can feel it. I can look at you, there's
energies. I can sense. I'm a tune things energetically. When something's bad is happening, I often feel a spidey sense. I can feel what's up. And you're thinking, why
is he saying right now? Is that really true? And then I add more crazy claim, dude, don't take my word for it. Why don't you go fricking see it rather than me making a wild claim. Why don't you see it? See it for yourself. I'm not you in no way, shape or form. If someone says something obnoxious and agrees like, hey, spidey
sense, should you believe that? If you believe that you are dumb. But what I would say is
at very least be like, wait a minute. So this little short balding
ginger guy with a Potbelly and man boobs is able
to do all these things I've seen on video. I've there's been thousands
of reports of him crushing it. He's doing something, he's able to do improvisational speaking like this, I guess it was the step-by-step book. I got public speaking for
dummies and did that, okay. Where does all this content come from? Do you guys see the
level of creative output? So understand where's this coming from? I want you to do this. This is not about me doing this. It's about you doing it. And I wouldn't be saying this to you because I believe it was
condescending and offensive if I didn't wholeheartedly
believe that you could do this. I know you can do this. I don't care if you're
some guy in a wheelchair who just like, look, it looks like you got his face kicked in. You can tap into this. I wrote
my friend, Sean Stevenson, little dude, you ever seen Sean Stevenson? This guy's amazing, look him up. This guy has energy control. Like you wouldn't even believe. So I don't care who you are. I don't want to hear your stupid excuse. I don't care about it, I don't like it. To me that's just more
of that dimensionless that runs people. What I want to do is show you
what your release muscles are, because you don't even know you have them. And the reason why society doesn't like it when you know what this is, here's why, because they want the
negative energy to fester. They want the negative energy to fester. Why do you think it is that
in our culture nowadays comedy's under attack. Why did they go out? Why did that dark energy go after comedy to where we can barely say anything without walking on eggshells. Why they go after comedy? Because when we tease each other and we joke about each other, what some people call offensive, what is joking about each other? If I say my bald and ginger,
is that meant to offend me? What does it do? When I joke
about me being a balding, ginger, it takes something. Look at my hair, is falling out. (audience Laugh) Do you how traumatized this could be? Having the courage to
walk up to attractive people and go talk to them. Do you know how hard
that would be balding? I'm kind of fat right now. Do you know how hard that would be? And if I'm afraid of being offended, what's gonna happen is I can't walk up and talk or attract anybody, period. So they want to make it where
they're gonna hide someone. Like if Jordan jokes
with me and teases me, that's gonna help me because it puts me in a release frame. What is the purpose of comedy
and teasing each other? Maybe even offending
each other a little bit. What's the purpose of it? Is it to hurt each other's feelings? No, that's called release. It's called you making a big joke. - Learn to laugh again, okay? A challenge I would give
anyone who has trouble laughing is go to comedy shows, make it a challenge like this next week, the next two weeks,
every night, comedy show. That should be your priority. If you can't go in person,
watch it on Netflix. Watch it online, go on YouTube. And literally watch standup on repeat until you feel that real
laugh just burst up. 'Cause at first, like
I talked about before, you're gonna be in your head, just analyze and like, oh, this is boring. Screw this challenge
until it finally clicks. And you'll literally be by
yourself in front of your computer, like comedy and then like a little chuckle, like, huh? You're like, what was that? Where did that come from? That's your soul? That's you taking up
more space in your body and keep doing it until
you genuinely laugh and you can even analyze it. Like, what do I laugh at? What type of comedians? What type of humor? And you learn how to
push those own buttons, how to get in your body and how to experience joy you could say. - What means you hanging out. We're not on eggshells
in front of each other. We tease each other. We joke around, that creates comradery. That creates bonding. What is the best form of flirting? Teasing, joking, making it not so uptight, making it not so serious. That is your release muscle teasing. Again, there's so much misinterpretation around teasing in Florida. Why would you tease? Oh, I'm teasing because I
assume the other person is cool. I'm assuming that
they're high self esteem. I'm assuming that they are fine and complete people with agency and I'm teasing them in
order to lighten the vibe so that we can all go be dorks together. You wonder the ultimate
thing with meeting people or creating attraction. It's not actually being
higher value like you think. Do you wanna know what it really is? It's about being all dorks together. Just for a moment. Just take a deep breath, deep, suck it in and just let it out. Let it out, just go, aa. Just let it out. That's a great space to be coming from. Anytime that I would teach
you on public speaking, anytime that I teach you
on social interaction, the first thing I do is I
teach you how to step up, how to bring some energy. But then from there, what I would teach you is
actually how to let go, how to have unconscious competence because to become an iconic speaker or to become a living legend, you're not going to get
there by controlling more. You get there by initially
learning to control, but eventually by letting
go, does that make sense? - [Audience] Yes. - Another way of viewing
it is there's all these, you could say social skills
or status rules, right? And you learn about them. You're like, hmm, you
know, if I stand like this, it's a very assertive, right? So you start playing by the rules, learning about the rules. This is high status, this is low status. This is what people want to be around. This is offering value, vhis is low value. However, eventually you reach a point where you're above the rules, above those little social
skills, high value, high status rules, why? 'Cause the person is still
trying to play by the rules. It's still a value. For me, it's like, you know what? I can sit here and even just sit like this and I own it. I'm that cool that I can get
away with staying like this. You know what? I can even talk like this and I still get away with it. I don't have to dominate, why? 'Cause I don't care. I'm above it.
- There is a difference when he's talking like that. So cutting off, what is Cape air, when he's talking like that, this is key. It was so important I wanna mention it. When he's talking like that, he sounds categorically
different than a lot of guys who talk like that. A lot of guys will talk like that. And they're like, hey,
what's up, what's up? And it doesn't sound like an imitation. That's not an imitation. So at a certain level, even
when you would act low status, it doesn't look low status anymore. It's the difference
between being and doing, say it with me. - [All] Being and doing. - So when you're being that guy, when you have had a real transformation, you're on a different level, but it's okay to play with
different mannerisms at first to get the hang of it. As long as eventually
you own it, integrate it and let it go. - The other thing to
really notice is just, is their heaviness, is it a big deal? Any signs of heaviness or big deal? Always linked to me, me, me, me the ego. Okay, you can write this down. Ego equals efforts, when
there's like this effort, you're like, oh, I'm in my head. Or even in the way you talk,
it's like, yo, slow it down. And of course, to get to the cause you got to dive into it and process it. But even say you're out, don't
take yourself so seriously. Remember too no one notices you. No one's following you in
analyzing everything you do. You know, we all think like
I'm the hero of my movie and everyone's movie, that's not true. I'm the hero of my movie. You're the hero of your movie. You're the hero of your movie. Everyone here it's like
these people to you are just background characters. You're a background
character to most people. You're not Brad Pitt walking into a venue. And that's how we act. We're like fans, fans,
what are they thinking? Are they judging me? The pimples? Oh fans, and then you walk in fans, where do I stand with all the fans here? They're all staring and judging because I'm so famous. You're not famous. You hear advice like fake
it till you make it, right? I'm shy, so at confident
until you make it, but that's not the case. It's act real until you remember. And this is what's so key
when it comes to letting go. You hear, for example, in terms of flirting of the
concept of push pull, right? This is super classic, what's a push. I hate you, what's a
pull, I love you. Right? Adding some polarity in an interaction. And we think, oh, that's a
great technique, push pull. Let me work on my push. Let me work on my pull. But what you don't realize is
that that naturally happens when you're just being you. Right? 'Cause you're either on
the people pleaser side, in which case all you do is pull. It's the person who just
agrees with everything. It's like no conflict,
no polarity, just agree. If I'm the most agreeable person, I'll be the most likable person and people will want to be with me. Tell me something, are you from LA? - No. - No, that's great. What do you do? - I'm a personal trainer. - Oh, I love personal trainer. That's the best. Yeah, what's your favorite movie? - My favorite movie? - Bro, speak up, come on. - My favorite movie is
Pay and Pull right now. - Oh yeah, that's my favorite movie too. I love that, yeah. - What do you like about it? - What do you like about it? (audience laugh) - The hustle. - Oh, the hustle. Yeah, I like that too. The hustle is my favorite part, yeah. (audience laugh) That's actually the GoTo of
people pleasers, by the way, the worst is they'll even
repeat what you said. You might have friends like that. It's like, oh, you know the hustle. It's like, oh really the hustle? Like that's our conversation. They just say the last thing you said and nod and agree. It's like no polarity. And that's a lot of people. Now on the flip side,
you also have people who, all they can do is push, right? It's the people who just can
never really compliments, can never just really
be vulnerable or relax. All they do is like hot
teas., teas, teas, teas and keep teasing. And it's like, ah, just insecure. Just slow down. It's like, oh, teas. Now those two people, okay. The people pleaser in like
the teaser you could say, they'll hear push, pull, and it'll actually be good. 'Cause the people pleaser, for example, they might learn to playfully
disagree every now and then. Right, like what's your
favorite movie you said. - Push and Pull. - So anyway, did it like just
something like that, like, ah, that's your favorite movie really? Aah interesting. So I hate that movie. I despise that movie. - Okay, I feel it. - I piss on that movie. (audience laugh) I shit on that movie. - Visualize it, your favorite movie. Next time you watch it. Me just shitting all over dude. - The shit like it was never made. - You see how you're laughing, but you see that kind
of like in the media, they would hear about teasing like then Julian Shadi keep
pooped on their movie, right. And like, oh meanwhile,
what are you doing? You're giggling like a little kid. We're just entertaining you. It's just called a joke. What did that say about the
way people interpret others that they're so weak that they
can't take any kind of joke. I believe I am confident
that people enjoy humor. My view is that other people are cool, but the main thing is have fun with you. It makes it silly. It makes it fun. It means that we can be dorks together. And then you can tease back a little bit. We can have fun with each other. It shows that we're friends. It shows that we're
not sensitive or weird. That's what he's saying is
like, yo, I'm not weird. You're not weird. We're not those people that
need to control everything. We are all the dorks together. We're all dorks together. That's what teasing is meant to be. It's not meant to be this heavy thing. Certainly never mean to cut
anybody down or hurt them or manipulate them. It's meant to show we're
not those uptight people stuck in control. Instead we're all dorks together. That's the frame of it. - And that's where push pull
happens naturally too. Right? If you're being yourself and you're not being a
little people pleaser or an insecure little teaser
who all you do is just tease. Guess what? If you talk to someone like say
we have an hour conversation and I'm fully being me,
you're fully being you. Are there gonna be some
stuff we disagree on? Yes, are there giving you
some stuff we agree on? Yes, push pull. It just naturally happens
when you're being real. And when you let go of
playing a certain character, when you're being everything that is you, that is being yourself. And what does that come from? Letting go of who you think you are, letting go of that little identity and also understand how
that identity came about. You know, it's crazy. If you think of social conditioning, especially understanding,
say frames, right? Say you're a kid and someone
tells you you're stupid, right? A teacher might say that or a kid in class you're stupid and say, you believe that like, oh, I'm stupid. You know how that affects your identity and your entire life and
your experience of the world. It's insane, that little
seed I'm stupid changes. You could say the color of the lens through which you see and
experience everything. It's like now everything
is through I'm stupid. Whatever happens to you
or it's 'cause I'm stupid. Ah, that's not for me 'cause I'm stupid. Oh, that person, you
know, that didn't work out 'cause I'm stupid. And the snowball effect just
builds to the point where you might be sitting here
believing deep down inside. I'm stupid, I can't be
myself, I'm stupid, really? From a little belief that
for some reason, a younger, you who's a kid who
doesn't know any better, decided to believe,
build a snowball effect. Here you are. That's not you, who you
think you are, is not you, let go of that and
realize who you truly are. The you who appears in those moments where you get into a flow state, right? That's the best time to really
like bring your awarenesses. It's like when you're in a
flow that identity fades away and you actually are being
everything that is you. And that's when people
really connect, okay? So that's the first thing going deeper. Understand the different
layers of communication. Okay? There's the words themselves. That's one layer, right? What I am saying right now, and we tend to value this the most. It's like the words are everything. This is why you hear, how do I network? How do I meet someone? How do I date? Learn the lines, it's all about the lines. But guess what, did we exist
before lines, before words. - Yep. - Right, is a lot of our
communication perhaps pre verbal. Yes, are you able to
communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language and get a sense of who they are and how much status they have? Yes, so why are we valuing the words? That's the last thing. And then this is actually what allows me Owen and the clients we work with to never run out of things to say, 'cause you stop placing so much value on the words themselves. The words are simply the vehicle for you to deliver your vibe, okay? But it doesn't stop there. So the words is one layer. That's the least important layer. Don't even worry about that, okay? Going deeper it's how you say it. Okay, so for example, I can talk like this or I can talk like that. Okay, the tonality, the punchiness, okay. That conveys a lot more about who you are. Now rhere's a third layer
going deeper than that though. And that's the intention. Okay, so for example, he said
it before, if I look at you and I'm just thinking laugh, it's like, you're just laughing, okay. I'm aware of all those layers,
by the way, at all times, it's like right now I'm aware
of the words I'm saying, I'm not paranoid over it, but I'm still aware, like I'm speaking English right now. I'm aware of the tonality. And I'm also aware of the intention. The intention is I'm communicating
this point, focus on me, let this land, let this click. If you want to make someone
laugh, the intention is laugh. You will laugh. If you're talking to someone and you're like, you know what? I want them to kind of get drawn in. Guess what intention is I am awesome. I am awesome, I could be
talking about math right now, but you're just gonna get
sucked into that frame that I am awesome, that's the intention. Okay, so that's the third layer. And then there's the fourth, which is where do you
reside in terms of say high vibration energy
or low vibration energy. And that's the thing
that comes before it all. And you got to master and become aware of all
four of those layers. Don't just get stuck on the
words on the superficial layer that really does not matter, okay. People connect with those deeper layers. We zone in on those deeper layers. When you meet someone new, right? Say I'm like, you know what? You have a business now, hypothetically. And you're gonna hire
someone to take over. Here are some resumes,
read them and pick someone. It's not enough, right? Say you talk to someone and you have an hour to
interview that person. Are you just gonna focus on what they say? Hey, so I studied this thing and I'm a great person. And I think I can totally
take over your business. Trust your business to me. No, you're gonna focus
on the vibe, the energy, like the feel, right? Not the words. That's what we're attuned to remember. We come from before words. That's how we connected
with each other before. - In spiritual growth,
they'll say that it's like, we all come from say
the one consciousness. And it's like, we're traveling
through different dimensions. Moving away from that one consciousness. Some people call them unconscious God, some people call it the
one in spiritual growth. They would call that say non-duality so there's a part of you
where you recognize that you're one with everybody else. That same life force that
animates you animates others. There's other ways that
we could look at it. We go in a lot of detail,
this fun stuff actually. But the way that I think
about is that as we move away into separation, as
opposed to being all one, what happens is that we
do things that tend to be what you call selfish. Now I love Ann Rant. You read a Fountainhead
and Atlas shrugged, okay. So they talk about the
virtue of being selfish. Really good stuff too. That's what's cool. You can cut out conflicting models. So it's important to look out for yourself to nourish yourself, to do
what's in your interests, but studies of things like say Kabbalah, we'll talk about how in order
to receive, we have to give, to prepare the vessel to receive. And what that means to me is it's like that karma thing, right? It's like you have like by
giving you burn off karma and then suddenly you can see
that really cool suggestion. You can see that cool suggestion. So, you know, an example there was, I remember back in the day
I sent you a email about making our videos better,
making better video quality. And you're like, oh, and it's great that we're
putting all this work into video quality. Why aren't we focused on reach,
reaching more people. Right? You see a lot of our videos
are incredible quality, but they don't reach a ton of people. Why is that? Part of that is because our content doesn't resonate with the mass. It's not like a scroll on a
skateboard, smoking a joint, although to be fair, I'd watch that. But (laughs) for sure, but you know, it's a little
bit more niche obviously, but another part is yeah,
there has been, you know, to an extent we have not oftentimes just on spreading our message
as much as we could, probably people think we do, but we really need to do better. I remember you said that to me and it just didn't sink
in just like you with the, with me saying green juice meditate. And you're like. - Maybe for local, it's not good for you. - Like that, right? - Yeah. - And for me, that was
the thing with say reach. So there's a lot of areas in my own life that are not as obvious, even if I would appear to be doing well, it's not as obvious that
I need to be doing better. I'm missing these suggestions. So in some spiritual practices, they'll say that you have to give, to prepare the vessel to receive. And what that means to me is
that by giving you're burning off that bad karma, moving
into another level of energy, you can read books. David are Hawking's power
versus force levels of energy by Fredrick, Dawson, great books, were kind of half hokey and half awesome. So you got to kind of have
a good filter to read them. Can't be, you can't be a gullible person, read them or you'll you can't, you gotta be able to filter these books. But if you can use
exercise some common sense on critical thinking. - They say not every word is true. - Yes, not every word in
the levels aren't true. I mean, I would assume, and I don't think, they, as the authors would want
us to feel that way, but. - All who knows what they want. - (laughs) Maybe they do. - Everyday. - Every word, but yeah. But you know, we'll go with that. So the idea being that as you give you, you burn off that negative
karma, just some theory. And then you increase
your level of energy. And now a suggestion, like
maybe increase your reach. Maybe don't drink fucking four
Loko drink or green juice. Maybe that begins to resonate. And the biggest area that you'll see, this is on forums that we create, where people are complaining and any time you show
them a proactive solution, they're like, can't be
true, can't be true. I remember like, like back
in the day, for example, we would write articles
about dating advice and some people wouldn't believe it. And I thought to myself, if I
could just get a video of it, they would all see it. And once they saw it,
they were gonna get it. And they were all going to start doing it and get our message of hope and change. (laughs) Right? And it's the videos
that have the most proof that show a better reality
that even if you're shorter, funny looking or not
this perfect chiseled guy that you could meet people and these videos that
should, that could in theory, inspire hope and change
literally many, many people. So where does that come from? In theory and spiritual growth, I've been kind of working
around this problem here and come back to her, reign
it in, your, here's, the one, you're moving away from it. Maybe through different dimensions
or whatever it is, right? Energy levels on earth or
different dimensions who knows. This is a, what if video? We're just guessing, you're
moving away from it. Right? And as you're moving into
selfishness, you go into pain, scarcity, victim density,
heaviness, the selfishness. It gets to the point of such
lack and victim consciousness. It's like a hell wall alive. You're in hell while alive,
in pain and suffering. And don't underestimate this look. It's kinda like a fun kind
of philosophical video, or I don't know, more, more like a video, like if you took magic mushrooms, but the point being like
there's a lot of pain out there, walk down the street, see it, people are just they're out drink. A lot of people are drinking. How hard is it to even
find an attractive partner who doesn't drink or get messed up? How hard is it to find it, to find people to work with
that aren't a train wreck. And more importantly, like
in an entrepreneurial, they'll say avoid B players, avoid C players, taken
from an angle of karma, a B or C player or a D
or E player are people that are experienced in karma. That if you bring them
in your organization are gonna pull you down
into their karmic sphere and you're gonna go to
hell right along with them. And so what happens
then is that as you do. And so this is why when we do
things that are too selfish, what happens is we go further
away from God or the one, right, we're moving away. And then when we do
things that are positive, what is the underlying framework of that? That we're all one. And then now we're moving
back towards the source. What happens in abundance, in sharing, in helping suddenly the
brightness comes back in the eyes, the energy comes to you. You get, you call upon
some almost like, you know, when you're doing this
kind of thing and try it, don't take it from us, try this. You feel like you're almost like, like an energy is moving through you that is letting you do
things that you couldn't do. And as crazy as that sounds,
just watch a basketball game. A lot of teams that play with
a great joy there passes, just move the ball movement. You know, Steph Curry's
hidden threes from half court in his sludge want like that. It's like the basket is huge. It's like hitting the side of a barnyard and you'll see the team
that's that's in this like kind of different types of energy. Now that basketball is the crazy example because on one level you want to play with what's called a sense of urgency. If you're not playing
with a sense of urgency, you don't want enough,
you're too complacent. Well, in spiritual growth, we say that the lowest
level of energy is apathy. The highest is enlightenment. They look kind of the same. Enlightenment looks a bit like apathy, but it is literally the opposite. Apathy is where your soul
is like below depression, self hate, victim, anger,
all that is just apathy, where maybe somebody
who's a homeless person, their eyes don't even track. They're so apathetic, their
eyes don't even track. And that's completely different
from somebody who's brimming with high vibration energy
sharing, expansive energy, as opposed to close,
dense, contracted energy. Everybody's out to get you compete. Like we talked about this lot competitive versus collaborative frame, competitive frame against
people instead of collaborative. And what's so difficult to understand for people in the lower frame. This is so crazy. Is that the problems of the
lower paradigm simply melt away or dissolve in the higher paradigm. So something take
competitors, collaborative, a guy thinks he's against everybody. So maybe he goes into a bar club, he's talking to people and he's got to prove
himself, prove himself. And it's just a weird and
depth, like a little battle. But if you just view everybody
in that venue is your friend. People are nice. You don't need to pass the test. Somebody throw some weird
negative stuff at you, you just laughing with it. And then all of a sudden
they view you as a friend. A lot of these problems solve
automatically the problems of one paradigm dissolve at another paradigm. The big is life easier, hard
for some people, life is easy. And for some people, life is so hard and they get attracted to ways of doing things that are hard. They bring people into their lives. That'll make it hard, take on jobs or projects
that make it hard. Don't want to hear things
that can make it easy. Don't resonate with
solutions or opportunities. They resonate only with scarcity and pain or at least not only 'cause I think everybody's
a mixed bag, but more so. And it's like, life can be
so easy and good and awesome. Or it can just be difficult and annoying. And for some people it's like, everything just has to be so hard, right? Like, it's like, well, what about this? What about that? Am I getting this? What about that? How about this? And you're just wanna, fucking hard. And it's like, let's just move up. Like yeah, all that's real. Like all those, here's the key to it. All of it, all your concerns are real. They're all, oh, so real. And like I'm not denying it. Like everything you say is valid, valid. You're right, you're so right. You're right as right
as day, right as nights. Right as all the wonderful thing
wonderfulness in the world, that is, you are right. You are so awesome and right. And who keeps a fuck? Just stop focusing on the shit. Let's go, let's go, baby. Yes, there's a prawn nipping at your heel, but there's a mountain of gold over there. If you pull the Parata off, more broadest will swim in as her biting. And then you'll try to pull up. Seven more will bite. I can get the mountain. Let's go, man. Let's go right there. The price of admission is
you got to take a little pay. Let's go, oh, it's okay. Just don't resist it let's go. But they don't want to take it. It's just gotta be hard and debate and fight bullshit. When life can be fun and easy. You can move up right now. Even as you're watching this. Be a little weirder, just
get present to the moment. What could be the gateway? What could be the gateway to moving up? Could it be getting present to the moment? The gateway is out here in the moment in your body, in the
breath, take a breath. It's not in here where everything is so fricking heavy all the time. That's why you got to make a decision. If there was karma, do I want to move up or do I want to move down? So you're somebody who I've seen. Doesn't take a lot of things
seriously that other people take very, very seriously. I've seen it where I've had a breakup and I'm sitting there and I'm like, Jackie, Jackie, why? Why, and you're like, oh, chill, bro. It's cool, and you know,
I've seen that where like even, even when I was younger, I could recognize that about, you were able to kind of see
that things were not as big of a deal as they seem like. Even when you say came to LA, you had, 'cause essentially what you
had when you came to LA was a, some sort of version of
nihilism, more or less, right. Which is the nihilism
that's jargon for, you know, there's no point to anything. And I don't think that's
what we're talking about in this video, but there's sort of an
enlightened nihilism perspective that is interesting. Right? Because if you just said, there's no point to anything while that you could even make arguments so that's logically true. I think we can go pass it. I think that's a very shallow perspective. I think we can go way, way past that. But I think it's first important
to even acknowledge that, like to even consider nihilism. 'Cause some people can't even consider it. They can't even let a
nihilistic idea of existence into their conscious, into their psyche. It just freaks them out too much you know. - Where there's yeah. There's like two places
you can go with this. Like there's no point to anything. Fuck it all. Or there's no point to anything and now you're free. You know, you wouldn't want
there to be a certain point. 'Cause now you're trapped
trying to, you know, obey those rules or live up to that. So for me, right before moving to LA, it was really reflecting on
this whole impermanence of things, including the
impermanence of you, you know, the fact that you're going to die and it's something like, we
tend to have a lot of resistance to bringing our awareness to like, no one wants to think about this. Like you're gonna die someday
no matter what you do, you know, we all try to
survive when you can't survive, you die and everything you
hold, dear, everything, you create everyone you
come in contact with they're gonna die too. You know like nothing is permanent. Friends will no longer be friends. People you love, they'll
no longer love you. You'll no longer love them. They'll die, you'll die. Your kids will die, their kids will die. Everyone will die. - Sun gonna explode. - The sun's going to explode. Your legacy is gonna soon turn to dust. All your thoughts are gonna turn to dust. There's no point, now just
hearing that you're saying like, what the fuck? But bring your awareness to,
this is extremely frank, why? Because on one hand we
live our lives thinking that we can survive. We're thinking that we have
all the time in the world and you just put your dreams
aside, you know, it's like, oh, I'm not gonna do that. 'Cause I'll do it in 20 years. In 10 years, I'll do it later. I'll do it someday. Someday may not come the sooner
you realize that the better and the fact that you are
gonna die just really, for me, it like, it was freeing. It's like reflecting on
like, oh, I'm gonna die, but I'm not gonna die right now. How am I going to live my
life so that when I die, I just feel like, fuck yeah. You know, you milk life to the fullest. And the fact that there was
no point now I'm like, well, I can make my own point. The fact that there is no meaning, you can make your own meaning. And now you're free to do something that is authentic to you. And that's moving to LA
for me versus trying to live up to certain expectations
or values that hold a heart and completely changed my life. It's actually something I
do every two, three weeks. At this point, I do like a, an
imagine your dead meditation. It's like, imagine you drive
to right now, what comes up? And the answer is always
extremely authentic, you know? Even in terms of finding
your purpose, I was like, what's my purpose. Imagine you died. You know, what comes up? You're like, oh shit. I wish I would do, I've done that. If I died right now, I
wish I would've done that. And it gives you a much more
authentic direction in life. The way I really viewed life, by the way, kind of considering like,
it's all gonna end now what, what's the point? It's kind of like that
frame of you being stuck in detention, you know, it's
like say right now, you know, you're born, it's like
here, do your homework, do your homework, do your homework. And that's how most
people live their lives. They wanna follow the instructions. It's like, tell me what
to do, let me execute. Let me get the good grade. And that's how you go about it. That's why even people like me. - For them, it's free to them too. - Yeah, they'll turn to friends,
school, peers, their job. They'll turn to religion for this. Like the way most religions
like do this, do that. And you're like, okay, give me the meat. Give me the instructions and hearing this freaks them out. But in reality, it's the
most freeing thing it's like, instead of doing the homework, now you're stuck in detention and you have X amount of time that passes before you
die, you can do nothing. Or now it's like, what
do I actually want to do? What comes from me? Not that someone else tells me. It's like, what meaning
do I wanna give to life? What meaning do I wanna give to my job? To the things that I do? And as you said, it's freaky. 'Cause you're like, no one's telling me, like I have to tell myself I'm free. Like freedom scares people like crazy, but you wouldn't want to
live your life any other way. Like, you wouldn't want
to be born into a life where it's like, here's
how you should live. Now you're not free. Now you're a slave. Now you're following stuff. - The people 99 plus
percent of people I'd guess. - Oh yeah, and it's not just in school. Like even in videos here, you might be watching these videos. Like tell me the homework. And there is nothing like right now realize you're gonna
die, there's no point. And let that free again. You're one step away from despair, like nihilism leading to despair, fuck it. Or nihilism leading to
enlightenment if you want. - The way that I experienced this. This is how like from a rubber
meets the road perspective. Here's ice for instance, whenever something really bad happens. I see people freaking out and I'm like, that's so cute. They think this fucking matters. That is so cute, like I'm jealous of how real the movie is to them. It's like, they're in
this fucking 3D movie and it's just so real. I threaten this like
really gripping movie. And likewise, when I see
people like, well again, like I was saying for most
people, the bad is like this, the goods kind of like that. But whenever I see people that
are like really excited about something, I'm like,
yo, that's really cool. But I also understand that
that that's gonna pass and they're gonna forget about it. Or, you know, the one that I
see even more commonly is that they're excited about
something they're going to do. But then when they actually do it, it's never as good as I
think you see a lot that like vacation is gonna be awesome. And then on it, wherever
you go, there you are. Whatever emotional addictions
you have you're in. And then it's not a big deal. So for me, it's kind of funny. It looks like people are
kind of playing in a, in like a movie like
everything's so serious, man. And on one level I think it's important to take life very seriously because otherwise you just wind up. It becomes an excuse, essentially for apathy and segregation. That's not an enlightenment
to me or nihilism. A lot of people that cleaned it, like this is my favorite
thing with nihilists like everybody's a nihilist
until it comes time to pay the bill. And so it's like, I don't keep a fuck. I don't care about that. And then as soon as actually
the hell comes that that happened because you didn't care. They're like, no, please help me. Some of my friends that
are nihilists like, they sit there, like,
they're always asking me for or they're always saying
that they don't care, how much they don't care. And then whenever everything falls apart, they come to me because I work hard and have
the resource to help them. And they're begging for the resources. I'm like, yo, you're gonna be an nihilist. Like go down the shit, baby. Like I can respect, like I'm
a nihilist, nothing matters. And then they just go down with the ship. I'd be like, damn, that's gangster. - I mean, I wouldn't want to do. - You're like, fuck it up. Yeah, I could respect it at least, even though I would think it's stupid, but they never go down with the ship. They always want, they're always there that nihilists, they're not a
real, nihilists, they're lazy. They're glamorizing it. Like I don't care, nothing matters. But then at the end of the day, they they're begging the
person with resources. Like the, like these like old fables where like the one animal
like puts away the nuts for the winter and the
other one's just relaxing. And then they beg the one that put away and you'll just see this over and over. So to me, it, you know, on one side I want to be fully
engaged with what I'm doing, but the way that I choose to
live my life is in such a way that I want to see my inner
growth, continuing to expand. I want to see myself becoming more awake. I want to see my side. I want to see a seed
of proactivity forming. And so to me, that's
a mature adult growth. And I would have guessed
that probably most caveman would get this. I don't even think this is
like this really big deal, but for most people, because we're kind of
in a structured society. As we see all around us here, they don't really get that opportunity. They take the path of least resistance, which to not take at least
the path of least resistance, very difficult, but for
most people they will. And so they can't own their own freedom and realizing that things
are not as big of a deal as you think makes you realize no, no I've been getting pulled around. I've been pulling into engagement. This halo effect around
things has been pulling me in this halo effect of
meaning and say, no, it's not that big of a deal, but then don't just
stop there at nihilism. Nothing matters, from there
you need the second step, which is that you are
creating your own meeting and you are deciding you
know, how you want to grow and live your life. But for most people sweat so crazy. They're like, well that
doesn't just make me happy. What do I care? Well, well hold up. You make yourself happy. What's this thing. Well, if I make myself happy,
why don't I stare at a wall? No, that's you being the lame nihilist. Who's like, I'm a nihilist until you run out of resources and coming, begging me for granola bar. So to me, you know, so
there's a middle ground there. You can decide what you value and to live your life in such a way. That's the difference between
being some little slave on and being your own, like
your own little deity or God of your own personal reality of your small life that you have. So you've got to make that decision. I think one of the best
things anybody can do is clean up your closet and you clean up your closet. Like all these CDs, that CD was. I went to the store, I bought it. I was excited about it. You know, I went to the
store, got the shirt. I was excited about it. Now I don't care about anymore. Oh, look at that ex-girlfriend. I was so into her, that ex boyfriend, if you're growing so into that ex partner, I don't care anymore. Like why don't I care anymore? You know, for me like
getting to Queens university, such a big deal, going to college. Now I don't have my diploma, I don't care. It's cool, I love it. You know, Ross Queens was a Cayston, but it's just like, whatever. So realizing that you
could start to disconnect and not be pulled around so much, but then remember don't go into nihilism. That's just apathy. It's an excuse, not real metal masturbation. Instead what you do is
you take that second step and you, you choose to lock in and you choose to bring the joy and you'll be so much happier. And it's so much more real, it's sweet. And I think you'll really enjoy it. - Yeah, that's a really
allows you to engage is the fact that it's not so serious. You know, it's like the fact that you think like everything's
super fucking serious and heavy. Good luck engaging in that. Cause it's just too much of a big deal. There's too much pressure
when you realize like, Oh, it doesn't matter. Fuck. Yeah. Like that's what allows you to kind of loosen up
while at the same time giving it your all. - Oh yeah, this isn't
worth the squeeze man. - But that's the other
thing too, by the way, with the way that we're conditioned with the whole like carrot and stick approach where it's like, if you don't do this, this
bad thing will happen. You do this to get the reward. And then when people hear like, no, there's nothing to take that like, well, what's the point, but there's another type of
drive that comes from within, you know, instead of like what I call desperation, it's inspiration. You know, people think I
only work to make money. It's like, if I give you
all the money in the world, you wouldn't just be idle. None of us would be inspired to be idle. You wouldn't be alive. You would still do something, but coming from a different place. And this is the lane that's being aware of this kind of puts you in. And it also, as you said, like allows you to disconnect
from the physical so much and not try to find yourself
in the physical so much. Like it's not the next accomplishment or the next thing that's
going to make you, you know, abundant or like, then I'll finally be happy. Look back at all the other things you thought would have worked. And you just look back at this trail and you're like, what the fuck? Nothing mattered. You know, I thought that would fix. I thought that would fix. I thought that would fix it. And they can seem sad. Like there's, you know, it's all leading illusion, but there's a saying like
the more disillusionments the closer you are to enlightenment, okay. The less you'll try to find
yourself in the next thing. And the more free you'll become. - When you're in a very contracted States. When someone else pisses you off, the natural thing is to be triggered and to blame them who
has ever read the book, crucial conversations, put your hands up, say the word, crucial conversations. - [Crowd] Crucial conversations. - Okay, look that up, read it. Add some ideas from that. Stephen Covey talks about it as well. Stephen Covey is like, I mean, man, like that is like the Bible. It is so incredible. Seven habits of highly effective people. They would say things like
seek first to understand then to be understood. Say this with me, seek first to understand than to be understood. When you're mad. The first thing you want to
do is for you to be understood and to point and to blame. What if you say to the person, Hey, like you just want to kill them. You're so mad. But instead you say, Hey, you know, you sit down at their level, right? You don't, you don't just
like stand over them. But you sit down at their
level, calmly nonthreatening, body language, nonthreatening, vocal tone, and just calm and accepting them. Not pushing them away. You say, I just noticed this happen. I was just wondering
what's going on there. I'd love to learn about your
process behind that decision. I'm just trying to understand. And then they give you an answer. Now here's, what's funny, 80% of the time. Do you want to know what happens when you actually
solicit that information? 80% of the time, you know it is, they were right. You were wrong. You were freaking out over nothing. So when you do that, you spare yourself this
embarrassing situation of creating conflict
and drama over nothing and making toxicity in that
important relationship. Be it business, intimate or friendship. Then from there, you're
gathering information. Now, what if they're also wrong? Well, now they've heard, you've heard them out. If I'm willing to hear you out say that I sit and I listen to you for five minutes, even if you're wrong and I
acknowledge it and I say, Hey, so is what you're saying? A, B and C. I kind of summarize what you said to show that I was really listening. It is in a compressed fashion, shorter. If you took five minutes to explain, I rehash what you said in like 20 seconds. And you say, yeah, that was what I meant. I go got it. I understand what you're thinking now. So it's an I'm okay, you're
okay type of communication. Not I'm going to get rid of you and putting them into fear. Why do people not want to own things? Cause they get afraid. They go into contraction. Lots of when you argue people contracts. So instead you keep them
in an expansive state. He said, got it. You know, I'd love to give you
some of my thoughts on that. Or would you be open to hearing
some of my thoughts on that? Sure, you give some of your thoughts. You don't attack them. You don't make them contract. You don't put them into
adrenaline and cortisol. You don't get you. You don't activate the amygdala. You keep them in their prefrontal cortex. What happens when you
go into the amygdala, adrenaline cortisol it just back and forth fighting. It gets crazy, right? Instead you just say, and you give your thoughts on it. Well, they're going to, they're a lot more likely going
to listen now, aren't they? To what you have to say, they're going to be a lot more likely to hear you out what you're going to say. And now with that basic process, you've just saved yourself so much drama. Most people are walking
around eating processed foods. Not really happy with their job, looking for an excuse to get pissed off. That thing that they got
mad about is an excuse. To get triggered. They're craving, to get triggered. They want to stimulate
their low vibration energy. They have an addiction
to cortisol adrenaline. They're waiting for the
chance to stimulate that. So now they got a chance
to get to jump all over it. That's okay, how most people are acting, but at a higher level, you
can go through that process. If you want to build a business with like 50 team members, this anytime that you go
off of that is very bad. Let me teach you a lesson. Anytime I've ever gone
off crucial conversations, I always read it. I never go off to these
conversations format. And like that worked out awesome. I fucking screamed with this guy. I put him in his fucking place. No, it always leaves us. Even when you win, you lose
say, even when you win, you lose because it leaves
this weird toxic residue. Yeah, you put the person in their place, but there's this weird trauma energy that's left behind is a bitterness and they feel abused. So these are basic life skills, but unfortunately, most
people are traumatized. Julian in transformation mastery. Why is he always hammering
on releasing trauma? Most people are in so much trauma that they're in constant
coping all the time, medicating the trauma,
coping with the trauma, running away from the trauma distracted and social drop. Their entire life is
defined by the trauma, its a joke, their whole lives are defined in a contract and state
dealing with the trauma. When you hear a rapper
like get crunk, get crunk. What do I hear? I have trauma I have trauma, but for one night, I'll get away. Do you know how much fun
you can have going out? Not fucked up? No you don't. Yeah, you could have an
incredible amount of fun. I've never been in a club and seen someone have seen someone who's fucked up having more fun than me unless it's a quiet night for me when I'm having a regular data, having so much fun. So understand that their
lives will be defined by it. As we let go of trauma, we can go into a more expansive States. Something like victim. You don't need that anymore to make, to help you to get through it. You don't require that you don't require the
lower level paradigms. You're driving this reactive state where you're feeding the state
of reactiveness all the time. So, you know, as you begin to see these patterns and come up out of it, all of a sudden, you're probably understanding why Julian teaches the stuff
that he does in these seminars or transformation mastery. It's because this is going to be something that affects your quality of life. It's going to affect
your ability to move up and have an incredible life. But it's also affecting your ability to even enjoy your life. You've got to have the right goal. You've got to have the
power to get to that goal. And then you've got to enjoy that goal. Say it first, the right goal. - [Crowd] The right goal. - Joined the process of the goal and joined the result of the goal. Say the words to be results
oriented, be process oriented. Okay, everything we teach
is always results oriented. It's about making millions of dollars, getting a great partner and join your life and being happy, being healthy, not being sick and run down all the time. It's about results, say as me. It's about results. - [Crowd] Its about results. Now sometimes though, when you're hammering at that looks like you see that butterfly. You're like, I'm about results. You killed the killed the butterfly. You haven't, you do one of two things. You either scare it away or you kill it. You very rarely like do this. And then you perfectly
gently capture the butterfly and it's your friend. You kill it. Or to escapes, you get a result, but it's a shit result or you lose the results. So this is why we look at things we're results oriented, but we're about real results. Not just be like, yeah, I'm a hustler results. It's like, whatever, dude, what's the actual result. We don't want a Frankenstein esque result. What a real result, a
result that's desirable. But even more importantly, we want to be able to enjoy the results. When you're stuffing down, all that trauma, you can't
even enjoy it most of the time. You don't most human beings. Aren't we go like this along
life and we get mad. (screams) Something good happens. Is it the opposite of that? Like No, what is it? Oh cool. We barely even who here
even has the ability to enjoy most things that
you get very few people do. And if you do congratulations,
that's amazing. But that really is a skill. That's where it gets weird, right? That to think that even
when you get the result, you still need another
skill to even enjoy it. It's a whole other skill to enjoy it. But then ironically, that same skill that you
need to enjoy it, guess what? That same skill you can use
to enjoy the process of it. - You think money will make you happy. Now, as I joked about
before, it actually will. Cause now you can afford
transformation mastery. But apart from that, it's all about us. Apart from that, it's what just more
resources to numb yourself. That's really it. Instead of numbing yourself, getting lost in to some game on a PS4, you can now travel the world and go on a yacht with models. But guess what? You're still numbing yourself. You're still trying to escape yourself underneath the surface it's
the same dynamic at play. And in reality, it's
worse because guess what? If you're at the bottom with your PS4 playing some GTA or red dead redemption. - How do you know that is? I love that you know, that is. - I see the posters everywhere you'll see every fucking
street, red, dead redemption. It actually looks pretty fucking sick. I once watched a dead redemption games. I was like, this is so cool. - Oh man, I mean think about it. If you're playing your
fucking little red dead thing, it's easy to rationalize. Well, I'm not really happy. I'm escaping myself a I'm
at the red dead level. Right, you know, there's
so much more I'm missing. If I was on the yacht,
everything would be different. But if you're the person
who's on the yacht, surrounded by all of the models and you're still feeling that
same shittiness under it all, God damn does that fuck with you. That is hell. That's when you're like,
wow, if this doesn't work, what if nothing works? And this is where you start
freaking the fuck out. There's that sane. And I'm paraphrasing the
road to enlightenment is paved with disillusionment. The more you realize it
didn't work, it didn't work. It didn't work and didn't work until you you've tried everything. And you're like, well, last result, face those internal demons. Do the inner work part of you knows you should have been doing from the start. - I look at my life. I definitely, and I think all
of us could relate with this. I definitely went through
those kinds of loops where I thought that
happiness was not externally. Happiness was not externally happiness was not externally I tried that through
meeting women through making money, through going on vacations and so on and so forth. I mean, I've, you know, I've had experiences where, you know, I did my first launch of a program called the blueprinted coated and it's sold at $2 million. You know what I mean? My mid twenties or I had, I remember after that I went on a six week vacation in Mexico and I just stayed in like little castles and things like that. I could talk, I could talk for hours about what that did to me psychologically. Yeah. Cause Mexico is
actually amazing by the way, like most people don't
know, this is like stunning. Most people think Europe's
the only setting place. So you go to like, you go to Wahaca city and Pueblo and Guadalajara. Like there's all these
most people never heard of. It's incredible, Sausalito
is awesome, Anyway. Okay Off man. Okay. I'm back. So, okay. But basically like what that did to me or things like, you know, being able to eat at a five
star dinner every night, or have a partner who
you have intimacy with, who's very attractive and live in the place
you want to live. Right? This is all things that we
think will make us happy. I had the experience of
really hammering myself mostly because I was so miserable. So feeding off of that misery, hammering myself to put myself in positions to do those things. Now I love that because I can
teach people how to do that. I think there's a space for that. I want to live a great life. I want to show you. And Jordan wants to show yo u how to live a great life. So it's not either, or I don't like the either or I think that's really messed up. It should be both. They should be synergistic, but I definitely have the experience where without doing any work
on myself internally, I just furiously running
towards these external objects. Right, these external things
that I think will help me. And it was weird living in Hawaii. I've mentioned this in some other videos, but it's weird being in Hawaii, living in an ocean front apartment with a girlfriend who
has like perfect body, you know, screwed my brains out every day. No condoms, you know, girlfriend. Okay. You know, eating, you
know, I, at that time, living in Hawaii meeting at
like Alice Wong's Lemaire and all these ball or
fricking restaurants, like, so the best in the world. So Tasty, and that's,
that's the Buena okay. Good stuff. And like literally still
being fucking miserable. I remember bodyboarding in,
I'm in front of my apartment, on the ocean bodyboarding in and being like, you know, all those feelings of depression and misery that I felt my entire life have not really changed. I'm like, I mean, I'm like, this is cool. Like I'm auto wave, but that lack of call it lack of serotonin or lack of dopamine in
my brain is still there. What is your relationship
to the present moment? Say what is my relationship
with the present moment? Am I friendly with the present moment? So your degree of friendliness
with the present moment is going to dictate your
ability to get that big win and even enjoy it at all, to enjoy that incredible new partner or intimacy with some attractive partner. You think that you're
going to find happiness by getting these certain things. It helps don't get me wrong, but often the work that you have to put in and the effort and how
much you have to draw out of yourself will create so much chaos, like tourist VIG, more
money, more problem. I'm trying to say that
like how he said it, more money, more problems. So why try so what you have is like, just be aware, you have to
cultivate your friendliness with the present moment. Now, part of that, if you've read Eckhart
toll the power of now incredible book, I actually even prefer the SQL a new earth, incredible book, but you read the first one to understand the second one better. These are, you know, and he draws that from Buddhism and Eastern philosophy, you don't need to be a Buddhist, someone into Eastern philosophy to gather the lessons from that, right? There's a Harvard teachers that have done tests on how
meditation affects happiness. They just do it from a
scientific standpoint. Don't get caught up in
the metaphysical aspect. I think that's, that's really cool, but don't let it be a barrier. If you're having trouble with it. The main thing to take is what is your relationship
to the present moment? And on one level Eckhart Tolle would say, you know, be present, right? Well, that's again, he's probably my favorite
speaker and author, but that being said, it's like
saying your house is on fire. Okay, your house is on fire. And when you put out the fire, you will love life, right? And you're like, got it at heart. And then you're like,
okay, so fuck it outside. Right, and I think he does talk about it. And he has a lot of what he says about it. And I love that. And that's why he'll always be like Eckart to me is just a living legend. And I would probably cry like a girl at an incent concert
if I hung out with him. But the point being is like, what Juliet is showing you here? Is he showing you a lot of ideas on how to let go? Okay, he's showing you wait a minute. There's a lot of negativity and trauma. You're stuffing it, running
from it, medicating it, doing anything to get away from it. And that is burning up
huge amounts of energy. Then you somehow power through that and go make money or meet a co partner or
whatever the heck it is. And you think it's going to work. Doesn't work actually
adds more complexities makes you more miserable. And so what he's showing
you how to do here is instead, let go of a lot of
that heavy, negative energy, just take chunks out of it and wake up. And then when you've woken up, you ironically, you're like a car that has a more power to
go to your goals anyway. And you begin to resonate
with better situations for you rather than going after something that resonated with your negativity, resonated with your trauma, picking jobs or businesses or friends or relationships or lifestyles that stimulate
your trauma energy. And then furiously going to that. A lot of times, when you let the stuff go to anybody who haven't
experienced today, where an inch, maybe just one or two people could be all. I don't know. It just depends on the crowd did anybody here haven't expressed today, where you feel like you woke up and realize that a lot of
things in your lifestyle. Now you couldn't go back to, did anybody here have a feeling like that? Okay, it's quite intense, isn't it? Isn't it, it's pretty crazy. I had that experience as well with this where I was like, what am I doing? Like, do I even want to do this anymore? I had to, and I had to, I
still kept with what I'm doing, but I reprioritize and realigned and put my focus into things that if I got hit by a car
on the way out of here, I'm just lying there. Think I'm going to die.
I'll be like, you know what? I like what I did this
year, this was good. As opposed to, by the way, the first time I ever got hit by a car and thought I was going
to die many years ago. And I was like, that was a bad. So, you know, so that was
a very eyeopening thing. Okay, it's about getting rich. It's about enjoying life, getting results faster and
getting the right result. Okay. You're digging down a cave. If you're digging down some cave and you realize it's the wrong cave, you don't just get to go this way. Right? You gotta go all the way up and got to walk back. Now could take a break and
then go down the new cave. So we want to kind of
pull you out of the cave. If it's not the right case for you, we want to show, we want to make you aware of that in tune to that, and then get you going down
a cave that works for you. - Yeah, that's, it's funny
with the whole hustle or like discipline work ethic. It's like one you're never really happy. Cause you're using misery
as your main drive. And two, when you get the results, you don't even enjoy those results. If you're not enjoying your results, those are not results. On top of that, do an audit on your life. Like how much of your life
are you spending working? Just actually look at it, like write it down every day. Like, okay, I work Monday to Friday from this time to this time, boom. How much is that a month, a year? How many years of your
life are you working? And then you're like, Holy shit. That's most of my life
just spent in misery. As I talk about in transformation mastery, like that's the first step for anyone. And the hardest thing to do. It's like having that
willingness to face what it is. You keep stuffing down face what it is you're running away from with the intention of letting it go because what'll happen is you'll either keep stuffing it down and ignoring it. You know, that's the whole like, just focus on positive
things, positive thinking, you know, reframe everything and it just stays there. And will you have to realize is that by keeping it there by ignoring it, it's not going to go anywhere. And it keeps fueling
everything that you do stop running away from this. Like you have to choose to go into it. As long as you keep running away from it, it won't go anywhere. Cause it's, what's fueling
everything that you do, you know, by you. For example, not being
happy, trying to be happy. It's still fueling that you
not being happy to begin with by you not being fulfilled, trying to be fulfilled by doing something for example, it's still keeping that you
that's not fulfilled alive. So that's how most people go about it. And the other thing that'll happen is people will start diving into it. But then their intention
is not to let it go. It's to hang onto it. And that's where you
have like victim cases where it's like, I'm such a victim. Look at all these problems about me, but it's not about, self-acceptance
about fueling your ego. - That's self attack. - Exactly, because you know,
you come into this world, you come into a society and this is huge by the way you come into a society of, there are certain rules
or certain guidelines, you need to be socialized. That's good because without
these guidelines rules, we would all, you know,
we wouldn't thrive. We wouldn't survive together. It would be just chaos. However, due to the way that we're raised, which is if you're good, you're rewarded. If you're bad, you're
punished, you're shamed. So on and so forth. And due to the fact that as children, we have a very limited
perspective on things. And we depend on our
parents in order to survive. If they abandon you you'll die. Here's what happens. Let's just say you're at a restaurant and you're loud. Just random example. You're allowed at a restaurant and your parents tell you, Hey, don't be so fucking loud. You know? And you get punished. They withdraw their affection. They shame you for it. Instead of just viewing it,
like we'd view it now like, Oh, you know, here's a restaurant. Maybe do the context. I'll start, maybe not being so loud or, you know, interfering with
other people's conversations. Totally fine, there's a certain guideline we interpreted as, Oh my God, me being loud right now could risk me being abandoned
because when I'm loud, my parents withdrew their
affection and I could die. Okay, due to, again, the way that we're raised our limited perspective as children, and it's extremely traumatic because, it becomes a
question of life and death. And what happens is we charted disowning. If you will, that aspect
of us that is loud, we start suppressing it and saying, this is not me. And we shove it in the back shadows of our subconscious mind. Now we think it's gone. But in reality, it stays there. And the more we ignore it, the more the charge behind it builds. You know, it's like say you avoid cleaning your room as a kid. It's not that big of a
deal to clean your room. But if you don't do it for like a month, there's so much dread
that it just amplified. And that's what happens. You start disowning that. And that's the birth of one, the ego and two self hate, because that's what the ego is. It's like, you tell yourself, this is what's acceptable and against completely subjective. Due to your perspective in
the environments you were in for one person, let's just say being loud, there'll be shamed for it for another person, it's not being loud. They'll be shamed for that. So it really depends on you. But because of that,
you're like, this is okay, this is not okay. And you start trying to perfect and fuel this ego, which
is what's acceptable. And you start trying to distance yourself from what's not acceptable. So there's this enemy inside of you because it won't go anywhere. It's all this stuff that's unacceptable. And because of that, you
just hate yourself nonstop. And you just walk around
with this ball of angst that just builds and builds and builds. And because most people
just don't want to face it. And this is how crazy it gets. Your body will literally start showing like physical symptoms until you just can't stop ignoring it. And not just that, but it'll basically, as we said, it's like, you're going
to start seeking out. And again, it gets pretty crazy here, but you're going to start seeking out different situations for
you to re experience. What's like you refuse
to experience back then for you to finally accept, for example, those aspects of you, that you started suppressing and disowning. - So the gift and the trauma is a chance to let it go. - Exactly, it's like the trauma, that's the stuff you have to let go of. And until you do, you're
going to keep reliving it. And it's going to keep running you and you will ultimately never be at peace. And it doesn't matter how much you work on amplifying your ego or compensating
for the stuff you hate. Cause that's what we do. I hate this about myself, but I will compensate
by getting more money, more girls, more success, you
know, et cetera, et cetera, trying to inflate the ego. But guess what? It doesn't matter how much you compensate. You're still compensating. There's no reason for you to not feel fucking amazing right now. Like there's no reason at all in this moment right here, right now, sitting here in this
room, you're all alive. You're all here in this room. No one's cutting your fucking arm. So why is that relationship to the now kind of, yeah, okay. Now you here be present and it's a great first approach, but you know, it's better identify everything that's
pulling you away from presence and let go of it. So by default you realize presence. You can't pursue presence. You can only attract presence and that's by focusing on
all the uncomfortable shit. But then also look at how, even this process of say, letting go can be used as a way to resist the
right here right now and get on that destination thinking, get hooked on that even more like someday, someday how someday
I'll have all the money. And I'll finally be happy someday when I will
have let go completely. I'll be happy someday. When I will have, you know, healed all my trauma, I will be complete. And then things will be
different in the future. What did we say at the beginning of today? It's not about the future. It's not about going
from here to up there. Okay, on one hand, it's endless because you're
just telling yourself and addicting yourself to in the future, in the future, in the future. And not just that, but then it's endless because you're assuming
that right here right now, you're incomplete. You can only realize it. It's more so what is
say, this is presence. What am I hanging onto? That's pulling me away from it. What's pulling me away from
feeling amazing right now you have to realize you've
already passed the finish line. Stop projecting it in the future. This is why you hear those cheesy sayings. When people ask like, when
will I have let go completely. When you stop asking the question or you just hate that,
you're like, God damn it. That's fine, like, you
can't really say anything. You're just like, whatever. But why do people say
that including myself? Because the more you let go, the less resistance there is to being you. The less resistance there is to being you right here right now. And what's that question? When will I have let go completely? It's once more that destination thinking, when will I have made it trying to escape where you are now hating and resisting where you are now, if you feel okay with where you are now, there's no longer that need to escape and that question doesn't arise anymore. So it's identifying what's in the way. What's all this bullshit? Can I let go of it? Asking yourself where that part of you why don't I deserve to be happy right now? Why, why don't I deserve success? Why do I deserve to be punished? Why does my life have to be hard? Why do I deserve to suffer? Ask yourself, write it down, identify it. And then once more, let go of it. - Lets look at some practical steps, okay? When you're out with your buddies and you're talking about something heavy, can you make little
jokes to lighten it up? That's a simple step. Can you make little joke to lighten it up? I actually view it that
if I'm not having fun, when I'm doing regular mundane things, I am being robbed. I'm not getting the chance to cash in. Like I'm sitting here. I'm 39, you know, as a talking right now. When's that future for
you guys that are younger. It's like 39. That's when life is, I promise you as much as like, my life that I built is like right now, if I don't maintain
these habits of releasing at maintaining a healthy relationship with the present moment, my life will be as miserable as it was subjectively and emotionally as when I 19 or 21 or whatever else. Right. What I got from getting older, even more so than any
material, things that I got was the relationship
to the present moment. And I could add that from a younger age. Also my negative energy
growing up caused me to slow down the growth
of my business, my goals, all of that was slowed down. If I could have learned this kind of stuff at age 19 or 21, now it's debatable whether or not I would even resonate with it or zone out. So for that reason, you could argue that you
do have to go through it. But if you can trigger someone to kind of smeared in their face, the way that we're doing a little bit here and get you to have that epiphany sooner, because the cool thing that human beings you can learn from others, you could learn from the
experience of other people. Okay, remember JZ Hove did that. Hopefully you don't have to
go through that right now. Okay, I'm old. So yeah, Hove so crack. Hopefully you don't have to go there. Okay. Old like blueprint now. So it's like, you shouldn't
have to go through that. You can learn from the
experiences of other people and then quickly move forward. Right? So at our level, now we're not looking to have
to go through a nightmare to keep learning lessons. We want to learn quickly. And a big factor of that is again, like I said, viewing it that
you're harvesting money. You're getting, it's like view it. Like you're getting paid
every time that you smile, view it like you're getting paid every time that you crack a joke, view it like you're getting paid every time that you're silly view it like you're getting paid every time that you're
present to the moment and just feeling the
fucking glory of life, view it like you're getting paid. When you stop to look at
the tree to look at the sky, marketers will make you believe that you need to get some, you know, some perfect little this or that or the other thing in order to have a benefit, right? They make a movie and then they hold the
keys to your happiness. That's fine, I love products. I love marketing this all awesome stuff. Someday we want to make YouTube channels on how to make a product
or how to market it. I love it. All that being said, you also have to be aware
how this is affecting you. Study books like Gabra Matti in the realm of hungry ghosts. Take get his perspective on
how most people that are in the streets, shooting up
heroin on the streets, like just killing
themselves, just doing meth, go look up meth case heroin case. Look over here in downtown LA you don't gotta go far, man. Seriously, go to one of
the little tent cities, go talk to these people, see what's happening to them. I don't want to judge or make a conclusion cause I'm not them. I'm just giving you a one man. One man sharing another his opinion. So my personal view and having read the Gaber Montay book where he's worked with
these people for many years, he talks about the trauma and then just shooting up
medication, aka heroin or whatever to try to stop that trauma. You know, what's so mess up too. If you get stuck on hard drugs, even if you get off it, it's like this huge part
of just your willpower day to day is just staying clean. Like for you guys, you're like, okay. I went to the gym today. Good for me. I worked on my career today. Good for me, for somebody who had a hard drug addiction in the past, for many of them, it's like another day sober. That's their version of a successful day. They probably had to exert more willpower to just lit a very unproductive
day without shooting up. Then you did to go do
all this other stuff. That's really crazy. That's what's so dangerous
with drugs, right? Opioids that are taking over. Look at our country, opioid epidemic. - Even painkillers, most regular people, painkiller, two painkillers
a day just daily. It's a wake up painkiller time. Another one that they just
pop it like fucking M&Ms. That's like the default. It's weird, if it's like, you don't take fucking painkillers now crazy and that's the other thing it's like, even if let's
just say hypothetically, you manage to use all these techniques to fight against self sabotage and get that seemingly
successful, looking life and say, you just power through. And you're like, man,
I'm just going to do it. And you get it. You're not going to enjoy it. You're going to feel miserable inside. And that external failure
will still find you. If it's not in your money,
success, it's in your health. We see it all the time. You know, even people,
we know friends of ours, it's like they achieve a
certain amount of success and it gets them on their health. - The hardest thing you'll ever watched. - You'll see it. Even like hustlers. It's like, how many hustlers do you see? It's like, man, I burnt out
out of fucking ulcer and shit. That's like the GoTo of the hustler. If you do hashtag hustle or hustler on Instagram, it's like the most miserable
looking people you'll see is that what you want is like low sleep. This they're fucked. You know, new tropics, Tibet it out. It gets them. You know, that energy will find you it'll get you. You can try to run away from it. You can try to escape it. The only way out as we
talked about today is through you gotta face it. You gotta let go of it. You know, doing this type of work. Isn't something that's fun. It's like, Oh, it's this fun, cool. You know, spirituality,
self-help really fun. It's a requirement, like you are fucked. If you don't do this, it will get you. - I mean, unless you've got that serotonin button press
down genetically in your brain. Some people when the
serotonin lottery man, and if you're a serotonin
dopamine lottery winner prompts you, bro. - If that's not, you, you are screwed. You will not just ruin opportunities. Relationships, money,
just stay stuck nonstop. It'll get you physically,
mentally, emotionally. It will ruin you. The default of most people isn't success. It's not stagnating, it's failing. The default for most
people is being a loser. I mean the key here is
really about self acceptance about accepting everything. Because anything you resist, you're hanging on to that's
really what letting go is you're hanging onto it. You're resisting it by saying, I don't want this. This is not a part of me. I don't want to experience this. Another one is emotions. People don't want to experience say pain or anger. And by resisting it, that's why they're suffering. In reality, if they just let
go of it, those emotions, those quote unquote painful emotions would run their course, you know? And that's really the process. That's how you get to the cause. That's how you let go of all
this shit that's running you. That's who you let go of self hate and in a way to finally
get that core confidence. Cause if you think about confidence, the way most people go about is they build that situational confidence based on say money, you know like they'll do like
surgery, like looks cool. Like, you know, different like, I don't know, like cool,
like friends, et cetera, et cetera, going even deeper than like, okay, well let's, Pink's
essential surgery. It's like steroids, steroids, like all those external things. But if you want to go even deeper, even things like working
on your personality, although it helps, it's still amplifying quote unquote, the ego in reality. It's when you accept all this
shit you hate about yourself, you think is unacceptable
only then is there just that core confidence and it's not depending on
anything it's just cuss. - So you're saying it removes the charge around the reactive
energy or dense energy. - Yeah, and that's what you'll notice. That's the first thing you'll notice. By the way, when you
start letting go of this is you just stop being
so fucking reactive, you know, you'll stop resonating with different safe frequencies. You'll start being triggered all the time and it'll be very subtle, you know? It's like, you'll do the process and there's different
releases and transformation. I show tons of examples and you'll go through them. And then you'll just
notice like day to day, like say what someone calls you. And every time like they do
something to piss you off, you're like, God damn it. Like you just trip out,
take a while after, while you just stop
being fucking triggered. And you'll realize two
things start getting lighter. There's no longer that
need to escape again. That desperation side of things just starts slowly moving away. And because of that, I mean, as we discussed in the
previous videos here, you'll finally be acting authentically. You'll finally be proactive in your life and you won't be again,
moving in the direction, wherever those triggers and like past traumas. - Pulling you towards
things to trigger you more. Cause you've resolved it. - Yeah, and I mean, shit just becomes fucking effortless and yeah, I mean just fucking permanent. - When we do live events,
it's not uncommon. I will hammer people with
stuff about getting money, getting some, and I kind of
riled them out of apathy. And then later I transcend
even that integrate and transcend, integrate ed transcend. So we can move through that
desire to get that money. And we get fueled by that. And then we can even have
like it's like like that. And then it even expands out and the next thing comes out like a flower. It's like the little leaves come out and then the next shoot, the leaves come out and
then the next shoot. But those leads are still there. So we integrate and transcend
like Russian dolls, okay. You know, there's little
dolls layers to it. You're a complex person,
you're very complex. That's why we're trying to teach you here. What is running you? We want to show you the
driver's manual for your mind, your spirit, your soul, your body, and how to live life. Right? Because ultimately life is quite complex and it's very complex
because we don't even know why we're here, technically speaking. And you got to kind of
create your own reason. And oftentimes we're
looking for somebody else to give us the reason the challenge is there is so running you, there is so much influencing you. It's hard to even know what's is you. And if you think about it, about 99% of your thoughts and actions are probably consumed with number one, fulfillment,
a biological drive say that fulfillment of biological drives I'm horny, I'm hungry, I'm hot, I'm cold. I'm tired, just fulfilling that. The other is ego gratification. Say that with me, ego gratification and
the other is spewing out social conditioned, beliefs say that spewing
out social conditioning. Have you ever heard it? Where they'll call it an NPC, a non-player character for people who kind of spew out things. They just heard somewhere, but they themselves don't live it. A lot of people will be like, I believe in peace. I'm like, no, wake up. You don't, they're like I said, peace. Like, no, no, no. That's virtue signaling. You're saying that to look good, but your behavior doesn't reflect it. You've got to live it. That piece has to reside in you and has to be something
that emanates from you. You have to live it and demonstrate
it through your actions. It's not about saying it so that other people can
see your virtue and virtue. - My favorite with that by the way is like everyone says, like, if you had one
wish, what would it be? Peace on earth, bullshit's cool. Shit, everyone says that. Cause it's the first thing
you don't want to be shamed. I'm like me too peace. But there's all those
selfish fucking desires that come up like one wish a magical wish. Fuck peace on earth. Me, me, me, me, me, me, me. - Let me give you guys
some harsh feedback too. Could I be a little mean
it's hard enough in a room of higher level thinking people like this, it's hard enough to get
you to move a row forward. And yet every one of you
will say peace on earth. Every one of you will say, raise the human consciousness, but it's hard enough to
get you even to maybe sign up for cheap event
that would help yourself. We've got to go above and beyond to push that. It's hard enough to get
you to move forward. It's some, sometimes guys
will come to the front, literally in a room of higher thinking. People guys will fight over
who gets the closer seat and they're like ready to throw down. And we literally running
a seminars company. We have to be prepared for those possibilities and contingencies. And we have to actually
be able to communicate with people at a level
of where they're at. You've got to meet
people where they're at, but by the way, if somebody
is in the lower level and you want to learn, so speak their language, recognize where, because I wake up tired
sometimes feeling like crap. And so what I do is I audit how I feel. And if I was tired and feeling like crap, and someone was like,
move forward in a row and I'm like, fuck off, you know? Right, cause I get like that too. And then I say to myself, what would I say to me
what I'm saying fuck off. And then I try to speak in that language. So all of us as teachers, whether it's making a clickbait or a thumbnail or giving initial sort of things, to bait your interest
in a particular topic, we're good at speaking, we want to be good at least. And to be at speaking your language, and then as we speak your language, we wanna show you maybe
how to get a small goal. And then as we get you a small goal, we want to show you that
there's a bigger goal, right? Because for a lot of you guys, maybe you're a little short on cash. If we can show you how to make more cash, you're like, Hey, thanks for
speaking my language, man, all this higher level thinking or higher paradigms is great, but I kind of need to make
a bit of cash right now. I'm kind of in pain. But if we can show you that, now you start to trust
us a little bit more. That we have your interests
lead you to a better direction. If we show you some dating advice cause the big feedback
that I get all the time on the street, when
people saw me, is like, man, you know, you started
me with dating advice and now it's gotten to be so much more, well, why do we show
the dating advice stuff? Cause if we can show
you how to solve that, that's a very relevant
problem at a certain paradigm. Now for us to think of a guy who's scared to go to a nightclub
and talks to some people it's hard for us to even
remember what that's like, but we can go back into our minds to remember when that was scary and say, you know what? There was a point where that
was really freaking scary and you can talk like you're above it. But when you're in that club, it's actually hard and you need some help. And so what happens is that the news, the mainstream news, it infects you and feeds that it's feeding it. But the problem with the mainstream news is they don't lead you past it. They just keep feeding it. And then here's where this seminar here starts to get really interesting. Are you ready for it to
get really interesting? Are you ready for it to
get really interesting notice even there, if I say
ready to get interesting, this has been a long night, you're tired. It's like fuck off, right? So, but notice it in yourself so that you can begin to, I mean maybe I could be
screaming more, right. But maybe it's because
it's been a long night. So be aware of that. Notice that long night in yourself. Okay, so where this gets
interesting is this, that energy that fuels, in some cases, the mainstream news also
has its own momentum. Now, before I pick them apart, I want to say a couple things. I truly believe in being
measured in balance. What are some good things that the mainstream news does? Let's not just tear them apart. What is the original envisionment of say a mainstream news source. And they do do it to an extent I want to give them credit. What do they do that's good because they have value
Yeltsin things out. They bring awareness. What's that democracy dies in darkness is what the press would tell you. What else, what else do they do, tell me. A check and balance on the government. What else? What's that? Well, what's the good. Before we get into the fake news. How about the real news? I mean, look man, if some guys in a war zone, like if you're a reporter and you're in a fricking war zone, trying to let the world
know about an atrocity and people like fake news,
you're like, fuck you, man. Like maybe there is, but I'm out here getting shot at, to show to aluminate the world. So there like they're trying to help in a lot of ways, right? No, one's we all have
selfish things we do right. Are we all perfect? Do any of us just never lie? Are we George Washington? Do we okay Julian himself. Okay. So everybody is, you know what I love about
the show game of Thrones, even though it's quite violent and feeds on negativity, you don't like about it. The characters are complex. Remember like Jamie Lancer,
he could be a bad guy. That he's a good guy. That's real life. Real people are complex. The news is complex. So what begins to happen though, is that we now see independent media and alternate media and people that are talking
about raising the vibration, raising consciousness, doing better. But the energy behind a
lot of the mainstream stuff is so negative. They literally want to
shut them off platforms to get rid of them. And so what you're seeing
is that things get better, but then that negative
energy wants to drag it back down into fear and then what'll start happening. Well, in 10 or 15 years, you're going to see new platforms that come maybe through
things like the blockchain, where the blockchain is decentralized. And there's a array of
lights in the darkness because there's a lot of darkness around this topic right now, but there's little rays of lights because we can try to suppress the truth or people seeking betterment and evil, dark forces of that
negative energy can come in and try to lower that. But as things become more and more decentralized, yeah. Maybe someone will
accumulate a lot of power take advantage of it. But even things like blockchain or things like decentralization, eventually our destiny as a
species is to raise the vibe and is to be better. And you better fucking believe that because we have so much
capacity to destroy ourselves at this point
that we better believe that. And let me say one last
quick thing too, about it, whatever somebody has a
different way of thinking and is a very different type of thinker. They often think so differently that 80% of what they
say could be outlandish, but there's this 20% that is so spot on. And that 80% could even be a
bit offensive to some people because something's always
offensive to everybody. Have a nice day, could be
offensive to the right person. Who's in a negative
state, it's condescending. So, you know, so what happens is people
that think differently, maybe a lot of what
they say is outlandish, but maybe there's that 20
there's that 20% truth. When we suppress freedom of speech, we're going to focus on that 80% that someone said that
maybe bothered somebody, but we're not getting that 20% and it we're stopping dialogue. And so what we're seeing now is there was the mainstream and then bigger social
media platforms came out and suddenly consciousness is going up. But then what happens is again, no, no anything that raises consciousness, it's going to be reframed and nitpicked as bad. And how are they going to do that? Well, if somebody releases thousands of hours of content and they happen to make a little joke, they're not a professional politician. They make a little joke that
can be cut out of contacts. You take that, cut it out of context, spam it everywhere. And the average person in apathy doesn't have enough
time to really look into what that person really said. And then when they don't look at what was really said, what happens, they wanna go with the herd, because remember, if
a lot of us don't even wanna move a roll forward, you then the average person
is looking to dig in deep and see what someone really is all about. And so we're seeing that, but I believe in our future because things like the blockchain and other things that will come out, who knows what it'll be, we'll decentralize things. And we're going to see, I think this movement towards betterment is a slow moving, but consistently moving train. And that's why I stay. Even though there is darkness, I say optimistic that there
is that Ember of light that we can see, but remember that negative energy. That's why I said, here's where the seminar gets interesting. It has that energy itself
has its own momentum. Have you ever felt that that energy, that negative energy was running you in a time that you're upset that you had lost conscious power and that that energy was running you, put your hand up if
you ever felt that way, have you ever felt that
you're laughing so hard in so much joy, maybe at a stand up comedy presentation or whatever that you
couldn't stop laughing? Have you ever felt that way? Put your hand up. So notice that the energy
has its own momentum. And remember we talked earlier
about your energy pallets, your emotional palette. We have to, we have to call it. We have to bring to awareness what negative energy is so that when you see that
fear in mainstream broadcast, you can recognize what that is and say, maybe I don't let that in. Maybe I have a little ozone layer and when energy is coming up and I go, wait a minute, stay present, vibe it out and choose to let it in or not. And we have to recognize this in yourself, what your energy, your caring, but often if we see it in other people, it's a little bit easier. Cause it's really hard
to see it ourselves. I have it, John has it, Sarah has it. We all have it. This is our heritage
as life on this planet. We have some of this that's okay. We didn't transcend into Eckhart toll mist of glory yet because we're yeah, we're not enlightened yet because we are audit
journey together. Right? But what we can do is show you the secrets of this show you things that the
most aware people have, and we can get you to see it in others and see the signs of it and then get you to see in yourself. And what can happen is in the same way that someone gets kind of scooped up by almost this pendulum, this sort of, this sort of wave this jet stream, sort of jet stream, this jet stream in
negativity, it's running them. They don't even know it. You remember what Jesus says? What's the exact quote, forgive them Lord for, they do
not know that, which they do. Is that the quote, okay, what is it? Forgive them for they know
not what they do right there on their audit. They're in a jet stream of negativity. They're unconscious, they don't know what they're doing, okay. What I ask you guys to come and roll forward and you don't. I say forgive them. So, but it's a wave, right? And I have to forgive, right? Cause I go into it too. So forgive him for, he
doesn't know what he does. So we have to become aware of it. So once we begin to see
the characteristics of it and we learned to get a palate for it, when it's coming at you, you can see it. Conversely, you can
learn to see that kind of pendulum of positive energy and learn to jump on and surf it and make it so
that life isn't so hard. One quote we like to use
as a work ethic versus a work magnet. We want to show you how to ride that wave of positive energy and just have it pull you forward so that you can get rich, have more money, be great at meeting people. It also makes you a lot healthier
in my personal experience. I've mentioned many times I
don't get sick anymore because my body often is just filled with joy. There's a, there's a protection. There I go into a rough spot too. Don't get me wrong. I definitely do, but it's become a lot better. So we want to teach you to recognize this. When Julian teaches things
like transformation, mastery, what is he doing? He's actually trying to take, he's trying to chip chunks out of that embedded negative energy and pull it out of you. So you wake up and then
you could ride that wave more easily that you
resonate with it, right? Because again, when you're
in a negative state, you resonate with it. And then you kind of ride that wave. When you're in a more positive state, you resonate with it and ride that wave. And each one will have these little, it influences these little
decisions that you're making. And then it makes you take an action that tends to feed that energy. And that's why it's a loop. I'm sitting here, I'm 38 years old. When I grew up, I use a rotary phone. I would sit there just
going like my phone number back then was 224918 I go to and check it out. If people didn't pick up the
phone, you would have to, you'd have to call again and decide if you're going to
be rude or not to call again. There's no text. In addition, if it was busy, you'd also have to call again. And if you went out to a concert or say out here in Vegas and you lost track of your friend, you weren't going to see
them until the next day. And that's even if you could
even get them on the phone the next day, cause half the time
they're not even answering. And usually you'd have to
run to their fucking house in order to go track them down. Now that's the technology
that I grew up in. Our parents grew up with black and white TV, no internet. I mean, I was using a pager
when I was in my teens. If there was a really important call, you'd put 911. If you had a question, you'd put 411. If it was really bad, you put 911911911, and then you'd have to socially calibrate. You don't hear me do social collaboration. We'd have to socially calibrate how many nine ones to put if
it was appropriate or not. If it was like the boy crying Wolf and these were the kinds of
communication that we had. So, I mean, even as far as like vehicles, it was what, something like 50 years ago that we were in these
super heavy vehicles. People didn't even use seatbelts. If they got in a car crash, they'd fly through the window and just bleed out. How long ago was world war II? 70, 80 years ago, 70 to 80 years ago, regular little wimpy, North Americans like us and Europeans who, you know, we like our iPhones and we like our Starbucks and all that. We're a city entrenched
warfare shooting each other, murdering each other in
the hundreds of millions. There's places in the world where things along those
lines still go on today. But you know, certain
people are coming out of it. So you have to understand that a lot of our understanding of
the world is still very new. And a lot of these concepts
in this general direction will be taught in the future. But right now what you have is
a mainstream education system where they're taught really great stuff. You know math, geography,
English, science. From that, I can remember, you know, cell membrane in a plant,
mytosis in human beings, osmosis. I remember that salt was H. What is the salt? What is it? NaCl is salt. Okay, so I don't even know that. Water is H2O. I can remember that you know at one point I used to memorize where the countries of central
America, Nicaragua, Honduras. I can't remember for
shit where those are now, but I've spent a lot of years
memorizing that at the time I learned, I got as far as
trinomial factoring, you know? So I remember something about, there was a mapping. You do a division. I don't remember any of it. And I took a Shakespeare. I learned King Lear where
that Romeo something or other really great stuff. Okay. Helped me a lot in my life. Now we can see, I use those things every day. I want to speak here clear to be fair. I think that the modern education system compared to what most people
have is a big improvement. A lot of people look, no,
system's perfect, right? A lot of people who created the education system busted their fucking ass, spent their life to create
the education system that I'm now mocking. I think that that's still a huge upgrade. Okay, so don't get me wrong. I think that those people did great shit, but just because they did great shit what's been happening
in our education system is that the heaviness of the bureaucracy and unionization has made it where the school is not able
to move forward that much. And we have some bits of private education and that can move it forward to an extent there are
schools that do that, but we're sort of stuck. Now most people are not going to be taught entrepreneurship at a high level. Most people don't know what
a basic sales funnel is. They don't know. They don't even understand
really what offering value is. The average person thinks
that most rich people are living in a conspiracy, sacrificing goats and doing crazy shit. And that's why they're rich. They don't which I'm cool
if you want to study that. And I actually think
that that's kind of fun. I love like David. I think he's awesome. But the point is like,
I also run a business. Like my thing is like, watch David Eick cause he's a conspiracy. There is when you made your
first six figure check. Like if you haven't made
a six figure check yet, don't worry about the goat sacrifice. That's not why you're not making money. Like even in the goat
sacrificing conspiracy world, you can get a six figure check, but a lot of guys will study that stuff as a way to justify why
they can't make money because they're being held back by a goat. So what we have is we have
a modern education system that doesn't teach you
a lot of this stuff. Now don't take at face value. Anything that any teacher teaches, you look at it with your own eyes. So when you go out
today and in days after, look at what you're learning
here with your own eyes and ask yourself, is this
something that I can see? At first, it can be easier
to see it in others. And eventually it becomes
easier to see in yourself. Now I've spoken on this before. I'll mention it briefly here, but the major reason why I
think this is so critical is because we see so many
people who start getting laid, who meet a great partner
who make a lot of money and they're still fucking miserable. You'll see guys that are in great shape that will come to an event
like transformation mastery that are bawling their eyes out. So I don't care. I've had a chance to hang out a lot of the richest people, the
best looking people, the people who travel the most. And they're basically still in this. They say this after me, wherever you go say that there you are say the whole thing, wherever
you go there you are. So, and you've probably heard that before. It's a very cliched,
spiritual mumbo jumbo. What it means is that no
matter how successful you are, if you don't fix what's inside yourself, you're still carrying
all that weight with you. So one of the cool things about us having had the opportunity to meet a lot of really successful people, really fit people. People who have really great lives and the external is getting to realize that they're often
really fucking miserable on the inside and that they carry that
with them everywhere. So a really big part of
course, of learning this is learning the background theory. And once you have the
background theory of it, now you can begin to
see it in other places, see it in other people. And eventually as you see another people, you can slowly begin
to see it in yourself. It's very hard to look only
at yourself, the human mind. We have an ego we're trying
to preserve our confidence. We don't want to shatter
our sense of self. So it's very easy. They're traumatized. Hey, there's stuffing. Hey, they're medicating
harder to see it in yourself. But once you can start to see others, you can see it start seeing yourself. Or if you're able to
not have that ego issue, you can just start seeing
yourself right away and making change. The biggest challenge that I see is that you get into an
environment like this and you can see the potential. You see how important it is to fix what you have
going on inside yourself. But then you go back into
your regular group of friends and none of them are talking about this. In fact, if you talk about these subjects, they'll typically roll their eyes. They don't want to hear it. They think that what you're
saying is crazy talk, woo talk. You can talk to them about the crazy stuff you're talking about UFO, alien Sasquatch. But whenever you bring up
anything about inter parasite that could be holding them back, they will rarely want to look at it. And this is where it gets
really fucking trippy because what you don't realize is you're speaking
directly to the parasite. You are having a conversation with a mind that is being partially
run by that parasite. So if you, I mean, if you go to as an extreme example, if you go to a homeless person and you say to them, Hey man, rather than me giving you this $10, why don't I teach you how to make a $1000 that as an experiment, try to do that with a homeless person, say we're going to go make $1000 right now in most cases, but not all. And I have a lot of empathy, a lot of sympathy for what
the homeless deal with. I've done feed the homeless dry before. It's amazing, it's very touching. I'm not speaking against that, but at the same time, when you speak to someone in that mindset, what you're going to see is their eyes are going to glaze over. They're going to avert that topic. The reason why in spiritual growth, what they say is that they don't resonate with that solution yet. Typically people have to
hit what with alcoholism, what's an alcoholic, have
to hit guys rock bottom. What does a drug addict have to hit? But we forget is that that
addiction to negativity or low vibration energy or trauma, energy, whatever you want to call
it, that is an addiction. You're feeding an addiction on that you're physically addicted on, no different than alcohol
or drugs you are addicted. So typically when you talk
to anybody else about it, you're going to notice
that they respond to it in the same way that a drug addict would about their drug addiction. Now there's two layers to this because a lot of the way
that we talk about this is within spiritual jargon, high vibration energy,
low vibration energy, maybe a low vibrational edity or whatever that is. So of course, a lot of people that are more logical are going
to take objection to that. And you know what? I don't blame them. I actually have no
problem with that at all. But where it gets very, very interesting is that even if you talk
about it within the framework of addiction, to adrenaline
addiction, to spikes of cortisol or being trapped in your thoughts and unable to get into the flow or things that are a
little bit more mainstream and widely accepted, you're still typically going to see them and shut it down. Or the really big one that I look at, I love doing series talks like this, but I find it very interesting that there's many people who have, if we were to sit up here
joking the whole time, what is one of the greatest
things that you could do for your own interstate? What is it joking and laughing. That's why we have a lot of videos or talks you've done where
we laugh all the time. Many people when watching content, where they're being taught something, but we're laughing throughout the video. We'll say that's fake. They'll say a talk. That's a little bit more stirred and kind of direct to the, getting down to the
business of big, happy. They think that's more real. If I do videos that are quote
unquote negative in tone, I get all these feedback in the comments. Finally, a breath of fresh air, RSDs being real laughing and
having fun while teaching is fake, because from their perspective, it can't even be real that you could just enjoy
yourself, having fun. What's the point of going,
making all that money, meeting a great partner, meeting new people, having
a great dating life, traveling, being fit. Any of those things. What's the point of doing
that if you're not laughing, what's the point of doing
that if you're not smiling, what's the point of doing
that if you're not having fun at a certain point, you got to stop to smell the Rose in life. You only get so many years. That's like, if you have
this retirement plan, you save and save and save. You stay frugal until
the end of your life. And then you've got like $50 million left. You never spend any of it. You lived in a trailer,
bold, good for you. You saved up, you won the money game and now you're dead. You can't even spend the money. Laughter and laughing while
you're in your day to day life is, you know, you're saving by doing good things for yourself, by moving your life
forward by taking action, you're moving your life forward. And by laughing during it, you're, it's like a
chance to spend the money. That laughter is the life that you built. You built your life so
that you could go laugh and smile and have fun. A lot of people, if you say, do a business meeting with them, if you laughter in that meeting or offended cause they think you're not taking it seriously, me and Julie we feel the opposite. If you're not laughing
during that meeting, you don't take it seriously. You're one of those time-wasting dudes, who's an emotional vampire, who just likes to suck
energy out of things. Why can't we enjoy everything? Obviously, if you're laughing so hard that you can't get to the
point that's different, but you can get to the point. Well, having fun. Now that being the case, what you have is a group of people that are very uneducated on this topic because we don't teach it in schools and yourselves who are
beginning to open your eyes to these topics. What you're gonna see is
that when you talk to most people about it, like I mentioned, you're speaking directly to the parasite. So if you say anything like
cortisol addiction, adrenaline addiction, addiction to negativity, you could even point out to them. How much of your day do
you spend enjoying your day and how much of your day do
you spend trapped in your head? Stewing on things, being
resentful on things, being negative on things,
playing the victim, whatever it is. Do you not think maybe
that's an addiction? What if you were to audit
yourself and look at yourself, could you maybe can see
that that's an addiction? And they'll always say the same thing. No, it's not an addiction. Some variation of that
they've been victimized. And if my life would look
different, then I would be happy. I don't wanna be irrationally happy because then I wouldn't
be motivated to fix it. What they're not understanding is that what they're saying is true. There is a healthy place
for all human emotion. But what they're not realizing
is that that addiction to negativity is physically closing off their perception of the world. It's coloring their
perception of the world, to where anything
positive that can happen. They can't see it, they're blind to it. If you wanna learn more about this, Google reticular activation system, RAS, it's called selective focus. When you're in a positive FID mood, you're in a resourceful state and you see and resonate with things that would move your life up. When you're in a negative mood, most of what you're gonna
see is gonna be a problem. I believe there is a place for, there's a healthy version of depression. That's that version
where you take a pause, you think about your life. It forces you to get introspective. You don't wanna be bullish all the time. Sometimes you wanna be in that beer mode. You don't like in the stock
market bull bear market. I've had a lot of events in my life where I've been having so much fun. I feel a bit depressed for a minute. It's almost like taking like a
Iowasca journey or something. We'd never done that. But the point is like, actually haven't, but like, it's almost like
taking Iowasca journey. You get depressed. It kind of cycles your
mind on what's going wrong. It kind of draws your attention
to problems in your life. And there's a space for that for a minute. We evolve that for a minute, but then there's the point
where that has to end. But what happens with most people? What are we taught in our society? Control, control, control. We're not taught to release. And so that energy becomes
a bunched on itself, right? Similar to cancer. You know, when cells are
reproducing, that's a good thing, but a cancerous cell doesn't stop and it starts feeding on
itself, it's unhealthy. And what we get in our psychology
is a cancerous version of depression that starts feeding on itself. And now it's like just like a cancer cell. It's sucking energy,
coloring our perception. And there's a parasite
running your fucking brain. When you do this work for
an extended period of time, you see people and you see them being held down in their potential and you feel so sad for us. The first kind of taste that we got was learning social skills, learning, dating advice, type content, and we'd be out and you kind
of just slip into state. And you're like, this is weird. I'm funny, my voice is projecting. People are attracted to me, even though they're a lot
more physically attractive than I am. Everybody wants my attention. I don't feel sad anymore. I don't feel traumatized anymore. And you kind of spike up, you get a taste for it. What your potential is. I'd have that in public speaking, I'd go in front of a crowd. It would just flow out. It was weird. I'd ride the wave. This is weird and as I was doing, I'm like something weird
is happening to me. What is this? What is this that I'm seeing right now? And as I saw that, I began, you know, at first I would just
use it to try to like, you know, socialize better. And that's fun, I love that. And I love showing that to people. We love it so much. That being said, we also saw
other applications of it. Then we start to think, well,
why can you slip into that? Maybe when you go out, why can't we be like
that a little more often? Maybe not all the time. I'm not, he's not, but why not more often? Why can't you default to that? And then if you had a bad
day, that was just a bad day, instead of bad being
the default or average. And that's where we began
to realize, wait a minute, there's a lot of trauma
energy holding you down. And it's just bleeding
into you all the time. Like the sound of this, little hum, but you don't notice it unless
you clue, listen to how loud, this silly little projector. It's kind of fucking weird, isn't it? Can I turn it off? It's freaking me out. So it's like, right. That's trauma release It's gone. (laughs) Okay, it's gone. So that's what we wanna be doing. We have to be letting go. We have to take chunks out, let it go and snap into alertness. And again, if you're
riding off the right fuel, ideally you want to be
feeding off of work. You want to be gaining energy from work. 'Cause it gets you out of your head. It gets you more into real life. And then of course you do need a break and to do project recovery 'cause you kind of fired
up your immune system. Don't get me wrong. But in general you want
to be feeding off it. I don't want to be up
here like, oh this sucks, and I got to fucking do
what fucking suck you talk and do all these fuck, you know, right? That's horrible, oh my God, you would never succeed at
a high level of doing that in my view or some people do, but what
outcome do you really get? So just that awareness alone and moving on that track is the difference between looking at you in 10 years and see you,
the big, bright eyes, energy flowing through you,
creativity, intuition, energy, health, wealth alignment,
versus seeing you in 10 years, a fucking train wreck. Like the majority of people
you meet the floating turds. - When we say like start cultivating a healthier relationship
with the present moment, accept who you are. Let go of all that resistance
to you right here right now that does not mean stagnate and do nothing. By default, things change,
nothing is permanent. You don't have to make them
change, they will change. So you do have a certain intention in terms of where you're going. But one of my favorite
sayings in terms of, you know, self-acceptance and growth
is from a book called the Presence Process, which I
highly recommend reading. And what he says is it's a
state of continued ripening. That's like the best way of putting it. A state of continued ripening. You're here, you're feeling
fucking amazing in this moment. There's no rush or need
to be anywhere else. And you're like, how could it
possibly get better than this? And every second you're
surprised how you just get riper and it just gets better and
better and better and better. And it feels effortless and you just get fueled. And once more, it's like, how are you gonna live your
life so that when you die, 'cause you will die, you will look back and be like, damn, I
milked this experience that is being alive. I took it in every fucking bit of it. I took it in and remind yourself of
this like you will die. Take it in, even what it
feels like to be alive. You know, I always joke,
like why do people, like go into swimming pools really? Do you ever think about that? Like why do you like going to
a fucking pool, just water? You know, the only reason
is we're not used to it. Here we're like air. So you're under water. You're like, whoa, slow motion. Like that's the only reason
you're like going to a pool. People will pay and spend hours
hanging on in this liquid. Like just hanging out in there. 'Cause you're not used to it. You're used to being alive. You're used to breathing. Imagine that this is the fucking pool. Like whoa, air a liveliness, milk it. And start now, don't wait. Remember you've passed the finish line. You have the tools, start now. - Most of the people you talk to, it's not like in this room
here, most people you talk to, in fact, the mentality that they're in is that they're being
run by negative energy and in their ideal, not consciously, but 100% unconscious, that energy wants to spread. And that energy wants
to pull you back into it where you could be here today and studying this and it be completely
committed and bought in. And by next week you've
forgotten about this. And like six months later,
you're thinking, man, I was really making some
commitments back then and I didn't follow through. So that's why it's so important that as you guys meet each other here, you create masterminds because you become who you hang out with. If you hang out people
that are just laughing and cracking jokes all the
time, you will be laughing, and cracking jokes all the time. If you hang out with people
who are reading all the time, you will become like that. You, there's an expression. You become the five
people you hang out with. Show me your friends,
I'll show you your future. These are all classic self-help ideas that you've got to be aware of. So that's why when we bring
people together like this, we do it to get you together so that it gets you thinking about it. So you can put in some time and you can maintain it. You will become who you hang out with. What you're gonna find is
when you fail to do that, you're gonna keep hitting the wall because you're digging
and digging and digging. And you think you're going
down this tunnel, right? But you're going down
the wrong fucking tunnel. And oftentimes when you're
going down this wrong tunnel, the horrible thing about
negative energy is that negative energy has its
own momentum and it, and what it does is it's always striving to create more chains of negative energy. So when you're in negative
energy, in most cases, you're gonna get a girlfriend
who's a negative energy. You're gonna be fighting with her. You're gonna be attractive
business partners and work with people that are
in negative energy, frankly, here's what I've observed. If you're a positive person and somebody else is negative, they will eject you out
of their fucking life because they're not getting their hits of negativity from you. And what they'll often do at first, they'll just try to annoy you. Then they'll pester you. Then they'll yell at you. Then they'll fucking explode on you. Eventually, if you stay positive that, they'll burn your fucking house down. Now you're mad. They'll literally just do,
they will do whatever it takes. And it's essentially a pendulum. Pendulum goes here. They charge it up, shoot it back. Now you wanna have what? Personal boundaries, right? You're not gonna let him
mess with your reputation. You're not gonna let
anyone treat you like that. So you charge it up and send it back. But you don't realize that's
exactly what they want. And I grew up around that. The area that I grew up
in, we'd all get in fights. One guy would fight another guy. That guy would round up his
posse, fight the guy back. And it was ongoing. You saw that recently with
Conor McGregor, that guy Khabib, I think he was fighting with Connor's boy, Ardam that pisses off corner. The negative energy in him
doesn't matter that he's making hundreds of millions of
dollars or whatever it is. Shit loads of money,
Conor McGregor at the top of his fucking game. So much, how much it's going to McGregor have to lose anything at this point. So much to lose. This guy he has all that. He's, this dude comes from
like a background where my understanding is that like
Irish gangsters are wanting to like fuck him up. He fights his way through that. He fights his way through every obstacle. He had a loss at one point comes back and beats that guy, pushes himself to the absolute limit in his outer world. And he finds happiness through
things like designer clothes, having a Ferrari and fixing
things, the outer world. But guess what? Wherever you go. - [Audience] There you are. - So Connor is used to this
gangster kind of mentality, whatever you'd call it. I don't wanna piss him off 'cause that guy will fuck me up. (audience laughs) So you know, I'm shell, but I'm speaking 'cause
this guy's amazing. And we can all recognize that. So Connery comes in and he's back there in Ireland. He hears about RDM or whatever. God, in a confrontational, it could be Connor flies back to New York, throws a Dolly at the window of the bus. And you know what? That's really good dramatic flair for the buildup of the fight. But here's the problem. Connor's making millions and millions, maybe even hundreds of millions
of dollars, whatever it is. Some guy who he throws that
Dolly at for all we know is making like a really low
amount of money as a fighter. And he's just trying as best. That'd be like me and Julian
who are being successful at our industry go to some
like 21 year old, new coach who's barely making his bills and we smash his eyes up with glass shards because we're trying to make a drama for our YouTube following. And that's kind of what happened. And it's not appropriate that somebody that's successful went and mess with the life of
that little dude on the back. And of course I love Connor. So I didn't, I'm like, fuck it, fuck that guy Corner all the way. Right? 'Cause that's human
nature, that's how we are. But if we're being more
objective about it, it's a pretty serious
situation that happened there. And then Connor's not on probation. What if he were to lose his
ability to go do his next fight in the States? What if he were to get sued? What if he loses his endorsements? What do people who don't, all
these people are lining up to endorse this guy he's gone, and fought Floyd fucking
Mayweather in a boxing match. It's not even his sport. I get it, Floyd's older, but like it takes some balls, bro. I mean, this guy's got balls. He's done far more than
maybe all of us combined to make his life amazing. But dairy goes and it's like, he's hitting in the
success ceiling and right. As things were just getting
too good, mess it up. Now, look, he's a smart guy. I think he'll come back from this. I think we all rooting
for him to come back at the same time you've got to
realize that wherever you go, there you are. What's the mentality and
environment that he's in, got to fuck people up. And it's that charged pendulum
that's going back and forth. What you gotta do is audit your own life and see where you're
charging the pendulum. Where are you creating
these webs for yourself? Where is it to the point that
anytime that you see something that could truly help
your life, you zone out, it goes in one ear and out the other. The shift that we make here, really, I want to kind of describe
it to you a little bit, okay? I'd like to get a little
bit descriptive with you. Most people live in a
very contracted reality. It's a very competitive reality. It's always me versus them all the time. And what happens as you expand
is you realize I'm in part of the universe, everybody's
a part of the universe. I am not in a competitive frame. I am in a collaborative frame, say the word collaborative frame. - [Audience] Collaborative frame. - Okay, that same higher
consciousness that is in you, which will be the part of you
that goes on when you die. That same consciousness is in them. So in many ways you are them. And so you don't need
to compete against them. Or when at their expense
we can win together. There's a new paradigm
where we can win together. And what begins to happen is that things are not as big of a deal anymore. They're not as big of a deal, but see, rather than requiring
reaction to do everything, you're kind of miserable. And you're just being
kind of prodded forward on the sort of caveman misery
of when something bad happens. You need to burn your
hand on the stove again and again and again. Instead what happens is
that we want to make shifts from a space of joy. We want to make shifts because we wanna contribute to the world. We're making shifts because that's what makes sense. You could even see this
growth of paradigms in books like Spiral Dynamics, where we might go into a
very entrepreneurial phase. Oftentimes after people
go through a hardcore entrepreneurial, selfish phase, they move into this kind
of socialist phase, right? He goes from, what do you
call it orange to green. And in the green paradigm,
we realized, wait a minute, I don't want to wait if
everybody isn't winning. That's why, if you look at
cities, like say San Francisco, it's a very green city, right? A lot of wealthy liberal
coastal cities have this where it's a lot of people
that are doing very well. And then they suddenly realized, well, if I'm gonna do well, I
want everybody to do well. But then what happens that they
bring in a lot of, you know, there's a lot of homelessness issues there and it can get a little bit out of control because even though we
want everybody to do well, we have to put them in a position to win. We can't just, you know, kind of, 'cause if you just keep
giving them free stuff, it actually doesn't
motivate them to fix it. It makes it worse. Your compassion makes things worse. So then we move into the yellow
paradigm and spiral dynamics where we can be entrepreneurial
at the same time, we can have compassion for others, but ultimately we wanna be
systems building oriented and create systems so that whatever level paradigm
somebody is at, they can win and move through that paradigm. So somebody at the yellow paradigm, they're basically what
they call the spiral wizard in the book, Spiral Dynamics. And they don't, they can have respect for wherever somebody is at and try to craft systems where everybody at whatever level they're in can kind of move through their face. There's a great respect
for where people are at as opposed to in the green,
which is more socialistic, it's kind of more idealistic, right? It's like, oh, help them. But in the process, helping
them, you're hurting them. You're hurting them right, in the orange entrepreneurial face for like, fuck everybody. You wanna, you want other
people to lose for you to win. But that gets lonely after a while. So you move into more socialist phase. You want everybody to win, but then you realize that
in wanting everybody to win, you're hurting everybody. So to higher level, you could
respect where everybody's at. That's what Julie was
talking about here today, which is that there's a
different level that makes sense. There's a different
behaviors and paradigms that make sense at each point and each level we can graduate and move into another paradigm. Put your hand up if you think
that over 80% of your life, you've just been in a very
joyous, ideal state for over 80% in your life, put your hands up. Okay, how about 70%? 60%, 50%, 40% hands way up 30%, 20%, 10%, 5%. Okay, probably being hard on yourself. We'll work on releasing that. Now put your hand up if
for over half of your life you spent being in a state
that was pointlessly negative. Like you thought it was helping you, but it really wasn't helping anything. If you spend over half your
life in a pointlessly negative, say put your hands up, okay? For the rest of you that
didn't put your hands up, I'm gonna be honest. I think most of you are not realistic, but you could be being realistic. 'Cause some people don't
struggle with this, but most people do. And even for those of
you that don't struggle, you can still go higher. So knowing that we have to
realize that our friends are bringing us into this. Our peers are bringing us
into this, TV, the media, the food that we eat, the
lifestyles that we have, the job that we have and modern society has a lot of benefits, but we have to make a
decision to say, no, no, no. I am going to take action on this and get the knowledge
and tools that I need and surround myself with
people in this mindset. That was the main payoff I got from having a mastermind group was that people continually put me back into that mindset, okay. This is something that
joined has been emphasized. And Julian came to me. He said, you know what? We've got to do the Academy. And the reason that he sent
us through the Academy was because he's watching people
that go through this burst of awesome newness and then boom, back down. So whether you're in the Academy
or not, that's up to you, I recommend it. But that's up to you. But what I would say is no matter what, or even if you're in the Academy, get ahold of the people
in this environment, make mastermind groups, get people around you
that are serious about moving up in this area. This, in my opinion, is the single most
important thing you can do along with just building
skills in general. - I mean, we're on who
can you actually be real or talk about deep issues going on inside. Most people nowadays
don't even have anyone that can confide in, like all your friends are
surface level friends. It's either friends from work and your social circle
a bit, even your family. Can you actually open up
about what's going on inside? The answer for most people is no. And see, even if you can a little bit, so you're still gonna hold back. 'Cause then you're afraid like, oh, how's this gonna affect
things going forward? So no one has someone
to talk to, it's crazy. And I would see this nonstop
at the different live events where at the end, there was
such a bonding experience. And people kept saying
like, this was amazing. Like literally the most
amazing day of my life, I could finally be real. People would hear me,
they'd be present for me, they would listen to me. Like I can actually be
heard and acknowledged for who I truly am. It was amazing, I need more of this. And it started growing
in the Facebook group and I'm like, fuck, let's just go all out and create this fucking movement. Like this whole movement where
every month it's like this tribe, this you know, trauma study group, this transformation mastery study group that you can literally come to that place, see people who are likeminded, see people who are out of
the matrix, if you will. And just unplug, you know,
even if here you are, you can't do anything about
your external at this moment, you're stuck with those people
who might pull you back, family who might pull you back,
like some toxic situations. You can always come back to
this, reconnect with this. And the cool thing too about
this mastermind is like, people hold you accountable. There's that reality that's there. And it helps with the commitment of not just doing the work
once, just doing like a burst and then just letting these
concepts, these ideas, videos, or even courses,
you know, gather dust on the virtual shelf of
your website of your, I mean your desktop,
you actually take action and you're seeing
everyone else take action. - You wanna be going
in the right direction. Otherwise you're moving away. You're literally putting
in time and energy to move away from your ultimate goal. And an example of this could
be you're getting deeper and deeper into a toxic relationship. And you're putting all this
time and energy into getting a toxic relationship to work. What you don't realize is
when you win, you lose. Maybe you're trying to get
some kind of occupation that you're in. That's giving you all these
hits of negative energy. And you're thinking if you could just get it to a certain point, but when you win, you lose. And there's so much of this. I mean, it could be like, you know, you're trying to grow
food in your backyard and you're growing something that's just gonna straight poison you. And you're putting all the
Simon when you win, you lose and life is gonna make you
surrender to reality eventually, life has a funny thing about doing that. As you get older, you either
get bitter or you get better. And so over it, like it took
me until my mid thirties or I could look at any
of this, it's a Julitive, It took Julian going through
a global media fiasco before he could look
through any of this Julian. Like I had a hard time letting it land. And then I would try to push on Julia. And he's like, you know what? I'll be happy when I get
my next girl off Tinder. And he would just go through that. But everybody will hit their
breaking point eventually where they realize what this is and a way to look at
it is that most people, if you were to think of
yourself as an entity, most people are entity that wants to take. But because they're always trying to take everything is always just a
little bit out of the grass. You ever feel like you're
always trying to get, but things are just a little
bit alluding your grasp. Well, ironically, when
you start to heal yourself and you have good energy to give, it becomes a flow where people naturally want to give to you. So if she was walking down the street, it wouldn't be uncommon
where people just walk up, they start telling him how awesome he is. They empty their wallets and just hand it to them because they're so
grateful, it sounds crazy. And women who have maybe watched a suffer, throwing themselves at him and he's just sitting there and he's like, well, look at this. I start to give, all of a sudden, women are throwing themselves at me. People are physically throwing money at me and everyone's telling me I'm great, funny how that works, right? You're giving and then all of a sudden, all those things that you wanted, just get handed back to you
with not as much effort. And of course you have to make an effort. Don't get me wrong. But in many ways there'll be without, in many instances will
be without effort, right? Meanwhile, somebody who
desperately wants a partner, desperately wants money.
Desperately wants approval. You ever had it where you
go into say a bar club and you wish that everybody would like, and you're trying so hard
to make them like you. But the more that you try
to make them like you, the more they run away, you ever had it where
you want money so bad that you make these
critical judgment errors because you're frenetic and you're not thinking clearly about it. And then it just gets away from you? You ever had it where you want to be happy and you're just doing something and it winds up making you unhappy. A lot of the time, it's
not about control muscles. It's about release muscles. And ultimately it's a balance, right? Some people they're releasing too much. Maybe call it the, say the homeless guy. He, you know, he's just
kind of sitting there on a street corner. It could be mental illness, but you got the idea that you have other guys who go through with what I just went through here. You wanna get, you wanna move
it more towards the middle? How much would you say
if you were to go out and meet people tonight,
what's holding you back is you don't know enough
about how to meet people or versus how much of
it do you think is just that you're too uptight,
you want it too much. And because you want it too
much, it makes you nervous. And because you're nervous,
you can't think of what to say. And because you can't
think of what to say, you stammer on yourself and because you stammer around yourself and you break eye contact,
can't speak that well, not in a flow. And then you wind up pushing them away. The very people that you're
trying desperately to bring into your life. Meanwhile, when you don't care, 'cause you just let it go, yeah. You still got to go
talk to people initiate, but just be yourself, do your thing. And they're throwing themselves at you. And you're almost forgetting to say, hey, let's go to this next place. You're like, oh yeah, you
can come to, let's go. And they're like, yes, yes, let's go. That's a microcosm for the stuff that Julian's working on here. But let me ask you a question. How many of the people who you're around are even thinking in those parameters? So few people, and yet when you're in this
reality that you're in now, it feels so real. And it's so hard to
conceptualize of another reality that it almost sounds like fucking voodoo. What, in fact, when you're
in that better reality, the lower reality looks insane. When you say Sarah again, extreme example, I have a lot of empathy for them. But when you say, look
at like a homeless person fighting over some meth, a
cardboard box, a street corner, and you know, someone dis them. Does that look weird to you? How weird does it look when
you see two homeless people fighting over a cardboard box? Is that, would that
qualify as making your life hard by any chance? What do you think? - [Audience] Yeah. - Okay, who do you conceptualize perhaps that you yourself look that way to people who are doing better than you? Did that ever occur to you, did it? Did you ever pause and say, wait a minute, you know those crazy
looking, homeless people. I look like that. And my friends look like that to people that are operating at a higher level. Do you think that's the case or not? What do you think? - [Audience] Yes. - It's 1000% of the case. You have no idea what
your limitations are. You typically have no
idea what's running you. And unless you make a proactive effort to get out of that, you're fought. I remember when I was 22 years old, I got into college and they said, you've got to write a
four page essay on why, to learn to care from the book The Odyssey went to search for his dad. This is a book called
the Odyssey of Homer. You ever see the movie, Troy, Brad Pitt. It's kind of like the books
where that originated, that book was called the
Iliad and the SQL potentially. 'Cause they don't know who wrote it. It's called the Odyssey Homer and the first four
chapters of books they say, is to my kids, go and look for his dad. I remember my teacher says to me, Owen, write four pages on why
Telamic is looking for his dad. I'm like, oh, cause he wants
to find his fucking dad. (audience laughs) Why do you need four pages on this? That would seem impossible. I thought it's impossible
that that could happen. But I realized that a PhD student
could probably write those four pages in their fucking sleep. Now having gone through college, I could write probably a
hundred pages on why Tilama case is looking for his dad. I could do it in a couple of days, but at the time it seemed hard. It seemed impossible. Well, what I did was I
went out and I got tutors. I got what's called a
TA, teaching assistants. I got master students. I go to PhD colloquiums where they're talking about this stuff. And I taught myself and eventually, suddenly I could write
the four pages in to say, instead of what would take me a week. I could write it in 20 minutes. You give me 20 minutes
to write about that. I could type it out. I could probably make something up. I barely remember it decades later because I know how to do it. But when you don't have those people that are there to help
you to move through it, what's happening is you're in the dark. Michael Jordan they say
he had like 10 coaches, most people have zero coaches. It must be they're better
than Jordan. Right? Typically the best people go and get help and they get around people. So our journey has not
only been doing masterminds with each other, but
also bringing in people. It's not uncommon that Julie
and I would pay $30,000 to get in somebody who
will spend two days with us to help us in the team. We don't think twice about it. Now that being said,
you know, if you're not as far along your journey, I'm not telling you that the
missing keys to global $30 on a corporate consultant,
you'd have to be an idiot. But as you move through
your life, when you're new, you want to gangster it out and create small mastermind groups for free with you and your friends. Later, as you move through life, you want to get mastermind groups, that's within your price range. Now, if you really want me to
blow your mind in business, say I live in LA, in business
there's groups in LA called EO, entrepreneurs organization. And those are mastermind
groups that you join. You pay to be a part of it and the money, what does the money? Do it acts as a, as what? What does the money do? What does it act as? It acts as a screen to get rid of people who aren't serious, there's
groups say, for example, Joe Paula, she's a marketing teacher. He has, what's called a 25K group and you're paying 25
k to get a mastermind. But what are you really paying the 20? It's just a mastermind group of people. Why do people want to join the 25K group? Now, if you're newer on
your journey, don't do that. That would be a very dumb move. Very dumb, it's not appropriate
for the level you're at, but for somebody at a very high level, why would they not join that group? If it was $100 not join that group. If it was $1000 and only would join that
group, if it's 25,000, Tony Robbins has a platinum
group for 65, 70,000 and people at a high level
financially only want to go to that seminar. What's the reasoning behind it. What do you think. It's to be a barrier to people
who aren't at that level. The idea of say a Rolex wash, what is it? It's basically saying you're
part of a club of people that can afford to buy that
Rolex system, GS marketing, to position themselves as those people. I'm not saying that you
should go buy Rolex watch, but what I am saying, do
whatever you want to life. But what I am saying is
that those screens exist. Like when you go to Brazil, a lot of those nit like say
you go to Lupas in Brazil, you got, who has ever been to Brazil? Okay, who has ever been a Lupas. Okay, little crazy. Now that was when I was
there could have changed since I've been there. Lupus is a bit of a shit show. Well the better clubs
cost 100 real to get in, 100 real, what does that
in us dollars, anyone know? Okay, well, whatever it is in
us dollars, what I was there, it was a lot, by the way, why do you not want to go to the club that you don't pay 100 real? Because at the club where
you pay the under real, you don't get stabbed. You don't want it cheaper. So in the same way that Joe
Polish guy has 100 K group, and I know friends of mine
that are entrepreneurs that don't want to join the group. It's not 100 K group because they need it as a filter. So when you do a
mastermind, when you're new, what you want to do say you're newer in your own financial journey, your own professional journey. Then what you do is you get
in masterminds for free. You find other people who
are committed to moving up and you do it for free together. Like Jude and I back when we all started, we didn't have a lot of cash. So we became each other's mastermind group and we push each other, Later, as we started to go up because of the work that we did in our mastermind group. Now, all of a sudden we
can bring in that guy who costs $30,000 to be a
mastermind group with us and to mentor us, then we make more money and we bring in more help. Now it's not just about help. You have to execute on that help. But ironically, when you paid the money for the fucking help, you wind up doing it. And this is what most people
do, who are successful. You want to talk Illuminati. That's basically what the
fucking Illuminati is. But the average person society doesn't know what a mastermind group is. So they think it's an Illuminati, sacrificing a fucking goat. Now, to be fair, I've never
been to that mastermind. So maybe they are, maybe
that's the step we're missing. We tried to sacrifice a few
goats, but nothing happened. It was just messy. He just to clean it up, you know, maybe the next goats, the charm, I don't know, you know, do a little pedigree around it and a goat. And like, you know, shit's, we're going to be joining the
a hundred K group next week. Once we got that goat. But to the average person
who doesn't know what a mastermind group is, they think it's an Illuminati with a goat. Cause they don't know what
a mastermind group is. So understand that you've got
to be creating these groups amongst yourself and do
it for free at first. And then later money, simply
a screen as you're moving up, you don't care about the money more cause you're in abundance. And now the money is
just a screen to keep up the people you don't want. It's not viewed as that. It's not viewed as your spending money. It's not viewed, the
money isn't the thing. The money is the wall. The money is the thing that
says, okay, we're good. This makes sure that
when I spend five hours talking to these people, it's
not the wrong influences. What percentage you guys flew in here? Put your hands up. That's an amazing mastermind
group you have right here. You know why? Because you flew in the comments on a YouTube
video is going to be like 50% just stupid because those
people aren't committed. So because they're not committed, they have nothing better to do than be like that's
nitpick, the fucking thing. I think I saw a silhouette
of Julian's Dick in the video and in his green pants. And it's so much larger and magnificent than I ever imagined. Right, well, there's
nothing wrong with that. In fact, that probably sounds a bit more entertaining
than actually being serious. But the point is like, what you do that it's not the
problem speculating on it. It's that when you're operating
at that level all the time, that's funny like does a joke. You know, if you're into it, but it's also, what's called
what opportunity costs say that with me, opportunity costs. So it's the time that you're
burning down focusing say sort of focusing on the wrong shit. Say that focusing on the wrong shit. Most people they have. What's called a miss waiting
bias, say a misreading bias, miss waiting bias. They're literally, they're sitting there. Derping around focusing on the wrong shit. And they're specifically
focusing on things that will lock them
deadlocked right into place. A mastermind group is
people that are saying, we're gonna create walls
outside of anybody. We got to get rid of
the people that aren't, that are focusing on the wrong shit. Not because we don't like them. Not because we don't respect them. Not because they're not awesome. People are hilarious. You don't later today. I want to have a look at that
silhouette of Julian's Dick. But for now I want to carve
out a little bit of time, not to look at the silhouette and I want to actually get paid money and be happier and reach my goals. Then once you reach your goals, so you can go look at silhouettes all day, you look at Campbell
toes, you can talk shit. You can be mad at the world. You can be a victim. You can look at the goats. You can do whatever you want, can speculate all day on the conspiracies and all the way you're
being taken advantage of while you're rich. Okay, get rich. Then come back and be a troll. Okay? You can be like, be like, I'm like Brian. from the 76 years. You know, he's trolling people
on Twitter while he's like a multimillionaire running
the 76 years he got fired. But at least he did it boy is rich. I really got nothing to say about it. I mean, he got fired,
probably not a smart move, but you know my point, right? Like Lisa's rich wise doing it. But if you're not where
you want to be in life, you've got to cordon off time and get around people that are going to put you that are going to
push you to that standard because you don't become
who you want or sorry, what is it you, you don't attract what you
want you to track what you are. You need to deliberately get around people who are moving the direction that you want to move up. In life you want to get around
people who are about a third. This is Ty. Lopez talks a lot about this. My friend, a third above you, a third around the level that you're at. And the third below you, you
never know how dumb you are. You never know what you don't know. When you look at all those
other dumb people, you know, all the other dumb people who you see, did it ever occur to you? You could be one of the dumb people. It never does. Right? Everybody thinks everybody else is dumb. How many people in the world you think like I'm the dumb one. Very rare, well, something's
wrong here, right? There's something clearly going on here. If no, one's the dumb one, but everyone thinks most people are dumb. Wait a minute. What if you're dumb? I'm not calling you dumb, but I'm kind of calling you dumb. And what I mean by dumb is just as a joke. But what I'm saying is
that you don't know what, you don't know what I was going through. You don't say 20 to 30 as an example. And I'm in the paradigm that I'm stuck in. I don't know there's another paradigm. I've never experienced anything else than that I don't know any better. So how did I get around it? I got around incredible mentors. I got around incredible peers and I taught and by making
a process of doing that, I was able to improve
the quality of my life. A huge amount. That doesn't mean that I'm there yet. There are so many things in
our business that we need to work on, improve that are really bad. There's a lot of areas
in even my dating life that I've got to get way better at. There's clearly areas of my health. I got improved. I'm not a perfect guy. I'm on my journey. Like any of you, I'm on
my journey, no different. I've got so many areas
that I've got to do better. That's not called false humble. That's called a brutal reality check. That's probably called not humble enough. What's cool though, is
that in this environment, I'm playing the teacher role right? In this environment, am the teacher. So I'm going to show you the stuff that I am pretty sure about. The areas that I am doing well then with Julian and
our personal mastermind, we're going to talk to each
other on a peer to peer level. Then when we go to the people
who we're learning from, they're going to just hammer us. So with Julian creates a group, for example, the Academy that is created, Julian's their hammer you, his coaches are there hammering you and their peers are they're hitting you up and you're helping other people. That's why he took that approach. You want to take any opportunity
like that, that you can, I'd urge you to do that. I would urge you to do the TM Academy. But in addition to that, I would also say you gotta be setting up these groups on your own. All the time. I only did our team to get that group. I only did it when I was first teaching. Let's say that I had
three students paying me, you know, let's call it $10, three students just to
make it easy number one, would bring in other teachers. It wasn't like I had enough demand to get $20 and take part of their check. Usually I would give up my students. I would teach less. I just run around promoting to help them. Why did I do that? Because I needed a mastermind. I've invested in my
life just to get around the right people, 30, 40, $50 million. Why do you think that I made
all these YouTube videos and put them online. I'm like, motherfucker, I probably spent 30, 40, $50 million to learn from my peers. I don't want to just die. And for all that information to be gone. So to put that shit on YouTube now ironically, the
average person watching her sow on YouTube, doesn't pay for it. So they're like just fucking I'm stupid. They don't get it, cause they pay nothing. They have nothing invested. They're not a qualified
person to learn from it. But for somebody who is determined to learn from that material, that's why when we walked down the street, guys come up to us, crying every day, people come up to me and they just start
bawling their eyes out. I'm like, dude, chill. I'm kind of stupid. But they're like, no, that makes me like you. The more that you said that I'm like, no, I'm kind of stupid. But they say that and they're just crying
their eyes out, why? Because that's not the people
who it wasn't meant for them. There's a lot of people
it's not meant for them, but for the people who
it is meant for them, they saw that we went out, became, here's what we did. We went to the best people. First, we became a mastermind ourselves. As we got more money, we went to the best people. We take ideas that we get from the very best people in the world. We take our ideas from our group and we teach. And this is a big one. We take the ideas that
we get while teaching. And then we package those into videos and put them online for you. Then from there, when you want to go and get around people who
want to be inside that wall, when you just want to
get inside the boundary of good people, that's where things
like TM Academy come in because we can make all the
free videos that we want. But unfortunately, the only
way that we could cordon off the people on YouTube is if we didn't show the video, that would make any sense. I mean, I suppose we could make some like teaser video and say, you have to go through
a questionnaire to get in, I guess, or something. But things like groups,
you're creating a boundary. So it's important to join
things like team Academy, because it creates a boundary
of people who aren't serious and will distract you and will essentially, it's like if you're living in a country and there's no boundaries or border in that country. And the place is just a crap hole because it's just being run a muck. You want to have boundaries. I'm the first guy that wants to go to the expensive club in Vegas because I don't need a
bunch of idiots in there. When you go to, I mean,
this is sort of a weird one, but take Equinox. You guys know what Equinox gym is. Okay, it's a very expensive gym. It's a couple $100 a month. You can go to LA fitness for 39 a month. You can go to Equinox for 225. You may not be aware of this. The equipment at LA fitness, the most ones I've been
to is actually an Equinox. The Equinox equipment's cleaner. They use keel shampoo, but that's about it. I mean, I literally don't
see the difference in Equinox from LA fitness. In fact, LA fitness had better
hours than Equinox does, but you want to know why you go to Equinox? Because when I went into LA fitness, I had regular altercations. It was not uncommon. The guys would just walk by me. They just walk right through me and bumped me off to the side. Some guy on steroids, he
just mad at the world. He would just walk through,
blow me over to the side. I'm like, dude, what are you doing? He is like get off my
way, I'm on the juice. I'm like, okay guys,
yelling at each other. The reason that both
Joe and I go to Equinox is just it's chill. Like people there don't fuck around. If someone's acting the
fool, the sound's like, you, can you show the
like, yes, there's this. They chill because they're
just getting better people. It's just a boundary. I don't even think you
got to go to Equinox. Actually, sometimes I think it's kind of cool to be
around just the regular people and just to be around a little
bit of conflict and stuff, but there's you got to pick your spots. I may wind up going back to LA fitness. Sometimes I miss the idiots. Let's just jam you to
the side in a weird way. I'm like, that was the real world. You know, it's kind of like
connects to the real world, but I mean, why do people
live in say a gated community? It's to keep out idiots. So as you move up in the world, you have to realize you've
got to keep out idiots. Things like a suit. Like when you're super rich, what do you have to buy security guards? Why do you get security guards? Because if you're super rich, idiots are gonna come try to kidnap you. So you're paying security
to create a boundary. Mastermind groups are
essentially a boundary to get it to where you're not dealing with the type of people who
are going to distract you and burn down your opportunity cost. So you're at a point where
it's it's about your time. Now, when you're new, say
you're earlier in your career, you've gotta be very choosy because you're going to
do something for free. Get the right people, pick people here who will get around you. There's there is several
multi-millionaires who have met at summit and built businesses at
summit that we've seen. You've got a great group of
people right here in this room. So pick the right people and then in areas where
you want to get better, join those groups. I've joined EO, I've
joined the summit series, which was the craziest mastermind group. I mean, good God. I'm sitting there with heads
of countries, business owners. I mean talk about like
many of these top tech guys I hang out with. You guys have probably seen my screams where you see me hanging out
with tech billionaires things. These are people who I met
in those massive microbes. That's how you meet them. You don't just meet them by
like hanging with celebrities. You go to mastermind groups, you meet these people as peers, the bat, when you go to these groups, people will automatically
associate themselves with you because they assume that you're legit and people want to invest in. They want to engage. So we've spent a lot of
money on these groups, but like I told you, it's a come up. We start off, we didn't have
a dollar to spend with them. And him met during the economic recession. We would drive to Phoenix
from LA we'd had his, his car had no air conditioning. I was flat broke. So he would drive in
the middle of the night with no air conditioning. Because as soon as the sun
would come up, we would die. Anyway, anybody ever drive
in Phoenix in the summer, it's going to fucking kill you. We saw a very beautiful sunrise that trip. And then as we got in
the sun start to come up and we almost died. We're flat broke. So we became a mastermind with each other. And with other instructors
that you see here, and I'd been doing that
for a while at that point, hustling it out later,
as I got more successful, I joined things like EO seven series later as I got more successful, we got better tutors to come in. More help, so what you want to do the way you're going to do this is you're gonna raise
your earning potential. And as you raise your earning potential, you're going to join
better and better groups. So I would never say to
somebody who's flat broke, Oh, you know, go join the 25K group. That would be the dumbest
movie you could ever do. There's an appropriate point in your life where that makes sense. There's a point that
you're out of your life. We're joining a group
like that makes sense because the amount that you'll save, like the amount of money that
you'll save or the amount of extra money you'll earn, like for most of those guys
say in the a hundred K group, they're going to make an extra
five or 10 million that year. So it's no issue to
create a quick boundary for a hundred K to get
the other people out. And then for, and to get those tips and then move up when you're new, you're younger or whatever age you're at, when you're on your come up, that's where you got to
find the right peers. People come to me all the time, they're like, how do I get like in your mastermind group with like you know, with Julianne and with Derek and with all
your homies, I'm like you don't. Yeah, but I want to, I
want to roll with you guys. I'm like, you don't, no, but I want to roll with you guys. How do I just roll with you? You don't well, why not? Because we didn't. The way that we did it was
we came together as a group. We had our come up and now as we've had our come up, all those high status people
that we couldn't get at before, as we're coming up are
like, wait a minute. I want to hang out. Not all of them at a
lot of them were like, we want to hang out with you now. Now we wanna link up with you guys. So it's a process of getting around those right mental frequencies to get around people that are
focused on the right things. People that aren't
wasting opportunity costs people that aren't, derping around people that are more positive. People that are focused
on what actually matters. People that are focused on impact. And as you get around that, it becomes your general way of being. Now, if you want to get around a guy like Julian ball joined
the Academy, do that later. As you, as you're on your come-up someday, he's going to be chasing
you to hang out with you. And that shit actually happens to us. We can't get out as Castro
to call us back, you know? Right, I mean, we can, but he doesn't have a sympathy. So, right cause Alex is a guy
who we mentored now, Alex, he's fucking killing it. We gotta go chase him for his time. That's how it works. Max came up at RSD back in the day. He's like little dorky max. Now, max is fucking crushing it. We're like, hey max, can we get a tip on the latest clickbait or whatever it is, right? Oh, how the times have changed. So, you know, so you, as you move up, the dynamic shifts where
people are chasing you now, and it's all about
hustling all about shifting your inner game and all about getting
around the right people. And again, people who you look up to people who you're peers with and people who you are teaching. - If it's just you and yourself, it's so easy to Slack off and not do it. Like say you have a commitment. It's like, I'm going to
go to the gym tomorrow, in the moment you're all psyched. But then tomorrow comes,
you're like, I could go. I could not go. And no one would find out,
except for me, it's fine. But if someone's on the line, even if it's like your ego running, you it's like someone knows about it. Your ego would be like, I can not look like a fucking
idiot in front of that person. I got to go now. So you have to involve other people. If it's just you, it's so easy to just stay stuck. For me before a typical day would often revolve in
massive overthinking over analyzing, over worrying and over self attacking where, you know, 90% of my day, those were the thoughts I had. And I'd ask you right now. Are those the thoughts you have? Do you spend most of your day, just worrying for
example, about the future. Am I going to be okay, financial worry. Am I going to have enough money? What about this? Am I gonna be able to support for myself? Am I going to find the answers? Find the solutions? Just nonstop, worry. What do people think of me
walking down the street? Oh my God, did the strangers
think negatively of me? What do my friends think of me every day? What do does my partner think of me? What does my family think of me? What does my boss think of me? What about my colleagues? What do they think of me? Am I good enough? Oh my God. What if they just negative me? Oh my God. Just nonstop on repeat self attack. Why did I do that? Why am I like this? Why am I not smart enough? Why am I not good enough? Why do I keep fucking up? God damn it. You piece of shit, non stop. Why do I look like this? What is my life this way? Why am I so stuck? Why am I not living up
to my full potential? Why do people keep leaving me? Why do people keep betraying me? That was most of the
mental energy going on. And then of course I had
nothing left to focus on opportunities because
everything was just going there. I would get triggered all the time. Something would happen and I would just be gone. Like God damages, something would run me triggered when it comes to anxiety, couldn't say hi to people can put myself out there. I wanted to speak up. I wanted to express myself, but I just couldn't. And I just couldn't explain it. I was constantly living in reaction. I had no idea what I wanted to do in life, who I wanted to be just lost. You might feel the same, like, Hey, what do you want to do in life? I dunno, I'm just kind of winging it. I'm just trying this,
that I have no purpose. I would procrastinate all the time. I'd self sabotage all the time. Anything that was thrown on me, I would find a way to lose it. Whether it was friendships, relationships, money, health, I mean, it was absolutely insane. And I would just stay stuck. And as the years would go by, you could try to like crawl out. But that stuckness would remain until I started getting
into this type of work. And as soon as I did, I mean, the first big notice is
just that self-sabotage we try so hard to make success happen. But if you just remove pushing it away and allowing it to land things change in ways, you cannot imagine whether it's in terms of your income, your health, your relationships. The example I like to
use is the compliment. You know, most people,
when they get complimented, they don't even notice it as a compliment. They take it as a sarcastic insult, or if they start moving up,
they'll take the compliment. But then deflect like, Oh,
whatever, it's nothing. They can't let it land. If that's you go beyond a compliment, how many opportunities
are you not even seeing how many opportunities are
right there in front of you? I'm sure you've heard this before. Like the world is filled
with opportunities. They're like, well, where are they? - Where is it? - Self sabotage guys, past trauma running, you getting triggered, unable to put yourself out there at all. You let go of that. Instead of trying to find
techniques to fight against it, you just don't have it so much more energy, as opposed to just being
run self attacking, worrying, trying to cope with yourself, just allowing yourself
to experience more joy. And you start resonating with things that start pulling you up, as opposed to pulling you down, whether it's distractions,
trying to numb yourself, drinks, TV stuff, mainstream, like the things the masses do. They're just kind of numb your brain. You stop resonating with that. You don't have to make
yourself like resist it. You just are no longer attracted to that. And you start moving up, you start getting smarter, more creative. You become a genius or what
some would consider a genius in a way, the results
are just out of this. - Yeah, I mean, even hearing
you talking about this, it, I'm actually weirdly, even though I see this every
day we teach all the time, I'm like emotionally affected by it. I'm like, I'm thinking of this. I'm like, like, this
is the best shit, man. Because I grew up in it myself, I can remember being a kid. And I mean, this is kind of funny. I would try to learn how to drink beer because I wanted to fit in with other people who were drinking beer. I wasn't never a big drinker, but I had my little phase
where I tried to learn how to drink alcohol. I shouldn't think this
tastes like gasoline or, I mean, this is kind of like, yeah, some kind of weird random examples, but I remember seeing these
Garfield toys at McDonald's and it was, there was a cartoon
for these Garfield toys. There's these four different
Garfield twists like skateboard and a surfboard or something. And I remember thinking like, I want to get this little
plastic, $0.5 Garfield toy and play with it and think it's cool. I wanna get drunk in high school and think it's cool. I wanna laugh at the dumb
jokes that my kids have at, in my classes and think it's cool. And I remember even asking
my father like, dad, you like work. And he's like, no, I hate work. I'm like, well, is it better than school? He's like, no, it's not
even better than school. And I really wasn't that into school. The stuff that I was learning
in the education system, and then hearing my father say that work wasn't really much better. He had a good job. I didn't even anticipate to
make as much of an income as my dad had. So I'm looking at that. I'm thinking, man, life is not good. - You're just, years of your. - Yeah, and it bothered me because I was literally
coming from a place where I had thoughts of
suicide when I was younger because of the fact that
I couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. I couldn't see how this journey was gonna result in anything. And I see this so much with
people who we interact with and try to help where
they don't like their job. They're unhappy, they're
being run by trauma. They're triggered a big
one that we've covered is during the, in the competitive frame, rather than collaborative frame, you can see how stifled they are, how their mind isn't working properly. And what we see as coaches
is infinite potential. We see every single client
that we've ever worked with, making the kind of
money they want to make, meeting the kind of
people they want to make, being an attractive person and being able to attract a partner in a very, very, very effective way. We see them smiling, we see them laughing. We see that potential. But of course, when the person starting they're often don't laugh that
much, don't smile that much, and their mind is suppressing them. Now the base your key here is that when you're in this kind of lower state that the monotony of the
boring commute to work, the uninspiring job,
the lack of direction, when you're in that
kind of dirt state, it, you've got to get it off of yourself. You've got to shake this off and you got to make this
a major, major priority. Now I'm just gonna give
you a very simple example, but maybe if you watch
videos from Julian, myself, or other people who we work with, you might find it strange
that we always have a lot of new content, which we
seem to seemingly it, we just come up with it off the dome. We don't even have to
prepare it in many cases. And we're able to have
an incredible output. You see us doing this with
products that we launched, with free videos that we do, with courses that we create,
with work that we do. And also the incredible results
that we're able to produce with the people who take our programs. And you're thinking, where
are they coming up with this? How are they doing it? When you begin to wake up, you won't find your work as tiring. You won't find it exhausting to go and meet people and socialize. You'll find it fun. You'll find it enlivening. You'll find it exciting
to go work a 12 hour day. You won't get sick as frequently because you don't have as much cortisol and adrenaline bogging
you down and frustrations and most important, your short
life experience on this earth becomes more fun. Now the major thing here
again is that waking up from the dirt state, and you can really see
this with people based on if you take a freeze frame of their face and you look at them and you can see, these are some frequent things
that I see when people are kind of being bogged down, they
have a deadness in the eyes. Also look at how often they laugh, look at how often they smile, look at how often they're
playful or childlike. What is the purpose? Even if you are within the matrix and you make all the money in the world or met a great many, many great partners or whatever it is, let's
say that you did all that. What is even the purpose of that if you're not gonna be smiling
and laughing, essentially, you're just going through the motions in some kind of sociopathic manner, not even able to let land or enjoy the good things
that are happening. So much of being in the
matrix is an illusion. It is not satisfying. Here's what is satisfying. Okay, you think that just getting a car or getting some kind of physical pleasure, or something satisfying, it's satisfying for a minutes, and then it gets old quick. You ever had it where you got a new TV. That was a lot bigger than
LTV used to have a 14 inch TV. You got a 60 inch TV. And for the first five minutes, I'm like, look at this,
look at this amazing TV. And then later it just becomes normal. You've lost the excitement
for the television. If you get a new partner, you're completely in bliss with them for the first few months. Later, you can't stand each other because you've both gone
back into that state that you're used to being in. Maybe you get a new job and then you adjust your income. And then now you just
have bigger bills bills. This is all too common, real satisfaction, waking up for the matrix. It means a couple of different things. First of all, it means
that you are more crescent to the moment and alerts. So therefore you're able
to see opportunities that are in front of you. Maybe you have an incredible
money-making opportunity or incredible opportunity
to meet somebody, you're more likely to
resonate with going after it and getting that done, having some kind of benefit from it. Maybe you're more able to be healthy because the fact that you're
not attacking yourself psychologically, they've
proven that even placebo pills can get rid of illness
and around half of cases. Well, why is that? It's because just the feeling that you're getting healed alone, often a placebo winds up fixing somebody, which is pretty messed up to think about, well, ask yourself, are you giving yourself like a fake poison killing your body every day, or you're giving yourself
that kind of like feeling of happiness everyday. How's that gonna affect
your physical health, your mental health also, it's
who you become in the process. It's when you think about who you are, that you're proud of that person, that alone is perhaps worth
more than any of this stuff. Simply being proud of who
you are as a human being. When you look in the mirror, do you smile and feel proud of it, or do you feel like you never really achieved your potential? And you're just kind of messed up. So that is a big aspects, but from there, and this is really, really big is that as you let go of trauma energy, of denseness, of dirtiness,
as the, as you let go of that, the extra energy that you have
to get more done, winds up, making your life better. But of course, because you've woken up, you're also able to enjoy it more. So not only are you making more money, you're enjoying it more. How about as far as socializing? Look, let's say that you're at a bar club and there's a million people there. Well, when you've woken up and you're not in this
fear state of competition, you're in a collaborative
state where it feels like everybody's your friend. It becomes easier to go
about meeting people. You might've getting better results. So not only is it easier to meet people, but then you're happier because you met cooler people and brought them into your life. And you could have more pleasure and experiences with that. Likewise, maybe you look at, should I eat something that
has nutritional density to it, or should I eat something
that's gonna mess me up? And all of a sudden, when you start to resonate
with self-respect, maybe you want to take
those weird eastern herbs or eat the kale that day, rather than doing
something to harm yourself like drugs and alcohol, because of the fact that
you have that self respect, you don't even have to try to do that. It's something that you
naturally resonate with. And most of all, it's that you don't
start sabotaging yourself because most of what people are doing is just continual utter self sabotage. And when you can wake up from that, oftentimes success just comes to you. So you want to be about
raising yourself and waking up, and you also want to be results oriented. Here's what's funny. Being results oriented and waking up are the same thing. It's a matter of making it easier, entering into a energetic reality where things come more easily and you enjoy them more easily, where you're actually
aligned with what you're here and meant to do. And because you're aligned with it, you do better at it. And it's more fun to do. And it's easier. So this is something that we've witnessed from working with people for years and dating advice. We would certainly wait and say, with guys sabotage themselves to no end. And then they'd be in
this kind of negative, dense reality meeting a million tricks to figure out how to get
the solution they want, because they're in such a dense reality. Some guy walker kind of negative, no one wants to talk to him as he thinks he needs a million tricks. But then we also have
seen this in the fields of moneymaking, health, wealth,
relationship, higher purpose, all of it. And this is where the solution
of waking up begins to come. - Yeah, I mean, self
sabotage is definitely one of the biggest,
let's just say, factors or even motivators to get into this. I mean, when you see it, it's easier to see it in others at first, but then you turn around and you're like, where am I doing this? Like start noticing, like,
why am I pushing things away? Why am I making things
harder than they need be? You know, it's like just
coming up with problems you don't have to have. And then needing tricks and
solutions and more and more hustle and work and efforts
trying to kit yourself that it's making progress when you're
just making things harder. You know, not only that, but you're not enjoying your life. Like how often do you smile? How often do you laugh? Those are some questions to ask yourself. Like, if you didn't laugh
today, you're fucking up. Is that success being all serious? You know, there was a quote somewhere. I remember reading where it's like, you can hustle all you want, but you know, what's even better and gets you more results than just putting your head down and hustling and becoming a
negative, fuck being friendly. And like you said, it's not
just about sitting there and just being happy. It's about coming at it from
this foundation of you being happy and no longer to self
attacking, wasting energy. And then from there fucking thriving. And the cool thing is you get the results and you enjoy them. It was, he said, if you're
not enjoying the results, those are not results. If you're just getting the
thing to get the thing. And then you're like, ugh, I'm
still the same shitty person, I guess it's. But I heard it's good. Maybe more of it, that's not results. You're chasing Phantoms. You're wasting your life away. If you're not enjoying
your life right now, you're not living. You're wasting your life away. And as you said, take a freeze frame, do an audit on your life, where the people around you, who are the people you're looking up to. Remember this, pause the video. If you're listening to
someone's like, hey results. And you pause it. And they look absolutely horrible. They're never laughing, never smiling. It's just like, this, is that a role model, is that results or those the wrong kind of results. - I wanna get you thinking
about your perfect day would look like, okay. So compared to now, you've
done an audit of the places now where you're kind of asleep and plugged into the matrix. And I want you to imagine what your perfect day would look like. So even if I just think
about it for myself, I wake up and I feel well rested because my body has a lot of healthy foods that's been put into it. I'm ready to get to work. I'm excited because I love what I do. Why do I love what I do? Because I found something
where I've woken up and I've figured out what
aligns to me personally. So I'm excited to get to work. And when I go to work, I
find that I have more energy than almost anyone that I've seen. I have an unlimited
energy to get things done. I'm able to see subtlety. I'm able to see what really has to happen. And I'm really able to just
smash out task after task without really worrying about it too much. And this doesn't mean that I'm like this every day in my life. It doesn't mean that are not problems, but at least this is the
default where it's the case most of the time. I'm also laughing through
my work a lot of time, I'm enjoying it. I'm seeing the childlike humor
in what it is that I'm doing. Maybe I go out that day and I go do something that I really enjoy. Maybe I have a partner
who I go meet up with and have a really, really incredible intimate experience with them. And it is good, okay. It's very good. From there maybe I go out that night and I go do something that
really resonates with me personally, a hobby that I
have that I absolutely love it. And have a great time doing it. At the end of the day, maybe
I go out to a bar or club or somewhere where
there's a lot of people, wherever that is. And I wind up talking to everybody and have a great time with people. It doesn't cause me nervousness, but I truly enjoy it. All the while I've been reading books, doing meditation,
growing, getting smarter, getting a stronger immune
system, making more distinctions, growing in my personal power and getting more present
to the moment by the day, everything is getting easier for me, even though I'm accomplishing
more, I'm clear in my intent and who I am and how to manifest and push through that
power out into the world, rather than just being
hammered with influences. I am the influence. And from that on pre-planning,
many longterm goals that will give me true satisfaction. Make me laugh, make me have more fun. And the really big part here
is that it's synergistic. So the fun feeds in the work,
the work feeds in the fund, the food feeds into you
being able to do more work. The intimacy that you have with people feeds into your desire to
continue to move forward, to be more social, being more social helps you to meet people who could help you with work and you're expanding and expanding. And from there, you're also
learning to let go of it all because someday you're gonna have to die. And for that reason, you're
also on an inward journey where you're finding
out who you really are, even beyond all of this,
you're results oriented, but you're also waking up internally as you achieve the results. So that's just a simple example of what waking up can mean to me. You're not running off of
somebody else's scraps. You're not being fooled. You're not having a life
where at the end of it, you're like, man, I really
wish I would have had that. You've woken up from the trance of being pulled around like a puppet. And you are living a
life that is true to you. You have the power to do this, and there's so many tools
out there to help you get to that point and your destination. But of course, it's a journey because for Jun, for myself, as much as we've been on the journey, it gets better and better every year. If anybody tells you
they come and lightened or anything like that, I
really know about that, but they say they're on the journey and they're improving. They wanna show you how you
could walk along that journey. And you know, maybe they're
a little further up the road and kind of provide you
with tools, blueprints maps, methods, to get there
faster, to wake you up and to really show you what's possible. I think that's a beautiful thing. But try to show you here in this video, hope that you enjoyed it very, very much. We want you to wake up, wake up, wake up. - What are waiting for? - What are you waiting for? Because the whole world is
out there for you to enjoy. And we'll see you soon, peace. (soft music) - This is Julian and welcome
to Transformation Mastery. - It was fucking amazing. - This was huge for me. - I mean this was so, so important. - This gave me by far the
criticism I've ever had. - It just made me finally
confront my deepest fears. - And we got like real deep and I found some issues within myself. - One of the best things
I've seen so far life. - What you're about to experience
going through this program is what completely changed my
life on every single level. Okay, be it health, wealth,
relationships, higher purpose. You name it. This is a stuff that
finally, finally produced that true long lasting
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