- How would you share a baby? - Well... I would say, I'm the girl, you should let me get the baby! (audience laughs) (peaceful upbeat music) - Hello. - Hi. - Hi, I'm Malachi. - Hey, nice to meet you. - Nice to meet you. - My name is Kalen. - My name is Logan. - I'm Nathan, nice to meet you both. - What is your job? - I am a divorce attorney. - What do you mainly do? - I mainly help people get divorces. - Wait so, are you a divorced lawyer? - Am I a divorced lawyer? - Yeah. - I am both a divorce lawyer that is a lawyer who
practices divorce law, and I am also incidentally
a divorced lawyer, I had been married and
am no longer. (laughs) - Do you know what divorce is? - ...No? - Do you know anybody
with a stepmom or stepdad? - My cousin, because
her parents broke apart. - Right, and that's what divorce is, it's when two people
who were married decide, at least one of them, decide that they don't
want to be married anymore and so they unmarry each other. - I don't understand why
anyone would need a lawyer when they wanna, when
people wanna be divorced. - When people get married, one of the things that happens there is that they're entering
into a legal agreement with the government to
do things certain ways, mostly having to do with money. How do we divide the money? Right, two people are married for awhile, they've got however much money that they've saved up
and put together, - Yeah. - And all this stuff, and
how do we divide that up? What do your parents share
as part of being married? - They share love, they
share drinks together, they share me. (laughs) - Wait, what if the same
person wants the same baby? What would you do? - What I would do is I would
help at least one of them figure out how the baby could be shared in a way that is best for the baby. - What about like holidays,
like Christmas? - Yeah. - Or Thanksgiving? - Especially Halloween. - Usually they take turns so
one year the kids would be with one parent and the next year they'd be with the other parent. In some very special cases parents still get along well enough and they family will still
do holidays together. How would you share a baby? - Well...I would say I'm the girl, you should let me get the baby. (audience laughs) - You know that's a pretty common approach to the circumstance in my experience. - Yeah. - [Interviewer] So you think the girl should always get the kids? - I would get the baby for 50 years, and then the other person would
get the baby for one year. - You imagine yourself taking
care of the baby for 50 years? - Mm... yep! - How old will the baby
be at the end of that? - I have no idea. (audience laughs) - When parents get
divorced do kids have a say in like which parent they
go with or how often? - Technically, no not really. We really try to keep kids
out of the position of having to feel like they're choosing
between their parents. - If that happened, I could not decide. - Do either of you know anybody whose parents have had a divorce? - My grandma and my grandpa and my other grandmam and grandpa. - My mom says it was like bad. - You know my parents were also divorced when I was I think sixteen? It was pretty bad, it's a pretty unpleasant
experience a lot of the time, but it doesn't have to be. - What is the most
common cause of divorce? - Usually just one person if I'm honest, just doesn't really, just
isn't feeling it anymore. - What if one parent wants to be divorced but the other one doesn't. - That's a good question. - Oh. - Usually those are really extra hard. A lot of times the person
who doesn't want the divorce will be a lot angrier
about the divorce happening and people can do some
pretty mean things sometimes when they're feeling
angry and hurt like that. - Do you have to break up
people when they're fighting? - I have come close twice, but no, I've never actually had to do that. If people are having that
much trouble getting along, we usually keep them out of the same room. - What's the weirdest thing people have fought over when they got divorced? - The weirdest thing is pets. They had a big fight over a snake once. - A snake? - A snake. And they both were arguing about who took more care of the snake and who fed the snake more often, they couldn't even agree
on who bought the snake in the first place, they wouldn't let, it almost- we had an agreement in place, for this stupid snake; this
happens absurdly frequently. - What are all the steps from
the beginning of a divorce all the way til like, all divorced? - The first thing is you gotta
decide you want a divorce, and then at least one person has to file a petition for a divorce, and then you have to get
a set of temporary orders which would mean a
temporary parenting plan, findings of fact and
conclusions of law document, they'll be a final parenting plan, a final child support
order with worksheets. Sometimes you have an attorney
certificate of compliance, if you had to do that but that's also just for settled and agreed cases. I think that's it. (audience laughs) Oh I forgot about the trial
brief, you need a trial brief. - Wow. (laughs) - Is it worth all that? Like confusion. - That is a really, really good question. That is one of the reasons
I think that so many people, including myself, I work very, very hard to try to keep people from
having to do all of that. - So what do you guys
think about marriage, think you'd ever get married? - Right now, not hoping for
it, but I probably will. - Yeah how come, why do you think that? - Because that's what
happens with everyone. (audience laughs)
