IT'S OVER! 7 Red Flags Signalling The End of a Relationship

[Music] them [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] hello and welcome to let's talk with bishop r.c blakes rc is an author empowerment teacher and the proud pastor of the new home ministries of new orleans louisiana and houston texas his message circles the globe his conversational and candid approach to challenging content makes him a relevant voice to all generations get ready for a life-changing transformational conversation [Music] hey hey this is rc blakes and thank you so much for tuning in today i am so excited about our discussion today um i'd love for you to invite some people to come in and to be a part of our conversation because i i think this one is is needful i i get a lot of uh i get a lot of questions relative to you know relationships of course but more specifically relating to relationships that uh are over you know and for whatever reason people feel uh compelled to to hang in there for religious reasons for personal responsibility reasons for um in the purposes of you know maintaining your circle you know the two of you shared the same circle and you you're trying to just piece this thing together and make this thing work and you know the reality is it's over it's over you know ray charles can see that it's it's over and and you're holding on to it because you don't want to feel like you're disappointing you know god you don't want to feel like you're disappointing your family your children and all of this and you're hanging on to this stuff for everything but yourself now don't get me wrong relationships are work marriage more specifically is work and marriage requires that we go overboard and that we do our you know very best personally to make that thing work the two of you have to come together to actually make a marriage work one person can't do it we have uh different religious perspectives on the situation you know some people are so legalistic and you know other people are so carefree that they've diluted the the whole uh concept of marriage being covenant but at the end of the day when it all boils down you're going to have to be wise enough to be able to determine if this thing is over or not because sometimes you're trying to resuscitate you know a dead horse i don't care how much you compress the chest and try to breathe in the horse's mouth and nostrils i know that's a horrible visual there uh the horse is dead you know i mean you may be heartbroken you may be sick about it you may be disappointed you may feel like a failure but when you get through with all of these emotions and all of these feelings it's still dead and the sooner you accept that this is over and then begin to chart your next okay it's over for whatever reason maybe i messed up maybe i killed the relationship and you know i need to apologize to the person if they will receive it but i need to repent before god but whatever the case it's over it's done it's finished now i need to move forward with my life because that's over listen to what the bible says in ecclesiastes chapter 3 verses 1 through 6 it says to everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven time to be born in a time to die a time to plant and the time to pluck up that which is planted a time to kill and a time to heal a time to break down and a time to build up a time to weep the time to laugh for time to mourn and the time to dance a time to cast away stones and the time to gather stones together a time to embrace and the time to refrain from embracing a time to get and a time to lose a time to keep and the time to cast away life is a seesaw there are seasons that we win seasons that we lose seasons that we get seasons that we have to cast away and they're they're unfortunately most of the relationships in our lives are are going to be seasonal you know and have expiration dates on it most of you that are watching me right now can testify that you had at least one other relationship that you thought was going to go the distance but you discovered that it had an expiration date on it and the worst thing to do is to come to the point where you've surpassed the expiration date and yet you're trying to make it work anyway it's like me you know i spend a lot of time prior to covet 19 i would spend a lot of time away from my wife when i would travel a lot and moving back and forth from louisiana to texas and back and forth and so there are days that i didn't have my wife around i don't know how to cook and they're nights that you know i i don't want to go to a restaurant i don't you know so i just have cereal and i'll have milk well the problem is that when you travel as much as i used to travel there are times that you bought the milk you know this day but you're leaving tomorrow and the next time you're going to actually see the milk is like three weeks from from that point you're not you know at least me i'm not thinking about you know my travel schedule so when i get back and i'm getting settled and i'm in the bed and i got my cereal now pour that milk in there and that milk is spoiled and then i read the date and it says well it expired seven days ago well you can't try to make that milk good i don't care how disappointed i don't care what your intentions were well you know i i i intended on and i had you cannot make that milk good you have to accept that the milk is expired i'm either not going to eat cereal tonight or i'm going to just consume all of this bad milk and probably get sick or i'm going to go and get a proper gallon of milk that is within the proper time frame well if that wisdom applies to something as negligible as as milk and cereal how much more must that apply to relationships it's a bad thing to be out here in a relationship that's over and you still in there you know you're the only one that's clueless relative to this the fact that this thing is over you can ask your babies they can tell you it's over go ask your children right now they can say oh that's over man that's that's been over about two years now i don't know what you're hanging on for your children can tell you it's over yeah pops yeah that chick don't want you for nothing but your money that that's been overdocked you know well let's look at some things tonight today whenever you're watching this that i just believe are some common sense signals red flags if you would that this thing is over number one you've said some things or both of you have said some things to demean or humiliate each other you've intentionally said some things to demean or humiliate each other you you cannot unsay or unhear words that were spoken with the intent of injuring see now people in relationships you know are very sensitive to one another because typically there's a lot invested there's a lot on the line and there's a lot of love involved but when a relationship has become so toxic that one or both intentionally use their use his or her words to injure the other in terms of self-esteem you know self-perspective just you know using words like like a knife or a gun it's it's going to be hard to come back from that you know lisa and i have had arguments and you know i mean that's just the part that's a part of being in a relationship but neither of us has ever said in all of the years we've been together something that the other had to come back and get clarity on you know puzzled by why you said that neither of us has ever said anything to intentionally demean or diminish or injure the esteem of the other you know we might be arguing about what you was wrong and i was right y'all said this and you didn't say that yeah you did say but never something that causes the other to pause and look and listen intently because the words are so injurious and there are some of you who are in situations right now where the two of you are constantly throwing blows at one another shooting words at one another like like arrows from a bow constantly and then you want to know is this over or not can we make a run of this i think when you've said when you've said so much stuff that you know the other person's chemist that it's changed the chemistry of the relationship or both of you have been changed and the other person can't look at you without being hurt um i think it's over i really do i mean unless you all i mean you have to do a lot of personal changing the other person is gonna have to do a lot of intentional or both of you may have to do a lot of intentional forgiving and even after all of that you know once you've said certain things it's going to be hard to dial that thing back and bring that thing back to the chemistry that you once knew it's going to be very very difficult this is why the bible says you have to be swift to hear slow to speak and slow to get angry because once you say these words you can't unsay them once you say certain things to a woman she can't unhear it you can't unsay it once you say certain things to a man and women typically use words a lot to break a man down because you can't compare physically in most cases so women many times fight with words but once you break a man's spirit with your words it's going to be impossible for him to unhear what you said now you know god can do all things but i think this is a case where you will really truly need god to intervene listen to what the bible says here in luke 6 4 6 and 45 it says a good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil for the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh here's the here's here's the kicker you said it i was angry well you said it now anger might be the thing that put pulled the lid off of your heart but that was in your heart and that's the way you know your partner is go is going to look at words that just come out of your mouth that are constantly demeaning diminishing humiliating and breaking them these things must be in your heart and then you have to stop and you have to ask yourself you know why am i trying to preserve this thing if this is where my heart really is if i really believe that this person is stupid and worthless and unattractive and and all of these kinds of things that you say when you get angry why why am i still here because it came out of your mouth i mean lisa and i have been together for you know marathon 27 i think it is and been together for 30 plus and she's never said anything to me that you know makes me and she's gotten angry with me and i've never said anything to her that that makes her question my love for her or the sincerity of my affections because that's never been in my heart that's never been in her heart and so if if you all are constantly saying things to you know berate destroy each other you have to ask yourself where is this coming from why are we in such a toxic position and why are we trying to preserve something that is clearly dysfunctional and listen to what the bible says in proverbs 16 27 28 says an ungodly man diggeth up evil and in his lips there's a there is as a burning fire a forward man soweth strife and a whisperer separated chief friends but he says he digs up evil there are some relationships that you all have where it's like you take the other persons or they take your failures or both of you all do it to each other and you store it away waiting for the next opportunity to use this against one another it's over babe it's over well we're staying together for the children what are you trying to do for the children you trying to teach the children how uh to create dysfunctional lives and what a dysfunctional relationship looks like are you trying to traumatize the children with all of this chaos going on between two people who probably should have never been together making children in the beginning i mean uh you know i mean you got to make up your own mind but i think that when when when words are you know thrown around that are destroying one another and when you know when it's just constantly and it's just intentional it's not misunderstandings this stuff is intentional and it's clear that you you threw this you know word out here this phrase out of you brought this up because you wanted to destroy my spirit why why why why are we doing this number two it's over number two you've begged you've begged beg begged and they have not responded to you favorably it's over i don't care how much you you think you love them you you begging i mean you just literally out here begging somebody i mean you just out here begging somebody to take you and to love you and to watch you come on man you got to have you got to have more respect for yourself than that and i know i mean i get it you know but you can't just be out here begging somebody and they're not responding to you they don't have enough respect for you to even respond to you and you're begging you've called 100 times in the last 24 hours and they won't answer the phone you've gone by the house and they they won't open the door come on man come on man it's over when when you are having to beg somebody to be with you i mean it's over it's over i mean there ain't no other way to say that you out here having to beg this person and and you're begging and they still won't respond to you they don't love you that's over they don't even have respect for you they have no regard for you they've clearly gotten whatever it is whatever it is they've wanted from the connection and now they've chosen to move on fair not you can't you can't do anything about that if they've made a decision to move on without you there's nothing that you can do to change that and begging and begging and begging and hanging around and hanging around and thinking you're going to beg somebody into loving you is misguided and if they did return to you they they would only return to you because they feel sorry for you at a certain point you you know you're just pitiful in their eyes or or they they've made a decision to use you some more uh for whatever it is that um you bring to the table but anybody that you gotta beg come on now that that's that's a bad look that's a bad choice that's a bad um arrangement for the beggar you know um you gotta let it go you just gotta at a certain point you just gotta let it go go to look at one of my favorite texts when dealing with this kind of subject is genesis 29 31-35 there you have 31-35 there you have leah the wife of jacob now you read the whole story jacob this is these are biblical times so men had more than one wife jacob married uh leah first but he didn't really he didn't love leah in fact the bible says he hated her he loved rachel but he was tricked into marrying leah first because she was the older daughter so the father of the both both of the girls they were sisters pushed leah off on him but he hated leah and leah knew she was hated but she kept trying to do whatever she could do to to ultimately be accepted and she was never really accepted so let me let me take up for you genesis 29 31-35 says and when the lord saw that leah was hated he opened her womb or allowed her to become pregnant but rachel was barren couldn't get pregnant and leah conceived and bear a son and called his name reuben for she she said surely the lord hath looked upon my affliction now therefore my husband will love me verse 33 and she conceived again and bear a son and said because the lord hath heard that i was hated he had therefore given me this son also she called his name simeon and she conceived again and bear a son and said now this time will my husband be joined unto me because i have borne him three sons therefore what therefore was his name called levi and she conceived again and bear a son and she said now will i praise the lord therefore she called his name judah and left bearing but she she was in a posture where it was like she was constantly begging for this man's affection begging for this man's acceptance begging for this man's attention and he would never give it he kept having sex with her kept you know making babies with her but he always hated her because anybody that will let you beg one time two times now you know if you've done something wrong really bad person will let you beg just to prove that you are sorrowful but they ain't gonna let you if they really feel you they're not gonna let you big and big and big and big they're gonna receive you and throw their arms around you but if a person not feeling you it doesn't matter how much you beg they'll keep using you but it's never going to make them love you begging will never make a person love you if they don't love you already they're never going to love you and the best thing you can do is pick up your little you know pick your little feelings up off the ground and keep it moving and do what's best for you as an individual now here's the third thing um you know that it's over when this person has triggered your distrust to a point that you're now out of character you know that it's over you see you you've been traumatized in the past by somebody that broke your heart or whatever and now you're in this new situation and this person has disregarded your past history of having been you know abused having been lied to and they they've just constantly triggered your distrust they understand that you're trying to regain your trust but they're constantly doing things to trigger distrust in you make you you know make you recall some of the situations that you've gone through in the past and now they have triggered your distrust to the point that now you're out of character here you are educated spirit-filled beautiful a woman and hear you hiding behind the bushes trying to catch trying to see who here you are on the street you know arguing and fussing with uh some woman about a man here you are all over social media you know you you you're obsessed with trying to see who's liking his post or who's liking her post and here you are confronting people in the dms man come on bad look bad look bad look bad look this person has triggered your distrust to a point that you are now out of character it's time to let this go time out time out time out let me check out of this game let me check out of this game because anybody that would trigger your distrust to the point that you are now living out of character you you don't you don't need this person in your life this person and you you know y'all not meant to be together this person is not a good fit for you because they seem to bring the worst out of you and and you you watch this it also is an indication to you that you have some personal healing and work to do on yourself because you need to be able to get over and you need to be able to determine that a person is triggering you long before you get to the point where you're all out of character and you're behaving like somebody you don't even recognize because that's bad energy and listen to what the bible says in james uh chapter 3 and verse 16. says for where envying and strife is there's confusion and every evil work where envying or jealousy and strife are this any kind of negative energy he says there's confusion and every evil work once confusion gets into the situation it it begins to build layers of negativity layers of negativity layers of negativity you know othello one of shakespeare's characters that jealousy built layers and layers and layers until he ultimately killed the woman well you don't want to be a person that's caught up in a situation where a person is clearly triggering you and now you're at a point where you are so out of character that you're beginning to do things that don't mirror who you are what you stand for or where you're going in life this quite often happens to a phd woman that's manipulated by a ged man he triggers you and triggers you until you lose all connection to yourself and then you lose yourself so much that when it's time to return to yourself you can't find yourself so now you develop an adopted identity you begin to settle for things when the flag was the fact that this person triggers you into behavior that is unlike anything you were raised to be or do or anything you personally believe in people look at the way you're behaving it does not equate relative to who you really are it's over number four uh kind of bleeds out of that one but number four you know that it's over when you are constantly exchanging your dignity for promises you are constantly exchanging your dignity for promises i promise you we're going to do this and we're going to do that and i promise you i'm going to get it together i promise you i'm going to get a job i promise you i'm not going to sleep with him no more i promise you i'm done with that i'm done with that and and here you are here you know that your dignity is being spilled on the ground when you keep saying the same words over and over again if you do it again if you do it again you know when you first started saying that you were 20 some years old you still saying that now you're 40 some years old it was over the first time you had to say if you do it again you're constantly exchanging your dignity for promises let me tell you something there there has to be lines and limits there's a point that a person has to be able to push you to that you say i i love me more than i love the idea of us well that was good right there oh that was good right there somebody need to write that i got to get that i love me i love the reality of me more than i love the idea of us and i'm not going to allow you to squander my dignity for promise after promise after promise after promise and all of them are empty but it's over when you wake up and you realize you know i've been i've been exchanging my dignity for unfulfilled promises once you once you're conscious of that what you gonna do with that are you gonna continue to allow a person to drain your dignity your energy your self-respect and all they got to give you is a promise the wimpy syndrome you remember wimpy well you may not you mean some of y'all may be too young but if you my age you know something about papaya salad man and it was a cartoon and when you know on popeye to saleman was a character by the name of wimpy wimpy was always going around he loved hamburgers he was always going around you know uh borrowing money for a hamburger borrowing a hamburger today and i'll gladly pay you tuesday tuesday never got that wimpy never paid anybody he always promised to pay but he never paid anybody the wimpy syndrome wimpy strung along had them uh you know feeding his habit enabling his dysfunction on promises alone think about it when's the last time one of these promises was ever fulfilled and you want to know if it's over listen to what first john 4 1 says beloved believe not every spirit but try the spirits whether they are of god because many false prophets or liars are going out into the world don't believe everything you hear is what the text is saying but test this stuff and what's what's the number one test of a person being honest or not have they ever done any have they ever come through on any promise promise made the last thing they told you did they come through on that the thing before that have they have they come through on anything have they been right on anything have they been honest on anything have have they followed through on anything no no no why constantly exchange your dignity for promises that's over babe go and cry go to go to your house cry for a week however long you're thinking but it's over it's over that's over that's over and that that doesn't just go one way that's not just you know mostly women that do this but you have you have men that do this that exchange your dignity for promises you you get a an ungodly evil woman man i promise you will wreck your life wreck your complete and total life it goes both ways and at a certain point you got to wake up you got to have more love for the reality of you than the idea of y'all so you married to the idea and because you've invested so much time you don't you feel like you don't want to lose your your investment of time and resources and all of that babe it's better to let that little stuff go then to lose your soul caught up in a soul tie going nowhere but to hell you are constantly exchanging your dignity for promises it's over number five here's a big one you know that it's over when you sit down there at your kitchen table and you're plotting on how you can get even he cheated on you so now you plotting on how you gonna go sleep with um his friend or something like that yo sometimes you might get so diabolical you think about sleeping with one of his relatives you know and you know people's minds go there when they've been hurt that hard hurt that bad but you know the moment you see your your thinking going going in that direction that should be an indication to you this is a red flag it's on fire and this is over because the only way for you to get even with a dirty low down demonic person is the ghost is to sink to their level the only way you can get even with a person in the gutter is that you got to get gunner with them and when you start having ideas of of you know disregarding your principles and abandoning you know uh the laws of god and your self-respect to get even with something that's always been beneath you you got to wake up and realize this is over let me just cut my losses and move on with my life let me not compound the impact of this fool's presence in my life by doing something as foolish as getting even if you're sitting there thinking about getting even it's over it's over it's over it's over it's over it's over because the only way to get even is is the sink now unless you just want to sink i'm here to tell you you sitting there thinking about getting even is over now if you want to sink just stick with this here listen to what the bible says in proverbs 6 34 and 35 for jealousy is the rage of a man therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance he will not regard any ransom neither will he rest content though thou giveth many gifts what is it talking about here point five you're plotting to get even or they're plotting to get even with you what it's talking about here is you can a person can be pushed to a point where they are no longer in control of their faculties and their push beyond their capacity to restrain themselves for jealousy is the rage of a man therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance this is how people who are not murderers murder people you find somebody that is just constantly breaking your heart breaking your heart to the point that you sitting and now thinking about how you can get even with them you have to know that you are on a demonic track that is designed to destroy your entire life and the question you have to ask yourself is this worth it jealousy is the rage of a man therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance the day of what getting even he will not regard any ransom you you won't be able to pay him you won't be able to buy him off his rage her rage will just drive her so when you start having thoughts of getting even with a person you then know yeah this is over this is over i think that that may be one of the reasons why one of the clear-cut biblical um reasons legitimate reasons for divorce is adultery but it walks out and commits adultery on you sleep with somebody else you know bible gives you the right to move forward or not it's because when that kind of thing has happened it it breaks the soul to a point that you don't know what you're going to be turned into you don't know where this is going to go so when you wake up and you realize that you're plotting to get even with this person you then know that this is over now let me hurry this up i don't want to keep you too long today number six you know that this is over when your family your friends and your co-workers can tell you the cycle that you're in or the cycle you're about to go through with this person before it even starts sometimes you know you're caught up in soul tied situations where a person is managing and manipulating you and controlling you and you don't realize that they have you on a set schedule you know every every four or five weeks this is going to happen three weeks after that that's going to happen a week after that that's going to happen and and they have you on such uh you know such a um the little wheel that the the hot the mouse runs on they have you on such a treadmill and and and they just they're managing you and manipulating you like like a puppet master and even your children can tell you what what's getting ready to happen next well you know mine you bet not do that because if you do this harold is going to do that and then harold's going to say this and then how are going to leave for three or four days and then harold will come back with with some flowers and power going to tell you sorry and you gonna say if you do it again and harold gonna get back in again and he gonna do it to you when you find yourself caught up on somebody else's schedule you are no longer even living as an individual and now even though the people that are closest to you can see how you're managed and your mama can tell you exactly what's going on before you open your mouth you've always been this is not a relationship this is a this is a manipulation and and and it's over to be honest with you it's over now i know some of you don't have to go back and get bit again you have to touch that stove one more time see that it really was hot but when when your life is just on a schedule and you've been in the same cycle for the last decade every time you try to say okay well i'm done with this i'm finished i'm out of here then there's another promise to marry you and you melt all over again your children are sitting there looking at you they just sitting there staring at you you know every time you know it's it's just it's a never-ending cycle there's it's just you're on a schedule you're programmed like a robot you're programmed and they're just constantly pushing those same buttons they're triggering you and it's intentional triggering they know exactly what they press this button to make you go that way they press that trigger to make you go that way and they're bouncing you back and forth and you don't even realize it because you don't really know the last time you even listened to your family or your friends you've been so emotionally isolated with this individual that you don't even hear your own children it's not until y'all you know your children you know blow up and threaten to walk out of your life or something then you want to hear your children and you realize that the children know more about your situation than you do because you're the only one that's clueless you've been programmed you've been in a program for the last x amount of years you've been calling it love when a whole while it's been you know manipulation it's been narcissistic abuse in some cases but you don't you the last you the last one you've been clueless but when you wake up and you realize that this person the cycles are consistent nothing's changing nothing's new nothing's evolving nothing's growing and then number seven and i'm done [Applause] you know that it's over when you don't really want it no more and i'm going to explain that but you know that it's over when you don't really want anymore and this is not for this is not for those of you who who are having affairs you know and you you because you sitting under the influence of uh adultery you sitting and talking about you know uh i don't i don't really want anymore you know you you really confused but i'm talking about those of you who are in situations where you've tried you've given it your all you've given it your best and you just don't want it no more now some will say well that's not being fair to the other person i think it's being unfair to to to the other person to stay in a situation that you where you really don't want the person and you've maybe done a good job of disguising it i don't think that's fair now if you you have a good person that you know um has done nothing but right towards you and you don't know why you got into this and you really don't want them i think it's fair to let them know that now you have to also understand that you're going to pay a price for having done something like that but i don't think you should compound the problem by wasting more of that person's life in a in a in a false love affair you're not doing me any favors by acting like you love me when you really don't love me or acting like you want me when you really don't want me you know it's over when you wake up and you say i really don't want this anymore and you're not under the influence of anybody else you know you're not out here cheating but i just don't i don't love you i don't want you like this and i'm just um i'm just in here trying to save face you know i would suggest that you if if if both of you all are good people and and nobody's you know try some counseling to see if there's something going on with you personally that's you know preventing you from connecting but all things being equal when all things are said and done you come back to the place where i i don't i don't i don't want them i don't want it it's over you know i mean mama and them can pray and all of that and but if if the two of y'all don't want it only where marriage works both y'all got to want it man listen listen i know people put on social media and stuff when they see lisa now to my relationship goals listen relationships are very very difficult to manage you know it's it's like surfing you have to be able to grow with the person and you have to shift with the person you gotta you have to evolve together you know and sometimes watch this when you have a relationship that's gone on as long as me and lisa's has there are times that you you you you lose the connection y'all not feeling one another no more you know what i mean you don't feel like you um you don't feel like you're in love no more and all of this kind of thing and the thing that keeps you together is you got children together you got bills together and then but then you're wise enough to to try to reconnect and you don't allow anybody to get in the middle of that situation during one of those seasons and then you live a little bit you realize that you have seasons where you grow apart and then you come back together and then you grow apart and then you come back every time you come back together get stronger and stronger and stronger but the only way you're going to be able to grow and come back together is that both of you all got to want one another if either of you wakes up and does not want the other you will not survive those seasons without affairs if you know if if you don't want that person you know it's going to be difficult to survive that season without an affair or without just completely abandoning the relationship [Music] so if you if you don't want the person it's over i mean the religious people can point their finger and say this and that and all you have to answer to god that's for true god knows y'all but if you don't want them you don't want them and counseling much prayer and i think you if you in if you're in that state now i think it's why it would be wise for you to go to some personal counseling to vent uh your thoughts because you want to make certain that there's nothing again personal going on with you that's preventing you from connecting with the other person if that doesn't work now you need some couples counseling especially especially if you're married because you want to be completely and totally fair to this person you want to be honest but you want to be honest in a context where they are able to get the kind of emotional support and help they're going to need when they lose what they thought was their primary support system which is you but if you don't want them if it boils down to the fact that it's just it's just that's just the truth i don't want them kind of is what it is it's called life you know life is never ideal it's never ideal and so these are just some of my thoughts um these are just some of my thoughts i hope that you've gotten something out of our conversation today um let me pray for you father i know that there are all kinds of emotions that are swirling today relative to some of the things we've talked about now father my prayers that you would take the anointing of your precious holy spirit and pour out upon every one of these your sons and your daughters those dear god who are struggling with some of these same issues and in this place where they're trying to make decisions about the future of their their relationships maybe they heard some things that they got that are of concern to them god let them not move off of my voice but god let them hear your voice in their hearts give them wisdom give them instruction and now god i pray for peace tranquility wholeness in their lives make them know their god who they are as individuals so that they never again view a relationship as their identity make them understand there's a difference between me versus we the reality of themselves versus the idea of their relationship with others give them freedom now god in jesus name amen amen amen now listen i've enjoyed this time with you i want to thank all of you that have sown into lisa and my life today we thank god for you we really do and uh don't forget to those of you that need counseling need counseling and would prefer to do it online over the phone there's a link for better help counseling in the description we have a a partnership with them and when you use that link they will in turn grant you 10 off of the cost of counseling and simultaneously drop um a deposit into r.c blake's ministries for the referral so i want you those of you that may think that something that you you'll be interested in just kind of hit the link follow it look at it and you know make up your mind for yourself but it is available because i am not a counselor not a therapist uh don't forget to go by my website rcblakes.com check out all of my online programs and go to amazon pick up all of my books those of you that have not read any of my books go to amazon search rc blake's jr check out my books and support us in that way just know that lisa and i love you with all of our hearts we really really really really do and we appreciate you for all that you do for us we really thank god for you so until next time i'm rc blakes jr don't forget to like don't forget to share before you leave make sure you like and share this message with the world but until next time i'm rc blake's junior saying to you you're on top and you're going higher god has more in store for you so guess what we will see you at the top [Music] we here at rc blake's ministries want to thank you for spending this time with us today with us today rc and lisa are always honored to have you with us don't forget to reach out to us by visiting our website at www.rcblakes.com while you're there you may join our mailing list and receive a free download of the laws of manifesting your vision by rc blakes also look at all of the online programs by rc you may find all books written by rc and lisa once again all of us here at rc blake's ministries want to thank you from the bottom of our hearts and as we always say see you at the top [Music] [Music] [Music] you

Channel: RC Blakes, Jr

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Keywords: Dating Advice, Relationships, Narcissist, RC BLAKES, RC, RC BLAKES JR

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Length: 57min 42sec (3462 seconds)

Published: Mon Aug 09 2021