I Told Sister In Law Her Boyfriend's Secret & Now She's SUING HIM Over His Demand For Paternity Test

why you cut contact with your sibling my brother may be one of the dumbest people alive i watch a lot of reality tv shows and last month i was watching episodes on youtube of a show called divorce court and paternity court my brother came into the living room while i was watching the latter and we started watching together we had a mini competition to see if we could guess if the guy in question is or isn't the father he kept saying things like the baby looks just like him look at the ears nose that's his kid and other things like that and when the results would come back that the guy isn't the father he would be so shocked or if it was between two different men he would choose the guy that he thought resembled the baby more and when it would be the other guy's kid he was awestruck i explained to him that you can't just go off facial features to determine paternity but it is a good indicator that was like a month ago my brother's girlfriend called my mom recently crying saying that my brother was having doubts that their five-year-old daughter is his and that for the past few weeks he's been distant with both of them this was news to all of us i called my brother and asked him what was up he said that he just wants 100 proof that his daughter is his i asked him where this was coming from and he said nowhere i said that my niece looks just like him and her family and then he said that i'm a hypocrite because i had told him you can't go off looks to determine dna then i put two and two together and realizing this was stemming from us watching that paternity show so because he kept guessing wrong he thinks he was wrong in his daughter being his i told him did he tell that to his girlfriend and he admitted he told her that her ex called and said that he was sleeping with her right before she was meant to conceive so she gives into the test because she knows his reasoning is dumb i hung up and called my sister-in-law to tell her to the real reason and my brother called me cussing me out because she refuses to take the test he ordered online and now is taking him to court for a court-ordered test along with child support because she's breaking up with him he told me i ruined his life because now this dna test comes with a cost of monthly child support when before she was willing to take the test to prove to him that she wasn't cheating you are not wrong your brother ruined his relationship not you good for you for not allowing him to lie to her and accuse her of cheating since he falsely claimed he got a call from her ex you did the right thing she deserves better it's not even stupid what he said to his girlfriend it's malicious he said that her wreck said she was sleeping with him and probably caused a rift between those two if they were friends and caused her a lot of stress and heartache all because of a tv show i mean who does that opie's brother clearly everyone's wrong here shame on all of you for saying opie isn't wrong the bro is clearly not the sharpest tool in the shed he should have already married his girlfriend after five years and a baby he should have asked for the paternity test five years ago had he any doubts at the time he also lied to his girlfriend about why he wanted the test that's on him opie could have had the conversation with bro as any caring sibling should do but there was never any reason op should have told bro's girlfriend about any of it what bro told op was in confidence op should have never shared that info but the fact that the result was catastrophic to bro makes it far worse i would also like to point out that since bro's girlfriend initially agreed to take the test based on the lie which was that her ex told bro that they had been sleeping together just before bro pretty much confirms that they had been you do realize the girlfriend dumped the brother because he massively lied to her right if the brother had been up front and honest about why he wanted to test instead of lying like that she more than likely would have just taken the test to assuage him if he was willing to lie about something like this what else is he willing to lie about if op had hidden it and she found out later it would have been much worse so i 20 female have a successful instagram shop and etsy shop and make a pretty good living doing it full-time i didn't tell anyone for a while because my sister is very money-hungry and thinks that i owe her since she took care of me while i was younger my sister is around 26 and has three little kids and pregnant again her boyfriend the kid's father barely works part-time and they both live in low-income housing anyways i was able to pay off my student loans i didn't have too much since we're military and i had gotten the gi bill my sister never went to college and i gave some money to my dad because he did a pretty good job raising me now when he finally asked where i got all the money i finally caved and told him i had my own side business and showed him all my revenue my income how much i saved for taxes and how much i save for my apartment little did i know my sister was on the phone with my dad and heard everything at first she was kind of polite about it and started asking me to pay for things i.e her rent since my dad pays for her rent what her kids need food etc i of course always said no now i check my finances twice every week and i make sure i have everything in line since i don't have an actual income like getting paid every two weeks i make sure i'm on top of that my bank has you stay with your parent in a shared account until you are 21 i don't know about everyone else's bank so my dad has access to all my passwords account information etc when i was looking at bank account i noticed a lot of money was missing three thousand dollars plus and i instantly caught my bank and found out my father actually withdrew that money when i confronted him about it apparently my sister needed stuff for her kids and i'm not talking diapers i'm talking stupid things like the newest generation ipad now 3 000 is a lot of money i put in countless hours working on orders when i confronted my sister she gave me a sob story saying she needed it for rent and her kids and food i told her that she needs to give me my money back and then she got furious saying that you need to help out family and while i have no problem buying diapers formula etc for her that doesn't cost three thousand i told her if she doesn't have the money within the next two to four months again she works part-time that i would sue her everyone is seemingly on her side in which you don't do that to family but rightfully it is my money and i worked so hard to get it so reddit am i the idiot edit my dad was in the military not me you are not the idiot everyone in this situation is an adult that means adult responsibilities and i'm assuming you claim no dependence on your taxes so legally you don't owe them anything three thousand dollars is a lot of money to just go missing and suing them or filing a police report is completely understandable you are beginning your adult life and that means taking care of yourself for your future you should be proud of your shop and the work you've put in not the idiot but open a soul account asap your sister was well out of line by asking but your father committed the bigger betrayal by stealing your money and gifting it to your sister i consider letting his superior officers know about the theft that might be too scorched earth depending on family circumstances but you definitely need to get away from them and ensure they have no further access to your accounts or financial information the problem with this is the opie wants the money back if dad loses his job then op has a harder time getting paid back i am aware of how awful the title sounds but you have to know my side of the story before making any judgement i am almost adult and i'm living with my parents and sister my parents officially adopted her two years ago because her mother passed away and my mother promised her that she's going to take care of her daughter they had problems adopting her because some of her actual family wanted to keep her plus my parents had income problems for a while but two years ago they managed to adopt her i won't go into much detail about this as it's irrelevant ever since they adopted her my life got so much worse my parents give me no attention as all the attention is given to my smaller sister not only that but i am also supposed to help my parents around the house because they need to spend as much time as possible with her and of course whenever my sister has any problems or my parents aren't around i am supposed to help her or i will get punished also everything that i have must be shared with her except the room on my phone i got sick of this two years passed and nothing changed at all three days ago my sister came into my room without knocking while i was talking to my friends about her and she heard me i told my friends that the only reason my parents adopted my sister was because they were close with her mother and then when she asked me if my parents actually love her i told her no ever since that day she stopped talking to everyone and is locking herself in the room and crying the good thing is that she's not telling my parents why she's upset but i think they will eventually find out i told my friends about it and they say that i am the only one in the wrong here and should seriously consider apologizing i however don't think i should and if my parents find out i will be punished really bad because only she matters to them wow you are wrong 100 let's break this down because you feel like your parents have paid you less attention since your sister was adopted you took a child who lost her godparents and told her that her adoptive family doesn't love her because you have to do a few extra chores and share your stuff you shattered the world that an orphan child had managed to build up you should be ashamed of yourself if you're old enough to have a phone and post on reddit you're old enough to have some empathy for a child who literally lost their mother and their whole world with it talk to your parents tell them what you did apologize to your sister and tell her that you're bitter jealous and full of crap ask your parents to arrange therapy for you as soon as possible because holy moly you need it you are the idiot you clearly resent her because your parents adopted her and it doesn't seem like they gave you any indication that they don't love her if you were giving her a fact you directly heard them say maybe you get an everyone's wrong here but you were cruel to someone who lost their parents and hasn't done anything to you if anything talk to your parents about unfair treatment don't take it out on your sister who is really your sister by the way legally try to have some compassion for this girl who has lost her parents while you still have both of yours even if your life is a little more difficult her life is probably significantly worse as well without you spitting on her uh the comments look kids need love and affection their parents are supposed to express that if they don't express it enough the kids grow resentful and end up doing nasty things they're justified in their resentment and jealousy they are not justified in the bad things they do you guys are being painfully unsympathetic yes the sister has suffered more no her suffering does not invalidate yours pain isn't a competition good luck poor idiot edit yes you're absolutely immature you're young that's normal this happened when i was 24 my sister is still furious about it and thinks i was the idiot i just want to see if i am or not long story short i won a raffle at my job for an all expense paid family vacation it wasn't a super fancy price to disneyland or anything crazy it was just a nice three-day stay at this little beach house in place it was for four people i asked new boyfriend at the time to go but he couldn't because of school i told nobody i won but when i came down to visit my family for the weekend my sis was there with my niece nephew who are the two brattiest kids i've met thanks to sis not disciplining them ever i love them but she lets them get into everything and never watches them unless someone me or our mom yells at her to get off her butt and watch them visiting is always a chore because i end up watching them to give our mom a break it's pathetic i considered inviting them to come before i arrived but the longer i was there the more i hated the idea by the time i was packing up to go home i knew i wasn't inviting them she dumped them on me the entire time like usual and i knew if they came it would turn into me babysitting them while she had a vacation so i didn't mention it next day i told my friend megan because she has two kids older than sissy's kids and very well behaved and she's a single working mom who could use the vacay i offered to invite her along if she would pay for the gas to get us all to from there and she happily agreed we went had a blast i got a pretty good tan we ate lots of buffet food and did fun family type activities all weekend before coming back i posted some pictures i took nothing in your face just a couple of cute ones of me us on the beach when i got back and before lunch even rolled around sis was blowing up my phone asking how i could afford a vacation i told her it was a raffle prize she asked who won and i said me she flipped her crap demanding to know why i hadn't invited her i was honest and said because i didn't want to babysit her kids for my entire vacation i could have invited them but i just didn't want to sis thinks family should come before friends am i the idiot not the idiot your sister lied to your family to get them on her side because she knew very well your reasoning for not taking her was legitimate screw your sister you don't need her if she wants to stay mad at you for her inability to be a parent then she can stay mad you do you live your best life plus from the way it sounds you gave megan a well-deserved vacation you are not the idiot sounds like your sister's idea of parenting is to have someone else do it she got a break the entire time you were visiting home and so she has no right to complain if she complains again remind her that you gave her a break that you usually do when she's around and she dumps her kids on you that you have to spread the love and that she's selfish and self-centered to think you are her babysitting slave she already dumped them on our mom most of the time so honestly the only one i was giving a break was my mom not my sister backstory when i was a kid a family we knew had a daughter with leukemia she had chemo lost her hair and got an exception to the school's no hat policy so she could cover her head everyone at the school was supportive and there are a couple of fundraiser things that other parents organized for their benefit i heard she went into remission and really didn't think much about her after i left home to go to college fast forward i'm at college and living in a different city than my family sister had graduated high school but i guess didn't want to go to college and still lives with my now divorced mom last christmas i came home for a visit and was surprised to see that my sister had shaved her head well not super surprised because she likes to create drama and has done plenty of things like that before so i just pretended like i didn't notice anything mom sis and i went out for dinner one night sat in a booth a little kid in the next booth poked her head over and said why don't you have any hair her parents immediately grabbed her but my sister said it was okay and then went on to explain that people who are being treated for cancer lose all of their hair because of chemo the kid's parents apologized and offered to buy our dinner then the kid pipes up again why do you still have eyeballs meaning eyebrows the parents apologize again and got out but not before they pay for our food meanwhile mom is pretending she hasn't heard any of this so i asked my sister if she has cancer and she starts going on about how she wants to support people with cancer but when i point blank asker if she herself has cancer the answer was no that night she shaved off her eyebrows okay she can shave off her hair if she wants i don't care but yesterday i was chatting on discord with an old friend from my hometown and he asked me how my sister was doing i gave some snarky answer my friend came back with how can you be so mean when she has cancer apparently she has been telling people that she has cancer and asking for donations to her gofundme i told him that can't be true he sent me a link to the gofundme she raised about 500 so far i called my mom she confirmed that my sister does not have cancer but she does talk about it all the time i guess my mom just ignores it somehow i don't want people in my hometown getting scammed so will i be the idiot if i told everyone not to donate you won't be the idiot are you kidding me no you are absolutely not wrong here your sister and mom however my mom died of cancer last year my cousin who was in her 30s died of breast cancer that got aggressive and metastasized currently my little cousin has leukemia and a friend at work has a young daughter just lost a leg because of cancer and your sister is faking it to get 500. i can't what i want to say will probably get me banned contact gofundme they don't like it when people do this and from what i heard take it seriously let people know in your town post in the gofundme page let people know this is wrong background info i have two cars i drive a prius as my daily and i have a corvette as my weekend car and also i don't have the best relationship with my brother he had a habit when we were growing up of being cheap when buying things and when his crap breaks he always takes my stuff and doesn't take good care of it i.e laptops phone sports equipment so my brother called a few days ago and said his car broke and he was trying to find a new one then he asked if he can borrow the corvette since i don't drive it during the week i told him no since it's the nicest thing i own and i didn't want him being reckless with it i offered him the prius but he insisted on the corvette which made me think he was just trying to take advantage of me so i called him out and asked him if his car really broke he got angry and called our parents turned out his car really broke and my parents tore into me for being selfish for not lending him a car i don't even drive often i told them my brother was reckless with my things when we were growing up and i'm not letting him drive a 50 000 car indefinitely now my entire family is furious at me and aren't speaking to me which makes me wonder if i am an idiot not the idiot he needs a car you offered him a car the prius if he doesn't want it he can buzz off this is the definition of beggars can't be choosers offering the prius is more than sufficient to help him out even if it's a just causes family thing you don't need to let him borrow your expensive toy just because he throws a fit especially if he has a poor track record of taking care of borrowed things not the idiot don't lend him your car he turned his nose up at your prius which should tell you that he is not in that much need of a car if he was truly in a bind he would thank you profusely and accept use of the prius he just wants access to your corvette to present his flash your family has enabled your brother to be this obnoxious they are all idiots too

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Length: 18min 41sec (1121 seconds)

Published: Sat Sep 26 2020