I Have Needs Too // Manology Part. 1 // Dr. Dharius Daniels

what's up everybody it's summer school around change church that means whenever you're watching this I filmed this during the summer and this summer we're studying manology sisters you need to tap in here if you want to understand your boyfriend your husband your son your father better you need to tap in listen to me listen to me this message is called I got needs too find out what your man's needs are take care it's about to be a long few weeks right because if I had said woman [Applause] it's okay it's okay but really quick let me in this room New Jersey let me let me really I want you to hear the heart behind this series um my heart is to attempt to address the disparity as it relates to the proportion of men that are a part of the Christian faith a disparity that exists in the Christian faith that does not exist in the other two World major religions it's a huge disparity that exists so the question that we have to ask is when it comes to other faiths particularly the two others that are the largest largestly the largest populated world religions why is the proportion of men to women relatively equal and then when it comes to those of us who claim to be a part of something that is the truth the percentage of the participation of men is so drastically different now there there there are there has been research done on this I've been exploring this there's been research that's done on this there have been grants that have funded research to try to explore why some of these disparities exist and there are a number of number of reasons that really just that are really just specific to men themselves so there's some things that men themselves have to kind of work out and address and but we can't fix them everybody's got to fix themselves but there are some things that we do as a faith that do not help our cause [Applause] and those are the things that we need to address we need to remove the hurdles and the barriers we unintentionally create and if you love your husband you love your father you love your son you love your brother you you love your nephew if you love in any way any man in your life this should matter to you too [Applause] does that make sense so I think this week you might be expect these next few weeks you may be expecting me to take a side I'm not taking a side right I'm not attacking the women I'm not tearing down the men I want to address this disparity in the churches I serve I can't address it for the body of Christ I'm not responsible for the body of Christ God has set me as a steward over change and so I want to be faithful and do everything I can to make sure we're removing those barriers at change because some of those hurdles are hurdles that can be addressed one of the barriers is simply this it is the absence of integrity and spiritual leadership men don't follow men they can't trust I wouldn't follow spiritually a man if I leave the room and my wife is with you I got to wonder not me am I making sense this was the absence of integrity and spiritual leadership uh moral integrity and financial Integrity the absence of those things become hurdles for men the lack of discipline that men see in other men who are in spiritual leadership guys this data this is not my opinion when men look at other men they're inspired by what look like discipline the presence of judgment and condemnation among other believers and then there is what we're going to attempt to explore and address this month that is the lack of relevancy with Ministry because of the disproportionate amount of women to men in churches churches can unintentionally minister in a way that is disproportionate so you're asking a man now to come to something that's not even relevant for him he been beat up all week in culture beat up all week at work and then you're inviting him to come to another beat-up session on his day off win the game coming on y'all aren't talking to I got to get up put on clothes so so that's what that's the heart of manology it is a hey when it comes to the disproportion the disproportion that exists as it relates to ministering to their needs we want to apply the ministry of the word to the needs of men and sisters I need your support God created us for collaboration with each other the enemy wants us contentious but God created us for collaboration and so I want you to be open I want you to open your heart uh men and women men there's some areas I believe God's word is going to challenge us and there's some things we need to understand about ourselves and sisters there are some things I think that God's going to share with us this month that will help you understand that so the Book of Genesis chapter 25 beginning at verse number 27 I'm going to read a um few verses here it says it says this the boys grew up and Esau became a skillful Hunter a man of the Open Country while Jacob was content to stay at home among the tents Isaac who had a tasteful while game love Esau but Rebecca loved Jacob once Jacob was cooking some stew Esau came in from Open Country famished he said to Jacob quick let me have some of that red stew I'm famished this is why he was called Edom Jacob replied first sell me your Birthright look I'm about to die what good is the birthright to me did you die though you're not about to die you didn't die calm down exaggerate it but Jacob said swear to me first so he swore north of him selling his Birthright to Jacob then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew he ate and drank and got up and left so Esau despite his Birthright I want to stop the reading of scripture there and I want to tag a title of this text this first sermon in this series called manology I want to say this here it is fellas don't leave me out here by myself this month here it is here's the topic of today's teaching I have needs too [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Laughter] oh [Applause] [Music] I have needs to one of one of the concepts that scripture conveys about the nature of God is that God is The God Who meets needs as a matter of fact a tent maker from Tarsus um told Believers in Philippi that he had gone through some situations that had given him an education that God makes provision for his people Paul testifies in Philippians chapter 4. he says my God shall supply all my needs as a matter of fact he doesn't simply say God will supply all my needs which says that every need I have God will make sure is supplied he says God will supply all the need which means that if all the need isn't supplied God isn't finished supplying [Applause] if things aren't finished God isn't done because God is a finisher however it's important to note that if God has determined to be The God Who meets needs it's because he knows he is serving people who will always have them part of what it means to be God is to be self sufficient this is a human Divine distinction God has no needs he doesn't need to grow because he already is everything he will be he has no need to change because he is already the ultimate expression of perfection he he has no lack because he is the source of all abundance he has no esteem issues because he's constant and clear on who he is God has no needs but humans do and to be human means to not be God and to not be God means that there are some things you need that you can't meet yourself [Applause] did you hear what I just said God is the only one that can meet all of his own needs the rest of us have physical needs emotional needs spiritual needs relational needs that cannot be met by themselves and to ask someone to ignore those needs is to disregard their Humanity [Music] it is to unintentionally dehumanize them because to tell me to ignore my needs is to tell me to be God stay with me we're going come on come on did you hear what I just said to tell me to ignore my needs says to me you expect me and everyone has needs Rich poor black white brown male female young old everybody is rich in some area and poor in another however this month we are discussing a demographic that in contemporary religious spaces is often dismissed disregarded and demonized this month we're not saying nobody else has needs but this month I'm acknowledging everybody has needs but this month I'm not saying one set of needs with one demographic is more important than another set of needs for another dinner for another demographic but this month can we have a month [Applause] y'all aren't talking to me it's 52 weeks in a year can we have four this month we want to focus on the needs of men I know our society has a history of toxic patriarchy a history of the subjugation of women the denial of the right to vote lack of access to certain roles disproportionate in in income and compensation all of these are real eels that are impacting our sisters that need to be discussed and addressed however in an attempt to create Solutions we engage in activity that is an expression of an over-correction to the degree that there's an abdication of our responsibility to be our Brother's Keeper and as a consequence there has been the inauguration of an epidemic of hungry men let me clarify when I'm communicating when I say hunger Hunger is a craving for something that meets a god-given need hunger is a craving for something that meets a god-given need it doesn't mean that what you're craving is Godly [Applause] did you hear what I just said it doesn't mean that what you're craving is Godly it means that what you're craving is an ill sometimes an illegitimate attempt to meet a legitimate need and if there is a word that you would say Pastor dares in two decades of serving people specifically men in two decades of serving people not just through the vehicle of ministry but also recently through the vehicle of the marketplace in your time of pastoring and mentoring and discipling and coaching and having conversations with men what is a word that you would use to describe the dominant emotional disposition of most of the men you encounter and the word is hungry hungry hungry hungry and not all men are hungry because they're malfunctioning some men are hungry because we're malnourished [Applause] it's getting a little tight already so some of us are hungry because our needs are treated like preferences some of us are hungry did you hear what I just said some of us are hungry because we have somehow came up with an unbiblical ideology of masculinity that says my strength is revealed in my ability to go without what God created me to need so somehow being a man means being happy being miserable uh I should have did this one online Marcus thanks [Applause] be a man somehow masculinity has been conflated has been conflated with misery as a man now I'm not talking about man created needs I'm not talking about lasciviousness I'm not talking about excessiveness I'm not talking about craziness I'm not talking about something that is a preference that a man is calling a need I'm talking about god-given needs yes I'm getting ready to there are 10 of them that you need and when you're trying to function while you're male nourished in some area you're going to malfunction I want y'all to hear me and I am telling you some of the ills the issues the problems the challenges the Hang-Ups the stupidity the self-destructive behavior that we are seeing in men is not the problem they're hunger pains some of the issues that we are seeing in the lives of men are symptoms of men that are malnourished in certain areas because hunger impacts your ability to function optimally you know how you are when you're hungry you know you're not your best attitudinally [Applause] when are you hungry you're not the most patient person you at the restaurant and you like where the food at [Applause] why they taking so long with my food [Applause] because we don't function optimally when we're hungry think about this hunger impacts a number of things one of the things that hunger impacts is focus [Applause] it's hard to focus when you're hungry man earlier Ministry we used to go to all these like conferences and stuff where you're learning and learning leadership and learning Church strategy and all this stuff we've been sessions all day and I'll be sitting there and that person could be as anointed as Jesus but after a certain amount of time I'm hungry it's like you got a word but you need to hurry up I was looking for one of them old church mothers who got some of the butterscotch in their purse it's like I need foreign I remember growing up in church we had long Church growing up and I'm talking about a long Church growing up Jesus his long Church growing up and then I used to want to be a preacher because I look up see I grew up in a church where they had the throne chairs and the preacher sat in the highest chair and they had Church nurses that had no medical training [Applause] gone they would come and bring the preacher Gatorade and orange juice and water I was sitting as a little boy said I want to be a preacher [Applause] it's hard to focus when you're hungry and if you see a unfocused man and the only thing you attempt to do is to fix the focus you are fixing the fruits but you're not fixing the root of the problem you don't fix some man's Focus simply by fixing some men's Focus because sometimes the inability to focus is evidence that that's a hungry man he is unclear on his assignment so he's hungry for validation he's hungry for affirmation so he's jumping from career to Career to Career you're an engineer now you a rapper and now y'all not talking to me now you go from a rapper now you a producer now you go from a producer to a what do you want to do with your life [Applause] and we say things like he's unclear he's inconsistent he don't know what he want out of life he's hungry and he's looking for something that makes him feel like something imma say that one more time he's looking for something that makes him feel like something so he will pursue things he's not even called to because it feels a void that's not being ministered to [Applause] you're not searching for a career he's searching for himself unsatisfied no promotion is Ever Enough I've never seen a chronically we all clear unclear in certain Seasons but I've never seen a chronically unclear man that didn't have deep emotional wounds never seen it [Applause] it affects your focus hunger affects not just our focus it affects our fortitude I don't know because this is just the first lesson of this and we still getting to know each other it's kind of Jersey I know y'all some but that pandemic some of y'all you're new too so we all kind of get ready to know know each other so I'm kind of you know maybe by the third lesson we really gonna be all the way there but but I at least I I can't I can't commit Ministry malpractice and not address this see fortitude comes from the Latin word Fortis which means strong fortitude is strength of mind when hunger walk in strength walk out come on now anybody that has ever tried to stay on any type of eating regimen [Applause] you know it's more difficult to resist the Oreos [Applause] come on it is more difficult to resist what you don't need when you hungry or I'm gonna say that one more time it is more difficult to resist what you don't need when you're hungry things I normally wouldn't eat when I'm full are things I become open to when I'm hungry because hunger wears down your resistance and hunger makes things that will kill you eventually attractive to you momentarily y'all aren't talking to me and whenever you see a man engaging in chronic self-sabotaging Behavior why do you keep doing what's killing you you better hear this here you better catch this now because sometimes the thing that's killing you is feeding you [Applause] these chips are killing me but they're feeding me these cookies are killing me but they're feeding me come on now this processed food is killing me but it's feeding me and even though it doesn't hold me eternally it does satisfy me temporarily and so I keep going back to something I know I need to stay away from [Applause] cause even though it's killing me it don't feel like death it's killing me softly [Music] it it affects your focus when you're hungry it affects your fortitude when you're hungry it affects your fragility when you and I are hungry fragility refers to delicate listeners uh uh or broke or easily broken uh boy I don't have time [Music] laughs [Applause] see I I know the sisters have the reputation for moodiness [Applause] I know when people generally speaking start talking about moodiness they immediately relegate moodiness to women but I've been in the game two decades and I am telling you the sisters are not the only ones mooted men can be moody walk in the door kissing on you on Monday and walk in and don't speak on Tuesday y'all aren't talking to me and I need some men to admit that you know you can be moody one day you talkative the next day you don't want to talk one day you Prince Charming [Applause] and men talk about how women confuse them but I've been in the game a long time and some women are confused it's like you don't know what you want you want me to be Mother Teresa and a city girl at the same time I am confused [Applause] you on both [Applause] foreign these symptoms are often expression of hunger and there's an incredible example of this in our our text Zone today and our text today is interesting is the story of this exchange between two brothers uh these brothers are Esau and Jacob and so uh the Bible says something really really interested that Esau and Jacob both had different interests and one of Esau's interests was hunting the Bible says he had a taste for a while uh game and the Bible says one day um Esau is out honey and he comes in and he is incredibly hungry and the Bible says Jacob has some soup so Esau says to Jacob who is so much in this someday be your own people I don't have time because you have somebody that should be covering him exploiting his hunger did you hear what I just said I want you to catch this the Bible says Esau comes in he says I'm hungry I'm about to die he isn't about to die but when you're famished you overestimate your condition and things feel much much worse than they are so Jacob's he says I need you to give me something to eat right now Jacob say uh no I'll give you this food if you give me your Birthright now what's the birthright the birthright was an inheritance reserved for the eldest son that included specific material possessions family Privileges and spiritual blessings even though they were twins Esau came first so Esau was the oldest so he was the one that had the birthright material possessions family Privileges and spiritual blessings Jacob said I'll give you some soup if you give me your Birthright it's man gave up his whole future [Applause] he blew [Music] his entire future for some soup [Music] he saw what are you doing and you're a strong man cause you're a hunter [Music] but being strong doesn't mean Esau you don't have needs and when you go an extended amount of time Esau without getting those needs met the longer you go the less rational you become you spent all that time hunting you should have prepared and please don't misunderstand me I'm not making excuses for Esau's Behavior because Esau and only Esau is responsible for his behavior but I want you to be clear that even though there's never an excuse there are reasons and I want you to know that that there are men that are like Esau who are out hunting because they're hungry I'm not going to bother this but if you just came in from hunting [Applause] if you just came in from hun you should have something with you you can throw on the fire real quick but maybe he's been hunting and not coming up with anything that actually fill them because most men who are Workaholics are hunting [Applause] [Music] and they get the boat and the boat won't do it and they get the other cars and other cars won't do it and he blows the birthright on a bowl of soup How could somebody so smart do something so dumb hunger How could somebody so wise do something so silly hunger why in the world would you give away your Birthright for a moment hungry and Esau is often judged should he be accountable for his behavior yes but Esau is often judged because we tell his story I'm done we tell his story but we don't hear his version and before I leave Esau text me this week [Applause] he said D I say what up [Applause] he say I got something to say [Music] he said tell the people I'm accountable for my behavior I'm responsible for my behavior tell them there are no excuses for my behavior but make sure they know I didn't do it because I was evil I did it because I was empty [Applause] tell them D tell them I got needs too and I know what some people are saying pastor only God can satisfy hunger that's true but there's a role people play right it's called interdependence God it uses people I don't even have time but theologically I can unpack this and show you that the Bible says God creates the first human species Adam and then looks at Adam God who's omnipresent looks at Adam and say it's not good for him to be alone how can he be alone if God there y'all missed it he said it's not good for a man to be alone God is there As Long As I Got King Jesus I don't need anybody else God is there God's like no there's a need he has that I cannot meet there are needs he has I cannot meet directly I need to meet those needs indirectly so I'm gonna create somebody [Applause] that will do for him what I can't do that is the first ex the creation of Eve is the first expression of what we call incarnational Ministry it is God saying imma meet the needs of people by using people [Applause] so God looked at Adam and said I need a human to do this I need a human because Adam and Esau have knees Esau told me to tell you y'all want to hear what he had to say I'm gonna text him back after the service Esau Esau told me to tell you number one he's got verbal needs Esau said I I need to hear I need to hear some things and here's the thing Eve you underestimate the power of your words [Applause] [Music] your words see all words don't weigh the same somebody else can say the same thing to me Pastor Shamika say but her wears carry weight come on now I can hear a I can hear ten thousand you did good but when when she say you killed it Wait A Minute girl play with me if you want to don't you talk to me like that [Applause] the created order was upset because of Eve's influence with her words the Bible says Adam was not deceived he knew he shouldn't have done it but Eve's words has so much power words matter I I'm not going to bother this until next week Delilah didn't win Samson with her waistline she won Samson with her words she talked that man out of the secret to his strength I literally had to tell pastor Shamika one time I said I need you to talk to me the way you talk to our boys when they were little look at the muscles look at you moving that thing look at my little baby your strongs look at you you so smart [Applause] cause we get it when we three and we respond a certain way when we three and because we don't respond the same way when we 33 you can assume it don't impact us the same way [Applause] but when I hear it at 33 it expects me it impacts me the same way it did at three I just don't smile the way I did at three because when you tell a three-year-old that they like I did look at my show me your muscle right [Applause] and you may tell me that at 33 and I may say appreciate it but on the inside I'm like I need somebody to talk back to me today we need to hear [Music] I'm dontario I know you may say everybody's doing it we need it from you everybody words no way to say we need it from you your words way different and so does that make sense so a man begins to frequent and become obsessed with that which validates the uniqueness of his identity he needs to hear it from you he's got verbal needs whoo he needs he needs to hear your hear your admiration hear your appreciation come on hear your attraction he need to hear you think he fine you don't want to talk to me first Song of Solomon 1 2. [Applause] let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth for your love is better than Wine talk to me like that [Applause] he's got verbal needs I'm not even going to bother this yes I am Jesus gets baptized and the Bible says that the father speaks this is my beloved Son in whom I'm well pleased and Jesus Now can do ministry out of affirmation not for it [Applause] says I'm not looking for something outside because I got it before I left [Applause] he has verbal needs he's got emotional needs he has recreational needs and he has relational needs Too Many Men are trading their future for soup and we can keep berating insulting condemning them or we can challenge man to do the work God I got to deal with this because this is why some of you frustrated some of you are frustrated because you're trying to get answers from him he don't have so you willing to meet a need he can't identify yet because the level of self-awareness hasn't been raised to the point where he can separate the need from the craving so he keep asking you for what he craving for and what he's craving for is Never Enough and it keeps changing because he hadn't identified the real need ah too many a trading their future for soup I'm not just talking about relationally I'm talking about professionally building Empires destroying that castle you just traded your Birthright for soup and we can keep berating or condemning or we can say we've been called to be our Brother's Keeper because we have an example of a man who did not succumb to his hunger Jesus 40 days of fasting in the wilderness and the enemy said take these stones and make them bread and he said man shall not live thy bread alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God help us to help feed these hungry men you receive this word today foreign

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Published: Sun Jun 04 2023