Why He Wants Delilah // Manology Part. 2 // Dr. Dharius Daniels

hey family you are about to watch they would say it in old church is tight but it's right you're about to watch a message called well you're just gonna have to check this out I don't even know if I want to say it why he wants Delilah listen if you love biblical truth I want you to tap into this message there's a Twist I think it's going to add some value to your life take care God bless it's gonna be great though clap your hands one more time I'm excited about what God's doing Judges chapter 16 verse number 4 Judges chapter 16 verse number four um says this sometime later he fell in love with a woman in the valley of surrek whose name was Delilah all right hey you see this imagery all over our building you see something called H7 that's our core values they're they aren't random there are seven character traits that we see embodied in the life of Jesus we want them embodied in the life of our community one of those character traits is hunger that means we want an insatiable appetite for God's presence so we're enthusiastic in worship and an insatiable appetite for God's principles it means we want truth because truth sets us free and we appreciate we respond to we a man truth even if it's a little ouch on it [Music] [Applause] it's the truth that sets us free come on right and we don't and the purpose of a spiritual family isn't just to make us feel better see just because that's what people use church for doesn't mean that's what church is for it it is God's intention that church be more than just a place that makes us feel better about a life we hate it's a place where we get the guidance that we need to actually create the life he intended for us to have and so sometimes that requires us being a little open so I want you to be open I want you to be patient and I and I want us to appreciate and stand on the truth of God's word today all right so I'm gonna read this scripture one more time I don't know judges 16 4 sometime later he fell in love with a woman in the valley of sorek whose name was Delilah I want to talk from this subject in our time together today why he wants Delilah [Music] [Applause] laughs yeah it is 12 o'clock some see I know I can I can press it a little bit here sisters if you let me see how politically correct if you've ever wondered what in the world was he thinking when he was with her uh [Applause] oh gosh that would give me about another year we're gonna be all right it's gonna be a whole y'all get free in here why he wants Delilah family I recently came across a quote that I like to lift up as we leap into this lesson today and the quote is as follows it's simply this the devil is not only in the details the devil is in denial in other words the enemy uses the instrument of denial as a weapon of mass destruction to keep us stuck in a place called settling in private imprisoned to average and to influence us to turn what should be a season into a cycle [Music] seasons are not necessarily Cycles because seasons change with time Cycles change with us and the enemy knows that a sea that a season can become a cycle and we can stay in a cycle as long as we are operating with denial because denial makes it impossible to change denial is dangerous it is sight suppression it is when a person chooses to live like they're blind when they have the ability to see it is the deliberate Act of closing our eyes to glaring truths that may hurt our feelings now but will actually save our future later it is an unwillingness to deal with something now that will deal with us later it is a commitment to Feeling Good by doing nothing instead of becoming better by doing something it is an act intended to Foster protection But ultimately becomes a self-imposed prison and many people are serving a life sentence of pain problems and plateauing because they are in an invisible prison called denial and if we ever needed deliverance from anything we need deliverance from denial the enemy knows you cannot improve what you do not acknowledge he knows you cannot improve what you do not admit he knows you cannot fix what you're unable to face so the prince of darkness wants to keep us in darkness regarding areas of our life that require some attention and we need to get a revelation that God wants to give us a revolution not in our ability to see what's going on with everybody else but he wants to give us the ability to see what's going on with me do you have insight inside do you have the ability to see in [Applause] self-correction limits God correction [Applause] Paul says if we will judge ourselves there will be no need to be judged so in other words God's like there are some things I wouldn't have to correct if you did [Applause] but it's better for you to fix it than for me to fix it because when I fix it I send a well and the whale has to swallow you up and you have to stay in the belly of the well three days I need you to fix it am I talking to anybody that's in a season in your life where you're honest enough to admit I'm tired of it requiring crisis for me to change [Applause] I'm tired of the bottom having to fall out in some area of my life in order for me to make an adjustment God if there are some things about me that I can't see that are hurting me show me show me before I blow it show me before I lose it show me before I sabotage my future it might hurt my feelings but I need you to save my future show me me [Applause] denial is dangerous it spares your feelings but it sabotages your future denial is an expression that somebody is worshiping at the altar a fragile self-esteem they are worshiping comfort [Music] and it is dangerous it is dangerous in any area of our life it's dangerous financially it's dangerous professionally it's dangerous relationally but when I was reading this text in judges I saw a specific area that denial is dangerous in that I want to spend our time exploring on today and that is this it's dangerous when we're in denial about our duality this is the way I shared it at 10 o'clock all of us have a twin I'm not talking about a biological twin outside you I'm talking about another version of you on the inside of you come on talk back to me because Duality is the state of having two different and opposite parts and whether we know it or not all of us deal with some reality of Duality we can be nice and mean we can be smart and silly we can be humble and arrogant we can want to be around people and we don't want people to leave us alone we can be an introvert today or extrovert tomorrow we can be hood and holy or both we all have some Duality on the inside of us and I know some of us assume that your spiritual maturation it causes the elimination of your durality I know you think the more spiritual you become the less acceptable you become to that other version of you but your spirituality does not eliminate your due out holiday I can say this with confidence because I read something that was written by a tent maker from Tarsus he was trained under the rabbinical tutelage of gamiliel he was educated at the University of Tarsus he was a Hebrew of Hebrews a Pharisee circumcised on the eighth day he was a Roman citizen he is responsible for two-thirds of the New Testament most of what you read in the New Testament he wrote it he was so anointed that when he would walk past people people would get healed in his shadow he was such a praiser that when they put him in a Philippian prison at midnight when everybody else was panicking Paul and Silas got to praise him [Applause] this man said this I find this law at work [Applause] come on don't get quiet on me now this same man who did all this stuff I found this all at work although I want to do good it's I be trying Lord knows I'll be trying I want to do good Eva is right there with me for in my inner being the spiritual part of me I Delight in God's law oh I love his word God I love your word God I love your presence God I love your spirit God if you can use anything Lord you can use me I delight in God from my inner being [Applause] I see I see another law at work Waging War against the law of my mind and making me a prisoner he says sometimes I feel like I'm a prisoner to my twin I'm looking for the honest people that will admit sometimes my twin win let me go to this side sometimes that twin win sometimes I say twin you shouldn't say that and they say well I'ma say it today so here you shouldn't do that well I'm gonna do it today twin let God handle it God taking too long I'm gonna handle it today I'm gonna give it to Jesus tomorrow [Applause] he says what a Wretched Man that I am he says as anointed as I am I'm confused about me how all of this can be in the same person [Applause] he like y'all think y'all confused about me nobody's more confused about me that I am about me you asking me what were you thinking I look in the mirror sometimes and say what were you thinking who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death but even though he deals with the reality of Duality he's a he's a man that still reaches his Destiny he's a man that did not sabotage his spiritual success he's a man that finished well he's a man who ends his journey with Integrity Associated to his name because if you are aware of your Duality it properly positions you to manage your Duality so that your Duality does not destroy your destiny but if you are in denial [Applause] if you think you forgot how to do what you used to do it's just like riding a bike y'all aren't talking to me on this side over here I said it's Jeff you hadn't forgot how to say anything you used to say how to do anything you used to do [Applause] your awareness is what allows you to make the adjustments so that you can make decisions in your time of strength that protect you from you in your time of weakness the Apostle Paul writes what I just read to Believers in Rome these are people he's spiritually leading he's not even talking to peers he's talking to people that is leading he's trying to normalize Duality for them he's trying to help them see that the wrestling match you're having doesn't mean you're weak it means you're human [Applause] am I making sense he says you need to be aware of this so you can properly manage this and many people sabotage their future because they underestimate they twin because you think because that twin been locked up for a season that twins gonna stay locked up for a lifetime that twin will pop back up on you I'm back you like I thought I was delivered [Applause] I'm delivered no that's dormant you can get delivered from that behavior you can get delivered from Habits but you cannot get delivered from the flesh the Apostle Paul says you have to put that to death daily he said I Die daily I'm sorry y'all know I grew up in a little old school church one day at a time sweet Jesus that's all I'm asking of you y'all don't know it [Applause] you gotta you have to be aware so you can manage the reality of your duality I'm not talking about obsession I'm not gonna be being obsessed I'm simply saying being aware just still in me now this is important because Duality everybody breathe you're about to be about to need it this is important because duality not only impacts Who We Are Duality also affects what we want imma say it again Duality not only affects Who We Are Duality also affects what we want because sometimes we be wanting Lord have mercy and sometimes with men The Duality makes them want Delilah laughs yeah and I see an example of this in this text this text exposes us to the life of an individual named Samson and Samson was a powerful picture of the reality of Duality because we read or we pick up on this story in Judges chapter 13 but his story actually doesn't begin with Samson it actually begins with Israel the Bible says that Israel is going undergoing a season of correction that they think is circumstantial now I don't have time to dig deep into this theologically but there's something that you need to understand and that is the wrath of God was actually poured out in full on Calvary Jesus absorbed the wrath of God so what you deal with now post Jesus is not wrath it's love that comes in the form of chastisement the writer Hebrew says whom the Lord loves he chastens [Applause] so he's not he's not behaving punitively he's not saying I'm punishing you because the wrath of God was poured out on Calvary the price has been paid so now what you receive in the New Testament is chastisement it is God loving you enough to correct you because his correction is less consequential [Applause] than the price you will pay disobeying see see in the Book of Judges it's called judges because this was an aging era where Israel had no king and it says that there is no king in Israel and everyone did what was right in their own eyes got me and so what began to happen is there are certain Commandments that God had gave that they would not take seriously that they would disobey now here's the issue with Divine instruction God's Divine Insurance how many of you wait if you've ever heard uh the Bible say have you ever heard somebody say or read in the Bible God's a jealous God way better you've heard that okay so there are different types of jealousy there is a jealousy that is possessive and then there's a jealousy that is protective and God's like I'm not jealous because I'm possessive I'm God whether you know it or not he I'm God whether you treat me like I'm God or not [Applause] he says so my jealousy regarding you is not possessive it's not that I feel less about me it is protective it's because because I know that the instruction that I'm giving you regarding what you need to have allegiance to is what's best for you my instruction is for your protection and when you don't obey me you make it harder for me to protect you every parent should be saying amen right now because sometimes your children think you have nothing else to do but control their life like you don't have bills and a job and so much else going on in your life that you just want to find out who they texting and what they doing you're like I am not in your business just to be in your business I'm in your business because you have blind spots and the instruction that I'm giving you is not me being possessive it's me be being protected because it's hard for me to protect you if you don't obey me if I say don't just drink something that's in somebody's cup I'm not trying to be in control this is protective custody if I tell you don't dance on a glass coffee table this is not control it's protective custody but you can't keep dancing on a glass coffee table and get cut and then blame the devil thank you he's saying that's not the enemy that's the inner me [Applause] so God's like I'm telling you forgive people I ain't gonna forget he's like you dancing on a glass table love your enemies I'm not loving okay you dancing on a glass table don't be on equally yolk I like who I like okay you dancing on a glass table and the problem is some of you been dancing so long you hadn't failed [Applause] and we don't think falling is possible [Applause] but Grace is not permission to continue Grace is an opportunity to get it right without consequence [Applause] so Israel is in a season of judgment and they don't know it they're being oppressed by this group called the Philistines the oppressed 40 years 40 years now I'm not um I'm not trying to tie these two things together but there's a pattern I want you to see because there's a there's a judge named Gideon in the Book of Judges who led Israel out of midianite Oppression and that was seven years nothing like judges six right now we're in judges 13. and they've been dealing with the Philistines 40 years because God's like so seven went long enough for you did you hear what I just said so seven didn't get the message across so 40 years they're dealing with Philistine depression and the Bible says they start crying out to God in their pain they need Deliverance they crowd to God for deliverance they need Deliverance so they cry out to God for deliverance they need Deliverance so they cry out to God for deliverance they have a problem so they talk to God Marlon about the problem they have a problem so they talk to God about the problem God answers their prayer not by answering them God answers their Prayer by orchestrating a pregnancy so they asking for deliverance God impregnates a woman with a deliverer watch this but doesn't announce to Israel that your answers in the womb of a woman so for nine months they suffering not knowing Deliverance is on the way did you hear what I just said I say they have no idea watch this because just because you talked to God about the problem doesn't mean God talks to you about the answer sometimes God's not talking to you about the problem because he's impregnating somebody with the answer are you hearing what I'm saying and you just gotta be willing to wait the nine months and all of a sudden without notice your answer just shows up I don't know who this is for but this next thing that's about to hit your life it's gonna come without warning I need somebody to receive this this next text this next email this next phone call is about to blow your mind without warning all right [Applause] this is interesting so this this man named Manoa has a wife who was Barren and the Lord says she's going to have a child his name's gonna be Samson and he's gonna have Supernatural strength but remember his birth is an answer to the problem of the Philistines so the strength that he has it's based on the enemy he's assigned to that's a problem because there's people in your life who want your strength but they can't handle your enemies did you hear what I just said oh you don't get this kind of strength without having to have awesome enemies in your past [Applause] isn't it amazing how people will admire your strengths but won't know parts of your story they like oh my God you so strong and you're like I wish I didn't have to be this strong there's a reason I'm this strong I've been through something well I had to grow or die and I choose to live that's Armando foreign I could have gave up I could have threw in the town but I made a decision I will live and not die [Applause] so don't miss this so Samson's strength was to protect Israel from the Philistines he's born to protect Israel from the Philistines here's the problem let me read this judges 16 verse number four sometime later he fell in love with a woman in the valley of Surat whose name was Delilah so he born to protect Israel from the Philistines but he keep falling in love with Philistine women y'all aren't talking to me [Applause] he like what's killing him [Applause] this is killing me but I like it y'all aren't talking to me I want you to see the reality of his Duality you're born to protect Israel from the Philistines yet you got affection for it the very enemies you're supposed to protect Israel from it's like Samson looked over there at the Philistines and said they do a little different over there [Applause] wait a minute I feel like it's a little judgment going on [Applause] sisters don't y'all judge Simpson now because these conflicting affections are not just limited to one gender sisters I'm gonna find whatever honest section that's what I'm a preached to you have Duality too [Music] you want him street but not in the streets time I want him nice but not weak you want him a thug but not a criminal you want them saved but not too spiritual wait a minute [Applause] I need to be able to take him to the club and to church [Applause] yeah don't Don't Judge Samson so he's got this this affection for Philistine women is interesting y'all because he it's interesting he develops a particular liking to a woman named Delilah who ended up being his demise the Bible says he fell in love with her this wasn't lust it was love just because the love is real doesn't mean the Love Is Right [Applause] but PD is so real but is it right [Applause] PD I never felt like this before but is it right nobody's affected me like this but is it right I feel like I've known him my whole life but is it right there is a way that seems right unto man but in the end [Applause] keep keep dancing on the glass table in the end he loved her I don't even have time but nothing in the text says nothing in the text says she loved him foreign there is emotional inequity it's interesting because for me I'm wondering Samson you telling riddles like you're you're not just strong you're wise I don't understand why would Samson be interested in someone like that to take it further when you consider all that he went through before her because she wasn't the first Philistine woman he had a relationship with she the third he was married to one so I don't have time but you keep choosing a different person but the same type [Applause] they taller but they still a Philistine they're younger but they're still a Philistine they make more money but they're still a Philistine same type what happened cause it's not a dumb man he did a dumb thing but he's not a dumb man and if you dismiss this as dumbness you rob yourself of the richness of this lesson if you make some broad generalizations that culture may agree with and affirm but that scripture will contradict it's easy it's easy to be intellectually lazy and say stuff like men are dumb it takes it takes more work to lean in and to say I'm not excusing what happened it was wrong but let me dig deeper and find the why because if I don't find the why are we dealing with is the symptom of the sickness so we diagnose symptoms but not the sickness we need to know why [Applause] Maybe family maybe there were some qualities in Delilah that although the relationship was wrong maybe the qualities made it feel right see you got to catch this because Delilah does not represent The Other Woman because Samson wasn't married neither was the Delilah represents a type of woman who has some qualities that meat needs that causes men to ignore the toxic traits that are going to sabotage destiny this is why I'm glad I did hungry man first because when you hungry your discernment is impaired and you will explain away toxicity you will ignore the 80 percent of toxicity because you're hungry for the 20 percent maybe Delilah represents Samson getting the right need met in the wrong place maybe maybe just maybe Maybe he kept going to Philistines because maybe I don't know he didn't tell me it's just maybe the Proverbs 31 Woman was hard to find [Music] [Applause] cause I know we just be we just throw that around but when you read proverbs 31 you have a man who's operating under the pseudonym the mule who's saying these are words that were given to me by my mother Lemuel is a pseudonym for Solomon it says Solomon's mom giving him gain on how to choose a woman I ain't gonna bother that he should have listened to his mama [Applause] laughs and I know there's conversation about fathers having conversations with daughters about men I love this I love proverbs 31 because it's a woman having a conversation an honest conversation on this conversation a honest conversation with her son about women just like a father knows men a mother knows women say sit down son [Applause] and who can find say this is hard to find gosh maybe he kept going to the Philistines because he didn't see a lot of difference [Applause] [Applause] maybe he was dealing with the same kind of condescension and combative combativeness all right all right let me wrap up men do not say a man anymore well I'm getting ready to go any a man's from this point on may get you in trouble I got you all I know is that for the purpose of this presentation Delilah can represent an unwise attempt to meet a real need she was a satanic plant she was on the payroll of the Philistines she was the Kryptonite to Samson Superman [Music] but this man blew it all for Delight why I don't know but maybe maybe there were some real needs that were being met um I don't know but I just kind of looked at the passage and draw some drew some conclusions based off of some things I saw about their interaction and so here's one thing maybe here's maybe one reason Samson wanted Delilah she wasn't dismissive of his desires thank you oh well see dismissiveness doesn't mean necessarily disrespect I don't have to be disrespectful to be dismissive dismissiveness can happen when a person is weighing the weight of what's important to me on the scale of what's important to you and if what's important to me doesn't weigh the same as what's important to you then you don't prioritize it the same way it's it's if you don't think it's important then it's not even if I've articulated it's important to me [Applause] and watch this just because I articulate it doesn't mean you have to agree I just want to know I'm heard y'all are talking I just want to know I just want to know I'm not dismissed I just want to know that when it comes to what the Bible says I can only get from you cause there's some stuff God is not going to do he gave adam Eve because he says some of the stuff you need I'm not gonna do so if this is the only place that the Bible says I can get it and I'm articulating to you what I need are you responding in a way that helps me to see that what I need matters to you and here's the danger of dismissiveness dismissiveness leads to muteness and only Jesus can heal a mute man by the time he gets mute you can't fix it because the muteness is a reflection of the accumulation of dismissiveness because now his muteness becomes a way to manage his disappointment because if I keep talking about something you keep showing me you're gonna do nothing about it increases my frustration and so because I want to manage my frustration in a healthy way imma stop talking about this because I'd rather just deal with not having it than to continue to have conversations that remind me of how much I want it [Applause] can I just be a pastor come on and here's what's scary what you want what we need is men that are not mute I know we talk a lot about men's presence but the Bible shows us the importance of men's voices see even in the Garden of Eden the problem wasn't that Adam wasn't present the Bible says eat ate the fruit and gave it to her husband that was with her like we tell the story like Adam's in one part of the garden Eve's in another Adam's right there he's present but not vocal he's not leading y'all aren't talking to me all he had to do in that situation is lead and we are not in the situation we're in but he went mute [Applause] all he had to do was leave he had influence with Eve all he had to do was lead so it's not it's not always dangerous when he's asking for it it gets dangerous when he stopped dismissed number two y'all all right all right let me number two she didn't demonize his differences he used to play a lot he's the riddles he played a lot his family's like you need to stop all that playing and he did play too much he did he didn't play too much right that's an idiosyncrasy that's that's a weakness he played too much yet at the same time just because his area where he needed to grow was different doesn't mean it should be demonized help me holy Holy Spirit to say this um we have different interests different abilities different issues and I'm not saying that we shouldn't grow I'm not saying that we shouldn't adjust I am saying those differences shouldn't be demonized so if somebody kind of like home and you like outside that's just a difference that shouldn't be demonized [Applause] you never want to go wait a minute don't I am I making sense it's like it's like you you're just so boring wait a minute [Applause] sometimes my wife and I are like let's say we go away or something like that people ask what did you do it's like nothing you went all the way over there and did nothing yes my life is scheduled enough so I enjoy it nothing I had a blast doing nothing I Had the Time of My Life doing nothing but it will be really hard for me If my spouse demonized that because even though she's my spouse she don't sit in that seat and until you sit in this seat you don't know what that pressure light and a person can the grace of God will make something look easy that's not just because it looks easy doesn't mean it doesn't feel hard but sometimes they're you know what I mean there are differences it could be the other way around this person likes outside this person likes inside it's like hey find a happy medium without demonizing it does that make sense my pastor told me one time he was like okay now Darius uh you're gonna have to do something sometime he said you're gonna have to do something sometime and he said something it was so strong I'll never forget I'm done talking he said uh if you don't all your wife's recreational memories will be with somebody else and not you I said now I hold up a minute [Applause] okay I'm done talking number three foreign she didn't have a view of spirituality that diminished her sensuality [Applause] play louder [Applause] now here's the problem she's a Philistine so she engages in idol worship we gotta acknowledge that right so we got enough yet at the same time I think there is a presentation of Christianity that's been infused with something called gnosticism which is really because you got to remember Israel is under the Roman Empire during the time of Jesus's birth and ministry right so a lot of Greek philosophy influence the theology of some followers of the way and so this whole idea of gnosticism led to asceticism and monasticism this withdrawing from the world because anything that was material and physical was evil and inferior to that which was invisible so it led to a a false View of biblical sensuality so their shame associated with something that in the right covenantal context should be freely given and received how shame but there is this gnosticism that's perpetuated itself in Christianity and it's almost like and so what ends up happening is there is not the articulation and there is not the expression to a man from a woman of her desire for him read Song of Solomon and people who try to say that's a metaphorical book that's some y'all want the metaphors so I'm not it is not it's not telling people to be something that you aren't but it is speaking to the incur it is speaking to the reality and encouraging you to be free in the covenantal context that God has our day am I making sense he need that see he need to know he wanted to boy I can't y'all understand do you understand thank you he's doing it and not just I'm not talking about physically emotionally he wants to know still do something for her that makes her want to pursue me number four she communicated with him without emasculating him what exactly is emasculation it refers to the act of undermining or diminishing a man's sense of masculinity through words actions or behavior that belittles him emasculation isn't disagreement emasculation emasculation doesn't mean you have to a person has to diminish who they are but there is a way to express a position without belittling the person and here's the truth emasculation doesn't just happen with women and men and masculation can happen like men can be disrespected by men the difference is when men are disrespected by Men We handle it differently we handle it immediately yeah we're not walking around the house mad can't say that we handle it we handle it right there but we don't we we can't handle it that way in other circumstances and it is not the intention of God that any relationship causes any person male or female but we talk about men this month sisters you next month me and this month where he's not treated as an image bearer of God foreign when this person became a woman's husband they didn't stop being God's son to me and is your relationship pushing him further into who he is like is it concretizing who he is or is it causing him to call that into question this is serious because we're declaring war on Delilah's not on people but on what it represents someone trying to get a real need met in the wrong place we're saying as a spiritual family we will not be a place that continues to perpetuate in living lives that are less than God's best for them [Music] they fighting for dignity all day every day dealing with Souls that they got too much responsibility to acknowledge [Music] somebody hit me not too long ago about playing at his 40 and over basketball league I said I'm too busy to get hurt y'all missed it they missed it I'm too busy to get hurt I got too much responsibility that I'm carrying to get hurt the men in your life have too much responsibility you deal with unnecessary hurt foreign so today I want to pray for I want to pray for men because when we're hurt our response is different we may not cry but it doesn't mean I'm not hurting but one of my emotional mentors says to us all the time feelings buried alive don't die [Music] that pain gonna show up in one way or another we do not want it to show up in dysfunction we don't want men sabotaging Destinies over Delilah so father I pray right now for each and every person in this room under the sound of my voice that needs you the one who heals the Brokenhearted father would you would you tend to the wounds of disappointment care I pray that you will minister to self-esteem that has been shaken wondering if they are wanted I pray for wholeness and wisdom and may The God Who heals the broken heart and then binds up wounds may you do it for the men in this room I ask this in Jesus name come on put your hands together everybody

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