"I Don't Follow ANY Rules Except My Own!" - America's Supernanny (S1, E7) | Full Episode

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ny." I meet a family on the verge of collapse. Stop it. Die! HOST (VOICEOVER): Eight-year-old Austin has ADHD. You're choking him. HOST (VOICEOVER): And the family lives in fear of him. Oh my god, stop. What are you thinking? HOST (VOICEOVER): And then there's Aryel, a 12-year-old going on 20. Seriously, don't take my phone. HOST (VOICEOVER): And because Dad's disabled, Mom has to cope alone. You know daddy can't carry you. Quit. HOST (VOICEOVER): And when faced with violence, she folds. I don't follow any rules except my own. You have to learn how to parent and take the control back. HOST (VOICEOVER): So I'm stepping in with some new ideas-- Let's throw it out. Go, go, go, go! HOST (VOICEOVER): --a take-charge attitude. The bottom line is, the makeup's coming off. HOST (VOICEOVER): --and my expert opinion-- That's his behavior. That's not ADHD. HOST (VOICEOVER): --to fix this broken family-- You've got to do better, man, because I know you have it in you. HOST (VOICEOVER): --before things get seriously out of hand. You Austin? I need to talk to you for a minute. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): My name is Deborah Tillman. I'm a wife, a mother, and my child care centers are amongst the best in the country. I've dealt with every kind of kid and every kind of family. They don't have the problem. You have the problem. The dog pees and poops over there? This is a madhouse. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Some people call me a miracle worker. I'm glad you're here. But you can call me America's Supernanny. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): This week I'm in Somerville, Georgia to meet the Edwards family. Listen to your momma now. - Listen. - No. No. No. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): There's Mary, the overworked mom. He just got his toys down, Duke. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Duke, a retired contractor suffering from chronic pain. Give me your phone. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): 12-year-old Aryel, a young girl with an adult-sized attitude. Fine, take it. Bye. Whatever. Nope. You're not-- you're not gonna-- DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Eight-year-old Austin, who terrorizes his family. Quit. Brandon? DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): And seven-year-old Brandon, who acts like a baby. Stand up. Brandon. No, dummy. Don't call me dummy. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Mom and dad have zero control over the children. Seriously, don't take my phone. Yes, give it here. We're not consistent with the kids at all. Go to your room. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): And the children run wild. (SCREAMING) Get it! No. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Austin has been diagnosed with ADHD and displays some seriously violent behavior. Austin will throw things. He'll knock holes in the doors and scream and yell at us. Die in a ditch. Die! When Austin's not happy, nobody's happy. Nobody's happy. My neck's about to kill me. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Duke was in a car accident that left him in chronic pain, and it's affecting his parenting. You know daddy can't carry you. Quit. I can't stand up and be the parent that I need to be. You know, I feel guilty a lot. That that's not amusing. We've gotten to the point that we pretty much don't know what to do with the children anymore. Get off the table. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): I've got to get in there and clean up this mess. We just are out of options. We really do need some help and guidance. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Before someone gets hurt. Quit. Hi. Hi, come in. I'm Mary Edwards. When Deborah arrived, as soon as she walked in I had a sense of calm, like things-- things were going to get better. Hi. - Hi. - I'm Aryel. Hi, Aryel. And aren't you pretty? Thank you. - How you doing today? - Good. I'm fine. I'm Miss Deborah. - Miss Deborah. - Nice to meet you. I'm Duke Edwards. And so our little ones? They are still asleep. Well, I'm here observing today. And so just be the way you normally are so that I'm able to detect exactly what's going on. Mom went to wake up the boys, but it wasn't like any kind of wake-up I had ever seen before. You ready to wake up? You hungry? What you want for breakfast? Root beer. Daddy, he wants root beer. DUKE: Root beer? Hold on. MARY: Austin, we gotta wake up now. Austin, what do you want to eat? You want cereal? These kids get breakfast in bed and mom's the waitress? Are you kidding me? And they're drinking sugary drinks with breakfast? Oh wow, there's way too much soda in this house. Austin, sit up. Here's your breakfast. Don't spill. DEBORAH: He just eats on the bed like that? He doesn't come to the table? He won't come to the table. Austin has ADHD and takes medication for his ADHD. DEBORAH: OK. So it's important for him to get breakfast early in the morning, and that's what works. ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. It's a condition that affects millions of kids and makes it hard for them to stay focused and control their behavior. Good nutrition is important for all children. But to watch this child, who already has a behavioral problem, drinking all of this soda? That's crazy to me. Come on, let's get you dressed. When mom told the boys, let's get you dressed, I didn't think she meant it literally. OK. But that's exactly what she meant. She actually puts these boys' clothes on while they're laying in bed. Let's check on Austin. You done? All right, call me back when you're done, OK? We'll get you dressed. He's eight, and you dress him too? Yes. Why? Because it's easier. He'll just lay there and won't do it. I've never seen it in my 20 years of experience. I've never seen children who are seven and eight who don't know how to dress themselves, who don't know how to put their toothpaste on the toothbrush. These children are treated like infants. These children are not learning self-reliance. They're not learning responsibility. And they're not learning independence. And that is a problem. 12-year-old Aryel is the complete opposite of her brothers. She seems very independent. So I wanted to get more information. How's your relationship with Aryel? Oh, I'm good. Good. - I'm Uncle Duke, you know? - Uncle duke? Uncle. I am her mother's uncle. I'm Aryel's great uncle. We've had Aryel since she was three years old. She's lived with us. The biological mom and dad are split up, and she doesn't have a relationship with her biological mom. But she does with her dad. DEBORAH: Preteens often struggle with identity issues. And for children who are adopted or in foster care, their growing pains can be magnified. I wanted to talk to Aryel to see if she would open up to me. What kinds of things do you like to do? Go places my friends and stuff. DEBORAH: Do you? - Yeah. You like to dress up and everything? Well, I dress up like every day. I'm just like, OK, gotta make sure my makeup's good, my hair. Do I look cute today? I do that. You don't to do much to look good, right? Yes. I put a lot of makeup on. And what happens if you-- or you wouldn't go without it? I can't, because I'd look dead. You'd look dead? Yeah, because my eyes are like small without it. I have, like, weird eyes. You know, this is a girl, 12 years old. Pre-teen, low self-esteem. A lot of insecurities. All of those are telltale signs that a young girl is headed for self-destruction. They told me about your dad. You see him sometimes? I haven't seen him in a long time. You miss him sometimes? Yeah, but it doesn't bother me. I mean, I just call him and stuff whenever I feel like talking to him. DEBORAH: When I asked her about her biological father, it was all in her face. You could just see, a wall came up. She's going to be a hard shell to crack. [yelping] Quiet down, son. Daddy's gotta run pay some bills. You'll be a good boy while I'm going? Yeah, sure. DEBORAH: Dad left to run some errands. And as soon as the door shut, Austin went ballistic. AUSTIN (SCREAMING): Die. Die. Die. MARY: Austin. [screaming] MARY: Stop. I don't like the words coming out of your mouth. Austin? [screaming] Quit. DEBORAH: Austin looked like he was a challenging boy from the beginning, you know? Right out the gate. I'm gonna murder the Easter Bunny. Die, die, die! Calm down, Austin. No, no, no, no, no. You pop my wrist, you die. Stop. Stop. Stop it. Die. That's not funny. [screaming] MARY: You're choking him. Hey, I need you home now, please. Mary didn't even try to discipline Austin. I could see she felt totally helpless. MARY: Uh-uh. No. DEBORAH: Austin had the whole family in panic mode. MARY: Stop. When will you stop? Never. Stop it. DEBORAH: His behavior was so out of control, I could see they were terrified. MARY: Oh my god, stop! What are you thinking? I'm joking. That is not even funny. Do you know how dangerous it is to play with knives? I could tell Austin pulled a knife to get a rise out of his mother. But behavior like that could get him sent straight to jail. I'm not playing a game with you, Austin. You're in trouble. Yippy-aye-yay. And this is normal behavior? This is how he normally is just all the time? And it seems like until his medicine kicks in, he says a lot of times, medicine, my medicine, this. It's like an excuse. But where does the ADHD stop and the behavior start? I don't know. AUSTIN: Mommy, can you hug me? It's like two different extremes. He can't just be normal. He's like the calmest, nicest or he's like throwing stuff, acting crazy, like mental institution stuff. DEBORAH: When Dad got back from his errands, Mom filled him in. You need to be in timeout, son. DEBORAH: I was definitely curious to see what Dad's timeout looked like. You lay there for a while and don't you get up. OK. You understand me? Die! That's not funny. I need you to be a good boy. AUSTIN: Your side burns are gray. DUKE: You want a muffin? I figured if it filled his mouth, maybe he'd quieten down a little bit. A muffin, really? You're rewarding his behavior? Neither of these parents have a clue about discipline. I can't bend over like that. My back. DEBORAH: I could see that just walking Austin into his room had put a great strain on Dad. It's hard for a parent when they can't do anything physical with their kids. Tell me what happened to your back. I was very rear-ended in a car wreck. Oh my god, when? Three years ago. It hinders me from doing what I need to do around here. I can't run anymore. It makes it a lot harder. It's been an adventure so far with Austin, trying to figure out what part of it is behavior and what part of it is the medication either working or not working. I can't tell. Dad told me the same thing that I heard Mom say, that because they can't tell the difference between negative behavior and ADHD, they're not really disciplining at all. I wanted to have a conversation with Austin, because I wanted to find out from him whether or not he felt he could control that behavior. Why do you say bad names like, I want you to die and all that kind of stuff? I don't know. You don't know? You just come up with it? And you don't want to listen. You run around the house like that. But if you wanted to stop running around the house like that, could you stop? Do you want to be good sometimes? But you're not sometimes. You know that, right? So if we taught you how to try to be good, would you like that, if I taught you how to be good? Yes? There's nothing that's going to stop me from getting through to this boy. We're going to do what we have to do to turn him around. I can see in his eyes that he knows the difference between what's right and what's wrong. And that's the first step. Come on. I'm going to get ready to leave now. I'm going to come back tomorrow and have a family meeting with you. What I have observed today is a mess. But it's not a mess because Austin has ADHD. It's a mess because these parents aren't parenting the way they should. Rest up. We have a lot to do. OK. DEBORAH: I'm going to have to have a tough meeting with them and get to the bottom of it. DUKE: Thanks for everything. [rooster crowing] Hi. Hello. MARY: I do fear that I'm a bad mom. And that's the last thing I want to hear, because I love my kids with all my heart. We need to address Austin's behavior. Kicking, punching, throwing things. He disrespects you, Mom, with his language. Now, I'll tell you a little bit about ADHD. Children are impulsive. They say things before they think, OK? But this is going to a whole new level. You have to learn how to parent and take the control back. And right now, Austin has all the control, which means that you are allowing him to raise himself. And when children raise themselves, children end up in jail. He tells me that he was born bad and he doesn't know how to be good. You know what he told me? That he knows how to be good, and he wants me to help him be good. Discipline. There is none. No correction, no teaching. What you do is just yell and scream. (IMITATING MARY) Don't do that. Stop doing that. As a parent, that's very irresponsible, to just yell and scream at your child-- and not only not tell them what they're doing wrong, but don't correct the behavior. Do you know that what you're doing is not effective? Yes. Definitely not effective. But you continue to do it. Not OK. I need to talk to you about the boys' lack of self-reliance skills. I saw you take their food to them. I saw you clean up after them. I saw you put the toothpaste on the toothbrush. You treat these children like infants. How do they ever learn responsibility? I feel like that's my way of nurturing them as a mom. It's not your job to put their clothes on for them, to brush their teeth for them. It's not working. And we have to change things that don't work. Exactly. I'm going to talk to you now about nutrition. I saw the children drinking soda and sugary cereal for breakfast. Poor nutrition does not help anybody. Poor nutrition for a child that has ADHD is even worse. You say that you don't want the kids to drink soda, but I saw eight bottles on the counter yesterday. I think we should replace it with orange juice maybe. Uh, you think? We have got to talk about Aryel. The makeup is so obsessive in her life. Like, she literally thinks she doesn't look good without makeup. And she's beautiful. She's beautiful. Yeah, she is. (WHISPERING) But she doesn't know it. She comes from a difficult background. She acts like she doesn't care. When they're so quick to say that, there's some underlying issue going on. I'm scared for her. You said that this part would be hard, but-- Listen. Hard to hear, but I'm here to help you, OK? You never lose hope. It's never too late for children. I noticed that throughout my observation, these children were drinking so much soda. And to give a child that has ADHD that much sugar, all you're adding is aggression. Every sip is a punch. Every sip is a hit. I want you to guess how much sugar is in here. And we're going to use this spoon. You say 25? Mm-hm. How many do you think, Brandon, maybe? Scoop some out. Make sure it's a teaspoon. Put it in here. One. 25. Keep going. It's over 31. Now we gotta get Mom and Dad to pick. How many do you think? - 48. - 48. And what does-- 52. 52. Let's keep going. 52. It is more than this. Wow. 53. That's it. 53 teaspoons. This was just ridiculous, that we had been giving our kids all of this. What do you think we should do with all of this stuff? Throw it out. Oh! Let's just throw it out. Go, go, go, go! DUKE: Down the sink it went, and that was it. And that is it, forever. DEBORAH: All right! With the soda all down the drain, the next order of business was house rules for the children so that they would know what's to be expected. These are the House Rules. Brandon, read the first rule. Use kind words. Who knows what a kind word is? Please. DEBORAH: Please, very good. Before Deborah put the House Rules into place, they really wasn't any. So it was good, because we got a structure. We got some kind of foundation to build by. I needed to put discipline in place after putting the House Rules in place. For Austin and for Brandon, it's called the Calm Down Corner. Right here is going to be the Calm Down Corner. You could just stand right here. Three minutes in the Calm Down Corner does not start until they're calm. And for Aryel, she's older. so I'd do Lose What You Like. You're going to lose something that you value and that you like. And you have to lose it for a day. You don't get it back. I noticed that Aryel just had a face on, just a real attitude. And so it was important for me to pull her aside and find out what was going on with her. Something's going on, Aryel. I just don't like rules. Because you think you do OK anyway. Yeah. But you're only 12. I didn't like rules, either. 12 years old, 13 years old, let me tell you-- ugh, I don't even know if I can say this, but I'm going to just be honest with you. I did not like my mom. I didn't. I know, isn't that horrible? I didn't like her, because she was just like-- I used to get straight A's. One day, I brought home one B. And she just like, was so hard on me. And I didn't understand until I got older that she was so hard on me because she knew I could do better. And so sometimes, we don't understand when we're growing up why parents say what they say. But it's better for you when you grow up. Most children don't like rules. But you need rules in order to operate. And because she lives in a household and she is a child, she's going to have to live by the rules. Hey, Brandon. When I came back downstairs, Austin started falling out. What's the rule? - Austin. Brandon. - Go to him. Rule. Austin was refusing to eat his snack at the table, and I had to make sure Mom actually enforced the rules for the first time. Listen, you're-- No, there is not "listen." Table. Rule. What's the rule? Go to the table. Eat at the table. There is no rule. DEBORAH: This is your warning. MARY: This is your warning. - Come on, Mom. Gotta move. Uh-uh, that's not OK. Calm Down Corner, Mom. Not listening. - OK. You're not listening. You're going to Calm Down Corner. DEBORAH: Mom proceeds to put Austin in the Calm Down Corner. And I knew at that moment, uh-oh. He's going to take her through it. Don't touch him. You're in the Calm Down Corner because you didn't listen-- You're in the Calm Down Corner 'cause you didn't listen to mommy. Die in a ditch, woman. You're in the Calm Down Corner for not listening to Mom. That's fun, baby, fun. DEBORAH: Austin in the Calm Down Corner was everything I anticipated and more. He was running away she had to chase him. You're in the Calm Down Corner for not listening to Mom. DEBORAH: It's what he's used to. Get him from behind. Are y'all sweating yet? DEBORAH: You're not paying attention to anything he's saying right now. Austin's used to doing things, saying things, and getting a rise out of Mom. This time, she had to remain calm. You're in the-- uh-uh. Go. You're in the Calm Down Corner for not listening to Mom. You're in the Calm Down Corner. Did that hurt or not? DEBORAH: All about wearing him down. He's used to wearing you down. Come on. So you're teaching her to overpower me? (SHOUTING) It's not gonna work. DEBORAH: Austin is definitely at the top of the list when it comes to defiant behavior. DEBORAH: Watching him deliberately bait his mother just confirmed what I thought all along. This wasn't impulsive ADHD behavior. It was just a negative behavior. That's his behavior. That's not ADHD. You're bigger than that, Mom. Behind, behind, behind, behind. Behind. You're in the Calm Down Corner. As a father, it's really hard to just sit back and watch. It was an ongoing battle. Calm Down Corner. It took him a minute. I mean, he was screaming and hollering. You're in the Calm Down Corner for not listening. (SHOUTING) Quit saying that. DEBORAH: He was fighting the discipline. But I couldn't let Mom back down. He regularly hits his family members and throws things at them. It's abusive, and it's not OK. You're in the Calm Down Corner for not listening to Mom. Eventually, after close to an hour, he calmed himself. Austin, you were in the Calm Down Corner because you didn't listen to Mom. You can get up now because you calmed yourself down. DEBORAH: Mom didn't give up, and she actually followed through with a technique for the first time. DEBORAH: After the Calm Down Corner, I noticed that Austin went over to the couch. I could see in his eyes that he really felt bad. And so it was important for me to go over to him and actually talk him through it. What was that about? Hmm? Austin, you know how to be a good boy. And it's not to when you act up like that. I want you to try harder, you understand me? Yes? - Yeah. Yeah. You gotta do better, man, because I know you can do it. You have it in you to be a good boy. You're a good boy. I believe in you, sweetie, OK? It's all right. He felt really bad. I mean, he actually cried. I needed him to see that he could get better, because it was his choice to make sure that he could get better. It's gonna be all right. With discipline in place, it was time to get Austin and Brandon to get themselves ready in the morning. Before I leave this evening, I'm going to give them some homework. What does this say? Morning schedule. Morning schedule. The self-reliance technique involved the morning schedule with Austin and Brandon. When she wakes you up and says time to get up and you step your feet on the floor, you take the pen and you go like this. Check mark. It's visual. The children can actually check it off themselves, which makes them feel confident and responsible. Now, who's gonna tie up your shoes? Us. Hey, I don't know how to tie. I don't know how to tie, either. Really? These boys have a lot to learn. But they are so ready to do it. So we're going to start this tomorrow. No more Mom and Dad doing things for you. I think it's going to be just great for them to take that control themselves. DEBORAH: I'll be back in the morning to see how they've done. The next morning, I was eager to come back and see how Austin and Brandon were doing with their new schedules. I was excited to see that Brandon was already awake and had his breakfast. But Austin was still in bed. OK, Austin. It's time to get up now. If a parent is dealing with a child who has difficulty waking up, it's important for that parent to just keep the child moving. And eventually, the child will sort of wake up themselves. What do we do when we first get up? Good. Even though Austin did struggle a little getting out of bed, once he got going he started getting everything done that he needed to do, which was a huge accomplishment for us. Come here, I'm gonna show you. They're right on the shelf here. Uh-uh. It's important for parents not to micromanage their children, particularly when we're teaching self-reliance skills. What you want to do is just show the child and let them figure it out for themselves. Is this the front of the shirt? Yep. OK. Look at your shirt. So what do you need to do? There you go. It's not easy for these kids to suddenly start doing things for themselves after years of coddling. But once they got going, they were on fire. Children really do want to be independent. It's your job as a parent to just give them the tools. DUKE: To watch them put on their backpack, put on their own shoes getting ready for school-- I mean, Yeah, it's amazing. And we're going to let 'em do it from now on. Oh wow, guys. Look what you did. Great job, guys. Daddy is so proud of you. Aryel told me that she looks dead without makeup. And the fact is, she's a beautiful girl who hides low self-esteem behind that mask of makeup. It won't happen overnight. But I want her to at least begin to see that she doesn't need a mascara bottle to be beautiful. I want you to tell me what you see when you look at yourself with all the makeup on. I see makeup. I see eyeliner and eyeshadow and mascara. That's about it. Do you see beauty? A little bit. A little bit? What I wanted to teach Aryel was that the makeup has nothing to do with your beauty. So what we had to do was we had to start from scratch. All three of us are going to take off on makeup. All three of us are. I like my makeup. You can put it back on after we finish. But the bottom line is, the makeup is coming off. MARY: To see Aryel taking off her makeup, I knew, was a big step for her. I knew that she really didn't want to do it. But she was willing to do it, because we were all doing it. Let's get this mask off so that we can see the real true beauty. Oh my gosh. Beautiful. Wow. Are you still the same person? Yes. DEBORAH: Do you still have the same heart? Yes. I just-- I don't know, I like to look pretty. And you don't think that is pretty? I mean, I do think it's pretty. OK, good. Because I need her to at least recognize that we're not talking about makeup versus not makeup. We're talking about pretty versus pretty. And you are pretty. Tween age feelings of low self-esteem don't go away in an instant. It's going to take time for Aryel to get used to the idea that beauty comes from the inside. Hopefully, with love and encouragement, she'll come to embrace this, because she really is a beautiful girl. Smile! Austin showed throughout the week that he knew what good behavior was, but he was choosing to act another way. Die in a ditch, woman. DEBORAH: Austin's behavior had been so extreme. I needed to make sure that I could really get through to him, so I needed to call in some reinforcements. [police sirens] MARY: Oh my goodness. What is that? DEBORAH: What is that, Austin? It's a cop. Hello. I need to see Austin Edwards. Austin. Austin? You Austin? Yes, sir. I'm Deputy Knight. I need to talk to you for a minute. Yes, sir. How old are you? Eight. How have you been acting lately? Is there anything you need to tell me? I don't know. I don't think there's anything I need to tell you. How have you been treating your mother? I've been calling her names. You been calling your mother names? I understand that, uh, you've been trying to do a lot better lately. Is that true? Yes, sir. You're trying to be a better citizen? Yes, sir. Good, because that's what we need a lot of. Shake your hand? All right. DEBORAH: It was just the right amount of a scare tactic, but yet age-appropriate. Not too frightening, but just enough to give Austin a wake-up call, that I'd better choose to be the way I know I can be, or else there are consequences when I grow up. How did you feel when he first came? It was a little bit scary, because I saw your eyes. OK, listen. You can always make the choice to be a good boy. You know that, right? And that you never have to go to jail. But it's going to be your choice. And you gotta start now, OK? Because you know that feeling that you had where you just felt like, uh-oh, is he coming to get me? You don't ever want to feel that way growing up, OK? OK. You did a good thing today. I've definitely seen a big change in Austin. And it's the kind I needed to see. He really does want to behave well. He just needed to be shown the way. I'm going to leave you for a while. And while I'm not here, you are going to be tested. You've got to follow through. You've got to be strong. DUKE: Yeah, OK. All right. DEBORAH: I'm a little nervous about the fact that I'm leaving the family. Austin was clearly scared by Deputy Knight's visit, but I know he's going to really try and test both of the parents. So I really need Mom and Dad to get some backbone and be strong. I really hope they can stick to it. OK. How are you? Doing great. Good. I'm a little nervous, because I felt like maybe we could have done some things a lot better, especially me. Let's see how you did. Mom said no TV right now. This is your warning. - No! This is your warning. Gimme the remote or you're going in the Calm Down Corner. - No. - OK. You're in the Calm Down Corner for not listening to Mom. You're in the Calm Down Corner for not listening to Mom. (SCREAMING) Did you hear me? Die in a ditch! You were in the Calm Down Corner for not listening to Mommy. Now I need you to go pick those things up that you threw and put them back on the desk. AUSTIN: And after that, let me watch TV. There. Now listen. You have the choices of playing with toys, reading a book, doing some kind of activity. We are not watching TV right now. Let me watch TV. You have your choices of what you can do. I'm very proud of you. Wow, that must have been so difficult. That was. Your son is not used to you sticking to any kind of technique. Right. And so you see the anger and the frustration. But you were able to not feed into that and to know that he's having his moment, so he's going to say all kinds of things that are hurtful. Before, I would feel angry and just flustered. And now, because of this technique, I felt like this is just what we're doing, and he's going to eventually get it. That's right. Yeah, I believe once he figures out he's not going to win this, he won't even bother to make the effort anymore. DEBORAH: Exactly. Very good. OK. Come on, Austin. Get up, OK? You want this? You're not awake enough to fix it? There we go. Pour it in the bowl, son. It's too heavy. I can't even pick up that. The bowl's just too heavy. MARY: Pick it up with your hands. AUSTIN: I can't. MARY: Try, Austin. I can't. MARY: Look. Do you know that your sons know how to pour cereal, yes or no? Yes. OK, so then why are we pouring the cereal for them? Because he wasn't-- he had just woken up, and just-- So? Trying to get the morning going. We're feeding into Austin. He's in control again. MARY: Right. DEBORAH: This is what we're having for breakfast. Sit down and eat, let's go. - OK. We've gotta stick to it, or else it's not going to work. OK. All right. MARY: Aryel? What? God. I gave you two minutes to come eat breakfast. It's been two minutes. Now I need you in the kitchen to eat breakfast now. You're not listening. Aryel, this is your warning. You're not listening. If you do not get up and come in there to eat breakfast now, I'm going to take what you like. Aryel, look at me. The flat iron is gone for tomorrow, because you did not listen. You're being overdramatic. This is ridiculous. She's totally disrespecting you and being disobedient, and that is not OK. Right. First of all, you gave her two warnings. I didn't realize that I did that. One warning. You walk over to her. The mascara goes away. Now, you lose what you like for not listening to me. She's not used to rules. She doesn't like rules. No 12-year-old does. We don't care. We are the parents. Follow the rules. Right. DUKE: So what was you saying about Lieutenant Knight? We should do what? Write him a card. DUKE: We can do that. Look at that. MARY: What a good job. Aw. That was sweet. Yeah. Keep that up as you go forth. You know, you really want to make sure into the future that you really get Austin to remember that, yeah, I might get in a Calm Down Corner and I'll say all kinds of things that I can or cannot control. But there's always an opportunity to have a second chance. Absolutely. And to do something kind. He's actually looking forward to hand-delivering it down to the police station, so we're going to do that. DEBORAH: That's going to be fantastic, yeah. So overall, I think you have done a very good job, Mary. Thank you. DEBORAH: You look like a different woman from the woman I saw when I first observed. Yeah. I feel completely different. It's a very good feeling. DEBORAH: Duke, I think now that you've seen it, you know what direction you have to go in. I do. I'm going to change. I'm going to change myself. I'm going to change the way I handle them. And I'm going to work on it. I'm going to get better, I will. And as long as you stick to the techniques, everything will work. But it's up to you to keep it consistent and to follow through. If we stick with the routine, we'll be fine. OK, say that again, Duke. If I-- If I stick to the routine, everything will be fine. And I will. OK. I'm going to do better. I know you will. Fantastic. Austin, Brandon? Miss Deborah is getting ready to leave. Deborah has impacted our family tremendously with a positive energy. MARY: It's truly changed my family's life. I know we have so many great things ahead for us because of this experience. Aryel, remember that beauty is where? Inside. Inside. Looking in the mirror this morning without all the makeup, I felt my face could breathe finally. Thank you, Miss Deborah, for bringing our family closer together and having less drama. So continue to keep each other strong, OK? OK. She nice looking, and thank you! All right, guys, be good, all right? Take care. I am very proud of the changes that I have seen in the Edwards family. Bye-bye. DEBORAH (VOICEOVER): Both Duke and Mary came together as a united front. They no longer use ADHD as excuse to not do anything. Now they are taking the bull by the horns to really put the tools in place so that their children could have a better life. [music playing]
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Channel: Lifetime
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Rating: 4.8704548 out of 5
Keywords: lifetime, lifetime shows, lifetime yv, lifetime channel, mylifetime, america's supernanny, nanny, kids, families, expert, season 1, episode 7, the edwards family, lifetime tv, supernanny, super nanny, reality, reality tv, children, bad kids, bad children, kids screaming, kids yelling, temper tantrum, parents, childcare
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Length: 41min 12sec (2472 seconds)
Published: Tue May 25 2021
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