How We Knew We Were The One | Anniversary Series Ep 3 | Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo

[Music] welcome to the third part of this uh series the title of this one is how how i knew she was the one and how she knew you were the one yeah i knew we were the one is that correct how would you anymore okay for me mom she has more story than me this one uh for me simply like i said after i messed up on and then that night the day of the event itself just like how we see how smart she was i really was interested in getting to know her more i like that i kind of liked her you know from that time and she was sharing one story when we were sharing the beach story yeah so i remember that you sent me a message that you wanted to take me out or something um so maybe send the message i had my guard up because interestingly i was still in a relationship at that time we hadn't ended that relationship i was staying in a relationship um but i had my guard up because i'm such a one i don't even do i if you if i'm nervous you say hello i don't want to hear i'm not going to answer your help so i was very careful i didn't have male friends i was very clear on that no male friends in my life nothing like that so i went home and i said i told my younger sister dichy that uh oh i just met this guy again and we were just know that i said she won't stick me out tomorrow she say you're too dry go and i said no i'm relationship she said somebody has not even said anything do i does it i don't even know even looks like he's probably in a relationship with everyone i don't even know should i say that just old school friends they won't take you out for something i said they say go now she harassed me trout i don't even know what she came for that period she was around for some reason she harassed me on i talked about how important it is to have fun why you dry like this you are too serious you don't even play you don't she harassed me all night hey wait now okay no bex was much later obviously when you have started okay so dj was really harassing me at your phone so i went to school the next day i told my friends it's daniella peroy i remember them i know i was like you have to drive please go on groove purify i don't know about this so danielle daniela's danielle said it depends on where he wants to take you i said this is not a white it's not a date daniel said okay tell us about it tomorrow so i decided to go so i said to him okay no problem so you can pick me from school yes you can pick me from school what was even a group date yes yes yes yes so it wasn't a date that's what i'm saying wasn't it which was why i didn't understand why everyone was making anything out of it no let me say this very clearly wasn't it dates it was a couple of us are going out so i was thinking you'd like to go with us and i was like no potato was like you see a couple of guys why are you dry why are you this okay do you go anywhere where have you gone so she does harassment um every other person was like oh just go but danielle had a feeling it was not safe even if it was a group something so the other day you went for the union what happened i told her i said he's not safe so danielle was the only one who was a bit suspicious so it happened that we went with an with a couple of other people there were about two other people who were not dating so it wasn't a dating situation went to a couple of other people um so because it was not a dating situation i kind of let my guard down big mistake so we went out um it took me to took me to the move took me to the beach and they took me to the movies so when we were going to the beach was when we stopped by to buy food at mister because that is a part of our story we love you it's not big even if you just want something from now yesterday being every time we tell the story always talk about how they put only one spoon off cause they put only one spoon because of a it just occurred to me a couple of years ago so i put only one spoon and then we got to the place i was so hungry and me i'm not saying it was my friend it was not toasting situation nothing like that and i was the relationship i wasn't wearing my engagement ring yeah i remember very clear women get married um so i wasn't even thinking anything so no posing why am i for me for him who is he's not indian i'm in a relationship i'm getting married i wasn't thinking about so we got there and then he said ah there's only one school now so what we do i see what we do as hell unless you know one job we shed this food and he was so he could even be a gentleman he said as you are taking i'm counting it oh you take one spoon i take one spoon nobody's treating anybody i was like oh my god where'd this guy come from he's just like my brothers and i remember the nice telling i just tell you that that um i'm your younger sister that's if you don't have your sister i'm applying for the position of yoga i like which augusta stand will i wish to laugh about that so he we're really good friends and there's one embarrassing part of that date but i don't want to say it you remember yeah yeah so that's what they're practicing but that's just to show you that we were really good friends yeah it wasn't anything no pressure yeah so after that we went to a movie just i can't remember one movie we saw that i remember it wasn't great i was watching a fine game oh that was a movie i give up but i don't think the movie was that great it's not that i totally care about anything about it yeah so then after that she took me home yeah and they just drove off and that was it i took her to her house yeah oh let me say well he took me back to my father's house you guys they took me home like he took me my father's house and we said good night we just said goodnight thank you it wasn't there something no it wasn't nothing like a good night anything just had a great time good night and he left and then the next morning i went back to school and then i just said my friends they were like oh where did you go i said nothing we went through that we wouldn't share one bit of weed no not like that type because a person i was dating is extremely romantic so i was used to some certain things in fact that they were going out because i was so used to anytime i was going out the guy would open the door for me i stood by the door and it was like i said you kind of opened up for somebody he said everything do you want and he entered the car he's one side of the car he said do quicker they available so he was there was no there was no sense of it being like somebody who likes you or somebody wants to happen so it's it's weird for me to hear him say things like oh i thought she was a fan he didn't treat me like that i remember there were times we would laugh and you push my head so it wasn't a there was nothing romantic at all so my god was completely down and i remember that on that day all we talked about was my relationship wow you asked me so many questions of my relationship oh you're when you're ringing are you engaged yes or do you like him are you in love with him so how did you guys meet we talked throughout about coach forever so i'm always interested in relationships you told me you were concerned about the relationship yes yes i diagnosed you i went into my i put my telescope and everything in the diagnosis of people like no something's wrong go to the lab do with these x-rays i canceled it [Laughter] my mind you know i might just dissect relationships i mean it from the dream i just said to people talking if i ask you a few questions this is going to be a crisis marriage or it's going to work it's just a gift yeah so i remember i remember very clearly that he said to me that day that you're concerned about it my concerns were valid our friend we're personal i could see that there were some issues you know so well basically uh so we just became good friends from there friends how did i know you were the one um although i forgot to say what happened the next day now yes yes when i go back to school the next day and i told my friends every other person was okay daniel said no no movie no this is going somewhere this is prophetess danielle and then danielle said to me the proof that there's nothing in this thing is that when you get home today call your fiance and tell him that you went out with somebody i said well i told my own a couple of guys say no don't say it like that's your problem [Laughter] i guess also it's not really hard uh she's not a husband you know god has also more for me um how do i know she was the one she ticked all my boxes as i said i'm telling you as a relationship coach and um you know my counselor extraordinaire [Laughter] yeah so basically what she took out my boxer she was smart um i wrote the whole book about my wife is that would love it that's the mildred if you have not bought that books on our website go get it i wrote all the things the what other things i like about her and they are all s's you know we letter s and they are how many how many directs was it 10 or so friend but about she was very smart um you know very beautiful she was spiritual you know so she took all the boxes i wanted and she were friends you know so somebody could be myself you know yeah you know so so um and i prayed um and i've had peace in my heart you know that this is the kind of woman you know i want to spread the rest of my life but so for me that's how justin was one she ticked on my boxes right me i'm very mentally stimulated if you are just not smart my pet peeve in this life is people that you know are not smart once you have seen stupid things this is why i bought it in my comment section i try not to read it because i see those two comments like this it is something you're kidding me you know i mean so but i loved that she was smart beautiful and she was really spiritual many many many young girls today you know without marriage yeah they don't have a fair relationship with god i know there are many true japanese i mean in our own time or let me just say you know for many men have the same complaint that is not so common you meet more carnal girls than you meet really spiritual girls i love the lord without without the relationship so those things um impressed me and that's how i knew you everyone so now give your own elaborate long story my story god has to do plenty drama because like i said once i'm with someone i'm with someone i don't really think about an option so even though we went the other day it was just one day and it wasn't anything after that so it's just once in a while and i mean we didn't we couldn't afford to buy credits anyhow to be calling so it wasn't like we had a an ongoing type of friends you know here and they would talk um so like i said before um i got that that information from god that is not your husband but i said to god i won't be able to break this relationship because this guy didn't do anything to me he's been sweet he's been amazing um he bends over backwards for me he's just just an all-round amazing guy and then god said to me this is what we're going to do ask him if you were a pastor would he marry you i said i don't want to be pastor why i mean it's it's a no-brainer that he would say yes because he's you know christine and all that so okay so before that actually happened i said god let him break it so the next day we're having a conversation and he said i don't know why i feel like i'm losing you know what let's just end this and it just seemed weird you feel like you're losing millions and that's how it ended um but the next morning he woke up and said he doesn't walk him over him he's really sorry you know was begging and all of that he was crying i was crying i was crying because i knew he loved me and i knew he didn't deserve this i was also crying because i knew there was no way i was going to go back i knew this was what god wanted and i knew that i lived for an audience of one so if god says yes even if the world is saying no i'm going to go with god even no matter who gets hurt in the process so like that prayer you pray that she that you can break it that he should break it god answered it those are the battles we pray that let go by passing yeah so i'm getting there so i so when when he ended it was when god now told me because i was not telling god but this guy is okay and i didn't do anything you know then god and i said okay you know what let me show you where i'm really going with this he said ask him before he passed over to mary and i asked him and so i asked him one phone and i asked him i said if i pastor will you marry me because at the time was asking me to forgive him for saying let's end it let's get back together so he said no i said no you don't understand so i was trying to help him i said you don't understand me that you love that you're begging that we've been together for these years i'm wearing your ring kind of me you are asking me to come back to you what if i'm going to be a pastor he said he didn't stop he didn't stutter that he he knows no he doesn't want me but he doesn't want my pastor it wasn't public life you know why why we have his conversation the phone literally fell from my hand and interestingly the first person i called was pastor k relationship counselor yes actually that's kind of why i called him because he was very interested in relationships so i called him and said we'll see what's happening crying and he said i don't even understand he said you say you can't break it god got him to break it and you are crying because he says if god says something's not good for you that means what he's going to bring is better because i make you make me go call my phone call you yeah i didn't have credit you have credit so he called call me from daddy because i called him because he was urgent yeah and he didn't have credit daddy so he had to call with his mom's phone thank you mama and he was so upset with me and just caught the phone and i was like can i imagine this one but i didn't so you see like i said there was nothing romantic about our friendship and it was just one kind guys somebody's telling me something somebody's crying saying that wouldn't make you and cut the phone you know so i was like god like i would deal with this kind of fake friendship you know there was nobody to talk to like i said i'm very private person there's nobody to talk to um eventually i spoke to my parents about say they were livid like why do you want to end the relationship with the doctor in the uk somebody you've been together with he's the one we know what you want to do are you a young girl why would you end the relationship at this age just went no no no no but i knew what god had said but it was very hard to be honest he was crying he would call me he was saying if you're not the one then why does my [Laughter] we will cry oh he will sing i don't wanna run away but i can't he will sing all kinds of things i will be crying he will be crying but i knew that i would not go back you know i just knew but i just kept telling him i'm sorry he said i love you guys i love you too so why can't we basically i said i'm sorry i love you i don't know we're crying all of us were crying so eventually along the way um there was some confusion because at some point i now um my heart was getting stronger about the fact that is what god wants me to do so i wasn't going to go back i wasn't going to flinch i was going to bend but he was still trying to convince me he kept calling me weeks weeks after they kept calling me um so i went to there was one day i couldn't go to my church at the time because i didn't used to attend pastor king's sister just to attend this present house but i couldn't go to my church that day for some reason i was like okay i've never even been to their church let me go and see this man let me make sure that even the man of god true true or is he fake somebody so i got there um after he finished preaching he said to me you know what so he saw me as i said you know what i'll take you home but just give me a few minutes have a few meetings so while i was waiting for him i just felt that very unusual same thing happened to me unusual presence of god like i want to talk to you kind of thing so i just spent time worshiping and then i took my bible i was reading and i was reading about where um god i just imagined for some video i want to do we did soundtrack with change [Music] and cutting shaking and as i said we did that story of where someone came to anoint david um i want to actually read the exact scripture so when he got there and said ask jesse um do you have any because different men were coming and said do you have any other and then jesse replied someone said unto jesse first samuel 16 verse 11 to 12. he said and someone said unto jesse i hear all thy children and he said the remaining at the youngest and behold he keeped the sheep and someone said unto jesse send and fetch him for will not sit down till he comes here and he sent and he brought him in now he was rudy and without of a beautiful countenance and goodly to look at and the lord said arise anoint him for he's the one and that same thing that same highlighter thing happened again arise anointing for his one i'm like who is the one i rise annoys who what's going on i just couldn't figure that and then you need to say pay attention read it said what it says um he's the youngest and he's taking care of the sheep say what was johnny's kingsley i said he's the youngest what do pastors do takes care of the sheep he said i rise anointing for is the one i'm like what because i remember had prayed a prayer that the same way you told me who it is not it's the same way you tell me who it is so i told god that so i i was like what who never casey god forbid lord let's not do this don't do this to me you know i had all the i can't do that my pastor come here nibble man i can't my amanda is hairy i don't think he's fine he's yellow he's thin he has round head i know i honestly could have some basketballs you know a bit bold at the time because he's very skinny yes god so i couldn't i just couldn't see and then god just kept saying don't worry just follow me i struggled with it a bit but i got to the stage and say praying this prayer that lord bypass my emotions and do what is best for me so i said this i decided to follow god on it even though i didn't really think it was a good idea because i was used to someone coming from someone that they are passing me as well as telling me what you do your hand to it to enter you know someone that would not he wasn't romantic at all he wouldn't call me he wouldn't all those things um but what i noticed was that the closer we got the more peace i was about the whole thing because i think the biggest thing for me the biggest niche that i didn't know i had was that he was my friend because like i said i'm not a people person so i don't have many friends so obviously what i needed was somebody who would be my friend and at the time he was my friend he was and i could be myself around him i could laugh i could play no heirs no forming i didn't have to be perfect i didn't have to no secrets interestingly there were things i had told you about about my relationship that i hadn't even shared with the person i was engaged to and then personally kept asking me then that's why i used to say i had concerns you kept asking me that have you told this guy this thing i said no why would i tell him you see you wouldn't want to marry somebody that doesn't know everything about you that's why would i tell him everything and so i was telling us okay not even thinking i said come by somebody that knows me fully what's that i'll have to code some coding you know i had all those kind of mindsets and so it was weird that i was pointing out everything to the one person and god was saying you don't even know what i have in store for you this person you are telling everything is there's no no secrets like i literally had no secrets from bastard key and pasquet has this pull because maybe because they passed all right he has a pool he has a way that i guess people to talk to him so i would pour out my whole heart even when i'm obsessed with my ex i would say well i don't like this thing he does and i was telling personally everything i was gonna say tell him i said no no no i can't tell him i don't want him to be upset we'll be managing ourselves like that i was busy telling him everything so um so i mean all of that got me to the point where i now realize that oh this is then along the way there was this prophet and i think this is very important in my story because at some point it now became pastor k now became interested i said showing that he was interested um god has said this is the one but of course i didn't let him know that i knew you know i wanted to i wanted him to earn it i wanted to also be sure that i wasn't making another of those my mistakes you know i wanted him to earn and i wanted him to i wanted to be a real relationship i wanted to see if i enjoyed this company i didn't just want to rely on the fact that i felt this was prophetic and all of that i wanted to see if it was my friend if we could cope if we i mean i wanted to see to to let it play out so let us make the mistake if they feel or sense god is saying this you know what they go on yeah tell the man all right just keep it to yourself see you and god let god also deal with him so that this relationship will ride on your own conviction to write on your own both of you having the same commitment yeah so i really really really wanted him to to show that he was you know he was interested he was i led him to make the move himself i wanted him to do the work you know to initiate the covenant if there was going to be one so i i think along the way because he was now in the picture proposing and then there was someone who was my ex was trying to come back so there was a bit of confusion in my life at some point we had ended that relationship but i just kept saying god please let me not be making a mistake because naturally think about it a doctor uk who have dated for a long time and then someone who i just met who is a pastor wasn't any salary didn't look like much you know not like that i want to look like but i mean for me physical things were not really a major thing um so it just seemed god i just want to make a mistake and i was so i just did not want to make a mistake that was a major thing so at some point um there's this guy who my my sister my mom talks to he's a prophet of some sort those are these prophetic prayers that's what i was running around looking for prophetic prayer so the guy called me i don't know who gave my number right now my mom my sister he called and he said um is this hello is this this is your mama because they call me someone this is your man's like yes who is this he said oh i'm prophet on something i said okay so who gave me my number i think it was my mom said your mom gave me and i said okay so how can i help you he said that he has a word for me from the lord i said okay i'm listening he said that god said to tell me that i'm about to make a wrong choice i said okay what's the wrong choice he said um that god told him that because i'm about to speak he's not my husband i said okay who is my husband he said no that i should pray i said um did god tell your mouth and say yes that god has told me i said god revealed to you my husband says i said who is my husband he said your husband is the doctor i said let me let me rephrase this question again did god tell you i should marry the doctor because he's my husband he said yes i said you are sure that the doctor i asked him a million times he said yes so immediately he dropped i said okay thank you drop the phone i got on my knees because god is not a gossip so i said lord you said to me that the man which is not my husband now somebody is coming and say he's a prophet from the lord i want to be sure if it is your own lord or another one do you tell this man to tell me that this doctor is my husband i said so i want my sister i should know my pastor he said no the pastor is not the god's way for you i said okay so i said you need to don't forgive me so i got on my knees and i started worshiping and right there again of course the same god always shows up so immediately after god now took me to school i can't remember right now the exact scripture but i read that scripture and that same thing like i said in my own life my whole story is like what video that same thing happened again he said i have not sent they said the prophets prophesy lies for i have not sent them it was a you know when i don't even know what i was a hallelujah moment it was a god what i just picked up my phone i said hello i went to his house i said prophet called me today and he said that you know god's will for me his face just changed but enough i didn't even know at the time you know why but his face just changed you just look like okay and i said so what do you say i say wait now i never finished story story never started to say too long i've not i'm not done he said that because he has service he was being very impatient um so i said that anyway i got on my knees and i prayed about it and this is what god said i showed him i said god said the prophet prophesied lies or i have not sent them so i know for a fact that this guy is lying and i know that the doctor is not my husband he now said okay okay he just smiled the baby he was like okay he would see me later yesterday so i went home he didn't even drop me off he didn't walk me out it's nothing just that way it was his bible was on his lap i think was preparing for service he just said okay i'll see you later that's why i left i was really confused why is he acting cold why is he i thought you'd be excited about the news and everything so it was later i found out that that was the defining moment for him like the fact that i said prophet because he has a thing for people if you just go to these prophets things it gets to me because it's not new testament believers are not meant to live by direction from prophets supposed to be guided by the holy spirit inside you as many as are led by the spirit of god they are the sons of god you will never see anyone in new zealand where apostle prophet saw prophesied to peter who to mario prophesied to james superman is not scriptural it's not by blicker the work of the new testament purpose is inefficient prophets in ephesians 5 as you have just can remember for where it says you know um he gave them apostles prophets and they say that job is to fight the body to you know build the body and to raise that those are the things that not to give people individual prophecy that's not um the scriptural order okay so once anybody's doing this prophet because once you start from prophet you will continue to sustain it by prophecy the source of the thing is yes is sustainable if you're married by prophet then we're going to have to judge you we have to join this will be prophet yes what's your name children prophet you will continue your life by prophet i see people that started christ like that they never grew up to hear god for himself god wants to have a personal relationship with every of his children interestingly this prophet showed up again later in our might bro i'll tell you guys about it later but pascal is another part of the story okay so yes you hear today today yeah so that was how that ended now you just yeah so i just moved on and stayed focused so the fact that even another thing about satan when satan comes to you and tells you something is a lie so the fact that satan puts the effort in telling me that this is not the one and god says this one doesn't know that there's no need to kind of just understand this yeah before you on youtube to please search it out on them prophets and uh prophet prophecies and marriage or something please check for it i dealt with this issue in a broad way so please um because i will find bondage with those things and somebody told me yeah this is not my wife or somebody told me this is my wife and my mother took my name somewhere you're born again christian the prophet i'll be telling you something so these guys are not even professor of god some of them aren't even sent by god they're just they're familiar from their spirit so and that's within the details in the video please try and get it all right so uh that's how you knew i was the one now god told you so yeah yeah god told me yeah it's your choice and god's [Laughter] next video is um how i propose a tough proposal don't miss that next video [Music]

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Length: 28min 2sec (1682 seconds)

Published: Sun Sep 05 2021