How to stop being insecure. My name is
Coach Adrian and welcome to HAPPILY COMMITTED Feeling insecure is a sure way to lose
control of your relationship, of your self-worth, self-esteem, and over the
years I've coached so many people who started to feel insecure and as a result
lost the person that they love so much. And the idea here is to provide you with
tools and relevant guidance to help you regain control and confidence in
yourself and in your relationship. Oftentimes people that feel insecure
forget what they're good at. And in coaching sessions, I often train clients
to focus on their quality traits and attributes. And it's important to first
understand what your quality traits are, and then, two, to put yourself in
situations on a daily basis where you can let your quality attributes shine.
Instead of seeking your partner's approval or reassurance, address your
insecurities yourselves. It's important for you to take accountability here. Your
husband, your wife, your boyfriend, or your girlfriend is not responsible for you. You need to work on your own self-esteem and your self-worth.
Don't let them, don't let anyone for that matter have that control over your life. And so the whole idea here is to go through a process of personal
transformation in order to help you feel as confident and as secure as you can be
to in turn create the relationship that you want. Don't depend on them. And the
start of that process is identifying the quality traits and attributes that you
possess and then putting yourself, on a daily basis, in situations where you can
let those quality attributes shine. Second, I need you to cultivate gratitude.
If you are grateful for what you do have, if you're able to focus on
the good, the positive aspects of your life, you are going to be able to reach a
place of well-being, serenity and security. When you're insecure that voice
in your head is forcing you to focus perhaps on a negative memory, on a time
where you did something that you're ashamed of or focused on the things that
you don't do well, the things about yourself that you don't like. Quiet that
voice and focus on the good. And you can do that by being in a constant state of
gratefulness, of gratitude. Throughout your day set reminders to pause and to
appreciate what you have, what you're grateful for. And there's endless things
to be grateful for and the more you cultivate that habit the happier you
will be, the more secure you will feel. It's important to surround yourself with
people that help you become better with people that don't put you down just to
build themselves up. And if you're if you've identified a few negative people
in your life, friends, family members, or even partners, it's important for you to
distance yourself from them, to heal, to grow, in order for you to gain the confidence and the peace of mind and stability that
you need to then accept them for all that they are and to not let their
negativity affect you. It's also essential for you to keep your
independence. In any relationship If you start to get sucked into other people's
negative emotions or if you try strive continuously to live someone
else's dream if, you are always focused on empowering other people and not
living out your true core values, you're gonna feel insecure. Your life will not
be aligned and you will not reach your full potential. So it's very important
for you to stay independent in your thoughts and in the way that you want to
live your life. Don't live someone else's life. Live your own and regain confidence
in the process. Finally, in order to overcome insecurity,
you need to stretch your comfort zone. You need to set goals on a daily basis
and you need to attack each day with a purpose.
Don't just coast through life hoping that things will just magically
get better. NO! Have a plan or a roadmap and then make sure that you put yourself
in a position to reach your goals. And I highly encourage you to seek help if you
feel like you're overwhelmed. We as coaches are here to help. We've developed
countless programs on HAPPILY COMMITTED to help you become
the best version of yourself and to create the relationship you want. So join
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leave some of the things that you are insecure about and what you are doing to
grow because that's what life is all about. For Happily Committed, I'm Coach
Adrian. Thank you for joining us today, and see you soon for another video
