I am jealous, I am insecure and I don't
know how to stop. What do I do? My name is Coach Natalie and I'm a
relationship coach, and I've dedicated my entire life toward relationship recovery.
I have helped thousands of couples throughout the course of my career
reunite, get back together, get back stronger, get back better so that they
can have a long-lasting relationships with the people that they love. And if
there's one thing I've learned from all of these years of experience is that the
easiest way to recover from a breakup is not to have one. So if you are watching
this video in this relationship that you are in has not ended I'm so thankful to
have you here. I'm so thankful to have you
visiting HAPPILY COMMITTED HAPPILY COMMITTED is this passion project that
me and my amazing partner, Coach Adrian developed to help people stay together,
whether you've recently experienced a breakup and have reunited or have never
broken up, staying together is the ultimate goal and so we want to provide
tips and tools for you at home to help you stay committed to your partner, to
help them stay committed to you. This video in particular is about insecurity
and jealousy. We've all felt it. I get it. Everyone in a relationship
second-guesses themselves every once in a while. They're wondering about their partner's interest. Are they valuable? Are they
worthy? Does my partner still love me? Does my partner still think about me?
Does my partner still think I'm sexy? These are all questions that cross our
minds in our relationships, whether the relationship is short-term or long-term.
What I'm about to reveal to you in this video is a very powerful revelation.
Ready? The revelation is this: If you are insecure in your relationship, it's not
your relationship you're insecure about. It's you. Insecurities in a relationship
is not a relationship problem. It's a "me" problem. It's a "you" problem. If you want
to feel better in your relationship, you have to feel better about you. You have
to feel better with you. If you can achieve that, wait and see how your
relationship and the dynamic of your relationship transforms.
How much more sexy you will feel, how much more sexy your partner will
think you are, how much healthier and more stable your relationship will
become. It all goes back to personal development. And when we're in a breakup
or when we're single we tend to spend so much time or at least so much more time
in personal development. We focus on ways we can improve, hobbies we want to try,
things we want to commit to, but for many when we're in a long-term
relationship we stop trying. We stop searching for ourselves because we feel
that since we have a partner we no longer have to try. "Oh! I have a boyfriend.
I'm good!" "Oh... I've been with her forever. We're
great." But the moment you let yourself go and discontinue personal development is
the moment you've given up on your relationship. It's the moment you've let
your relationship go. So if you are watching this video saying, "Coach Natalie,
I am so insecure, I'm so jealous, I have no idea of who he's talking to, I have no
idea of who she is spending her time with," I want you - I ask you to stop, and
instead of focusing on that, focus on you. Why will she find someone better? Why is
he a better option for her? The reason you feel like there might be someone
better is because you feel less than. So here's an exercise I want you to think
about. I want you to think about who your dream person is. For me, who is my dream woman? What does she like? What does she do? How
does she spend her time? Who does she spend it with? And that's the woman I
need to commit to becoming, to exploring to connecting with, for the sake of my
partner's happiness, so that when he sees me, he sees who I think is the best. So
that he sees who I think is the sexiest, the most interesting, the most cultured.
Become the woman of your dreams so that you can be the woman of his. Become the
man of her dreams by being the man of your dreams. I
want you to spend this time really reconnecting with why you feel insecure,
not with why she makes you feel insecure or why he makes you feel insecure. If you
can elevate your own self-esteem and your own confidence more often than not
your relationship will take a positive turn. I see it happen every day. In fact
in so much relationship recovery we focus on reconnecting with your
confidence, focus on reconnecting with your personal development, and partner's
flock back to you. People are attracted to people who are
attracted to themselves. So instead of feeling like this situation is making
you less attractive, become more attracted to yourself and watch the
situation change. I know it sounds weird, I know it sounds counterintuitive, I
invite you to give it a try. I wouldn't recommend it if I haven't seen success
with it both personally and with the thousands of people I've coached along
the way. If you have any specific questions, if you are unsure as to how
you can eliminate these feelings of insecurity and jealousy that everyone
knows so well. If you are skeptical about how you can grow about whether or not
growth will work, about whether or not personal development can help your
relationship grow, leave a comment under this video. Fill me in. I am here to help.
I've dedicated my life to this process. I'm so thankful to be able to sit here
and tell you that I have so much experience in this arena and I would
love to share it all with you. Leave a comment in the section below or book a
coaching package with us at HAPPILYCOMMITTED.COM I'd love to help you
understand what's going on and to help you implement the right approach to
elevating your self-esteem, elevating your confidence, eliminating your
insecurities and staying happily committed. My name is Coach Natalie, thank
you for tuning in and I look forward to hearing from you
