- Hey, what's up person? Are you frustrated with your life? - No. - Are you tired of spinning your wheels and you keep on watching
self-improvement videos? Trying to find that aha moment, the thing that gets you out of your
rut, if that's you, stop that. - Well, Jay gets a relief to
know what's been eaten on you. I wish you'd have told me sooner. - Getting to where you want
to be in life, it's difficult, absolutely, but it's extremely simple. The method to getting anything that you could possibly
want in life comes down to, I would argue, three things. If you can get all of
these three things right, then there's nothing that can stop you unless you know all of
your limbs get blown off in a terrible accident. Number one, you need to develop a vision because without a vision, there will be absolutely no telling whether you're making
progress in life or not. Most people do not have an adequate vision for where they want to be. Most people wake up every single day and just look at the
tasks they have at hand and just sort of vaguely hope that they will make more money, find a girlfriend, get
a nice house eventually. They have all of these
sort of pre-installed, vague NPC sentiments in their head, things that would be nice, right? But of course you want those things. Everybody wants those things. Those things are not a vision,
that's just sort of like accidentally inheriting
the sentiments of society. You need to develop a
vision that is exciting to you and your life. A vision that I can't tell you about. I can't tell you what's exciting to you, but you have to figure it out. You must figure it out. So ask yourself, you know,
if everything went your way and you behaved optimally, if you managed to find
the discipline necessary to overcome the little
obstacles in your life and the big ones, where
would you ideally want to be one year from now? Take out a pen and paper and write these things down in detail. You have to create a
vision that excites you. Otherwise you will distract
yourself with pleasure. So when you're constructing this vision, I highly encourage you to not just think about the
things you want to have. Everybody wants to wake up
in a nice giant household with a big comfy bed and drive off in their Lambo,
have a very fulfilling job that makes them a lot of money, and they have all these nice
clothes, and their body is nice and jacked, and these things
are nice to think about. But a far more important question is how do you want to behave? What kind of person do you want to be? How do you want it to feel to be you? You can imagine yourself
with all of these luxuries around you, but at the end of the day, think about what that
would feel like to be you. Is it sort of powerful, peaceful, focused? Do you want to be somebody who
has their priorities in line? Somebody who has sort of
burned away their lesser self? Are you somebody who wakes up
in the morning with energy, just teeming with motivation and excitement to tackle
the most important things in your day? Develop a vision that's
more exciting to you than the pleasures that surround you. Okay, so the next thing is
to weaponize your attention. Almost everybody underestimates the power of their attention, but
there are very few people in the world who understand it fully, and those people are in power. The people who understand attention fully, those are the people who've
created an entire economy around human attention. Look no further than your
tech giants of the world. The truth is, human attention is the most valuable
resource on the planet. When people focus on something, when a society focuses on
something, things get done or undone, societies are
built or they crumble, and the modern landscape is
built very evidently around influencing, maintaining, and
controlling human attention. Even me right now, talking
in front of this camera, the longer you pay attention, the better this video will do for me. But hopefully I can
leave you with something where you can go, oh, wait, I
need to develop my own vision. I need to pay attention to that vision, and I need to make things
happen in my own life. And then hopefully, you don't
need to watch my (beeps) you don't need to watch anybody's (beeps). You can be paying attention to what you want to be
paying attention to. So in order to gain traction in your life, you need to realize that
your attention is the vehicle that will drive you
towards your North Star. And it makes perfect sense
because attention is a prediction where our eyes gaze,
our feet tend to follow. You know, a really good example of this is how I became a YouTuber. How did I get here? Is this exactly what I've always
wanted to do with my life? Not really. I still want to be a director and create high quality
art, be a master of cinema. But it makes perfect
sense why I ended up here for the time being, and that's because that is all
I paid attention to as a kid. I was constantly making
YouTube videos with my friends, comedy sketches, fight scenes. I was constantly absorbing
and uploading to YouTube. It's where my attention was,
and soon my feet followed. So ask yourself, are you treating your attention with respect? And in what ways are you
allowing your attention to go elsewhere? What are you obsessed with?
What's constantly on your mind? Whatever that is, if it's
not towards your vision, you'll lack the fuel to get there. So this might all sound
extremely overly simple, but I think the truest things in life are generally pretty straightforward. It's just, it doesn't mean that it's easy. In fact, honing your attention on what matters is very difficult. But the final component of all of this will help you achieve it. It'll make things easier for you, and I've found it personally
very helpful as of late. A lot of the ideas from
this video were inspired by "Outwitting The
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for sponsoring this video. So this final component is surrender. I'll call it surrender for this video. But last video, I called it submission. So let's rewind a little bit. Remember how at the beginning
I talked about reflecting on who you want to be and what you want it
to feel like to be you? Well, chances are when
you were imagining that, when you were really thinking about that, you actually felt it right,
you actually caught a glimpse and were able to relax into that feeling. Your posture probably
changed a little bit. Maybe you were very stressed before, you're very uptight about all
these things you have to do, but you allowed yourself
for just a few minutes to relax into the possibility
of feeling different. Well, that is proof that you
can feel that way right now. The feeling that you
want to feel is available to you at all times, right? You can be right now the
person that you want to be. Therefore, all of these external
circumstances that you want for your life are merely the branches that grow out from this
authentic feeling of being you. And that probably sounds very woo woo, but just give it a thought, okay? Maybe it's not so much that getting what you want in life
externally will make you feel who you want to feel like, but rather feeling how
you want to feel in life and behaving in the way
that you wish to behave, and being the person that you want to be will help you get all of
these things as a byproduct. So as I was editing this video, I realized that I just
straight up didn't explain what submission even is. I just started talking about
something entirely different. I already talked about this
in like two other videos, but yeah, I should really
stop overusing this concept. I think I should really
write some new material. Submission is basically this
idea instead of, you know, like when you need to do
something that you know you need to do, there's all this like
physiological tension, right? You feel very like, if
I could just get myself to do it right then
I'd be a better person, but I suck, right? There's a lot of, there's
a lot of tension, right? We kind of fight ourselves. But when you have a vision for
what you want to feel like, who you want to be, and you
allow yourself to feel it, then submission is almost
like this act of faith. It's less even psychological,
it's more physiological. You just do the thing anyways. And I know that sounds
very reductionistic, but doing anything in life is
just doing the thing anyways. You can try to hyper cerebral eyes doing what you need to
do and overcomplicate it, but at the end of the
day, it's just a matter of doing it or not doing it. So I found personally
that it's actually easier to do what's good for you if you relax into it physically and psychologically. This act of just putting one foot in front of the other and having faith that this is the right thing for you. So it is like counterintuitive. You almost try less hard to,
to do what's right for you. But as you get better at doing this, you just kind of disregard
the resistance in your way. And you start to become very
familiar with the feelings that are on the other side
of this wall of resistance. It's a feeling of peace, of calm, of duty. Sometimes it's even a
feeling of excitement. You get very excited that
you're actually finally doing what you need to do, right? It's a very good feeling. And a lot of the time
when we procrastinate and we're doing all these, you know, we're doom scrolling
Instagram or whatever, we are actually looking for this feeling and we just can't find it at Instagram, we can't find it on TikTok. It's only found by
relaxing into what you know you need to be doing, relaxing
into the steps necessary to achieve your vision. And there's no better feeling than that. Some call it a flow state. You can call it whatever you want, but it's the best feeling in the world. So get good at submitting to
your higher conception of good. You can call it your heavenly
duty, your vision of heaven, and good luck. Just do it. But enjoy yourself as you do it. If you liked this video, make sure that you actually hit like, because when you hit the like button, the algorithm blesses me. YouTube, the algorithm, it
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