You know, in a world full of the
Kardashians sense of fashion, when you dress elegantly, you end
up standing out from the crowd, but in a positive way, of course. Because you know what happens is that
men find you more attractive because you don't scream desperate and
seeking desperately for their attention. In your career life, people at work will take you more
seriously if you dress more elegantly. So you have a higher chance of getting
promoted this way. And socially ladies, your social status will rise
automatically because your clothes communicates the message that
says, I treat myself with respect. I expect to be treated
with respect and this way, people treat you in that way and
your social status rise. However, the problem is very real. And I know that many women are worried
of dressing elegantly because they connect elegance with the stereotype
that elegance equals being old fashion, and that equals looking boring
or being boring. But ladies, I am here to break these stereotypes
because elegance comes in all kinds of size shapes and forms. There isn't just one format to elegance. You can find your way to elegance
and you can also adapt elegance depending on what culture you're in. Some cultures are simply more reserved
and conservative whilst others are more flamboyant and colorful.
So you can really, really be elegant in any culture.
This is not just one size fit all approach. Think about this when
you think about elegance. My dear elegant ladies, welcome back to a new video. Ladies, I had this introduction because I really
needed to make this clear for you. Because I know that there are
so many stereotypes out there, and I really want to break the
stereotype that we have about elegance. So ladies, in today's video, I, therefore, want to talk to
you about how to look elegant without looking boring. And I am going
to emphasize on one very important thing. And that has to do with the elegant style
personalities that I have developed. You see, when we think elegance, we immediately think about the
traditional classic elegance. When we say we want to
dress more elegantly, we all the time think about
Jacky O, maybe Kate Middleton, etc. And I personally
love these role models. There's nothing wrong about that, but this doesn't mean that there is
only one way an elegant woman can dress. Not at all. Which is why I want to talk to you
about the elegance style personalities. You see, when I studied
image consulting, in image consulting, you have something called,
style personalities. But when I looked into these
type of style personalities. I understood that actually, you need to take them and adapt
them to our type of niche, which is about elegance and femininity. And this is when I was able to develop
the traditional elegant classic style that we all are aware of on how it by now. But we also have the
elegant flamboyant style and the elegant fashionista style.
And on top of it, we also have the
elegant feminine classic style and the elegant feminine seductive style. If you want to find out which elegant
style personality you belong to then take my quiz on Facebook by visiting the page StylePersonalityQuiz.com Ladies, this introduction was important. Why? Because this way you
might understand that there isn't just one way
of dressing elegantly. Now let's learn the best tips from
these various style personalities that we can adapt to our style so
that we can look elegant without looking boring. So tip number one, those ladies who feel that perhaps neutral
colors are a bit too bland for their liking or personality. Then I really suggest that definitely
add color to your wardrobe. I am currently in the phase
that I'm obsessed with colors. The only thing I want to wear is colors. And I guess that's something that I got
after I did my color theories training. But I want to tell you
one thing is that yes, the kind of elegant
classic style personality, surely that lady will probably have more
neutral colors in her wardrobe and more classic type of colors. However, this doesn't mean that all my
colorful ladies cannot look elegant. Of course you can. Maybe your style
will be more the elegant flamboyant, who is all about color, but this can also be applicable
to the elegant fashionista who also enjoys to play around with color. The elegant flamboyant is
definitely the creative one, the one who dares to
mix and match colors. And I can tell you that
I don't know what I am anymore. I am sometimes an elegant classic, but I also do enjoy some elegant
flamboyant touches in my wardrobe. Because to tell you the
truth, color is fun. And it doesn't mean that if
you're going to wear color, you're going to look tacky. Of course not. There are elegant ways
how one could wear color, but it's all about finding what color
suits your complexion and also to see what colors work well together. When you start messing
up with those aspects, that's usually when color end up
looking tacky or looking cheap. Now tip number two. Color will definitely spice up your
elegant wardrobe if you feel that neutral colors are not for you. But if you want to take up the notch
just a little bit more than definitely patterns might add a little bit more
flavor in your wardrobe than just sticking to solid colors. And patterns, ladies can definitely be
worn by an elegant classic. But to tell you the truth, it's definitely not as common for
that type of style personality, but instead, it's more common with the
flamboyant or with the fashionista and actually, also with the feminine classic. So with the flamboyant and the
fashionista, then these types of ladies, they enjoy adding patterns to kind
of add the boldness and color, and expression to their outfits. They're a little bit artistic
and may play around. Sometimes even mix and match patterns, which can actually work incredibly well
if you just make sure to combine the right patterns. I would say that the flamboyant does it a little bit more than the fashionista style. The fashionista to some degree, but the more to kind of stay trendy
rather than be very artistic. Now, when I mentioned that the feminine
classic also enjoys wearing patterns, then that's usually to
express her femininity. Because femininity can definitely
be expressed through patterns. And that would be when you
perhaps use floral patterns, which look a little bit
more soft and romantic, which is a very feminine trait. My personal opinion on patterns is that
it's really easy to go wrong if you are not sure about what it is exactly
that you're doing. You see, patterns are wonderful
to add to your wardrobe, but only if you have some form
of understanding when it comes to fashion styling. There are many patterns
out there that look a bit cheap. And that's why I have been quite careful
in my channel to recommend patterns, because I believe that only when you are
more kind of intermediate and advanced in your experience with styling, that
you can attempt in playing around. Now, ladies, if you want to add some form
of spice and flavor to your wardrobe, then pattern and color is
really the best way forward. And you can really let your creative
or artistic expression let loose, as long as you make sure that it's
expressed in a way that is flattering for you. Tip number three. Now let's put the
colors and the boldness a step aside, because I know that I have some
ladies with me that enjoy the kind of sensual element and the really
wants to signal that in their look. Now, can we be elegant to express that
side of us or do we all have to look conservative if we want to be
elegant ladies? Of course not ladies, you don't have to. You can definitely add some
sexiness to your outfit. But I need to tell you one
thing first. In elegant fashion, we try and skip the
whole essence of sexy. Because sexy feels like the kind of
what everybody's doing, right? It's so easy to look sexy today.
Meaning that we wear revealing clothing. We show too much skin and we have tacky cuts in our clothes. And you know, all those types of attributes that
make a woman feel like a bargain. We don't want to feel like a bargain.
We want to feel elegant. We want to feel sophisticated.
We want to feel like a million dollars. So for that reason, I avoid
using the terminology sexy. Not because I don't believe in sexy
or think it's something shameful. Not at all. I just prefer the word
femininity because I just feel like it describes what I'm trying to explain
to you in a better way than the word sexy does, but we can
still use sexy. I don't mind. So when we talk about style personalities, femininity comes as a subject
on a very regular basis. And that's because elegance and
femininity oftentimes goes hand in hand together. They're very much related
to each other in a way. However, that's why in the elegant style
personalities that I have developed, there are two categories
for the feminine style. And I have divided them as the
elegant feminine classic and the elegant feminine seductive. Now the feminine classic, she's the one who is a little
bit more romantic, more girly, kind of more classic form
of feminine clothing. And then we have the feminine seductive, which is the most sexy style
personality that we have. Let's call it the more sensual one. This style personality would be
wearing more seductive colors, such as black or red, or maybe even
keeping clothing lines more minimum, but always flattering for the body. Remember when they said that we don't
want to show a bunch of skin everywhere and not because there's
something wrong with that, but more because we don't feel comfortable wearing the type of clothes. However, we still want to be
feminine and sensual. And that's where we show our silhouette
rather than put all the skin on display. Believe it or not but actually men do
seem to appreciate it more than when you just like take off everything. And that's why this strategy has been
so incredibly successful for all ladies who implemented it because they
simply combine sensuality while looking presentable. And that's a win-win combination
when you want to get a man. Now, ladies, I am not against showing
a little bit of cleavage, a little bit of legs. Who doesn't like to show
a little bit of that? But we always believe in elegant
styling that it's about putting as much on display as you
feel comfortable with. And so that it doesn't feel too
much for any parties around you. Because don't forget that sometimes, people feel very uncomfortable staring into a pair of breasts or
looking up somebody's crotch. That's not something that, you know, feels very kind
to do to other people. So try and limit those body parts
and just keep it for your private moments. And then you can definitely
be sensual slash/sexy woman by dressing the more
feminine and seductive style. Tip number four, if you are a lady
and you just feel that, you know what, I get bored just wearing classic
and timeless pieces. Not a problem. You can wear trendy pieces if you want, you can add some edginess
into your wardrobe. You don't have to just stick to the
simple garments that the elegant classic enjoys. You can definitely be more trend
conscious and enjoy fashion shows and incorporate those types of
elements in your wardrobe. That's usually when somebody
adopts more of an elegant fashionista style personality. And I must tell you that it definitely
works wonders for those who feel that, okay, I am worried that the
traditional elegant style will age me because definitely when we wear
something that is more traditional, it can add a few years.
Let's not lie about that. But if you feel that that
doesn't work for you, or maybe you are a certain age and
you really want to dress younger. Then definitely go more trendy, but it's about looking for trends that
still kind of looks a little bit aligned with elegance. You don't want to put
on like some really strange things, but just looks a little
bit out of place, right? Or very much contradicts the
elegance personality or the feminine personality as a whole. So it's all about finding kind of those
trendy elements that still make you look like a woman and still make you look
respectable and add sophistication to you. I think as an example,
Olivia Palermo is a great example, or even Victoria Beckham. Both ladies are more fashionable,
more trendy, but they never dress in a way
that makes them look like they're not respecting themselves. We can still say that, yes, compared to some other celebrities that
really take trends to a certain level, these type of women, they just look more elegant than
some other ones who look very, very, just trendy and that's it. So this is how you can actually
combine elegance with trends, but still looks sophisticated.
Tip number five. Ladies, one more question.
Does the elegance classic style, the traditional elegance style that
we think about when we think elegance, does make a person look
old and boring? Now, when I said earlier that to some degree, it does. And yes, it's true, it may. But you know what? It all depends on your natural energy
because some of us have an energy that is naturally more introverted
or conservative or more kind of laid back. And when you add a fashion style
that is more conservative then you know what happens? You're adding more conservativeness
to already conservative energy. And yes, then you might end up
looking a little bit, how can I say? Like a gray mouse. That's why my favorite
Anna Bey method is to mix things up Let's say you have
this laid back energy, then spice this energy up by adding
some more flamboyant energy to your self-expression, in order not to
look like that gray mouse. Or let's say, if you're somebody who feels like, okay,
I am a little bit too conservative. I need to spice things up, but I want
to be a little bit more feminine. I'm struggling with my femininity. Then go all in with the
elegant feminine seductive, or even elegant feminine classic is
a good way to start with if you don't feel comfortable jumping on to the
essence of the elegant feminine seductive, which can be a little bit too
spicy for some people to handle. I think it's so important to think
about what your natural energies are. Because this way, you know, if you
need to tone some energies down, or if you need to add some flavor
to your energy. And this way, create this kind of perfect blend that
makes you become this irresistible woman that you want to be. Now ladies, if you are unsure which elegant
style personality you are, then jump onto my Facebook quiz
that you visit on the link StylePersonalityQuiz.com In the next video, that is all about the seven signs
that tell you are not elegant. I really want you to watch that video
because you can get some more insights on how to act elegantly,
but still keep your personality.
