HOW TO LEVEL UP & MOVE OUT OF STATE | W/ NO MONEY | MOVING WITH 4 KIDS

[Music] hey guys welcome back to women empowerment wednesdays i'm your girl priya jay if you don't know already and if you have it if you are new to my channel then welcome go ahead and hit the subscribe button for me down below and if you aren't new and if you aren't new and you are a returning subscriber i do appreciate you so much from the bottom of my heart you already know that but without further ado we are going to roll into this video and so i just want to get on here and talk about how to boss up and move out of state says yes or whoever i'm talking to it don't even matter if you trying to level up and you trying to balls up and you trying to move out of state and you just stuck well i'm here and i'm going to help you get up out of your state so if you guys like to end this video or to the middle of this video please be sure that you guys give me a big thumbs up be sure that you follow me on my instagram down below and showing me so much love on all my pictures so small little story about me guys um i am about to be 30 in january if you guys do not know um i have four kids currently my oldest is 12 she's my only girl my youngest boy is seven years old so um i was with their their dad for like several years and i actually moved out of ohio with him and my four kids um which my youngest at the time was i think two years old probably not even two one or two years old so um y'all when i say we were living a struggle life in ohio like okay if i could just be all the way honest you know we were getting we were living a paycheck to paycheck basically i really wasn't working because i was you know i was having kids back to back my baby dad was working he was on our work and trust me probably like 11 hour job and stuff like that so we really weren't making too much money we were maintaining life and that was just it but we got to the point of we were paying like almost 800 and we were paying 850 in rent and we had a horrible place like our place was just horrible we had a slum landlord we had about two months left in our lease and i just kept telling my boyfriend well my baby dad at a time like oh i want to move out of state i wonder what i say i feel like if we could pay all this rent here we can struggle here we can struggle somewhere else at that time we weren't i wasn't that close to my family and stuff like that i just felt like family was bringing a lot of chaos into my life and i just really wanted to get away you guys y'all know how that little story y'all know how to go where you just want to get away from the place that you've been your whole life okay so that was that situation i wanted to get out of the state that i was in my whole life which was ohio so um so i finally convinced him like hey let's just go let's just pack up yo i kid y'all we had just bought a lot of stuff for our house because it was tax time so i know how that goes we had just bought like a big tv everything off so we couldn't find a lot of rent as a u-haul so of course we had to leave a lot of stuff at the house we had to put a lot of stuff on the curb and we knew a neighbor that was cool with we gave them a couple things uh but a lot of stuff we left brand new stuff we left on the curb y'all like didn't even care like we just wanted to go start our life over so um we ended up renting a van and the van was like a thousand dollars because my job was tax time so we still had a little bit of taxes left so we had got a van because nobody could us um nobody could rent a scu hall like nobody so uh we rented a van the van worked perfectly fine and stuff like that y'all um the van actually broke down the day we were about to leave which was the next day um just it was something minor my kids that try to do a tune up and kind of like put the sparks in the wrong place basically so we were kind of delayed on that aspect uh we get to tennessee well actually you guys we did not even know where we were going to move let me put that out there we didn't even know where we were going to move like we just knew that we wanted to go stop we really wanted to go to atlanta um but my kid's dad wasn't a driver like that mind you i told you our car broke down so we didn't get on the road to 12 o'clock one o'clock at night he could not see you in the dark at all i was the only person i had to drive and i didn't sleep 24 48 hours prior to all of this so uh we drove we drove all through the middle of night you guys and i never in my life drew drove out of town period and not a lot alone let alone over mountains and stuff like that so um come eight o'clock in the morning you guys i was driving all night come eight o'clock in the morning i was very freaking tired you guys and i was just like man we finna just stay here we're we're gonna just stay here for a day or whatever so we end up getting a hotel um and that hotel turned into a week so we paid for a week hotel and then we ended up paying for another week hotel and somehow you guys we found a house basically we found a house within like two weeks of us being in tennessee we ended up loving tennessee so much because we kept going to this one park called coolidge park um we ended up loving tennessee falling in love with like oh well maybe we should just stay here and it's only like an hour and a half away from atlanta so we end up staying there and making that our home you guys only for the reason that we found a home down there that we were not even looking for like literally we weren't even looking to move there we were just chilling out there for a while you know until we got some money and all that stuff and we figured out our next move but we literally was like god put a hofstra i got on craigslist and i seen one household and that one house i called him he was like oh you sound like you got you sound like you're very you know put together um i've been talking to a lot of people and the fact that you're out from out of town i would love to literally gave us the apartment over the phone y'all like literally gave us the apartment over the phone so we had to scramble up money and stuff like that so long story short you guys we end up moving literally with like 600 in our pocket so i'm going to tell you some key ways how you can move for literally no money or a little money okay so the first thing that i would say to you guys if you're paying rent now this might be a big leap for somebody who has not yet paid their own rent or have lived on their own so if you're just used to payment you live in your own i don't even care how many kids you got this and i'm going to keep this as just as raw as possible especially if you have kids so i'm going to give you the insides of what i did to maintain the first few months when i did move out of town not not everyone is going to qualify for the things that i'm going to be naming but this is just a way to you know get your foot in the door so literally um i would say that if you have a job right now um i would say if you're planning on to or moving because if it's not tax time like i was luckily blessed because it was tax time we probably had like fifteen hundred dollars less 16 1700 left and a thousand of that went to the car so y'all could do the math right there so i would suggest if it's not tax time or you're not getting a big lump sum of money coming in right now then i would say save about two to three checks um and i would say you guys it doesn't really take that much to move like literally if you're just thinking about moving and you don't have the the funds for it right now if you have a house right now that you're renting out of um i would say put your third day notice in first okay put your third day noticing because when you put that third day noticing it's going to motivate you to move and you know move in a certain way and get things done and stuff so i would say put that if you're serious about it put that there you might not even know what you're going to do but i'm trying to tell you all these literally this is what you have to do you have some time you have to push yourself in that direction so put that third-day notice in save about two to three checks i'll say save on a close side save about a thousand dollars just want to say side job save about a thousand more if you cannot if you're you know fortunate to save a lot more save a lot more than you can you guys say all that you can stop buying hair stop doing your nails stop going out stop doing all this stuff because right now we're trying to level up we're trying to get up out of the city so literally save as much as you can but a thousand dollars minimum um and you know figure out how you're going to get to this destination figure out where you want to go at this point how you're going to get to this destination are you going to be driving are you going to be getting a u-haul do you have a car that you have to take with you um do you have furniture that you need to take with you now i'm saying this about furniture you guys if you do not need to take that furniture since this is a whole new start over you're a whole new life now some people can't afford to go get new furniture which was me i could not afford to look at furniture so i'm gonna give you the lowdown but that furniture could stay where it's at literally sell it that can get you some extra money sell it maybe not for the full price but you can get you a little extra gas money a little bit of food money hotel money anything sell whatever you can in your house because this is going to get you extra money you guys so i would literally say move out of town with nothing okay cause i'm gonna show you how you get furniture and stuff like that i moved out of town with nothing you guys fire a microwave and a whole bunch of clothes in the back of our van so i would say just you know listen to hassle don't worry about taking your furniture at this time unless you're moving so where you know you can haul all that stuff with you but this just keeping expenses low right now and you know worry low at this point do not take anything with you but your clothes and necessities so after you do that you figure out where you're gonna be how you're gonna get there and the reason why i say um try not to take as much stuff with you because if you're written a u-haul and you're going across state you guys it's going to get pretty pricey okay so you want to keep the expenses down very very low so try if you have a car already you know think about the necessities that you can pack inside your car and just take that and then we'll build one from there when we get there okay so once you figured out how you're going to get there and i'm hoping you guys are saying like i'm just going to take my car load up my car and go so once you do that you guys i would say you got your money so you got your gas money and stuff like that and a way to be proactive and this is how i was not proactive you guys because look the way i did it was very spontaneous but a way to be proactive in this situation is to maybe already put applications in a month prior to you moving but you want to find places apartments now keep in mind you don't have a lot of money since okay so you're not going to get a luxury high tide high rise apartment you're going to just get what you can get at this time we want a safe environment but something very low cost efficient okay so you're going to go find something very cheaper than what you've probably ever been in your whole life okay find something in your budget put an application in find apartments that's running rental specials okay that's how i mostly got my first apartment i found park places that was offering first month free no application fee no deposit stuff like that because you're able to save your money especially places that offer you first month free or no deposit okay because the budget is usually equal to your rent so that's like a lot of money right there so if you find that you're paying your application in advance you're getting approved for stuff in advance okay now if you don't if you're the type person i want to go there and see what you're working with then your best bet is to get to that place that you're going get you a one-week hotel it's like 275 for one week now listen these hotels ain't the best y'all but literally i would say make the best of it go in there bleach everything down uh most of these places come with kitchen so you do not have to be spending money on food all the time eating out you might just go to the grocery store and get up get some stuff that you can make stretch for the week um but once you get there y'all get y'all's hotel whatever get to get the hotel for a week and start going to go put in the application start going around places you know check out the environment because a lot of people might want to check out the environment before they move now if you know if you're not able to get there before you know you find your apartment and you want to put the application in online then i would suggest that you start doing some police research in the area you know just start researching things in area the crime rate in area and stuff like that a lot of times you can google eye view um and you can walk through the streets so i would suggest you go on that as well but if you're already at the point to where you're already there in that state you got there you finally moved out my mind y'all y'all didn't even really think about my job we didn't think too much about how we were leaving we just left okay this is the way to be very spontaneous we just left and they got so we got our hotel for that week we're out this is our first day now this is to my mom's because i know it's a lot of moms to say they want to move but they can't afford it because they got kids so this is literally to my mom's out there like moms we're moving to a new state we don't have a job unless your job transferred i didn't have a job at transfer so we don't have anything we're coming from nothing we're coming from the ground up says so my best bet and i'm just going to be very blunt and very honest i don't care who's against it if you you know if you're against all this then log out whatever but we're moving to a place we don't know no one we don't have any help we don't have no money we probably got about now because we spent the money on the room we probably got about 450 left you know so and that's not including the food and gas so we really don't have a lot of money left y'all probably say about 250 left 300 we got left so the first thing i would say the first day that you get there if you have kids and i'm pretty sure if you don't have kids and you're by yourself you can do this as well go to your local job and family services dhs offices whatever you call it your food stamp offices your benefit office you guys go and use them benefits don't let nobody shame you of what you're doing right now don't let anybody talk down on you do what you got to do to put yourself in a place okay so if you got these kids you in another state right now and you know this is your first day in this place and but you want to make this you know successful go do what you got to do says go apply for the food stamps because you need a way to feed your kids each and every day and that's first and foremost okay so go apply for the food stamps and and what better time to get them now if you if you were never able to give food stamps before because you probably was working he made too much what better way to get now is i'm in a new state i don't have a place to live because they favor people like that um people who are homeless and stuff like that and i have kids and stuff like that so what better time to get a hold of all the benefits that you can that you can get and a lot of times if you have a child under five years old you can actually get cash benefits which is up to like 500 i think a month so that these are key points that can help you for the month ahead just to help you get your foot in the door not saying that you're going to be eligible for all this stuff forever but it's going to help you get your foot in the door to where you can be self-sufficient on your own so you're getting these food stamps for the month you're probably getting cash assistance i'm not very sure if you're not getting that cash it's very hard to get the cash assistance but at least you know your food is out the way okay so and off often at your uh benefit office do they have do they help with deposits and security rent and stuff like that because a lot of officers do like the one in ohio they had a program called prc where they help you pay up to 700 on your deposit so um don't be scared to ask don't be scared to research things like this even if you're coming from a place where you were well took care of now is the time to be on your own and prove something okay you don't have to share your secrets with everybody what you're doing and how you're doing it just get it done it's just get it done trust me so we're applying for our benefits right now and after that we're going to be working literally all day every day for the next couple days because literally this is what idea says you have to do what you have to do because i didn't have no money out there we were flat broke i wasn't about to call people for money so what we did we hit up literally like 11 loan places in one day now these were payday loan places these were payday loan places and they went off your last check stuff so my baby dad had a checked up or two so we they went off his last check stub um and we were getting literally like five hundred dollars from each place y'all five hundred dollars in each place each place is giving us three to five hundred dollars no lie and this is why with no effort just bring in your debit card bring in your pay stub and i'm gonna tell you if you don't have a pay stub i'm gonna tell you you can there's plenty of places out here that that can do it i ain't saying too much but there's plenty of places like a girl can help you out but no it's too many it's so many places out here that's able to help you nowadays create something okay so even if you don't it's always a will where is there where where there's a will there's a way okay so keep that in mind always use google okay if you guys need some help with making a paycheck slip i'm just gonna say that but yeah go and get them loans sis go get them loans go find your job the next day literally that's the first literally that should have been the first thing i did i'm sorry go find a job to follow on the next day well okay after you done did all this y'all i would like for y'all to go find your a job okay and i would say go find your job the first day but you don't want them be like oh start tomorrow and then that one weekend hotel is going to turn into three because you don't have enough time for yourself to go work on the things that you need to so after all this stuff is done i would say go find you a job now i don't care if it's mcdonald's you need to go find you something really really quick something that has a quick turnover rate something that will you know hire you with no experience something that will get you in the door very very very very very quick so that's why i say like a fast food a retail shop a mall something that will get you some type of income so when you do go apply for this place they can call them and say that you really do work there all right so now you got your loan money you need to go maybe go play pay for one more week just so that your mind be settled go pay for one more week at your hotel whatever and um go apply for them jobs hopefully that you will get you a job very very soon like i said if you're going to mcdonald's or something like that put your private sizes go somewhere really really quick because you don't have time to waste okay we can always level up right after we get there because but remember the key point is getting to this state getting to a place that no one else in your own state could ever get to because they don't even move like you move so a lot of people in your old state are right now are wonder how you even got to wherever you're at how did you get to florida how did she get there with these kids you know how did you get there with no job that ain't none of their concern because next month the next month after this you will you will be leveling up lives where you'll be able to share this journey and experience with everybody so don't be ashamed about the place that you might have to work right then and there because this is very very temporary this is very very very temporary these like this job is only going to get you to the next place so once you apply for them placements uh them places hopefully you guys are applying for places that's very low budget i don't care if you have to stay in one bedroom right now since like i literally don't care stay in a one bedroom stay in a two-bedroom say it's something very lower than what you would normally pay for just because we're trying to save a lot of our money just because we just came from a whole another state you know we're trying to save as much money as we can you might have to downgrade from what you're usually used to so after you after all that you guys you're moving into your place hopefully you guys hopefully that you guys got approved for your place um at this point and you're moving in but you don't have any furniture so what do i do i don't have any furniture since you told me leave all my furniture in the other state so what you do what we did was went to i think it was big lots we went to big lots and apply for their credit card their in-store credit it gave me up to five thousand dollars now i'm gonna tell you at that point y'all i'm going to keep always real with y'all my credit was horrible it's probably like a 500 at the time and i didn't even know how i even got approved for that credit card i mean you know the credit at the store but i'm gonna tell you i'm gonna tell y'all keep point when you move from a different state and you get a new id and you go apply for stuff within like that first week or whenever you apply for stuff before your actual new um address start matching up with your your credit history you're able to get a lot of stuff because it's like you're a new person they can't match you with the old person back in ohio or your other state quickly as as they would when you were in that other state if that makes any type of sense you guys it's like you're starting a whole new credit profile so i would say go get the id sets from that new state and start going to go apply for all type of in-store credit walmart big lots lows anything that you can apply for to get in-store credit go do it because that's how you're going to furnish your house and stuff like that that's literally how i furnish my whole house i end up getting like a 60 inch tv um now i want y'all to make sure i'm doing this stuff when you've already got that job and you already got that house because you have your art you will have to make payments on this stuff each and every week you can also go to errands you can go to wren's center and this stuff is just to get you in a good thing about aaron's arena center you can rent this stuff out until you're eight until you want to until you be able to afford to pay cash and all your own stuff or whatever so you can rent it out um find something very cheap you don't have to find nothing fancy just something to fill up your house your household and make you happy what makes you feel home and literally you guys you endorses you're in the door after that there's nothing to more that you have to do but just keep maintaining life except for keep maintaining life after that and just keep leveling up so the next year after that you're able to move into a better home something that you actually imagine moving into into a new state um you're able to get that new car next year so now you're able to start sharing your journey with everybody even on your journey that journey that you went through was probably the most inspiring to anybody else but you know when you want to get to that comfortable level where you're able to share each and everything that you done did to get yourself into the position that you're in now so always keep in mind that you guys keep your pride aside it doesn't even matter what nobody else thinks if you guys look at my old videos you shouldn't even be telling nobody what's going on in your life until it's done okay because a lot of times we start messing up our own dreams because we start running our mouths too much before it's even done so keep in mind you just want to keep persevering keep pushing forget what everybody else say and know that if you're doing it in one state you can definitely do it in another state all you have to do is literally get there literally get there put your products on get that help that you need you know and it's best and it might be better if you have a friend in that state that you can stay with because literally you're gonna be saving a whole lot money but then i would say that's kind of a con too because you'll get comfortable and stand somewhere more as uh as so if you're spending your own money on hotels and stuff like that you're ready to get up out of there quick because you're spending all your money on it so whatever floats your boat says i mean just take action just do it like literally just get up and do it what i did was so spontaneous i had no plan in life and but i can't say i'm that type of person like i'm that's how person i want to get up and go out of town the same day i want to get on the plane the same day i you know i can't plan stuff out and that's just how my my life works but if you guys know that you are the type person you would like to plan stuff out in your life like i said there's there's ways to go about it before you even move out but i'm gonna say put that third day notice in first because if you don't put that third and those six day notes in or whatever or give yourself a date to when you're going to put that third day noticing then you're not going to work towards it and that's just that like that's just that on that like you're not going to work for it every day because when you put that 30 day notice in you know that you got to be out and you know you got to do something you know you got to make something change so i would say start there first and watch how motivated you are each and every day after that to even get out of that state literally y'all take my key points for this and i'm trying to let y'all know this will literally work a lot of people are hesitant about a lot of stuff and it's not it's really as simple as one two three i've been gone for seven years now it's literally as simple as one two three and i can do it with four kids bruh four kids and lots of them say oh you got your boy you had your boyfriend there okay we both was broke so it don't it didn't even matter who i had him there basically helping with my kids and that was just about it so take a friend with you take a friend with you or something like that whatever makes the job get done quicker do it stop thinking about it so freaking much because you already put it out to the world that you want to be you want to do this so the world is just waiting for you to make some type of action and that's just that on that so i hope that you guys really take these key points on them now use them you know i would love to see i would love for you guys to comment down below if you guys make any success on this if you guys get from one place to another let me know come back let me know in the comment sections you know let me know in the comment section down below if you guys are thinking to move and where you trying to move and where you're coming from i would love to know where where everybody's at and you know where their mind space is at where they would love to live i know i would always love to live in georgia now i'm here in georgia when i first moved i was living in tennessee and i don't even know why i ended up there but it was always in god's plan i guess but now i'm where i want to be and that's another thing because even if we don't get to the place that we're trying to be at that point in time but you get to another place just always keep in mind just be proud of yourself about that because you got to one place and maybe that wasn't your destiny to be where you wanted to be at that time but god wouldn't move you somewhere else so that you can learn to be on your own you know so if you're not in a play if you don't get to the place that you want to be at that time it doesn't stop you from moving elsewhere because now i feel like i don't live in tennessee for five six years i feel like i have like door to explorer like i could just go anywhere like now i'm trying to move the floor and i just brought my fiance this morning like i want to move to florida now i'm sorry and i only been in georgia for a year a year and like some months now so yeah you know the sky is the limit y'all no the sky isn't the limit it's really beyond the stars okay so always keep that in mind reach for the stars you know persevere you know keep pushing each and every day forget what other people say and do you just do you each and every day and watch how your life expands all right i'm your girl priya jay if you made it all the way to the end of this video i really do appreciate you i love you from the bottom of my heart go ahead and smash that subscribe button down below if you haven't already give me a big thumbs up follow me on my social media and you know just keep continuing to show me love and i will continue and i will continue to keep showing you guys love as well i will see you guys in the next you

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Published: Wed Dec 16 2020