How to Guard Your Heart Without Damaging Relationships | Sadie Robertson Huff | Sisters & Friends

[Music] what's up sisters and friends welcome back to the sisters and friends podcast y'all today is an extremely special day because we got some wisdom up on this couch we have my grandma and my great grandma memo joe and two mama y'all these two women are legends and i love them i quote them all the time well that's good because they just give great advice and now they're on sisters and friends so welcome to the podcast thank you thank you for having us you've both been on well that's good we have been we have yeah now you're more relaxed you're on the couch i love it i love your whole setup yes should i apply the rule that you gave us to your couch nobody wiped your butter popcorn fingers on this cow that's for sure on this couch that and a few other rules you had a sippy cup too you were like 12. yeah sippy cup and no butter fingers on the papaya it's like not butter fingers but literally buttery fingers i have noticed with the great grandkids i allow it but i go in and put a towel under them oh that's smart yeah so that you know i'm like you have gotten the more lenient i'm a little more relaxed no like the worst thing is you let them eat cheetos and the worst fingers or the cheeto fingers i know fingers they can't handle that's bad that's worse than that that's not just greasy that's cheesy but you gotta get to great grandkids status for that that's apparently so well mama you got great great grandkids i don't care what they do yeah you don't care now it's just a popsicle that's everything so true that's so true that's so good well i thought we could start this by a little game called this or that okay and this is gonna be more triggered towards social media so this or that would you rather search instagram or facebook what's your app of choice i'm instagram and serial member i'm on facebook okay see i thought that would probably be the case and your friends are probably more on facebook right right right instagram because i see it as more as more um conversation community conversation yeah we're in and i like instagram but it's pictures yeah and pictures and comments based on pictures yeah that's true and i'm both i mean i post on instagram to go to facebook yeah and then i will search to see what everybody's saying over there too yeah you're definitely crushing the instagram i have to say this because memo joe um has come to bat with me on facebook she has like defended me and it's my favorite thing ever so for those who don't know my great grandma my major's full name is betty jo so your facebook bajo i remember this one time this other old lady made a rude comment on my post and i saw betty jo get in there in that comment section are you kidding me you gotta believe in sadie's heart and i was like yes buddy yes so thank you for going about for me um this is gonna be an interesting question um i think two mama will know this i don't even know if you'll know both of these terms so would you rather film a real or a tick tock oh i'm a real you're a real i've got a tick tock you're a tick-tock fan i can do i can do tick-tock but i don't know if real seems a little bit easier for me really i don't know why you're good at reels and then mama you're also tick-tock favorite i have done a tick-tock time yeah so that's never been real you've never done a real yeah so my cousin macy um does took talk and she did a generational video with y'all and it was the hi mom and it got like millions of views so they're both authentic dark famous okay um are you a like or a comment person do you typically just like a post or do you like to comment that is a tough one because i really like to comment because i do like to see social media as a conversation i do like to see it more as that these are friends who are wanting to know something about my life and wanting an answer to that but sometimes you just don't have time you can't comment on all of them so yeah then i will like but i i really i like to comment if i can that's good you know even if it's like a heart or i see that you know you're good at commenting so you're good at commenting too well it depends on the relationship i think whether whether i want to join the conversation or i just want to support it yeah that's good yeah that's good okay um which is kind of like real life that's true because sometimes like if you're sitting on a couch yeah and somebody there's a conversation you might just support it just by getting out right or you might say okay i need to share my thoughts that's so true and that also depends on the relationship it does if you have a good relationship you want to like have a conversation right but if not you might disagree it's not just that's great good for you there you go okay this one is funny do you buy more stuff from watching shark tank or do you buy more stuff swiping up on people's stories okay of those two choices you know minus shark tank over swiping up on people's things but you know i will when somebody recommends something on facebook instagram twitter those kind of things i will tend to not swipe there because i'm worried about how it will go to get to there yeah like i might look it up later yeah or something like that but except you know y'all i trust you yeah with the link or whatever i don't necessarily trust a link yeah i'm the same way though because if you swipe up on something like then that they target you with those ads so then i'll just like note it write it down and then go look it up yeah yeah i'm the same way that's the wise way yeah yeah do you do you watch shark tank have you ever bought anything from shark tank no oh i buy something but i have bought things that they have have have bought into yeah but i wait until someone else tries it out for me i hear the weight yeah wait we'll wait and see what happens have you all had a funny instagram purchase like have you ever bought something from instagram and been like why did i buy this uh mom is kind of debating on one right now that i bought and i think i saw it on short tank and so i told my you know your mattress thing yes and so i told mom about it and i said i love it it's great so i went over the other day and i saw that she had it out and i said you know how are you liking it and she said well i'm not sure yet she still was checking it out the jury is still out see that's wisdom yeah my age group we buy so much stuff on instagram and we get these packages and we're like what in the world did i buy there was like a thing during the quarantine it was like quarantined purchases of just like the most random stuff and one time i bought this pillowcase that said it was like the best for acne you'll never break out it's so great so i was like great so i bought it months go by forgot i bought it didn't get it in the mail honestly just one of those you clicked like buy it just happened and i guess i bought it months go by get this weird package in the mail i think it's in like a different language and i'm like what is this and i open it it's the cheapest pillowcase i've ever seen i'm like this is a bunch of false promises yeah yeah yeah i probably have had a few of those i can't think of them right now but you know okay and then lastly this is more just with your phone in general but would you rather text somebody or call somebody [Music] y'all between traveling all the time and being a mom to a one-year-old we will take all the sleep that we can get and that's why christian and i have been loving our miracle sheets these bed sheets honestly feel better than a hotel bed and yo that's saying something because i love me a hotel bed they stay clean longer which is awesome because anyone who has a toddler knows that they can make a mess and so it's nice to know your sheets are clean not only do they stay clean longer but miracle sheets are temperature regulating and y'all summertime gets hot in louisiana and christian is always hot and i'm not just talking about his looks so we need something to 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to try miracle.com and use the code wow to claim your free three-piece tile set and save forty percent off again that's try miracle.com [Music] okay i have bought into the texting first thing where it's you know hey are you free can you talk yeah but i would rather talk to somebody have a conversation have a conversation but i understand that in today's world it's appropriate to text and then see what what somebody's doing you know yeah but like for mom i'm just going to call her yeah you know that's kind of like the like or comment yeah it's like depends on the relationship right yeah yeah and it depends on the need at the time too yeah that's true it's just texting is wonderful yeah when you're in a hurry and you can just not take up your time or someone else's time yeah for an answer to something so i mean you have to realize the whole world of that has changed so much because when we first started starting yourself we first got texting it was a little bit offensive to like oh wait you don't want to call them you don't want to talk to me because but now what we realize is because everybody has their phone all the time we used to not have a phone all the time so when the phone rang literally at our house there were six kids a grandmother and my mom and dad so when the phone ring that one phone that's on the wall in the kitchen started ringing you cannot imagine the mad dash everybody wanted to end everybody wanted to answer the phone because especially once we were teenagers because they were hoping it was our boyfriend johnny was calling yeah absolutely so everybody made a mad dash in there to get the phone but now because you have such access all the time you have to know that people aren't going to be available all the time yeah you know people only also called like in the evening hours you know because people at work or school or whatever and then you didn't call anybody long distance because it cost money so you never talk to anybody out of town you know the thing was if you drove through a town you had to stop and call people because you were in their town well which night they got a pay phone yeah on your phone just your phone no no no no no no traveling through town yeah you'd get a pay phone oh yeah yeah yeah and you would call them while you were in there local because it would it wouldn't cost you any money and it was very costly it wasn't just like nickel or dime it cost dollars wow depending on how far away you were that's crazy were you ever nervous that like two papa was gonna call you and someone else was gonna answer like oh yeah oh yeah yeah you you didn't you know you didn't want that to happen that would make me you wanted you wanted to get to the phone before anybody else did and then of course you're in the kitchen so you hope you had a phone with a long cord that you could go around the corner oh my gosh gosh that is hilarious so when like do y'all remember the first time you heard about the cell phone like that do you hear people talking about it like what was that like i do remember that the first time i don't remember probably the very first time i remember when the conversation started happening and again it's a little bit like seriously we can't do life without having a phone with us you know like because you just couldn't even understand that it's such a such a new concept that you're you almost thought okay this is crazy yeah this is ridiculous that we can't go through life without a phone of course then we got the bag phone that was just like huge and we thought okay there might be a purpose for it on a trip so the first time we used one was when i was taking the youth group on a long trip and we thought okay well this could be valuable in the car it could be it could be back maybe maybe there's hope for this thing this bag this bag phone and so um then time went on and i remember my first little yellow cell phone yeah and actually putting it to use because i was a teacher at the time and i started making my calls to parents on the way home from school because we have a 30-minute ride and i was like okay i'm buying into this because i'm getting all my clothes done wow so it was a gradual thing don't you think mom yes it was my first experience was on a trip from tennessee here while we were in tennessee for a while and a friend of ours said i've got a new thing it's it's a phone that you can take with you in the car you know so what and he said yeah take mine it was and it was a bag phone and i took it with me in the car just for safety's sake it made sense to me so you could take somebody else's phone yeah yeah so we did oh my god but you have to realize what a difference telephones the the telephones we have and facebook instagram what a difference in communication that is from when we were when i was younger yeah much younger and chris was younger because of the instant communication the instant feeling of community with your children no matter where they were yeah knowing what they were doing daily just what they're wearing how the kids look all of those things where before it was an occasional telephone and letters that was the only way that you could keep up with them i can even remember when corey and willie your mom and dad were in um italy during their college years they did a semester abroad yeah like a lot of kids do and um at that time we didn't have cell phones we didn't have we just we just had phones and and they're not that old so this has all happened so quickly yeah so um when they would call literally they were it went for the summer so we were at camp and we would all get around that phone at camp and try to hear them you know and talk to them over there but you know it would be days before we knew what they were doing and then they would call us with the scariest things that had happened to them but they did have some crazy stories oh they have some stories we didn't know about it you know we didn't we didn't know so we we didn't know to worry they weren't like posting like here we are finally like none of that there was none of that wow they were just oh three days ago we were on a train and we got robbed and like what see that is crazy yeah okay so mama i want to ask you because you do you care if i say your age because you always rock your age well we just told everybody your age on instagram so i guess you don't she's 91 okay so we have a lot of years in between yes a lot of years and what i want to ask you is that i think people on social media these days it's like it's become something that it was never intended to be for a lot of people it's become like the place where you know you have to build a platform or you have to uh be liked or the place to just like whatever succeed or be cool or whatever it is whatever our intentions are with social media but i feel like you have a different perspective on social media even whenever you were just talking about likes and comments and stuff so what do you 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photographer like your mom your grandmother and uh she took a picture and posted it every day so when he he was about two years old she my assistant said one day miss joe next time she brings that boy into town tell her to come by here and let me see him i've seen him grow every day for night for his entire life but never seen him in person that's it so it's really that's really what it gives to us is the daily communication if we want that or it's not even necessary but still you know where everyone is that every time yeah it's in their life and that's that's pretty precious stuff that's precious i think like nowadays we follow so many people that we will never meet or we don't know or whatever yeah and then that's when that almost like comparison game starts and you want to be like someone else but then but when you think about it like communication and community like true family true friends and then there are some you know examples of like i don't know a lot of people that follow me but what a beautiful thing that we've connected or they've heard a sermon that i've done and there's beauty in that but i think we can get lost in that pretty easily i remember one time you were talking to me about the difference between how we treat celebrities now versus how y'all used to treat celebrities can y'all talk a little bit about that just like the evolution of fans because like i remember you were telling me one time it was like cameras like frank sinatra somebody who was like a singer and that people didn't freak out or they started to freak out about these people but that was a really new thing to y'all frank sinatra was that was the beginning of that when girls fainted in the audience and all this stuff because up to that point entertainers were there to entertain us they were not idols that we emulated or followed all around the country that sort of thing it when we went to to dance at one of the clubs and i grew up in san diego and when we would go to dance at one of the clubs there we had tommy dorsey or harry james or stan kenton one of the big bands they weren't there for us to sit in an audience and praise they were there to make us happy wow and i think that's where the difference was i remember my my first semester at school at san diego state that there was a brand new entertaining duo and that was um well now i would forget that it's one of those brain things comedians um oh i can't yeah well anyway there were these two comedians that had just started out in entertainment they stayed on campus outside on the yard on campus three hours and entertained us wow now that was hilarious and then they went on to become very very famous yeah and it's um dean dean martin dean martin right and they were just beginning they were just starting yeah wow yeah that is so cool so so it was a whole difference in the way you looked at entertainers yeah then and it uh wow i think that's important because i think that like entertainers can't fully entertain to the fullest of their ability anymore because you could never stand out in the lawn about three hours without security without like all of these precautions because people do idolized entertainers and anytime you put a human as an idol it never turns out well it never does and like nowadays like yeah there's a lot of fainting happening when someone walks on stage a lot of screaming a lot of squeals and it kind of dehumanizes a person like yes for me um i think people might think it would be cool whenever people freak out over you but it makes me feel super awkward like if i'm like in town and people are like oh my gosh it's sadie robertson which happens yeah like that makes me feel weird because that's treating someone like they're not a human you know and how do you respond to that moment when someone's treating you like you're not a human you know and so i do think if we you know can get back to some of that just like letting entertainers entertain we could appreciate the gift they had to get yeah you know it's one of those things that like people say you can't push the toothpaste out and put it back in it's one of those things that i doubt that we can get back to that that level but one thing that i've seen in aging artists even when we saw paul mccartney in shreveport a couple of years ago how humble he was and how for me that was the when the beatles came on the scene and everybody was crying and fainting i was in the fourth grade when that happened and it was like totally fascinating to us you know um so that they probably were some of the biggest that started all of that type of fan girl kind of thing but then we went to shreveport and saw him you know now in his 70s and how humble he was and grateful for his years of being able to entertain the public but you know there were many many years for him that were very hard because of the fan yeah that followed them and so um i don't think we can get that back you know no to to that level because we've we've raised entertainers up as idols higher well yeah american idol yeah yeah we say that and we live like that yes okay talk to me about tv because tv has changed a lot too so nowadays obviously i have every show i want to watch on my phone right here and if i wanted to i could be watching netflix or hulu or amazon or watching a movie right here um and y'all could be watching two completely different shows and episodes but back in the day which is fascinating you had like one tv maybe or your neighbors had a tv like what was that like or no tv you had no tv did you have when you were a little girl when i was a little girl no no we didn't have tv yeah no we had a tv we had one tv it was black and white right and it was black and white until i was probably fourth grade maybe i don't remember i don't remember that it was black and white we had like a neighbor that had we hadn't had a neighbor who had a colored tv so uh after the wizard of oz aired on that sunday night it always aired on sunday night and they at the we were waiting out for the bus stop and they told us that the monkeys were green and we were like no they're not oh thank you guys that's hilarious we can see that we didn't know that they were green and so and then i don't it's kind of like almost like cell phones for you guys how it evolved so quickly then after that i don't really remember yeah it just happened but yeah now we're watching tv watching survivor making out of all of our shows crazy i feel like what's ironic is you know we built these platforms like social media uh to connect everybody but we're furthering ourselves away from the connection we already had like y'all used to do so much together like watch tv together like yes even even i know this is probably annoying at the time but like having one phone that you shared like you can't have a conversation like by yourself which is probably annoying but still like there's still beauty to that and i feel like we are so isolated like the biggest thing that our generation talks about is just the loneliness right and i mean that is so true yes like but did it i don't know when this happened so maybe i'm off on the timing but when did the air conditioner happen because i heard someone said that they feel like that had a big part of like making people a little bit more isolated because you used to before air conditioning people sat outside on their porch all the time fam i know how easy it can be to grab your phone and check notifications first thing in the morning but mornings are so important and i love to get them started with a quiet time preferably in the word of god and that's why i love the abide app it's an app that you can start your day with to replace the habit of checking all the other things in the world to get in the word first they have guided scripture meditations featured topics to read and it's the number one christian meditation app and for a limited time our listeners will get 25 off a premium 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family who wanted to watch maybe two different things so you had to agree you had to compromise and you just had to say and generally it was at that time it was whatever your dad wanted to watch yeah that's kind of how how we did it and so um but we all sat down together and watched shows together and talked about them and laughed about it kind of shows up so well ed sullivan for sure let me tell you something interesting you we used to watch uh perry mason when you were a little girl those same shows are showing reruns now on television yes that's cool yes they are it's hilarious i just think that is so funny and but how lasting that is though and evidently there's there's real value in that yeah they wouldn't be using that time to put that on there but those same shows that you watched when you were a little girl are being shown now and so what we have to do now is like what we do sometimes we'll you'll say you'll call and say we're watching american idol over at moms you want to come over and so you have to be intentional and we also get outside like because we all live close together so like we'll walk to each other's houses or whatever and i think yeah air conditioning is nice you get the house but you still got to go outside you said you gotta like see people outside and stuff yeah um one thing i want to ask you about that's different is okay y'all went through like a lot of really hard times melmo you especially did like you lived through um world war ii and the great depression where you i guess you were really i was a bit i was a child very little but someone just some really hard stuff and then gosh i don't even know how many hearts have happened throughout the years of y'all being alive and me not but now we're going through really hard times like now we've experienced a global pandemic we're experiencing a war the threat of war we're experiencing a lot of change in politics and stuff um what do you feel like is different about how people react to stuff like that now versus how it was then because from like my perspective it feels like people back then were a little bit more together on things and like fought through things together and now it feels like people are like very much against each other like who's who's for who you know um so like what does that look like from y'all's perspective are you looking at i'm looking at you know this is this is really it is interesting but i think i think that the whole difference is is because of the deprivations that my generation and those younger than that i i mean older than i am went through that gave them the resiliency to go through hard times where we've gone through several generations now that have not gone through a time when you valued things that were important yeah you know for it were even um just simple things like the furniture you had and and the the and i don't mean i don't mean that as a status thing i mean just you took care of things yeah you know because that you wanted to make things last because it was hard to replace things like that yeah and we we went through times like that when we we put value on people and value on taking care of what we had yeah and um no one since i have been married has had to go through anything like that yeah and i think they did have more of a sense of a camaraderie for the country even my grandparents who were from the south moved to san diego that's why my mother was there to work in the war effort and as a country they fought together or something where i think you're right say today we have so such diversity in whether we believe what we're fighting for and anything that we're fighting for and so it does cause um it doesn't you don't have that same sense of camaraderie that it's almost like you would think that the pandemic would have because we all experienced the same thing but it it almost like didn't for some reason and maybe that's because of just social media like like like the social life kept going even though the personal life stopped and so there were some things we didn't have to fully give up like yeah it's like coming together in some sense we are so grateful for now because we didn't have that for a little while like we're grateful for in-person gatherings we're grateful to go to church we're grateful to be with family but like there's still with so much hatred online and so much bitterness and so much opinion on should you wear a mask or should you not should you give us should you not and it was like so nobody was still together and like and back in the day it looked like everyone for the most part was like hey like this is who we're fighting for like they're standing on some common ground you know and like what's that common ground for us now i think is what people um i think is what we need to find but it's hard to find that when everybody's living such an individual life yes it is well and again you're hearing so much of the opinions yeah like i've said before i said this to you when i was growing up i didn't know if the girl next door to me could sing you know that who who can sing to the whole country and say to yourself why can't i sing like this yeah you probably thought you were great oh i thought yeah i'm pretty good i told her she was my mother said that but so today even though we have had this huge thing that i think even as a not just a country as a world we've all gone through this pandemic is something that everybody has experienced you're still able to read so much criticism and opinions you know that we didn't have before like i said i didn't know what the next door neighbor believed yeah much less somebody around the world yeah so again we're kind of back to that intentionality about where our thoughts are and what we're focusing on and who we're hanging with and yeah you know how do you guard your heart in that space you all feel like have you all had like i guess intentionality yeah is guarding your heart but are there other ways to just guard your heart um or even just like keep value on the things that are valuable you know well that's it yeah exactly and i'd like to address that too and that is that we have lost our civility and i think primarily because we've seen so much of that in our leadership and in in people that we look up to yeah and that people are not kind to one another and that's so important because that's what kindness and civility is what brings about compromise and forward thinking that's good it's just when you don't have that then you're just at each other for to gain farther ground yeah that's so true mom sent me this article a few days ago and it was like why people are losing their mind it was all these accounts of recently people just doing the craziest stuff like will smith slap of course was in there and a few other things where people just somebody punched a flight attendant just crazy stuff and you're reading this you're like what is happening and then i said to mama i said well our leaders are so rude to each other like so hateful is so rude so disrespectful and even back in the day when i've watched videos and seeing stuff even though people would disagree on things people are so respectful of one another and even in just like relationship christian i talk about this the thing that makes a marriage great is the respect we have for one another even in our differences and allowing people to be different than you are still respecting them and nowadays like oh you're a christian i'm an atheist unfollow cancelled yes no respect you know instead of just being like no it's okay that we think differently it's okay that we live differently i have respect for you you can have respect for me and we've just lost respect but we have we have not had a leader that i've seen like super you know like show us what perspective that's exactly immediately and that's where it needs to come from yeah you follow whoever's in charge at the time yep who are you following which we say about in our family because our our queen of everything mama you know her the thing that she says always said to us is nothing is worth the feelings of somebody else and so she raises us like that that we treat people kindly and respectfully and so it does come from your the leadership down and filters all the way down and still to now our our little bitties that were we're teaching them how to be kind to each other because that is great again and it's kind of back to that thing like we didn't know what our neighbors believed we didn't share all that yeah we just respected them for who they were that they were our next-door neighbors and we were in the yard we spoke and we were kind and you you didn't fight over things because you didn't necessarily know them yeah yeah that's right um whatever it was we were just going to be respectful to those who lived on our street and yeah shopped with us at the grocery store and yeah to school with us because you didn't know and that's okay because you don't need to know everybody's everything and that's why i always say to people like there is power and being vulnerable but you also have to have wisdom and who you're vulnerable to yes like i'm all about transparency on instagram i'll be transparent all day long but i do not need everybody to know every single thing i got going on because it's just not even there you don't need to know especially because if you can't sit and have a conversation with someone and because whenever you do stuff on instagram or social media or when it's short there's just so much room to be misunderstood but when you sit down and have a conversation with someone you can still be misunderstood but it's a lot harder to be misunderstood because you can talk out all your misunderstandings that's right but and that's what relationships are but social media although yes it keeps you connected it not everyone on social media do you have an actual real relationship with so you can't trust them enough to put out everything that you have um but i love that like that you said what was it don't the humor of somebody what was that nobody's feelings are worth hurting anybody's feelings over whatever you're doing that's not worth that i was gonna say that humor has become that so much of that it's like things that are funny when you hurt someone else somebody else's expense and that's not funny no that's not that's like twitter that's why i had to get off twitter like i actually have a friend who helps run my twitter account because i was like it's so hurtful because people and tick tock too like tick tock it's like whoever has the rudest comment but that it's the funniest but it's really the rudest is the most liked so it gets the most attention so then people constantly are trying to be you know as witty as they possibly can but really as hurtful towards the person and you're like this is not funny which is really not new because back you know i've worked with the teenagers for for many many years and probably 20 30 years ago i was telling them it's not it's not okay for you to say just kidding after you've said something yeah yeah that is good it's just that it's a bigger platform now and more people see it but that kind of humor has always been out there it's that that cutting humor that you know it's like oh just kidding no you you already said it you know so and it you really weren't kidding there's something in there so you know that being nice and being kind is that is forever true i mean people were i'm sure very unkind 2 000 years ago and today it's just that this platform makes it so obvious to to see it you know you don't it's cool that jesus's words are the same today as they were years ago like do you understand it was jesus like that was jesus that said that i was gonna ask y'all just being christian women throughout all this time like how have you felt like being anchored in the word has helped y'all just remain in who you are does that make sense like do you feel like y'all's faith has definitely affected how you've aged well oh i think that's definitely true yes right and and that's interesting you said that because i just read that just that well it was it wasn't in those words but it was those people who surround themselves with people who love them and support them are the ones who live the longest wow and i've seen that happen in my family obviously yeah well it's so you were taught that the other day because you're not the only 91 year old in your family lou who's 91 as well and one of your close close friends and then we have several other in their 80s and yeah um yes it is crazy and mom and i were talking about they're like wow that's so crazy and yeah like it is crazy but you also have lived such a life to be where you're at now and you're not just here you're like you're fully here like you're having these conversations you're actually on instagram you know what tick-tock is you actually communicate on facebook like you're living in like fully and i think that's the difference it's like aging is one thing but to live like while you're asian it's like another right i've seen it one thing about it too the other day i asked mom because she was on my podcast and i said you know one of the buzz words with moms it's this word intentionality and i said i asked mom you know when you were a young mom were y'all did y'all think about that word and she said we were intentional moms because that's just what we did it's good that's right so i'm thinking about that as you say this being a christian i can't think of doing it any other way that's right that is just the way you do we live our lives and that's uh the way i grew up and that's the way it's awesome i walk out each day and so yes has that has my faith helped me make it to this age absolutely i can't imagine not having it because what i've seen is like the fruit of jesus and y'all's life like there's true love in our family there's true joy there's true peace now there are hard things we've all experienced things we've we talked about the other day we were all in a group message together saying i'm so glad we have a family who gets through hard things yes but like that faith has brought us together time and time again and i mean when people say do you like living close to your family or people ask christian like was it overwhelming to her like that she went to move by our family he was like i'm the one that wanted to move by her family he's like i'm the one that suggested we live there because he was like no it's like it's so fun and i think yes despite the horror world we live in the hard things we go through having that family that sticks together is like so beautiful and that's the reason of faith because we know like this world is not our home and um see that's just powerful last thing i want to ask you gosh this has been so good but to mama like you are you have your own podcast you write books you um do reels you do tik talks you're on all the platforms and like you also look amazing like that's crazy okay like you're so sweet no that is crazy you're like you're doing everything i'm doing and you're 69. that is that's amazing and like so many people i feel like when they get to 69 they just let their grandkids do it you know like yeah y'all do it but i love it and maybe i shouldn't i don't say it i love that you're doing it because i don't need that like you know like there's so many grandparents that come to my original thing and they love it you know but i'm like that's awesome but how cool is it that you're doing the same thing and you're their age so you relate more like you understand and there's obviously other people doing that but you're just like so in it so like what do you think the power is and just staying in it and staying relevant because to me like seeing you learn all these things is so encouraging to me because i'm not scared to get old like you all make me so excited i'm like hey hey what champion i know you also just said your knees hurt your ears hurting your nose and everything's hurting and that's true too and i know i know there are hard things i mean obviously you face loss like that's hard you face a lot of change a lot of moves a lot a lot of stuff like that is hard so not disregarding that age definitely comes with very hard things but the fact that y'all have stayed the way that y'all are and i know that's because of your faith and i know that's also because you keep learning is a cool thing so speak to that a little bit to the grandmas who are listening who have kind of given up on some dreams well never give up on a dream that for sure of course i you know i have to say i'm sitting next to my 91 year old mother who didn't retire until she was 83. so 84. yesterday i corrected us so i mean what am i going to do i'm going to lay down and sit on the couch no not going to happen but you know it's i just i enjoy learning new things i have always been like that and i have a mom who did when we were little my mother this is like so weird to me now but i think that this is just how she is when i was little my mom was a bowler you know so she was what hollywood kids up to the bowling alley while she bowled you know i always saw my mom learn this i came home from school one day and mom had bricked in the garage yes and you still you'll still be out in your garage my knees won't let me do that anymore so i grew up with that and i um i'm just i love to just keep learning and doing new things and i'm grateful that i have even though i've made my few complaints this morning about some health things but i have a good enough help that i can still do things i know mom's grateful for that too yes that's a big part of it so i'm just but encourage anybody out there to just keep keep doing what you can do yeah you know doing it i remember uh showing up to mama's house one day and you didn't have makeup on you had the cutest little like just lounge outfit with a little um headband on and you're like oh my gosh i'm so embarrassed that you would be over here and i don't have a makeup on and i just love that you're like i gotta put my makeup on like and that is something i've seen from both of y'all like keep putting your makeup on yes yeah looking cute keep you know going outside and working in your garage because that's kept you all young and like i love too that y'all invite young people into your life like i know when you did the tick tock you asked one of our girls rachel to come help you with it and like yeah you might need to call a young person every now and then that's right we sure need to call an older person over now right so y'all this has been one of my favorite podcasts ever i'm so excited guys who are listening to this how cool is it you know to sit with just people who live so much longer than you and learn and just grow and i also think it just kind of keeps you not um just not freaked out about like where the future goes because just think about it when they first heard about the phone they were like that sounds crazy this could not i don't even know if this is a good thing and there are so many things we're hearing right now that are about to happen that are kind of scary kind of freaky is that really a good thing i don't know but man if you're rooted in faith and this world is not your home you're gonna be all right you know there can be peace in the midst of a whole lot of lack of understanding and all this stuff but man i'm so encouraged to this conversation hopefully we can apply some of the things we learned even with social media what if we don't look at it as just a place to grow a platform but a place to really be in community you know what if we look at tv as not something we just watch by ourselves but we bring people in what if we stop looking at celebrities as idols but look at them as someone who's been given a gift from god to entertain i mean so many of these truths we can really apply to our lives to live a better life and as we age would we fully live so so encouraged by this conversation hope you are too and you can actually go follow my grandma on social media because she is rocking it too i'm gonna tell us where we can find you um because i know grandmas are wondering what's your podcast called your book your instagram all the stuff okay my podcast is called rocking it grand and my uh newest book is rocking it grand and you can follow me at chris howard c-h-r-y-s howard blame that on my mom c-h-r-y-s chris howard amazing well thanks for being the podcast love you guys and love all of you too [Music] you

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