How to Dominate EVERY CONVERSATION like Tommy Shelby From Peaky Blinders

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Peaky Blinders serie has most of the best written dialogss ever. Because every interaction in the serie, is kind of a war which words are using instead of guns. So, characters has to play that conversation game smartly. And because of that, even if the whole segment is staged, still the psychological tricks behind this interactions are real, and really well written. And in this video, you will be learning how Tommy Shelby dominates every conversation even when he was under pressure, and never ever lose one, with 4 really simple tricks. I'm sure it will be very useful for you. So stick to the video. Lets start with the first one. First one is: Asking state breaking questions. I know, we covered this in our another video, so i will keep it short here, but i have to explain this here again. This one is, one of the most important lessons you can learn from Thomas. He knows how to use this trick to overcome his enemy in a conversation and the outcomes are always favorable to him. Tommy always uses this technique to create a space for himself. In other words, I can say that it will be more efficient to use it against people stronger than you. Because if you are already in a stronger position, there is no point of changing the topic, right? In that position, you should use another trick which we will explain after that one. But about this one, when we're under pressure, our instinct is to follow the flow of the conversation and agree to the conversation's way being established by someone who has control over us. With asking any out of place question, you can interrupt the one sided conversational flow. And then, you can redirect the conversation as you want. Here is the perfect example of asking state breaking questions in Peaky Blinders. Priest was obviously stronger than Tommy Shelby at that moment, because he holds the power in the room. And Thomas was under pressure with being disadventaged position. So, he knows he cant handle with the sutiation he used to. That is the perfect timing of using this trick. Look at Thomas, he is not even looking like he pays attention to what the priest tells. And as you see, here comes the first question. Here comes another one, and, here is the third, and even fourth one. Pay attention here, priest knows that trick so he doesnt fall the trap. But, with this final out of topic words, you can see, with this question by priest, Tommy finally broke the one sided conversation. It took 4 out of topic question, and one sentence. Right know he can redirect it as he wants because he showed Priest that he cant corner him with talking. By the way, As i said, priest knows that trick too. He didn't fall that trap by answering his questions like many of us would do normally, but Tommy basically told him that, "i dont care what you tell, just come to the main point and go." And priest, did not continue to tell some story which Tommy is not interested in. Because there is no point of talking if the other person is not listening. So, with asking out of place questions, you can easly interrupt the one sided conversation and force your enemy to cut his words off, even if he knows your trick. If you pay attention when you are watching Peaky Blinders, you are gonna realize that how often Thomas uses this trick. And you should learn it immediatelly because that's gonna help you reclaim your power in almost every situation. Also second trick is connected with this. I told you how to break the conversation's flow but, what if they use it against you, what was the Priest's mistake that, coused him fail here. And now, you are gonna learn how to Finish your sentences. First trick was aiming to break the flow of the conversation. But the second trick is aiming to not let others break your flow of conversation. You cant get what you want if you let anyone to break your conversation's flow right? Because you just cant come to the main point, just like Priest couldnt. Tommy knows that too, so he always finishes his sentences even when there is a bomb which about to explode. Lets have a look at this scene. Tommy is trying to make them understand and show them what happens if they don't listen to him. And as you see, he just didn't even care what he tells. Well, here is a secret. This trick is not sustainable. I told you, in the previous scene, Tommy was trying to interrupt too and Price of course knew that trick. So he didn't care what Tommy asks. But after couple of questions, he needed to let him break because he realised he is far away to get what he wants. What he wanted was, trying to corner Tommy and create a presssure. But he wasnt able to do so and Tommy uses another trick too and we are gonna cover it in the end of the video. But back in this scene, if this guy would have been continued to interrupt, he would have been able to break Tommy's flow too. And that's why Tommy brought a ticking bomb. Because he knew this trick is not sustainable. Like, even himself was able to reclaim his power, when he was at the same position as this guy here. So he's experienced at this. As I said, there is no point in continuing the conversation if the other person is not listening. And in order to avoid that, i mean, giving a chance of breaking the conversation's flow, he just brought a ticking, it is important, bomb and left no time for that. Tommy knows how to maintain the flow of the conversation or how to break it exactly. So, i wanted to show you how to get what you want in a conversation, in both scenerios, as someone who is under pressure, or as someone who is in a superior position. If you are the one who is under pressure, just ask questions has nothing with the current topic and continue to ask till you break the flow, like Tommy did here. And if you are the one who is superior, never let them to break your conversation's flow. Know that, first trick can be used against you. So, find a way to avoid that. Like Tommy did, he borught a bomb here. Of course i am not telling you roam around with a bomb, but you can let them know that at the end of your conversation you will connect your words to something they are interested in. So they will most likely wait for you. If you like the first 2 trick, please leave a like because that really helps us. Lets continue. Third trick is, holding eye contact. Tommy most of the time uses this trick, it doesnt matter if he is in a superior, inferior or equal position. And holding eye contact has a lot of different means. Like it can be sign of payin attention, attractiveness for the person who maintains eye contact and etcetera. But the way of Tommy's using it, is a way more authoritatively. In this scene, Kimber was obviously stronger than Tommy, but Kimber already describes that how he is staring at him. And also, he combines that look with his body language. As you can see, his chin is positioned a little higher. That tells us, subconsciously, he thinks he is more authoritarian than them. That is how to combine it with your body language. And here is another one. You see, Tommy is not even blink. And this causes the tension between them to rise. Tommy of course, does this on purpose everytime. As you see, Luca is the first who breaks the eye contact by looking down. They just met and it is possible to say they were equal here in terms of power, but he established his authority with this trick. And in this scene again, Tommy is not even blink. And after couple of seconds, Luca breaks it. That was when Luca was looking like he won on the table, but he broke it again. Even in the scenerio which Luca won and Tommy lost, Tommy stil looks like more authoritarian and scares Luca. That is the way of Tommy's establishing his pressure. Imagine this cold eyes are staring at you, comment below what would you think. He never hesitates to use it, and always makes his opponent to think he is stronger than them. So, you can use this trick in your daily life too. But as i said, it has a lot of different means and it changes depend on when and how you combine it with your body language. For example, i have a friend who stares me like that, in a coffe shop, and it is really annoying. So be careful about where to use it and be sure you are only using to against who you want to establish your authority. Because otherwise, you will be just annoying people. Even Tommy is not using it against his friends or brothers. Fourth trick is, be non reactive. Overreacting to situations makes you look like nervous. And if you show any sign of being nervous, people will find out your weak point. And that is where you lose your power in an interaction. But if you be non reactive, even when you have a gun to your head, you can always reclaim your power because you just didn't show any sign of weakness. That was really extreme example and i hope non of us have to keep cool in a situation like that but remember that, being non reactive shows everyone that you are confident, because you have the ability to handle what happens at that moment. For example, look at Tommy's reaction in this scene, like he's sleeping with a gun to his head everyday and that's why he used it. Is he scared, probably he is, we cant know that. But is he showing any sign of fear? No, clearly he is not. That is how Tommy got what he wanted in that table. And that's how you should keep your confident. If you keep your cool in any situation, even if there is a gun to your head, most likely people will think like, "this is not working, so there is clearly something wrong about this guy". And then you are most likely gonna get what you want. But if show them that you are scared, then they will use it against you everytime you're faced them. So pretend like you didn't scared even if you are. Most of the people like politicians, gansgtas or even fictional characters like Tommy Shelby, Tony Stark uses this trick. About Thomas, There were hundreds of time when he was obviously in a bad or weaker situation when he is threatened. Like as i said, in this scene, we cant tell that if he's scared or not but, he is clearly non reactive to everything. Everything priest tells, everything priest does... He just does not care! That was last trick Tommy used to regain his power and establish his authority. Allright guys that was it for the video. What do you think? comment below if these tricks are usable or not. And also, be sure you are subscribed to be aware of more content like this. See you in the next one.
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Length: 9min 59sec (599 seconds)
Published: Mon Oct 03 2022
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