How To Deal With Offense: Your Questions On My Latest Sermon Answered | Kris Vallotton

so we asked your instagram audience to send in some questions in regards to the sermon that you gave on sunday i'm protecting your innocence it's a good survey it feels like a monumental sermon i was like you know how it's very hard to evaluate your own messages so very hard because you it's so much you evaluate based on how the people responded while you're you know you're like did they clap did they cheer yeah exactly were they throwing things at me yeah and when i got home kathy's like that is the best message i think i've ever heard you preach i'm like okay oh yeah yeah you haven't heard it didn't feel that way but okay but yeah i i know it was the right message whether it felt very timely yeah yeah it felt like perfect time more like a prophetic message than yeah anything else yeah yeah so now we're gonna try to answer questions we're gonna answer some questions you know and you spoke last week kind of on this too though i feel like it's been on your heart for a while i feel like the sermon wrapped up a lot of thoughts and things the lord's been speaking to you about into one sermon yeah but it's been something that's spelling out you know the heart of the message which came from a a word the lord gave me that week protect your innocence i think it was a week before actually is it it wasn't what some people thought it was because what all i was trying to say is you have your you have your opinions and the beauty of the body is that because of our experience our education you know all the things that happen in our life we each have a certain kind of perspective on life yeah and just because we read the same statistics where we read the same book even the bible doesn't mean that we're going to come to the same conclusions and the beauty of the body is loving each other right we're at and having patience with each other and giving honor to one another and not thinking that we know each other's heart and finding a place to love people in which we don't agree with which is a whole bunch of the planet and that that's that's the heart of the message right yeah like and everyone's you know almost everyone's offended you know everybody's upset and you can't mention so that that anyway i just wanted to kind of reiterate like that that was what i was trying to say yeah if it didn't come across that's what i was trying to say that's great yeah that's awesome okay so some people have sent in some questions okay here we go rapid fire here we go ready okay yes no yes yes [Music] okay so first question does forgiveness mean not judging them for what you forgave them for well it depends on what we're calling judgment because really there's two kinds of judgment and we're not going to get into greek and hebrew on it but one one judgment is i make a decision about right and wrong and and we're making those hundreds of times a day like should i turn no yes you know it's you know somebody you know goes through a red light you know i make a judgment that they did wrong right that that's that's one kind of judgment and when we're talking about judgment most of time we're not actually talking about that kind of judgment because that's that's healthy right you know we have to know right from wrong we have to know hey that sexual act is wrong that you know that's you know that person's right like am i you know those things we make those judgments all the time we teach people how to make those decisions all day long but the kind of judgment where i condemn people that's a different thing yeah the kind of judgments where i think i know the person's motive right you went through that like because you were trying to kill someone oh i mean we do that just flippantly like that guy was trying to kill somebody it's like oh we actually know why he ran the life trying to kill somebody you know so you know of course when we do it we're like i was accident like how quickly did that light turn you know i didn't i lost it in the sun you know i mean we got we have all kinds of reasons why we accidentally do something but when someone else does it like we're we just that we just have this idea that they were trying to do something wrong right and you know those kind of things though those are the only the lord knows people's hearts like we don't yeah yeah that's really good so yeah i think that when we're when we forgive someone it doesn't mean that we think that what they did was right jesus is on the cross and he's lord forgive them for they don't know what they're doing right so you know he obviously knows they're sinning yes that is really good okay next question authentically what does love look like if you don't like the person or how do you authentically love somebody if it if you don't like them if it's hard to like them well i mean the the difference between you know a believer and an unbeliever according to jesus matthew 5 is that we love the unlovely yeah that we we love people who don't love us right and we love people who are unlovable right which means i would say to that person and to myself and all of us have been in this situation like jesus is saying i'm in you and i so love the world and therefore you have a source to love someone which isn't human and when you tap in when i tap into that source where the unlovely person get is loved because i've tapped in to the source of love not my human love but his amazing agape love right then that person and everyone around him goes that guy must know god that person is not lovable but when i love the lovely when i love the lovable when i like the likeable i mean everyone's like everyone else likes the likable right so you know there there's there's no yeah uh there's no glory yeah in doing what you can do humanly what's humanly possible but there's a ton of glory in lord that person is annoying but i know that they are a son or a daughter and i'll tell you another thing that happens and i've had this experience and by the way i'm working on it like everybody else asks the question that when you tap into love for someone the next thing you do is you start to have empathy and compassion for them and then you start to then you start to ask yourself the question like why do they behave like that yeah i remember this story uh you might remember it was really a popular story about 10 years ago these this pastor was on a subway in new york and this man got on with his two young sons i i think they were like you know seven and eight ish and uh and they you know some the subway bus takes off and the kids are just like jumping over people and running rowdy and the and the man's not doing anything so finally the pastor uh just you know get he's super annoyed and he's like somebody needs to say something this guy and so he just leans over the guy and puts him on his leg said sir do you you realize that your kids are like running all over the place and just wreaking havoc and the man looks up with tears running down his eyes and said i'm so sorry we just got back from the hospital and their mother died and i i don't think they're dealing with it any better than i am and you know and suddenly it's like i have tons of empathy for two kids who are misbehaving because i understand their situation their situation and the challenge is is that we meet people in their moment right we meet people who don't meet the homeless person in their moment and we're like ah you know he's sit standing out front the store begging for money he smells like dog poop you know and it's like it's so easy to like he's you know he doesn't want to let me pass until i give him a quarter you know it's and and you know and i'm frustrated because i meet the man in the moment right right but if i fall in love with the man how often i begin to hear his journey and with compassion now because i began with love now i can tap into even my human compassion as i hear his story yeah i remember a guy transient guy in weinerville he was going through town and he was just trying to find some food and so you know he came we had an auto parts store and he just came in hey man you got a buck you know i got a couple bucks i'm just so anyway kathy's like yeah sure and she gave him i don't know some money and she's like what's going on why are you the guy was probably about 50 years old 45 years old and she's like yeah and she got talked to him and he was an electrician and we were we were remodeling our store and we were actually looking for electrician and he goes yeah i used to be electrical contractor so she's interacting with them and then well the short story is it turns out that he was driving a car he fell asleep hit a guy head on his two daughters and wife were all killed and he walked away and it's so he was a contractor with a beautiful family and that had happened like two years before and it just broke his mind and he just he just went off and became homeless and so it was beautiful kathy really took uh a real strong interest in him and his glasses were all broken we got him glasses and he he did work for us we paid him and but it's like there you go like when you walk in someone's shoes like i don't have judgments about the guy i don't know what happened if i had done something like that yeah so i think that this is all where we can love the unlovely and once we do choose to love them with the love of jesus it's funny how we find human compassion as we learn their stories yeah that's huge that's really profound okay next question for you um how do we protect our innocence guard our hearts and be present at the same time you gotta we gotta give up our judgments i mean i say i'm including me man like i i have to be one of the most impatient people who have ever graced the planet you know we have to give up thinking we know why people do what they do and there there's so much there's there's so much grace in protecting for protecting our innocence when i give up judging my congressman my my governor and i can say you know i i don't like the way my governor manages this you know this thing maybe it's copen or maybe it's social justice issue or maybe it's oh gosh there's so many issues you know it's like i don't agree with my governor on this issue well first of all you may not have all the information he has or she has it's possible you do but you probably don't so you don't you don't really know for sure what you would do unless you were you know i sat in a cdc meeting with a governor of uh of the state this has been about eight months ago and i sat in this the cdc briefings in the morning overcome it uh that the governor i was there two days and the governor's like hey just mirror me come to the meeting so i came to the meeting and you know and he was being briefed and i was like oh my gosh i wish everyone could sit in this room for just one half hour and see what these governors are facing with just with just kobe justice and i'm like how does this man get up every morning and even deuce and you know this this this governor does this six days a week he the first thing he does he goes to work from eight to nine he's he's briefed every morning about kobet from different groups the medical group the educational group you know different groups the business group and and he's trying to this guy is trying to keep the city open i mean he stayed open right so you know i'm like i sat in that meeting i'm like gained a ton of empathy and compassion for our governors whether i think they made the right decision after the briefing or not i mean the point is is that these are not easy decisions to make you know yeah yeah that's really good all right so as a leader how do you accommodate all the different views and opinions in one church it feels like i mean we're we're leading the church so it's like my our our our goal is to bring the kingdom to people so you know i'm not i'm not trying to get everyone to think the same i'm trying to get everyone to love jesus expand the kingdom and apply the kingdom to their situations whether it's the power of god to heal in a situation where someone's sick or whether it's the power of god to restore family in the sense that somebody's lost their family or have a broken family or broken marriage or whatever and ever but it's it's not it's it's our job to teach people the bible and disciple them in the ways of god but it's it's not my job to tell you how to vote now let me back up and say this that if i teach you if i teach you noble values yeah and i teach you the scriptures if it doesn't if affect your the way you vote and the choices you make yeah i'm not sure i've done a very good job but it doesn't mean you're going to vote the same way i vote right if the way the way that you view how to deal with the social justice issue now i hope everyone leaves church knowing that if there are groups of people ethnic groups of people that are mistreated like the african-americans the asians and so on and so forth the latinos i mean i hope everyone leaves there with compassion how they vote on those issues and what part they think government plays in that issue may be very different than my perspective right um you know but that they leave with empathy but the application may be quite different you know so i think that i think we have to you know what what the beauty of bethel has been a gathering of over a hundred nations wow a hundred nations you you want to talk about you know political uh diversity i mean we're we're basically a two-party you might call three-party system right democrats republicans and independents but i mean look at england like i don't know how many parties they have nine parties or something you know uh russia we've got the russians which you know i don't know how you determine the parties there and you know england i mean i said england already but you know you have all these european countries the asian countries the african countries and all of those folks they all have political challenges right that they're not lots of them are challenges it's not even relevant to what we're dealing with so you know and yet those countries have come here from all over the world last year we had uh we had oh i started thinking we had 79 76 countries last year wow you mean in school in school and i think there was like 46 states represented so it's like we're talking about like you know teaching people about the right and wrongs of politics i mean what politics i mean we've got parliamentary people we got people coming from you know monarchs right and you know and they're all gathered together yeah all tongues of all nations not all in this case 76 nations last year over 100 nations since in the last 22 years and we have the privilege of training and equipping these people and we're not like it's not our job to teach them you know how to you know who to vote for it might be our job to help them learn how to think heaven earth and future present and actually be involved right in discipling nations and i think if we can just realize like we're you know at least bethel like i don't want to speak for other churches i i don't want to be a political movement i want us to be a kingdom movement that influences politics wants to be a kingdom movement that influence education that influences family that influences all realms of culture yeah it's really good it's really good well that's wonderful thank you for taking some time to answer these questions thanks for asking these questions and by the way you know when you speak when i speak on sundays i mean i i'm not the eloquent speaker that stays on script so you know forgive me if there's anybody that i that i offended unintentionally uh with my sometimes my my sense of humor somebody wrote and said you know when you said about women you know you know going nowhere with their accomplice like oh it's just it was a joke it was just a joke it's an inside joke with my wife and i so i thought i'd bring it to the rest of the family and always flow very well but um thanks for loving me and thanks for giving me grace yeah it's wonderful thank you god bless

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Published: Fri Sep 03 2021