How To Create The Life You Want To Live | Jordan Peterson Motivation

[Music] there's this old idea that you go into the abyss it's an idea that you can gaze into the abyss you gaze long and what you find in the abyss is a monster that's the dragon at the bottom of the abyss let's say that's satan himself for that matter but if you go into that into that as deeply as you can what you find is you find your fragmented father in a in a comatose condition in a desiccated end and separated condition and then you revivify that well what does that mean it means something it means that if you look in the darkness you find the light that's one thing it means and that the light really stands out against the darkness but that the light is to be found in the darkness so that's a very interesting thing that's a quest narrative but it means more than that it means something fundamental so we know for example that if you take yourself out of your current state of predictability and safety you put yourself in a new situation you'll learn right you'll incorporate new information so that's a cognitive issue but that isn't all that happens what happens is that new genes turn on within you and code for the production of new proteins and that happens neurologically new parts of you turn on and so the idea is that if you can move yourself out into the world and push yourself out against a maximum array of challenges more and more of you turn on turns on and then the question would be well what would you be if all of you that could be turned on was turned on and the answer would be you would be the resurrection of the ancestral father that's what you would be and so that's why christ says i am the way and the truth and the life and no one comes to the father except through me what that means is that if you take on the unbearable burden of being voluntarily then that transforms you into the ancestral father and that's true and so that's unbelievably optimistic it's so interesting because it's it's dark beyond belief well the world is characterized by suffering and by malevolence of a depth that's virtually beyond comprehension but if you choose to comprehend that what you discover in that is the light that destroys the darkness and that's well that's and that's really something to discover it's there isn't a discovery that's more profound than that that's the search for the holy grail or the philosopher's stone all of that if you actually want something you can have it now the question then would be well what do you mean by actually want and the answer is that you reorient your life in every possible way to make the probability that that will occur as certain as possible and that's a sacrificial idea right it's like you don't get everything obviously you obviously but maybe you can have what you need and maybe all you have to do to get it is ask but asking isn't a whim or or today's wish it's like you have to be deadly serious about it you have to think okay like i'm taking stock of myself and if i was going to live properly in the world and i was going to set myself up such that being would justify itself in my estimation and i don't mean as a harsh judge exactly what is it that i would aim at you could try this this is a form of prayer knocking sit on your bed one day and ask yourself what remarkably stupid things am i doing on a regular basis to absolutely screw up my life and if you actually ask that question but you have to want to know the answer right because that's actually what asking the question means it doesn't mean just mouthing the words it means you have to decide that you want to know you'll figure that's out so fast it'll make your hair curl [Music] you're perfectly capable of thinking god only knows how you're perfectly capable of of immense feats of imagination and and dream and fantasies god only knows how you do all of that what would happen if you consulted yourself about the best possible outcome for you you might get an answer in order for us to set things right we have to understand that we we have to take on that burden of ultimate responsibility not only as if it's ours which it is but as if there isn't anything better that we could do and you have an ethical obligation to lift the heaviest load you can possibly conceive of and that's the primary call to adventure in life you need a meaning in your life to forestall the suffering and to make you strong enough to resist malevolence where's the meaning to be found rights impulsive pleasure and happiness no responsibility oh who would have guessed that it's not part of the narrative what makes life worth living is to pick up take its catastrophe and embrace it and carry it and to realize through that process who you are when i talk to audiences about the relationship between responsibility and meaning they inevitably go dead silent there's not a there's not a rustle there's not a cough it's like is that the secret is that the secret is that it's the voluntary adoption of responsibility it's like well that's the that's the central message of the west it's like to pick up your cross and bear it you know and everyone's been told that but they don't know what it means because it's not been articulated enough so that it becomes something that's practical it's like yes look at the terrible responsibilities you have right in front of you your family is hurting you're in trouble there's problems in the world it's like all of that's right there and all you have to do is all you have to do is take responsibility for it and then you've got what you need it's something so magnificent that happiness pales in comparison and so it's it's it's thin gruel happiness and young people know that they're pursuing hedonistic pleasure and you know no wonder but there's nothing in it that's sustaining and all it does is make you cynical it's like is that's all there is another one night stand another another binge party you know and it's not like i have anything against in principle against some of that exuberant youthful hedonism look the universities have turned into places of parties why well because that's what the students find best to do there well that's not good what you want to offer them is a reason to not party it's like no you've got to understand you come to this class hung over you're not going to be able to get it you're not going to be able to write properly you're going to pay a price for that hedonism it's like and the price will be too high for you to bear it's like oh well enough hedonism for me then like i've got something important to do that's the way out of that before you can be a painter who can paint what's beyond mere memory you you have to inculcate that discipline skill and a lot of that is painful repetition and hard grinding work it's the sacrifice of the present for the future but once you manage that then things open up that's why we have disciplines right i mean the words aren't there by accident you have to narrow yourself first and then you can broaden outward and so that's and that's part of the process of maturation that's part of the sacrifice of childhood say in childhood you're nothing but potential but it's not realized and you don't know how to realize it and so then the question is well how do you get to a point where you realize the potential and the answer is you sacrifice almost all of it to a single direction and so that's the thing about growing up is that when you're a teenager and a young adult you have to sacrifice everything you could have been as a child to be the one thing that you're aiming at but then that opens up everyone in their right mind knows that there's a million ways of doing things wrong and one way if you're lucky to do things right and so the notion that it's a very very narrow pathway that you tread upon if you're doing things right that's wisdom that's the line between chaos and order that you're supposed to be on constantly right it's a very very thin line because if you're a little bit too far in one direction then it's too much chaos and if you're a little too far in the other direction then it's too much order and both of those aren't good it has to the balance has to be exactly right and you can feel that and i truly believe you can feel that and i think it's your deepest instinct it's your deepest instinct and i mean that i mean that biologically i don't mean that metaphorically i think that your psyche is arranged to exist in a cosmos that's composed of chaos and order i think that's why you have the hemispheric structure that you have and then when you feel as if you're meaningfully engaged in the world when the terror of your mortality strips away and you're engaged and it's timeless that's the deepest instinct you have telling you that you're in the right place at the right time and then what you do is practice being there practice being there and that's that that narrow spot that's so difficult to find you wander around it maybe if you're lucky you can watch you can watch this is an experiment watch yourself for two weeks like you don't know who you are because you don't so watch yourself for two weeks and notice there's going to be times when things are proper they're raid properly for you it's not easy to notice because when they're arrayed like that you're so engaged you don't exactly notice you know but you'll see oh i'm in the right place it's like okay how do i get here what am i doing right you know how is it that this could happen more often i'd like this to happen more often how would i have to conduct myself in order for that to happen more often and then you practice that and then maybe instead of 10 minutes a month or 10 minutes a week it's like 15 minutes a day and then it's half an hour a day and then it's an hour a day and then it's four hours a day and maybe if you if you're extraordinarily careful then you get to a point where you're like that a good proportion of the time [Music] you

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Length: 10min 41sec (641 seconds)

Published: Mon Aug 02 2021