How I healed my Body & Mind (Life Changing Interview) Ed Mylett & Fallon Taylor

I picked a place to kind of jump off and when I did he kicked my feet about 13 or 14 feet in the air and I landed straight down on my head and I was unable to move I was paralyzed right in that moment and what a tough place to be in you know because I was in this horrible relationship and in a spot where I'm like who's gonna save me [Music] tell me I have a concussion let's get out of here and he came back in the room he said you have a 2% chance to live Wow I think I think everybody should just literally go back and listen to all of this again it's a blessing to be here with you welcome back to max out everybody I'm so excited about today's program because I'm one of the most inspirational people I think on earth today with me and she was also I always put these poles out to you guys saying who do you want on my show and they're kept being this named color this beautiful name by the way Fallon Taylor foul and Taylor get her on your show and so I'm so excited that she's here today this lady to my left is amazing she's an incredible entrepreneur she's got an amazing social media in YouTube presence but she's probably best known for being a world barrel racing champion and not only is that extraordinary but she did that after breaking her neck and having a 2% chance to even ever walk again and she comes back and wins the what is really the World Series of barrel racing so I'm so excited for you guys to hear this story so thank you for being here show you so much I really am excited to be here I know we've had good conversation off part of the maxout universe you were in the universe now and you fit in it by the way because I put people as you know on the show who have sort of maxed out a part of their life and everything about use that way from your marriage to your business ventures and ever since you were a little girl so I want to start talking about that I want to get to like I said I want to get to the story story but I want everyone to know the backdrop too because I'll bet you of anybody I've had on my show before you will be one that impacts people maybe the most and that's hard to say because I've got an incredible guest but I think the main reason is I think most of my audience they probably recognize your face but they may not know your story and it's gonna move them and I love holding up powerful women too so very cool to be able to I think everybody has a story of loss or a financial failure or something physically that's gone really wrong and it's just pretty cool because I well I think that I think my parents think I'm pretty special I'm just a chick with a horse so it's really cool to be able to hopefully inspire somebody today and change their life you're gonna do that and every every extraordinary person that I interview doesn't know how extraordinary but you are a lot more than a chick with a horse and I'm gonna prove that to you and them as I make you tell your own story so but you're amazing and so one thing I noticed about you is how young you got into the sport right and this is a sport a lot of my audience probably isn't familiar with so tell us about how you started out in the sport in the first place how young you were and how you even got into it I have really cool parents and they had to be very late in life and my parents were really instrumental in just saying you know go for your dreams do it do it do it you can be the president you could be an astronaut you can do whatever you want and so they had me really late in life I'm 18 and 16 years younger than my siblings and so you know I just kind of was raised like an only child and they helped me to explore absolutely everything and I saw the mesquite championship rodeo which is just a rodeo that was televised at the time in our living room and I said I want to do that I think I could I think I could do that hmm had you been on horses and stuff already I there was a cowboys and Indians day at school at the private school I went to in Tampa Florida and that was the that was only extent of it so my parents moved actually had a manufacturing plant in Ponder Texas which is 432 people there's nobody there and it was the its only claim to fame is the first bank that Bonnie and Clyde robbed and so that's all that's there that's pretty cool yes so they took me there they bought me a horse and kind of the way that I do things is similar to how my parents do things we went to watch the rodeo in person and my parents said what does it take for her to be able to compete in this rodeo because this is what she thinks she wants to do and they said well you need a horse and you need to turn pro and he said well was it take to turn pro and and they said well for your minor-league card you just buy it and so so they bought they bought it so I was turned pro the next day how old were you seven okay so I didn't know anything we didn't know which end of the horse to feed at this point or you know seriously seriously yeah so they got me a mentor and they got me a horse and I turned pro and here we go and I'm gonna enter the mesquite championship rodeo and it was just very cool my goal my parents always wanted me to have a goal in mind and my goal was to be the youngest person to ever qualify for the national rodeo so you've got to be top 15 in the world to qualify for our Super Bowl or our world series and the youngest person at that point was 13 and so I ended up making it to the national finals rodeo at 13 just a few months shy so I think we're like tied right in there if that was my big goal so I won my major-league card at 9 by winning a rodeo and then here we go and well he's good first like you've never gonna know which end of the horse to feed so like right when you started that you have a natural giftedness for this I really did have a natural ability to it I think that when I hear the term ignorance is bliss I embody that so much because I I really just went I that's the thing I'm gonna do yeah so let's go do that thing and I'm a bit of a cliff diver and I've been that way you know you're on a very young age and so I was like let's do that okay so I just did that let's see that's it's a common trait it's funny everybody you know that's either listening or watching this it keeps coming up on my show and oh by the way a lot more lately where the people that I'm interviewing have become world class that's something they knew literally nothing about that's interest it is and I think it's this some people develop the belief that they don't have to know everything to start and I think that's one of things that holds back so many of my guests or my to deny my guests so many of the mother people watch my show that they keep waiting around until this perfect moment to try sucks never get in a row never you we're always living in some sort of chaos I feel like and there's some beautiful things that can come out of that but the Ducks never get in a row yeah did you and so you get to the top 15 I totally agree with you you get to the top 15 you're 13 was this one of these things like there's a lot of pressure on you all the time as a kid or did you just have fun and your parents were like hey if you don't want to do it anymore yeah I said at any moment you want to quit be done my parents were so so amazing to me so I never felt any pressure you know a big thing was there was no social media so I probably didn't hear all of the things that you know backlash that you may get now if you were doing the same thing but I never really received any of that and and you know wasn't necessarily one of the cool kids so I always was somebody that was kind of on the outskirts of things you know had I had adults try to mess with me before competition because we were on the same level you know the Association tried to develop a rule against me so that I wouldn't be able to compete there's a lot of things that you know I just kind of went okay well I guess we'll try this other thing or I guess we'll just go a little harder in this direction yeah you remind me almost I just interviewed my really good friend Shaun White and now that I'm hearing this story you're almost like the shaun white of barrel racing because it was so young like he turned pro at 7 years old right and he was competitive at the same age but his this is such a great lesson for the parents main thing he pointed out to me was all the things his parents sacrificed like yours did for you but also that they they did remind him hey if you don't do this anymore you don't just be done yeah they never wanted me to regret anything and they always told me try everything do it you know go go leave and do whatever it is that you want and explore and I thought that was really really cool so for my excited to to remind people that did the people watching us they don't know the sport when you say you turn pro at 13s you just said adults I still make sure I'm picturing this so as a 13 or say 14 year old girl you were would you compete at that time against people just your own age or were you competing against adults at that age so the age that everybody is on average when you're at that level is 35 and above oh my gosh you're gonna gorge Evan you know it's still I'm competing against you know 35 and above that's about the average are you kidding me there's younger people and now you know people turn pro a lot younger the rule now is in place that you have to be 18 before you can turn pro okay sorry so you're gonna hold that record for a long time with the rule and so now you're seeing 18 year olds kind of go after and pursue some things I'm hoping that the doors that I busted down other people are able to walk through now in that sport are you um that's incredible I think I'm just processing picturing this 14 year old girl competing against a 37 year old woman or something in the same category that blows my mind so you compete you get your you become a very well-known figure in that sport for a long time and then there becomes this point I think where you're just sort of didn't you did you burn out did you I just kind of think that I was I was pretty good you know and I I saw some interviews of me at 14 years old where I was like I want to win the World title I want to win the World title and when I got reasonably good mm-hmm I think that success to me I thought would bring something else I think for me I thought success was going to make all my other go away or I was gonna be one of the cool kids or people would be more accepting of me being not like everyone else or I would I would start to feel certain things or all my money problems would be gone or all these other things would be gone once I reached a level of success and once you get halfway there you realize okay this isn't what I thought it was going to be and so for me then my parents with my journey they they were like whatever it is that you want to do so I was like well I've got this this model scout that told me I can go be a model in New York so I get on a plane i-17 I moved to New York and then you know 19 I moved to LA and I just kind of jumping all over the place and I always came back to horses always came back so that's interesting theme though I want to talk about that just for a second because I didn't know you're gonna go there I'm glad you said it I think a lot of people think hey if I can just get this house right or I can get this part of my career I can get this promotion I can get this relationship all the other things I don't feel good about in my life are gonna miraculously go I love my body I'll have great finances I'll Drive the right car and when you are I think an outsider of something or a game-changer in something or you're revolutionary in something you're not meant to be like everyone else and I think that there's extraordinary people everywhere everywhere you know I think that there's light within every single person they've got some extraordinary feature that you can emphasize and they can come out of them and I I know that because I've walked all these various different little careers that I was like I'm gonna dabble in that see what that's like and you can have such amazing things happen in those places and never get the results that you really thought you wanted until you're in the space that you're actually meant to be in oh my gosh I've had a lot of people sitting here no one's ever said that to me before okay I just wanna repeat this because if someone's driving they just missed the brilliant thing you just said but like you're not supposed to be like everybody else like the fact that you are different or you are on the outside or you do feel insecure I wish someone would have told me that like seriously no one no one's ever said that here either like hey you're not supposed to be like ever the fact that maybe they do ridicule you or you do feel different is the speciality that's that's the sauce Oh the part of you that is like I don't want anybody to know this skeleton I don't want anybody to know that while I'm going down the alleyway about to make a run in front of thousands of people that I feel like I don't know what I'm doing I don't want anybody to know that if I just tell the world I have no clue what it is that I'm doing and I still think that I can do something really dynamic here then that's the coolest part I want to just make a plug of what you just did there to like that's why I love your social media it's one things like once I found out who you were and then I went to you sort of explore your message in what you do and I say this as a friend your husband's sitting right over here am i right so and my wife's a fan of yours too I fell in love with you I'm like I love her vulnerability I love the fact that even with her fans the way she's in gate you engage you just tell the truth about how you really feel that's why I want you all following her on Instagram and our YouTube channel which we'll talk about at the end too but like that's what makes you special what does it feel like I'm just curious give us the feeling because you said you're in the arena it's like you know gladiator times or whatever right before you go like what is that like are you nervous are you like I'm gonna blow this I'm what what's the fee of a routine like what have so many routines so one of them is visualization and I always before I run envision and this may seem silly what I'm gonna post on Instagram about my win okay or what what I'm going to call home and tell mom and dad what is it that I'm gonna do to celebrate this victory and then I also tell myself why not me why not me because I get in the back and I look around at the fresh faces you know there's always new people that are you know they're on the come-up they're on the rise and they're they're the new hot thing and I watch them in there on a winning streak and they're doing everything amazing and I walk around and I think man you know I've gotten busy with life I'm not training 20 hours a day like I used to or 10 hours a day and I look around at my competitors and of course I do the human thing I look around and I go that one can eat me and that one can eat me and that one can't mean I'm so scared and I'm gonna die and that one can eat me and then I go for a second I'm like who okay why not me you know I'm a million-dollar barrel racer I've broken my neck I learned to walk again they've never done anything like that why not me and I go through all the reasons why it should be that could be the winner and then I want to determine what would success actually mean to me what is it because is it winning every single time because that's unrealistic and perfection is so lazy yes perfect run every times so that's such a lazy aspiration that would never never never get us to anywhere so what about you know making a really clean solid run or what about placing or what about breaking the arena record whatever that victory is to me I want to live up to my own standards and not to the standards that someone else has laid in place because you can get so easily disappointed oh my gosh this is so good like like I don't normally react like that but like like that's why I think you you know everybody you're gonna be able get access to her through her social media for her to come speak or do events with her to like this why I think you're like gonna be one of the most phenomenal speakers do but I want to go back and repeat something because there's I'm learning things when I do my show because it's funny like I'm paid to coach athletes or to coach successful people and but I'm learning and so I just want to say tell you something you said there that isn't shocking to me when you said who sounds crazy but I think about what my post on Instagram is gonna look like him right it's interesting Shaun White also who everyone's seen that interview now he said he goes it's funny but I actually picture the celebration yeah I picture what I'm wearing in the awards ceremony I picture all these things and I did that too in my sport and I do it in business as well this is a huge key for everybody when people say hey you need to visualize it's not just visualizing the execution of whatever it is you think you need to do it's visualizing the celebration repeatedly over and over - I mean you do this isn't there a chemical reaction that we have when the body experiences the same butterflies of yes experiencing the celebration right and so I read a lot mannered yeah yes you're exactly right and what happens too is that your body seeks to come back to its home base and so the more you do visualize it I also talked about this with people too your brain moves towards that which it's most familiar with so if you're feeding to yourself this repeated image of the celebration your brain and your body want to work in coherence to help you repeat that thing they're familiar with so it's huge that you just said that and it's one of the reasons this show so amazing for me because it's a chance to actually get in the mind of like someone who's world-class maxing out at something and what do they really think about and it's not always just visualizing the run its visualizing the celebration that's just it's incomplete you're always gonna have the moment where you feel like you shouldn't be there you're always gonna be in presence of someone that you feel like is better than you at something or that they can accomplish more than you can accomplish and there's every reason in the world for a woman to feel insecure in this day and age we've created that you know online and through social media so of course that's the first go to that you have and then if you can just train yourself the second thing is okay all of that aside why not me and why not that moment if I can draw this picture that's so terrifying why can't I draw a celebratory picture to oh boy this is so good okay so guys now here we go just so you know if you're driving the car you need to grip your steering wheel a little bit tighter because this is about to get really good like really hugely inspiring if you're on the treadmill at the gym you're about to go from level seven to level ten like that and if you're watching YouTube this is the part where you bring your kids in the room and you say watch this okay so so tell them what happens you're starting to make your comeback guys this is one of the most amazing stories you're going to hear so you're making your comeback and what happens well I'd like to tell you my mantra of it's gonna get Rocky and I'm gonna tell you the mantra that my dad told me the whole time throughout my entire career and me being very risky was whatever you do don't end up in a hospital cuz you'll die in there and you know just kind of rang in my head because I was writing dangerous horses and I was doing a lot of training and then I started training around the clock because of the weather and I needed my bills paid and I'm riding riding riding and taking chances that I shouldn't have had to take you know just because I was not understanding my growth and I wasn't understanding my contribution and so I was training really late at night in August in 2009 and I'm riding this horse that's fine everything's fine were training everything's normal my poor staff member was there with her boyfriend and it's just us lonely at night lights on in the arena and and I'm gonna train this horse and as I was taking off around the arena this horse slipped kind of in a mud puddle and it was not a big deal you know whatever he slips and he was feeling frisky and you kind of know that when a horse behaves a certain way he's feeling a little frisky I should have known better I should have taken more precautions but didn't it's what I do for a living what's the big deal and I start laughing I start giggling and this horse starts to buck and when I say buck you know horses can play and buck and they can crow hop and Buck this horse did something that's like a wild instinct so he reared up when he did he broke all the bones on this side of my face and when he came down to the ground I'm still laughing I'm like okay whatever and you know in the cowboy industry it's got to be tough you know and so I start to pull this horse up and as I do he hits me in the head again and I skull fracture in four places of course I don't know this and of course I'm not wearing a helmet because that's just not the cool tough thing to do and he begins to buck a little bit more and I just decided that I'm gonna pick a place off over here to jump off which is a terrible idea but I picked a place to kind of jump off and when I did he kicked my feet in about 13 or 14 feet in the air and I landed straight down on my head my legs just kind of flopped over and I was unable to move I was paralyzed right in that moment and what a tough place to be in you know because I was in this horrible relationship and in a spot where I'm like who's gonna save me you know so all I have is my career if I get hurt I can't make a living how am I gonna take care of myself I'm in this horrible place how am I gonna get up I got to get up and so my friend came over I was strapped down to a picnic table because I was too cheap to ride in an ambulance so I get taken in a pickup truck on a on a in a pickup truck on a picnic table to the hospital and I get there and I start joking with the the staff because it's just my way and the lady in the front desk my friend wanted an ask for a gurney and she said you don't need a gurney that girls out there telling jokes quit being so dramatic so my friend that was a paramedic they take me in and they finally get me a gurney I could have I could have walked I think I think I could have but when I got through the MRI machine and joking with the doctor that was helping me I kept telling him you know Hooters closes in 15 minutes and we're really close now like let's go get some food tell me I have a concussion let's get out of here and he came back in the room he said you have a 2% chance to live and he said it's really been touching to get to know you but he said the planes running and you had 13 minute flight to think about your life and I hope that you really take that time to think about what you're gonna do now because you're never gonna ride horses again and I'll never forget getting I don't know why I remember the guys names they were two guys named Russell that carried me to the plane and had me on this you know in the c-collar and strapped to the table and I get to someone get me some tissue please someone grab one thank you I get to the hospital room and there's a whole nother story in the hospital but I was told again I have a 2% chance to live then I would never walk again the neurosurgeon told me I was an absolute idiot for riding horses thank you they don't stop they come down and it's over it's beautiful so I had I had a second to think and all I could think of was my dad telling me you know you're gonna die in a hospital you can't don't die in a hospital I'm like this is crazy superstition that you're gonna die in the hospital and I wake up the next day heavily drugged obviously with a halo on I had a girlfriend in the hospital tell me they're gonna offer you two scenarios you can get the surgery with the Box in your neck or you can get the halo they're gonna shave your head you're gonna have holes in your head she said go that way I've seen this go a bunch of different ways so when the doctor came in I started bawling and I was like I want the halo you know all I can think of is this cage on my head I want the halo at this point I've called my mom and dad and told them that I was in a fender bender because they're with their grandkids in California I'm like a minute fender bender everything's fine it's all fine it's gonna be fine and I've got to figure out a way to get out of this hospital so I get these that come in and I say hey how can I get out of here because now I've got this real embedded childhood fear that I'm gonna die in the hospital and I've got a damn good chance at this point with the situation man group I could die in here so shout out to all the amazing medical professionals because it's just my own superstition they did an amazing job one came in I said I need to get out of here and she laughed at me and she said well you know when you can walk from one end of the hall to the other then they'll let you out but you're not gonna do that you got a long time you know settle in you've got about six months you're gonna be here so the next nurse came in and she said she laughed at me and she goes you know she was writing oh you've got six months you know you just like settle in and then the next lady came in really late on shift and she was amazing and if I could find her I would give her everything I've got she came in and I said how do I get out of here I gotta get out of here I really gotta get out of here and she said well you walk to the end the hall and you come back you can get out and I said well let's do that how do we do that now she said well you you got to get up and the big risk is you know if and when you fall down you know you can wiggle your fingers and toes and that's good but when you get up it's not gonna feel like you thought it was and you got all this equipment on your head you're gonna hit the ground and then you could die mmm and I was like well they've given me terrible odds at this point so what the hell and it was just very cool this lady that moment I she has no idea what she did for me because she's just like just well you know I'm willing to try it's just take some belt and she ties it to the ceiling and I get up and I fall down just like she said I would and then she said if you just put one foot in front of the other you know you can get down to the end of the hall and it could take you months but we're gonna try it Wow took me about an hour and a half and I got up and down at the end of the hall and I took all the people that that didn't believe me you know the lady at the front desk and the nurses that came in and I said tomorrow I'm gonna deliver flowers to each and every one of you guys because you didn't believe and maybe I can change your mind because other people are going to come in here and they need to know they can walk and so the next day I gathered up all my strength mom at this point knows that I have had I've been structurally destroyed is what I was told she got called from actually a newspaper outlet that was interviewing for rodeo publication that had leaked my medical records so my parents found out in that way so now I've got to do damage control and learn to walk and I told mom I said we got to go to the florist I made him a promise and so it was a really cool scene to watch all of these people that just didn't believe instead of me being angry at these people that didn't believe in my journey to just shine a light on it and show him a different way so I went and got floral arrangements for every single person that told me I couldn't do it and I walked in there and I walked to each of their offices like I think I hopefully I gave them a gift that they can always have hey you might not believe how I'm gonna do it mm-hmm but it gave me a lot of clarity too well sometimes you're just not asking the right person what you know yeah well I think I think everybody should just literally go back and listen to all of this again you make this honestly I'm gonna tell you something this is like such a blessing to be here with you thank you it's a blessing to be here with you thank you I'm I'm really moved right now and I'm trying to not get too moved so that I can still ask you questions but it has a happy ending I know it's such a happy ending but it's a I know we're gonna go into there but it's a happy ending because of everything you just said that there's there's so many things in there that we all have these people who don't believe in us and we're scared and and they're scared - hmm they're scared to tell me I can walk down the hall cuz they know I can't they're scared too and maybe that's true for so many people where you have these people in your life that are close to you that are maybe pulling you down maybe they're just scared for you maybe they're scared for them you're gonna leave them - right let's do it and everything that you have and I just want to acknowledge you like you're freaking amazing like you're amazing I just know just to be clear with everybody this break was very serious very similar to Christopher Reeve right and I mean it not all that dissimilar injury not it's the same injury so when you break your c2 that's what controls your head going left or right and you have a very very very small chance of making it out on the other side with a lot of neck breaks this would be the the one that you really don't want them you know to happen unbelievable I'm picturing you there I mean you tell the story so well I can actually picture you and I'm so proud of you I mean you're just just remarkable and everybody that just heard this I told them they were gonna be moved but I didn't even know until you told it in front of me how much it would move me it puts in perspective so many things that I think are big obstacles in my life that really aren't she had so many things that I think are a really big deal and they're not and that is a big deal wake up and wiggle your fingers and your toes tomorrow you're gonna be like okay they're all okay just amazing and so now it gets actually more amazing now so you you go through the process of rebuilding yourself and then you make the crazy decision it would seem to me to actually get back on a horse again right so what was that like and what was the first time like if you don't mind sharing that it was horrible and I would love to share it I was like Ricky Bobby in the race car people are like yeah you're doing really great sweetie you're rocking and so I thought you know learning to walk again is is a pretty big hurdle it's pretty tough and then learning to ride again and you get over the the path that okay I'm gonna do this again and the neurosurgeons telling me I shouldn't do this again sure okay now I'm gonna wear some helmets I'm gonna get wear a helmet and I'm gonna I'm gonna actually do this thing the right way and then I started thinking about I wonder if other people have had these things and I start to read everybody's story and I start to wonder if the human mind can comprehend getting up and walking out of a hospital when you've been told a two percent chance maybe I can go back to 14 year old me that wanted a world title and let's do this thing and let's actually give it a shot and I thought if I can have a goal big enough that makes my future look brighter than my past then that will keep me hooked towards something that I want so badly you know because we're all gonna lose and you're gonna suck and you're gonna go broke doing it and you're gonna have people that don't want you to do it and you're gonna fail ultimately and keep getting up and dust off and fail but if the thing is so bright that you have to walk toward it you'll stay hooked and I stayed hooked and I had a horse in my front pasture just a small brief rundown I no horse in my front pasture that the trainer told me nobody could ride and I thought well that would be pretty cool I'm gonna go get that one oh my gosh I got that horse that was raised on my place and I actually heard her mom and dad yes the horses I went to the National Finals on when I was a kid and I was like I'm gonna I'm gonna ride this thing and I trained her and within a year we were already fighting for another another chance back to the National Finals Rodeo what which is just unheard of and she's just been this baby fusses baby flow okay so that was a really cool part of my journey and then I hit another road bump just what I think everybody does I qualified for the National Finals Rodeo in 2013 and Here I am I'm ready to go and I'm gonna show the world and I go in and I was terrible on TV ten days in a row was just the worst ever and I thought well there went the walking miracle thing like now they're just like she's a walking miracle it doesn't ride very good oh my god here we go okay it's pretty big walking miracle to be there but I understand what a letdown this career and you know people have known that I've already been and here's my comeback 20 years later 25 years later or whatever it is in boom and I'm terrible mmm at this on this big platform and and I thought man I've got to do this better so was that what you were thinking stay there so at the time but were you super depressed super bummed out for a while I just wanted to have people understand what this listen the season ends September 30th or is it September 31st 77 into September okay October 1st it hmm so you have a 24-hour span to be really depressed or get it together mm-hmm and it was in that moment I was like okay I've got to do this again and mmm I got to do this again and I want to show my parents what my horse can do and if I just put that that is my big light at the end of the tunnel maybe I put that in front of the world title maybe I just scale it back maybe I just do this one thing of just I want to show my face on TV again running my horse as this person with this cool comeback story and I want to make a difference and I want to show that nobody show me stats nobody show me numbers nobody talk about anything that qualified back third in the world the girl that was winning it was a sure thing second place was the sure thing third place was the girl that blows it on TV but let's all feel sorry for her you know because the next thing so I come back and and I decided that I'm gonna put my head down and I don't want to talk about anything but just focusing on one foot in front of the other just like I did before because that's been my formula literally like learning to literally one foot in front of the other so I get on my horse round one comes I've never won around at the National Finals Rodeo at this point I've made like 50 runs in that arena never won I've placed a brick in your net before a break in my note done good yep my 51st run I win it I told all my staff all my friends everybody I said let's go home wrap it up I don't want to make the other nine around sir done victory let's go amazing yeah so then I thought well if we just keep doing this one foot in front of the other thing let's just keep doing that so run by run the sure thing girl just start slipping down the pack boom boom boom and then Here I am and of course you know there's people that love you and hate you in sports so I'm getting you know people that think I'm ridiculous and people that think that I'm great and you know whatever it's polarizing it's fun for the fans mm-hmm but the sure thing second place girl she's really a sure thing and she just starts going and she's doing great I'm doing great and I look up to her so much so she you know it's cool for us to be kind of in this battle and something I've never said before I think on any of my social media is that the 10th round that would determine the champion she came up to me and she shook my hand and she said well you've done really great and I'm just super excited for you and I thought I just won the World title because I realized that she hadn't celebrated yet and I already had and in my mind I had my outfit picked out and I was gonna be wearing gold because the gold buckles and I was gonna be the gold title holder and I would have this gold and I I knew that when I walked in I would jump up and down and I would have this gold buckle in my hand and I was like wow if I just don't mess this up this is gonna this is gonna work and I went in she made a beautiful run he was great and they swung they get open for me to go and my dad standing right beside me and I was like and this would be a really bad time to screw this up what do you do just put one foot in front of the other don't try anything fancy and I think that's been something that I've held with me so long that's so effective go in and I made my run and I come out and I look at the board and I'm the winner I'm the winner and of course I lose it and I'm losing it and the cameras are coming in the you know ESPN's here and CBS is here and all of them are coming around and I look at my dad and he was like you you just won the world I was like I'm gonna go jump on that stage just like I did in my head really quick and it was so cool and they you know whisk me off and here I go down into the bottom and and just a funny funny story is the security guard said you didn't win it they made a mistake it's someone else and I was like someone needs to give me a bucket because I'm for sure gonna vomit right now and they came back and said it's amazing we actually give the victory lap to the person that wins the average and you didn't win the average but you won the world and it's such a cool thing because in my mind I was shooting for the average mm-hmm and I wanted to win this you know the aggregate I wanted to be the most consistent person because that's what everybody told me I couldn't be and I ended up with the world title so yeah you don't always get what you want you get something so much cooler so much better so it's gotta be I mean listen first it should be a movie thank you I mean for sure and all my producer friends that are watching this like hello not to give you her Instagram in a minute it should be a movie it's an unfreaking believable story like my even hearing it now look at me like I'm just it's so remarkable what you've achieved and and and still continue to achieve too but I just tell you like just so you know I've had a just for me like this is such a gift for me like I I do shows that I love doing them but today is a gift for me like you're remarkable you inspire me the story the way you tell it I can't wait for this to go to your audience and people to see it I because I know somebody is struggling well of course they are and like you embody see some people like I talk about these things that's great you embody it you've lived it you are it like it's you your evidence of it like you're living proof that the things you teach and talk about are real right like there's someone right next to me right now who's living proof but you can accomplish anything that you were washed up in your mind you were a has-been it was over so many things I believed about myself that I hear people go I'm too old and I go how old are you 21 and I'm like what is wrong with the world like that oh you're fine I don't think anybody at 95 is too old to do something really cool with their life do you struggle let's go through some things about you like it's hard to move off that just to be honest with you like I'm actually right on the verge right here I'm trying to not do what you're doing so I'm waterworks I think what's going all that well one of us have to not be right it should be my turn by the way I should be allowed to on the inside I certainly have my audience knows me well enough to by the way I must tell you that it's just it's remarkable to me the way that you just articulate it - it's so beautiful but you though let's talk about you for a minute because I think both men can relate to what you're gonna talk about here in a minute - but really women can - you strike me as I've gotten to know you a little bit that you still do struggle with some of these things whether it be you're maybe even which is amazing but even some of your own confidence even to this day is that is that true and how did is tell them a little bit about that part of you still and how you navigate through confidence is something that I think everyone when you walk into a space you can feel somebody really confident coming out of that space and when I help people whether it be with horses or with anything that I help with the first thing that I find is that they believe something that's so wildly untrue about themselves and it's so deeply ingrained in themselves that they just they they can't get away from that belief of themself and for mine it was I'm too old to make a comeback or I'm too injured to get to the gym or you know I've already accomplished all that I can accomplish anyway or for me it's like oh well I always need to have a six-pack and be in perfect professional athletic shape and what's so untrue about that is how many people would love to have my body type how many people would love to be in my position how many people if dealt my hand could play it so much better how many people you know if you just take a look around at people that I'm able to help you know I've helped people that weren't even able to leave their home that just need inspiration to be able to they were you know in such a place with their obesity that they're not able to even stand up how do you tell that person that you don't feel great about your body how do you tell that person that you're not able to take advantage of all the opportunities in your life there's always somebody in your position there's people that I've met with without limbs that are doing more than I've been able to accomplish so in your position what are those things that have tied you to that thought that have kept you from where you're going it's like the elephant tied to the chair you know elephant can just walk away yeah and he's so used to believing he can't he stays right there hey you um you talked a little bit about some of the things you've transitions so then that happens and then what I think's remarkable about you and I bet maybe this has happened but then it's gotta be now you're gonna find the next identity right it's like you get the different levels in life and and that could be someone could be listening say that what I my dream was always to become a mother let's say just pick something and I become a mother and I'm a world-class mother and it's the most fulfilling thing you'll ever do or maybe it's a business you want to start you now you've got that business but all of us need to be searching for that next identity that next thing we're chasing life is about the chase to an extent right like it's always growth and contribution growth and contribution if I can continue to grow then I can continue to contribute and that's where the real fulfillment comes from because if I go see my name in lights and I win the World title will guess what it meant that night pro rodeo was on a search for a new world champion mm-hmm after that and I woke up that next morning after I won the world like okay well now you've caught the tiger you caught the bear yeah now what do you do yeah and I went new it's horribly dark depressive state you're horrible and then I started to research athletes mm-hmm and I saw this cycle right of they've won you know you see people that everyone amazing things and then they just you know they just puddle yes and it's because you catch the tiger you catch the bear and then you're like well what do I feed it now what do I do with this thing I thought that all of those problems would go away not that I would have the perfect relationship by now or I thought I would have the dream car right now where I thought all these things would just magically line up there's no limo waiting for you when you finally reach that mm-hmm that thing you're still gonna have people the person that that didn't think you could accomplish anything once you accomplish it will say but I can't I bet you can't do it five times yep yep well why would I try that yeah you know why would I do that so I think in the in the space of one foot in front of the other I started to have to get myself out of this really dark space so I started to just work on making sure that I was okay you know making sure that gone through all the strength I know how strong I am let me go back and put some instead of band-aids on these bullet wounds of my relationships or my finances or what I really want to do or could I actually help other people do this when I started to really cement that yes and put some buttons on some things that really need to be taken care of I found so much more fulfillment when I found true fulfillment and I continue to find it you know it's never done yeah they were done you know you do this show it's fabulous it's amazing everybody's learning so much but then there will come a point when you're like I'm gonna feel fulfilled in some other way I'm gonna do some other thing that's gonna make me feel really great maybe spending time with family or going to you know your place in Idaho that you love so much the same thing yep and but you found the formula let me just tell you it's growth and contribution yeah and I want to say something you said I'm so glad you just said this particularly for the female listeners and Watchers and that is I you ladies especially but there's a lot of dudes like this too but ladies you don't take care of yourself right you're always caring for other people you're expending all of your energy for the people that you love and the people that you're caring for or you're expending the energy on the things about yourself that you don't love yet right self-care like whether it's like I mean it could be simple like just like read a great book and relax take a bath do something kind for yourself get a massage if you don't have any money give yourself the gift of meditating or taking a walk yeah right absolutely isn't that true because a lot of your followers are women I found a lot of really great free drugs basically okay because I'm not a drinker you know no you're not I tried to get to have a drink before so I didn't worry straight-laced you found free drugs you know there's all sorts of things dopamine from things we love or endorphins from working out all of these things that I can get from fulfilling myself and especially for the female audience you know I think that it's where we're meant to be nurtures yes and homemakers and we're meant to be people that are always fulfilling everyone else's needs and just like you said if we don't take care of ourselves mm-hmm those people don't get the parts of us that they love and there's nothing worse than trying to love a woman that's 20 percent herself or 10 percent herself or five percent herself you can be a mother and you can be beautiful or you can be a mother and you can be somebody that expresses yourself through all the arts and crafts that people told you to put away and become an adult or you can do all of those things but the real contribution back if you really want to be nurturing and you really want to give the most to your family is to give them you at 100% oh well of them your full version so totally amazingly agree with you and I can see a 99% of the women nodding their head going on with you then there's the one percent of the ladies ago and that's not me you know I'm in a career well take a look at your career like I bet you at your career you're nurturing and taking care of the people around you caring about them loving them doing 3 people's jobs and covering up for the people who don't work so it's you to girl trust me it's something and by the way men have this as well but it is more I'm so glad you said it because oftentimes superachiever women often aren't willing to express that thought to other women and so it's wonderful that you give people that gift so what did happen because you become really sick those guys I want to tell you some create some of the best social media stuff I see because it's it's one it's you document your life but you also give value those of you that are listening or watching this you go my gosh this woman is a treasure chest of personal development and goal-setting and visualization and achievement and Happiness which is why I'm strongly I'm gonna keep encouraging you I want you speaking I want you in front of crowds I want people seeing you so please engage first off but where you got more to cover here but I don't like to wait to the end where they're all right now we're and we'll put this on the screen on YouTube but where should they be finding you where's your social media best place the best place you guys can find me is on Instagram I'm at Fallon Taylor too on instagram so follow me there every single day I try to give a nugget in my story just to keep you inspired and hooked for the day so think of me as the second thing to your coffee I love that and our YouTube is awesome you guys like it's it's so it's beautiful too because you get to see parts of someone's life that you really don't always get to see it not everybody's in your sport not everybody kind of gets to have the interaction with the horses that you have and the other things you do so it's beautiful what are you doing now tell everybody what you're doing now now I'm doing a lot of things with rescue horses I'm doing a lot of things with kind of using the rescue horses to rescue the humans I'm very excited about doing that showing people how animals and horses can create a second chance so that's really exciting I'm documenting that I'm also still actively competing so I'm excited next week I go to rodeo all-star in Denver's I'm gonna be competing there and always actively pursuing you know that's my my growth and contribution is training new animals and through that that's my fulfillment so the more that I can add value in other places I can take that free time and block off and go okay listen I need this time to work with these horses and play with these animals because that's what you know is my lifeblood is to continue that so in the future I just hope to be speaking and just adding value back to people and showing them how to put one foot in front of the other you do it because you have I'm telling you you have one of the all-time great stories to do it and I think there's a power to somebody that's doing it or has lived it and by the way she's also arrived to a place in her life where her business is flourishing her social medias flourishing she's still competing she's gotta grin to her and now a great marriage like there's all these wonderful things happening in your life I'm so really happy for you what advice I mean we'll have a couple more minutes but if I didn't do this I would feel like I made a mistake for audience there's millions of people by the way max outt universe get on her social media find out where her schedule is and get out to an event to like go see this woman compete let's get let's support her let's get to events let's make noise let's like rally up part of the universe what do you call your followers have like a name tweet you they're all flow means flow me what's up flow me flow means by the way all the flow means that are listening to this for watching follow me on Instagram or social media I will inspire you every day and I will help you so flow means come to me can't wait to share your stuff with my social media I'm so excited for that I'm so excited for mine to see you and and so this is gonna be wonderful but the I guess I think the thing that I would want people know is like I have somebody in front of me who's achieved it so many friends because these guys and then after this she went on and became she competed for a little while in the fitness arena like she's done all kinds of stuff that we can't fit into the window today two questions that finished because I feel like I want to ask you both things how important of your parents been to you so insanely instrumental and so I always encourage people because I realized that I'm probably in the minority of people have parents that were married for 56 years and you know have that kind of encouragement I think that that's the biggest thing the biggest takeaway for me when I help someone as I'm understanding they don't have that same support but you can get that same support from just like the max out universe you've got people around you they're like-minded that want to help you that want to see other people win not everybody's gonna want to see you win right not every single person is excited for your journey because you're gonna prove a lot of their beliefs wrong so be around people that really believe that if you do all the things necessary to really get some lift off the ground of the things you want to achieve those people are gonna just propel you to the next level so being a part of something is really important why I created this it's like I want our community supporting each other that's why I did all this stuff of like hey comment on my stuff get in there I want you commenting on each other stuff I want you liking each other stuff I want you knowing what each other do and supporting each other because you're exactly right most people don't have parents like you and care that I have they don't they don't have people in their life that are supporting so you have to go find those people and in my case I've created that environment for you to find those people and then I bring on amazing people like you too so last question if you and I you know this has been a blessing for me as I've told you but if one of my Lister said could I get like five minutes and a cup of coffee with you right or could we go on a ride for five minutes and they could ask you something most of them would say and I know we've covered a lot of it but you're just like there's so much still that we didn't even get to and they said I want to make my dream come true and I'm at this place where I'm not doing it I've tried and I failed I tried and I failed or I don't have support around me what would you just say to somebody he's like I got a dream too and you've inspired me today would be just a couple things you would share with him if they met you like I got to well would you share with them that they should be doing and thinking I would tell them to write it down the craziest thing let your mind wander to the craziest place it could go because we limit ourselves so much and we limit ourselves by those beliefs that aren't true writing down if you had just an endless supply of money and all the time in the world what it is that you would do and then break it down to what if you had almost no time what would you regret that you haven't done what's that big regret what's that regret and then attack that thing first go there and when the brain starts to kind of work its way around what if this thing could actually be possible the other little stuff comes along it's so crazy when you when you focus on fixing yourself and loving yourself all of a sudden that standard shift like I think more about my checkbook I think more about my how my spouse is treating me I think more about the people I keep around me and how they speak to me I think more about what I get up and get dressed like in the morning you know there's a time where it was sweatpants and it was just like if I left my house and be a miracle so so depressed and since such a place and now it's like no there's a standard for how I want to present myself to a group of people and however they think about that is their own problem that's their own belief system so I think just narrowing it down to what's that one big thing let's not leave this planet regretting something that we haven't tried and you will fail and that's okay that's the biggest lesson the biggest lesson is in the failure oh my gosh like 2013 for you right I think your whole I picture this day today of the whole story of this little girl who turns pro it you know 7 years old and then has this amazing life but then I picture you taking that first step down the hall way that you've got to walk back and forth right and it's amazing to me to think that first step you took that day to get to the end of the hallway and back that step eventually led to you being the world champion back on a smallest thing it gets me emotional all over again it's those nothing's ever done in these huge moments nobody's gonna run up to you and go I've got a million dollar idea or I'm gonna help you win a world title it's this little like saying yes to the lady that said you can get up but you might die or saying yes to yeah I might try that thing or saying yes to well do you want to give this another shot it's little tiny thing saying yes to a first date with somebody you thought would never like you saying yes to a job that you think you're not qualified for saying yes to it's not these huge moments it's those little tiny ones just that one step that one little step I don't want it to be over it's too good but you're extraordinary thank you but no you're extraordinary and today was remarkable like I'll be honest with you I came in today it wasn't the best day ever for me and like it's the best day ever for me like I'm serious I just everybody please follow this woman I'm so rooting for you like is so impressed and blown away and I know all of you are - thank you so much for having me so much I loved it it's just you thanks out max out so you guys speaking of maxing out reminder you have to share this show don't go away yet listen you have to share this show with people people you love people you care about people who you believe and they need to hear this story they need to hear my stuff too and so that's why every day remember I want to connect with you would you do a coconut 15-minute call with one of my people course okay awesomeness so guess what you guys I run the max out two-minute drill every single day on Instagram what that means is when I make a post within the first two minutes on Instagram if you make a comment in the first two minutes you get into a daily drawing every single day I read the comments I reply to people I like them but I also pick a winner 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Channel: Ed Mylett

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Length: 54min 25sec (3265 seconds)

Published: Thu May 09 2019