We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns. National Competition on Worries! We have beautiful and handsome guests today. NCT 127's Doyoung, Jaehyun and Mark. (NCT 127's Doyoung, Jaehyun, Mark) Hello. And MOMOLAND's Jooe, Yeonwoo and Nancy. (MOMOLAND's Nancy, Yeonwoo, Jooe) Jooe, it's your first time on our program. I've always enjoyed watching Hello Counselor. I really want to go on the slide. If you have a concern, send it to us and you can. I really have many concerns. Then you can go on it. Like what? I like to sleep a lot. You can't wake up? How do you get up then? Yeonwoo kicks me in the morning. Yeonwoo kicks you? Even then she can't wake up. It's a concern for you that she can't wake up. Since you two share a room. Do you have any concerns, NCT 127? I can't hide my feelings because my ears are so honest. They turn red. I understand that concern. Your ears turn red. I can't hide my feelings because of my ears. Is one of these 4 girls your ideal woman? His ears are turning red. They're red! Look. (Embarrassed) - They're red. / - Oh my, Jaehyun. (Why are your ears turning red?) (We now know how you feel) I have many concerns. - I'm not good with machines. / - Oh. He's never shopped online before. What? You haven't? Why not? I'm not up for such challenges. That's not a challenge. Why is shopping online a challenge? Then how did you become an idol singer? Doyoung, you're Gongmyoung's brother, right? - Oh, right. / - Gongmyoung was on our program. Oh, I see the resemblance. I knew he looked familiar. I thought he was my son. Oh, he's Gongmyoung's brother. I see that. Gongmyoung was so frustrated by a concern before. - Look, sir. / - I am so mad. Say a word to him if you want to. Why are you like that? He's asking the dad. I captured the video that was on the main screen of a portal site. He said that he made the program too serious. He must be a man with lots of emotions. Yes. Brothers tend to like talking about each other, but you must not like your brother much. - Is he your real brother? / - Yes. I'm relieved. I was very curious about that, too. NCT 127 released a new album. What is your new song? It's titled "TOUCH." - Please perform for us. / - "TOUCH." Music, please. Cue. Doyoung. You're so handsome. (A performance of sweetness) (TOUCH, I can feel you) (Heartthrob) (So manly) (Refreshing and cheerful) (Na na na na na) (This is the humanization of spring) (NCT 127, be successful!) We have three concerns here today as well. Please show us the keywords. What are the keywords today? "Cinderella Man." "Doomed Man." "Are All Brothers Like Him?" I'm a 29-year-old woman. There is a man whose only focus is me. "Daughter, what are you doing?" "Daughter, let's have dinner together." Is he my dad? No. It's my brother, who's 4 years older than I am. "Daughter, sit on my lap." "It's cold, right? Come here. I'll hold you." (Ugh) He treats me like a little kid. - Everyone's disgusted. / - That's not all. "I'm going to a friend's birthday party. I'll be home late." "That's so dangerous! Where are you? Give me the address!" Let me tell you once again. I'll be 30 years old next year. 30 years old. 30! That's not all. "Bro! Why are you crying?" "Because... I had a dream that you were getting married." Oh my god. Is that something to cry about? Are all brothers like him? My brother is only focused on me. Please stop him. How would you feel if your brother acted like him? Ugh! That's disgusting. That's just wrong. How does your brother treat you? He treated me like a younger brother before and now he treats me like a celebrity. How does he do that? He called me from the army and asked me to get TWICE's autographs. Because he's in the army. He told me to become their friends. - How old is he? / - He's a year older. Then he's almost the same age as you. Huh? What is it? I call him the word for "older brother." I thought he was older than me. Are you the same age? He's younger than I am. Really? The truth came out today. - You just found that out? / - Yes. She was shocked that he's only a year older. Then why didn't you tell her that she's older? I thought she called every man that. (Every man in the world is older to her) (I'm MOMOLAND's Yeonwoo) Since we meet so many men, I thought it was natural for her to call him that. (Should I change my tactics now?) Let's meet this sister. Please come on out. (Who's concerned about her brother?) Please help her up. (Stumble) (Right then) (Wait for me) (For the guest) (Don't worry and hold my hand) (Why is my heart racing?) The way you jumped in there looked like you were saving a drowning woman. Please introduce yourself. Hello. I'm Kim Dabin from Gyeonggi-do. Kim Dabin. (Welcome to Hello Counselor) How does he treat you? Why do you say he treats you like a daughter? He always calls me. If he can't reach me, he continues to text me. "What are you doing? Where are you?" When I answer, he asks, "Why didn't you answer?" Then we talk on the phone for 20-30 minutes. You talk on the phone for 20-30 minutes? Dads don't do that with their daughters, Even dads don't do that. He asks me where I am after 10 p.m. "I'll be there. Come out." You wouldn't even want your boyfriend doing this. So he sometimes picks you up? - He always does. / - Always? That must be convenient. Why does he do that? He says that it's because he's my older brother. He said that all brothers do that. So I asked around and they said that they only talk to each other once a month to check if they're alive. That's normal. Are you alive? Did something happen that he's worried for you? I'd feel better if there was a reason. Nothing happened? Nothing happened and I don't even drink. I think it's turned from worry into an obsession. Has he joined you during business dinners? That could be possible. Has he ever done that? Oh my. No, but he always comes to pick me up, so my co-workers tell me to call my brother. They all know. So this has been going on for decades? Since when has he treated you like this? Our parents got divorced when we were young. So we lived with our dad. Since then... So he thought he needed to protect you since then? Yes, and he thinks that even now. He's a great brother then. Okay then. He tells you to come home. How does he act at home? He keeps his eyes on me even at home. If I go into my room for a while, when I come out he asks, "Why did you close your door?" "Who did you talk to?" Why did you talk on the phone for so long?" Even if there's space on the sofa he says, "Come sit here." - On his lap? / - Yes. He tells you to sit on his lap? Yes. Then do you sit on his lap? You don't, right? If I say no... - Is he disappointed? / - He seems to be. - So you sit on his lap? / - You do? - I don't sit there for long. / - You sit on his lap? You? Wait, you shouldn't sit on his lap for long. You're 29 years old. (Her brother's suffocating love) A boyfriend usually goes like this in the winter. He does that to me. "It's cold. Come here, sis." - He says, "It's cold." / - Come here, daughter. Isn't that disgusting? Are you used to it because it's been years? Most sisters are grossed out by that. I didn't know that until others were disgusted. - Because it's been so long. / - I didn't know. Then I realized that it was wrong. How would you feel if your brother said, "Come, sit on my lap?" He's only a year older than you are. Even if we brush against each other he goes, "Ugh." "Don't touch me." "You didn't shower?" "You didn't shower?" Did you try telling him how you feel? That you're having a hard time? I once asked, "Can we not do this anymore?" His face turned serious and he looked like the world had come to an end. His voice trembled and he started to weep. "If you don't like it, I'll try not to do it." When I saw his face... "If you don't like it, I'll try not to do it." So I felt bad, so I couldn't say anything. So I just held back. Have you had a boyfriend before? I never told him. When he asked later and I said yes, he asked, "Why didn't you tell me?" Did you ever consider living on your own? I don't think he would allow that ever. Then I think he'd move in with you. (No way...) My mom got sick last year. Oh, so you kept in touch with her? Yes. So I moved in with my mom. I thought he'd get better once we were apart. But since he doesn't live with me he calls me more, he asks me what I'm doing more. He asks if I ate rice or noodles. If you ate noodles or rice? I could make him stop asking me that. "What did you eat?" "I'll start now." I'll be done listing the food at dawn. We had a similar concern before. The brother went on his sister's honeymoon. That's right. That's not all. There's more. He was going to move in with his sister after she married. Unbelievable. Your brother isn't that bad, right? I'm afraid he's going to do the same thing. Let's meet her brother now. He looks so naive. Your sister is here because of her concern. Do you understand her concern? I don't know why this is a concern. You don't understand why people are disgusted? I'm just doing my duty as her older brother. Why is that a concern? But most older brothers don't act like you do. She still looks like a baby to me. There is no 29-year-old baby in the world. She's sitting right over there. (Right here) Unbelievable. I never expected that comment. (He's unbelievable) - Oh my goodness. / - Unbelievable. I got goosebumps. How do you address your sister usually? Call her. I call her like this as a joke. Go ahead and call her. Daughter. Then does she answer to you? No. Because she's not your daughter nor a baby. (I'm an adult) Why do you keep calling her? I get worried if I can't get in touch with her. I want to give her a ride everywhere she goes, but I can't do that. What do you do? I work at a delivery company. Then aren't you quite busy? I work at night, so I am free during the day. You're free during the day. Now she lives with your mom. It feels like my daughter got married. She just moved in with your mom yet you feel that? That's why I am more worried about her. I'm afraid that she's going to do something bad. But she hasn't done anything until now. Have you felt this way ever since your parents got divorced like she said? "Who else would protect her except me?" I guess that's how I felt. How old were you then? I was in fourth grade. - Do you scold her, too? / - Yes. - Do you scold her, too? / - Yes. - Does he scold you, too? / - Yes. When? We were eating out at a BBQ place and grease splattered into my eye. I was shocked by it and yelled out, "Ow, sh..." You didn't say anything more? Any more cuss words? "Ow, crap..." "Ow, darn..." After I said that, he suddenly - stopped everything. / - He got all serious? He yelled, "How dare you say such things in front of an adult? Where did you learn to speak like that?" Did she cuss loudly so everyone heard? "Oh, sh..." If she was loud, she should be scolded. - How unique. / - He's like a dad. He's treating you like a grade-school daughter. So he nags at you for everything about etiquette and manners? "Where did you learn to use chopsticks like that?" "Don't chew so loud." Don't chew so loud? "Stop watching TV. Stop looking at your phone." He doesn't chew out loud? So I said something to him once. Oh, so he chews loud, too! "You chew loud, too!" He got so mad at me. At your age, it would be embarrassing if your brother overdoes things when others are around. Did anything like that happen? When I worked, he came to pick me up every day in the evening. When I forgot to take my lunch... He brought your lunch? I had a missed call at lunch, so I called him. He told me he brought my lunch to work. Unbelievable. On Valentine's Day, he passed out chocolate to my co-workers. "Please take care of Dabin." My co-workers were like, "Is he your boyfriend? What's with him?" That's understandable. Even a boyfriend couldn't do that much. People joked that he sees me as a woman. That's understandable. Are you being sincere? Why is it bad that I'm nice to my sister? We're not saying that it's bad. But doing that to her co-workers... I wanted to do something special for every special day. But she stopped me from doing it. If not, I would've done so. Do you have a boyfriend now? No, I don't. Are you lying because your brother is here? No, I really don't have a boyfriend. He doesn't let me call any men. I asked him why and he said, "I'm a man. All men are bad." That's what he said? So your sister can't get married? She should. Then why do you stop her from meeting men? Why don't you see what he's like first? Did you really bawl after you had a dream that your sister got married? Did you really cry? You were kidding, right? I had a dream that she got married. When I woke up, I found myself crying. Why? With sorrow? Or with joy? I think both. The fact that she got married means she found someone that I like, so I was happy. But I was also sad that she had to move away. Do you think he can't protect her like you can? Yes, that's part of it. Do you have a girlfriend? No, not now. It's been 4-5 years. Why don't you date women? I don't have time, so I don't think of doing so. Did anything happen when you had a girlfriend? Didn't she say you're obsessed with your sister? One day, my father was working late, so I ended our date early to go home and cook dinner for my sister. What did your girlfriend say about that? We had a big fight the next day. Can't you cook for yourself? I can. Then why did you go home to cook for her? She doesn't eat when she's home by herself. It doesn't look like it. She could skip a meal to lose some weight. You couldn't care about that if you're in love. I think of my sister first wherever I am. What I couldn't understand the most was... Why does she have to keep her room door open? If she has her door closed, it makes me feel like she's upset. Why? She may be angry or depressed about something. It looks like she closed her heart, too? Don't you think she just wants to be alone? I never thought of it that way. That's why you act that way. It's not easy for the sister. I hate it when my dog looks into my room when I'm changing. It's like having a CCTV following me. It must be frustrating to have a brother do that. Don't other people say anything to you? Don't they ask you why you're obsessed with her? Many people do, starting with my friends. My mom asked me, "Do you see your sister as a woman?" Whenever I hear that, I get aggravated since I'm just being her brother. Tell me who else acts like you do. Every other brother in the world. I'm an older brother, but I don't do that. I think it's strange for you not to be this way. Everyone here is a strange brother then. (I will not waver) Let's meet their mother. Hello. Hello. It must be a concern for you, too. What do you think? It's a serious concern for me. People keep asking me if they're really siblings. Even you asked him, right? I asked my daughter, "Does your brother see you as a woman?" They're adults now. They said no, but he's so obsessed with her. That's why I asked my daughter to move in with me. He became like this after you and your husband got divorced. You must be blaming yourself for this a bit. Sure. I must've told him when we got divorced. "You must take care of your sister." Of course. That's understandable. I asked him to take care of her, but now it has become an obsession. Is it better now that they're apart? No. Now that they are living apart, they talk on the phone for over an hour. What would they talk about for over an hour? For an hour? Isn't it hard to talk on the phone for an hour? I have no choice. When I don't listen, he asks, "Are you listening to me? Are you doing something else?" Does he nag at you, too, ma'am? Yes. I don't like to eat meat. He says, "You should eat meat. Why won't you eat?" So I tell him, "I can take care of myself." Then he yells at me for saying that. - To mom? / - Yes. He's being rude! Since I'm living by myself he feels like he has to take care of me, too. Since I get sick often and undergo surgeries. But this is what's strange. It's understandable for you to call her to ask her to come home early. But talking on the phone for over an hour when you know she clearly doesn't like it... That's strange. It looks like you're being selfish. I'm just calling to see how she's doing. For an hour? I scold her for anything she does wrong. It's a call that I'm supposed to make. But you do this every day. Do you have to check what she eats every day? Doctors should be doing that, not you. - You love your sister, right? / - Yes. But your sister doesn't like that. She doesn't like you checking up on her. I never thought she disliked it. I couldn't tell him. You should tell him loud and clear. She never said no because you'd get hurt. She couldn't tell you because she was afraid she'd hurt your feelings. You said you scold her. You're not that much older to be scolding her. You think like a dad. She is very immature sometimes. That's why. Let me ask your mom about that. Is she immature like he says? No, she's a prudent girl. (No, she's a prudent girl) (There must be another immature girl) She sounds so concerned. Why do you think your daughter couldn't tell her brother how she feels? He's very soft-hearted. When she tells him how she feels he gets very hurt. So my daughter cries a lot because of it. She's been stressed because of her brother. She's been bearing all that stress by herself. Then if I talk to my son about it, that anger goes to my daughter. So mom is afraid of her son and the sister is afraid of her brother. How would you feel if this continues? I'm worried that he really won't get married just like he jokes. I'm afraid we'll end up living together forever. - I'm afraid. / - Oh, you're afraid of that. He never joked about that, right? He did. (It wasn't a joke!) "I wish I could live with you like this forever." "I hope we don't get married." Did you mean that? You meant it, right? At the time, I meant it. This is what I don't understand. Your mother is living with your sister and you live with your father. If your parents passed away and it was just you two, we'd understand. But that's not the case. You should be living your own life. I thought this is what I should do. I thought if I sacrificed myself for everyone we'd all be happy. What I'm worried about right now is that you are going to be hurt today. Are you prepared for that? I came prepared, but I can't help but be hurt while we're talking. - Oh, no. / - This is what's strange. If you heard that your sister is suffering, it's normal to think, "Really? I was doing this for her, but I guess it was overwhelming her. I feel bad." That's normal. But instead, when you heard it you said, "I loved you so much since you were young. How could you say that to mom?" That's abnormal. This is a cruel way of putting it. You two were playing house as kids and you're still playing it by yourself. Your sister doesn't want to play it anymore. She's an adult now and it's not fun, so she tells you she doesn't want to play. But you'd be hurt if she tells you that, so she can't tell you she doesn't want to play. So she's just playing along with you. But this is just a strange game now. Are you going to live like this forever? She's 29 years old now. Are you going to keep this up at age 40? 50? Things will change once we meet our spouses. If you can't do something that you've been doing every day, you get withdrawal symptoms. This is what you've been doing every day. Since when was it? - She's 29 years old now. / - For decades. For 20 years you asked her about her day. It's a habit for you now. So it'd feel strange if you don't do it. It's a routine for him. I don't think that. That's what it is. Let's say you stop doing that. I'm sure you couldn't. Try not calling her for a month. No, not even a month. For a day. Let's see if you can do it. I'm sure you can't. It's already an ingrained habit for you. Are you doing it for yourself? Or for her? - For her. / - No, no. - She doesn't like it. / - Let's ask. Are you happy? You must tell him even if it hurts him. You must tell him how you feel. - I'm not happy. / - She's not happy. Do you admit that you've overdone it? Yes, I admit it to a certain extent. But I didn't do that just for my own good. We're not saying that you were bad. You protected your sister very well. But you should treat her differently when she's in kindergarten, grade school and now that she is a grownup. She'll be middle-aged soon. She'll be 60 years old soon. (What?) You should treat her differently accordingly. Yes. You must be less affectionate. It's like a dad asking you, "Let's see how big your thing is now." Right now. (Dongyeob's great metaphor) Continue. (Is that okay to do when you're an adult?) Your dad is asking about your thing even when you're in high school or a grownup. You're doing the same thing. You're not a bad person. You just went too far. Your sister is now being considerate to you. So that you don't get hurt. "I hate it! Don't do it anymore, you awful person!" She wants to tell you that, but she can't. How do you feel now? Now that I've heard everything, I understand that I went too far. But I can't help but be upset. We understand. I did everything for her sake. She knows that. I'm upset that I didn't realize this sooner. - Sure. / - You're very smart. It's upsetting that others see us that way. Sure. It's upsetting. Think about it. If you keep this up, they will not only look at you strangely, but they'll look at your sister strangely, too. You don't want anything to hurt her, right? Right. That's the key. Do you feel bad for him now? Sure. She knows how much he loves her. - Right? / - Yes. Talk to him directly. Tell him that you won't feel bad anymore. Tell him that's how the relationship will improve. I won't feel bad anymore. Thanks for everything you've done for me. I hope you put yourself first in your life. She's asking you to see her as a grownup now. She can take care of things by herself now. She's asking you to see her as a grownup. How do you feel now? To be honest, I haven't changed my mind about anything. - But I'm not a fool. / - Sure. I will try to tone it down a little. Be wise. Let's start with Nancy. I think it's a concern. I think it's a concern, too. Your sense of duty to protect her shouldn't become your right to control her. I don't think it's a concern. My brother is too mean to me. You were jealous a bit, huh? He's never called me by my first name. He always yells, "Lee Juwon!" He has never been sweet to me. I envy that a bit. That's understandable. I don't think it's a concern. He is upset now, but he now realizes that he's gone too far. So I'm sure things will change now. I don't think it's a concern either. In a way, it's a beautiful concern. It's better for her to be asking for less love instead of asking for more love. I think it's a concern. If you can relate to it, please press the button. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Please stop. A word for your sister, please. I always felt bad. I'll try to be a better brother now. I'm sorry and I love you. How will you be better? Be more specific. I won't nag so much. Don't nag at all. I don't think I can do that. I won't nag as much as before. I'll try not to do anything that you hate. I'll do my best. Please show us the result. (How many felt the sister's concern?) - Out of 200? / - No way. (They got 147 votes) Live a happy life with your brother. Thank you. "Doomed Man." He's here today because of an immature man. โช Spring is here โช Except for our family. We're all suffering because of one person. It's my older brother, who is still immature at the age of 39. He started his own business a year ago. "Where is he? He's not here at the store." "He went to a nearby cafe to hang out." "My brother isn't here again. Where did he go?" "He went to Phuket to cheer up." Phuket. Because of that, the sales are going down. "Lend me $2,000 so that I can pay off my card." "Mom, lend me $4,000 so I can pay back the loan." He keeps asking us for money. "Look after your business, bro." "Don't nag at me. I can take care of it myself!" He doesn't care what we tell him. Will he come around once he goes bankrupt? Please help me stop him. How do you feel after hearing the concern? If it were my older sister I'd be very frustrated. I thought your sister was the same. I thought that's what you were going to say. My sister has a job. She's really working hard, surprisingly. I'd be frustrated if my sister was like that. You thought she wouldn't work so hard at work? Yeah. I thought she'd skip work often. (I'm proud of you, sis) Brothers often ask each other for money, right? Has that happened to you? I have an older brother. If it were my older brother, I'd be frustrated, but I trust him and respect him, so if he needed money, even if we fought... But you can't help him. You can't do internet banking. (It's possible when he learns to work machines) He could give his brother money in person. We should talk to him in person first. Let's bring him out. Please come out. Hello, yo! (Kim Gwangsu) Hello, yo! Welcome. You said that your brother started a business. What kind of business is it? He opened a sponge cake store. A sponge cake store. He opened it last year. It's been a year now. He's about to go bankrupt. A sponge cake was sent to me today. - Your brother sent it to me? / - Yes. Then I'm on his side. I'll be on his side then. But he's about to go bankrupt? Yes. When he first opened, he earned some money then. But after about a month... - Only a month later? / - Yes. He goes to work at 1-2 p.m. and then he leaves the store to a part-time worker, so he's never there. So the sales keep dropping If he isn't at the store, what does he do? I think 2-3 months after he opened the store, he started dating a woman who owns a cafe nearby. - Oh, he's in love. / - I see. Even so, he should look after his store. What's absurd is that he is never at his own store. He's at that cafe? He spends his day working at the cafe instead. I think he's not even getting paid for it. Does he serve drinks? Or does he work as a barista? He works and does purchasing for her. So far, he sounds like a romantic guy. When the employees go out to dinner together... Oh, the employees of the cafe. My brother pays for everything. Last year, he went on a trip to Japan and Phuket. Oh, he went on a trip with his girlfriend. It would be great if his store was doing well. But it's frustrating because his own store is going bankrupt. Since my brother didn't have enough money, our father gave him $50,000 to open the store. Mom and I gave him $10,000. He also took out a loan of $30,000. We also gave him a gold necklace. He just spent all that money. He can't pay the rent and utility bills right now. He has to give wages to the part-time workers so he asks mom for the money. She gave $2,000 without telling dad. I gave him a few thousand without telling my wife. Keeping it from dad and your wife. So he sold the gold necklace to travel. Yes. Mom also had $10,000 saved up for my brother as an emergency fund, but that's all spent now. He has spent everything he has. In this situation, would you wire money to your brother, Mark? If he asked you? "Mark, lend me some money." I would. Would you be able to tell him? "Get a grip, bro." Yes, I would do that a lot. What does he say if you tell him that? "What do you know about my situation?" Since that's how he is, our parents have given up on him. - No one can talk to him? / - Right. I shouldn't have eaten that sponge cake. Now that I've heard this, I... There are things that we just can't understand. We should talk to his brother now. Things could be different from his perspective. Hello. Hello. He's handsome. They're both tall and handsome. Let me ask you bluntly. He said that you don't care about your store. Do you admit to that? I guess you could look at it that way. In the summer, sponge cake isn't sold much. I looked for a way out so I started to learn different recipes from my girlfriend's cafe. I learned different recipes from her and practiced making it. That's what I did. Of course I wasn't there in the afternoon. But it doesn't mean I was goofing off. I baked the cakes and tarts myself. I make everything we sell at the store. According to your brother, you spend more time at the cafe to help her out instead of working at your store. We're going to combine stores soon. So I have to learn about her cafe, too. But you're borrowing money because you can't pay the rent or the utility bills. I put the store up for sale now. - Because it's not going well? / - Yes. I've never been in a financial bind like this. - It's a first. / - This never happened before to you. I never asked my family for help before. I was embarrassed to ask for help, so I never did. This is the first time. He says he never asked for help before. Is this true? Yes. He never drank or smoked. He never went out to have fun at night. He lived an exemplary life. Whenever he got paid, he spent it on his kids. He never spent money for himself. Couldn't you be more understanding then? He got divorced last year. He has two sons to take care of. Ages 8 and 10. He looks after both of them? Yes. Since he can't take care of them himself, our parents are paying for their food and clothes. Since he's in a financial bind he has spent his kids' savings. He did? I heard that he spent $3,000 that his kids had in their bank accounts. If he was in a bind... Because of this, he doesn't talk to dad anymore. Oh my. That's what's going on now. Then if you work yourself without part-timers, you can save money. Then you don't have to borrow as much. I have to look after my children, so that's why I hired a part-timer in the afternoon. When he first opened a small store he had a manager and 3 part-timers at all hours. - In a sponge cake store? / - Yes. How small is the store? - It's 26.4 square meters. / - Really? Everything was in order even without him there. In a small store, he should've worked by himself. I thought he hired too many part-timers, so I talked to him about that. If you were to work very hard, but things still didn't go well, the family members could be willing to help. But you went on a trip to Phuket. And when you're financially in a bind you paid for your girlfriend's workers' dinner. Your family can't be understanding of that. Someone who is desperate wouldn't act like that. You took out a loan to travel. Are you not seeing the reality here? My girlfriend and I were having a hard time, so we needed to escape for a bit. We also needed to look for new dishes. That's why you went to Phuket? I guess there's a special menu in Phuket. What about Japan then? We went to Japan first. Then what about Phuket? You just went to travel to relax? - Yes. / - A healing trip? Yes, we went to Phuket to relax. He went to Japan to look for new dishes. I think he just went to eat good food, but that's what he says. We agree with you. That's just his excuse. How are things now? Does he take good care of his kids? He said he cares for his kids in the afternoon, but he only relies on our parents. On weekends, the kids are with their dad. One day, the older son called his grandma and asked her to pick them up because they were starving. He didn't give them food? I guess not. Mom was shocked and went to feed them. Recently, our parents went on a trip for 3 days with their friends. Mom asked my brother to make sure to give the kids dinner, but he didn't pay any attention to them. Our parents called from overseas to order chicken for the kids. (That's terrible...) That's all they ate for 2 days. My younger nephew is only 8 years old. He wanted to eat black bean noodles. He asked grandma to buy him some, but my brother didn't want to eat it so they didn't buy him noodles. So they skipped dinner. I can't understand how you could make your kids starve and not buy them food. How can you deny your kids food? Your parents ordered chicken from overseas for your children? It's not that I neglected my kids. I called them to order food for them and they told me that grandma already ordered it. They were so hungry that they called their grandma. They hadn't eaten breakfast. We normally don't eat breakfast. But you should make sure your kids eat well. I offered to go buy a backpack for my younger nephew as he starts school. But he wanted to go with his dad. He did? He wanted to go with his dad, but my brother spends his day at his girlfriend's cafe, so he couldn't go. So what do your parents think now? The kids' grandparents. He's their son, but they've given up on him. Mom underwent surgery for cancer a year ago, so she has to carefully avoid getting stressed. Sure. Dad has to work and watch the kids. Mom works at a gas station with him. In my opinion, my brother is trying to get off easy. We can't hear every detail today, but all family members feel that your brother has changed since he's been in this relationship? Even our acquaintances feel that way. He's saying that you've changed because you are only focusing on your girlfriend. Any thoughts? When I was having a hard time I was able to get over it thanks to her. I'm sorry to ask you this, but you're not in contact with the kids' mother? She ran away for the second time in 2016 and I haven't been in contact with her since. Since 2016? Then your kids must've been truly heartbroken. Their mom just disappeared so suddenly. I'm sure they were hurt more than I was. Won't they feel like they've lost their dad, too? I think they would. Right? I feel bad for them, too. That's exactly when you should be with your kids. How old are they? - 10 and 8. / - They're so young. At that age, because of the shock of losing her... Right. They would have a hard time. They need their dad to love them. Some kids would show signs of regression. They'd feel like no one cares about them or they don't have mom and dad. Some kids start to show strange behavior to attract attention from people. I've seen these cases in programs I've done. How are the kids? As for my older nephew, I heard that he wets the bed. He's 10, right? My younger nephew has become violent. And he's very pessimistic when he talks. When someone asks him to do something he says, "Who'd like it if I do that? Dad doesn't care about me." - That's what he says. / - He says that? My older nephew has become quick to pick up on things. He knows that his grandmother cares for them now, so when she cleans he offers to do the dishes. - He cleans after he eats. / - At his age? He always asks grandma if he did a good job. How sad. My wife called the kids a while ago and my older nephew asked, "Who is this?" She said, "It's your auntie." She asked, "Why don't you have my number?" He said, "You haven't called recently, so I deleted your number." If he doesn't feel loved by someone he just deletes the number from his phone. He's ending the ties first. That's how they are now. One time, we were eating meat. The older one kept grilling meat and putting the pieces on a plate. We asked him why he wasn't eating. He said, "I'm saving it for dad for when he comes." - He was saving it. / - He loves his dad. He only cares about his dad. It's quite heartbreaking to see that. This isn't the time to be looking for a new recipe. Normal 8 or 10-year-olds need attention, but they need even more love and care. One time, the older one hit his brother and said, "Mom left because of you." That happened once. My younger son used to be a cheerful kid but now he has stopped smiling and I was told that he sometimes sits in a daze in class. Oh my. (Dad was more heartbroken than anyone else) You were upset when you heard that, right? Of course that's upsetting. Did you hear about your kid saving meat for you? Yes, I did. How did you feel when you heard that? Oh my. Of course. They're your babies. Oh gee. The fact that a young child is saying "Who would like it if I do that? Dad doesn't love me anyway..." Hearing that is... It's so heartbreaking. It is heartbreaking. When I heard that, I took them to my girlfriend's cafe often. Since my girlfriend gave free food to them, they really liked being with her. They started to settle down and fight less with each other. It must be quite difficult for the girlfriend. She took the courage to be here today. Hello. Hello. It's not easy coming here. You've heard everything today. What made you come here today? It was actually very tough. Even now, I am eager to go home. Everyone is saying that he neglects his kids and focuses only on me. But that's not true. It isn't easy for him to overcome this difficulty and take care of the kids, too. I couldn't do it. But to his parents, nothing he does is enough. You knew that your boyfriend wasn't so good at doing business, right? You knew that he just started his business? Yes, so... But he came over to help out at your cafe. Since you're more of an expert, you could've helped him out more at his store. Why didn't you? There was nothing I could do to help him. All I could do was... Sponge cakes aren't so popular in the summer. What's worse was that there were problems with eggs, too. Did you know that he has financial problems? I didn't know his problems were that bad. Then you must've felt guilty for going to Phuket and Japan. Since he paid for everything. He didn't pay for everything. We both paid equally for our trip. He has never paid for the staff meetings. I let him pay for cheaper meals. He can't get a free ride all the time. But I'm the one who spends larger amounts. How do you feel now? It looks like she cares a lot about your brother. I do understand. - But they're forgetting something. / - What? He's saying that he's always working hard, but what he's supposed to do every day is to open the store by 9 a.m. Sure, until the store is sold. But he isn't doing his job well right now. That's why we can't have faith in him. I think he's just being lazy. He goes to work in the afternoon until night. He stays up all night and sleeps in the morning. I don't understand why he does that. Why do you stay up all night? He said it's because he's coming up with new recipes. I don't think the recipes are the main issue here. But you said that you don't drink. What are you doing at night? Only my girlfriend can make some things. So she prepares them at night. She usually gets done around 1 or 2 a.m. So I stay up to organize the inventories and calculate the daily sales. What do you think about what your brother said? I'm not wasting my time having fun. I'm working hard to find a way to overcome this situation. I hope he can have more faith in me. How do you feel now? I never heard that before. This talk is what I've been wanting. But dad and my brother aren't on speaking terms so I've been trying to change that. I suggested that we meet as a family and eat together once a month. But my brother always told us that he's too busy at the cafe. Couldn't you go out with your family once a month? We never really had a family meeting. Your brother just talked about it. He said that you were never there. I went a few times. It would be nice to talk as a family but they never listen to what I have to say. Especially dad. He's like, "If I say the sky is red, it's red. Just listen to what I tell you! Do as I say!" That's how he is, so I can't talk to him. That's why I just clam up when I'm with him. Can you see the conflict worsening between them? Yes. He's the eldest son. But his family never listens to what he says. As family, they should have more faith in him and encourage him to do well, but all they do is badger him. Is that why you formed a wall around you and didn't go to your father's 60th birthday trip? I didn't go because things were pretty bad. I spent my children's savings because my family told me that they couldn't help me. I had no other choice. I wept as I took their money. Sure. Your kids saved that up for years. It must've been upsetting. (He wants to be understanding, but it's hard) Does your dad really insist your brother do as he says and not listen to anyone else? I think my brother is the one who's too stubborn. - He's stubborn, too? / - Yes. When he used to work at dad's gas station he always had conflicts with the customers. Let's say a customer drove in the wrong way. We could just let it slide one time. But he made the customer start the car again and drive around to face the right direction. That's how stubborn he was. He is too strict with the customers. He isn't flexible at all. But he's very flexible with himself. In that aspect, dad asked my brother to be more kind to the customers so that there wouldn't be any conflicts with customers. That's when dad insisted my brother follow his orders. (Frustrated) It must be quite tough to be in the middle. It must be worse for the younger brother. You should move to another neighborhood. I own a store, too. Mom comes by almost every day. She comes every time she has conflicts with my brother and tells me about it. I was so stressed out that I went to see a psychiatrist last year. (It's that serious?) The doctor told me that I was so stressed out that I should be hospitalized. He told me to come back after talking to my wife, but I had to work. Did you know that your brother is having such a hard time that he went to see a psychiatrist? Did you know that? Yes, I did. It's something that's hard to resolve, but mom is frustrated by me, so she goes to my brother to vent. Why do you think your brother came here today? I think my family wants me to do as they want. They don't know how I really feel or what I'm up to as they ask me to do it. I will do my best to be who I was in the past. Sure. Your parents will continue to watch you, but you should go and talk to them sincerely. I'm sure you feel responsible as the eldest and you feel guilty about not providing the best family for your two kids. But I'm afraid that maybe you are unable to go talk to your father because of these conflicts. (Solve the issues with dad first) Please tell your brother why you're here and what you want from him. First of all, I ask you to put family first. That's what I hope for. Remember that this time is precious for the kids. Can you have faith in him and wait just as he asked you? We've been doing that since last spring. I think it's time for him to show us he's changed. You're waiting to succeed first before going to talk to your parents but they are just waiting for you to come and talk to them rather than seeing you succeed. Remember that. Let's start with Mark. I think it's a concern. I'm worried about the children, so I want him to take care of the kids first. I think some of the issues were resolved today so I think they are going to be okay. I think it's a concern, too. I think it's a concern, too. It's a concern. The financial problems or the business or the conflicts with dad can be resolved if you try hard since you're an adult. But your kids won't ever be 8 or 10 years old again. I think it's a concern, too. I think you've been deciding only for yourself. It's time to change that and think of your children and your parents first now. Please press the button. (What does the audience think?) 4, 3, 2, 1! Please stop. Please say a word to your brother. - Uh... / - Call him by his name. (Anticipation is high) Gwangsuk. His name is Gwangsuk? Gwangsuk? Suk? Gwangsuk. It's Gwangsu. - Gwangsu? Su? / - Yes. Gwangsu. We're asking again because... Gwangsuk. When we asked you to call his name, you hesitated and called him "Gwangsuk." We thought that's why you were hesitant. I know that you've been concerned for me and have been caring for me since we were young. You were hurt when you didn't have to be... (He feels bad for his brother) You didn't have to be hurt. I know I'm making everyone worry. I heard you loud and clear and understood you today. I will do my best to do better. I love you. If you have anything to say to your parents or your sons, go ahead. My sons. I... We... Tell them you love them. I love my babies. You can do it. Miss. Thank you so much. You comforted him when he was down. If not, he would've gone down a bad path. He might've met someone like me. (Hahaha) I hope you work very hard and show that to people so that they don't misunderstand your wise and beautiful girlfriend. Children want to remember that you were with them even during the hard times. Being with them after you become successful will never fill that gap. Make them feel like their dad was with them at all times during the good times and bad times. How many votes did they get? Please show us the result. (What's the result?) 152? 142? 152 votes. (They got 152 votes) Good work. "Cinderella Man." Hello. I'm a man in my 30s from Busan. People tell me that I'm a family man because I spend all my time with my wife and children. But... "Honey! Can I go out with my friends tonight?" "What? Are you kidding me? No way!" My wife can't stand seeing me go out. Ring. "Honey, why aren't you home?" "I'm on my way. You called me 20 times already." My friends won't hang out with me anymore. The problem is I can't go to business dinners. I'm not asking to go out every night. Just once a month! Is that too much to ask? Please get me out of this prison. Wow, how could she do that? Let's bring him out. Please come on out. (Who's concerned about his strict wife?) (Gwon Jiman) (He looks quite unique) He looks like he enjoys his freedom. Have a seat. He looks a little like BewhY. Please introduce yourself. Hello. I'm... (Gulp) Hello. I'm 36-year-old Gwon Jiman from Busan. Nice to meet you. You look so young. How strict is your wife? When I am done with work... Other than home... I'm home... She tells me to come home. What? So she tells you to be home all the time. Just be home. He's too nervous right now. It's all right. - Don't hit yourself. / - NCT! Doyoung, hold his hand. Tell him it's okay. Hang in there. Why? He's older. So you only go to work and then stay at home. Just answer our questions. When did you get married? When I was 27. It's been like this since then? Since our children were born. How old are your children? 9 years old and 4 years old. - No, 5 years old. / - Really? (He's still nervous) It's easy to confuse your child's age. Why won't she let you go out to drink? When we have business dinners, I call and ask her, but she won't let me go. She tells me to be home by my curfew, which is 10. She keeps calling me when I'm not home by 10. She calls until I answer. But you're 37 years old. - I'm 36. / - But you're 36 years old. So she yells at you if you're home past 10 even though you're 36 years old? Yes, or she abuses me. Doesn't your boss get upset? Of course. He asks, "You're not young. Why does your wife keep telling you to come home?" You said your friends don't like to be with you? They keep complaining about her tagging along. She goes out with you? Yes. - To go out to drink with friends? / - Yes. They complain, "Why does your wife come with you? Just go home early." So they don't invite me. - They don't? / - No. When was the last time you went out then? At the end of last year. I haven't been able to meet my friends since then. - Not once this year? / - No. I get off work at 5:30 p.m. and come home at 6:10. It's already spring. You asked for freedom just once a month. Is that true? Yes, it's true. This is not a hearing. So what is it like? I used to be a Taekwondo, Hapkido instructor. I want to go to the gym and work out. You want to work out? I want to go fishing, too. I don't have any personal time. I don't get it. You get off work at 5:30 p.m. Your curfew is at 10, right? So couldn't you get off work and work out and be home by 10? She gets suspicious. - Suspicious? / - She thinks that I'll drink. She just wants you by her side all the time? Yes. She loves me too much. (Ah!) (Too cheesy) (Look at you) You're a romantic. (Embarrassed) You're a romantic. Aha. You're a romantic. What does she see in him? Let's talk to his wife. Let's ask her why she does this. Hello. Nice to meet you. Hello. You don't understand his concern, right? It feels like he doesn't care about his family. - He doesn't care? / - Right. He gets off work and goes home. How can he not care about his family? He only wants to talk to other people. He never wants to talk to me. He only fiddles with his phone. That means he doesn't care about his family? He never talks to me. We don't communicate at all. But according to him, he isn't doing anything bad. He's just hanging out with his friends. When our eldest was 3, we went to a wedding. He had some girl friends there, too. I was shocked. (She's doubting me again) So that's why you always tag along? At first I did. But now I've given up. His boss said that he only cares about his wife and that I don't give him enough freedom. He called me selfish. His boss doesn't like it, so you don't go with him. You went to his business dinners, too? Twice. - To business dinners? / - Yes. But it's the same if you keep calling him. Wouldn't he feel uneasy if you keep calling him? He said that he'd be home soon and then turned off his phone. He doesn't answer his phone. Until what time? From 6 p.m. until the next morning. What? What is this? You didn't tell us this crucial information. What is going on here? She kept calling me, so I got so frustrated and turned off my phone to have fun. - I went out with my friends. / - Just once? Are you traumatized because something happened while he was out? My father drank a lot. That's why when I see him drink I see my father in my husband. What do you mean? When he drinks, he nags at me. - He becomes harsh? / - Yes. He's curt. So you don't want him to drink. That's understandable. But you won't let him work out or meet friends. You don't let him go out at all. After he works out, he wants to go drink. Then he comes home late. He could just go out to work out. Can't you just trust him? If he will keep his promise, I'm willing to let him go work out. She's willing to let you go work out. Can't you work out and go home afterwards? But once we work out, my friends say, "We've worked out. Let's go out to drink." Then I want to go. So in the end, you want to go out to drink! You're here to get permission to go out to drink! You're here because you want to drink. Her mother is here with us today. She said that she doesn't want her husband to drink because her father drank a lot. He cussed and threw things at home. That's why she has this trauma. I see. When my son-in-law calls to say he has a company dinner, she just says no. She has become too obsessive. She won't let me talk to her husband. - WIth you? / - Why? She won't let you two talk? - She gets jealous? / - Yes. What? (Not understandable) When she isn't home, we talk on the phone. What happens when she finds out? She gets mad and yells. She won't let me sit next to her mom. Why not? When we eat together I have to sit at the end. Why can't he sit next to your mother? They only talk to each other. He gets along better with her than me, - so I got jealous. / - You got jealous? You don't like the two of them talking to each other? I feel like they're making fun of me. So sometimes, I got so upset and ate by myself in my room. Because I felt so uncomfortable. (Oh gee...) We're supposed to talk to each other, but my wife just speaks what's on her mind. She won't listen to others? We end up shouting at each other and I don't want to do that around our kids. So I just avoid talking to her now. Since he won't listen to me I guess I ended up speaking to him to him without listening to him. We often got into arguments and one time, the police came. The police came because of complaints? Things got so bad that I had panic disorders after I had our first child. Our eldest was diagnosed with ADHD in second grade. I am busy all day looking after our first child. That's why I ended up relying on him more and have become obsessed. It sounds like she needs more of your love. That's why I helped out a lot and suggested that we go on a trip. I've been doing my best on my part, but things go back to the way they were. (He has no time to relax) This is... This is tough. It's hard, right? "Why won't he talk to me?" - You've thought about that, right? / - Yes. Why do you think that is? I lived a secluded life for 3 years before marrying. Then I met him and he offered to be my bodyguard. So we always went to places together. Wow. You still believe that? What he told you when you two were dating? He was kind when I had our first child. But once our second child was born... "You can be on your own now, right? I'm off." It feels like he has suddenly changed. I know it's partially my fault, too. It wasn't a sudden change. It was gradual. It gets worse as you obsess more. What would he talk about with his mother-in-law? What strange things would they talk about? You've gone too far if you're doubting them, too. Do you have any hobbies? I used to attend church before marrying. I don't sing very well, but I was in a choir. That's how I met people. But my husband's family is Buddhist. They won't let me go to church. This is tough. - This is a crisis. / - This is a crisis. And? I want to go to church, but they won't let me. So there's nothing I can do. What if you go sing at church once a week and you let him go out to drink at company dinners? Why don't you sacrifice one thing each? That would be great. (They've found a solution) How's that? Why don't you let her go to church? I don't want that. Find something else. (Failed to come to an agreement) Why don't you like that? It's just a religion. She's free to have her own religion. Can't you acknowledge that? Can she go somewhere else? Can she sing at a Buddhist temple? We go to a temple every week together. They go to a temple every week. - You do? / - Yes, every week. But at the temple... All we do is pray. It's not fun. I'm going crazy here. This is beyond a matter of religion. You're asking your wife to let you be free once a month to do something you like, right? Then you should let her do something she likes. Yes. She likes to go to church. Yes. She's not scolding you right now. Why are you being so adamant? My parents don't like it. Oh gee. What can we do? You should've persuaded them. But it's hard to do that in reality. Do his parents yell at you? - Yes. / - That's why. (This is tough) You could join a choir at a ward office. Maybe you should look into that. I took my daughter to a culture center, but people saw how poorly I was dressed and told the instructor not to talk to me. The other moms. "What's wrong with that boy?" They were also talking about my sick son. They're terrible. They dress so nicely, but I can't, so I've started to get a victim mentality. I used to suffer from panic disorders, too. People don't really care about us, but she thinks they are always talking about us. - She does? / - She thinks they whisper about us. A person kindly said to us, "Goodbye" and she said, "What's wrong with her?" She misunderstood. My wife becomes anxious often, so I always try to comfort her. Do you think people are always talking about you? I went to a school event one time and other moms were talking about how bad my clothes were. No way. No one would say bad things out loud. Since my son can't stay still, he does attract other people's attention. I have a question. Have you sought professional psychological help? Yes. As a family? Since I'm not mentally healthy, I am taking medication. What's sad is that because her father was an alcoholic, she was hurt as a child. That hasn't healed. It can't be healed. (She can't help but become more intimidated) I think this is more of the wife's concern. It's because... - Talk, but don't cry. / - Okay. Don't cry like your brother did. I think it's natural for every person to want their own personal time. The same goes for her. Of course. I got mad earlier when she said she hasn't gone out to business dinners after the boss said something mean. Regardless of whether what she did was right or wrong, family members should take each other's side. He didn't say anything back to his boss. I think that was wrong of him. (You're right, Doyoung!) Ask him, Doyoung. Why didn't you say anything? Tell us. (This isn't why I came here today) Tell us what you want from each other. Husband first. What do you want from her? When we were dating, she was so nice. She was like pure water. - She was so nice. / - Water? - She was so nice. / - Water? What? Pure water. Pure water. Fresh water. She wasn't like this before. I wish she would speak gently. It's not good for the kids either. But we never heard her scream, so it's hard to imagine. She could say, "Give the kids their medicine." But she yells, "Give them their medicine!" That's how she screams. "Give them their medicine!" I'm doing it, but she rushes me. She tells me to hurry. She's very impatient. Why did you yell at him when he was preparing it? He's just so slow. I want him to move faster. Whether he gives the medicine a minute faster or not, it doesn't change anything, right? What he wants from you is for you to speak to him gently. In a soft voice. I would if he keeps his promises. But I'm shy. You have to try. Don't make excuses. I've tried my best, but it isn't easy. Think about it. You didn't yell when you two were dating. I remember what Yeongja said. I don't know if she read it in a book. No, I don't read books. A man tried to change the world, but he couldn't. He tried to change the country, but couldn't. He tried to change his family, but couldn't. But he changed himself and everything changed. She said that once. Do you remember? It fits this situation. You must try to change a little for each other. What do you want from your husband? One thing. I've gained so much weight and lost confidence. But he won't let me go to the gym or swimming. He won't let me go work out. I want to go to a gym to work out. Why won't you let her go? Why won't you let her work out? You complained that she wouldn't let you go. It wasn't just the church? Why won't you let her work out? You two should switch seats. Why won't you let her work out? - Tell us. / - Things have turned around now. It costs money to go to the gym. He thinks it's a waste of money. - Who? Your son-in-law? / - Yes. Did you know about this? It costs money to drink, too. (I'm going to cry, too) Can you grant her wish? Yes. How? - I'll get you a gym membership. / - Great! Look for a church with gym equipment. That's a no. He said no to that. Now that we've talked, I can see that the husband was home but his heart was elsewhere. He was always disrespectfully curt. I wish he could be nicer and say things like, "You've worked hard today." - You want him to say that. / - Then I could... They want comforting words from each other. I ask him, "How was your day?" But he doesn't say anything back. What would you like to say to your wife? Tell her directly. I'll get you a 6-month gym membership. Let me go out once a month. If you do, I'll relieve my stress there and be a nicer husband at home. You said you would be her bodyguard from people who say bad things about her. Say something. Don't whisper about my wife from now on. - Oh gee. / - That wasn't enough. Doyoung, say something to them. Hey! Mind your own business. (What a refreshing comment) Let's start with Doyoung. I think this is the wife's concern. Not the husband's? I think there could be a solution, but for now, it's a concern. I think it's a concern. Did you press it? Press it harder. You really are bad with machines. I think it's a concern, too. Press it. Why did you point it at her? Why? I think it's a concern, too. Why are you pointing it at her, too? I think it's a concern, too. If you think it's a concern, press the button. (What does the audience think?) 5, 4, 3, 2, 1! Please stop. Please say something to your husband. I'll allow you to go out once a month. I want to be a proud mom to our kids. Please grant my wish. I wonder how many votes they got. Please show us the result. "Cinderella Man." How many votes? The last digit is a 3. (The last digit is a 3) How many votes did they get? - 113 votes. / - They got many votes. (They got 113 votes) Therefore, this week "Doomed Man" won. This is a reward to cheer you up. You understand how your brother felt now? Yes. They all seem to have grave concerns. Say a word to your brother. I acknowledge your tears. Your tears. I was able to look back on myself today. I will try to become a Mark who can resolve my own concerns. Mark. My mom and dad enjoy watching this program. Mom, Dad. I'm on television. Until the day we are all worry-free... Hello Counselor will continue to counsel you. Thank you. ("Jealousy" by MONSTA X)
Why is this ep and the more recent ones not available in the US?