Goalcast's Top 11 Most Epic Inspirational Speeches | Vol.3

you are who you've been looking for so stop looking for more unless you're looking in a mirror because it's about time for you to see clearly that you are who you've been looking for and that empty feeling you got that hole in your chest you only got that feeling because you think you're not blessed with everything you need you see we live in a consumerist society which means they need you to buy stuff and the easiest way to sell it is to tell you you're not enough buy this car you'll get girls buy this bra you'll get guys and we're seeing it so much that we start believing these lies but the truth is the makeup they're selling to make you feel prettier is the same makeup you buy to stop feeling shittier about this lie they keep telling you that you are not enough and what about the movies we watch all the shows on TV the more I watch the more I see I need you to complete me and yes love is the answer love is the key but if you can't love yourself how could you ever love me [Music] and loving yourself what does that even mean like massages and selfies and that sort of thing because the more I think about it the more it feels weird I've always been taught that self-love was something to be feared I've been taught that arrogance is bad and vanity it's not good and even my bracelets are telling me to act how Jesus would so what should I do how should I act I'm supposed to love myself but how do I even do that well I got a trick that I picked up from a friend who noticed that I was quick to defend her when she would say something negative about herself she would say I'm so dumb and I'd say you're so brilliant she'd say I'm so weak and I'd say you're so resilient and when she said I feel ugly and I said you look beautiful she asked me why I was so dutifully filling up her cup constantly and yet treating my own cups so irresponsibly because when I looked in the mirror my voice was quite clear you're ugly you're too thin your hairlines receding you got a pimple on your chin and that was when she gave me a piece of advice that changed my life she gave me a hug and she said treat yourself like someone you loved treat yourself like someone you loved now I've been standing but I needed to be sitting because I couldn't believe that I had been letting myself keep forgetting that I was who I'd been looking for and deep in my core I knew it was time to stop looking for more until I could look through all my fear and look into a mirror and see clearly that the man looking back at me was the only one who can make me happy and I am already enough and I am not any more special or unique than you that is why I'm here to speak to you you are already enough and when you start to see that you will start to be that your world will get brighter your load will get lighter and you can see that with life you can be a lover not a fighter and that life you deserve it because you are worth it and there is no point in letting yourself keep forgetting because no matter what you say or do you are perfect and so today I hope I leave you with a direction correction away from the flaws you see in your reflection they aren't flaws to me they are simply protection against all the doubts you have of your perfection so start today take a good long look in the mirror and say I am who I've been [Applause] [Music] this is your first challenge I'll give you 30 seconds I want you to turn to someone sitting near you next to you okay look them in the eye and this is what I want you to say when I look at you I see blank okay 30 seconds go you're gonna look at me and say miserable when I look at you I see blank okay Alexis when I look at you I see me where am I looking I'm looking in their eyes deeper than that where am I looking their brain in their heart we're getting closer yes where their soul we're getting really close now where's your soul it inside that is your first challenge for today stop looking at people on the outside and say this out loud look on the inside and here's where you use this it's really hard to look at someone who doesn't look like you and see yourself in them my children don't look like me they look like their mom they location they look Filipino they have black hair and brown eyes and Asian skin they're tan and they just don't look like me my son Justin he likes anime and Justin likes wrestling WWE what you need to know about Justin though he has autism and he's awesome he's kind he's compassionate he's caring but he doesn't understand where he fits in socially he can't look people in the eye he doesn't know how to interject himself into a conversation he doesn't know where he fits in when Justin was in middle school he used to come home from school every day and I would ask him hey buddy where'd she eat lunch today and he would say daddy I ate alone he still does some things in high school Justin looks like all of you guys and he is just like all you guys not here here and there's a difference guys between being alone and being lonely no one here is alone we're all in the physical proximity of people but there are people sitting in here who are lonely lonely is a feeling lonely is toxic lonely is dangerous it leads you to do things that you normally wouldn't do a lot of times unhealthy things about five five years ago now justin learns how to skate and eight months goes by and he gets invited to play who wants to plan a rec league team with typical kids with regularly developing kids and the last game of the season we were losing it was eight three it's about three minutes to go and I'm in the bleachers there was a faceoff and now Kyle takes the puck and he passes it to Justin and Justin skates in and he takes a soft shot and it goes off the goalies pad and he stuffs gets the rebound he stuffs it in the goal and the kids are going crazy and I'm neither sound crying I'm like melting the ice with my tears and so I went over to the opposing teams bench and I reached out my hand took their coach cuz I knew what he had done and I said thank you and he looked right at me he looked right at me and he said don't thank me thank the boys and they were ten and 11 years old and all they did was let a kid score a goal but here's the takeaway they had no idea how they would affect that kid's father that day they had no idea that that kid's father would go out and tell that story to over a hundred thousand kids and I don't think you're too young to hear that message and so I say that to you your life is not about you your life is not about you your life is about all the people around you your life is about all the people you can touch all the people you can impact all the people you can influence all the people you love and all the love you that's how you source your life live your life like that and watch your life change it's amazing what happens [Music] go into the chapel and um gonna get man right go into the chapel and um gonna get devastated gee I really am uncertain and we're gonna get divorced going to the chapel of love I'm twenty years old at the chapel doors big white dress and a four-foot tree and there is a man at the end of the aisle who I do not want to marry how did I get here I grew up in a home where I was unsafe unspecial unloved and so when that was reflected back to me it felt like home it felt like love and when I was sixteen and for the first time in my life someone looked in my eyes and said I love you I was starved for human connection so I went ahead and married someone just like my father and divorced him by the time I was thirty and then I was engaged to someone just like my mother and I ended that when I was 40 so my work is done challenges do not keep us from our dreams they prepare us for our dreams and so I am ready I'm ready to meet mr. right and how do I attract my soulmate well that's a big question and I always take big questions into meditation and I heard the answer lean back and receive what does that even mean lean back and receive you mean I'm not supposed to work for it I'm not supposed to prove my worthiness of love I'm supposed to let go of everything I ever thought I knew about love I am a beautiful being deserving of love and so are you for no other reason than because so the next time I get married and there will be a next time my vows will sound like this dear one I love you so much that I'm gonna put me first I promise to be at peace with who I am so I can be at peace with who you are I am committed to my greatness so that I can be comfortable with your greatness I take full responsibility for how I feel about you it's all on me and the only thing I ask of you that you do the same for me now I am open willing and ready for love the question is who else is ready and who's next down the aisle [Music] oh man much reserved by Nature was very hesitant to ask his boss for a raise in the salary one Friday morning he got up and told his wife I will do it today darling I shall ask my boss for a raise on my salary late in the afternoon as he approached his boss finally he gathered up the courage to speak up and ask for a raise in a salary much to his delight the boss agreed the man wasn't the top of the world and when he came back home he saw a beautiful dinner table fine crockery set on the table beautiful candles lit up his wife had prepared a festive meal to celebrate the occasion he guessed someone from the office may have tipped her off and informed her about it anyways he got into the kitchen hugged her gave her the good news and came and sat down to have his meal right there on the table was a card when the man picked up the card and read the contents the card said congratulations darling I knew he would get that salary raise all of these things are to tell you how much I love you prep bye prep the lady served her husband and as she went back into the kitchen finally to bring the dessert from the pocket of her apron found another card unknown to her the man picked up the car and as he read the contents of the card he had tears in his eyes on the card was written don't worry darling even if you did not get that salary raised you deserve much more than that this dinner table this crockery this fine candles this fantastic meal is all these things are simply meant to tell you how much I love you her love for him was unconditional it did not depend on his success at work in fact it was exactly the opposite if he were to fail if you were to be rejected he would have needed that total acceptance and support all the more and she would be bare by his side even if we were to be rejected by the whole world if we have one person in our lives like this woman who can totally accept us totally believe in us totally love us and totally support us we can certainly achieve what we want and reach where we want to go [Music] I'm the too much woman and I am dangerous can't you see my truth my words my hips my curves two handfuls maybe three too loud too big too bold too wild she's sexy yeah that's me and I won't sit down shut up or dim turn it off hide away baby I was born a too much little girl in a big fat Greek family and I was fed compliments along with second helpings of everything because food and words are how we love in my family they called me beauty queen and blue-eyed princess and in those words they tasted as good as Mama's cooking and I learned early on that my body was a form of currency that with the bat of an eye and a sweet smile and the tilt of my head I could buy me more love and attention and that worked for a while until it didn't until the beauty of my body started to entice customers that I did not want in my store and so I started to backpedal to become small and afraid and to dim my too much nough said answer and slowly came back to loving my body again to feeling strong in my skin and confident in my stride and on a crisp fall day and grade nine I was surrounded by twenty older girls who pinned my arms behind my back kicking punching spitting scratching punishing me for my too much Nostromo so did the light in my spirit and once again realizing that I wasn't safe in this body I well fast-forward I'm a grown woman now smart professional delivering a keynote to a sea of over 300 executive men in suits deciding this would be my defining moment once and for all I was gonna be seen not for my body but for my art for my craft for what I brought to the table so I manned up severe pet suit button to the top breast hidden hair slicked back into a severe bun I even bought me some fake glasses I dimmed down all the juiciness of my too much body and yeah I lucked that baby right out of the park and I flew off the stage to a standing ovation thinking I had finally won the battle but dimming this body down and there I was strolling along in my self celebration when I was approached from a man from the audience who asked if he could walk me to my car and out in the parking lot he grabbed my arm his nails were like talons digging into my skin and he pulled me close very close too close so close that I could smell the stale coffee and misogyny on his breath as he hissed I have a fetish for librarian types say what all I remember is driving fast driving on the highway and watching my whole life fly past in front of me and ricochet off the windowsill the shaming the hiding the dumbing down the shunning letting my hair blow a wild and the tears flow free in deciding I would no longer deny the love of my body from now on I would dare to be seen in my all that juicy over-the-topness you know people carelessly say love your body but what they don't say is baby it's a dangerous game people are gonna shun you objectify you they're gonna ignore you they're gonna be afraid of you and I say yes baby all that yes but guess what do it anyway you know the church says this body is a sin science says this body is a machine business says this body is a product that this body says I'm a freaking fiesta so to all the too much women in the audience I want you to stand stand up and be seen your glory we are not a piece of human we are not flesh and asked in temptation we are feminine energy with masculine force we are sexy brilliance and we are hot determination we are bigger than our breasts and more powerful than our thighs and our curve is mightier than any sword and our wit stronger than any insult we are not here to radiate to taunt you to provoke you to threaten you we shine not for your adoration we shine because baby you just can't dim the Sun I believe that feeling loved is more important than being right I think we all agree again we forget in the middle of the arguments in my shower we have this nod that you pulled to turn the water on right and left hot and cold a little plunger that you push that sends the water eat either up to the shower or down into the tub I like everyone I knew pulls the plunger so the water comes up through the shower I put my hand in wait till the temperature gets the way anybody else do this and when it gets the way I want then I get in a wife for some other reason has this experience that when she turns on the water she expects it to be going down into the tub so she leans in to put her hand underneath the faucet where's the water coming from after I've used it from the shower what does it do hits her in the head how's she feeling and we get into this argument about who's gonna have the plunger in or out haven't you ever had silly arguments that were intense about that who's gonna control who who's right way is the right way that went on for a long time power struggle and somehow I don't know why sometimes when I was finishing the shower I thought of what was going to happen and I saw myself having a choice of doing something with that plunger to have it go up in the shower or down into the tub and I knew very clearly that if it went down in the tub how would my wife feel she'd feel loved and isn't that the way we want the people we love to feel we want him to feel loved and I saw how simple and easy that was but I had to realize the difference between a requirement and a preference that you don't go to war over preferences in fact when it's not a requirement by definition you've agreed to not agree you've agreed to not have to have it your way that's what not a requirement means and so push the plunger in when she comes in and the water hits her hands she feels love and just to be a little poignant about it she passed away about four years ago and when I take a shower I am still pushing the plunger in it makes me feel loved and my perceivably worst relationship where my fiance picked me up and threw me three feet across the room and choked me until I passed out when I can figure out the purpose of that relationship now I can bring Lisa 100% fully forth so that my next doesn't pay for my ex cuz until you are complete and whole in some of those answers you're trying to avoid them in the future until you can be whole and complete with it it's purposeful any relationship you're no longer in is either purposeful our life-giving figure out which one and figure out what it gave you what life did it give you what purpose that if you feel and then move on into your breathtaking future that someone's gonna cross your path tomorrow next week next year and they need the love that you have but in order for them to get it you need to filled your cup up and you need to be an overflow because you can't love them from your cup you gotta always love them from your saucer yes because when you love them from your saucer you never ever run out you never love on an empty tank love never hurts a lot of times when love is hurting it's because you have been giving you everything you need yet and you're trying to give other people what you still Nikki you're trying to give them your oxygen which is why you sit there I'm going to hurry up I never made it to Broadway so this is my best damn stage so and so recognizing that when you love from your overflow that's the most responsible thing that you could do and that the greatest love that you can ever give the world is the demonstration of what loving you looks like she can give her soul a thousand second chances and I can give myself one more and if he can give himself another chance if he can get up after that financial fall if he can get up after that divorce if she can get up after that break up if he can get back up after having to leave his children if she can get back up after having that child and she can define her something what can I do and so your demonstration of how madly in love with you you are helps me to recognize how map in love with me I get to be and then when I love myself enough then all my extra just oozes over onto you and when and when you let your light shine like that because you've fallen in love with you all of a sudden you get in the corner and that light for a moment brightens up someone's momentary darkness and then you've been a blessing to someone else humanity starts with somebody Humanity is the sister at the grocery store humanity is the black man that's walking down the street who looks like he can use a hello and a smile humanity is the Asian woman who's in the corner Haku who can use some love humanity is the white man who's in the corner who might not say hi to me but if he sees love on my face then he knows that I mean him no harm on his sister humanity is each one of us I want to love the journey and I want to feel the journey and I and the order for my yes to have value mine no needs to be said and I want to exercise my no and my yes I want to dance until my knees hurt I want to stay awake until I doze off in the middle of a sentence because the conversation is so good you know I want to laugh until my belly aches I want to sleep until the Sun wakes me up I want to find out what does my songs sound like even off key I want my heart to skip a beat no on my stomach tip to turn in nuts because he just took my breath away by the way he looked at me I don't want to miss a moment of this life called love but every time I look in the mirror at Lisa I want to look down on say I love I love holding your hand I love this journey and I'm proud I'm proud of the way you wear imperfection but so I say that love starts with self-love I have stood here on this corner for far too long here at the intersection of too much and not enough streets hustling for my worthiness you could drive by most Sunday's and see me at 6 years old 810 standing at the doorway nose pressed to the glass window waiting the home would smell of chocolate chip cookies his favorite and I'd wrap them up tightly to keep them warm thinking oh he is gonna love me I mean he's gonna love them and I stood at that door wait I remember the cruel ticking of the clock I remember my mother gently pulling me away from the door peeling off my coat and making me hot chocolate to sweeten the bitterness of his absence I stood at that door for much of my youth and at 26 all Donald up on my wedding day I sat in the back of a stretch limousine my nose once again pressed in the glass window waiting for him to show up to walk me down the aisle there was no hot chocolate that day just the bitterness now I ain't a victim in my life I have been loved in so many ways that's what you all want to hear isn't it all the ways that someone else can soothe and comfort and fix it ever have someone try to give you something you didn't feel worthy of having nobody can fill you if there's a hole in your self-worth I'm here to tell you baby that it is never enough and if I could talk to that little six-year-old girl I would tell her baby he's not coming nobody's coming to save you [Music] and that's the good news worthiness isn't out there to get it's in here to claim him it's your birthright then I love this thought without apology to the romantics and the Hollywood movies and all of you searching for your twin flame I love knowing that the journey to loving myself is the ultimate love affair of my life but this state of mind it's an inside job a being and if you aren't there haven't been there forgotten how to get there hop in Salman let's get the hell out of this town because the journey took connection it's never about going it begins with coming home to yourself [Music] [Music] how to succeed in heartbreak Without Really Trying first do nothing become one with your couch eating whole stacks of Oreos like leaning towers of failings watch Jane Austen adaptations until your eyes become raisins relish in Colin Firth emerging from the lake in a white shirt if you muster something drink but keep it classy put your cheap wine in a glass you aren't a pirate tops yourself talk yourself in the mirror on public transportation in the middle of a fountain at the mall because there are things you never got to say you don't have to swallow them join tinder make your profile picture a model and talk to no one just keep swiping until you get carpal tunnel that way you can reject fifty people a minute and it feels like killing hands with those kiss as many people as you need to get the stamp of his lips off of your brain go to museums realize other things have history to play hide-and-go-seek with your REM cycle we're not sure what's worse to wake up from the nightmares about your side's splitting open or the dreams about him holding your jaw like it meant something to him you might as well tape your eyelids to your forehead because at least you can lie to yourself while you're awake stay put till 3:00 3:30 or brew tea with the bags under your eyes right right until you lose every metaphor in your library you start using the same one over and over because there's only so many ways to describe being destroyed but once you get there that's just the foundation next gather up all of the chinks in your chain fasten them together make chainmail and write that [ __ ] in the battle take his name the one that still hurts to say and use as a war cry then actually cry because there is nothing shameful about clearing your eyes do not pick yourself up do not be okay because heartbreak is not about being okay it's about remembering that you were okay before it's about saying [ __ ] okay it's about taking all of your broken pieces and building yourself a castle because I don't care who you are you're a goddamn queen about saying [ __ ] this color no one succeeds at heartbreak I built myself a throne room out of pizza boxes and empty Lunchables and I can't stop crying and my Campbell's chicken noodle soup one day cry myself a fountain of youth let's go back to the beginning tired of self-help tips and friendly pick-me-ups I drank a bottles bottles and bottles pretending their mouths belong to someone else but I'm done feeling sorry for myself because why apologize for loving until you burst my capacity to feel needs no pardon my heart needs no mending I'm not broken I'm just a little more [Music] I have a really important story that I want to tell I met my abuser when I was 19 years old he was charming and it all started it all started amazing and then one thing led to another started with little comments here and there so it started with more verbal abuse and then it started with a push or a shove or and then it became a choke and if I was like alright well if you really choked me and I'm thinking in my head if you choked me harder then I'm gonna leave but then if every time I tried to leave it kept getting worse and I didn't know how to get out and I thought that it was my fault because he truly blamed me for everything and so I lost all my friends I got dropped by every agent and manager in the business because I was doing terrible at auditions and I truly felt like I was stuck [Music] that truly I did not know how to get out and I didn't know there was a place that could help me but also because it I didn't know if anyone would believe me I didn't know so I just hid and I hid in my head and that's when I finally was like I don't want to live in my life like this anymore [Music] so I prayed to my grandpa and I said please just take me away because I don't want to be I don't want to be this person because I was a girl with full of light and full of energy and charm and this man just broke me down to absolute nothing so on that next day is when he choked me said he was gonna kill me and ended up strangling me til I lost my breath but I saw I saw my whole life flash before my eyes I I saw my birth to my funeral and I just remember seeing my mom it's like why couldn't I reach out to my family and that's what I love about safe horizon was because there's a place where you you can reach out and you can talk about it and once my abuser was in jail and I was able to finally be set free from him my family became my safe horizon I was able to go today to see the shelter and it was beautiful to see I have a 14 month-old baby girl and I would do anything in the world to protect her and go in there and see these beautiful children being protected means the absolute world to me as a mother and then I also know those mothers there too are so grateful because it inspired me to know that not only can we now speak about it but we can also have shelter and we can get help another huge figure of mine was my story because I thought that shared my story then people would view me as broken and it's been 14 years I held it in for 14 years but now knowing the platform that I have I want to be able to be a voice for you guys I will be the loudest voice as much as I would like to say that I'm married for love I didn't I had an amazing life right out of college I got married I moved to Italy to Lake Como which is one of the most beautiful places in the world I would ride around in my Vespa wind in my hair Sun in my smiling face I had what you would imagine to be this Renaissance painting so I had it all picture-perfect life on the outside but on the inside it was a different story on the inside it was like that painting was cracking and peeling so what was wrong everything I didn't know it but I hated myself and I kept it up I kept up this painting especially for me my parents I could not let my parents know especially not my dad he would kill me and I spent nine years suppressing what my heart was telling me suppressing my emotions ignoring them no but I was lost broken I was afraid we were driving along the lake we were going to see some friends that had just had their third baby so we veer up to go to the hospital and the whole time in the car that were going there there was something inside of me that just something was not sitting right I was not feeling okay we get there go up to the maternity ward floor I just couldn't handle I didn't know what was wrong then go down this hallway it's eerily empty huge and I find a place on the wall and I just braced myself and I don't know what's going on and this feeling is just getting stronger shame and blame how could you you're such a horrible person it was just going all over and over and over again I just wanted to jump out of the window and sink to the bottom of the lake I'm just standing there and I'm just glad I'm with me and all of a sudden all this screaming in my head just stopped and I'm looking at myself and I was soaked there's finally clear because there was only one decision that I could make [Music] I had to leave I had to leave this life I had to leave the marriage I had to leave everything and I didn't know how because I had trapped myself in that painting that I meticulously curated for having years and there was so much at stake I didn't want to hurt my husband he wasn't a bad person he was a great person my family our friends 9 years of relationships and then I would have to face people I was gonna get blamed I was gonna be hated it's gonna get yelled out my dad was definitely gonna kill me I was so afraid but I made the decision anyway because for the first time in a really long time I made a decision for myself and for me one of the most difficult ones was calling my dad and telling him and I still remember calling him I said I'm so sorry I'm so so sorry and he pauses and doesn't say anything and I'm I'm ready he says at Appiah come home said you're not happy come home I had no idea that he wanted me to be happy I had all these stories of what I thought he wanted for me of what other people wanted but the truth only came out when I had a conversation about it those uncomfortable conversations are the ones we really need to have if he thought that my happiness was important then maybe it was important maybe happiness is important what I found when my life fell apart when that painting of my life lit on fire I found something I never expected to find I found a masterpiece I found the part of me that knows the truth but never veers from the truth I found my soul and whether you call it that for yourselves know that that voice inside of you is the voice that knows what's right for you [Music]

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Length: 42min 7sec (2527 seconds)

Published: Thu Feb 14 2019