GIRL CHAT: When Your Friend Won’t Tell You What’s Wrong

well ladies it's Friday and it's been a long week so how about we throw ourselves a little celebration yeah that's right we don't just do Friday's at the real we do Fri yeah oh you know I just need a drink so get on out here Marcel with the drinks [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] thank you okay today where you're at work and you're probably at your you know computer working away but you know you're already looking towards that happy hour dream that's where I'm at right now yeah we're channeling our inner double-oh-seven with this martini laughs wouldn't miss Burton if you want to learn how to have a good time don't don't want that okay now speaking of partes don't you hate it when one of your girlfriend's like is having a pity party or summin when you ask what's wrong you're immediately met with uh never mind cut you off and they're like it's not a big deal right and you're like what no I'd be like thanks I don't want to hear about it anyway okay so according to Shari Ebert's at Psychology Today when somebody says never mind to you it's actually considered an insult because the speaker is basically saying you're not important enough to give you the full story and it kind of makes you feel that way too so we're talking about like people who just like make it seem like a big deal and then just stop you dead in your tracks and say never mind but don't you think sometimes they do that for attention you know cuz they want you they want to beg you please tell me please humor is pointing out her friend what she does that to you she does that all the time see then everybody has that friend that does it man see y'all don't do that I'll do it yeah I was just kidding when I said that I wouldn't care because I'm actually super nosey and if somebody starts saying something and then they say never mind I hate that not because I actually care but because I'm nosy like I just want to know why you were gonna say like I hate him be sure is avinasi oh yeah um just forget like never mind you'll be like no tell me like tell me yeah that's all I want to tell me but I have to be honest even though I hate it when people do it to me I do it all the time I'm gonna explain most of the time I'll be like oh never mind but it's because I either already handled what I was gonna ask you about I don't want to ask you about something that gosar you genuine no IgG I use never mind that's like that's why I read this and I'm like yo they're being so sensitive because most people I'll just be like let's say I hit you for something and I'm like hey make sure you call me and then you kick me and you're like oh hey what happened I might write like oh never mind girl and you'll be like what Ben I want I already figured it out yeah but I want to know then so like you better tell me or I'm gonna be mad but I already got it yeah oh I got soaked traumatized in high school cuz I was I was around a lot of Mean Girls and girls girls we're talking I'll not women but girls would do that on purpose to kind of like make you feel left out you know like if we're girls and you come up to them you're like what are you guys talking about and they're like you won't get it oh yeah that so now like it happens a lot on our show cuz we get into circles of conversation and somebody might pop up because we have many people on set I always make sure to open up the conversation to that other person like me and Tamar talking about our periods come girl if you want to be a part of it you know what I mean or something like Lane that like oh no it's that it was nothing like I knew I want them to feel like that I don't want them to be a part of it but that like oh no it was something about I don't know even if it's something they don't need to know about yeah it's a different way to go about it that it doesn't make them feel like just never a minute y'all this drink is really strong babies nevermind I see I know that it really gets to Adam when I say never mind I use my never mind like a whatever so it's when I really want to talk to Adam about something important and he's like dismissive about it so say I'm like Adam I really have something important to tell you he's like wait wait just wait wait wait I'm talking to my friend then I'll say never mind yeah I do that if I've asked for something and it hasn't gotten done yeah then I say never mind and somehow it suddenly gets done because he just gets he gets concerned that I'll go boy that's a good one oh that's a white story check out the wife [Applause] where he will stop everything he's doing I will be like yeah I'll do it yep I say pay the tram I have to take it out mine doesn't he know because he knows I'm trying to get back at him so then he gets back at me maybe actually not getting into it oh yeah no no or you use it when you okay sometimes we women we get this pass we get a little too much in our feelings and you want a little bit more attention so you just kind of give a little sign of like you know like what's wrong genie nevermind oh you know I mean you every I'm like be having sex and then you'll be like never mind because they re Cain [Applause] nevermind you can't wait well people having sex and that it's just not good and they say never mind oh god you know what things that annoy you now is the time when many of you are getting crazy invites to Halloween parties a user on Quora dot-com recently posed this interesting question they said is it okay to not wear a costume to a Halloween party now this the user goes on to explain that costumes can be expensive and while they appreciate the effort of the host that went through to plan a party and get the food pay all that money they don't want spend all their money for just one night so ladies is ever okay to show up to a Halloween party with no costume I think that's what is Jesus I know there's no excuse there's no excuse a trash bag is a costume you poke some holes in it put your head I always go with the you know a white sheet you could be a ghost yeah or like a little cash bag the cat ears you can get that for 99 cents at the 99-cent store draw a little know put some whiskers on with your eyeliner and your whack you could love get a piece of coal and rub it all over your face and call yourself a gold digger no that's how it's gonna look don't do that don't do that that's not a good look don't do that in Compton - yeah okay yeah you guys know that I love to throw parties and I don't a few costume parties or just parties that way this is the code like the dress code what do you do when people show up I'm not a ho so disrespectful I know this may sound like I'm being dramatic but I just think it's so disrespectful when that person shows up they don't walk the vibe of the party other people that didn't want to put the costumes on that made the effort then look at that person and go to you she doesn't have a costume on oh my god I just put all the time it's wearing she didn't wear when I'm taking mine off and you just start a mess up yo if you don't have a costume where you don't want to put the effort on the event okay okay certain people at this table you know they invite you to go trick-or-treating oh they make me put on a costume and so I didn't have a costume or she made me put on the ears and I put the tail in the front if you saw the two and she said you can't like you have the ding-dong but you know what Lonnie I said do it for the children yeah and you did it for the king what I'm saying so much what I'm saying is you provided little things you know so my solution is that if people don't you know they because maybe they don't have money yes not sure I had them I'm just saying help them out so help them out get some ears or get you know wait a minute balance No hold on Adrian as hostess with the mostess so you're providing the house the snacks the DJs the hors d'oeuvres the drinks that I started and now we gotta give you some cat ears for you to join okay I mean that way yes I really wanted her to come so I made a way for her to come and I worked that day and I work two extra because I did my radio show and I was like I'm just so tired and I feel like you know all of that but it really didn't help that are you coming this year make sure you have a so much fun you over here I'm down yes this one Tam Tam it is so much fun our guides want to do something but I don't know what to do what's the theme this year um I don't know yet you don't know don't know yet but just some we're not doing like a family aimed we just we just want to wear what we want to wear yeah maybe a Riya and I will be matching I don't know that was on sale that would be cute but I liked her Stay Puft last year you know freaky I usually okay yeah that was her stay puff and Aiden was a ghost yeah he was a ghost yeah that's the theme you weren't in the theme season is it the season around the corner you guys it's almost time for what cuffing season all right now okay clearly you guys don't know what cuffing season I don't know it's the time of the year when people who normally enjoy being single look to get booed up to stay nice and warm through the cold months ah now you know however a recent hello giggles article suggests that maybe it's a good idea to sit out cuffing season this year whoa I know for example they said I don't want to participate for example they said if you're looking for something long-term you don't want to fall for someone who is it relationship material or maybe you just like being boot-up with yourself and you don't need someone to cup with I should single women be holding cuffing season tryouts right now or is it a waste of time well first of all I don't call it cuffing season I call it your turn big girl season cuz right now you'd be looking for the thickness get cold you need somebody to grab you know what just because you say it's cuffing season that doesn't mean that it can't become a relationship that's true okay sigh great long-term relationships I've started from cuffing day to the only thing is I think that you have to know if you really are capable of letting your feelings get into that cuffing cuddling do everything together holiday mode and you're able to back out yeah cuz some people it can't turn into something else but what if you make it cuffing season the other one thinks okay coffee see so come January we done and in January you're not no but because sometimes that complicated I feel like if it's not going anywhere I'd rather just cuddle with my blanket have a glass of wine and watch Sex in the City yeah but it might be going somewhere to those place borrowed some chocolate no girl okay it's the winter month yeah it's cold it's also the holiday season right so you want to be with somebody on New Year's Eve got it kid it it almost kind of makes you feel a little used that's what I'm saying I used like you like it you're not use I agree with you so many single girlfriends who I don't know if they're capable of letting go cuz my girl my single girlfriends are hopeful and I'm a good cuddler I take pride in my cuddly and art too good carry you gotta get nah we don't do well mine or somebody took off their actually our applications that you can find on Google you guys if you type in cuffing application riled up and literally they have questions like current relationship status a single dating fake single in a relationship married divorce it's complicated cuffing availability days nights over nights and weekends so go google that on this little break that we're about to take

Channel: The Real Daytime

Views: 787,248

Keywords: the real, daytime, talk show, women, tamera mowry, adrienne bailon, loni love, jeannie mai

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Length: 14min 32sec (872 seconds)

Published: Tue Sep 03 2019