DURBAN, SOUTH AFRICA, 2007 - BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES OF SEX

I'm living blessed with the seminar amen are you ready to receive the most complex one of all but it will be taught simply Amen let's put our hands together and welcome bishop tag you atmo say BAM [Applause] [Music] [Applause] hallelujah let's pray father thank you so much for this morning lord thank you for the opportunity we have in you to come at this time to receive your Holy Word we ask for your blessing to lead us to guide us we are grateful Lord for the fact that we can come to church to your house to be blessed to learn everything that we need to know thank you for your great blessing we ask that you guide us you lead us by your spirit thank you Jesus lift your hand and thank God for this morning and God for his blessing in your life in the name of Jesus thank you lord thank you lord thank you lord thank you father in Jesus name Amen you may be seated all right I want us to tend to in our book I'm going to go through what I call the principles of sex so what do you call it assorted biblical principles amen so we're going to start with principles number one to twelve all right and all these principles are based on the Bible right honestly you know none of us has has any basis to talk about anything and I'm not a psychologist or trained as you know trained as anything just the the Word of God amen that's what we have so that's what we are doing Deuteronomy 20 so we are using the book how many have your book how many don't have you don't have you should have so this is page chapter 38 page 1 6 something all right now as we go to these principles will jump to some other chapters and then if you can remind me about something very powerful to share with you before we close finally about temperaments for just a few minutes I will try to do that alright now the first principle is the principle of humility in sex amen what does it say it says then the man Deuteronomy 22 to another man that lay with her shall give unto the damsels father fifty shekels of silver and she shall be his wife because he has humbled her and he may not put her away all his days this was about someone who has slept with another woman right and who he was not married to right and then the Bible says that you he's supposed to I don't know she's either pregnant or not pregnant you can check in the text I'm not sure but whatever the case the fact that he slept with her means that he has humbled hair so when you have sex all right you are humbled amen it is a humbling experience so when you are proud you cannot have sex nicely amen I with me because I checked humility Bubba says he has humble day all right so it takes humility to be a good sexual activist amen now if you are proud Queen it will not be easy to have sex with you you get it are you they are you getting it so humble yourself and flow you must be able to be called up at any time I feel like it now and anytime is a good time because if you are proud Queen you can't do all the things that you have to do if your husband wants you to lie this way you can lie that with if he wants you to turn around like over like a dog you know you can't be proud and do all these things and if you are some Queen princess you cannot do this turn around like this turn this way okay do this do that I mean you need to be humble it's a humbling experience can I have an amen from a society sisters cannot have an email and that's how the novel says that when he has slept with her he has humble day in other words sex is the humbling encounter what do you think so pride once again keeps us from many blessings you know that you not be happy you cannot flow and you know you cannot be yourself because you're conscious of yourself so you can't give out soj you know what Esso jeiza shouts of joy queue here you cannot you cannot move it's like you don't anything you cannot do things you cannot feel free because it's like I shouldn't show that I am enjoying oh oh I cannot do all that because I must be myself I must be composed I must I must lie in a particular way the light must be off see I thought that when you see the light oh then you see yourself that way it is just me is this me what am i doing in this position that's why many times the ladies want the lights to be turned off I've heard a lot of other than this deeply I cannot move again because it is a humbling experience and Sun God for anything that makes us humble all right because it takes humility to go to heaven so sometimes having sex is a powerful spiritual experience bringing you humility Montel is stoop over kneel down jump rule 10 upside down go to the bathroom come back now again one more time take off your clothes put it back on wear this don't wear that eh you're fantastic a certain now how many realize that when you see certain ladies you can't imagine them even doing all these things how many when you see it's like they look so queenly and so bigness violent so that you see that in checks it's like this woman cannot do the real things that you have anyway she's doing them you have a straight face it's like if she does - just doing something because the Word of God section not from your heart may God give you a spirit of humility Bible says for he has humbled hair don't forget that so next time brothers when you want your wife to do something she's not doing it tell her sister is it pride that is making you not flow amen and the brothers as wrong all right all right now principle number two principle of staying together to discover each other amen when a man has taken a new eyes Deuteronomy 24 besides he shall not go out to war neither shall he be charged with any business but he shall be free at home one year and shall cheer up his wife which he had taken amen he should cheer up his wife all right so we you realize that there's a principle of staying together for some time you know without a lot of interference when you get mind sometimes you are living with somebody or in somebody's house you never feel free I have some young couples judge who got married and the way they are partners are they could share the apartment with a third person in another room but III want them to be alone so that they will stay together to cheer up one another so now they want to have sex in the sitting room or they want to have sex another place or there s O'Jays and know that there is a visitor just behind it just behind the door and he hears a squeal then you it disturbs the flow so sometimes when people are newly married Bible says that for one year you leave them hallelujah unless you don't go to war you don't do certain things sometimes not even having a child also now the children also come immediately it changes the equation is that also all right so just as a principle number three the principle of drinking from your own system all right now proverbs chapter 5 verse 15 it says drink waters out of your own system but I want to read it from the Bible that I have here I hope it tastes it in the same way proverbs chapter 5 e-content provides chapter 5 okay even I with me okay now progress of the five even the sixteen downward gives us great revelation about sex amen it says drink water from your own cistern and fresh waters from your own well amen should your Springs be dispersed abroad all right streams of water in the streets all right let your fountain you let them be yours alone and not for strangers with you let your film can be blessed and rejoice in the wife of your youth as a loving hind and a gracious go let her breasts satisfy you at all times be exhilarated always with her love for why should you my son be exhilarated with an adulteress what does your Virgin say a strange woman is that what it says why should you afraid the room the bosom of a strange woman is our disease King James again and embrace the bosom or the bottom of a foreigner what does your say strange woman again for the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord and he watches all his past his own iniquities will capture the wicked and he will be held with the course of his sin he will die for lack of instruction in the greatness of his folly he will go astray all right now this passage is a symbolic passage that symbolically describes sex okay notice verse 15 and that's principle number three it says drink waters out of your own system okay in other words drink water from your own fridge where do you keep your water that you keep in the fridge the keeper what I the fridge in South Africa good so in other words drink water from your own fridge okay so sex is being likened to drinking water because all this is about a sexual experience that's why I read the whole passage so sex is like into drinking water how often do you drink water I didn't hear you very very well how often do you drink water often all the time any time okay so having sex is like drinking water so how often should you drink water there was a sore sex and all the time but when you when you are when you are not educated in this right you will think that sex is for weekend's sex is for Saturday twice a month forgive our sex is for Easter Christmas best days honeymoon you don't drink what are the weekends you drink what our Monday morning Monday afternoon Monday evening so you drink water all the time so sex is being likened in the Bible okay and that's what the Bible says renew your mind is and remove your mind renew new mind renew your mind have a new way of thinking and I want to say how many of us I've had boyfriends and girlfriends in the world that you were sleeping with you I know you cannot reach your hands okay okay how many I know of some people who have boyfriends and girlfriends not you letter is that you know of some people give me a wave I write and I'm kind of wave offering okay you people are not being really you don't know anybody like that I mean before you got married yes how many AMA didn't know about that before you got married everyone yeah most of us very few people are virgins all right now that way of having sex okay is different from the Christian marriage week it's a different kind of experience are you there all right so he says sex is being likened to drinking water amen okay so that principle number three is drinking from your own so I have to concentrate on my own system or my own fridge or my own well so every husband or every wife should try to concentrate on his own fridge to get water from your own sauce what do you think is it a good idea so God is telling you drink water from your own fridge so if you are sitting by your wife look at your fridge right now tend to he'll say wow I didn't know you were fridge okay so you're going to drink water from your fridge amen and let's present the next principle which is principle number four is a principle that sex is like into drinking water and which is done often all the time and at anytime Amen now this brings me to what I called a sex ohmmeter let's look at where is it you sex submitter sex Amita is something that shows you the frequency of sex okay and then what your marriage is like twice a day typical or very very happy relationship can you see it on page 132 daily typical of a very happy marriage isn't it it actually gives a revelation your if we look at your sex life it can give a revelation of your marriage what do you think nobody is mainly mean keep on being quiet God will also let you preach one day people required on you every other day is usually a normal marriage especially when you work once a week the marriage experiencing typical pressures of life twice a month not good typical of a dis harmonious marriage especially in between some quarrels once a month this one coexistence uninterested in each other once every two to three months typical of a marriage in disharmony once every six months virtual separation and breakdown once a year no marriage typical of total breakdown virtually you are divorced you have sex once a year so what we are trying to say here is that looking at how often you have sex will show you how sometimes shows you how your marriage is so as I planned one of the questions I asked when was the last time you have sex are you having sex whether it's personal it's not personal not personally X PRIZE it's not private we know what you are doing and those things are not private and they are not personal it's a very very much integral part of your life having sex yeah all right the thing is that we have eaten their evil so we know sex as evil we don't shake about it because of how you've been doing it you get it so God is liberating us amen so we can have sex happily talk about it amen all right so have sex often decide I'm going to try to have sex every day of course it's also changes as you grow older but you'll be surprised if some people can tell you how often we have said I have said virtually every day every day I mean if I was my wife is around oh it must it's not come on it's normal because when I got married I stopped I told myself sex is something that when people are getting myself from Saturday I'll go to have sex every day till you die I see when you stab your boyfriend you you meet him at some odd times then you have sex once with some wild excitement whatever but when you landed beautiful sex also is it is good for you to have sex dutiful sex and pleasurable psyche yesterday we talked about that how many remember that dutiful sex and play how many we're not here yesterday I can feel a lot of people we're not here yesterday Wow okay so dutiful sex and pledge level set beautiful set you have sex it's your duty just going to do it because that's what's right to do alright so there do you understand what I'm saying yeah so when watching him again Leon when Leon is going out you know just look us alone come my brother let me bless you that that's you before you go all right and it just it just caught him in it let me sort you out before you go I guess I'll just sort you out then you can go out don't go out until I bless you because you want him to you want Leon to drink water from his own system it should drink what that one is lil real real really want him to drink water from his own system so you don't lie in to God when he goes ah he'll be testing you looking what can I drink just a nice drink around now so you just call him easy come on you look hungry brother come come what do you think all right so try to us let me tell it when people get night for the first time and they are very happy don't they have sex two three times a day sometimes four five six let me they just try so the happier you are or the closer you are something you have no say so look at how often you have sex and always ask how often are we doing this thing we should be doing it often anytime we get a chance you get it cause you're right if your girlfriend then I have any men the wife is your girlfriend your husband is your boyfriend that's your new boyfriend and your new girlfriend and I have an email from there the illness of fridges all right so dutiful sex okay so let's go back to the principles now then verse 16 and 17 he says let thy fountains be dispersed abroad and rivers of waters in the streets let them only be thine own and not strangers with thee all right now what is the fountain what looks like a fountain I said what looks like a fountain to you we are talking about sex something does what has come out of what is that your people the fountain is the cleanest where the water is gushing out of it and it says let your fountain be blessed in other words let your penises be blessed now when you see a fountain when you see a fountain when you see a something that is not blessed you see that it's closed there's no water coming out there's nothing it's not blessed the saltiness is acting through the waters cannot come out that is your county that is not happy so next tonight when you go or this is when you go when look at your husband's fountain and as yourself is this fountain a blessed fountain also the blood fountain when was the last time this fountain was able to flow mercy are you listening no and let I focus be dispersed abroad we're abroad and rivers of waters in the streets with streets now it says let them be only thine own and not strangers we'd be so the fountain flows into the streets what are these kids we have identified the fountain so what are the street into which the fountain flows huh vagina I got afraid of this word and I said let it be your own streets not a stranger's trees so you've got your wife has one strangers also have one and I'm telling you that we're strange it's a person with unknown be careful of people you don't know and don't know where new people people who are just mystical you can't really tell what the agenda is as you see they're moving around bubble bobbling use those word adult as though the web is a strange woman or stranger stranger more mystical and unknown a person is the more dangerous the person is so let's you're finished be blessed by flowing into its own streets of the vagina and not a stranger's began because exactly the same vagina all the ladies have the same vagina it's the same thing go to the hospital if it was different doctors could not work because each time it would be a different this is what type 84 we have to look everything it's a size 168 oh the same thing that is how can we are able to work because it's all the same so why should your fountains flow into the wrong Street now you can't have a good a good deal with your own streets Wow so the person next to you may mean me alright okay so please have sex regularly to keep your fountain flowing amen so are you getting the principles we are we are in profit we are in the Bible directly holding on to scriptures that's not a little scripture a for now so I'm holding directly now just let her be as the loving kind and pleasant room Wow have breasts let a breasts satisfy thee at all times and be thou ravished always had love amen this is the principle of a satisfying breast and for the ladies you see the wife is supposed to be a loving kind and a pleasant rule what the loving hind in a pleasant room was that idea doe a deer a female deer ray a drop of Golden Sun so doe a deer and what were you see a deer you imagine something active let happy a dog some of you are you doze in the house or you are statues monuments no life in you especially after children have come forget all you say look I'm not a young I'm not one of those prostitutes I'm not one of those girlfriends of yours I'm not one of those whatever if you want whatever you can go and have another prostitute that things I cannot do what was mad crazy thing I was come on my sister tell me your husband be a dodo a deer is a letter B a a a dull a ravishing door what what does he say a pleasant doe or row God wants you to be active you know so ladies as Christians you gotta learn it how do you be a do kill more than you run I do not even know how to do sexy dancing are those that I was a dance for is a dog though you are laughing you you laugh I'm telling you you see that there are bad girls in the church who are ready to do all those things for your husband because they have done he has imaginations his thoughts are working you said sit and say I'm not going to do all these things and you'll be surprised your husband is sleeping with all kinds of people and we are his party because you don't you are not a dog uija statue we can we can compare you with the proper bath however you see a crocodile or alligator I see that lying still when you see it though you see them so able to run away from lions running and active Wow so let her breasts satisfy you alright amen verse seven so be happy with your wife's breasts don't say that the right breasts are not nice so this pressure cause sometimes people my when they see the president oh he's aware that breasts because when she's dressing she's in chest at breast look as if they are here then when you go home realize that the breasts are here [Applause] four guys four guys but you must allow if not venial mind that these are how breasts are that's how all the breasts are a mature adult breath is not here the breath is not here although when they dress up the list of the breath and the breath look as if it is here so such a young man got married when he got might and his practical reserve oh it has fallen and he was very disappointed then he wanted to hold her when he held a was hoodie headed she removed her with the wing so that there was no hair as he was kissing her she said wait I'm cut that she removed it this too sir but let me share some other breasts that's how they are look at the nearest lady who is not your wife and sees it I didn't know that yours too are just like that so after brother you'll be walking in the chest thinking that oh those will be nicer this ones are nicer fellow Joseph let her breasts satisfy you okay your reverses are not bad at all that's how best amen so we talk about breasts soon Wow now the next one be rubbish principle number eight the principle of being ravished with your spouse let it be as the loving hind and pleasant rule all right pleasant rule this one says okay graceful do what this one cause I wrote this one cause I do alright now the next one number nine principle of kissing importance of kissing songs of Solomon we are now moving to alright so how many are being blessed with prophets of the five is it a powerful let me read it all to you again now from the sixteen so that you see the whole context it says drink water from your own cistern how many are blessed with that scripture drink waters from yours is number two and fresh water from your own well okay should your Springs be dispersed abroad that's what this one's it should you put your fountains and the springs go outside every spot everybody must believe God that till you die your Springs will never be dispersed outside your wife's streets amen can I have a lot of emails from somebody alright let your wife you let your fountain be blessed or all wives let your your husband's fountain be a blessed fountain for the hotel apart Oliver said when he came to Ghana one day I went there and I saw there was a fountain that the function was not blessed I've been Tendo there was no water I don't know that pump wasn't working I was not a blessed council let there be strangers with you know and let rejoice in the wife of thy youth amen as a loving hind amen and graceful doe that is how you should be graceful loving hind and don't let her breasts satisfy you at all times be exhilarated always with her lap why should you myself be exhilarated with an adulteress right and embrace the bosom of a foreigner for the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord so in other words when you concentrate on you on your what you have right why should you even bother with the same thing in another person can I have an amen all right now principle 9 quickly principle of the importance of kissing amen songs of Solomon chapter 1 we are now in songs of Solomon let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth for thy love is better than wine amen kissing is good how many know that many couples don't kiss anymore raise your hand if you know that many couples have stopped kissing oh please I beg you to give me a wave if you know what I'm talking about give me a way yes the kitchen is something that is like you even stop them I mean what is that even it is in the film they are always kissing it really should poor taste as a form of love that many times you see lies a long time since you kicked if you are sitting by your spouse give the person a kiss now no I don't mean a peck I mean a kid you're not opening me - I wanna preach if you don't kiss I won't are you doing it alright the next one principle of having confidence in yourself amen songs of Solomon chapter one verse five and six it says I am black but I'm come Li o ye daughters of Jerusalem other tents of Kedar all right in the canyons of Solomon look not upon me because I am black the son hath looked upon me my mother's children were angry with me they made me the keeper of the vineyard but my own vineyard I have not kept all right half confidence in yourself I am black but I am cuddly amen amen so what the president says us I'm glad that I'm still nice and maybe shot but I'm still nice I may be fat but I'm still nice and they have big bread but I'm still nice and you have small bread but I'm still nice and they are whatever mixed or not but I'm still nice have you noticed sometimes you see a man goes to commit adultery and you wonder like what I mean this girl or this woman why is she why did he go to her because you see there is beauty in everybody and everybody can be attractive no matter who you are one time I went to Geneva and I saw some prostitutes on the street different kinds of prostitute I'm surprised I realized that process are not only slim little girls with little panties there were mothers take mama the other one I said take mama Nega one only this with only old faces and so that they are all standing in the winter with shoes and small dresses and all of them have clients and you wonder that they pass by these slim ones there was a particularly one that was near to where I used to go Hugh stop that I think she was quite popular I don't know you know all kinds of things and but you see that all kinds of women are attractive because you can be attractive is that I am black but I'm gambling anyway so if you are 50 years old you are so cuddly if I there is a beauty with every age either book called Beauty is it still there yeah that's a book about beauty how you can you are beautiful at every age as one of the principal every age as a beauty oh mama no I wish no more 25 years I knew my wife when she was with it which I remember when she had a 21st birthday she's more than 20 years older than that but I still think that she's very beautiful you get it she's got 25 she doesn't have the breath of a 16 year old and if you're nice that's how things are you got it and blood but I'm cuddly what do you think is it a good idea yeah so that is a book beauty very good book who likes it fall for lady Hooton a male get a copy after and black but I'm still Marie's so have that confidence cause some of us we are always concerned my here is too big knife bottom is too wide my stomach has come out my penis is too small it is too long it is too big it has been it has twisted oh all kinds of different things that are worrying us but you must learn to see like this one I am black but I am comely I am what I am but I am nice when you go home today take off all your clothes and pants in front of the mirror say wow I didn't know how nice I was with my big stomach and my folded hips and my sideways things and my scars and all the things I had am nice those God says you are nice you are wonderfully and beautifully and if you like play the food you know one of the people that people like Mary I reduce if you like let your husband dance you see how people would chase your wife she's old she has been used for years I mean she's worn out but somebody like him I remember one lady she a husband died I everybody wanted to marry her okay so that one day you are married to that you think is not nice anymore people are looking for the person so when you go to this a look at what man tells your wife is it a me wow I like you I remember one day when I went to a university in our country and I first time I drove on that road was so beautiful about two years later I went there again and I didn't notice how beautiful it was and the law said to me you see the first time you came to you so it was very nice but now you've been coming here and it's been 2 3 years you don't it hasn't all kept you that is nice a nice place so that's what's happening that you are by something nice that doesn't occur to you that it is nice and that is why sometimes the hardness of the most beautiful girls are unfaithful because after a while I've seen this beauty they don't see it anymore or after a while I've seen this husband they don't see that he's a good husband anymore all right what do you think tell somebody the man is talking to you directly directly directly directly the next one died chicks are calmly with rolls of jewels thy neck with chains of gold we will make the borders of gold with tons of silver all right now what does that mean you are beautiful the principle number 11 the principle of enhancing your beauty with jewelry jewelry makes you more beautiful wear jewelry at home when you are naked have your necklace on yeah and your earring is it sometimes you see a woman when you see her from you you do not recognize her who are you who are you i am i amazing you it cannot be this is sometimes the stress has a lot of spots and when they are coming out you have clean and everything to cover the whole face so you don't see anything then when they get home they wear I mean they tie the hair the hair that was long tap on the head they take off all the jewelry because the gold around your necklace it makes you look nice I like it when my wife wears II like Tanya let me show kumkum idea I forgot your name idea huh come out yeah you see this nice nice necklace when you go me pick up your clothes go take this one off wear it where is four powers to see how beautiful you look with your nice chain come on I'll just wear when you come on don't just do your hair when you are in church and you'll be surprised that it's like the bezel and you see that way cause he's trying pressed with you because you look so different one other times I like having sex with my wife is when she's dressed fully that was our you look nice when you are going out come and lie down and let's do something good because they make themselves so nice when they are going out for guys don't they look nice when they are going out they have different colors you see they combine this with this this with that shoe difference it's a WoW and then when they get home you see them looking like Captain Haddock Oh Bob Marley you see the hair like that very well you don't brush their teeth they don't bath they don't have any night that night I've got a key a spot in it milk has poured on us that children have vomited on it and you see they're working later so very old dress with a hair tie like this nothing on the face look jewelry is a pacifist change don't bath don't shave the whole place is like a forest [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Applause] let's see so the principle of enhancing your beauty with jewelry one brother he was not having sex with his wife and the pastor asked him what is it he said pastor I could I said what it was I can't I thought what is it he said I can sir he said the place it's like a forest it's like a swamp I cannot I cannot even look at it Oh but our nobody sees it so actually in tents I don't nobody knows that you are walking forest a swamp you have to pass through a swamp trees and other Anastasia shrubs and my group Hey this Collette oh man all right the next one the principle of arousing love amen all right I charge you o daughters of Jerusalem by the rules by the hinds of the field that you stand not up my love amen stand up my love no awake in my lap till he please amen now love can be awakened amen that's another principle laughs can be awakened okay are you listening listen to me the the most sensitive sexual spot on your body is the tip of the penis or the tip of the clitoris do you know that clitoris some of you don't know that clitoris go core some of you that you think the clitoris is your knee it is not your knee it is not your me at all and it is not just anything in that area there is a particular thing that is a killer so look in the book on which page is it what page is the clitoris picture of that one one four one five you see look at it is it a reason why we did all this is that I will put all these pictures in is that you you may think that it is it is obvious for everybody but you'll be surprised people come to the clinic is it I just come so that you can show me what is the clitoris you don't have an idea so look at it that is the clitoris is a different thing okay so you have to find that out yourself I can show you right so love can be aroused amen are you there so some of you that your husband is tired he's sleepy is whatever he's not interested he can be aroused amen and one of the ways you can arouse is hold the penis amen massage it slowly especially the tip for some of you ladies you always want the man to come with an erection is coming with strength but no it's not sometimes if that man is not even it has nothing to excite him you understand what I'm saying because after that's why you are like brothers and sisters living together is it all true that's after one week you are like brother and sister together so such as you that the man also needs stimulation so you can arouse his love and other the man who can also arouse the woman all right so don't expect look you'll be surprised the highest soul drug in the whole world is viagra there is no drugs sold more than viagra in the whole world yes and that shows you that they ability the ability to stay up sexual interest or even the ability for Menke just naturally be interested in sex it's not as common as you may think sometimes it's with very young people as long as as you get a little older you realize that it is even difficult you understand so so that the lady will also have to help amen that's why sometimes some elderly women they go for young boys as boyfriends because they want somebody with strength and somebody with natural feel and a young boy will be happy to sleep with an elderly woman who wants you to sleep with her if that's what you want me to do I can do it for you that's how they are - you understand what I'm saying they'll be excited so if you want your husband to get you also have to learn how so ladies if you are sitting by your husband or husband if you are sitting by your wife tell your wife please where we go today I need you to stir up a wick in my love let me tell real I needed to awaken a real child every I need you awake in my love okay so we've done half one set of the principles let's go on number 13 chapter 13 and the next one principle of belonging to each other my beloved is mine and I am his belong on each other amen amen are you listening okay watch your husband my husband see ya working where Oh call him tell intersection - he must come I don't want to see it before you are without your husband calling calendar Bishop says now now now tell the library he's coming just in five minutes and he should come number fourteen principle of be flexible and active as a row amen ladies you've got to be active alright number fifteen principle of the woman initiating sex and longing after sex all right the Bible says by night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth but I found him not I will arise now I'll go about in the city the streets I look I would seek him whom my soul loveth oh how many strange women I in the church looking for someone and we have our husbands but we will not search for them huh we don't care whether our mouths are smelling we don't care whether we look nice or ugly we don't care about anything is that not sad huh what do you think now principle of admiring and speaking about each other's beauty all right songs of Solomon chapter four verse one it says behold Thou Art Fair my love I'm talking about number sixteen that was fair that has doves eyes Wow thy hair is like a flock of goats he's talking to his wife your hair is nice huh so husbands who don't have anything to say to your wife I like your hair Prabhas you tell your wife you like your hair all the time very good she said I like your dress no this is nice because a woman is trying to do something for somebody to see so when she does try to see so I like your hair alright let us hear from the Mount your teeth are like a flock of sheep sis's amen thy lips are like a set of scarlet Wow thy speech is comely your voice is so soft so nice your temples are like a piece of pomegranate within thy locks thy neck is like the Tower of David do that's on Emory your two breasts are like two young rows that are twins they are always moving when they are free they are like twins which feed among the lilies until the day amen now that all fair my love there is no spot indeed if your wife has partition like these spots amen can you do it I'm not just saying a poem I'm trying to teach you something to do all right now this is one of my seventeen the principle about marrying and enjoying every part of the body okay number 70 nice Dyke teeth are like flock of sheep of the same scripture that we read your neck is this your this is this your visitor so you can search your past nest body amen now this brings me to what I call grey areas about sex let's turn to chapter 37 verse number page 161 okay now these are when I say grey areas that they are there areas where you know people have different ideas about them are you there okay now because that principle says explore your partner's body amen what do you think are you there are you dear very good now the first gray area or if you like questionable area of controversial area is the area of oral sex is it right to have oral sex oral sex means the man it's kissing his wife's vulva or any of the things there all right whatever eyes vulva is everything outside it's called bhava the whole combination there is the vulva all right and then the inside is streets at the vagina okay say okay if at least if you can hear now some people including some Americans some granules of different people all right they they really against the idea or our sex if I want pastor says if you have around sex and you come to his house you should never drink from his glass is that God if you have used your mouth to do God you should drink his from his glass in his house all right but I don't think there's anything wrong with oral sex because what is wrong with there's nope see some people once a red flag on this part of the body this place is illegal this place is legal this is the liga from where is done and which law has created that that this place is not good you can kiss here that you cannot lick here because kissing is licking when i let you use your tonsil so i just can you not kiss your wife volvo and all those places I know why cause your wife also if you can't kiss you kiss your chest kiss here kiss yeah where can she kiss your penis why can she hold it it's nice amen [Laughter] so guys are you there so all these religious restrictions down to this you can't do this you can't do now you can do not and so on it isn't prevents you from having the variations that you need to abstract to even let it be exciting look if you everyday you eat what you eat here huh what is your a common food yes bread and rice Italian rice if you eat Korean rice every day in the same place in the same way facing the same wall sitting on the same chair every day morning afternoon evidence will not be sick of this Korean rice every second is a fail shame curry and rice in the same portion the same taste every day that's why my wife tried to give something different every day to eat even if I son left over from yesterday she doesn't say until this one is finished we are going to eat it up till Friday it's a punishment you have to bring something else and let me keep that one of the later you bring it out again they cannot eat the same thing for seven days and that's what we try to do with sex the same thing in the same way in the same position all that time would you think he will not be bored the man is looking for something exciting yeah something mysterious you get it so I don't think that oral sex is wrong not because I don't think so but I don't find any Scripture in the Bible to tell me notified the Bible says here that you should the principle that I brought up was that what was it the principle of admiring and enjoying every part of the body your teeth are this your lips are this your neck is this your two breasts are that and so on all right the somatic would also say the breasts for feeding children you shouldn't play with it don't touch the bread these are for only feeding of children these are feeding feeding tubes no we use them all the time we play with them we like them amen brothers don't we like them oh brother sighs I don't really like them like them they are nice it's powerful all right so if you want to do oral sex right and what are the advantages of oral sex is that the clitoris needs to be stimulated all right and sometimes your tongue that turn can do a good job because sometimes the finger is stimulating the clitoris for sex and sometimes the clitoris is even becoming so because you are pressing it was not business in that place is telling me hey too much Jonathan - sometimes the town can be a nice excellent stimulated gentle and soft don't worry today is the last day of all decisions Oh guys okay now so um our outside is a good thing now some things you need to be careful about when you have you if you look at page 162 you can see two examples there in a picture and you see the man doing his best I can t see the woman also doing her best yes these are holy things the honest and they are holy things and that's why we put a picture that so that you learn how to do it it has not been doing it any when you go home just open the picture and put it there and then go to the better you'll be referring so that you know what you do now of the things you didn't watch out with or as exact you can get a bad so truth you see especially if there is a forest environment there oh yeah now you'll be surprised at what you see forests another - Olivia forest a subtree can be a you know but I'm just seeing people the hair has been there for ages a scent of days it is there with various leakages that have come on it new cause blood sweat different things that have entangled the header healthy lie become like dreadlocks now as you are kissing this thing which is whether we passes when you with us whether we be goes you can get a good about infection I mean you can get a got a good shot route so if you really want to do it wise must wash nicely and make sure that you are clean okay and also sometimes after you can use a mouthwash to just make sure that Amy buy straight bacteria that enter your mouth it just goes off but you can you know and also the more you doing sometimes there's nothing but sometimes you can get quite a good infection all right but it's a when you kiss your wife also you can get a bad infection just normal kissing with mouth to mouth that equally get an infection if I can get HIV I think is that also or not so yeah if it's if it's as a cut in your mouth yeah so you can get HIV from kissing you can get a soft on kissing you can get differently so you can get infection from any way you can get it especially from speaking to someone breathing you get it so it's equally something that is risky are you listening to me alright so that's the way to do it then you'd be blessed but there's no scripture that I know of that tells me that I should leave this particular place out of my exploration drive amen so the woman do not bite the penis all right when you are sucking it up very important okay do you have as I don't bite it as opposed to kiss it because if you bite it off there'll be nothing left all right then the woman may taste some secretions and there is nothing wrong with these secretions amen now the next one is anal sex some people want to have sex with the anus which is another hole near the vagina now that I would not recommend I the reason is that that is becoming pseudo me all right and in Romans 1:27 he says likewise also the men leaving the natural use of the woman all right God gave them up so there's a natural use when you look at a part of the body you realize that there is a natural use of that part of the body and the natural use of the anus is for the passage of faeces all right it's not for there it's not for sex sexual pleasure so I would not recommend you to have sex with the anus although some people want to have sex with the anus or sometimes the vagina is too big it's too wide and they don't feel much you understand so you need to I don't know if you have time for all those things but there are more things about that you can you need to do exercise of them to tighten the vagina a bit inside in China you should be able to use your vagina to hold a pen you grip the pens a little and you put it on you grip it and they can even write with it does to show how tense the vagina walls are listening [Music] are you there right the next one is sex during your menstrual period when you're having your period can you have sex during your period well generally the answer is no okay but in some cases like these teachers principals in some cases right it may be necessary to have sex during your period for instance if your wife husband and wife are separated for a long time like about a year or the availab for a long time and suddenly they get a chance to be together and you're in your period you get what I'm saying and then you just wash just washed the blood away and then have sex if you want to go by the autosomal order when you have your period you shouldn't step in the church you did hear me and as several of us here having our periods there why did you come to church you should be outside and also if you leave your slippers outside it when you are coming to a holy place all right so we don't those laws in the Bible where Bible teaches that if a woman has an issue she's and clean and all that it's very blood it's a very infectious liquid I mean if you want something that can really catch infection its blood blood there's a lot of things that bacteria grow in you know so it's an infectious and so a normal husband and wife living together all the time and having sex regularly when the period comes into just a natural break but I'm talking about maybe they don't even live together or an occasional something you are out and then you just come or something if they want to adjust yourself wash up a bit and try to make some adjustment for this special occasion because you should want your husband's fountain to be blessed and not send your husband away is it sometimes people don't know that all these things lead to other things that we can't see that correlation between adultery and happiness and faithfulness and some of because it's not direct it's like prayer driver if you pray you don't easily see the direct result of prayer but generally when a person prays it really helps in sosomething having sex and having sex often many times we don't see the real correlation between having sex regularly and a good Christian life they understand so sometimes you may have to wash and the ladies know sometimes you just use your period as a reason not to have sex the period is even finished but you still say it is there and or maybe just one a couple of drops are coming and you still say it is not yet five days or six days or how many days is it your is not true yeah as I reappear cuz we are so happy to have a reason say ah now it's not my fault I can't help it alright no the next one is sex during and after pregnancy all right and you can also use a condom if you want to have sex during the period it is and sometimes you do wash after as I told you blood is a very infection prone substance all right now sex during pregnancy if you are pregnant and have sex sure plenty plenty of sex unless the doctor tells you not to have sex you can have sex all the 9-month and in fact at the end when your stomach is very big it's important to have sex a lot because that helps the cervix to dilate and to get effaced and for the baby to to come out because in the semen right in semen is a substance called prostaglandin and that prostaglandin helps to dilate and he faced the cervix so that the baby can come out all right so sometimes you see a woman is at 10 she's 9 months knock the baby's not coming because they don't have sex you get it and when you have sex the prostaglandins who do not if you don't do that what happens is that you may go to the hospital and the doctor will now induce this labor now how will he Jesus you take prostaglandin tablets and put it into your vagina that's what you do that's what he give you first I can put it into your vagina you know so you can have the prostaglandin at whom natural prostaglandins created free of charge no bills so yeah but my phone is and again I don't like I don't like I said my so much that he will kill that baby when he lies you lie on your side like this lie on your side try different stuff the big stomach is worse I don't know when I've had a last pregnancy I said to my so this my last chance on how to have sex with the mountain it teaches you mountain climbing adventures all kinds of things what do you think is it powerful yeah all right so it is not a work it is not contraindicated or it's not something you shouldn't do now sex during church activities can you have sex when you are going to church let's say you are having a program like this is it allowed to have sex that if you are busy having a program others whatever can we ask this or I supposed to wait axel after no you can't have sex all the time you have had sex this morning all right huh yeah stop pretending I don't know why I have so many people pretending the church sex in the day sex at night we're having a program having a camp whatever time you have a chance to have the drink water don't you drink what a look at him drinking water right here so you can but some people are so religious and so spiritual that's like we are having it no no no we are having a camp oh no no we are having a convention oh no no I'm going to preach I shouldn't have sex when you are going to prick is a good time to have sex after release station all the time I like having said that before I reach it's a powerful tension Rize it does the next one sex during fasting so the National sex do is fasting now what does the Bible say read that vest ready go marriage is honorable and whoremongers God will despise all right now the froggie not the structure for serving despise one another except it be with consent for a time that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together again that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency all right now there are times when you decide to keep yourself from sex so that you can give yourself to fasting and prayer so there are times that you got but this does not mean that if you are fasting you are not supposed to have sex you understand so you can actually take a decision that we are going to abstain from food it's a mutual agreement they're going to say for food and sex so that we can give ourselves then after that you come together but it's not that there is a lot of he that he that fasted shall not have sex Deuteronomy 78 verse 6 there's nothing like that there's no Deuteronomy 78 it's only up to 2030 are you there alright tell somebody I'm learning something today how many are learning something alright okay so you can get the DVDs after no number back to the principles of biblical principles page 175 we take a break in five minutes but I want to finish this chapter right the next one is that's 18 the principle of your body and your garments smelling nice Christopher number 18 page 175 of the marriage counseling manual how fair is I love my sister my spouse how much better is thy love than wine and the smell of thine ointments than all spices thy lips or my spouse drop as the honeycomb million milk under thy tongue and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon she had a nice smell or he had a nice smell there are some people who don't like batting and don't like smelling nice now this is a very difficult thing but if you smell of garlic or of some other spice that you eat cause you know that spices you would come out through your skin so you're always smelling of what you eat then you are excreting through your skin that's one of the functions of the skin is excretion you excrete chemicals and things through your skin so when you don't when you don't bath those things stay on you and they smell alright so there is a smell from the chemicals that are in your skin and then so you need to smell nice and I plugged in some smells also help you to do well alright so brothers and sisters you need to smell if you don't like bath and try to learn how to bath and especially when you can see that there is going to be some sex try and bath so that you will be clean and fresh don't wait and wait away so that when you do not want to have sex is now you have to grab bath first to try keep smell nice butters who don't like baths in the evening you sweat that the whole day and you are smelling you come and you want to come and jump on this person with all your sweat you are coming to jump like a frog with more sweat on the person it's not going to be easy for her if I went to a house one day as I said a man and his wife the wife said something else she said pasta I can't you know and then I think I don't think even told me she told the other brother that I was with he said that if she has to have sex with her husband she has to drink and be drunk fast she can't stand him hey she can't stand the smell huh the odor yeah so that is very important okay right so long times I did this kind of marriage counseling which principle are we on 80 90 now now the principles of the private part being a sweet-smelling garden with Pleasant fruits a garden enclosed is my sister my spouse a spring shut up a fountain filled by plants our orchards and pomegranates and pleasant fruits you can fry a spike not saffron calamus cinnamon and all trees of frankincense man illusion the chief spices a fountain of gardens and well of living waters and streams of Lebanon I wake on north wind and come down south blow upon my garden but the spices may flow out let my beloved come into his garden and eat his Pleasant fruits amen so your vulva vagina is being described here as a garden enclosed garden amen a spring shut up something field then at the end he says let my beloved come into his garden and eat his Pleasant fruits and as I'm saying it depends on how the places it may not be a pleasant garden it can be a nice well-kept garden and sometimes as a woman you can change the appearance there so that you look different at different times are you listening to me are you there very very good amen quickly we move on then principle of a the principle of being welcoming and ever ready amen okay he said I am coming to my garden my spouse I have gathered my man Wow long things coming up okay you must always be ready he says I come into my garden my sister my spouse I have gathered Mary my spice I've eaten my honeycomb with my honey I've drunk my wine alright notice he says Oh beloved I sleep at my heart wicked it is the voice of my beloved that knocketh says open to me my sister my love my dove my undefiled from my head is filled with Dew how many know that sometimes somebody really wants to have sex that means that your head is filled with you then my beloved put his hand by the hole of the door and my bow have moved to me I rose up to open my beloved alright but before that she answers and says my locks with the drops of the night I have put off my coat how shall I put it on I have washed my feet how shall i defile them in other words the man's head was filled with you but I said how can I make myself dirty now that she changed her mind invest five she says my brother put his hand by the hole of the door and my bowels were moved to him I rose up to open to my beloved and my hands dropped with man and my fingers would sweet marry me upon the handles of the law I opened to my beloved but my beloved had withdrawn himself and was gone and my soul failed when he speak I sought him but I could not find him I called him but he gave me no answer now when you study this passage you will see the story of somebody who wanted his head was filled with you and love and he wanted to have something to do with his spouse but she didn't want him then when she changed her mind and came later he was gone this is a story of many of our marriages is it not true when you wanted to make love she didn't want it she wasn't ready then when you changed your mind and you came along he's gone found somebody else found something else thing doesn't work anymore yeah older by the time you changed your mind about sex many of us here have changed our mind about sex anyway but now for many of us it's late it's late to have a good mind when you should have had a good mind you didn't do it when you were young like a young doe a young rogue and when you could have done well you didn't do it now things have changed you get it and now there's no strength for that kind of thing you know so unfortunately this is the story of life and so it's a very important principle to be ready to do what you have to do at the right time and you must know that the time that I manage ready may be different from when a human is ready and vice versa but you must know that it's more important to respond to the man because the woman is always ready she always has the vagina which is there can be used at any time that's why you can be raped but a man has a penis that needs to have an erection he needs to be excited he cannot just have sex all the time and sometimes you can't just easily be excited and there is a moment when the excitement comes and he says I want it now they know how can I do this how can I get a how can I get how can I do how can I do dadada yeah yeah yeah then when you change your mind and you come no erection and now we need to buy viagra how many know what I'm talking about it's what I'm saying to raise your hand if what I'm saying is true is it a true thing does it happen yes talk to your feet I think we take a break

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