DURBAN, SOUTH AFRICA, 2007 - FAITHFULNESS AND UNFAITHFULNESS IN MARRIAGE 2

and faithfulness is one of the DS tabbing things how many ones your husband or wife - sleepy someone else how many don't want it all right so tell somebody sitting by you trying to sleep it someone else I strive very hot amen what do you think is it a good idea try hard not to sleep with anybody else apart from your husband or your wife all right that it is something that happens quite commonly is that also hmm you don't understand what I'm saying this Avena happens in devon some of us you have not been faithful so our husbands into our wives again also even pastors are not faithful sometimes and pastor's wife sometimes not faithful hmm forgive so doubles is in 1st Corinthians 4 verse 2 it is required in stewards that a man be found faithful all right now as time goes by there are various things that will test the faithfulness ability to be faithful number one thickness childlessness child s when you have in sometimes if you don't have a child it's almost like there's no good marriage so you have that here as well so well depends on how far we believe in that and so some people become pressurized and have a child with someone else or to try having a child with someone so that pushes people out right sometimes a woman one time a lady came to the doctor and she said it's not a hit me or him when he told her it is him she said then I know what to do so she came back about nine ten months later she was fully pregnant and she had a baby and the doctor was telling me he says she came she delivered one too and he said that her husband has news pain there's no way that it's a he knew so he was in the house when then the woman came with her husband husband was so grateful to the doctor because she she felt he felt that the doctor had treated them and because of the treatment they had had a child and said Gary College was telling me that I was in the house and I was receiving gifts and present for having me later and I knew that this woman child is not from this man and it is common now let me tell you something women are as bad as men in this life we are as bad as well so but women look nicer and more cooler you understand and he looked more gentle and they look like people who cannot do harm so not only are they easily disease that we are also detected so if for instance there's a breakup in a marriage it is often the man who looks bad if you take let's say the breakup of some marriage that you know about immediately the husband looks like a virus because in fact we all know are for men you know the right women other men you like girls so I mean they are they can't control themselves we know that so when a pasta divorces or the break-up are you not asking somebody in the church you must love someone else we know them is it not you so but it's a very important revelation to come to that women are as bad as men because we are all sons and daughters of Adam and Eve and we are all eating of the key of good and evil so in all of us there is both good and evil are you listening yeah so it's something that you must come to terms with and it's good not a judge very quickly amen having children also brings about an exponent because many women when they have children change their attitude towards happiness life when they get married you know before they get married and then what you going to do well I gotta have sex with your husband Oh cluster I'm gonna do my best are you looking on be excited you know then I study have a child it's like I'm tired I can't think about that now I don't want to I have a headache feeling cold and we have all kinds of reasons and then they change and you're not interested and it is not fall in love with the children right and the children are they falling in love with right replace this husband and then also after they've had a chance many times they start to put on weight because yes you put on about 12 kilos of pregnancy right but some people put on 20 instead of 12 and 24 in tacky and then after that they continue to put on weight right now she doesn't look the way she used to look all right she's now changed she's swelled up she's ballooned out and now the husband comes to check Eddie sees all these young frisky looking ladies a very slim and very excited still and looking very nice and happy and then she is hired because one child here one child they're carrying a bag holding a baby very tired good in sleeping at night she's not as excitable and as nice as she used to be but she has nothing to laugh about his tired he's a tired lead all right so having children test your faithfulness because you are now married to this grumpy old person as compared to what you originally got which was a smiling happy frisky ready to do anything sister [Applause] for guys to harmony understand how having children test their faithfulness so some people when their wife statue well as well I don't have time for this I don't have to ever I've got some with somebody in the office she's she's she's fresh she's exciting she's voluptuous this old lady in the house was always squeeze her face at this is drunk vinegar it's always angry always tired always feeling cold when she goes to bed she's wearing I mean so just thousands you know what you wear when you go to bed right shows how interested you are in having sex all right so that is a very important thing about our faithfulness trait for that so having children so when you have a child you get it you know in everything just except don't be angry with what I'm saying just accept that look this is the way things go and decide to go against the way things go so if you realize you are falling into the category of the grumpy old lady you got to fight it do your hair he'll do your hair you used to do your hair now you don't do your hair you just die and I don't know if you're I don't know what type of hair you have but there are these people at home they have this cap that they put on and you look like Captain Haddock have you see nothing you know my wife had this next that she puts on her hair I mean she used to put on her head and I thought it I thought a little you cannot give this next Captain Haddock hairstyle to me Asami when you are going out to sea other than you take it off and you do your life as I said I go except it as I said no it's to protect her she she's done it and if she sticks with it like that this is that I say I don't accept it in my house I do not accept it so you know sometimes marriage is like a football match without a referee you know that because what you say this one says our so I told and I told I said I said I will cut this thing oh I said if you don't get rid of this racket she didn't listen to me so one night I got seizes I when she was asked if I took it and I just cut the flow and I put it as half cut it what can you do [Applause] so now she doesn't wear that thing in the house so this early I saw that she was trying to revive that thing come back I said be very careful about this thing all right so try to do things that will be nice amen so another thing that kept faithfulness is prosperity when you become richer and not bless it test your your faithfulness but when you are rich you know or you are great people like you if you're a man and you become less and prosperous girls will like you there are a lot of cute girls like two things strange women if I was that book scream where is it that book is a book everybody must get and I thought I guess I wanted to well read it the strange woman maybe I should preach about that push a valley tonight the strange woman they are in the church more and some of us and house or you are strange women they are there blanke waiting to take you on are you there so make sure you get a copy you don't have money after this samosa and sandwich people just forget about them and concentrate on guys got a strange woman this all has that strange woman get a coffee at the church I'm not going to give it to you free all right now becoming rich or if you become a pastor or you become powerful people like you have this because of the ultimate the legends do love thee the anybody we surpass size is as attractive and when is preaching because if the Word of God makes you sound through why so stable so make sure I remember the first time I came to South Africa some people came to meet me at the airport and so on they shook my hand and then the after where is the bishop you know yes I seen the vision I said I am the bishop that you I expected hey is it you I said it is me it is I so we were expecting an altercation that because we've been listening to your preach and it sounds like an older person anytime you get into the word use of go beyond your years maybe twenty-five hundred twenty-five year old body by the fifteen year old man because you are the Word of God makes you wise makes you wiser than even your teachers that's right in the kingdom is not by age but it's by other things Word of God amen so get up I trust that you people who play instruments also if you play instruments as you sing or anything without knowing you know anything on stage just like fasting you get it so I you know I obtain all these things and just try to show you that when you fall into this category sort of you are entering a new era and you've got to watch out because that is the error when you know you can be unfaithful in it now property or joblessness can also test your faithfulness long separation can test your faithfulness now why should you be separated as husband and wife you need to come together not more than six weeks probably and now you see people this one is living here this one is living here no one day I saw a certain lady I said to her I said to her well well Johanna who long have you been how long is he then how long are you here not four month I said well how would he be surprised if your husband has a girlfriend you are soprano para para lie it was true happen to have a girlfriend so you separate yourself so when the essence of marriage is to be together and you have separated yourself what's the point are you listening both age sometimes you marry a man who's much older when it gets a certain point you set yourself up since I've married an old man when you want to go out and see that he's tired I want to sleep when he want to go out maybe he's tired you want to sleep 7 o clock he's in Italy and I suppose you start to call him that all right in hotels can also make you unfaithful when like the man cannot do his best all right now there are also some jobs that make you can make your own face every job really I think has a risk but some jumps airline where Casillas suggests don't distance drivers - all kinds of people all right now there are some things that you must do that aggravate the potential for unfaithfulness arise so number one becoming unattractive right if you have to look nice to get in you have to look nice to keep him I'll say it again I said you have to look nice to get him you have to look nice to keep him you cannot just be there oh just look at all women can be made beautiful that's what I've seen you know and I got that revelation one day after wedding I saw a bride coming when I strong on time I said is it this girl who is coming to get my that's when I saw that no every woman is beautiful but it depends on what you do to yourself to look nice you get it so you have to know what do to make yourself look nice and if you have to look nice to get a husband right your work is not over when you got your husband in fact it now begins because now that gives you to you we are seeing you in every unfortunate way you know before that mystery about you is gone he has seen you dressed and dressed can you go into the bathroom come out from the toilette and the place is smelling after such a lady has gone there is this as somebody as dainty as you can cause such a smell to come from such a place messy he has been able to see that your mouth also smells if you don't brush your teeth so all the mystery is gone every mysterious beautiful thing that you come like this and go it God so now your work must intensify that's why you must not begin to do your hair more style and dresses and shoes and the others too you should allow them to buy things women have made to buy unnecessary things I've gotta make them that way [Applause] any man who restrict his wife from buying all these frivolous things that they like he doesn't understand marriage I for me I like to serve a friend I think my god I think anything you can get done or does it by explicitly just like a lot of swimming yet so many things grandpa income but they become happy when they do shopping it's like a dog give it the dog a bull and you'll be happy so everybody has what makes him happy you understand what I'm saying you cannot use you should not restrict somebody who is created that we communicate the officials what are you going to buy that we are just going shopping there are days as shopping anointing and then to look at things to work in shops to buy things they've got that if you restrict your wife you should not be a happy always doing economics you cannot do economics and removed by the time you finish taking and Vino your calculations you will be old and your thing will not be working up if you select by the search is a grab by run by the dresses and the hats and they say the nice thing like it can only be used for women it cannot be frightened so try to understand are you listening alright so be attractive and then as I don't care about your weight your look you have to care no communication not much sex lack of fellowship so many things all right all these things affect my faithfulness all right so how to foster face on it all right no one fears God the prayers will be active in church amen you know when you are active doing the work of God it really helps to keep your minds of setting thing you know so sometimes you season you know ladies the husbands want to come to church and they they they were sometimes inhibit has not protecting from coming not knowing that coming and being deeply involved in God or growing in God is what will cause you to be faithful because all of us were pastors we are human beings we also have feelings we see beautiful girls all the time as Oliver we see them and we are attracted to that but something is controlling us as you said we are allowing the Word of God to control I thought that we can see we can also see we can also see but it is it is growing up in God that gives you to restrain yourself as and no I cannot remove my trousers here ah now what do you think as you see somebody husband is going to check this also no we are we are we are having dinner together left fork on there I'm arranging my table fork knife click and we are sitting candlelight dinner all those things is nice you know but it should not replace or tied away Christianity and church activity because I tell you it is God who makes a difference in our life if we all follow what we feel you you will see that we are less than animal are you listening to me all right very very important ok avoid developing close relationships with others of the opposite sex there are a lot of types of friendships and relationships that will not help you to be faithful have mutual friends friends that both parties are comfortable with all right now if you don't have children thank God it's also a blessing adopt a child do whatever but the fact I don't have a charter for me that you are not married wear your wedding ring always amen is it a good idea do wear wedding rings here where there are some countries where they don't wear rings naturally nobody wear the ring talk nicely about your wife or husband alright sit dial husband or wife in church be active sexually and so on and so for okay let's move on now we want to get on into higher things right go to duties of the husband now all these are background to moving higher in the thing that we want to move into mm now the web husband comes from an English word which means house band a man who binds the house together all right so hard ones have duties amen are you listening so a husband has duties you cannot just be there and just think that things are going to go as anyway a boyfriend has no duty amen but a husband has duty so if your other boyfriend my girlfriend a girlfriend has no duty all right and actually this is what changes our marriages our duty and the fact that we often fail to do our duties or your spouse expects something from you which you don't give then we begin to be upset how do you invite friends and government they're always happy you know when you see a man opening the door for get to the car for his wife is either a new wife or a girlfriend or a mukha yes it is not true when you see a man and a woman sitting together usually in a restaurant kind of like chattering talking the man is talking the woman is talking is usually either a new eyes a new girlfriend you get it or a new restaurant or something new but what it is a bit old you don't see those things are you listening to me and the reason why boyfriends and girlfriends check a lot top and a happy enough flow is because they don't have any duties towards each other so when they meet each other they just love hahahahaah we meet each other check like when I see powers I have no responsibility towards him so I just laughed with him and he has nothing to ask me so there's nothing for me to be angry with him about that is it if somebody who works for me when I feel I maybe I may not be happy with because he had some duties and I also have some you so he may also be angry with me so that changes the boyfriend a shortcoming have no no a wife you see that everything changed because now you've got duties and their expectation you'll marry we're expecting some things from you and when those things are not coming then I begin to get upset with you you begin to get upset with me soon the sweetness of boyfriend and girlfriend goes away forever because I expected this from you and you didn't do it so it's important for husbands and wives to know their duties duties of a hat but if you don't want to have duties don't marry just be a boyfriend and a girlfriend okay and yeah and and and I wanna invite you to do that either but if you want to marry my friend look like me you know sometimes are sometimes I wish I wasn't married so that I could concentrate on God because when you marry you have all sorts of distractions and diversions that I want to play my wife wants to talk to me and if I don't talk to her it will lead to another problem would you prevent me from praying later also so not only to disagree about tomorrow's prayer we're also growing so I better compromise and then do that are you listening give me a little volume just a drop up front here cuz I'm a few I'm shouting right are you there so sometimes I wish I was in mind how soon as I wish I didn't have children so that when I'm traveling I think about my child the only reason why sometimes I wouldn't like to die is because of my children I mean I do know that unmarried people die twice as much as married people when I remind you can easily die now when you are married if they are sending you to Iraq you say he knows I will go I was trained ever so many people often take decisions that keep them safe so sometimes because of the existence of children and wives and so on you are sometimes restrained in what you would like to really do you wouldn't care what happened you just move on so somehow I got married so now that I'm married I can't just do what I want I have a duty as a father the essence of somebody and us has been of somebody I've got a duty amen so everybody here must realize that you've got duties and if you don't do your duties gonna lead to all sorts of things all right so duties of a husband then duties of a wife and we are getting very near to the runway number one is to be ahead all right you give your husband the Bible says in first Corinthians 11 verse 3 I'm on page 44 I will have you know that the head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is the man so a husband is a head and leader and you need to be strong there are too many wavy husbands wimpy reach if you are a husband you need to be strong and unfortunately this is just one duty that many husbands don't do you need to be strong to lead your wife and sometimes the wife is stronger than the man if you are not strong you can never be a good at it does like being a pastor I thought I used to think to be a good pasta it going to be very nice and kind with everybody laugh with everybody smile at everybody but to build a big church you need to be a very strong man need to take strong decisions and you need to have some strength if I was not strong as I would not be here I don't follow my wife I follow God I told her before I said I will not be led by you you are not the Holy Spirit I will be led by God for I am very sure that you are not the Holy Spirit and you I cannot follow I'll follow God now many men are governed by their wives this way that's way through different manipulations and pressures and ways depending on the style that a woman had so they are very good the harder the head by the wife is the neck I tell you she can't end ahead this weekend ahead this way if I was not strong I will not do many other things that I did I have led my wife and my family through many things even the fact that I'm here today in the ministry ah to live your job to go out trusting that you survive to go through year after year sometime new things it's not easy so that's not easy but to be a good leader and good head you miss dress you cannot be a good man if you are not strong as I thought whatever she wants to do literally whatever they want whatever they want to do you can't just do whatever they want to do everybody can't be just whatever they want to do in the church that's like good pasta you'll get your static many years ago and I always remember I said to be a good paragraph together a strong leader because everybody has an opinion everybody has an idea many things I do not have doesn't think that is the right thing to do and I like her opinion but I know that they have to do what I think is right what do you think yeah I think it's also a revelation you have to come to a living oh she's gentle and she's sweet and she's quiet she's also a human being and she also has her own things that you pay just like men also we have our own teeth a leader okay people have become very quiet but I don't care I'm preaching the word head takes decision not hot not a half not a neck so has done distraught by the ADA I said I wanted to buy a house so I I went to see their mother una of the house I shall magic the house she said I don't know anything you want to pay so I said how many ask my wife of my daughter anything they say whatever they do not mine and I was looking at this man what kind of man is this just ask that anything they say anywhere back and this is a man you know a doctor there was no water when he needs water instead of his children to fetch up able-bodied children he will go outside the what I'm self come back and he'll be passing by him you know utterly manic UV rocker and a past life like everybody that's what they want to do the house and there's a man was actually asked his wife I should ask to anything that we see I should just buy the house for that price be a man be a leader and remember I told you your wife is not God and she's not the whole East Village I told you she's no God look at that Kaplan as with the Holy Spirit how can this be the Holy Spirit as many as are led by the spirit the other sons of God amen what do you think is it a powerful idea now not so you have to love your wife Amen husband love your wife this is the one I was very surprised about this particular has ball club your wife decisions of the five why should you tell it me to love my wife it is not automatic will I not do it naturally no you won't you have to decide to love your wife and perhaps one of the things you should do is to ask your wife what do you want me to do that makes you know that I love you because women are different from them so what women think is nice men don't think so and what main thing is that women don't think so so you can easily be doing so many things that are not nice or loving to the right and you think you've done your best and you don't know why she's not happy so why I do not happy I've got you a BMW I've got you a nice car many men when they think they want to make the buys we go buy a car but the women don't even know the caveat our biggest brands never open the door no or the cars yes you'll be surprised that's about at what makes a woman happy so one day I asked my wife what do you think what is it that you I do that make you feel that I love you she said when I talk to her and when I talk to her gently that's what she said but that's also that is it is that all that's the formula for October I need formula I can follow the formula clearly and and and and because of that I I live my life that way I talk to her you get it I have times that I thought and she knows and make tea for her she like that we sit down and then we are chatting also talk to her because that's what she says she feels like a lot not a car well that's even cheaper for me I can keep my money what do you think rarely will anyone tell you what you sleep with me when you have sex with me I feel that you love me I don't know if there's any muscle when you put you have sex with people one other prolong 90 minutes of sex that I be little very few say if in ladies is it true not thinking about what you are thinking another when you have sex with me and you tell me around this way you can really put back by the man if you're asking what he wants it tell me when you sleep with me when you have the spirit of gymnastics and you have the spirit of aerobics and when you are siting and nice and I really like it you see everybody like something different so don't give somebody what you want for them give them what they want and sometimes it's easier and cheaper it's not cheaper actually when it was my wife Betty and I did all kinds of expensive things she was not impressed so the next gesture you know this girl and I go to this night money again I'm going to do almost nothing and who watches it I remember that that she said it's my best birthday I realized I go it's very inexpensive to make a happy so let me rather follow the phone instead of my ideas about what she should have or you think is it a good idea tell the nearest month Dada you are receiving revelations about what to do arise okay quickly and charge on your sister sister you are also learning what to do alright you know I am saying all these things because of what I am going to say later so when I start on a second angle don't say that I'm interested in what a man wants or this and that I'm seeing all this so that you have a background all these are important all right so number two number three make her feel happy at home number four respect her and honor her because you respected but five protect and care for her and also when you are married to somebody I realized that he doesn't protect you or he doesn't care for you you get it at a point you don't feel so happy you understand what I'm saying because they are all Duty they are all digit in the map has been drawn with them according to knowledge giving honor unto the wife all right as unto the weaker vessel so you dwell with her with a set in mind of what you are paying with amen number six work hard to provide the needs of the family that is one of the things that many husbands do and I my seven provide for her sexually because you'll be surprised to know that many husbands don't sleep with their wives when it gets the selling point and so it's very important for you to sleep with your wife amen all right but we will come to that duties of the wife number one love your husband you would have thought that it's automatic love your husband it's in a Bible titles two for teach the younger women to be sober and to love your husband and to love their children many women don't love your husband they don't care about their husband they don't they don't love them I wouldn't want to be married to some of those people ladies you love your husband why don't you ask him what it is that makes him feel the same principle apply the other what is it unless you feel that I love you as man alright alright arrived hallelujah are you listening alright so you love your husband so find out somebody says you want to come alright so not to submit to your husband now this is one of the most important things because and all these are scriptural you know I'm just reading this thing please everything is business about let me just read a bit wives submit to your own husband's as unto the Lord Ephesians 5:22 right what does it mean to submit it means to yield I don't know why God created so many strong women you have a lot of strong women in Devon who don't dance the web stop make me to bend it means to yield it means to agree write down the meaning of subjects let me give you the knee it means to bend it means to agree it means to yield it means to bow it means to give up it means to give in it means to accept it means to flow does the meaning of submit all right and depending on your temperament you may not be the type of woman right who gives and it makes you very unloving and unlovable nobody likes someone who is an opposition party in the house everything you don't agree so everyone we need to agree to yield to been to flow because I want to have sex with you flow so those don't don't when it when it stops you like though you don't know what it means it means you what it means you know what it means and you have to say can you please take off your this can you please remove this and each one he has to ask a request can you remove them agree remove this number for remove this each one is a step when he touched you all he pushes you sighs you don't know I didn't know what it meant so it means to flow to yield to agree okay how many women are prepared to do that only eight of you now this is probably the most difficult instruction for a woman but maybe that's what good one because sometimes you get better in school than your husband is it sometimes you are more clever than he is but you married him and you look at him realize that even financially he's not very wise but as to follow him so now you see that even in church maybe you are most richer than he is but you have to follow him I said as you realized that something he's not what you think he should be relaxed so many things I've got to submit to this man that's the price of having him as your husband you don't want to follow him they don't marry him on your own madam big stuff stay on your own all right what do you think keep the home it's another very important so that you go to some ladies when I went to somebody's house and when I was leaving I started to pray against the spirit of poverty I thought they were very poor unless I realized no they are not poor at all the most disorganized house you can ever imagine that it has existed on earth and it's all caused by a very disorganized person all right so how to keep the home nicely provide sexually for your husband be nice make your vagina available all the time make your breath available all the time so the nearest is that the man is talking to you now directly all right number five provides nice food for your husband all right by the time we finish this seminar some of these words will be very to be like saying my hand means I say my dish is like and then provide nice supportive company and friendship a woman who is supposed to provide friendship Bible says that he was not good for the man to be alone so he went and brought them unto company like with me I need somebody to lighten the environment around because I'm a very serious people you understand so I like I need somebody to make things a little lighter you know to just lighten the environment you know and sometimes at home you are too serious you need to be free and somebody seem like a big joke and so don't ever your wife is talking too much and it's not every day we must other meeting amount Church of our finance about something serious we understand it can't be serious all the time if the first time I had somebody said I was Connecticut and you can be serious all the time and you are too serious nobody can stay with you so we need somebody to just let this be a little I mean lighter things of no consequence are happening it just flow and be happy amen I mean one guy he was ruling his house like a military camp he had two children can I take him through the story you have to when I got you when he was his first child go to the age of 18 the Charter I finished I've had enough of finished school I'm out of here took off out of the camp the militia camp the next year the other child was seven he became SSS I also finished school I finished I'm out of here took out then arrived realized that he was done along with this military commander so the next year she also said I've had enough I'm out of here and she also left and I guy was there for my agency he died at age of 40 something I say he said he had dinner with them and then his ride the wife got up to group I haven't got her to go to the bathroom on camp so he quickly other wife is everything okay and the wife said yes that they are afraid to speak in the house afraid to talk about that is afraid to do anything for the house is like a militarized zone so she quickly said that so he told the man to be camo right the man wouldn't listen so 18 so I am off the next one became the editor I've had enough I'm off and then finally the wife fella - she has no children left and there's this guy that I'm staying with I don't see the point of struggling in this military camp I'm off and she went so we relaxed there might be nice relaxation at home amen are you there now be a virtuous woman I think it's a very important thing as the last duty otherwise and then we are moving on to powerful instructions about sexual intimacy a men who can find a virtuous women proverbs 31:10 all ladies can you please stand for a moment can it stand if you're a woman can you stand this is the scripture not written by me by written by God may you be able to follow this and decide I am going to be a virtuous woman can I have an amen beside don't decide decide to please God and do what God says so that you will be beautiful to God amen thank you you may be seated in for most of the 31 novices who can find a virtuous woman all right and then it says for her price is far above rubies the heart of a husband does trust in here in verse 11 it says a husband has confidence all right and he shall have no need of spoil or another version says he shall not lack anything of value amen what does it mean you not like anything - iron man and you are married to a virtuous woman for Santoni if you are not a veteran you don't like anything of value that is valuable that you could get from your wife and what is valuable to a man tell me brothers what is valuable to you huh food is food valuable to you really you should try to learn how to cook it that's what they have done want you to do and what else is valuable sex nobody say sex is sex valuable so when when I see you and you're a ufx woman I forgot your name Kamel and yet just when I see your husband power I know that he doesn't like these two things at least that day he has had sex and then how a city undershot hallelujah her husband does not like anything of value when you imagine that judgment when you're not major virtuous woman oh you see the banner limping around he cannot say his troubles what he is suffering at whom because he married someone who doesn't have that you so brothers don't just marry a strange woman look history someone who loves God and married someone who has a virtue amen are you listening very good now the next one is she will do him good and not evil all the days of her life now you would have thought that every woman will do her husband good but there are many women who do their husbands evil amen I don't evil to their husband but many times we don't know and its secrets evil so you got to be very careful because like I said women are done as members not known as we are badness is in secret and you will never know how much a man is suffering that's why women don't like each other many women don't like one another let me see that these others are not impressed by you because they know themselves women we are tracted when we see you coming with your body then we see you so it affects our thinking but a woman doesn't have any such feeling buddy scissors look at her get you girl wicked girl bad girl don't you're not impressed I did it because predator now for most women will not like you worth one other woman they will be that way for a man even doctors many women instead of fine a lady doctor delicate other manners of the man we came out to them how many can we meet another woman another come on lie down that one hurry up and clear out of the clinic they don't have time for your nonsense oh you're not impressed is it not true yeah she was talking of good and not evil he would have thought that every woman that good to a husband I said when you see them sitting nicely in church I told you one wife was sitting front husband she came to church and she had done been evil in the house and she came to church at the senior pastor's wife and she came at her with her green shoes green bag green dress green scarf and she came to stay down she was looking so peaceful and when the husband's was come on if I he say get up get up get up go to the back I tell you is that you're sitting here looking like an angel what you have done in the house before we came here daddy she walk out I think that was then or the night I'm not sure how that story ended that you would have thought that Pastor Anthony's wife will only do him good but most husbands I like Joseph you would not say when something bad has happened they just I've just Joseph when Joseph he found Mary was pregnant that was that he'd been adjustment he said I I don't want to expose her I don't want people to know that she's back most husbands defend their wife well yeah how is she doing oh she's doing well they don't tell you the truth I was talking to one hand I tell you my friend you don't speak the truth there nobody can help you you keep on saying giving glowing praise hard things oh by the grace of God aha Thanks God is moving they're not tell the truth keep hiding it laughs to cover up she doesn't cook she does you are hungry that one brother said to me one day and you should you see his wife beautiful lady I said he said to me he said to me Bishop I am a scavenger in my house I said what do you mean by Zionists coming discovering you for four food items I go to the kitchen to see if I can get any leftovers and anything to just throw into my stomach and ask of a guy in my house now when you see him with his wife oh nice husband and wife moving past there these are pastors all my stories are passes oh my oh my all my friends are passed before all the people I do mostly practice you would think that everything is beautiful and rosy but nobody knows the trouble I see will you be surprised to know that sometimes Christian was at a West light it's because of something I'm good I would make pitch amount tonight and that is that they still they cannot be sucked they cannot be divorced she can imagine personified we employ somebody he beauty you can ever this mission how the personal behavior no matter what I do I can't leave person be the most typical peasants on true and most Christian wives feel that because my husband is a good Christian husband and he wants to give a good image and he wants to remain the nice good husband and he knows ever that the data he comes up with this divorce idea ever you blame him not me so he's very cool one wife told us but you can't do that you will lose your anointing if you like going fool around I'm going to lose you on auntie either so doing good and not evil very very very important okay are you listening all right now okay so then the next one is that she is hardworking surprisingly many wives are not hard-working alright then the next one she says she rises well it is yet night surprisingly many wives do not rise early in fact some of them sleep very big ladies can I have an email out the ladies would not be angry with me after I've said a lot of nice things in your favor because I'm now coming to the place where I'm going to take you on and shake you like this oh just be there because I've said all your favor up till two days after now everything is in your favor but it's now changing that winds are changing the tide is turning I'm coming to move on to certain things all right how many let us wake up very early yeah many do not sometimes he defends well that turns out they can't sleep and the sleep comes in the morning that one is a sickness so we accepted but for others for others is that laziness forgive she Rises she gives mix to a household many do not do that all right she considered a field advantage many women are not good planet whenever they are mind is just by one or two instead of by a lot now why when I go and buy because you always buy as many buy so many things because we don't need it but this is planning amen she gathered her loins with strength Wow what does that mean hmm she gathered a loin I wished she uses her waist with strength but instead of your wit the loin with I alone instead of lying down like a cadaver you know a cadaver a dead body move your waist all right okay cause he gathered her lonely strength as he strengthened upper arm amen are you there she laid her hands on a spindle all right she lands a craft or trade and then verse 3 says she's kind all right she maketh linen she that she opened up her mouth with wisdom and in her tongue is the law of kindness oh how many trained human do we have may God make us kindly man then her children rise up and call her blessed and her husband all right he praised her she always makes sure that a husband is presentable all right many daughters have done virtuously bizarre excel at all survived this equal beauty is vain but a woman that fears the Lord all right Wow she shall be praised amen so ladies and gentlemen you need to have a be a virtuous woman amen for our wife housekeeping home health financial things in marriage amen I don't want to go into all that but I just want to save in finances are you there that many of us need to get the right attitude amen towards money because money is one of the big problems in marriage number one I'm on page 59 all right money is important have a good attitude towards money all right and understand all the principles about money don't waste money try to prosper try to work hard alright and don't be covet just don't compare yourself okay to someone else because everybody is different and comparison is often what brings about a lot of the unhappiness that we experience in our lives and our marriage comparison I don't compare myself with so many people I don't compare what I'm doing in Ghana to what you are doing in South Africa because it's a completely different world I don't compare what to have somebody else is what I have I'm blessed I thank God for what I have and also know that what you have is okay you cannot do that problem no problem you cannot do anything right that you cannot do well unless you have a spirit of contentment amen you really need to be content hallelujah okay now let's come to our feet and take a very short break for two minutes and then we are going to go into sexual happiness in marriage amen standing your feet let's pray [Music]

Channel: Dag Heward-Mills Evangelist

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Length: 63min 35sec (3815 seconds)

Published: Wed Aug 02 2017