DON'T LET YOUR DREAMS DIE - Jordan Peterson (Best Motivational Speech)

don't don't be too attached to things and what does that mean it doesn't mean deny the world it might mean deny the world if you're too in love with the material like with material well-being let's say then your pathway to Transcendence and meaning might be to abandon that because it's it's constraining you it's making you less than you could be but the the fundamental lesson the more fundamental lesson that's underneath that is don't let what you are stop you from being what you could be right and so then the question is well what do you identify with do you identify with what you are then you're a tyrant do you identify with with chaos because that's the opposite of order say then you're nihilistic well you don't identify with either of those you know that they're both necessary you know that you have to live with both of them but you would you identify with the capacity to continually transcend what you are and then you seek out error that's what humility is it's like I'm error ridden it's like so I want to see I want to put myself in a situation where I can discover one of my errors hopefully not in a way that's going to knock me completely out of the game right I want to I want to seek out a challenge I want to find out where my limits are I want to find out where there's not enough of me yet and I want to do it that in a way that's engaging because you know you can wear yourself out fighting dragons obviously you can exhaust yourself completely and that's not helpful you know one one of the things I learned for example when I was coaching when I was coaching lawyers who these were people who had very high-end careers and so they had an infinite workload no matter how much they worked flat out there was always way more work that they should do it's very difficult thing to learn to manage and so they were exhausting themselves and and I said well you know you have to work less per day it's like well no that's not happening I can't do that and so what I learned over time was okay so this is what you have to do every three months you have to block off four days and go have a vacation you have to plan that in advance so it's in your calendar so that your secretary doesn't book your time and then you need that because you have to recuperate enough so that you can work as hard as you're going to work and of course they were nervous about that and I said well look we can we can calibrate this let's keep track of your billable hours over the next year and see if they increase or decrease because I bet you if you take more time off you'll actually have more billable hours you'll actually have your cake and eat it too you'll get to have a vacation and you'll be more productive and that inevitably that was what happened and so that's a matter of calibrating the game properly right you want to play a game that you can play today but also one that you can play next week and next month we're not talking about you know your your career this week we're talking about you having a career that lasts 30 years that doesn't kill you that doesn't make you hate yourself or the job that doesn't make you bitter that doesn't wear you to a frazzle so we it has to be optimized and so I think that you can in fact decide to take on the load that's optimally meaningful if you want and then you get to have your cake and eat it too you're on the pathway to continual incremental Improvement you only have to burn off a feather at a time instead of having the whole bloody thing burst into flames but it's a constant it's a constant source of renewal and there's an idea that to be renewed you have to drink the water of life right that that's an old mythological idea and what's the water the Water of Life chaos is water water water is chaos water is what washes away too much order and to stay continually let's say refreshed by the water of life is to take on exactly the right amount of chaos to make sure that your garden is properly nourished and I think meaning is actually the marker of that Beauty and the Beast I think is the best Disney film All Things Considered it's it's it's very witty it's I like the music it's it doesn't moralize it's got a great female hero it's it is an investigation into ideal femininity and and the Redemptive power of femininity and one of the things that's so subtle about Beauty and the Beast is that you have Gaston and Gaston isn't a monster but he is which is why beauty doesn't like him he's got everything he's tall and he sings that I've got everything look at me I'm tall I'm handsome I'm strong I'm I'm brave he's all Persona like he's all surface and he isn't the monster because the the Beast is the monster but the Beast is real and Beauty can see that and she turns away from the narcissistic persona and pursues the redeemable beast and if you don't unders if you don't see that that's how human beings interact with each other you're not looking and women are that [Music] and the woman wants the redeemable Beast because the redeemable Beast has the virtues of the Beast if you want someone to protect you in your infants from Beasts you need someone with the virtue of the Beast foreign and so but but he has to be redeemed because as a beast he's a beast that's no you want a beast in your house it's like no it's not that's not good he has to be he has to be civilized Beast so that's what I'm encouraging young men to be civilized beasts do you remember your process of integrating Your Shadow oh definitely I definitely remember that Tom oh I think the best practice is to is to try to not lie try to stop lying listen to your words listen feel them feel them are they the right words do you believe this do you believe what you're saying is it is it true as far as you're concerned and then then you might find that you have something true to say but you're afraid to okay then there there's a place for integration of the Shadow because hopefully you can be monstrous enough to say what you believe to be true and so that means there's a combativeness in some sense in that and so if you can't do that so maybe you don't say what's true because you want to look you want to be a Persona you want to you want to be nice you want to appeal to people you want to be popular whatever whatever it is you're pursuing yeah you're going to do it in a manipulative way and and you subjugate your truth to that that's not helpful I mean it's it's while you're pursuing the road of Gaston in some sense I mean he's popular in the village and you know he's got a mob behind him and what's not to like and that's what he says yeah but beauty is she's wiser than that I started paying attention to how my words made me feel psychologically when I was about 23. I really started to pay attention and I learned I learned that that was worth paying attention to and I swore that I would strive to say to not lie to not lie to say what I believe to be the case and so [Music] that was part of the reason why my lectures were popular say it in Harvard and then at the University of Toronto and before this explosion of notoriety there was some movement in that direction I'd post by maps of meaning lectures online that TV station in Toronto had done a 13-part series on the maps of meaning course because really because of the somewhat remarkable Student Response to the course you know because the typical response to when in the student evaluations the typical comment was this course changed the way I look at everything and it's a very strange thing because you wouldn't think that the revelation of the capacity for evil is a precondition for the realization of good but I believe first of all why would you be serious enough to even attempt to pursue the good unless you had some sense of what the consequence was of not doing it you have to be serious about these sorts of things it's not a it's not it's not the game of a child right it's the game of a fully developed adult and you have I learned this in part when I had little kids I wrote a chapter for my new book called never let your children do anything that makes you dislike them and why was that and I read I read that wrote that after I knew I was a monster and I thought I'm gonna make sure I like my kids I'm going to make sure they behave around me so that I like them because I'm way bigger than them and I'm way more cruel than they are and I've got tricks up my sleeve that they cannot even possibly imagine and if if they irritate me I will absolutely take it out on them and if you don't think that you're the sort of person that would do that then you are the sort of person who is doing it Sisyphus and nature said of Sisyphus if I remember correctly that one has to imagine him Happy Well if there's a rock at the bottom of the hill then you might as well push it up the hill and if it rolls back down well then you've got something else to do don't you can push the damn Rock back up the hill and there's no shortage of rocks to put up to push up the hill and that's what we're built for anyways and so let's go out and like push some damn Boulders up the hill and then maybe we could have enough self-confidence and enough enough respect for ourselves that we wouldn't have to turn to hatred and revenge and try to take everything down because I think that's the alternative so he's not weak that's one thing you could say about him [Music] the same idea represented there right that's Atlas who voluntarily takes the world on his shoulders it's like the idea of Christ taking the sins of the worlds on his shoulders it's exactly the same notion which is the notion that you should be able to recognize in yourself all the horror of humanity and take responsibility for it because that's what that means and the thing that's so interesting about that is that if you can recognize yourself in yourself all the horror of humanity you will instantly have a hell of a lot more respect for yourself than you did before you did that because there's some real utility in knowing that you're a monster now and just because you're a monster doesn't mean you have to be a monster but it's really useful to know that you are one so then and one of the things that you knew and this is something that I find so amazing about his writings I think something that really distinguishes him for example from Joseph Campbell who talked about following your bliss is like Jung said very clearly that the first step to Enlightenment is the encounter with the shadow and what he meant by that was everything horrible that human beings have done was done by human beings and you're one of them and so if you don't understand that and to understand that really means to know how it was that you could have done it and that's a shattery thing to try to imagine that to try to imagine yourself as someone who's engaged in medieval torture to see how you could in fact do that you're never the same after you learn that but being never the same after learning that is unbelievably useful because when you understand that that's what you're like then you're a whole different creature and I don't think and this is something I did learn from Jung is that you cannot be a good person until you know how much evil you contain within you it is not possible and it's partly because you just don't have any potency like if you're just naive if you're just nice if you'd never hurt anyone you'd never heard a fly you don't have the capability for any of that why would anyone ever take you seriously you're you're just you're a domestic animal at best when an if and when tragedy strikes either of us I hope that one of us is standing when it blows past and and that there's a harshness about that that's unbelievably cruel because you know you say well if my mother died I could live well what kind of monster are you exactly the death of your mother doesn't do you in well it turns out that being a monster is the right thing so and that's a rough thing to learn but it's necessary to learn you know because it also makes you you know at some point for example as you get older by the time you're in your mid-20s something like that you should start having a relationship with your parents that's approximately one of peers and you can tell if you have that so here's a little trick you can use so you have parents obviously they have friends you probably care what your parents think I would imagine do you care what their friends think of you and answer that is well not nearly as much and so then I would say well why do you care what your parents think of you then they're the same people you know what I mean it's just luck of the draw that your parents are someone else's kids friends they don't think the same way about them that you do that's where you see that you have a projection right if by the time you're 30 if what your parents think of you matters more than what say a random set of their friends think of you then you've still got your parents confused with with God that's one way of looking at it you've still got them confused with an archetype and you're still a child and you might think well it's pretty damn rude not to think about what your parents think of you anymore not to care it's like yeah it's kind of rude but maybe you'll be useful for them when they get old and that's a much better form of caring it's like you're going to be independent and often strong enough and and detached enough so that when the top when the when the power Dynamic shifts which it will that you'll be the person that can carry things forward while you can't do a better thing for them than that right that's the best of all possible outcomes for your parents

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Length: 13min 54sec (834 seconds)

Published: Mon Apr 24 2023