DON'T QUIT - Jordan Peterson (Best Motivational Speech)

you lose friends well [Music] you're going to lose the friends who don't want the best for you those the friends you want in 10 years I mean you lose friends well maybe you gain new friends maybe you gain better friends or maybe Miracle of Miracles your friends pick up their their mess too and move forward maybe not and I know I'm not naively optimistic about such things but you have to contemplate the price you pay for inaction and this is something I did with my clients all the time it's like well I don't want to change jobs well no wonder it's like you have to go put yourself out to be interviewed you have to send out 500 resumes you have to be rejected 499 times you have to polish your interview skills you have to update your CV which means you have to take a real look at the inadequacies in your preparation um and maybe you won't find a better job it's like no wonder you're afraid of that okay you're in this job you hate and it's 10 years from now how does that look think about that you already know you're in a little hell you know perfectly well it's going to get worse which is more frightening action or inaction well the thing about inaction is you're blind to it eh so you can hide from it well that's chapter three again do not hide things in the fog do not make the assumption that inaction has no price and so then you think I'm terrified of this but I'm even more terrified of that and you know people have asked me for example I suppose why I was willing or am willing to engage in the Troublesome process of objecting when I think something isn't going well well it certainly doesn't hurt to be in physical good physical condition so we can walk through it stop drinking too much how do you know if you're drinking too much um you regret what you do when you're drinking it's it's interfering with other important goals it's it's causing you financial distress it's getting you in trouble with your friends or your family it's getting you in trouble with the police okay so stop abusing substances if you can right if you see that they're um hurting you um an alcohol is particularly pernicious in that regard so physical health are you in decent shape are you strong and coordinated and if you're not well you'd be better if you were you'd feel better you'd be more effective you'd live longer you'd be less sick and you really see that Mountaintop like if someone's been in shape once in their life they age way better and it's also a really good way of maintaining your cognitive ability like you know you you hear about those exercises that you can do online to make you smarter and keep your cognitive ability intact those don't work there's no evidence that they work people keep saying that they make you smarter they maintain your cognitive function psychologists have studied that for 50 years hoping that one of those things will work trying all sorts of creative tacks they don't work Exercise Works cardiovascular and weight lifting you start to decline in your fluid intelligence at about the age of 25. and it's a linear Trend downhill and it can accelerate as you get older it's just like this quite ugly if you exercise you Stave that off so that's really useful um maintain your relationships and and Foster them they're un so when I look at successful people they're really good at something they're reliable right you can count on their word they're generous and they have a wide wide connection network which becomes more and more valuable as you get older yeah so it's one advantage that older people really have over younger people they have a connection network and a connection network is huge well you could be connected to a thousand well-connected people okay that means you are connected to the entire world right it's unbelievably valuable and that's one of the things that's so absolutely remarkable about the situation that I'm in right now as far as one of the great benefits is I can exist I can contact pretty much anybody and they'll talk to me it's like really that's so cool I'm I'm I'm interested in infrastructure for reasons I won't get into but I'm interested in infrastructure development I think it's a good method of wealth transfer it's a good solution to the problem of inequality and employment um I reached out to a leading expert a leading expert on infrastructure last week see if he talked to me I thought I don't know anything about infrastructure except that it's worn to a frazzle and we should do something about it you know he agreed to talk having a connection network is of an inestimable inestimable value um reliability generosity you can work on both of those philosophical sophistication it's very useful because it orients you properly you have a sophisticated sense of of the world you find for example that um doing things for other people is actually more rewarding than virtually anything else you can do you know when you hear you should be of service to other people well if you actually watch yourself you pay attention to yourself and you do something that helps someone else and it genuinely helps them I defy you to find another experience that is that satisfying it's actually quite stunning how satisfying that is and so that's a very useful thing to realize because I'm more afraid of the consequences of inappropriate silence it's not that I'm brave it's that I'm more terrified of the alternative so so I don't engage in the alternative and I I don't know maybe I have a knack for that to some degree maybe it's a consequence of clinical training but you know I can walk into people's houses and look around and I think okay there's something up here and I I mean people have that ability you know I walked into a house once and and the dishwasher was in the middle of the kitchen and and it was undone and had obviously been there for a couple of weeks and the fridge had food in it that shouldn't was no longer food and the cupboards had unopened wedding gifts in them like five years after the marriage I thought there's a lot of things in this household that are being swept under the rug and that was all laid out in in the in the practical environs it's like they hadn't negotiated who was responsible for cleaning the fridge they hadn't even been able to open their wedding gifts it's like something's rotten deeply so and so I I could see where that was headed without a tremendous amount of effort on the part of the and it didn't work they were divorced you know a couple of years after that in a very ugly manner for very ugly reasons well I knew where that was headed you know and under different circumstances I would have said what the hell is that box doing there oh you know it's nothing yeah no wrong it's not nothing that's a little portal to hell I can see it and so could you if you looked but you won't and I mean that literally because people won't look they'll walk into a room like that and they will not look at that thing absolutely and that's because if they look they'd see and they don't want to see and no wonder but the consequence of blindness is worse it's it's worse I mean I have this you know my family is would like some peace uh because I seem to be embroiled in one thing after another and you know they have a point but peace is very hard to obtain and I can't be blind to what I see in the broader world around me not if I see it I see it it's like there it is I'm gonna say something well I would say by reminding yourself that life is short that's that's that'll add a sense of urgency by noticing you know I calculated I don't know my parents are when my parents were in their 70s 60s perhaps I I usually saw them about once every two years we communicate a lot more than that but we live a long ways apart so I calculated you know well my dad's probably gonna live till his mid 80s or late you know somewhere in there um and he's six he's 70 let's say I'm gonna see him 40 more times it's like okay 40 more times that's urgent so you better get it right because you don't have it you don't have that many opportunities you know it's the same when you're formulating relationships in your adolescence laid Adolescence in early adulthood you don't have that many experiments to run you know and and you get you get old a lot faster than you think so attent attention attention attention is an underrated um faculty it's not the same as thinking it's watching to see what's there in front of your eyes and and to guide yourself as a consequence of what you perceive it's the it's the faculty that transforms thought if you let it so and your conscience alerts you as well tick tick tick you know you're wasting time and very few people are happy with that some are burdened by more than others but virtually no one escapes that voice of conscience I suppose to some degree that's that's the willingness not to engage in self-deception chapter three and Beyond order is about that people don't really repress the things they don't want to face they just fail to unpack them you know like maybe you're on YouTube regularly and every time you shut the computer off you feel somewhat disgusted but you don't pay any attention to that for a while for two years but then you decide you're going to pay attention and then you find out well the reason you're disgusted is because you're wasting your life and you know it and that disgust is indicating that but unless you attend to the disgust and unpack it let it reveal itself as informative you don't know what the message is you just have a sense of disquiet it's not easy to transform that sense of disquiet into an actionable plan and often you have to talk to someone about it as well you have to discover the so it's not like you're repressing the emotion exactly it's that you don't undergo the difficult process necessary to unpack it

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Length: 12min 12sec (732 seconds)

Published: Fri Apr 28 2023