CONFIDENCE - Jordan Peterson (Best Motivational Speech)

you are the you are the center of the world has center of the world it has many centers and you do partake in this process of casting the potential of the future into the reality of the present and the past that's what your Consciousness does and the quality of what you produce is dependent on your on the ethics of your choice your choice between good and evil in every moment is what determines the course of the world and that's on you it's like well that's deeply meaningful but it's unbelievable it's in its ultimate responsibility in in the literal sense and I think that in order for us to set things right we have to understand that we we have to take on that burden of ultimate responsibility as if it's not only as if it's ours which it is but as if there isn't anything better that we could do and I and one of the things that I found so gratifying about the lecture tour that I've been doing is that and why I keep doing it the live events in particular um because we've done about 100 of them now so far is that when I explain to the audiences and this is especially true it seems to be especially true of of men but of young men but not so young even to say look you you have you you have an ethical obligation to lift the heaviest load you can possibly conceive of and that's the primary Call to Adventure in life and that Call to Adventure is so worthwhile that it justifies the particularity everybody it's like lights go on they think oh I see so you need a meaning to set against the suffering and to protect you against that Temptation towards malevolence you need that well where's the meaning to be found well it's not happiness it's not short-term pleasure it's not it's not self-development it's not self-esteem it's none of those things that are so focused on on on the individual psyche even it's it's literally The Stumbling uphill towards the city of God yes with your burden people go yes well that's where the meaning is and they know that because they know responsible people they know they admire responsible people they already got that say well that's what you should become and they think and not only that that that's when you could become because that's what you are in the deepest sense you know in the deepest part of your heart [Music] that if you don't tell the truth the World falls apart and that's actually true you know I talked about unearned wisdom it's it's no trivial matter to understand that you know Dostoevsky said everyone is responsible for everything that happens to them and everything that happens to everyone else as well and you know that's an insane statement and he was a very extreme person but it's also true and I think that's part of what people get a glimpse of when they have a hallucinogenic induced religious experience it's like there's a lot more resting on you than you think and you know that you don't wake up in the morning berating yourself for telling the truth you wake up at four in the morning braiding yourself for violating your conscience you know and classically and in at least in some strains of Christian thinking conscience is associated with Christ or with the holy spirit it's the it's the voice of God within and I'm aware of all the criticisms of ideas like that but you know it's pretty it's really something that you can't control your conscience so what what is it exactly it's not you you're responsible to it it holds you accountable it transcends you so what is it well if you think it's nothing Well violate it for a while and see what happens so you know I hope what I wrote in Beyond order is true you know and if it's true it should do some good because what's true does good at least that's the hope to make a plan look at what you're interested in get disciplined about something allow for the possibility that you have something important to contribute to the world and that the world would be a lesser place without that contribution don't be afraid of taking on responsibility your soul it's where you find what sustains you in your life you can take on too much responsibility you you have to be cautious in that regard but that's a less common problem than not taking on enough a lot of the things that people regard as traps are actually the means to their life you know often young people are afraid of commitment for example in the context of a romantic relationship and because they feel that that's going to interfere with their pursuit of something more valuable but that's just not the case is you're not going to find something more valuable in your life than a committed relationship with someone that you love that sustains itself across time and that in all likelihood produces children that's life and there may be people for whom avoiding that is the better route but those people are very rare and you need a real reason to assume that you're one of those people and hopefully for you you're not um you know I've had a very good career a very meaningful career in multiple dimensions and it's still been the case for me that the most important part of my life has been my intimate relationship with my wife and my and my family so don't be afraid of that or be afraid of it but don't let that stop you from from pursuing it Dostoevsky I think said something like every man is responsible for everything that happens to him and everything that happens to everyone else and that's you know that that's that's it's a crazy statement right it's a crazy statement and he was a pretty extreme person in many many ways but there's a level at which that's metaphysically true you know because what happens is that it's it's failure to act often that's the most catastrophic you know I mean I've it's it's it's to not do the right thing when the when the situation presents itself and it's very specific you know you're constantly in situations where you could do the right thing if you were willing to take a risk that's actually of relatively moderate size and you know that you could take the risk and you know that you should take the risk and you don't and that happens to people all the time and then what happens is the thing that they didn't oppose grows a little bit and they shrink a little bit and that starts a loop hey and so and you say well how do you take responsibility for the world and the answer is well you also have to do it with a certain degree of humility because what do you know you know and and this is part of the reason that I'm so opposed to the activist culture on on college campuses you don't teach 18 year olds to go and demonstrate about capitalism you know because they don't know anything and they have problems in their own life that need to be solved that are local and and the local problems aren't trivial you know they're not disciplined they're they're they're not looking at the world in a straight way they're not taking responsibility for themselves or for their actions their sexual actions among others they're not taking responsibility for their family they're not looking at how they could contribute to the community they don't understand the fact that they don't know anything and so they should be taught to start locally and to put things together that they could put together you know to make their bed and to clean up their room and to attend their classes with regularity if they're going to University because that's part of the implicit contract and to straighten up the things around them that are actually within their power to straighten up and then what happens is that if you do that let's say religiously which I suppose would be the same as in a disciplined manner that your realm of influence starts to grow but it grows in a positive way just like you can go you can take you can end up in Hell one step at a time and that's extraordinarily well documented you can end up at the opposite place of that one step at a time but it's also that same gradual process you don't get to LEAP from being a 17 year old knot head who doesn't know anything and who isn't disciplined to the critic of judeo-christian society you just don't know enough to do that especially when you can look at your own life and think about how many things that you're doing that you know are wrong that you could fix that you aren't fixing and that's the crucial thing it's it's this isn't this this mode of thinking isn't asking people to stretch themselves beyond what they're capable of it's just asking them to stretch themselves to the point that they are capable of and seeing what happens and that works it works I've had many people write me over the last year and this is a great thing really it's a great thing who said that they stopped started to tell the truth or at least not to lie because who can tell the truth right but at least you cannot lie and that they started to put things in order around them that they could put in order and that you know the positive things just started to happen like mad and they're not nihilistic and they've got a purpose in their life and so you know thank God for that and it does work I mean it isn't necessarily the case that you can do it it's hard to do I mean and that of course it's hard I suppose in proportion to the suffering that you're undergoing and it isn't necessarily the case that you can always manage it but but but sometimes you can manage it and and it's good if you can people need to search for meaning because they get corrupted by suffering if their life isn't meaningful that's how it looks to me because you can't torture an animal Forever Without It lashing out and so if your life is nothing if there's nothing in it that speaks to you there's still going to be suffering you can't talk yourself out of that and so then I see people tearing tearing down traditional structures let's say or they're casual about them another rule in this new book is uh do not casually denigrate social institutions or creative achievement well why social institutions well I've counseled lots of people who were lost and so if you came to see me and I was your therapist I'm very practical I'd say to you okay well let's look at your life for a minute um do you have an intimate relationship what about your family not could be you know married with kids or it could be the family of your birth your siblings and your parents and so on how's that functioning do you have anyone there do you have a job or maybe a career even if you're fortunate but at least a job that keeps Body and Soul together and maybe where there's some chance of advancement and hope um do you know how to use your time outside of work productively ah do you take care of your mental and physical health do you manage The Temptations drug and alcohol use and that sort of thing do you manage those Temptations effectively are you educated as are you as educated as you are intelligent you know have you and those are standard those are standard patterns of activity in the world do you have kids do you have a wife do you or a husband do you have a job I mean it's mundane in some sense but and you can look beyond all those standard answers for meaning but if you're overwhelmed by life anxious and and suffering that's a good place to start put that together why well the answer to that is because that's what people do that's what people do that's the best we've been able to manage and so and if you don't have that because you're a human being like other human beings you're going to suffer for it and so attacks on that assaults on that aren't that helpful I see this sometimes with young people when they're talking about getting married we don't need to get married we don't need a piece of paper it's like really that's your that's the depth of thought you've put into this it's like you're not gonna mark this permanence with conscious awareness and social celebration and the sanction of your community and a beautiful ceremony that's just nothing you let that go well what do you what are you going to replace it with nothing oh you know you can say it's it's I don't want to be married in a church I don't believe in God fair enough but good luck filling in the hole

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Length: 13min 55sec (835 seconds)

Published: Wed May 24 2023