Do You Believe in Marriage ?

coming in yo whoa and we're live yo come on man what are you doing sorry jeez what's up y'all it's your boy mike rasheed and you got party tour body this is the lions owls elephants podcast today we have a very interesting topic um this is a topic that uh my oldest son came up with uh shout out to sharon thank you for for the topic sir and this one is a question i guess it's more of a more of a conversation in the question but the question he posed was do you believe in marriage right so sean i'm going to present you with a question which is pretty obvious do you believe in marriage and i guess it's more do you believe in getting married or right so first take on marriage first we have to agree i guess what marriage is because that's important too like the i is it the idea of two people being together for the rest of their lives like is that what we are talking about yeah because that's important too because like it has become a lot more of a legal and business thing as opposed to just an idea right there's like there's ramifications that aren't just what you thought it was but do i believe in the idea of two people committing to be do with each other for the rest of their lives like as their main partners and and you know primary person they're going to be with yes okay so i got some notes right here i was um doing a little bit of research on how marriage started right and man i don't know how in the hell they go back so far but they went back far far to early humans and basically saying that there was really no reason for men and women to to be married and people lived in a pretty polyamorous society right but then uh let me see when it shifted um and i believe around there's a lot of shifts but i guess we can get kind of close to where we are now around the time of like agriculture when people were um chilling the land for food and things of that nature um well first of all uh people were people that had two parents raising them had a better chance for survival children because we all know life expectancy is typically predicated on child how long children live right so humans have been living until around 80 something years forever right however life's expectancy was like 30 at one point and that was it wasn't because people wasn't getting old it was because young people were dying so easy right so you're vulnerable very vulnerable so having two people and the reason we're vulnerable is because we have really big brains right big heads so the child the labor takes longer the childbirth is kind of painful and we have we're the only ones that's born helpless most of the animals they kind of get it together in a few minutes you know what i mean but so anyway um so from what i was gathering uh the two parents it gave for better survival now um they did say this though he said that couples would typically stay together for three to four years and then they go off and do their thing and it was kind of like all right the kid's good now he's sturdy and then parents will split ways and start another family this is interesting because there's a statistic on divorce the divorce rates excuse me the divorce rate peaks around three to four years so it's as if we are programmed right to like all right this is enough and then do a movement so um so yeah uh it has transformed in a sense um then i'm sorry this is pre-agri agriculture agriculture made people stay together way longer because they needed there wasn't nomadic right they needed to work the the land so basically society because we business like business arrangement yeah and uh and it made more sense because you weren't moving around you had permanent structures you knew you were going to be there for a while so you may as well consider having your partner be there for a while versus having to start over right yeah i mean it's expensive to start over right time and money wise right so this is interesting too so there was a chart about like uh i was looking at the pros and cons of marriage right so when we talk about they did a financial study right in 2005 at the university of ohio and it showed that after 10 years of marriage people had an increase of wealth right i get that the stability you know what i mean um married people's net worth was approximately forty three thousand dollars single people's network was net worth was approx approximately eleven thousand dollars divorced men net worth was approximately eighty five hundred dollars divorced women was in the worst situation with 3 400 what do you feel about that it's crazy it seems to make sense when you're when you're together you uh you might have this cumulative effect where it's not just like one plus one is two there's like three it comes out of it somehow because you help each other you're able to fill in deficiencies that the other person has so you kind of you end up better off than you were and i think that's what's attractive about marriage the idea that you you can find a partner who you can trust 100 that you can rely on to like you know pick up the the slack when you can't and you do the same for them and it leaves you both being better like that's the the ideal version of a marriage you know you have that and then of course there's what i think is like the real purpose of marriage which is to have kids or like that's for me personally because i don't want to speak for anyone else and i'm fine with everyone doing what they want to do but i think if you intend to have kids that's a good reason to get married because other than that you're just you have a domestic partnership you're together and you're together as long as you want to be and if you don't want to be together anymore you're not so like i think that taking that bond makes a lot of sense if you intend to to create a little human and at least want to be together for the time frame that that little human is going to be being raised i'm not even saying you have to be married to have a kid because clearly you don't but that that's kind of the frame of mind that i wanted to be in when i wanted to get married i was like scenario yeah like that's that that would push me over the edge of wanting to do it like okay i could see this person as being viable to have kids with right so not love yeah i wouldn't do it for love so that that might be controversial but i wouldn't do it for just love i would only do it which i am doing it with the idea that that i'm going to start a family you sure yeah i mean it doesn't sound like i mean you're in a loving relationship i am i and i'm so in love like i i love her more than i knew i could love someone but that doesn't make a reason for marriage to me because if we really if we love each other like that then we just can just continue on but because we're going to create some like a human i believe so the fact that you love her she loves you yeah and if kids weren't on the table you wouldn't marry her no i mean unless if it was something where if she was like look if you don't then i'm gonna leave then i was like okay well then do i want to undertake this ritual or this ceremony to make her not leave so question why wouldn't you marry her if there was no kids involved because then it's no longer a choice and i and i like having the choice i love i love the idea of being together each day because you want to be in each year and not that you don't have fights because we have fights not being married you know occasionally and we have to work stuff out but that the summary of your relationship is a choice like you could choose to continue being in love and you kind of have to keep earning each other's love every day every week every year every month you have to keep fighting for it the the concept of marriage kind of like makes it more difficult or like kind of makes it like a you got a long-term deal like as a as a as an athlete or something where it's like a lifetime contract now and you don't have to anymore fight for it necessarily in the same way and that's just because of the fear of what's going to happen to undo it don't you feel that that's a bit arbitrary which part uh the whole thing so if if getting married actually married yeah because i i just just uh hear me out for a minute i don't see i don't see nothing magical changing with one getting married right whether they have kids together or not so i don't think that being married uh makes for better parenting or more stable environment if like would you say that you know with the love being there and fighting for that love qualifying yourself for that love every day every week month year et cetera um you know if you can have it there you know it doesn't matter if the marriage is there or not right so it's like uh i don't see the the reason to say i wouldn't get married or i would get married because we're having kids like why does it matter why does it matter to you for me it matters because as like a more successful male there's a lot of downside if it doesn't work out um and it's gonna it i'm not saying that it's not gonna work out and you obviously hope it does you go into it with that idea but it's a lot harder on the on the successful mail to do what's right there afterwards if you get married and even if you don't have a kid it's still kind of complicated but it's a lot more hassle than just being together and just doing doing the right thing while you're together and if you're not together anymore then you're not together anymore it's not a legal proceeding so you wouldn't so let's say you was in seven years right you're together uh committed relationship loving relationship and it don't work out would you and you were the breadwinner obviously and you are advancing both of your lives right better homes cars et cetera over time so when that seven year period was up you'd be all right you know what this ain't working out but the wonderful thing in that situation is that you would have the discretion to be able to figure it out yourself like you have to rely on on yourself being ethical but i think i am and i would want to be i'd want to do right by the other person but at the same time i wouldn't want it to have to be a legal matter and proceeded upon by multiple attorneys and you know we we know people that this has happened to and it just takes so long and so much money is wasted that because both people kind of get people in their ears and it just becomes it just becomes way harder than it should be right and you know it's for a reason it's to protect people and make make it happen ideally the right way but the way the system set up is not it's not great okay for either side let's say let's say prenuptial agreement right yep so you're laying out the terms post-marriage anyway right yeah post-relationship what's the difference it's kind of tough because there's a lot of limits to what you can and can't do and that's why it becomes almost a no-brainer if you're going to get married i'm sorry if you're going to have a kid because as soon as you're going to have a kid you're bound in a way that's legal no matter what you're still obligated so you may and and you should i would want to have a kid with that idea that i am this is my partner um and so then it makes a lot of sense to me because we're i'm planning on being with you like pretty much come hell or high water anyway for for the next 18 years right that's a long enough time where i'm like we may as well do it and i hope it works forever and it never falls apart but uh that's where when you're having kids then then now it makes sense to me okay are you would you say let's because you're about to get married in a month right yeah are you nervous um i'm only nervous that um i can be i'm not worried about her i'm gonna be honest with you i i want to make sure that i i'm doing my part and i like i'm the awesome partner that i think that she deserves because she she's already been that like i think i have more room for growth and improvement than she does okay so so being nervous only because like i said you you the ideal situation is that nothing changes but i guess you don't know till you do it do you are you answering this and i know to answer this but i want to i want to like put it out there and talk about it yeah and unpack it are you being practical about love and marriage yes yeah explain um we we will have an agreement together you know and it's not even just a matter of trust or mistrust it's for clarity like honestly it's for clarity uh and we had to have a lot of conversations about it and talk about it and be very thorough because the only thing i don't like you know me i don't like ambiguity i don't like when things aren't clear i want things to be clear i want everyone to be comfortable i want everyone to know and hash out questions i don't want to leave anything to be figured out later if it had to be figured out you know and i wouldn't want anyone to um have doubts about what was going to happen later not myself nor my partner so you know we have to we had to go through that process together yeah and you know being involved in businesses with with yourself and with with other partners of ours um you i also feel that i owe it to them too because um i've been involved in situations where people were splitting up and saw what kind of a toll it took on the business because there was no clarity there and so for me it's like i have a duty to my partners to avoid that and it's actually even written into operating agreements where that needed to be done so that this didn't happen down the line so like that anyone any one of us who was getting married the the the partner had to understand that they would never have a claim to the business right right right just to keep it easy yeah um kiana carter dr carter uh she said shout out to her in super chat i'm hollering i'm shouting out all the super chats and we're talking answering your questions or reading your comments she says marrying an affluent mate seems challenging since independence is key very interesting now the trend is this men are you know they've done polls i don't know who they ask they didn't ask me did i ask you i didn't get asked i never get asked these polls but anyway the polls say this the numbers say that uh they pull men and women from 18 to 34 and since the 90s men have been looking at marriage as being important is not that important it's been going down i think it was something like 39 down to 25 women has been going up like they want marriage right um also however the numbers do show that less and less people are getting married right um divorce rates is around 50 so it's funny i was reading there's one thing it said like the average marriage or wedding costs around 30 000. and he said by the time you finish paying it off you gotta start paying for the divorce because around the three to four mark year uh is when for a three or four year mark is when typically they start falling apart and the divorces happen right which is so interesting so you know it she said she speaks on independence and it looked like the women in places where women are more educated and women are more educated than men nowadays and women not having better careers they're also being more single right so i mean where we at with that like how do you see that i think women who are educated and accomplished are more discerning like they're not going to get married as quickly they're going to be more picky with a mate and i think that's going to lead to hopefully a lower divorce rate down the line like when when they get someone that they really want like that someone that comes along that they feel is like better than them or equal to them or whatever the whatever they're looking for hopefully that would be a good thing for for decreasing the rate of divorce because they took their time and picked someone out that was like really good for them versus like settling sooner someone who wasn't educated and didn't have anything going on or had less figured out i feel like they're more likely to kind of want to hitch their wagon to something if they don't have anything going on yet for themself that that fear of you know not survival in the most basic sense but like getting somewhere in life they might want to find a mate quickly and may pick someone that wasn't ideal for them so so do you think that because you know as we all know there's a lot of talk now about men women relationships yadda yadda and a big narrative is that it's a problem and maybe people are not saying this identically like this but the the energy around the conversation is it's a problem the more women want independence and education and these good jobs they are limiting limiting their pool of men to either choose from or be positioned to be chosen from right right um because they're doing better than a lot of guys right and typically women don't want a guy that's not doing as well as them right so is that is that a thing or i mean what you said i kind of agree with but i see both ways i do feel like women you know getting educated and elevating your your your life your standards of life and these that things like that you will be in a higher level of people to socialize with to be chosen or choose or whatever and i we can't say a person that's more educated and with a better career as a better person we can't say anything like that but i don't know maybe just you know it's just a higher level of existence per se in society uh i think that's not a bad thing i don't think so i think we got to rule out the extremes we know personally some extremes of of people who are like so exceptionally driven it might make them hard to be a a partner and i'm talking about ladies like to to my it makes it a very like uh it completely like narrows down the amount of you know men who would who would be a good fit for you do you think you think someone like that what do you think the likelihood of someone like that of finding that mate well i think it's more likely that they're gonna either carry on that season of their life until they feel like they fulfilled it and then their mentality will start to change what you're looking for will start what they are looking for will start to change um or that they will have a very difficult time probably ongoing if that never happens why is that they don't respect the man i think i think that i can't speak for each individual but for some it might be that their the need for them to achieve uh exceeds the the need they have to satisfy a partner and that's a really hard dynamic for a man to exist in right because a man wants to be that that person right and but but i have seen on tv never in real life but i've seen i've seen on tv men be you know secondary we're at like reality no like sitcoms but i'm saying it's been portrayed uh what's it called it's called working moms the show like a couple of a couple of the the dads make less money than the woman um and i do know a couple of people um who the the woman makes a little more than the man or like they're really close but that's a lot different than than like the the woman who's an ultra achiever and is like really trying to push the limits on everything um because you're kind of like taking the role that the man would traditionally play and most men have been raised that that's the idea too so it's just hard to cope with however so eliminate those people and let's talk about the real idea here which is that women can better themselves with education and work ethic taking care of their bodies valuing themselves that to me does not at all come to odds with you finding a man i think that just puts you in a position to get a better man that's it women wanting to be educated earn money like have a good solid job and career i i mean my own personal life but also other people i know they've met a guy who they felt you know what it was worth it's i had something good going but it's worth me now believing that this is my my future's with this guy and they're not going to quit their job until maybe they have kids or whatever but they're they're understanding like hey i i really want to be with this guy and this guy blows me away and he he's got what it's going to take to take care of me but they already had something good going on their own but they were just willing to put it aside right okay so what about the data that shows that these women these types of women that we're talking about are less successful in getting married they're not getting married i don't know if we're talking about the these women who is the data about women who just went to college no as women that are high higher education and better careers like places like that is more single women than places is not like that i see well if the data was saying that they are less likely to get married um then hopefully they're more they're less likely to get divorced when they get married as well i don't know if that if that's true or not i know but i mean if it's uh overwhelmingly large number of women that's not getting married i mean i think that's i think that's a problem in itself yeah that's if they want to be married i don't know maybe they don't want to be married yeah i don't know i don't know of i'm sure there's people that don't that want to be lonely yeah or just don't want to be married right away or something but i don't even think that's i don't know the whole right-of-way thing i think about is is a slippery slope because as time uh go moves on your the windows are getting close smaller and smaller for you you know as you age as you age especially women and ladies don't get mad at me but it's it's true you know a man could be 50 years old with a 22 year old girlfriend it's a normal thing you don't really see that the other way around right and if you do it's frowned upon you know and people can say well that's a double standard like it is what it is it is what it is right uh super chat uh dr carter she says when i get a man we have we have to be a power couple and make generational wealth so our why we got married will be the foundation that we remember okay okay i understand the concept of wanting a partner that you can build with that's that's totally a viable thing i think that's what i'm i'm trying to have is have a relationship where we're adding value to each other so that we come out better at the end of it all but it doesn't have to be where both couples are earning crazy incomes it could be where one has a more moderate one the other one makes more but they support each other and and make it possible for the other person to to earn more as well right right right right um i don't know where i stand a hundred percent one marriage and you know i never heard that concept which you said excuse me in terms of like only getting married if there's kids going to be involved you know um i personally like kind of like like we're locked in because i feel like this um a relationship it has to be something important there to make it last to make it really work right and love i don't think love is strong enough is enough right so and if kids are not there and if you love this person you really want to be with this person what's going to be important enough right so you have different things like i think business right all right we're making money together so that's an additional reason for this to work you know what i'm saying and i think that's a smart tactic if you want to try to stay with a person because look if you base everything off of feelings and love you're going to get divorced immediately it ain't going to work because you can feel like this one day and then next next day like this or in the same day you can i [ __ ] hate this [ __ ] you know what i'm saying but you don't really mean it you just people will offend each other people will hurt each other's feelings unintentionally sometimes intentionally depending on how severe it is you know it's not that big of a deal to where you got to break up so these things happen this is a normal these are these are normal human dynamics nobody gets along forever is this a that's a weird thing right so yeah it can't be just feelings it can't be based on feelings i don't think i think it's got to be a practical um situation and approach in that manner but i think i'm okay with marriage without children you know because it's like look i want to lock in with this person i mean i can't see the future right whatever in my my philosophy is whatever happens happens you know i do think it's wise to do a prenup right and it's to protect both parties and just to be fair you know and uh but i do see i do see benefit and i see a huge benefit in being married or in that stable type of situation but i don't see if you remove the legalities of like divorce who gets what i think the the big mitigation to that being painful is the prenup right especially if there's no kids involved so it's pretty much 100 to prenup is that that pretty accurate it is yeah and just from the research that i've had to do um not because i wanted to just because it was necessary um you know even with it in place there's certain complications and things that that can be done and people fight over the validity of a prenup later so it's like you have to take extra steps even to even make sure that it was valid and legal and like you have to do a bunch of it's like a ceremony of things you have to do in order you cannot write down uh like hey you and me agree to this thing and sign it together no there's got to be lawyers involved on both sides there's waiting periods it's a whole ordeal to where even like if you miss a step in this dance later on the validity of that can be challenged so like it's not even a hundred percent like it's like 90 and i mean 90 not 99. like one of the biggest things that people do is try and fight prenups later on down the line so even that's kind of just it's kind of lame the whole thing but like i said the ceremony and the idea of committing to someone i am down with i'm totally down with that without babies without without i'm down with that idea but the fact of the business arrangement that it's become especially if you're a high achieving guy or girl whatever if you're a high achieving person uh and you're like business especially the biggest problem is business i'll tell you that um we encountered this a little bit earlier in the year um when we had to do taxes remember those big chunks we had to pay imagine that you had to pay money to a former significant other a spouse or mother of a child or whatever for money that you didn't even actually earn like your company earned it and the the money was never paid to you because the company needed it for growth and paying its employees or whatever but then you had to make payments based on that hypothetical income even though you never saw it so that that happens you know if stuff's not very specifically spelled out it's just a bunch of weird stuff that that kind of sucks and it'd be better you would obviously rather if you were you know if you're the the one who has to pay the money to like be able to have your discretion about that like to say like okay this is what i can afford to pay out i want to be a upstanding guy or girl you know whoever is the partner who can who's the bread winner i want to be an upstanding partner here's what i can afford to pay and and be honest about that or be righteous about it and not not try and screw the other person over but um clearly people can't be trusted to do that that's why we have the laws the way we do but what sucks about it is the long and drawn out fighting process that that usually takes place it's never it's not really been smooth in anyone that i've really seen it was like okay you just take that i'll take this and we'll be good i haven't really seen that i've seen it you have yeah i mean i'm sure it's rare but i i know someone really good good friend of mine was it with two was it with the with the big income disparity between the two people oh that's that's yeah and this person she took a like a settlement and i think it was about a year of living of housing um but she was hit with with tax bills for this this person right she it was a stressful situation for her you know and um but she she wanted her thing was she wanted closure she wanted to be out she didn't really fight for anything you know so she got a minimal payout you know and i know that sounds bad to a lot of people a payout you didn't do anything for this but you know it is what it is if you're taking some typically we're taking and we got to keep in mind we're speaking from our perspective right like people that are high earners business businessmen or what have you chances are that we're taking somebody from their life and bringing them into ours right it's not like we're just meeting in the middle or we're going to where they are or whatever so having somebody kind of change course of their life you know because i'm asking i think i do i think there's a little you know some compensation at the end of the day if it don't work out like i just want you to be cool comfortable and you know i don't want that on my my karma agreed yeah and just because a lot of people have this idea especially i think women that a prenup is a is a document that's entire like set up to screw over a the lady or the lesser earning partner it doesn't have to be what's in a prenup is completely up to the two people right it's an agreement on what's gonna happen and how it's gonna happen right including things like what's the payments going to be afterwards or what type of things are going to be considered how they're going to be calculated so it's not it's not even going to be necessarily a bad or good thing for the lesser earning partner it's just a thing that's clear at least you know what it is and even if you it'd be better almost to have that versus having it up in the air if that guy is is particularly a guy or girl is particularly shady or willing to do things that are below board um they can move things around and make it to where they have almost no income or have almost no money and have to pay nothing if they wanted to so like that's a possibility and it that that happens too where there's horror stories of of women ending a marriage and then getting nothing almost because the guy was was i don't want to say clever to sound good but like but had the the means to do that to make it really difficult for her to get anything right okay so i got a question for you and for everyone in the chat um if a woman is earning more than the man and it don't work out should the woman pay should the woman compensate the guy when it's over if i'm the guy no but um you know i guess the system has to be set up in a way that's not gender specific so the laws would be the laws and the calculations if you left it up to that would be possibly you know causing the man to have to get paid and i guess i understand that too the same way if if the dynamics were reversed um and the guy was like okay i'm i'm working everything i have on whatever the girl pro pulls the guy into his life or i guess if the guy inserts himself into the girl's life and business or income streams um there would probably have to be something figured out um because if that happened and she let him and that's what he was doing for for a time frame of one two three however many years there's got to be probably something figured out at least as a transition period it's kind of like at that point it's kind of like a severance package if he was honestly working with her but uh am i a fan of that type of arrangement would i ever want to be in that type of arrangement no not myself right i would probably as a guy just want to keep my i guess pride you would call it and just not not take anything right okay so i'm seeing some answers uh keona says if he helped her build the wealth he should give me the money so he can move on huh you mean she should give him money um nah there's a situation i'm thinking of like where the guy didn't really necessarily help maybe hindered yeah you know and uh you feel like you should get some i don't think i don't think that that's i i understand there's a legal framework right however i don't think that that's okay i don't like i don't like it personally right to each their own and then you can make the argument well things should have been put in place right but you know typically i don't know i just have a problem with it you know i have a problem with it i don't really respect that for a guy to just take give me give me give me you know um be a man be a man right uh i feel like it's more rewarding at the end of the day because i don't feel like one would be happy with that money you know what i'm saying deep down in their heart look at themselves and you know the the lies that they have to tell to to make this okay to people you know um i know if it was me it would kill me in my heart unconsciously i couldn't deal with that so but to each their own people can sleep at night is what it is but to me all money is not good money yeah you know i agree like i said if it was me if i was if i somehow found myself in that situation the reward or satisfaction would be to be able to move on and do something great myself to you know to get back out there and not be attached to that person anymore if that's what i needed to do right so it would it wouldn't be to try and take from the previous situation it would just be to move on and do something great on my own right all right so we got a bunch of i i sent a uh i did a story post on instagram and just asking everybody do y'all believe in marriage or whatever right we got a lot of responses right so let's go through some of them uh let's see uh someone said chief jackie said from my parents perspective no because it brings out true colors and usually ends up being bad okay that's his perspective uh someone else says i used to not but i'm open to it now told it's a form to celebrate the love with your fam okay i think that's kind of a naive look at it when you just i me personally i don't think it should be based on love that's just my personal opinion love should be there right but i think a relationship a marriage can be successful if there's no inherent love there if it's just a real this makes a lot of sense you know well there's a lot of arranged marriages that uh have higher success rates than than regular marriages because they made sense and they go into it in a more practical manner yeah they trade goats for now listen let me not sound like um a [ __ ] love i love love like i'm all about it that's ideal having a loving relationship that works out is ideal but i don't think that i think that there should be some some conversation even in a relationship yo this is my expectations what are yours let's put everything on the table right that way you give that person who you're about to do it can mitigate the [ __ ] down the line like i didn't know you was like this or that or whatever right so you're putting things out there you're letting people know what you're good with dealing with you know what i'm saying they let you know what they're good with dealing with and what they want and we can all make it a decision to move forward or not you know especially doing that early on right before it's a lot of feelings already developed and everything so it's easy to be like yeah oh i can't have three girlfriends i'm out of here or whatever it may be well you know what you know what the number one cause of divorce is what is that money i knew that so with that being the case it makes so much sense to have a business component to your marriage and what i mean is for your partner and you to both understand how you make and spend money and how you plan to make and spend money as a couple if there's like one piece of advice that i would give people who are getting married considering getting married if you're already married well you may as well do it now if you're not having done it later you're going to have to at some point you have to come to terms with how you guys are both making and spending money because that's what really causes problems down the road is when there's a huge core disconnection between the two people either the guy isn't making as much money as he's supposed to in the because he's like projected a different picture or he spends too much money or the girl vice versa one of those two things as well if you align like hey this is how much money comes in these are our expenses and you guys both kind of line up on that then it doesn't shock people later on down the line where when once you get married you look at each other your honeymoon's over the wedding's over all that now you got to live and then all of a sudden the first time that the guy or the girl does something that the other one didn't expect with their money now it becomes a problem and then this recurs over and over again so that has to be understood and that can be part of these types of agreements before you get married or just a good discussion where you actually are open about it because people aren't they just aren't they don't talk about it from from like all the reading i was doing one of the big things that people say after they get divorced is yeah we should have talked about money beforehand we should have understood how each other really did things because we never talked about it till after the marriage uh keanu said oh hold on we got the blind archer um shout out to blind archer he said i think the issue with successful people getting together is leadership and control successful independent people don't want to give it up or compromise typically men accept less successful women i agree with that um you know i think the notion that men date down is a normal thing women date up you know i have no problem with that right i'm not looking up for i'm not looking at for oprah but if oprah if you're single though i'll let you boy i'm just saying i'm just saying nah but uh i'm kidding um i have no problem being a breadwinner that's just my just that's how i'm designed right and i feel like it's a sense of um uh meaning you know uh you know because life like you say what is life about right it's what we choose to how we choose to define it we we add value we add meaning to it right so yeah one of the to nets of being a stand-up guy in my opinion for my my rules to myself is to be able to take care of my household a hundred percent right so um yeah that's a true thing so you know we pulling women up to our status well you know to our world is a thing uh there's a there's a quote or it's just something to where like a king can you know marry a peasant and make her a queen right but it's never the other way around you know that's an interesting thing so that is an interesting thing is that the laws of nature was that all constructed i think it's constructed why is it is it though let's look at nature all right so let's say uh a pride alliance i don't think they have any formal communication verbally or written and typically well the man is you know the pack leader or whatever it's called he has a little concubine of about you know four to eight uh lioness right that's his that he mates wouldn't have children with other men may come and challenge him for his his women he fights them off protects them runs them off it's his right he's the king of that that situation he's the it's a patriarch situation right and it looks like it's like that throughout most of nature i'm sure there's some weird not weird some different species but that's not the case but it seems like for the sentient beings that we know exists that's the the protocol so i i don't know it seems like it's it's more of a the natural order of things well i guess maybe with the idea that like a woman could become a queen by marrying a king because the king is still the one who's the the leader i guess um who's the one who's in charge or making the incision absent of the king the queen is right right until one of her children one of her sons right because then that's why that's why i'm saying it's a it's a societal constraint because look that kid still can't make a man a king right but what i was gonna say is that man's blood is going to become a king so it doesn't it's not that the lineage ends there and then they got to pick a new one and it was still the man who made it with her and created the baby with her and that one's good i guess i'm thinking of like the current king and queen queen of england right because her her husband the the the king that's dead right his seed is gonna be the king not her husband not the prince you see what i'm saying say it again so her husband that died before her noodle died yeah his son one of his sons will be the king right just because he was already around right but if he didn't have uh if he didn't if it wasn't for him and then she had married someone else like if he died and they'd never had kids and she married someone then that would be the king well this part this [ __ ] is a construct obviously that's what i'm saying and it's even weird that we're talking about them yeah like but i get it that's the easiest king in queensland yeah it's the one that we know right here but it's like who the [ __ ] cares right you know but i'm sure the wild says i'm sure we can look at some examples in history where a a uh soldier or or lower class person rose up to to take charge i'm sure there's some stories exactly plenty of that right so you couldn't you can kind of become a king um yeah from from lower means yeah yeah that's typically the case that's a more glorious story right but i'm just saying generally speaking women don't level a man all the way up to they're not king makers like that you know what i'm saying um i'm i don't want to sound chauvinistic i hope that don't sound bad but but i think that the difference is what we think each person is supposed to do like a woman isn't going to make a king because a king has to kind of like make himself you have to you have to do the things that make you a king um and if the woman is the queen and mary's a guy well then she's still the one who has like you like we talked about the bloodline is going to be forget the bloodline thing i'm talking about like in the real world practical world right so we got yeah we have to examine it uh what what like what successful woman but like let's just say that i'm going to be married and that arpi's going to be my queen right well what's to be expected of her as my queen we call her my queen right you're my queen oh and i'm your king well what is to be expected now like from that queen it's it's the the roles of that are kind of a little bit more inherent than like if a really successful girl marries a guy and says you're my king like it's almost like he wasn't like what we think of as a king what that word means to us he wasn't that probably like if it's the situation where she was above him he probably wasn't that the dynamic just wasn't right but does do she completely exalt him and like honey you run the money you tell me what to do now and she just put him in position is that a thing you see that happening do i see a woman putting a guy in control well i guess i guess from from our own experience that's kind of like what happens a little bit it could happen i guess so yeah yeah you kind of tell me what to do or guide me or or i expect you to i hope you can okay we kind of know a situation but that's not what i'm saying because the guy's gone right i'm saying to where's his show now you know what i mean but now i don't know i think that's i think we're reaching right now yeah it's it's tough there's there's probably exactly what we're reaching because i feel like it's a natural order to [ __ ] yeah and it's that the man typically leads the man typically is is typically a patriarch situation throughout all walks of life and there's a lot of conversation about that like just being a patriarch right and i heard uh jordan peterson talking to a woman about that and you know he was trying to challenge it but i don't think it necessarily has to be challenged because i don't think a patriarchy is inheritantly wrong or you know oppressive or anything like that you know what i mean so and if you got both parents at home it's a patriarch at home most likely you know what i mean dad is running [ __ ] you know so i don't see anything necessarily wrong with that and i i maybe i'm naive but i think most women want that i think women do want a man to lead i don't think women want to lead men right yeah i don't think so yeah so i think it's normal is it normal though because it's a lot of conversation about this [ __ ] it's like [ __ ] who they hold careers talking about this [ __ ] you know what i'm saying is it normal or are people doing things out of proportion do women generally want men to lead they i think generally they do but is that natural or has that been built in by society i guess that's the real question so here's here's the thing so there's a lot of talk and shout out to jordan uh yeah jordan peterson but that's not what i'm talking about talking about now uh uncle kev kevin samuels um he he says a lot about how women are they need to i guess to simplify his position is women need to put themselves in position to get chosen to be married you know what i'm saying uh even if it's by an average man just lower your expectations if you're shooting too high and you're not you know on that status or whatever but it's like men gotta [ __ ] really lead though you know what i'm saying i feel like we're not talking about the conversation it's only one-sided it's on the women what the women are not doing or doing or whatever right it's never on the men you know and people people get butt hurting me because i i always tell me yo we got to level the [ __ ] up you know it's not all on the women yeah they got to be on point two but we don't have to choose a woman that's not on point i'm not i'm not if i see some listen i've had my fair share dating right and you know me like things are end fast for me because if i see deficiencies i'm out i'm like i'm not going to do this because i don't want to waste my time with something i know is not going to i'm not going to be happy with the end of the day or i might have problems so i exit the situ i exit stage left you know what i'm saying so but i do feel like men gotta uh we gotta have our [ __ ] together yeah i'm saying we gotta have our [ __ ] together and and and qualify ourselves to properly be the leaders of our households it seems like and it's not for everyone it's not like it's the only way but for me what feels the most right in my life experience and the people around me and society as a whole is for a man to be with the woman that he is um that he is slightly above in terms of means and accomplishment um and for a woman to be with a man who's a little bit better than her in those in those areas to allow the roles to be more defined like not to say that the women shouldn't try and achieve and that the men shouldn't try and achieve like we should both it's kind of like you got to just be the best person you can be guy or girl be the best version of yourself and then you're going to find the mate who kind of falls within that like as a girl a little bit better than you as a guy a little bit less than you in in not just looks or just money like kind of the average of all these things together um you're going to have as a guy like you said you're going to shoot down just a little bit probably and as a girl you're going to try and shoot up just a little bit probably and sometimes it's not it's more than a little bit because we can completely you know if it matters what you value too but you know you can find some you can find a diamond in the rough right that just hasn't figured out the financial side or whatever that's what i'm saying and we should be but if we go and get her get her we better be able to maintain it and take care of it properly you know what i'm saying so um i'm not opposed to that um but you think you think there's gonna be naturally a need for some separation that creates these definitive roles of the man being the more dominant of the two in terms of the providing aspect of the relationship i do i think so i think so too that's just how we feel and we agree that's just how we feel it it just feels it fits in the grooves better you know have you ever dated a woman who was doing better than you no okay yeah even equal to you no no because you know so even look this goes back to six years let's get perspective to these people you know when are you considering real dating because it has to be as an adult like yeah but i'm even saying since 16. okay uh even since the age of 16 i was working before other people were working i like you know i would work at two jobs or i would do a couple things to try and make money even watching cars and i would gladly spend that money like on dates and stuff like just trying to like you know have fun just just being a kid but um even since then i had a little bit more maybe i'm trying to think did i even date anyone who's it could have been that like maybe i had come across a girl whose family had more money but that didn't happen either just because you were around people who are kind of similar to you you wouldn't be around people who are disproportionately wealthy when i was college i dated a girl whose family was very college that would happen yeah very prominent didn't happen for me and i'm not gonna lie i was like i can't i'm not on i'm not on there they won't accept me they won't understand like i'm not doing big things like them you know what i'm saying so i removed myself from that situation you know what i mean and and when sometimes we we hear about guys like having these issues with women these women problems um you know sometimes listen if you don't feel like you're equally yoked get out of it or stay in it and feel like [ __ ] feel feel demeaned you know what i'm saying and then have developed these kind of uh issues towards women you know sometimes when i say i've had my fair share of issues with women before right i learned every situation though so if i was in a situation where something was extremely uncomfortable for me and that [ __ ] hurt my feelings or whatever you know the next time if i see any inkling of that i'm gonna get out of it now when i was young i might have stumped my toe multiple times in the same on the same rock but i did learn my lessons you know and one thing about me you're not going to have me in a situation where oh i'm not going to willingly be in a situation where i'm uncomfortable you know what i'm saying i might try to look past certain things at times and you know i've been in situations when you're like bro what are you doing this is not this is not you're a very nice person and i remember one time a couple years ago you're telling me like yo bro you got to stop that that's not for you it's not you know what i'm saying and uh you know and you were right so i had to remove myself out of that situation but yeah when feelings are involved sometimes you kind of you nestled in you know especially when your intentions are good with somebody so you know uh people gotta be accountable for their decisions and yes in a relationship it could be very difficult to make the right decisions why because there's an unpractical thing entity that exists what is that your feelings you got to be able to put them shits to the side because feelings would get your feelings hurt feelings get your feelings hurt right feelings will get you hurt well being deep in your feelings will get you hurt right now i've gotten to the point to where i'm so honest with women it's it's not going to be any heartaches you know what i'm saying on my part me giving them or getting them right because i'm i am i wish you could be a fly people if you fly in a room with these conversations i'd be having because i lay everything out as no surprises this is me my lifestyle take it or leave it i'd love for you to be in it but i i totally understand if this is not for you you know what i'm saying and uh you usually no issues the issues for maybe it'd be more personality things or if somebody lie to me i can't overlook that kind of [ __ ] you know what i'm saying so and lying is a lot more than just saying something that's not true it's walking you in an area to make one think that you're a certain way when you're not or whatever you know what i'm saying but i don't do i don't like what's your number one no this is a uh i'm pulling out what's the number one thing it would definitely be lying that's different yeah it'll be lying because once someone is known to tell you lies i can't trust now you can't yeah and then it's like what's the point of this the whole thing that we're trying to do here we can't do can a person be 100 honest i don't think we need to be a hundred percent honest but we need to be able to have that line you basically got to trust your partner's line of like what because like you don't want someone to like hurt your feelings like on purpose or like be over late like there's a difference between there's also a difference between being telling the truth and being a liar or just being rude you know like difference like i need to notice because yeah let's just say let's say you don't prefer something you can cue it in a positive way and still convey the message or you could compute you could cue it in a negative way and say like i really this i hate this or this is so stupid or wrong versus like hey like could we try this way like we do it this different way you know they do it with athletes they and they this is a like one of the stats from from exos when they like run trials on on nfl athletes when they're training them if they tell them a change that they want to make by telling them in a way that's like specific and directive versus saying negative like don't do this versus saying do that instead like for example let's just say like they were squatting and they were uh bending over too far with their torso you could say stop bending over don't bend over or you could say like chest to the ceiling like when they give a positive cue with a directive it works out 90 better to correct the behavior versus telling them what not to do because that didn't really change and you didn't really give them the insight they needed to make a better action say hey i really don't like that when you do that like say hey like this would be better if you if could you do this this way for me you know so yeah there's there's like levels to what the truth is but i don't want anyone to ever be on the side of lying like to say things that are outright false but are there levels are there levels to where the truth is or is it because my understanding of the truth is you're honest or you're deceptive well i don't think that so like i'll put it no no no let me let me let me uh qualify my statement i don't i'm not saying being rude with your honesty right but but sometimes the truth it hurts people's feelings but that's not the truth giver's fault is it because listen i i say that because i've hurt people's feelings before and i'm like but i'm just being honest you know what i'm saying yeah maybe i could have softened the blow or whatever but i don't know i just think that's that's really all it comes down to and if we're supposed to be caring about the other person that's what you would do and that's what that's what we have to do i've tried it both ways myself um and if you got to tell me something that's not not the best it's better to say it you know you you've done it you've done it and i tell you thanks for saying it that way like that made it a lot i was just so much more receptive to whatever you had to say yeah just because of how you said it like okay he's considered this in in a way that uh he he's he it just makes you feel different it just makes you feel like i never i never ever if anybody i know is out here listening i never want to hurt anybody's feelings that i care about nobody i never want to do that you know but there's times it's people whose feelings i do want to hurt you know and these are like really bad people or people that has really done me or you or someone in a circle really foul right you know and it's like i can't go put my hands on them but i want to get as close to that line of them feeling that that stress as possible so you know but right now i'm talking about people that we like right so we're yeah i never no one i like i ever want to hurt their feelings yeah but but we might sometimes by saying things in a certain way so that's the only thing it's still you're right it's still the truth and and i've even said like i was like what's the truth whatever i was saying but but i do understand i understand like what do we really what is the point of saying it out loud is because we want to see some kind of a change hopefully it's not just to just to say it we're saying it because we hope that something different will happen in the future so if that's the goal then then the approach is everything and i think listen with somebody being truthful to you like really honest i think that's the best case scenario that's such a polite thing to do to somebody there's nothing worse than being misled and being deceived right excuse me excuse me and that's the side of the that's the side of the lie where you like say something that's not it's actually not accurate that's a lot oh that's great yeah but it's not great you'd be like that's that's interesting yeah no i think we should change this like it's good but like but i i like that so about this i soften it up like oh you like that you like that i know i know all of the techniques that i might guess when he doesn't like something it's like oh have you thought about this oh that's oh that's what i feel like i could say things without saying this sometimes yeah okay okay interesting yep interesting is a good one interesting that's interesting all the tactics uh we got a super chat we got super shots uh vladimir bring coach greg adams he's an expert on this i'm not sure who that is uh thots want to level up in the usa capitalism what are you talking about bro what are you thoughts about the world it's not like this how about this i don't know any thoughts you know then stop hanging out with thoughts you know people will divorce queens great the king i don't know what you're talking about bro vlad anyway uh shout out to chris reeves reese you just bring it back bring it back uncle t bring it back to my homie chris we way up there here you go here does he have another one nice right here all right chris shout out to chris appreciate you on me me and my wife me and my wife in love but ultimately it was our ability to build wealth there you go and grow spiritually together that makes our marriage work i like that chris see i i have a notion like this um when i settle down and get married i would like for my wife and i or my wives and i i mean what i mean to constantly want to better ourselves mentally you know read you know try to get smarter spiritually and when i say spiritually i mean like trying to be a better person like make better decisions physically being in shape eating well exercising you know financially you know um always trying to level up and renew ourselves because i feel like when you do that it's not going to get boring you're looking at a new person all the time you know you're looking at somebody like [ __ ] i gotta i set my [ __ ] up you know what book was that okay oh damn she's reading that all right you know what i'm saying and that's that's just my that's my lifestyle right solo so whoever i'm with will have to adopt that as well i would like for her to you know and you know there's been times where that outdated girls that beautiful whatever but just wasn't into the things that i'm into and i just lose interest you know it's not it's not like i don't think i have it to where not right now at least to where i could just take just some beautiful girl you know i'm saying just you know you're just here you know what i'm saying i need somebody that like we can be on a safe same wavelength even with music [ __ ] like that i dated somebody from australia who didn't know nas was it was like oh there's a video up here on my youtube channel she didn't know who nash was and it hurt me so bad i'm like damn culturally culturally this is not a thing do you have feelings about or a thought currently about if you would prefer maybe you're indifferent to it but would you prefer to have a wife or permanent partner working with you daily or would you prefer if you could choose for them to have their own thing separate that's interesting because i've been thinking about that i don't know i i think i would i think that i would want i would be okay with my partner with me daily right but i would want to be able to press a pause button when i need it you know what i'm saying so because i think there is some some health and missing each other you know i think that's healthy right um and then people get tired of each other that [ __ ] happens but yeah i would want my person i wouldn't have a problem with that personally what about you but what about your preference if you if you were choosing if you could have it either way just whatever you choose hmm well i think i would want to to work with me i'ma tell you why you know how i am so there's been times in business where we're we're thinking about hiring somebody to help us do some aspect that they're an expert in right what do i always want to do with cert especially with new stuff come on board be a partner right in some capacity because that mean you gonna this is your [ __ ] so you need to [ __ ] kill it right you need to see the [ __ ] that i don't see you know what i mean keep me on point too so i feel like when somebody's really invested and for us i know that you relate to this as well work is a huge part of life you know what i'm saying because it's not like we just work at the grocery store or a place that we don't care about this is our these are our businesses that you know at some point our children is going to be a part of we our family members are a part of right so i would love i would think that my woman being a part of my world in some capacity would be kind of ideal you know where you are with it i think where i am currently i i like the idea of being involved but i i prefer that my partner have their own thing that i can also support but but that we each have something separate right that the like the love of our our household and our relationship doesn't kind of get intermingled with with business um to where i think it would be ideal like you know it's also first of all it's great to be able to like learn from each other because you're doing different things versus like the same thing for sure um and then also it's great to have the the ability hopefully at some point to you know to when you finish at work it might be at different hours of the day but when you go home you know it's like a different world and there's no they don't really know the every minute detail of what's going on at work so you fill them in they fill you in but then like from there you're just together and you have your you kind of have three worlds their work life your work life and then your your home is kind of a third one but that you could and are welcome to jump in and support the other person um in their stuff like you know when rp comes to the events or grand openings or whatever or you know anytime we have something significant going on she's going to be there and she she outshines us and makes us feel insignificant yeah it's cool that's fine just keep doing it yeah and then likewise if in the future she you know was to have a clinic or have some kind of an event or opening i could can't wait for my opportunity i told her i was like just wait wait for my my chance to come out for you like when you have something that you need my help for just wait wait who see who's gonna be your number one fan it's gonna be me right i'm gonna be there whatever you need me to do and i like that idea that that was one of my favorite things he's like oh you have something right you have something you like i i get that because i guess my answer is based on i'm not in your situation right your position when you know when i found out your your new girlfriend was a nurse i was like yo that's [ __ ] dope it's so i have look i'm not even you but i have so many questions so i know you already got a million questions it's you can dive into so much right so you know if i had a situation to where my woman did have that kind of profession or something that i was interested in or something that maybe i'm not but i respect it and she's really good at it or passionate about it i would never be like yo just quit that [ __ ] so but i would have no problem with my woman being working with me in my business i can see the reality of that too you know two people who i know uh who you we both know as well um anthony in africa um the booty king him and him and his wife they work together every day they're together they sound kind of weird booty king but he helps girls and his wife they help girls get nice butts yeah that's not a booty king like that yeah get your mind off the gutter yeah come on wherever he's at but they but they work together and run their business together and they they do their thing and they you know they uh they're together most of the time but it seemed like he has this thing like if he goes and wants to play his video games or hang out or do whatever like and she goes out with her girls so they have right there yes you got time but they have a dope relationship and they work together so i you know there's there is evidence of this working as well uh another couple that work together uh chanel and sam right yeah you know and she spots him on four plates right you know what i'm saying yeah they film for each other what i love is simeon you know simeon has is you know has one of the bigger youtube channels huge instagram but he loves taking content for other people right like when it will be somewhere and he'll be like you guys want me to take a picture of you guys and he'll take the dopest pictures right he's just an excellent photographer i told him once he retired that should be his job but they their dynamic works and it's dope and i think that you know in a healthy relationship and a healthy relationship is predicated on two healthy people right you know so with two healthy people coming together they can make any situation work chanel and sim is living proof of that right they're both very sound-minded grounded people that love each other right but they know how to get to the money they're very practical right so and they and they calculate things you know they go into an event they dress the part they got the cameras on deck you know what i'm saying and this is part of this world that we're in right so um i respect that i i see that as to me that's kind of ideal but like your situation is ideal as well you know so anything can work right with healthy people in a healthy relationship anything can work with healthy communication it all works and i do see this and this is coming up again from the conversation with the with the guys with the uh fresh and fit guys and um relating to the whole red pill stuff like it really seems to me based on the examples we just gave as well um and others that i have in my life that the best thing for young men and men period to do is to build value in themselves because that puts you in a position to dictate terms and or be a more powerful uh person in general when it comes to the table like you're gonna if you have a lot of value in yourself not just that you made the most money only not just that you were in shape and not just any other one thing but if you invest in yourself in all the ways to where you actually believe you're a worthwhile valuable person you're not going to just do whatever you're not going to get you're not going to get taken advantage of because you have a value in yourself same thing for women though same goal so i got a all right kiana wait what i earn millions than just give it to husband take over men leave quickly for that ish it was a hypothetical uh situation that we were laying out there's not even a thing forget about don't say it don't get worked up kiana forget i even said it save your millions all right so i have i got tips for anybody i want to listen for guys right cause listen i see you t you ought to give me a seizure with this up and down [ __ ] you know that uh all right shout out to kiana the original definition of nice means to be weak but kind be kind but never kind i'm sorry i don't i don't really know what that means um chris reese two high earners work as long as their mutual respect and or acceptance of rose i'm happy to serve and lead she's happy to submit that's what's up all right so listen fellas now contrary to what some of these other creators try to discredit me from being relatable they say that i'm just he's he's a natural he's been good he's already had it figured out it's not true right i've i've lived that average life beyond beneath average you know what i'm saying i had to build myself up right and not it's not just money if you think only money makes you a high value person you're sadly mistaken right you'll be separated from your money and you really look foolish so listen these are my personal to nets to me being the type of man that i and living a life that i want to live which i've been applying to myself for a long time and i said this earlier when i said in a relationship i think these the two parties should do these things work on this how do you do that you read everywhere you look we got books laying around everywhere and i stopped doing the audio books i'm back buying books every day i got a new book coming in the house to the house you know what i'm saying just i'm fascinated by learning right read right our brains is our most valuable asset the more powerful it is the more vibrant it is i watched warren buffett's documentary and i was just listen i i'm listening to everything but i'm i'm sitting there just fascinated with how powerful his brain is at such an old age he's in his 80s and he speaks like he's 30 28. you know what i'm saying just a vibrant uh of ripe mind so you want to be on that level and not just read but also talk to smart people engage in intellectual discourse and surround yourself with people on your level are better right two i said build yourself spiritually try to become a better person try con listen when i was having i was shout to natalia ct's daughter we was talking uh yesterday at the gym at iron addicts and i was like yo i just want to be i used to be not a nice person i used to be short with people very sarcastic just you know i don't want to be i don't want any parts of that you know what i mean i want to be a pleasant human being you know i want to be a nice person i don't want to give off a a mean vibe intimidating violence i just want to be a good dude you know what i'm saying so work on things of that nature um physically build yourself we all know i mean it's there's a lot of low-hanging fruit with building yourself physically but it's so much more to it than what you see right um and financially work on that work on getting the bag you know people can act like this [ __ ] ain't important all they want you're gonna be struggling what is the the median income in this country is 40 some thousand dollars 42 000 something like that 42 000 okay um and you're not just because that's the average it doesn't mean that that's your destiny your destiny is your decisions if you choose you know this is th this is the norm i'm gonna just roll along with it then that's nothing wrong with that that's fine but you don't have to i'm telling you this from experience okay all right so uh next super chat i'm driving and spell check you didn't have to super chat that you could save your money on that one but i appreciate you i the original definition of nice i already write that one see come on man set your game up baby keep it moving yeah so now but but i do i feel like i should listen i remember things from me being a child my son's age and younger right and and when i was a young man i remember these are the things i want to work on i had them and they still here there's a lot of things that i've pivoted away from in my life just as we evolve but that's something that those never changed you know what i'm saying and i don't see them changing in the foreseeable future maybe maybe i'll reach a level of enlightenment to where you know money ain't that important but listen let's be honest that comes when there's such an abundance of money that it's really not important to you anymore right we got to be honest about that like you know there's people that back to warren buffett warren buff buffett is a staunch capitalist right and i respect that i'm not giving money to nobody he said that right at in his old age he's giving all his money away he's becoming extremely altruistic and not just giving it away he's doing it in an intelligent way but these you get to these levels when you touch on certain levels then you can put you can pivot certain positions and perspectives that you once held so maybe that'll happen at some point i'm not i'm nowhere near that right but i would love to be in that position you know i would love to be able to be in a position to if i chose to give my money away it was very meaningful to people because it's that much money that's some g [ __ ] you know what i'm saying it really is yeah so but i'm being 100 with y'all like yeah it's a lot of times people say oh it's easy for you to say that yeah that's true you're right but i'm here but i was where you were at you know what i'm saying you work your way up to these different levels there's a lot of levels in life you know like that guy vlad was talking about the thoughts and it's like bro that's a level that a long time ago i was in that neighborhood and got out of it didn't want to be there get out of those neighborhoods get out of those areas where you're dealing with thoughts there's a lot of levels in life there's a lot of ways to get to different levels in life there's not one path it's not so just because mike had a certain path i had a certain path anyone else you see who's successful at a certain path doesn't mean it's got to be your path you can find your own way to get to your own maximum potential and we each might have a different one who knows what it is it's not even really a point that's like when people would the the analogy here is really strong with people talking about how big they could get you know it's like or how strong they could get don't worry about it because you're not you're probably not going to get there to like your your genetic potential who cares like people try to figure that out with building muscle like what's your genetic potential for building muscle just just keep going because you're probably not going to hit it anyway so you may as well just keep training and keep trying and keep reaching you might hit it but you don't you're not going to know it's not like there's not a genie is not going to pop out and say okay this is it this is as far as you can get you're never going to really know when you're there so you should just keep reaching and trying to get get more whether it's more strength more knowledge that's that's the thing people with these types of arguments they always try and simplify it down to like focusing on one category it's like oh if you just focus on money then you're not going to develop the skills you need to deal with women well why would you only focus on money that's not the option here like and what does that mean just focusing on money and listen but see i have a different perspective on it if you just focus on money you might because you're developing a lot of discipline like dedicated to work work ethic work capacity and people talk about what women want that's what they want they want a man that got work ethic work capacity a man of discipline they respect that when you develop certain strong characteristics and strong being the things that are hard to do and you do them it's normal for you right that's an attractive characteristic to the opposite sex it is what it is right it's attractive to people not even not in a romantic way to other dudes like damn pro is [ __ ] disciplined even friends of mine that i see that discipline i'm like my man's discipline i respect that [ __ ] you know what i'm saying so that is an attractive characteristic and a positive trait that'll never betray you there's nothing wrong with developing these these these these skill sets i want to go back to something uh one of the guys that did a video about me said and i just really didn't appreciate it it was just weird he kind of said i was like some spiritual guru um what did he say some kind of guru self-help woohoo type oh boohoo yeah and all of that [ __ ] and let's let's make a distinction here i don't sell advice right i don't have any dogma that i put out no you know i'm not a preacher and i say preacher because there's a lot of people quote unquote influencers that to me they're like preachers right a lot of preachers they're just selling feelings and [ __ ] you know what i'm saying making people feel a certain way with the things that they say from religious text or whatever and pass around the collection bin and then you have creators on youtube or whatever they make people feel a certain way they they go after what they look at cat philip are weak people people who have deficiencies maybe it's we're getting women right i relate to you yeah man come on yo come on to this side this arm yourself with information you know [ __ ] that they googled right and i'm gonna teach you how to have success with women but these people listen there's a thing with cognitive psychology and suggestive psychology that's very powerful when you're telling somebody something and you're being emphatic and very direct you know sometimes the reality around it it gets blurred out right but you would look at this guy like this guy in particular talking about the the dude with the ponytail the old guy the one that called me some guru [ __ ] right he's putting his characteristics on me i'm not any of that [ __ ] and let's say self-help nothing wrong with that i'm all about self-help because i don't want help from nobody you know i'm saying because i'm a [ __ ] man and i'm built like that i don't want help from nobody so i'll help myself right but i don't i don't like sell these tips you know what i'm saying i don't go and make you know this [ __ ] is just like like a religion in a sense you know what i'm saying and that's the woohoo [ __ ] right and it's targeting people who just ain't figure [ __ ] out yet in due time you figure [ __ ] out when i was in my 20s i don't have [ __ ] figured out i'm saying i was awkward as [ __ ] you know what i'm saying like [ __ ] i wear this like i don't know hey bro what you think and you don't say i'll wear two t-shirts to look bigger sometimes i was skinny you know i mean so young men don't have it figured out we awkward sometimes i was awkward i i was real skinny with the same size feet big head like the same size head like just funny looking you know what i'm saying i grew into as i aged i grew into the swine that i am i guess you know what i'm saying but i didn't start out like that right but i never had no tips and tactics from anybody treat a woman like this do this do that do this do this i'm gonna level you up nah i just figured things out with my life experiences i learned from getting hurt from pain you know what i'm saying i wasn't scarred from pain i learned from pain you touch the stove it's hot don't touch that [ __ ] again very simple principle it's easy but i understand that it is hard sometimes for people to make the right decisions the better decisions it's still hard for me sometimes to make the right decisions you don't say i'm not invaluable you know i make mistakes i try my best to navigate around it though but i do make mistakes and i have made mistakes but anyway i don't know why i thought of that this whole guru [ __ ] that [ __ ] just came to me right now it's like like bruh you're the one you know what i'm saying what we do for money like and they say like oh pandering to the women my youtube channel is like 97 men 3 women what women am i pandering to you know i'm saying yeah and if anything we're potentially causing ourselves problems because most of our uh consumers for products and services we offer is men is men yeah of the a of this type of age group 18 to 35. yeah so 21 or 21-35 so not like do your research ask me let's talk to me hey what do you think about whatever but people will jump out the window saying things that are not accurate right and they're not even the ones you know so don't put your filth on me you know what i mean um what i do to make money will my bro do to make money we have actual products that we create right we put out to the market we have buildings you know we're in our facility and this this we love doing this we make money doing this [ __ ] this [ __ ] like 139 dollars that's not that's not money you know i'm saying i'm not a a streamer a vlogger i do this [ __ ] once in a blue you know what i'm saying i like doing it i love diving and having good conversations with shawn and whatever any of our friends that come up come out sometimes but this is not this is not my livelihood okay if this is my livelihood [ __ ] i'll be i'll be i'd be poor i'd be making 40 000 a year i'm saying this is not my livelihood so don't get it twisted we're doing this [ __ ] because we like to we want to um and we feel that it's needed is necessary the the we see the other side of the equation we want to at least provide our perspective because we think that it's worth considering right and i won't back down to like you know the multitude of people who disagree with me right um because that guy i was looking at that guy's instagram and he's comparing himself to jesus in the sense that everyone hated him everyone hated jesus and killed jesus which is true right but jesus was the truth right bro you're that's not everybody agree with you you preach to your choir you are in an echo chamber you know what i'm saying and people are comfortable with that i don't give a [ __ ] about i don't want to be an echo chamber even when like last year very often i'm in hostile territories trying to have rational conversations with people to try to bring them a grounded solid perspective that they may not understand no is even out there you know um shout out to eric weinstein somebody i respect we can now call each other friends he was speaking on things in the black culture that was not accurate i didn't think he was bad or racist or anything like that but i wanted to have a practical rational conversation with him to correct the things that he was saying so he can understand from a rational black man's perspective who's been through all the different levels of life we had our conversations multiple for hours it was wonderful it was pleasant he conceded to what i was giving him right so i don't do echo chamber stuff at all that is not i have no i don't want everybody to agree with me i don't give a [ __ ] now i said this before i say it again if there's a hundred people that i'm going back and forth with and 95 and i'm like shut the [ __ ] up you don't know what you're talking about you're out of touch well five people get it mission accomplished that's that's cool because there are laws of averages right now some people try to get out of that [ __ ] most don't they stay with the crowd my mentality right i'm not with that at all so the mob can stay to mom that's cool but those five people that get it that was like damn that [ __ ] makes sense it's gonna be a little bit of work but i like that that little bit of work extra work makes you stronger just like in the gym i'm gonna do these three sets and i'm cool all right just did the three sets now i'm gonna do some drop sets now i'm gonna do some pause reps now i'm gonna do some push-ups now i'm gonna finish out with some flies that person is stronger you know what i'm saying and that person is more has more fortitude you know what i mean so more resilience yeah and that person other people want to be that guy's battle buddy they want that guy on a team they want people like that sturdy people not people that's ready to be done this is the easy way this is the shortcut go for it i don't even care people can do whatever they want to do here's the thing these mobs of people make people like us look better to those who matter because people like that entertain themselves is it in this case since we're talking about relationships it's a bunch of dudes complaining about women and [ __ ] right women got it easy women ain't held accountable they're entertaining themselves i have no desire to be with a bunch of dudes complaining about women i'm sorry i don't have it i want to be amongst women enjoying women's company and amongst my homies other dudes that are smart intelligent people that understand life on a higher level than just complaining about women you know what i'm saying that shouldn't even be a that should not be of listen that should not be your focus you know anyway so all right we have super chat super chat uh t is an orange one for twenty dollars if you wanna find that one but i could i talked to this one right here shout out to chris married for seven years for married for seven years together for ten if you don't share a common goal outside of sex lust and arm candy things will fall apart very quickly i can't say that i disagree with that yeah sounds right okay aquinces shout out to coin says bigger agenda being pushed on to the brown and black community we're at war with each other instead of focusing on our kids building generational wealth um i don't know if i believe that there's an agenda placing brown and black against each other i don't know if that's accurate i don't know i don't experience that you know i have plenty of of hispanic close friends you know and it's all love um i know people would like for us to think that we're beefing with each other but i don't think that's necessarily reality there are instances of people not liking each other and having problems but that's going to be with any any group of people and even people interracially but i i do want to like we got some work to do about the whole construct the race in itself because listen we're all just people you know i mean we are people people are people so i mean take race out then what is what is it short hair long hair you know what i'm saying blue eyes brown eyes there's always something but at the end of the day we're all it's cool that we're all different that [ __ ] is awesome [ __ ] would be really boring if everybody was the same you know so yeah i'm not with i don't want to i do recognize issues with race i do recognize it and acknowledge it and would like to do my part to fix what what little bit that i can but i'm not i don't dwell on it i don't use any of that [ __ ] as an excuse and i don't push that you know what i'm saying i push for people to [ __ ] be good people and care about each other and all that kind of [ __ ] and do they think you know what i mean so yeah do you think that there's any uh we've talked about it before you've told me how that there's this sometimes this jealousy like within a race like where people aren't happy for each other or they like talk down on each other like you were saying in the black community that's sometimes a thing yeah i don't know if that's what she might have might have meant but she said brown and black but all right so in the black community yeah it was a thing now i'm gonna back it up to plantation days like days of black folks on a plantation there was a brilliant but evil strategy um for white people to keep black people on plantations divided so uk was divided we would outnumber them on a lot of plantations well why wouldn't we just take over because we're all divided right first of all you got to understand this not all black not all black people were the same people from africa were not all the same right many of them they they were perfect purposefully put in the beginning different tribes mix them all up excuse me to where they couldn't even communicate with each other they didn't speak the same language so they might look the same but they can't speak the same language right you put a white american with a white spaniard they can't speak the same language you know what i mean so um that's that was one dividing factor in itself also you had you had blacks that worked in the house blackstone worked in the fields right blacks that worked in the house got better food better treatment and they were rewarded by telling on blacks in the field right so that caused a lot of hatred and dissension right there um the crackers the one cracking the whip usually with black people don't notice they think it was just white people but white people would have black people whipping other blacks that caused you can imagine the kind of dissension that would cause right there right so there was a lot of um hatred amongst us ourselves on plantations it was an articulated plan though to keep us fragmented and not powerful together because together you're powerful but all separate you're not you know there was many potential revolts the reasons that didn't happen because other blacks were like tell you what i'm saying they were scared about they wanted a better position and can i be mad at them [ __ ] you but when i think about it it's like i understand why they would do that too they just wanted to be safe and they wanted to get better treatment and get sleep in the house get some food trying to improve their life standing true improving their lifestyle it was a really perverted and [ __ ] up situation everything to begin with and united they weren't in it for anything that they did wrong they were [ __ ] kidnapped human trafficked you know what i'm saying across the world but it is what it is they were in that position and they did what they had to do to survive and and look we could debate about what they could've should've did or did whatever but they did now so it don't even matter for them you know i'm saying so so yeah it's a lot of there's a lot of issues that people have interracially but the core of those problems is with that person's self because i'm of these people as well i'm the descendant of these people as well but you know i choose to look at try to look at life different and try to like really do what i can to add quality to my life and position myself and to where i can like sit on top of the perch and look at everything versus looking up not knowing what i'm looking at you know what i'm saying so you know not everybody got that kind of mental wherewithal you know so that's why when i do have an opportunity to speak on these kind of things i do and from and i try to give them a real rational perspective and sometimes maybe my perspective ain't pop ain't super popular with a lot of people because i'm not saying be mad i'm not telling people to be mad and [ __ ] revolt and do this [ __ ] but when it's on the ride and revolt then we got to do what we got to do and i there are situations where i feel like that's necessary but for the most part we need to rise collectively but you can't rise collectively but not writing individually you know what i'm saying yeah and that's 100 self accountability which people have a problem with i don't yeah super chat super chat super chat all right i mean men and women of color being pinned against each other war of the sexes so we won't procreate and create generational wealth divide and conquer um board of sexes i don't think there's a war to sexist you know i don't think there's a war to sexist i think you know if you have a war if you feel like you're a war with the opposite sex that's on you there's no inherent war or pronounced war of men and women or black men black women hispanic and hispanic women you know what i'm saying um love is love uh who you choose to fall in love with is your business um listen a man of color like a black man have a child with a white woman is another black child you know what i'm saying or hispanic woman it's a black child you know so um this is black is a dominant is we have very dominant genes so it can't come out black they don't come out white you know what i'm saying and um you know they have they're half and half i guess genetically but the world perceives them as a black person you know what i'm saying so you know i don't if anything if you look at the data this is the facts black people are not a minority in this world right they say we're a minority in this country and what they do is let's let's say the census right european white people are a minority in the world now ethnic jews jewish people used to not be considered white right they were considered jewish as a race that changed in the 19 the 1900s that recent you know i'm saying that 1900s they're like all right they're white now you're middle eastern not anymore you're now caucasian according to the census right and it looks like asians are starting to be pushed in that direction as well so that makes the numbers look a little different for for white people you know what i'm saying like a lot bigger of a race which is it's silly i think people are getting smarter than that [ __ ] you know what i mean um you know caucasian the term is caucasian it's not white it's caucasian right right that is one that is a descendant of people from the caucus mountains that area your people aren't from there your people are from africa asia minor which now is called the middle east but now they're calling you a caucasian which is interesting do you think that we should move towards getting rid of these racial identifiers like in terms of like census data do you think it's relevant to track i don't know bro i i think it's relevant in a sense now here's the thing if we're not gonna do because let me say my position on like let's say reparations i think there should be reparations towards african descendants of slaves american descendants of slaves i'm sorry right like like would you need to prove that you were the descendant of a slave that's fine it can be tracked okay there should be reparations you know slavery was not that long ago okay um so despite what people say right so every other group of people it seems gets reparations when some some kind of atrocity is done towards them right some form of reparations with us is not the case so i do think so in the terms of tracking for [ __ ] like that yeah right but it don't look like we're getting that you know i'm saying if we ain't getting into that [ __ ] let's wipe it all up let's [ __ ] the census you know what i'm saying yeah what do we what is it for now here's the thing i don't and now and i'm speaking honestly out of ignorance i don't know 100 what what the census is for i don't know you know what i'm saying but you know yeah let's get rid of it like what are y'all afraid of you know what i mean yeah what are you holding on to you know so um circumstance it wouldn't be necessary information attract right if we're americans yeah you would know about age and maybe i guess gender you would want to know about just to know the demographics of the area right but you wouldn't need to know what race people were yeah it just doesn't seem to be uh even income data seems to be more relevant than that like if you're trying to decide what type of business to open in the area right you don't want to open something that doesn't make sense for the crowd yeah i guess there are certain things business-wise you could try i don't know maybe i don't know [ __ ] people are people at the end of the day we all got way more similarities and differences you know what i'm saying and we all want the same thing money love happiness you know what i'm saying planta planta marijuana tequila i'm just kidding i don't want no tequila i do i want some of that tequila that you got on my birthday i need to get the brand name so i can buy stock and 10 bottles 10 bottles you're a baller so you could do that that [ __ ] expensive i need i need i know where it's at i could tell you were the spot i can't remember the name of it though i've been telling people about it and they're like what's it called and i'm like i don't know legend has it doesn't have a name but yeah what do you think about census i think it is good to know those other demographics of an area like um how many people there are like what their ages are i think those things are relevant i guess you could say it's like it's for for political reasons for like representatives who who are like trying to run somewhere like to know who they're serving but that again continues to perpetuate this like idea that these different races have different needs and it's a reality right now i guess you know it's a reality at this point we'd love to get to that point where we are all truly one and there's no differences between people but i just think we need more generations for that i do think that's a reality that we're going to get to i believe we're going to get there like over time over more i do i do too and it's interesting someone that i'm very fond of someone that's been a spiritual leader to me since i was a kid is minister louis farrakhan he's shunned in our society as a racist and an anti-semite and he's not he's simply not his words have been taken out of context you know and used against them but the bigger the bigger situation here is he teaches something very specific to those who listen to him typically it's all black people he teach people to live a refined lifestyle get married educate yourself eat healthy train be righteous you know what i'm saying his teachings is the definition of a conservative of conservative teachings right in the truest sense this man has no scandals never been arrested never been in a fight you know what i'm saying um you know so it's like teachings like that is what people need his teachings you know what i'm saying the the the pillars that he prescribed to people and for how people should live you know because it's all positive it's all things that will put you in a better position and create like a righteous people you know what i'm saying if you meet people that follow the minister stringently okay you've met some of his people like elijah how humble and nice is he and pleasant of a person they're dialed in you know what i'm saying everything that's important that's the norm that is the norm you know what i'm saying so is this frustrating man when you're when you're in the know of something and the society and the media who don't know anything about these people or this person or whatever spends their venomous version of who these these people are what this man is it's sickening bro it's it's just it's like and i try to talk to friends of mine jewish friends of mine that held that position they wouldn't let me get a word in they're yelling i'm like bro i lit okay that talk they're bringing up a quote from the adl anti-defamation league which is a jewish organization right um he said this i said but that's not all do you think that's the only thing he said like you just went on they won't let me say anything i said just said one statement right i know i said i know that speech can i they won't let me talk right if they don't want me to say the reality because of the change he has to change you have to pivot and go against the mob you know what i'm saying the strong thing to do is to go against the mob especially if the mob is wrong you know so you know um i see people getting silenced on social media just they [ __ ] getting shut down or closed for a week you know what i'm saying it's just crazy man like the man teaches people to be good you're sad to be upright human beings and it's a trusted that the media spins it to where he's bad he says mean things he's critical they said he's critical one of the speeches critical to jews like he's critical to jews the muslims the christians the blacks is he's more critical to black people than anybody because he's black right right no one's talking about that but you know as we get older and i'm sure there's a lot of smart people watching us you you see what it is you see that the media and society does have agendas certain people have agendas marketing uh uh you know all of these sites are they gotta listen to their master whoever's spending the biggest marketing dollars you know what i'm saying um so some people are not advertiser friendly you know i'm saying so they get lean these corporations get leaned on on who to put out there and say this about this person that i don't trust nothing nothing in the media nothing you can't i don't choose anything in the video because things that look a certain way is not and we will be very foolish and naive to just believe everything that they say there's plenty of things that i'm sure you've seen things that you know for a fact and they're talking about it completely wrong it's like why would they say that well it's interesting the idea of media because we know that the way media works in the way in general communications work like network style is that there's some type of payment that's what keeps the thing running whether it's cnn or fox or etcetera you need advertiser dollars or corporate dollars to to pay because the viewers are are paying a pretty nominal fee like through their subscription to cable or whatever that contribution is like not very much of the revenue compared to advertising right so you kind of like you almost like have no choice but to fall into a lane then you attract certain type of advertisers then before you know you're trapped you can't put out content that's contrary to those advertisers because then they won't want to advertise with you anymore the other people you already alienated with your previous content they're already with the other station who does who has the opposite viewpoint so you can't get them you're stuck and then you become that kind of outlet right who does this type of news whether you kind of want to or not you kind of almost get stuck there right that's that's like the downfall of old school traditional media new school where you you have certain channels uh on youtube or or podcasts or whatever uh people aren't as reliant on one advertiser um and it doesn't it doesn't they don't fall into these lanes especially if they're not claiming to be political they just have opinions and viewpoints on things they have discussions like how we have they're not going to be biased to a certain frame we're not republican or democrat inherently like we we believe what we believe about a scenario regardless of what that party stance might be on that thing you know so we could just do whatever we want to do and we're not really relying on any particular advertiser actually well i can speak for myself politically i'm a dissident i don't i choose not to participate in either side right and we don't need to we don't need this is not healthy right and neither one of them have any there's no real differentiating factors between the two right um it's just certain talking points to fire up each side right right things that they don't care about or don't believe but they know they you know they we can control them with this emotion over here we can control these guys with this emotion over there right so i don't trust none of it even the stuff towards black people like you know oh them saying so-and-so's racist i'm like i don't i don't care you know what i'm saying i don't trust nothing they say and black people i tell black people all the time like yo don't let the media tug at your emotions and make you feel a certain way you know they like if we just leave it up to the media when the media wants black people to be mad they make us mad about whatever kind of news they show us you know what i'm saying and vice versa for white people whatever you know people need to [ __ ] smarten up if anyone ever watched uh what was the um the black panther movie not the fictional black panther movie uh [ __ ] yeah it came out last year um it was a scene where the black panthers met up with the black panthers which was a political organization back in the day um they met up with like the ku klux klan or whatever not some kind of white supremacist group and they had all the common ground in the world these regular folks that's trying to make it and was tired of the war being pulled over their eyes they came together and you know what i'm saying because uh they they realize that they're not each other's enemy you know what i'm saying the enemy was you know the corporation and i say corporations i don't want to be loose about that because we're a corporation right right but the huge conglomerate bank banking entities and government agencies or whatever the [ __ ] right so way out of our pay grades you know what i'm saying that was the enemy you know what i'm saying so there were the people were coming together for that and let me tell you something my fellow americans listen there's power in numbers and the power i hate to sound cheesy but the power is with the people we americans relinquish our power we give it to the government all right the government let me tell you what the government is i told you this the government is not some big powerful entity looming over you the government is a bunch of dudes with jobs that's it that's it a bunch of dudes and i'm not saying everyone in the government is not ethical it's a piece of [ __ ] or whatever but but for the most part it's a lot of unethical people who's waiting to get to greece get their palms greased and they're serving their master and their masters whoever's really paying them you know what i'm saying so just a bunch of dudes with jobs you know what i'm saying but us united americans black white listen there's people that i follow on social that's super right-wing but not in a not in a low-level way right have certain certain things that they lean towards seems kind of racial and it's really not right we agree on so much [ __ ] together you know what i'm saying it's such a real thing and i'm like when i really take inventory of this person i like this guy you know i'm saying he's not going to call me no [ __ ] nothing to my face i don't care what he said behind closed doors because if he's a real man he'll say it to my face if you feel that way right but chances are that's not the case we be thinking people talking bad about us and it's not you know i've read some [ __ ] about this like when we think people are talking about us or having some negative perspective of us they're not it's it's us it's in our heads you know what i'm saying and that's the real thing so americans need to knock the [ __ ] off black white hispanic indian whatever the [ __ ] and unite be kind to each other you know what i'm saying listen to each other don't dismiss each other when people have a gripe listen [ __ ] it what's it to you to to listen selflessly and not trying to like over argue their point like let's listen and have some empathy for what they feel like they're going through yeah if they feel it it's a real thing you know what i'm saying um and if we can we can control [ __ ] and we can make [ __ ] a lot easier for us but we relinquish our power we vote when they say vote and that's the thing because listen let's say we sit out of a voting cycle somebody's gonna feel that [ __ ] you know what i'm saying just like let's say joe biden sleepy joe right sleepy joe let's say he got he is the president because black people voted for him right he already had a group of people gonna vote for him vote against him whatever the the um the pandering to black people the nancy pelosi with the african thing taking a knee i'm like yo this is [ __ ] disrespectful you know what i'm saying y'all cool with this [ __ ] him saying if you don't vote for me you ain't black like what my [ __ ] [ __ ] what [ __ ] what yo if i was next to joe white and i would say [ __ ] what you say [ __ ] yo that was some [ __ ] [ __ ] he said [ __ ] is not a black thing i'm saying it's a [ __ ] thing he's a [ __ ] so if we would have sat that one out the democratic party would have felt that [ __ ] yeah they would have like [ __ ] we [ __ ] up with black people but black people listen you're blindly loyal to a political party blindly lawyer they do nothing for you they don't do [ __ ] for us what sleepy joe did for us nada listen i was happy barack obama got got elected into office right because he's african-american he's like [ __ ] we we got one right he was a intelligent articulate he he he gave us hope he gave us hope like the slogan worked right but he did nothing for black people either you know what i'm saying that party does nothing for us you know what i'm saying so why are we so blindly loyal to them you know what i mean but i just wish people would take a step back and you know just be more don't move one thing so fast let's let's let's sit back and calculate let's let me see how this feels let me think about this a little bit more you know what i'm saying let me do a little bit of research right but i i do think that people coming together and people having their [ __ ] together collectively and communicating with each other would be a powerful thing for this country because the reason this country i'm sorry i'm talking so long the reason this country is so incredible is because it's so diverse this is something unique to anywhere in the world right what we have here in the united states it's a land of immigrants essentially right that now we're all american and listen we lead the world and culture and everything you know what i'm saying i looked up like wealth military like all of these different markers and we are the leaders globally you know what i'm saying although we are in a cold war with china that's a real thing but we're the leaders right now by big margins too even over them so but we ain't acting like you you know i'm saying the diversity is a huge driver it ain't the government that makes it special it's the people it's the people you know did our government or our system of living or style living attract the people i mean this is a new country so yeah people are making mass exodus is trying to get here to to start a new beginning right because it was wide open 200 years ago i think the best thing that our government or our system allows for is opportunity 100 that's like the best thing that it does is like we've talked about how you can you can jump in you can jump in you can make you can make your fortune you can make your future you can learn you can you can just move you can move around relatively freely uh between parts of society jobs areas you can kind of do what you need to do yeah you write about that when i live i lived in the united arab emirates for a while that's where dubai is at and you know i talked to the guys the people out there and they are technically a democracy but their people tell you they say it's a democracy but if you're not in the family you're not going to be anybody you know you're you're very much going to hit a ceiling right here that's not the case right and i love that the fact that we had let's say barack obama this guy's name was barack hussein obama he became black man became president right then we had donald trump we had grabbed him by the [ __ ] donald trump became president i think that's incredible that dichotomy those two profoundly polar ends of the spectrum both became president of this [ __ ] nation yeah is incredible to me you know what i'm saying it is if scooby doo became president i think that'd be [ __ ] dope because it can happen now i'm not bullshitting anything you can do anything see i'm not a dreamer i'm a i'm a dream apply and make it happen or it was in right and you gotta go five minutes okay yeah are you ever gonna wrap it up it's hot this is hot in here it's not even that it's a yeah it is yeah these lights are bright we have people uh get some i don't know some natural lighting in here or something but anyway but anything can happen anybody can make anything happen or not and listen here's the thing even if you don't make it happen and you live average and regular as [ __ ] you're still doing way better than most people in the world yeah you know i'm saying that's a fact i think everybody in this country is in the top five percent of the world in our country young so that's interesting anyway i'm about to shut the [ __ ] up um uh what's up t super chat glad your studio has smoke detector batteries why are you showing me that t is my focus trying to be smart i don't i don't care they had to attend dollars but [ __ ] anyway we all at y'all thanks for chiming in i'll let y'all later peace i can't wait to read the comments on this one peace [ __ ]

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