Culture of Honor Pt. 12 | Hart Ramsey, Sr.

[Music] we've been working from the foundational texts of Romans 12 and 10 Romans 12 and 10 to part on the Holman Christian standard Bible the part that blesses us the most is the last part that says outdo one another in showing honor whenever you start out making it your business to show honor anyone in your circle anyone that's in your ear anyone that knows you will challenge you and try to make you feel less than who you are because you choose to be honorable they call honor weakness they call honor slavery and subjugation and all kind of derogatory names but the truth of the matter is honor is the only way that God could get your stuff to you there's some still listen some people have stuff for you and this stuff is only important not not to say you own it but it's it's a quality of life it's for the ministry that God is giving you it's for the effectiveness that God wants you to have but you cannot get your stuff I'm not just a material goods I'm talking about impartation and anointing and wisdom that you need and information to break into certain industry you need this you only get it by honor you got it now or when once you honor a person understand this whatever they have is yours it's true when you when you honor a person whatever they have is yours and so at any time both of the men of God who were instrumental in my life before they left the earth they blessed me and and what I didn't know about my bishops fall blessing I didn't see the manifestation of it when Harry Washington who was my first father in the Lord when he blessed me immediately I sensed on myself a capability increase isn't that what I just said my ability to teach and to articulate and to understand increased immediately um it manifested at his funeral and his homegrown service I hope my mother speaking it was evident to me that I'd went up a notch I didn't know how it happened and I left all Atlanta where his funeral was I think Lana the area I drove to all Brundage to do the hong-won for ya to for your stepmom Anna and I went down there and when I stood up there it was a spirit of grief when I stood up to quiet that spirit in the room authority came for me that wasn't mine it belonged to him but he left the mantle and I was there to receive it honor positions you to receive what God had for you all along now what would the station is first capability but his sons his sons in the Lord who are basically my age and older started reaching out to me as a big brother which not to me asking me to cover them to speak into their life and the pattern continued even today I got a text from someone on that that's actually would have been with bishop for years saying hey you know I watch a youtube video on this topic mantis is speaking to me and somewhere I noticed from bishops mantle is that there's there's a connection to my father hood this is real this is these are everybody these are spiritual things it takes a spiritual mind to discern spiritual things now I want I want to walk you through this the Bible says show family affection want to know this is important also the Bible says is speak the translation of this simply says that you we are to treat our Christian brothers and sisters like they are blood brothers and sisters now let me take let me warn you about something when a person embraces you as a sibling by choice when someone embraces you as a family member when they love you bring you into their home um let let you behind the veil so to speak do not betray them what did I just say that type of betrayal is something that is not easily forgotten even if you disagree you be honorable even if you have to tell us put someone in their place be honorable you don't have to disrespect a person's person you'd have to call them name you'd have to put them down to get them straight what did I just say you have to put him down to get him straight sometimes if you need to get people all the way together but you have to insult them you have to call them names if you if you know if you've been noticing they have a weakness or something wrong with them don't wait till you get fired up and mad to tell them about that's not the time to do that haven't enough honor for yourself and for the relationship to not put them down to get them straight alright now go to image chapter three and verse three the Bible says here outdo one another in showing honor that means our job wouldn't a matter of fact I want to go back and even address this I was doing some when I teach you I'd go back and I read from the original language I go back and look at the Greek I go word by word and then I go through all these Greek scholars I am NOT a Greek scholar I'm not a good and I'm not let me tell you something matter of fact when I was in school for my arm from arm degree I dropped the divinity piece of my degree which included my languages and my counseling I wasn't mad about the counseling I didn't want a counseling degree I didn't want to excuse to have folk always draining my battery okay but but I broke my heart because I wanted to study Hebrew and Greek off on the academic level but it just wasn't the thing so I've actually been studying this for 25 years on my own you got it and I thought I found the textbooks I watched videos I did the work I put in the work it's called stewardship as steward my gift and so I would go back and I read the Greek form for Romans 12 and 10 and the first part the different translations just so many of them but they all pointed the same thing it says take the lead that's the idea take the lead in showing each other how to show honor in other words don't wait to be honored honor first don't wait to be honored honor first don't wait to be honored on a first honor first you should honor first you got it now when you use a term like in all due respect then you need to take a minute and slow it down and realize what you're saying you're saying with all in all due respect the word do is a filly or a figlio in degree and this word simply means what I owe to you an obligation that must be met you got it a debt that must be paid so when I say all due respect and what I'm acknowledging is I owe you a certain amount of honor so what I'm about to say could sound wrong but help me and that means it when I say with all due respect that's if I start talking the person well wait a minute I've got a stop and the reason I half the stuff is because I am saying what I have to say but there's a respect that's due to them that I have just acknowledged making sense to you so so what I'll do with all the respect then I got to make sure my ward I got to choose my words carefully because now I mean this environment and this I'm engaging a person I owe honor to all right now so I want to I want to look at some things real quickly to help us on this path to showing honor and the reason I want to do this is because many times will tell people when especially in church when we talk about honor the first thing you think about is that the person on the platform was honor from you that's the wrong way to think about it honor that is not circular honor that's not circulating honor that is not which is not honor that is not all in it directional isn't every direction is flows it that is not honor honor is only honor when the whole culture remember we said the word cultivate that means the relationships in this in this circle grow in the ground of Honor the air that we breathe is honor everything about what we water our relationships with honor when there's a breakdown well the first thing we seek to do the purpose of forgiveness the purpose of going to my brother the purpose of confrontation is to restore honor you got it if there is no honor what's going to happen is Satan is going to infiltrate the community and he I was talking to someone the other day about a disconnection Jean you may have noticed it and I saw I was outside the conversation with one of my daughters and the Lord was saying to her by the spirit of Laura axe girl axe a prophetic question I said do you know anybody from the region that you were born in in the leeward islands of the Caribbean do you know anybody whose family is functional at 40 years old she says I don't know one I said here's why the Spirit of God showed me years ago by that part of the other Caribbean that matter of fact Americans of a further removed from slavery then that part of the Caribbean the Leeward Islands the leave islands um down there st. Thomas st. Croix the Virgin Islands Puerto Rico all around on st. Martin that whole area down there Tortola or the British Virgin Islands um my for example I'm from this this part of the world my father my father's father my father's grandfather was white okay but we I've never seen I've seen one picture of him have seen no one else in the family when I was little I could not speak to my mother's side of the family on threat of punishment so I didn't know my cousin's on my mother's side of the family if I was caught in the street just standing in the street talking to my grandmother my father would snatch me they had a they had beef and but watch this that beef would go back to every generation so much so that my brother my father and his brothers didn't talk and when I noticed about myself when I got older it was easy for me even as a pastor that once once I got to a certain place with a person it was nothing for me to cut him off when people especially my family got on my nerve I would disconnect from them and we were talking about this I was talking with my daughter in the Lord and we noticed that we each in our families we're talking about how we share a disconnection Jean everyone said that Saturn dis could the disconnection Jean is a spirit it's an unchallenged spirit of division that is territorial and geographical over those islands that word I'm from that traced back to the days of slavery three generations back because everyone there would be basically three generations away from being slaves on a sugar plantation you got it and there's a disconnection Jean and the families if you if you go to the ghettos or in here there's a disconnection jeez a father would leave he feels threatening don't understand why don't you want to discover what's wrong with it the a man was father child and go it's a disconnection Jean its rooted it's rooted in and unchallenged I would get this help you this the spirit is not a strong spirit people so asset to a strong devil it's not what it is is unchallenged devil a spirit can seem strong if he can disguise himself and you don't know who what it is what would you call it people need in order to call it they just see this thing happening perpetuating itself over and over again they don't know what it is it's an unchallenged spirit of disconnection that's rooted in this honor okay why it's important for us now to learn honor and to enter begin the practice honor is because now we can go back especially to the parts of our family that suffer from disconnection and begin to reconnect through honor and through forgiveness forgiveness is a product of honor as well forgiveness and arm and honor I begin to honor the relationships back into connection I mean y'all going to talk to me tonight y'all gonna say something you're gonna sit there looking like you're dead like I killed you in the first 10 minutes cuz we got a hole about 45 to go okay now this is critical for us to understand now I want to start with this I talked to you on Sunday about being under we talked about being under and over honor has a lot to do it where I stand in a relationship most breakdowns and relationship have to do with with arm a jockeying for position when there's disagreement we start to jockey to see who's over who and who has the right to approach you okay there's a rule it regardless of where you are in the relationship you never have the right to disrespect anyone disagreement this agreement is unavoidable disrespect is unacceptable this agreement is unavoidable agreement deals with perspective as I'm standing here I see a six you're standing there you see a nine we're gonna disagree what we see it could be the same thing but we seen from two different perspectives it's listen it's I mean you can't eat you can't even put yourself in a position where you never all disagree but disrespect is a choice when when we begin to show disrespect a husband and a wife see things differently and now he you know what I'm tired of you you oh and then what it's not it went from the issue that they were talking about to you you always like that you know you bossing you and you and all of a sudden out the issue in lays the the issue that came up is still there on dealt with and now we attacking each other so watch this now we got 24 hours we're mad at each other the issue still isn't dealt with and then his would do this here's why the enemy gets us now what we've done subliminally as we said to ourselves this issue right here is a taboo issue don't touch it because it causes us to fight so the issue stays there and it grows it still it's still an issue it's still a problem but it's growing it's growing because we're afraid to touch it the two people in the relationship who have the power and the right to fix the problem have turned each other through this honor into the problem the problem is not dealt with now I've made you the problem so what is now if the problem was a lack of finances or proper finances now the blame is on you I don't have the money because of you and every time you give me something you talk about it now this the fight the problem is still there y'all don't make enough money for the lifestyle you're living through this honor the financial issues never dealt with and it you're afraid to talk about it because now it's tough you don't want to touch it because you feel you push that button it's gonna blow you up the enemy is now not once it gets that here's what happens the enemy moves into that thing it becomes a demonic presence in your house when it wants the enemy realizes that both of you can't come together and deal with the issue here's what he does he moves into the issue and he actually escalates it before the problem was what would start out as as was that you gave her some money you got some money you gave her the money you didn't like the way she's finished so you attacked her where she responded your response to her well you don't make no money anyway now you insulted her so now y'all don't talking about money and whatever you notice is every time money comes in it goes out the door real quickly we can't be not tithing properly we also need help from the family we a cars are breaking down nothing's going right he said this seems so super it is it's demonic is it is unchallenged spirit the spirit is not strong its unchallenged and the reason that it's like that is because he's gotten you to dishonor one another and to disconnect from one another you got it how can two walk together without agreeing nah give me a different translation give me okay can to walk the other without a green on a direction that's was looking for you I want to give you three things that you need to have is from from this one scripture that you've got to have if you're going to walk together and then honor the agreement to walk together is this helping you yet number one can to walk let's start with that one can two walk together without agree without settling on a direction which direction are we going in man fact you know what you the problem I said on Sunday we will make covenant with people before we know where they want to go how'd you spend the rest of my life or your life with me well you didn't know the person wants that person said to you you know you met you meeting me suppose he's a good guy he smoked a little weed on but he buddy but my my feel good feel good guy and especially when he not hi I'm man we have the best time are y'all serving the Lord we served the glove the Lord and when he not high and sometimes even you come to church high and he worships better when he are you making all kind of excuse for him watch this the whole issues were you you to sit the brother down and say brother what is your goal and I hear me tell you to get high that may be where he is but you have dreams for him he has so much potential never marry potential never date potential you crazy I want manifest potential I want to make no I want us to know no you got potential let me see it short to me the devil don't lie to you angle spear my I said okay well let's do this do this real quick so so number one washes now so so beat this issue of remember now when we deal with being under and in honor there is a recognition of the over/under principle if any time we forget the recognition of the over/under principle we're gonna mess up when I walk into every when I come into the room or for service or when I see my members anywhere I know that in the Lord he's placed me over them they mean I I owe them certain things certain I honor them in a certain way I don't ever come into this room unprepared and the things I say they're not because I'm smart it's because I've spent all this time preparing to stand before you because I honor you that much you got it now I do feel this honored when you choose to stay home like you watching me right now on the stream I'm dishonored by that it's okay you wanna I wanna passively I'm dishonored because keep telling you to come and you don't come but it's cool because what's gonna happen is God has a way of adjusting your situation he do he ever way I've done and so I'm praying for you I'm asking the Lord just to help you again God has ways a feel for you so number one here here it is here's the areas settle on the direction being under or over someone should never be done without great understanding between the two parties in your marriage and your relationships sit down like strangers all the couples if you're dating if you engage if you've been married for fifty years or five years sit down with great respect I'm gonna tell you something I'm sorry to have a conversation remember that the person you are with the person you talk to they want raised in your house that's my wife that's not no no no no no you get to say that she is your wife or he's your husband they don't belong to you God loan them you the cup no no no no that's a problem you see act like it's your so you can do what you want to with it no and when they were folk tell you I'm going to match the Bible said the Bible the Bible always talking Oh son I want to make a decision time y'all got me on a good night y'all got me a good night merry Christmas to you here we go this is a gift that keeps on giving week we bout to come for you tonight you are playing games in people's lives and come time our youth promise me know what I know when we taught us a lot of things one of the issues is y'all sit down and look each other in the face and have the respect listen what you're gonna respect first this person has an unspecified expiration date in the earth translation they don't know when they're going to die and they don't have time to be wasting with you you got it you playing games folk trying to live and move forward ain't got time for that I don't know what tell you talk to your neighbor talk them then I tell anybody got time for telling me if I got time for that they come on this should be a recognition listen to me this should be a recognition in my if lady K know stuff I don't know man any other time for me to be playing pride in Eagle games when I walk out the bathroom I say I just look she said I don't look good ain't got time to argue I gotta get to church she said I don't look good baby you need change sometime you gotta feel myself what do you mean no I mean sometimes you feel it sometimes you feel like I'm a grown man I mean I've been getting dressed long before I met you you don't get to tell me what's it but but it's quicker if you honor worse it's not one of you got the better eye if two walking together watch it's not one of your better with money right what what are you write better or speak better man listen if your wife's be better than you listen we'll go to the restaurant I'll point to the menu I don't preach that on whatever I put the minion with and when the waiter comes my wife that he will have so that and and then they would look at me and my thing is listen to her or she'll say to me Tom what do you want to pick something she said now you know we're trying to lose some wigs is it you can't have this what else do you want I'm thinking myself I'm not a child but watch this but I honor the fact that I told her I have a goal now she's our name my ball so I have to honor her you see how it works we make this harder than it is some two people stuck in the hole one not to get one no hard to get us out but your thing is like if she gets a day she could talk about it for the rest of your pride is getting in the way I didn't want to do all that but since we did so watch it's not number one we settled on a direction which what it means is we make sure we want the same thing what does it mean we make sure can two people walk together but without a grin on the direction we make sure we want the same thing go to the King James because the King James is really this specific one the King James says can two walk together except they be agreed and this is what are we working from because agreement is not just about direction like the new delivery translation said it's about three things number one is about direction number two is about definition number three is about description number one is about direction number two it's about definition number three is about description let's do it again the mornings about what number two is about and number three is okay so number one we settled on a direction we make sure we want the same thing we cannot walk together we don't want the same thing we could be friends but we can't walk together you know earlier this is for real I've asked people to leave this church because when we start when NCC start growing like rapidly people are coming me say fast I don't like this I came here because we we're small choice we all clothes and stuff and then get too big and stuff not talking you need to go I can't believe it to me I'm tell you to go I invite people to leave all the time every every single one that seemed I'm telling you the wrong church I prefer to have pretty hundred like Gillian then to have 32,000 not not one the same thing watch this now I'm show you this so number one we said number two week we give it number one we said on the direction number two we give it definition we give it definition we has what it means that our agreement cannot be open-ended it cannot be open-ended what when we went no this is for honor because I'm gonna tell you why it works like this remember we dealing with the over-under principal I um I'm over you then I owe it to you I'm obligated to let you know what I will do and what I will not do what I'm responsible for what I'm not responsible for and the same thing with you pastor I will do this but I will not do that you got it so that if I ever lose my mind I come to you with some craziness you said that was not the agreement it definitely rushes now the word define when we talk about defend Ito's we talk about often Ito's means some when something is finite it's me it's me it's off it's um uh-huh say okay now watch this now so what I define so I would thought somebody says in there that was cool um when I define it what I'm saying is these are the guardrails these are the limits this is what it is this is what it this is a friendship not a situation ship there are no benefits here gasping tonight that's a no I have nowhere to stay you got a car no no no no you see you see that this is front of you i'm mateus right now a lot you say I just know you won't marry me because you have no definition why should he marry you and in his mind that the to call it a marriage or to court a situation ship there's no difference the definition is the same he get the same thing a situation that he gets in the marriage you know like you can you don't have to like it the truth is a funny thing it okay we ready you like it or not is there just true okay so number one set on a direction number to give it definition it can be open and open-ended number three determine the description determine the description what does that mean here's the thing when we agree to walk together what does it look like because if you're funny thing to you you may tell your mate we're gonna be we're gonna be frugal that's a broad word you watch it you even you say you may say frugal thinking we'll spend a little he may be thinking cheap you got it so we have to describe what is what does that look like to you that look like we you have no Christmas that means the budgeting that we don't buy birthday gifts we don't celebrate anniversaries that is not frugal that's straight-up cheap you say I'm saying so you have to give a description this is what this is what I say frugal this is what frugal looks like that we work we will save money we won't that we live above our means we will buy each other one gift for Christmas and then we'll take care to get you I mean give it this describe what it is so you know what it looks like this makes sense now I want to move on and I'm covering a lot of stuff tonight I want to move on and deal with this issue that I'm gonna be talking about on Sunday about this thing about asking questions honor does not presume to make statements honor is safer or better preserved when we ask questions faster we get it from I got it from God when aunt when when Adam dishonored the agreement between him and God when God came to him the all-knowing God came to him the first thing God does he say Adam where are you how many of you know God knew what he was the issue the issue was not about information it was about connection God was trying to get Adam out of hiding he's trying to honor I had him out of way was even though he was in a dishonorable State you got it it is better to totally go radio silent on a person if you don't know how to honor them in the situation they're in simply don't talk I'm not saying don't be not out of anger out of sort of safety I'd have been seriously careful about saying the wrong thing you got it so I had a pastor on one of the pastors are submitted to me was tell me he said pastor I have a situation I got I got a couple coming to my church um and and I don't know what to do with about them I said okay well tell me what it is he said well um he told me this couple you know they come to church and he what he failed to tell me was it was the same sex couple so when he brought that out he said just don't know what to do he said they come in to get in the word there I mean he said what I do I said well or how are they responding to the word he said where they love the word but they said they still a couple that's okay he said what should I do that's what you're doing now if you set them in your office could you speak to them honorably no don't know to say well you keep preaching the Word of God and you don't have to put it in their lap you have to tell your message to them keep preaching the love of God here's what happened the couple made an appointment to see him he was terrified he thought they were coming for him get off from marital counsel no they can't Hitler they said we came here a couple but after sitting here for two years here in the Word of God we realized we cannot be a couple anymore what we need from you now what happens with acts 4 they said we want to walk together but we need to agree on how because the way we've been doing it is not right we genuinely love each other but the Word of God is convicting us that we can't continue in this here's what I said in this sin so so what do you say to them is what you say as we said to them he said I am Easter I've been praying he said keep coming keep letting the Lord do it now they come to church they still come to church they still friends we got this place they place their I look at that place and and they still friends but they they're not no luck they don't longer see themselves as a couple what did that he honor them he earned them as people you got it as Christians we if we understood how this thing worked it's better to a matter of fact it's better to even it don't make a statement if you make a statement you presume to know everything when you ask questions you humble yourself and you start to honor where the person is and you'd be surprised them having to think about the question and answer it is revelation to them I want to show you some things tonight and then we'll pick up all by the grace of God on Sunday it's helping you okay good so now so God uses probing questions to solve honor and fear issues okay now this let me show you what this it won't go over this so remember I told you that honor is birthed out of love right control is birthed out of fear matter of fact control is organized fear when I seek to control people is because I'm afraid that the outcome won't be what I want an outcome can make me unsafe or remove my security so I in my thinking if I could control what they do or control their boundaries or control what they think or I don't want them to be friends with that person because that person doesn't like me so I want to control their connection or their relationship with that person instead of just trusting God and honoring the decisions that they make you're following this stay close with me so what God would do what here's what God does God says now in order for me to put you in a proper position I will instead of telling you something that you can't process I will ask you questions to move you out of your feelings into your thinking when God asked Adam where he was it was a loaded question that were you basically says well he said well arm I was naked this is the question where are you well I'm over here hiding because I was naked who told you you were naked have you eaten of the tree that toilet - Ephraim well what really was the woman that you gave me God God says okay he says what is this that you've done notice a string of questions but it's not the only time he's done that and I want to show you in the scriptures like this is the proper way to handle issues that could bring this connection right now the problem with you is you think you know I know what your problem is no you don't know what their problem is and if you ask them not just what's your problem that's not the way to do it that's not humble the way to ask the question is what's going on tell me what I need to know what am I missing I want to know I want you you will understand okay help me understand tell me what do I need to do how do I did see this these questions versus not will you do your honoring this person you have a pastor they freaking out honor their right to freak out honor the right their right to be uncomfortable okay now if you're a young person let me say this to you what I'm teaching tonight do not try to use it the wrong way I'm telling you why because if you don't honor the fact that the parent that God put over you has Authority for your protection you could use this right here for your own destruction the first responsibility of honor comes from the child to the parent that's honor up situation you got it but parents now what you need to understand is your children learn to honor because you took the lead and showing them honor so it's not a wrong accident which color do you want you know what score do you want to scoop from ever since they're young what color do you prefer I like that one okay good that's where that one you aren't if they're right to make a decision now she comes out the room with her dress up I mean her cleavage down by her belt in a gun down now whoa whoa whoa here's a good question you gonna wear that that's a legitimate question yeah why I mean why important to the mirror you see nothing wrong with that no oh so why all of a sudden you want to show if you ask the right questions you think is about clothing and you only may discover that it's about self-esteem and the little boy the new little border just came to the class that she for the first time in her life hurt her little hormones I'm kicked in and she knows that bitly bad over there you know I'm saying he got some stuff going on and I'm sure she want to be noticed now is a great time to minister to her what you do you fight know about clothes you fighting her about clothes it's not in the buckle come on y'all you almost said it look at me it's not in the bag it's about me it's about her how she's changing and sometime you missed the change fighting over dumpster I'm sorry - making non-issues the main issue because we're not asking the right questions watch this not so go with me go with me um so if our Exodus chapter 4 verse 1 give me King James you don't my Exodus chapter 4 verse 1 this is God and Moses Moses at the burning bush questions help us override the fear we feel and helps us to think our way clear okay now you surpass is this the same time yeah we're doing the same lesson you have a lot to learn about honor we all do so we just go for it you're good okay so we start out tonight talking about the walking together now we talk about the mechanics of it asking the right questions we're gonna talk about this there's five questions I have for you on Sunday five questions and I must show you something when we get to the book of Job is gonna blow your mind whenever God asks you a question he will not proceed with anything in your life until you answer it here's what God does not go to the next thing yeah have you ever actually how many how many of you have in your life and if you honest enough to say that you're weak in a certain area spiritually let me see a show here we can ascertain the earth okay you know we tend to do on one way we can area we tend to ignore it especially we try to fight it and we've been losing so we only we don't interrogate anything about it we don't even ourselves why why is this your issue stop asking stuff some real questions and even go to God and let an accident ask the Lord to help you God what am I missing in this you ask him anything and then he will start to ask you questions through life life will begin to interrogate you for example early on in my life I noticed I would wake up between 3 & 4 o'clock in the morning I get frustrated and then start asking why am i up I was asking myself why are you up then after that I said this is not working I saw asking God why am i up and the law said this is your prayer time whenever I wake you up between this time this time just pick up the Bible let me talk to you it's been going on for two and a half decades when I wake up at 3 o'clock in the morning between 3 4 o clock in the morning I'm coming with some fresh bread when I wake up between 3 o'clock in the morning here's the crazy part it got so that if I woke up to 3 o'clock in the morning and decide I'm watching movie God will speak to me through the movie if I listen to a song he speaks to me through the lyrics that it became that crazy and so I'm like cut that junk I just go straight to the word if I have a conversation in between 3 o'clock in the morning in the morning 4 o'clock in the morning guys will talk to me see I'm saying I came from asking the right question so watch this in Exodus chapter 4 verse 1 the Bible says and Moses answered and said God had told him he wanted to send him somewhere you want to send to Egypt just rescues people Moses essence said but behold they will not believe me nor will they hearken unto my voice for they will say the LORD hath not a parent to behold so Moses tells God God tells Moses I have chosen you I want to send you to Egypt you have the goods and what's this two things Moses that he dishonored God's choice of him and he dishonored the fact watch this now he just honor the fact that God could enable people to listen to him so not only to hear it this honor guard he dishonor himself so here's what God does it converse - and the Lord said unto Him what is that in your now how many of you know God knew exactly what he had in this end God asking what are you having it is in your hand he said a rod and you know the rest of the story got to him to throw it down what have you okay now flip on down to verse 10 go to verse 10 they talked to that God walk him through it now we get down to verse 10 and Moses said unto the Lord o my lord I am NOT eloquent neither hitherto for know since that I was spoken unto thy servant what he's saying is I can't talk I'm not eloquent I don't speak well enough to go speak to a king he said I'm slow of speech and I have a slow tongue give me a New Living Translation verse 10 real quickly New Living Translation verse 10 here's what he says but Moses pleaded with the Lord he's our Lord I'm not very good with words I never have been and I'm not now even though you've spoken to me I get tongue-tied and my words get tangled this is Moses tractor weasel his way out of going to do what God told him to do so now watch this now what is he doing he's dishonouring his own ability how does God fix it look at verse 11 then the Lord asked Moses who makes a person's mouth how many see the honor what God's truck he feels get adequate cigars trying to get him to think as we're clear you can only do that with questions I can't I can't speak without I get tongue-tied and gossip who made the mouth you decides whether people speak or do not speak hear or do not hear see or do not see is it not I the Lord so God says nothing watch says notice in all of this God really has not made a statement he acts three questions who made the mouth and this is a long one who decides where the people are people speak or do not speak hear do not hear see you do not see second question he said is it not I the Lord he asking three questions and watches he wanted Moses to think say it with me he wanted Moses whenever God asks a question when you asked a question in your honor and in your quest to have an honor relationship what you're trying to do to get the person to think it's not for you now what's this when a person now when apart when you ask a personal question answer isn't as important as the question because in some situations you find that your kid or yours are armed the person that works for you can really educate you I've learned topic the sinners up to people who are one guy ruined a Facebook you see he walked away from the church because because because he cannot believe that the god of the oppressor is the godly oppressed and he started mentioning on his blood DNA and I said really we say that I want I want to talk to you about that because he watches not because he was speaking of stuff I hadn't heard of and when in the answer he gave me he educated me on some things so what does it mean don't take for granted it because you got the Holy Ghost and they don't they can't teach you something and the church said ok watch this now so God uses God use questions to help Moses think through his fear on questions honor where the person is and gives you the information that you may that may help you better and lead them go to job chapter 38 so job was going through all this stuff in his life he's having conversations with his friends the Bible says that that our job's friends were horrible counselors and God they wasn't saying a word to the whole thing God shows up in chapter 38 this is gonna blow your mind when God finally speaks he doesn't want to diss on a job he has to honor that job is going through the worst season of his life how many of you know God honors the season you in God honors it God understands grief he understands pain God understands discouragement and depression he understands I said the Lord recently well that's too personal but I said something Lord recently and I told him I understood which I said I understand what you're doing but you have to understand I said this to the Lord I am NOT a young man so you can't just you can't just you can't make a statement and leave and don't speak I need to hear you say something cuz you know you know how I am about these decades I was telling the Lord I said I will mess about 30 you have to come get me when I turned 40 he had to come get me again at 50 you know how I am and 60s come at you I mean you guys don't know and let me go right now let me show you something God honors that kind of stuff and how does he respond with questions the Bible says Joe was saying all this stuff to God about God it says then the Lord answered job from the world we look at verse 2 it says here's what he says who is this that questions my wisdom with such ignorant words verse 3 that's humble for God he said brace yourself like a man has what he said because I have some questions for you that's one thing I want to only show you something now what by the end of this four chapters later job 42 job is gonna tell God he said man it was me that said those crazy ignorant things it has what he said he said I thought I knew you before he said but I've only known you by the hearing of the ear now I know you by the seeing of the eyes yet he had never seen God you know how he got to know God through the questions the questions that God asked job allowed job to see a part of God he'd never seen before but look at the last part God says I have some questions for you and you what's the word he said they're not rhetorical questions I'm not talking to myself I'm gonna ask you some questions if you want to shake yourself free from this you've got to answer them job didn't that job trial did not end or to the answer gods questions jobs trials did not end it was it was it wasn't nine years it was nine months of the worst things that could ever happen to a human being happened to job and until God showed up I start asking job questions and job and his mind start answering the Lord his trials kept going what if what if what if the Keith of stopping the trial in your life is answering the questions that God is asking of you the question that God had asked you then that rhetorical you got it I would ask meeting members all time why don't you come to Bible study I know I know that's not an answer it's not it's if you take the answer what like what do you know give me four more hours at my job how much they pay you ten dollars an hour so you sell God out for $40 yourself that that is that does something to you your cell got out for $40 here's the crazy thing on a Sunday it happens so many times count on any given Sunday people will put 100 200 300 dollars in my hand and before I get home I've given it away I'm to the place with God now where if God can't be the God of my finances if you can't take care of me financially he's not God i'm mateus right now because there's too many things in scripture I am a Tyler I'm a sower Russia I'm I am one of the biggest givers I know money money is not Melissa you put you you play with God over hundreds of dollars the thing that you have to do is go across 3,000 you tripping over hundreds in all God acts jobs 77 straight questions 77 straight questions what do you think what was he trying to do he was trying to help him he's trying to help jobs perspective the Lord said these are not rhetorical questions you must answer them go to mark chapter 8 and verse 11 March Apter 8 I think in verse 11 I'm not even sure that's the right when I want mark chapter 8 verse 11 let's see that's the one in mark chapter 8 I don't know if that's the one let me see verse 12 I miss type something let me see 13 shut up okay go back to verse 11 this is the one so the boss is when when the Pharisees heard that Jesus had arrived they came and started to argue with him testing him they demanded that he showed them a miraculous sign from heaven to prove his authority look at verse 12 and the Bible says when he heard this he sighed deeply in his spirit and said watch this why do these people keep demanding a miraculous sign what did he do ask a question and he said I tell you the truth I will not give this generation as any sign look at verse 13 so he got back in the boat and left him and he crossed to the other side of the lake look at verse 14 but his but the disciples had forgotten to bring any food they had only one loaf of bread with them in the boat was 15 as they were crossing the lake jesus warned them he said watch out beware of the yeast or the leaven of the Pharisees and of Herod next verse at this they began to argue with each other because they hadn't brought any bread verse 17 so watch this when Jesus made a statement about watch out for the leaven of the Pharisees watch out for the yeast you know thinking overuses in bread and they stopped putting 101 together they go you know what he's dropping hints because we didn't bring any bread and when the Lord realized that they had reduced his deep teaching and his deep statement down that his simple food thing is instead of just going off from them here's what he said jesus knew what they were saying so he said why are you arguing about having no bread question don't you know or understand even yet are you are your hearts are too hard to take it in he hasn't made a statement yet he's just asking questions look at the next verse he says many times says you have eyes can't you see you have ears can't you hear don't you remember anything at all it was verse 19 when I fed the 5,000 with five loaves of bread how many baskets of leftovers did you pick up afterwards look at it's all through the Bible this stuff I'm taking I'm not making this up as all through the Bible what he did honor instead of making a statement he could have secret easily said you know you're a thick and hard-headed don't understand nothing you need we'll get him he could have went off on him instead he acts he took everything that he wanted to say and he asked him a question what is he trying to do get them think okay I got 15 minutes let's help you tonight okay so I introduced you to five questions on Sunday I don't want to end with this tonight I want to teach on it deeply on Sunday five questions here's the first question oh honey you wrote them down I am so proud of you if you don't have to hear the questions again number one who do you acknowledge it as being over you in the Lord that's number one I'm not gonna teach anything I just wanna give you the question questions again number two who do you honor as your leader and consider yourself to be under I'm gonna tell you why this is important because it speaks to the issue of accountability how many of you understand how many of you need me to address accountability you had this word a lot accountability how many of you know what it means I'm even how many of you don't know what it means I'm honestly if you don't know what accountability means put your head about what I help you everybody no I'm confused how many of you do know what it means so everybody know what accountability means that means I brought you up here you could explain to carnegie's what accountability means I'm just saying you say you know what I mean okay so you say so I'm not saying all that but okay so that okay we're gonna deal about that number three who have you given authority and permission to pray over you or to pray for you that's number three number four who has God given authority over you to guide you to and through your purpose and that's that that's a that's a really confusing question but what is asking you is in this season of things you have to learn to be who you need to be whose mentoring you there's somebody in the congregation - has your stuff the knowledge you need are you humble enough to honor that they have something you need to learn well are you in a position we say you know what I'll pass I'm growing them you know where are you with that number five who have you given official authority that Judge sensitive matters in your life and then when they settle on a decision you submit to it ask the question again who have you given official authority to just sensitive matters in your life that when they settle on a decision you submit to it those five questions are critical questions because what is the kiss thing about it especially the last one because a lot of us will save ourselves a lot of time and so I want to I want to give this to you before we go tonight oh I skipped over part of this this over-under principle as it relates to honor as a powerful thing um when in Amos 3 when it talks about walking together normally and I want you to hear this normally the people that you walk with you're not equals you know the problem with a lot of people you're looking for friends and what you need a Mentors you're looking for looking for opinions when what you need is truth you want someone to validate what you already know instead of learning something new and you know what it's doing to you it's stunting your growth I was talking to my son yesterday ray and Ray said something to me that blew my mind laughed about he said when I was 11 years old he said when I was 11 years old you started teaching me the Bible I said how you remember oh you always said yep I was in let me use old and you turn to me and say you got to know this for yourself 11 years old he didn't have a choice of going to church didn't play with him when it came to that there's a reason why I'm I talked to me about the reason why in a minute but in bringing him up matter of fact this is crazy I don't have you know some of you some of you said well I beat my cheering when it all the way to 18 years old meeting my kids at 12 I regret it no I'm kidding III don't really but I stop they start getting official whippings at 12 now every once in a while they catch a hand that would just reflex but but officially like coming imma beat you that we didn't do that anymore what I started to do was I went from using I stopped discipline and disciplining them to physical discipline and I started working with their minds start trying to train them emotionally and the reason for that was they had to learn to walk with someone that was further long some of you are not comfortable walking with people who are ahead of you that has to change it has to change you have got to learn to walk your feet you got the wrong friends you must understand the word friends you got the your friends telling me Jack you up you need friends who could tell you you need friends who know exactly you I'm gonna taste some that's below your mind I don't know why most say this but I must say this I'm gonna end with this tonight I want to I want to freak you out you know why some of you are not married honor acts the question how many you want to hear this answer that's not enough of young one okay can't tell you why because you don't know how to close the deal lady key and I was sitting at eating at a restaurant and I was telling her early on when were you dating I said to her I said I looked at a couple and I said it's interesting she turns looked at me she said what's interesting I said that sister he's married to that brother and I got women in my church told me to go find a husband you sure wouldn't hear the rest of this how many you want to get arrested now brother before we go ready for the hit what will happen when the sister the sisters stopped coming toward me you build a wall you stand between me and them and get me at the side door is a good exit it goes right to my car Jesus did it all the time he escaped stoning is just like you don't know how to close the deal and I said to my wife I said that's just another closed a deal what happens is you ignore wise counsel see what you missed is the person that's looking for you he's watching you now and the Lord watches now the Lord will have people who are not your peers to tell you honey you need to fix this up but you know what happens to many women they get so mad at the voice of the of a mother or the voice of an older sister or the voice of someone that is over them in the Lord and she always picking on machine picking on you she trying to pick you up okay okay I know those I know this kind of apologetic handclaps I get it I got 9 minutes you're about to get the whole business it watch this so watch this so the way it works is when you walk in with someone and the person watches not honors you enough to tell you what to fix I promise you is the voice of God speaking to that person because God has someone watching you and because you're not self aware God uses someone else to tell you you need to fix that and if you will listen to what they're saying you will mess around and hear God I'm not telling you what I think I'm tell you what I know I can't tell you them on each other is not just for women I've got to talk to people about the way they do business and the few who listen not long down the road here comes a major opportunity why because they listen to someone who had been there what we do watch is not what we do is we're in a situation where we have to ask questions then we feel like we're inferior change that way of thinking you need someone in your life the people that you learn I'm not saying you can have friends that you're kick it and go play games and bowling and and and laugh and smoking Joe whatever it is you do smoking joke is a military term that's not literal okay don't the joking is literal the smoking is not okay but you have friends come on yo I got four eight minutes you have friends that you could you could kick it with that's cool but you need people in your life who could ask you questions and give you directives and you realize listen I am hearing the voice of God I am hearing the voice of God when you honor this person I honor God if you've been praying about stuff and God sends people to you God says Jesus said you receive whom I send you received me but we're not getting the answers were looking for because the watch is not because sometimes what you miss is that this one blew my the questions of God the questions of God have called more revelation than the answers of men this is why just said the questions of God have more rep revelatory value than the answers of men when God asked your question why do you look like that when God asks you that when a person that you know is over you little a person a person that honors you actually this ability that lightly ask yourself and let God talk job I'm gonna ask you a question I want you to answer it what's the answer to that why is why are you cool leaving the house like that ask yourself that you know if you find you may find some time that you've given up on yourself you may God may challenge you or and check you for keep saying I can't afford it I think that's all you ever say as I can't afford it that's not a faith statement take the question seriously you know I saw someone I said why you always tired how best you know no no no listen to the question why are you always tired that's a serious question you say well you know if I see I'm getting up there I know people eighty years old it's not all always tired right I asked my guy why you never home Oh professor do I have no way I'm know why you never home because you were happy you'll be home you see what you see this works the questions that you need right now the issue with you or the difference between you or and where you're going you now where you're going is the question that's the question you're willing to answer 2020 is coming really really fast people gonna be saying all counting 2020 green clarity vision listen they could say what they want to say if you don't answer the question of the pending you're gonna be the same person this is what is this what is what my single sis is that okay that's the hard I close the deal here's how you close the deal you know I thought someone gonna ask anybody actually nothing here's how you close the deal ask him what are we doing what is it that you want hang out I don't have time to hang out so so what do we do no no you have to another close a deal what are you looking for in a person and you may fight well you know he here you up to even say to him what kind of woman do you like I like a light-skinned lion lies can go about your business all the single women say this we say al I said I say what are we doing say it's the Honorable question what are we doing where are we going if you don't how to close a deal by asking the right questions you'll be forever bouncing and then some brothers were ready to get married they're just looking for a wife a wife that knows how to close anybody get bless tonight I want I want to do this I always do this for communion city in Atlanta oh I got three minutes anyone has I have a question about what I'm teaching what I've been teaching tonight you have a question that you're not terrified to ask any questions yes more examples of honor okay you know honor is a lot about disposition honors about listening if it falls under the category of love you'll follow the category of Honor the way the Bible says you know the scripture says we honor the Lord with our bodies and it was a teaching on on sexual immorality so the way you carry your body can either honor or dishonor the Lord so that's the way that's one we upon another way of honor I believe is the way we talk to people the way we respond to people um even when we disagree oh the way we the way we are disposition our hearts towards people um I think you know is a big thing a big missing element as well is a sowing into the people you honor I'm not talking my money all the time it's but if you if your mother gives you $10 if you say every time mama gives me some money I'm gonna take 50 cents of that dollar that and buy her card or buy her some candy or whatever that that honor that that I'm thinking of you I'm not just about me it has a lot of his order people don't use equity every is a big word equity means well the Realtors know but equity speaks of the investments that I've been made I don't want to lose them okay let me get one more question yes first of all you know that's a good question how do you go about getting a mentor without being overbearing what since I started teaching the series I've gotten so many people that wrote to me and said pastor I want you to mentor me hundreds so so for me what I have to do is set up a mentoring program I have a major meeting coming up next week with all I can't tell you who it is but a young lady's coming down from the communion City congregation she's actually the the admin person for the entire Full Gospel Baptist fellowships and she's coming down to help me put together I'm mentoring conferencing and to put a program together that works I already I had people to write in to edge the edge Leadership Network and we putting that together I haven't forgotten but I started to do it and I got so much response okay what I'm gonna tell you something about that I think you have to risk being a pest meet a meeting how am I mean when a person comes to me from mentorship and say pastor I've watched all your YouTube videos extreme use as much as I can I've read your books I read you up I get you uplifts when I see a person is coming at me and they really genuinely want more from me I would say okay here's my phone number but if a person says to me I need you to mentor me I need a meeting with you and I asked them have you watched my YouTube videos no do you stream no do you you don't want me to mentor you what you want is its proximity ain't nobody got time for that you can be mentored by a person just by buying their books I was I mean I was mentioned by dr. Hilyard for nine years and I think I had five conversations with him in that nine years now when people mention my name dr. hill you say that's one of my sons but I only talked to him like five times you see I worked so risk being a pest if someone got something you think they got your stuff I just asked to keep asking ask and ask and ask I've a gravida people into mentoring me I'll show up ever you look up there I am Bishop looked at one time I was in Virginia Beach sitting right there this conference he looked at me go hard I'm waving the bishop yeah I was that guy okay and so anybody anybody else's that guy I'll show up I don't have to talk to you about you you look up I'll be right there I travel listen I love Greg because wherever I go if it's been in the vicinity I look up Greg sitting right there I said hey guys is this my minister museum they start clapping I know he was coming but he is that's that's the way you do that okay anybody has got a question what I'm gonna roll no we're good okay you get blessed tonight [Music]

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Published: Thu Dec 05 2019