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when I talk about high performance habits it's very different than other books about you know habit most books about habit are about just how do you form one so that it becomes unconscious and you don't have to think about it again and I'm like that's not the kind of habit that makes you succeed over the long term ever it's not unconscious competence that keeps somebody winning over and over and over it's Mastery and Mastery requires us to fully engage and it requires us to be deliberate about our thoughts our feelings our emotions how we're doing our work hey everybody it's Brendan versard covering some of the topics that you all have been asking for you know you've all been asking for an approach to looking at habits through the lens of both abundance so wealth career business but also the internal stuff of confidence and fulfillment and that's what this is about it's about how do you use these habits to live abundantly how do you use these habits to feel fulfilled and your best self and I'll share with you some of the insights that we learned from the world's largest and most comprehensive high performance research that's ever been done with data points from over 190 countries digging down deep into the most successful people in the world and how they think how they manage their day how they treat other people how they influence others and how they get stuff done today we're going to talk about the myths and the mindsets that might be holding you back from having a different quality of life and that goes for those of you who are on this right now who are already advanced because what we found with high performers worldwide is sometimes the way they were thinking look differently or it was more advanced than general public another areas not so much it was just that they made Common Sense common practice so we'll be talking about how do you understand which habits you should focus on in each of these different areas and then how do you really apply it so it sticks and so that you rise to the next level a little easier because look maybe your last journey that got you to where you are today was really hard you know if you look at your past so far it's been you know all over the place and you've had a lot of crappy days and maybe maybe the relationships you've had so far weren't as vibrant and fulfilling as you wanted maybe your career or your goals um seem too far out of reach or if you've reached them you had to do it by you know Bluster and burn out we want to get you back to a state of Harmony or equilibrium in which you really feel like you're at your best like you are what we call High performing you feel like not only are you more you know engaged in the moment and capable of Performing well but you also feel like satisfied and fulfilled as you're striving we're gonna bust a lot of myths today you know about the the hustle and the grind and and you know being lonely at the top and all this other stuff that's become very you know great fodder for social media but just doesn't have any um truth in what we see from the research I mean there's a lot of podcasters or instagramers or people or who are posting ideas about you know uh how hard you have to work and and you know kind of work yourself into the ground the good news about high performers is that's not their reality we've no data worldwide confirms that high performers they're happy they're striving satisfied they're maybe they're not settling but they're certainly not dissatisfied with where they're at they still have an extremely positive range of emotions and positive relationships meaning they didn't burn themselves out they didn't wreck their relationships they didn't obsessively focus on something so much that it took away from their health or from their families I mean unbelievable data will share with you here that will be exciting for you and I promise we'll really engage you for those who have supported the book again a big shout out you'll get so many more tools resources in the book but my job today is to to not just recite what this book is about to you I'll make sure that I talk about these topics you've been asking about and that's again sort of abundance and confidence and looking through the lens of that so I welcome everybody here you've already supported me so this is me just saying thank you and teaching based on what you've already been asking us about business and career confidence fulfillment handling other relationships chasing and pursuing your dream and staying after it and not apologizing when you have Ambitions that might be higher than other people around you and that's a big theme that you guys been asking about too and so with all that I've got a curriculum in mind first I want to Baseline everybody into a high performance conversation to get your mind into both the book and into your life thinking about how are you performing already like like how is it going in your relationships in your health in your career are you as far along as you wanted to be do you feel like that that incredible sense of vibrancy and joy at what you're doing even when it's hard even if it's a struggle because that happens too how do you say on Rhythm getting stuff done and not alienate the humans around you when you're tired exhausted or frustrated we'll talk about all of that too now this might sound like gosh we got a lot to talk about like we do the good news is this book creates a framework in which it's it's possible for me to teach a concept and then talk to you about your career and your health and your wealth in that one area and it's also a beauty of this experience we get to have here today make sure you take this time to really think about your life this could be just an informational presentation for you or it could be transformational I always tell people you know when you're taking notes either you're just writing down what you're hearing and you're excited about it or you're right in your Manifesto you're writing your goals and your dreams and that next level stuff for you and that's important so look at it this way this is a great time of the year to check in and see how you're feeling about the major areas of your life to really score yourself you know throughout uh this broadcast today I'll be asking you to score yourself on a scale of one to ten one you suck at that area right now you know if you're honest and ten you're crushing it you're great what's number 11 for you we'll talk about all of this here as well I'm going to go into some of the insights about the book so that we're all on the same page because I know some of you haven't got it yet uh you you know you ordered it maybe it didn't ship to you yet uh through Amazon or wherever you got it so let me give you a high level overview of the main habits and when I talk about each of the habits then we'll jump down into other parts of your life okay so this book is literally what the subtitle says how extraordinary people become that way and why is it different and why is what we're talking about different here today because this is one of the first books ever written in the high performance realm that was really grounded in science really grounded in analysis really grounded not just in you know the author's perspective because there's a lot in this book I learned I didn't know and there's a lot of things that I've taught in the past that were maybe they went wrong but they weren't as important as some of the other things that we found this book and like I said earlier some of the things in this book Common Sense but not common practice but I got data points over two million data points from 190 countries we did more diligence than discipline in finding what correlated to people's sense of their long-term success than anyone's ever done before and then it wasn't just data and surveys it was me jumping into interviews with the people who scored the highest and these are people who are already in the top 15 percent maybe in their category where that's their career or their industry or their age range or their income level then I'd interview the top 15 of the top 15 percent and I wasn't doing it for entertainment style like what you hear like as an example in podcasts where they're like tell me about your childhood and how do you find this passion and I mean those are good but these were structured academic sort of interviews I did ethnographic research and we did the Deep dive into these people's lives to understand what they were really doing I was asking habits as you'll see in this book when you see the list of questions we gave them it was pretty intense these interviews were very practical and that's what makes this book I really think special it's incredibly well researched and I don't just say that because hey look at me I used a research team like we went way deep on this stuff and then I also interviewed the folks and now I had the blessing now over the last 10 years of coaching some of those extraordinary people in the world all to bring these insights to everybody so I hope that that grounds you in what we'll be talking about here because the search has always been which habits lead to dramatic Improvement and proven long-term success and when you say proven long-term success we mean that these people could document it was an observable measure whether it was by income or years of success or even if it was their own self-ascribed levels of success over year then validated by 360 performance assessment I mean we went to the wall in the overall research and when I say the research I want to be really clear it's not like we did one survey one time okay we did you know some analysis so that we could create methodology reports and some validated assessments where we cared about construct validity and all the academic stuff but then I've been researching and interviewing and conducting assessments with my audience for over a decade now so it's really given us some great insights and I want to share right off the bat with what we're talking about here today when we talk about high performance we mean something specifically we mean succeeding Beyond standard norms consistently over the long term this means whatever the measure of success usually is let's say the measure of success is you know 100 okay a high performer would be scoring higher than that hundred and they have been consistently scoring higher than that 100 whatever that 100 means long term and our long term as we were looking at at least three to five years of sustained performance in a category and then for many people we interviewed I mean we're talking decades at the top of their game so this was really fascinating research and I just want to get into what it feels like for you though because I don't want to feel like oh Brandon is going to talk about academic stuff the whole time here's what it feels like and this is important for you to write these three things down okay if you haven't written anything down yet that's okay now begin you need three things to feel like you're going to consistently be at your best so that you can perform okay we did keyword analyzes on all of our subjects and we asked them you know if if you could describe how you feel when you are high performing in any given situation for some people that meant you know performing well on the field other people doing well on a test because high performance is correlated with GPA and academic performance too and then uh okay maybe it's in in their craft of what they're doing as as an artist or a business person but we need these three things number one full engagement and you've heard this huge conversation worldwide about mindfulness all it's saying is get here get in this moment put your body and your mind like right here like bam get present and you've got to be able to do that consistently over the long term if you really want to succeed and I know you already know that but how many times you know have you found yourself just going through the motions you know you you just kind of get up you you go over you you slam down that coffee or that morning shake and then you're off to the day but then you realize it might be three four o'clock and you and you and you're you haven't felt yourself all day you know what I mean you haven't felt your heart you haven't noticed your breath you haven't really observed your own attitude and your own thoughts you've been sort of oblivious to other people because you're typing along they come in and express a need and and and and and you found yourself answering something but they left the room and you don't remember what you just talked about with them you ever been there so maybe you can score yourself let's be honest if I uh if I parachuted into your life here and I followed you around the last 30 days and I said how present are you being one you were not present you were checked out going through the motions ten man you were just like aware I mean you had like that Dalai Lama awareness thing going on you were just like vibrant and in the moment you were just like right there and people could feel it where were you in the last 30 days and let me share my journey with you too uh you know I would say for me I was at like a level six and that's not good that's not good at all you know I would say in general most of the time in my life I feel like a I'm a good eight or nine like solid but I was a little over six this last 30 days because I traveled so much and that threw me out of my rhythms a little bit uh we had extreme um performance pressures to deliver on the book to deliver on other promotions to speak on these big stages to deliver Consulting and some curriculum and tools uh to other of our clients I mean it was on so I hope that as I talk through this with you today there's not a a sense of like I figured everything out you and me we're going to work on these high performance habits our entire life um when I talk about high performance habits it's very different than other books about you know habit most books about habit are about just how do you form one so that it becomes unconscious and you don't have to think about it again and I'm like that's not the kind of habit that makes you succeed over the long term ever it's not unconscious competence that keeps somebody winning over and over and over it's Mastery and Mastery requires us to fully engage and it requires us to be deliberate about our thoughts our feelings our emotions how we're doing our work and so these practices we're gonna have to work at for life and engagement is one of them we all have our ups and downs of Engagement throughout the day our goal is to get you to higher levels of those and let me just give you a simple tool right off the bat you need to set up some kind of Trigger or triggers throughout the day that bring you back to presence in your work and in your relationships I don't know what they are for for you but a trigger is when something happens you teach yourself to do something else right it's like a cue happens you trigger yourself that's like the basics of like habit development and what we're trying to get you to do is if a happens then you do B to make you more present let me give you simple examples of mine when I'm at home and let's say I I I'm working and a family team somebody comes into a room one of my ways to get present with people is when I'm sitting down and somebody walks in and they want to talk like if somebody comes into my office as an example at my house or here one of the things I try to train myself to do is if somebody wants to talk I stand up out of my chair and I engage him because if I'm sitting down I might be like yeah yeah yeah yeah and I don't really see him so as soon as someone hey Brendan I try to get up yes and it's just a simple thing right same thing with presence for me on my phone if you looked on my alarms there's all these little labels that go off throughout the day same thing on my computer throughout the day these little alarms are going off that are helping me kind of get back into the moment you know I for myself personally I meditate every day and sometimes um sometimes it's twice a day in general it's at least one meditation per day 20 minutes if you want to know how I do that to stay present and more engaged and fulfilled throughout the day I have a video on YouTube you can check out called the release meditation technique rmt we've taught rmt over 2 million people now have watched that video um I mean I don't know how many thousands or hundreds of thousands of downloads by now of the tools or their sheets for those and just go you Google release meditation technique and my name and watch that but it's a practice that's conditioning presence for me and we found a lot of high performers do meditate here's the interesting thing though we did not find that that one specific thing correlated with their long-term performance more important than the other things that are in this book meaning maybe meditation was a part of them generating energy which we'll talk about but it wasn't the only thing that gave them the Performance Edge does that help because I think what's happened in personal development especially today with like hackers they're like do this one thing and that one thing will make all the difference forever and I'm like no I know a lot of people who meditate who are jerks I know a lot of people who are meditate they're very calm but they couldn't be productive out of a paper bag okay so it's never just one thing what we found is it's a set of deliberate practices and habits that are all in the book that will help you get there okay so trust that I'm not giving one Silver Bullet here we're doing a comprehensive training and approach to this conversation I need to be more fully engaged in your work more fully engaged in your relationships more fully engaged in your health because you know what people do is they disengage and when you disengage from your relationships you're out of presence you're out of that finding of fulfillment because a lot of people ask when how do I find fulfillment and maybe they see something that I'm doing online or something someone else is doing in their world and they say oh they must be so much more fulfilled than me because they're doing x y and z and that's a big mistake don't make that you know I remember when I was you know coming up in the industry I I'd see some you know especially you know some famous CEO and I'd see him you know traveling in luxury or I would see somebody you know oh they had a big team or or look at their big fancy house and my mindset would be wrong and it would be thinking oh well they must be so much more fulfilled than me because they have those things but more things aren't going to make you more fully engaged and more things aren't going to make you more fulfilled what will bring high performance but that sense of Engagement and fulfillment in life is this how are you engaging the moment the situations the persons around you and your craft those things are what really are mattering like how are you engaging what you do have I know people who say all the time at the top levels you know who aren't High performing right they might have financial success but they're not high performing in their life does that make sense maybe maybe they're you know achieving a lot but they're burning themselves out and they wreck their relationships and I mean who wants that life but maybe they got some money and I hear the ones who are not performing well um but maybe they got lucky or maybe they did work really really hard but they blew up the rest of their life to do that they'll often say things like man Brendan I wish I could go back to time when it was so much easier I got all these things a nicer house and higher thread count and fancier shampoo and whatever else they buy I don't know and because I got all these things but I'm not happy and their lack of fulfillment isn't going to be fulfilled by filling up their bank account a little bit more it's just not where it's going to come from your next level of fulfillment and high performance is going to come from training yourself to more fully engage in the moment let me say it again your next level of fulfillment in life literally life fulfillment satisfaction and high performance are both correlated and we can measure life satisfaction scale high performance indicator scale both those are strongly correlated with how you are deciding to engage in the moment where there's engagement and presence there really matters if we can up those things then the research in my interview suggest that you'll be more fulfilled and you'll be higher performing so score yourself how are you really engaging the day are you conscious are you deliberate are you aware are you present or are you just going through the motions man and if you're just going through the motions don't make the mistake I made when I was a young person okay I'm still young don't make the mistake I remember making in my 20s so often in that I would say well I'm not engaged because the work sucks this job sucks you know I'm not engaged here because I don't like that co-worker and you cannot blame your level of engagement on anybody else you control your level of Engagement in life you cannot blame anybody else as soon as you do that you're tearing yourself from your personal power and you're guaranteeing that you're not going to fill your dream because what you'll end up doing is it just you know it's almost like blade by blade of excuses and blame you're knocking down you know the your own potential and so be very careful to ever blame engage with other people or anything else right look I I'm here with you and I hope you feel my my presence right here with you it's been a crazy like 72 hours for us like we've been really going to serve you guys and make this possible I mean we've been going I can't walk in the studio today and be a high performing trainer if I walk into you and I say oh well you know um I guess uh I'll just be awful today because I haven't really you know slept as much as usual or ate as much or or worked out like I can't do that you're I can't blame my engagement on last night or the day before because in the moments that you are called to serve you either choose that you are going to be deliberate and rise to that occasion or you're going to blame something so rise my friends measure your engagement second big thing I promise I won't go this long on all of them okay the second big one though is joy Joy if you're not as wealthy as you wanted to be you're probably not as joyful on the wealth Journey as you should be I I was amazed by this the level of happiness that high performers have I mean that's a big life outcome in the measures of psychology right whether or not people are happy and there's lots of scales that have been conducted and used over the years to determine that and we leveraged a lot of that to make sure that we validated our our sort of our overall construct here it was amazing to see how happy High performers are worldwide now uh you think well no doubt Brandon they're performing well of course they'd be happy yeah but one thing was really interesting we think often the cart before the horse we say oh well you know they became happy because they're high performing but in my interviews I often found that when somebody switched their attitude and became happy in other words generated happiness then they started performing higher it's like they're not happy just because they're wealthy they got happy and started feeling wealthier in all areas of their lives right the abundance came into their life not it's not like abundance came in Thank God now I'm happy it was reverse order it was they chose positive emotions over and over and over and over and over meaning they chose their attitude they chose to be an optimist they chose to be happy and by choosing happiness in their life it became easier to perform even the mundane tasks that you and I wouldn't like and maybe we'd complain about a little bit meaning coming from that place of a deep sense of gratitude happiness or joy experiencing lots of joy not because necessarily something gave you Joy but you brought the joy that helps you get better like if you're around me it's pretty rare that I complain I'll be very factual about like what I'm doing like how's it going I'm like it's Banana's crazy but I won't complain about it because I feel joyful in the opportunity to serve I think that if you have the opportunity to serve you don't complain about the work required to do it you know it's like you honor that part that that struggle that difficulty to serve but more than just like begrudging it bring the joy look there is a reason why worldwide that people understand the concept of whistle while you work as soon as you just say it people go I know what that means and it's not just because of Walt Disney though he did a pretty good job on that one right it's because we know we should be happy engaging our day and not waiting for some delivery day when we finally become happy if that sounds too common sense for you okay if I jumped into your life in the last six months and I looked at how much happiness you brought to the day not took from it you brought I don't mean like oh Brendan you can follow me around my children brought me so much joy I'm like okay that's one level right that's joy that the situations of the world can give you but you know what there's been a lot of turmoil in the world I know we were people some friends watching this right now impacted you know catastrophically by Hurricane Irma Harvey by what's going on right now as I'm filming this by earthquakes around the world by other major storms by political turmoil by I mean real difficulties of life and I know that hardship because I grew up with some very difficult times and I have supported people in maybe they have the difficult the most difficult times of life including death by doing hospice work I've seen a lot and having coached for a decade you can imagine I talk about people's problems all day I'm pretty familiar with people how they handle them and the person who can Will themselves to choose happiness even amid that and bring it into the situations you know about three blocks from right behind your camera is a street here in Portland Oregon it's a tough place and they have a couple soup kitchens on the line there and if you ever go volunteer in your local city I hope you'll volunteer in your community and be make that a big part of your life but if you ever go volunteer at like a like let's say a soup kitchen it's so obvious when you see a good volunteer I mean it's like it's this it's not that they know where everything is that they are happily doing the work that most people would see like I mean he's like well man the guy's sweeping the floor volunteering and you and you think I'm glad I didn't get that task right you could think that but the guy would be whistling and having a good time and just so happy to be helping out the people who are happy to be helping out are bringing Joy into the situations of life that's making them feel more happy more engaged and yeah they perform better because you know what sucks when you're just doing the grind and it's 10 p.m at night and you hate the process you know what I'm talking about when it's 10 o'clock and you know you need to stay up till two in the morning and it's a grind and you identify as just I just gotta hustle and I just gotta grind right now guess what that 10 p.m till that 2 A.M you know what that's going to feel like it's gonna hurt that's what it's going to feel like I know I was there last night at 10 p.m going I gotta go to at least 2 A.M minimum how am I going to approach this next block of time am I going to be like oh I can't believe I do this again and we're like I'm gonna grind it out no I'm like I'm like hey I'm gonna bring some joy to this process because if I can put some positive motion on this and guess what 11 noon one two let's rock okay yes sir 11 midnight one two let's rock but I'm enjoying it I'm having like if you actually saw me work you're like he must be on something why is he like that and it's not caffeine trust me ask my team it's it's not I have no caffeine in front of me right now sometimes I do but nothing right now because I I you know I'm very susceptible to that some of you guys are too you know it's like if my arm got cut off and you gave me an Advil it'd grow back you know it's like I'm very susceptible to things that I put in my body because I'm pretty clean in general so I'll tell you it's like it's not that that gets me through and what gets me through is joy write it down I really mean this write it down on your journal what gets me through is joy what gets me through is joy that attitude didn't just change my life I found it over and over and over again in the top 15 of the top 15 percent they engage their work even when it wasn't sexy because of the attitude they brought to it and and you know this again I know it's common sense but not common practice but Victor Frankel talked about it the last our human freedoms is the ability to choose one's own attitude next up confidence you got to start approaching your work with confidence same thing listen to this you think and this might be your big stumbling block so please listen you think just as soon as you get more success just as soon as you get more accolades respect support money experience competence A Better Community people around you then you will now have earned the right and the blessing to be more confident is it true people wait for something to give them happiness they also wait for something to give them confidence and that was this that was a stunner confidence was so strongly um intertwined in the conversations between the six habits that we'll go through it it stunned me even though I'd have a program called The Confidence course I still didn't know until we did this data to understand how important that is for people so but not to have it to generate it your next level of performance at what you're doing is does not only need to come from confidence I'm sorry competence in community which usually that's where people take it from right I get better what I'm doing so the more experience I have the more easy it is for me to do the more confident it is right like for me I've done these live casts so many times I know I can do this right that happens from experience you might have the same thing in your genre or your career or your life you've done it so many times no problem right but there's an unconscious competence to that because you've done it so many times but then there is a willed confidence that you're just saying you know what I'm going to do this confidently write it down my friend just write down literally write down the words I'm going to do this confidently just choose that see most people they start bumbling into something and then they want it to give them confidence when I first started doing videos or or books or training or on the big stages from I've seen in that movie that we got like I my my development was a little slow over my first couple years I don't think I performed that much better and it was because I kept waiting for something like some kind of like size of a stage or I don't know some I don't know what I was waiting for to be more of a confident speaker and then I was talking with a person who's very high performing and not even in my industry but he was telling me about how he just decided to start owning his role in his business he was the CEO of his business he said one day Brenda I just when I walked in the door I don't know what it was for me but I walked into the door Brandon and I knew I owned that space you know I was leasing it he said I didn't really own it because I I owned the space I was in and I realized these are my employees this is my space and he said I just stepped in full to the ownership role of who I was and he goes instantly I became a better leader because I owned it now I was confident that that's who I was and what I did nothing happened for him no bigger paycheck no more team not any smarter or maybe smarter by choosing a different disposition right I think a lot of intelligence is choosing the right disposition for how we need to serve and he said I just owned it well I know it might be simple to think about but let's ask about maybe are you in a relationship right now maybe maybe you're married or you have a significant other or maybe it's just if you think about a relationship you have with a family member have you fully stepped into owning that role yet like with confidence you know I was working with a friend right now and he said I've been he's having some challenge with his relationship with his wife and I was over visiting with them and I saw even the way he brought things up and the conversations that were have he was just so demasculated you know is that a word sounds like one emasculated not demasculated it sounds better when it's D masculine like it got taken away they should change that word let's just change that word so he was he was very it was like he masculine he was a confident guy but he wasn't being confident in his ability to love his wife that makes sense I've worked with Olympic level athletes and if they don't bring the confidence on the field they're going to get smashed and it wasn't like they needed 10 more training sessions it's the mindset that we're walking into things so I know I'm going a little bit long on these particular three things but I do this High Performance Academy I do this in my training programs because if we're not you and me on the same page here about this it's going to be hard to make you another level of success for yourself right because you can't feel like you're going to be self-made unless you finally say I'm going to own this moment I'm gonna bring some Joy here and I'm going to do this a confident maybe it's time for you to be more confident in the relationships and the roles that you play in your life to really own them if you're going to be a good wife own that and be a great wife like know that is part of my identity feel that you know if you're going to be a great leader with your team own that walk in the office tomorrow more confident than you have in six months for no other reason I promise people go whoa what's up with you and that that feeling that you have like that emotion these things presence with your team Joy with your team confidence with your team social contagion baby it'll spread but you got to bring it you can't wait for your team to give it to you you can't wait for its skills to give it to you you can't wait for support to give it to you if we can get you pulling these three feelings into your life we're gonna put you on the same deck as high performers because as I walked around and had the conversations they had these things some of them but most of them brought it they generated it they chose it they owned it that's what I like you to do so make sure you write that down but I really want you to think about this and connect with this okay so with that how do we know what I'm saying is true and then we'll jump into the actual habits and how it applies to wealth your relationships and the sense of fulfillment and confidence you do have before the book came out these were the numbers we're at now now we're infinitely and farther now because the research and the support of many of you taking many of our assessments or tools or doing whatever but over a quarter million assessments now have gone out we've partnered with organizations that have over 300 000 employees who gave us access to the performance reviews of their top 15 I've graduated over 1.6 million students from our own programs studied what worked for them what they watched what questions they have have been doing the training the before and after of our events all this stuff but most importantly we did those global surveys those structured one-on-one interviews those academic literature reviews those validated assessments we did all this research and here's what we found there's over a hundred different performance variables that you can try or do okay now I want you to think about this just for a moment because you have a lot of the only your own answers and today I hope you grasp some of those so let me ask you this what makes a difference in your performance let me ask again what makes a difference in your performance think about your work for a moment maybe you're an entrepreneur or maybe you work for somebody but when you're crushing it one week but you suck the week before why whatever answer you come up with probably fits into what we have measured here what we call Performance variables these are things that they change or you could do to get a different result right that's what we call Performance variables in the research okay so what is it for you I would love for you to take a moment right now with your Journal and write it down like if you have a crappy week and then you crush it what is the difference take a moment take a moment actually write down your Journal okay so what's the difference why is it sometimes you suck and other times you crush it well we found there's over a hundred of those different things but then here's what we did we as part of the research and this is mostly the the first initial phase that I went through personally I said well is this something that they're doing on purpose that means is it deliberate can I see that they're doing it can I change the way that they do it is what they are doing something we can train other people and is it effective whether it's the secretary or the CEO okay this is kind of how you go through the research and what we did it boiled down to just six habits a hundred different performance rails now truth be told I think I came down to about 31 habits that I really believed made the difference that fit into these categories and why are these categories important because we can train you on them you can get better on them it's not just like your personality and your that's really good and perfect it's not about natural tendencies it's about what you deliberately do to keep climbing baby because a lot of people have unbelievable strengths and skills that we're talking about but they don't deliver so they came out of these six habits and let me tell you what they weren't though they are important they weren't the very common things you heard right a lot of personal development and the difference between my work and other people's is I've always been the next level guy I'm the advanced guy okay lots of people will tell you you know just keep going work hard man be passionate focus on your strengths practice a lot be grateful stick to it but if you read the book the first chapter would kind of blow through that because we go there's a lot of people who are very grateful and hard working but they're not high performing they're not making it there's a lot of people you know what they do practice and they keep losing there's a lot of people who are passionate and are persistent they don't got on people skills though so they're not high performing there's a lot of good people following the good basic advice and I'll tell you I tell you my story in my book I I did all these things and you know what it worked I got initial success this is great for initial success but it's not going to take you over the next Mountain it might get you in the game might not keep you in the game and so what we found is high performance is not strongly correlated with how old you are so don't make that excuse because I know if we got any if there's anyone watching this right now and you're above 60 years old would you give a shout out down below you don't have to tell us your age if you don't want to but like I'm just curious how many life long students we have on here how many people who go you know because I hope that when I'm you know 100 years old I'm still watching training from people because if you get one Insight look if all you got was tomorrow you said you know what today I'm going to focus on being engaged I'm gonna be joyous and I'm gonna be confident you will build yourself better you will be better on the road to Greater levels of wealth and and abundance and fulfillment in your life from those three things so if you're just here celebration you're already doing great but I wonder how many people are watching this or lifelong in the Mastery give them a shout out bound to below celebrate them down below high performance look men and women equal performers problem is not always equal pay and that sucks and we all know there's a gender gap in Pay especially in the fortune 1000 and so I'm here to be a champion for everybody who's ever been that look performance is also not tied to nationality it's not tied to your IQ it's not tied to extroversion or extroversion introversion that's not just my research this is literature review right not just strengths so you don't have like a perfect mix of strengths that makes you perfect it's not tied to creativity so if you think like well I just I'm not creative like other people it's not that it's not empathy either empathy is important but lots of people are very empathetic but don't get anything done you know it's not tied to your years of experience there's lots of people been doing it for something for 20 years and they're lazy on their bones and is not tied to compensation meaning how much you get paid there's lots of people getting paid 30 grand who are out hustling people making a hundred right so as you know those to be true this I also say this no excuses none so you can't say well Brennan I can't High perform my life because of this situation I am being held back in this way at this particular place and I'm like you know what maybe right now but I bet you're going to be alive a long time maybe it's time to make a decision to get yourself into a better environment where you can succeed but ask yourself and be accountable always Own It Go am I bringing my best into this environment despite these suckers because I'll tell you I've had jobs before where I looked around some co-workers I was like man and they would make me feel bad for having higher ambition to do better and that's that's a challenge you know you might come from a family or a community or a cultural background where it's not okay to you know really put yourself out there where it's not okay to celebrate your successes where it's not okay to become wealthy where it's not okay to have the ambition that you have and I'm just here to say this do not let anybody or any circumstances around you ever limit your ambition ever don't let that happen because look at the greats a lot of them came from nothing and they didn't have support and they didn't have you know a silver spoon in their mouth and they still made it they still made it how high performing habits that's what got them there that's what takes them to the next level so don't think it's like if you weren't you know imbued with a perfectly creative mind or you don't find yourself you know as likable as other people or you feel like you know you take your myers-brig and there's some look Myers-Briggs is not correlated with long-term high performance it's just not personality isn't even in deep psychological studies and you do lots of work in Psychology and I know we got a lot of psychologists here so give a shout out test the book run it through me and ask that and you know and you know that even in the Big Five personality traits measured in academic Sciences for psychology and those typically are like you know um whether or not your your levels of openness let's say your levels of conscientiousness extroversion agreeableness neuroticism that kind of thing those big five the only one that really is has a good correlation over the long term is conscientiousness but here's the here's the deal even that one isn't that particularly impressive in its strong correlations in lots of different domains meaning across people's domains it's very important by the way and by the way anybody could say something is correlated with something right uh I I I challenge my own research because you know what we also found strongly correlated with success I don't know people who took showers people who eat food wow I mean look we could people who wear shoes succeed I mean we could make all I mean there's no doubt that you can bend the science towards whatever and a lot of psychologists do that unfortunately we did a pretty good discipline here in the research but I will share it with you I don't think I have all the answers either what we found is the research suggests these things and they're strong correlations but what we definitely found is you cannot blame where you are from you cannot do that because we had people who had no money and they're crushing it and I bet there's people right now like you were the first one in your family how many how many of you were the first ones in your family to really succeed I mean really do it just type down below just go first one I'm curious all the people watching right now were you the first one you didn't have a lot of things maybe you had you know a very challenging upbringing just like your siblings but you crushed through for some reason why it's not because you were better than or your personality was perfect then somebody else it was I bet the high performing habits that we'll talk about so why am I saying this I want you to write this one down no excuses maybe you'll take a moment and and pause me at some point whether it's on the replay or now and and just right at the top of your Journal my old excuses and write down everything you've been allowing yourself to think or feel or do to hold you back the old excuses right well I'm not happy because my spouse well I mean your spouse I know can significantly shape your happiness but you got to own your own happiness right look at all the things in the world that can make us unhappy right now I mean look at all of them and look at how easily and almost in some ways and forgive the language because I don't like this language but I think it's important to be abrupt with this particular one look how pathetic some members of our society are being right now in blaming everything else and being pathetically pulled into the negative Karma and the negative energy right I do I think of that is and if you don't like that word I'm taking it from like even a perspective do you remember Winnie the Pooh you remember Winnie the Pooh he had those two little friends he had one of them was like piglet the pink one and he had the other one what was it what was it the donkey right remember Eeyore you're eor was that a little pathetic little dude he was a pathetic little dude I don't know if you don't like that language but he was a pathetic little donkey okay and some people they are being pathetic like that because oh they say it's the news it's got me so down I'm like the news you're an adult and you're letting the news get you down it's it's the people that work the people that work and you're over the age of 18 and you're blaming them for your attitude I just say look conscious adults it's on us to be self-aware and to own our own feelings and emotions at some point we can't keep being Eeyore did I get the name right to you all right the pathetic donkey yes okay I said it okay if you need a little if you like to use a metaphor like that by the way make sure you go read a book called The Dao of poo Tao the Dow t-a-o the Dao of poo p-o-o-h okay no no jokes in the chat roll ladies and gentlemen okay okay but it's written by Benjamin Hoff and it's a book about Eastern philosophy taoism brought into um been told through the story of Winnie the Pooh and how Winnie the Pooh doesn't get ruffled and why he doesn't get ruffled but why everyone else around him does and it's a beautiful book and it's a beautiful metaphor for this reality that maybe we shouldn't be blaming everything you know I think we have entered an area where it's so easy to blame that oh you know what Brennan My Generation we're being looked at this way in that way no you're not okay anytime someone says a whole generation is anything they're operating from a place of ignorance and judgment that just should not be done so apologies for any out there who try to teach generational training I'm cool with where you're trying to come from there it just inevitably if you're responsible you can admit you're inaccur accurate no one can speak for a generation no one can say well the Millennials are like this and the greatest generation was like that because inevitably it's inaccurate there's too much variability in both performance too much variability in both personality too much variability in income too much variability in lifespan too much variability in lifestyle to ever competently say one generation is like this if you hear someone doing that I usually say it's in you might listen you might pick up a tidbit of a generic statement just be aware of being judgmental because right now we're in a place and why am I bring this up because I promise to talk to you guys about business and career as well and right now in a lot of businesses right now um multiple Generations are being discriminated against in how they're treated that you know Millennials might be being talked down to and those who are at the upper level who have years and years and some gray hairs they might be being talked down to as well it's like look we all need to give a little bit more respect and patience and credit to the people that we work with and we serve with they have long days they got families they got all their competing priorities they might not have as much equal skill in training everybody's different so don't make a general statement and I think it's really important too because we see that with nationality we see that with where people come from in ethnicity that there's a lot of discrimination and ignorance still today and you know I'm blessed to travel around a lot and I'm blessed to have literally at our events we have people coming from 40 countries around the world every age race possible background and it always inspires me that so many people are striving to be their best no matter where they come from so I would just say to you if you want to go to another level in your career make sure that you are meeting the people at work and giving a great amount of respect to others and appreciation to others no matter what you think of them because you cannot count out that 70 year old white dude and you can't count out that 23 year old fresh face who still hasn't learned to iron a shirt okay you can't do it you just you're going to be wrong I mean I get I'm blessed to coach and work with some of maybe the most extraordinary people on the planet I got a client we tell historian in the book from Silicon Valley I mean he's moving the needle of the world and you know young guy and everybody you know discounted this person at some point they were wrong so just don't discount by base on these I know this might be like yeah yeah I get it Brendan but your next level of performance is going to come from the way in which you engage the people around you and if you are judging them quickly you're in trouble that's all I'm here to say because you probably can't guess that performance next up I want to address one big elephant in the room and that is about strengths there is a very big issue um that we have been bought and sold about the strengths and I say this with respect because strengths are a good thing like I love to do things I'm strong at it's great but I also know that my strengths are not sufficient for me to go to a new level too they're part of the equation but they're not all the equation because here's what we found High performers do not report working on their strengths any more than other people do let me say it again we all again that car before the horse thing we think oh they're working only on their strengths and that's where they're high performing that is not true there are plenty of people who are working a little outside of their confidence or Comfort or competency Zone and they're high performing okay you don't have to have this perfect mix because you know what I know a lot of people who took the strengths finder and they scored really high and they feel good about themselves and they can't do crap okay I know you do too right if you're in an organization that they rolled out the strengths finder you saw it probably didn't do what they or what you were promised and so I think it's a feel-good attitude and it's better than just bemoaning our weaknesses but our strengths are insufficient and here's the thing it doesn't matter anyway and I know that sounds flippant but High performers they're not like what am I strong at what am I perfect at let me just do that we want to do that that's very Instagram worldly High performers are saying who am I and what am I they're not saying as much who am I and what am I good at though they know those answers listen please be listen to me self-awareness is high who am I and what I'm good at they score high on that but the question of operation for the day isn't usually in the morning like who am I what am I good at and I'm only going to do what I'm good at today baby they're asking a different kind of question boy that's going to be a meme somewhere I shouldn't have done that movement they're going to say what is required to be of service here and how can I grow into that and Lead others to deliver exceptional service let me ask say that again what's required to be of service here right what is required video communication was not my strength I was terrible at it I knew it was required to be of service in my industry so I developed a skill same with public speaking terrified look I don't have any notes in front of me right now I'm not reading a script this is I'm looking the same thing you are and I've been doing this whole thing extemporaneous I did not have any skill for that where I came from men didn't really communicate more than like six sentences in a row unless all those sentences were like one word starting with the F and each had a period so I didn't grow up with an incredible articulate group of people around me okay and I'm not judging that because I wasn't either so it's not about like I was naturally skilled at this it was listen I identified the primary skills that were important to my career and I went and mastered them regardless if I had any affinity or strengths in that area let me say it again I identified the skills that were necessary in my industry and I went and mastered them regardless if I was good or regardless if I liked it believe me the first time I sat down to code a web page I was like hating it I was like this I don't even think like this I looked at the web pages like everybody I'm like I don't know how to do this I don't even I don't know what this button does I know it's constantly terrified I was going to crash something I was like this I'm not a technology thinker my brain was not like that and that was my excuse my brain was not like that because I also came up during another myth time we're in myth time right now that all you need is your strengths there was another myth time and that myth time was left brain versus right brain and it was just because Neuroscience was pretty old but very definitively you do not have uh modus operandi of Left Brain versus right brain thinking if you still think that I would love to encourage you to check out the Neuroscience of the last two or three years your brain is not just left right Hemisphere and left right thinking that's not how it the brain is like an intricate spider web of everything connected and there are things that we think there were only you know zeroed in on the left hemisphere that also come to the right the history of where that comes from is because the visual cortex and how we use our hands was very much tied towards left and right hemisphere stuff same thing with the visual cortex but the issue here is that it's I used to say well I'm just not right brain thinker I used to say that I'm just not a right-brainer I literally said that I'm just not a right-brainer because back then it was popular to say right brain versus left brain now we know that's a completely absurd connotation it's a convenient metaphor it's just not accurate and so I encourage you to check out some recent sites in the last couple years that has come out that just completely debunked that entire idea what we do need to know is okay do we know how to tell stories that's a skill we can develop no matter how your brain is built okay can you be more thoughtful about your work sure and some people say well Brennan you don't understand some people are just built to be more creative creative is an innate strength well sure we could argue that almost anything is innate strength if you're good at it everyone could say well that you're just born that way people say to me Brandon you're just born writing books right I'm like what you know and just like some things I am good at like naturally good at like racquetball naturally I don't know why I'm good at racquetball I'm better at racquetball walk on a court then I should be based on how much I do it but I also get my butt handed to me is that a phrase butt hand it to me yeah okay it sounds a little odd when you actually say it with out loud so I get my butt handed to me on the racquetball court by people who've just done it more than I have right and so it's not about natural talent and the talent myths and it's important to say that so I would love for you to write this sentence down if you haven't already what is required to be of service here and how can I grow into that or lead others to deliver service what if you walked into your business every day and you asked that question what happened if you walk into work tomorrow he said what's required to be of service here today and how can I grow into the person who can do that service better or develop my team to develop that better instead of going in the work and going what's going to happen today I better check my inbox what are they gonna do and I know I'm being a little bit facetious here but I hope you get the idea High performers aren't focused just on what they're good at their focus on what is required nobody is naturally good at the top levels they got there they disciplined themselves they worked harder than everybody else even if they had some luck of genetic to be bigger stronger faster or have some other mental capability there's lots of people with high IQ Who Don't Do Anything there's lots of really tall strong powerful people who don't play in the stereotypical NBA I mean there's just it's about the hard work to be there and the high performance we'll talk about okay so here's what we found that oops we found that high performance habits ultimately fall into two camps there's the personal habits and there's a social habits and they interact okay they interact and as I go through each of them I'll be talking about your wealth following your dream and taking on some of those promises about which dreams to chase Etc that I talk about at the top of the hour but here's the thing I didn't go looking for this I wasn't uh it wasn't until I was almost done writing the first section of the book that I kind of realized oh these conveniently kind of fit in this framework um but I didn't start the research be like oh I wonder what they personally do and how they interact with people that wasn't the very beginning of the research it just turned out that way and here's what we found in the personal habits there's three of them number one yeah is seeking Clarity I don't know why I'm doing that seek clarity and this is so basic and it will be fundamentally change your life when you start doing it better High performers more consistently seek clarity about who they are how they want to interact with people and what feeling and meaning they will draw from their work than other people my favorite example is most people Bumble into the next meeting and that's why they're no good at work they just keep bumbling into the next situation bumbling in and bumbling in because when you're good you can kind of just bumble around right you can just pop over here show up over there do good over here but High performers are more deliberate right before they go in the meeting they sit and they see Claire they go okay meetings coming up who do I want to be in that meeting how do I want to treat people in that meeting what's the feeling I want to generate in that meeting what's the meaning I want to draw from being here in that meeting and then I sound overly constructed and in some ways it is but almost always when I did the interviews I found out that they were asking questions more often than other people in those categories of who they are how they treat people the feeling they want to create and the meaning they want to draw from it that's the things I found over and over and over in the book and specifically that high performers this was a big finding that also a lot of literature review finds in success and that is high performers are future oriented they are more consistent than other people considering their future because a lot of people they go through the whole year and they don't think about their future until New Year's Eve or when their birthday hits you know 30 40 50 60 70 80 900 then they start really getting high performers have a very consistent thought process about the future about who they're going to be in the future where they're going to be how they're going to treat people what they're going to achieve what's going to be fulfilling to them and they're asking them of them themselves more often yeah I think it's one of the reasons we found that they tend to be more dedicated their personal growth than other people is because they're really interested in that I think that's very hopeful that what if you just create a simple like maybe create an index card if you got the book um in this chapter there's something called The Clarity chart and if you did not know it you can go get it and download it um you know I'll just give it to you guys right here go to highperformancehabits.com forward slash tools if you'd check me on that team I think that's what it is highperformancehabits.com forward slash tools you can download the chair the clarity chart so you can print it out and actually fill it out you can do it in the book too but if you guys want to do that highperformancehabits.com forward slash tools and you'll see the clarity chart there download it check it out there's a bunch of other tools yeah there's a bunch of other performance prompts on that page like all the questions that I ask you in this book for the performance prompts you can download them at that website too it's free for you guys right um and those tools and that approach to asking those questions will really help you over the long term to get more focused okay the second big thing I know something gone generating energy huge okay to generate energy is so important and to generate a little energy with you guys I'm gonna do some q a here I'm going to come back and talk about how do you apply this in your life so you feel for more fulfilled but you also start crushing it work because you know what your next level of wealth comes from your next level of energy let me say it again your next level of wealth comes from your next level of energy and some people might not like when I say that but we figured out how to codify and actually measure energy and we Define that as mental emotional and physical energy or vibrancy and guess what my friends yeah your energy scores are correlated with your income your energy scores are deeply connected to your productivity levels which I know you know already so my question for you is do you want to crush it get more energy you want to crush it generate more energy and it's really important but the first thing to do when you're installing these habits and this is important for everybody the most critical thing in performance Improvement for you is going to learn to start measuring yourself on a consistent basis in the categories you want to succeed in let me get an example lots of dudes go Brennan I want to be a better husband and I'll talk to them three months later I'm like how's it going being a better husband ah you know I try here and there and shouldn't listen I'm like what look being a better husband is not about trying here and there and only doing it if she responds well you need to own it and this is not Steve's example I'm talking about in general for the gentleman uh or any spouse honestly is that if you want to be better with your partner or your lover you can't just say I want to do it and walk into each week hopeful for it what you need to do is set up a set of cues triggers and evaluative practices where you score yourself and when you score yourself I'll just do this one to ten strategy one your second ten you're amazing okay and then when you score yourself and you should do it at least twice a week and when an air whatever area you're really trying to prove score yourself twice a week I remember um when I was trying to be more productive as a person I said you know what I I'm not as productive as I know I could be and I kept thinking well I'll do this hack or I'll download this thing whatever and I never got more productive you know how I got more productive I put it on my sheet for Wednesday and for Sunday to score myself on productivity that week one I sucked 10 super productive and here's what nice thing about that is when you score yourself and you do this over a period of time you start to see oh I'm scoring low right here and when you score yourself let's say you give yourself a five and you know you should be an eight then you get that benefit asking a question which seeks Clarity saying how could I be more productive right now how could I go from a five to a ten like what would I have to do same thing with being a better husband okay this week how am I doing as a husband um uh four we want to be a 10. what would it take to go from a four to a ten you know what let me bring home some flowers you know what let me listen a little bit better you know what let me straighten up a little bit here you know what let me stop screaming at the kids because that freaks everybody you got to figure out your thing man but it only happens from scoring so let me suggest a simple thing to help you Steve tactically get out of frustration more often very simple and that is I want you to read the chapter on energy since we're there and the first practice of this you love it is called release tension set in tension frustration is usually built across the day one little thing upsets us then another thing upsets us we didn't let those go a third thing stacks on it then a fourth thing stacks on us and then throughout the day we're picking up more frustration and at the end of the day we're so frustrated we can't do anything and so we don't want to do our good practices take care of our health or or be thoughtful and so here's what I want you to think about I would love for you to do whatever like if you're if you're in between activities let's say you do your email now you can do a PowerPoint presentation pull away from the email close your eyes repeat the word release to yourself just for three minutes just repeat release like a mantra release at the end when you feel like the tension because your goal in that is to release tension in the body release thoughts in the Mind release thoughts in the Mind release tension in the body that's the word release is your cue then after you feel like like that a little bit of tension release ask what's my intention now for who I'm going to be and what I'm going to focus on in this next activity and that little pause between things throughout the day will start be like releasing baggage throughout the day releasing energetic uh negativity that's been built up on to you and here's the thing you might say well Brennan that's not good enough because I'm frustrated about everything I'm frustrated about my health and I'm frustrated about my career I'm frustrated about my marriage and and people who are frustrated they make that frustration big but it's easy to get really frustrated and globalize frustration I'm frustrated with everything right don't do that realize that frustration is being built up throughout the day take back control of your life by Taking Back all those little micro moments between your activities to release the tension and if you start doing that and you are releasing the attention stepping into the next moment with some intention what you're going to start to find I promise you is less frustration than body and when you have less frustration in the body your mind will operate at a better level let me move on through the rest of this I'm going to orient this next section especially to wealth business career stuff because I think we're all on the same page now and hopefully I've got you rattling and thinking about this stuff social habits number one increase productivity here's what I want to do I want you to start this week today is Wednesday as I'm filming this so I want you to do is I want you to score yourself tonight on your productivity okay one you were terribly ineffective the last seven days of your life ten you're incredibly effective the last seven days of your life and I want you to know why why do you have that number okay and what I would love for you to do especially if you're a business owner or a solopreneur entrepreneurs listen you need to start scoring yourself on productivity every week it needs to be part of your life and I mean this genuinely you cannot keep waiting until your performance review or quarterly numbers end of the launch end of life like one thing that really moved the needle for me was understanding the high performers they're really measuring themselves on productivity specifically they're asking if they have created what we call pqo prolific quality output in the areas that matter right is what you are being judged on either in your job or in the marketplace are you putting it out there you know look at the most followed people in the world they are consistent man look at the most extraordinary people in any career consistent why because they have set up their lives so that consistency must take place they measure themselves on that or maybe they're compensating themselves on that or they do it with their team reviews but I'm telling you what this one cannot be an intention let me say that again this cannot be an intention you cannot just say I'm going to be more productive I'm going to be more productive I'm thinking productivity I'm attracting productivity nests into my body this is not going to work for you okay productivity cannot be an intention increasing productivity must be an implementation of a scorecard for you is the only way and if you're in Corporate America you know this if you've ever done any level of human performance or organizational development no scorecard no growth right we have to measure ourselves and I know I have so many entrepreneurs watching this because the time of the day right now so it is necessary it is really necessary for you to score yourself specifically on productivity and here's a question I want you to ask did I produce the outputs that really mattered in the last seven days and it is a yes or no and if it is a no the question is why what would I have to do to be able to re-amp my focus to create the things that matter the most now I'll give you an example this morning um I've got a seminar coming up and all of the printing is due and it's obviously really important to get the guidebooks and the brochures and all the other stuff out that we if you ever been to our events you know you get a lot of stuff uh well I got to create that weeks in advance and the issue is we've got this book launch going on that took attention away from me getting the printing done so this morning I had to say what's the most important output by the end of this day and you know what it wasn't the printing even though that deadline is right here I had to look at like what are the outputs that matter the most today to keep me on track in the bigger mission and I had to text my team I said when is the last drop dead moment we can get that and they they scrambled to find a Another Printer that was even closer and more flexible so that I could have an extra couple days even though this one printer said it has to be done tonight I had to question that to say what is most important to create right now to keep me on track to the overall mission and some other things superseded that that happened this morning and I say that because too many people they don't do the analysis in the morning what they do is they get up they Bumble into their day then they react to everybody on email then they do the things that they put in their calendar week three seven weeks ago I want you every morning to do a performance analysis of what you have planned that day and go is what's on my calendar today really necessary for today is what is on my calendar really going to help me achieve more prolific quality output in my field of endeavor and if the answer is no my friends stop cancel it break the meeting don't do the thing move the deadline but I am here to say you need to do that every morning look if all I could get you to do is three simple things every morning do a performance analysis of what's coming up that day what is necessary and what is the quality output you're looking towards and is it happening today what really matters the most today and start clearing the decks second thing don't check your email in the first 60 Minutes of the day stoned okay if you stop checking your email in the first 60 minutes a day and now that includes direct messages and texts and everything else that we're bombarded with on social media stop spend the 60 Minutes of your day thinking planning preparing readying your body uh having a discussion even if it has to be with the team for what the day should be about versus reacting do not allow reactivity to happen in that first hour of your day because it will for most people it derails hours of their day and we know this from productivity science because we can see that those who are interrupted tend to move on listen this if you're to work and you get interrupted what tends to happen is that you will go and you will do two distracted activities before you get back to the main thing that you should have had kept as the main thing so that's the science it's usually two for one it's I get interrupted and I get interrupted now I'm going to go back to my computer do two dumb stupid things that don't matter before I return to the very thing that I was working on before I was interrupted so you really need to be careful of reactivity and interruptions in that first hour of your day especially and then the third thing I want you to do remember gauge yourself I want you to gauge yourself Wednesday night and Sunday night on the productivity that you have had that week on a scale of one it down score yourself keep in a journal write down the numbers okay we have a journal coming out uh should be out for the holidays a full like high performance type uh program that has lots of cool stuff in it um but you can do it in your own journal score yourself one to ten every single week okay I need to move on I know develop influence this is really important I want you to do a strategy session tonight and when you sit down and I want you to say what would make me more influential in my career right now so that in one year from now one year from now I'm doubling my output ask this question again what would make me more influential in my career right now so then a year from now I am doubling my output let me give an example if I say okay I'll take a a financial area because it makes it easier for people let's let's call if I'm selling X number of products right now okay let's say I'm selling a thousand products a day okay if in a year from now I'm gonna have two thousand products sold a day what kind of influence would I have to gain to make that happen now that influence for me that could be hiring somebody who's extraordinary that could be elevating my brand and my messaging in the marketplace that could be influence of me getting around bigger influencers who might give me access to Their audience it could be me doing more interviews it could be getting better Affiliates it could be me learning for me to develop communicate with better Excellence so I have more I don't know what it is but I need to figure that out most people have not tied their influence to their outputs and that's why they're struggling they're just trying to bang their head against the wall more often and that's not helping them what you need to do is think how could you be more influential because isn't it true if you became more influential things might get easier isn't it true if you became more influential you could Inspire your tribe to help you more isn't true if you became more influential you could get people to believe in you buy from you support you more that's why I think this chapter is so important and this work is so unique the reason high performance studies is so unique is we are not studying individual differences only correlated and related to initial success because I'm telling you too many psychologists who now want to get into training and and who now want to be you know out there speaking they have not studied the history of personal development enough and their mistake a lot of professionals do this psychologists psychiatrists professionals will often say or especially academics they'll say all those stupid self-help people they're just making stuff up no they're relying on over a hundred years of things that have been put out there that we know I'll give you an example grit with Angela Duckworth who's unbelievable by the way and I love that book and love Angela's work and everything that coming out of University of Pennsylvania is so important right now but most of that is lagging behind about 40 years from the personal development self-help Market that's already been talking about it and a mistake that happens often is a psychologist doesn't walk across the hallway to the sociologist and talk with them and so you have things that perpetuate in the academic circles that are not sometimes as well thought out in the general Marketplace they're good in their one place but not for example communicating to people that success is really tied to grit passion and perseverance is a dramatic mistake that any person personal development or organizational development could tell you 30 years ago why because passion perseverance why important individual differences when organizational development people talk about how does it work in the field they realize if you had all the passion in the world and all the perseverance but you lacked people skills the ability to influence others positively you'd be dead in the water meaning Tom Brady is not Tom Brady just because he's passionate and perseverant he's also Tom Brady because he's a leader because he's got extraordinary people skills with his team because think about how many passionate and persevering people who also do a lot of practice ruined their relationships with their coaches or their teammates and now they're not star athletes anymore we have to have influence in the conversation with high performance and our reports and our work and research and all my empirical work proves it you cannot just look at individual differences why does this matter because you need to re-look at the relationships you have at work and in your industries and you need to ask how can I develop more influence at work how can I develop a better relationship with everybody at work and it's not just going to be because you're happier and more passionate and it's not going to be just because you work harder and you persevere the resilient all the time those are important believe me those are important but if you don't start working on your network you will not grow your net worth remember that one that's 50 years old too you need to develop that Network and you need to develop the nodes in that network with deeper more meaningful relationships and anyone who talks to you about success who does not talk about influence I just say run because that person has not even done the Casual observations it is more important for you to realize your next level is tied to your next level of influence with your family with your friends with the people you serve and sell to I really need you to connect to that idea it's everything to your business success now okay you need to gauge more influence see what the influencers are doing model that but ask how could you drive so much value and positivity into other people's lives regardless of your strength or regardless of what you're passionate about because that's what we think well I can only add value or I'm passionate I'm like what no you add value by solving problems sometimes those problems aren't correlated with your strengths or your personality sometimes those have nothing to do with what you're even capable of a lot of things I've done over my career to help people I didn't know how to do it yet I had to get in the mix and train myself because I knew if I could solve that problem I could develop influence if I could develop influence I could solve bigger problems if I could solve bigger problems and develop more influence I might be able to move the needle of the world a little bit people ask all the time how do you have so many followers Brennan it's not because my passion it's not just because of perseverance it's because I cared about developing the skills of influence how do you do it in the book we talk a lot about your necessity of shaping people's thoughts your ability to direct the conversation so that people are discovering what they think and that you're shaping their thoughts as well and also challenging people for most of you watching right now one of the things that's going to bring you back to life we're talking about vibrancy aliveness fulfillment is challenging yourself but also challenging other people you want to feel more fulfilled in your family life challenge your family to rise that's hard to say and I get it somebody like oh my God if I challenge my family I know but maybe you challenge them by just being the role model but if you want any given situation you're in to improve challenge people and I know that might sound esoteric but look uh look at the best marketers in the world what do they do they do 30-day challenges why are they always doing challenges because they work because when you engage people and you push them they want to be part of your tribe so how are you pushing people are you leading the way are you really challenging the people around you to rise to other levels of Excellence or are you just letting them go through the motions and it's easier to let people go through the motions than develop influence and that's why we also must oops demonstrate courage when we demonstrate and develop courage internally that means we speak up for ourselves and other people more consistently and more constantly and here's what I want you to do I want you to ask a simple question how could you like what level of Courage would you have to have what would you have to go for what would you have to go for to double your wealth like what level of Courage would you have to have to double your wealth what level of Courage would you have to have to double your happiness in life right now we can just choose in the moment to be happy with like how would you have to start showing up like what's beyond your comfort zone that's going to bring the accolades the appreciation the reward because there's something there there's something if you will challenge yourself to be a little more courageous a little more bold to speak up for yourself and other people a little bit more to stay to take more confident and trusting steps into the unknown I promise you you will ship the results you're getting a lot of people they talk about courage and they talk about it in a in a very I would say Bland and weak way because they think courage is only tied to vulnerability and if I'm I'm just being vulnerable I'm encouraged I'm like no now you're no now you're Baseline human now let's go to another level let's knock you the crap out of your comfort zone and now let's talk about courage because I think it's gotten too much oh she posted a post about herself how courageous I'm like really a billion people posted something today I think we've knocked courageous down from the place it should be I think yes can we have everyday actions of Courage absolutely but we've got into such a you know Airy fairy approach to courage that most people aren't really bellying up the counter of life and going you know what serve me a big drink of hardship let's go and that's why they're struggling so much you know they're just like oh well courage for me is you know just just being vulnerable and just showing people are like what I really you know and they get this look on their face and I'm like oh my God okay great job and that's wonderful for everything that you're doing in yoga class keep doing that and it's great for Spiritual Development no problem with vulnerability but vulnerability is first tier courage I want you to challenge yourself what are you gonna do to knock yourself out of your comfort zone in the areas that matter you most that means for your family right if you really wanted to improve your relationship with somebody what would real courage look like what would it really look like if you really wanted to advance the quality of your life what would courage really look like for you because I promise it wouldn't just be that first step and that first step by the way I honor that and I celebrate that but we have gotten a little bit wimpy in this approach and people don't like when I say that but it's true it's become too much of an academic conversation about courage without enough of the reality of what it takes and I say that because I'm a practitioner not an academic I appreciate the people who are writing about courage and they live in you know their their beautiful Suburban they've never actually had to coach hundreds of people to another level of performance before and they're talking about what they think changes people's lives or they read in their literature View and I respect all of that but I also challenge them to get the crap out of their own internal thinking about what courage is and go start coaching people like put your butt on the line with your money where it is important where you get paid if you get a result with them or you don't because it's that level of practitioner who will say to you Brendan's right and if I sound wrong to you or you don't like that idea I honor that because that's your perspective but my perspective is being in the field my perspective is I get paid to get the transformation and if I don't I don't get paid and that what have I learned that process the courage is a real thing is not just once in a while it's going there are leaps there is boldness there that sometimes truly frighten people I mean they put their backs against the wall they burn the boats they went all in and they were worried and they were scared and the anxiety was there and they stepped into it anyway that is something I deeply respect and that's something that is required of you to really break through whether you think it's breaking through a glass ceiling or breaking through the next level of wealth or breaking through whatever it is for you I'm telling you go for it like really think about what that means for you now I'm very honoring in the book and and I hope that it comes across that I appreciate all the different levels of conversation we could have about that in fact I start this chapter of developing courage admitting I was wrong and that I had a client situation I didn't think she was being courageous enough but what she did do turned out to be really courageous I judged it too soon and I was wrong so I'm not here saying I got all the answers I was wrong but I also know that what got her the ultimate transformation was a very bold move in her life and I think you need to make that in your life to go to the next level of wealth of productivity of joy of fulfillment because you know nobody at the end of their life wants to get the end of life and go you know what I only lived completely within the safety of my preferences I lived a life that was just all I ever tried to do was the easy stuff I never tried to do anything that pushed me no one wants to say that at the end so start pushing start going if you've ever chosen a year to be bold and courageous make it this year because I know from the numbers and the data and the research but more importantly years 10 years at the top of high performance training in the world and getting the results for people courage Gotta Have It I hope this has served you I know I went a little bit long on all these topics but I was trying to give you a different perspective on it I've covered as much as I can in our time today and I went a little bit over so I hope you enjoyed it I got nothing to sell and nothing to say other than this thank you for your support of high performance habits please do the work in the book put it into practice please know this with deep motivation in your heart and the right high performance habits you can become more extraordinary at what you do so every day of your life read a little bit of a high performance habits to get you back in that mindset if you need to do that and as always make sure go out there every single day live fully love openly and go make a difference today thank you again for all of your support I'll talk to you all soon hey it's Brent I just want to thank you for watching my channel there's so many other teachings and trainings on this channel so please enjoy thanks for being here also for those who want to go to another level I have an upcoming certified high performance coach certification week this is where I teach you and certify you to become a world-class life coach we call them certified high performance coaches you can click the link in the description right now to apply and learn about our upcoming certification week if you want to go to another level as a life coach and you want me to certify you and help you make sure you click that link and take advantage of it right now enrollment is open today

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Published: Mon Jun 05 2023