Am I in the wrong for despising my autistic sister since she ruined my childhood??? - (r/AITA)

are / mi v.a hole mi v.a hole for despising my mentally handicapped sister the title makes me sound horrible but hear me out my sister is severely autistic she requires attention almost twenty four stroke seven and cannot be left alone she is not verbal and cannot take care of herself at all despite the fact that she is only 12 she is extremely destructive and violent and destroys anything she gets her hands on I hacked her that should be wrong to say that it doesn't feel like it I was only six years old when she was born and since then I've never sold Lee had my parents attention even since I can remember the world has revolved around her I was moved out of my room into the basement at seven because she needed to be in the room next to my parents all of my toys as a child were destroyed by her and my parents simply ignored me when I complained even when I was 14 and she destroyed a Mac my school gave me I was in the wrong along with this I am expected to take care of her and drop everything I do for her I can never make plans with friend because my parents expect me to be there if they need me to take care of her even when I do somehow get time to myself I am required to leave if they need me if I do not then I am punished the recent example of this is when I went to see the new spider-man movie and was grounded because I turned my phone off in the theatre it seems as if I am nothing more than a slave to them and anything involving her simply overshadows me this last week I was chosen to give a speech at a school event I was so exited and my parents promised to be there but they never showed and claimed it was because of my sister anytime anything like this happens for me they are too busy with her NTA these are perfectly legitimate and understandable feelings you have done nothing to sign up for taking care of another human being it's not like she's your kid and that was wrong off your dad to joke about because it sounds like he probably is really thinking along those lines be honest with your parents about how you feel make clear that it's insane that you're expected to be a full-time babysitter grounded for no phone in a theater that's ducking [ __ ] Hey autistic guy here can confirm that Opie is MTA here I can totally get this situation from Opie I know this is taboo but we errand pets and we shold just be thrown around like okay you'll take care of him now now if you don't want to take care of us fine but don't throw us in someone's hands without even asking us first our friendship s and life is based around trust it takes time to build up a friendship relationship in general with people for us more than anyone else does I just hate all of the taboo out there in the world about us autists it just shouldn't even be taboo I'm sorry for the rant I just felt like I wanted to clear things up since I've seen more and more posts on all kinds of subreddits noticing the hate towards us we're kind people well I am an internet troll so please exclude me lol and except for some bad rotten apples of course please don't see us as an item or an entity that's just there we need care but we don't need to get treated differently and we definitely don't need attention 24 Strokes 7 edit obviously most do need attention 24 stroke 7 due to 24 Strokes 7 impulsive behavior and contain eeeh smelt dear ones it sucks but it's needed the attention but not forced attention like what happens to Opie I'm also getting way too much attention in my family and I'm obviously noticing it annoys some of my other family members siblings I keep saying it to my parent but she just won't listen to it lol that's also a taboo we can see others emotions feelings we do understand emotions feelings troubles we're just having a hard time with it that is all RRL STFU all right enough blabbering conclusion Opie should not be expected to be able to take care for someone severely autistic out of nowhere and is not the a-hole but we're talking about someone with severe autism so like ignore half of what I just said I really really hope mostly parents are reading this and we'll learn from this please I really started some controversy here I'm sorry NTA kid I hope you go to college far away from home later in life make sure your parents understand that you won't be taking responsibility so they better have care and funding in place go far away procure job far away and stay fair away NTA if you can go to college far away time away and on your own to be just you will be good for you because I think your dad was only half joking at some time you will want to have a conversation that they need to plan for the care of your sister in the future and make it clear that it is not you especially if you feel the same way as you do now I'm really sorry your parents didn't handle this better and I hope that one day your anger moves away from your sister too oh but they will make sure to heavily guilt strip Opie to look after his sister which I'm afraid he'll come around even he hates her now yeah be aware that this will happen you telling them that you won't be spending what's left of your life after their passing caring for your adults sister will likely cause a rift especially considering their lack of awareness of the situation already NTA but this is a parent problem not a sister problem I am a parent of one autistic child and one near a typical child and I will tell you that we would never treat our NT child like his role is to care take his sister if she ruins his stuff we replace it we have also given him some separate space with a lock so that we can prevent her getting into his stuff now if he leaves it out that's another story but we try our best are there ways in which having a sister with a disability still might suck for him of course we're a family and what impacts one tends to impact us all but we try to mitigate that and at least sympathize when we can't we also make sure that he benefits in whatever ways we can like the fact that he has never had to wait in a long line at an amusement park because of the skip the line pass : it sounds like you parents haven't done any of this and have in fact made everything worse for you that is not your sisters fault she can't help who she is and at only 12 she is still learning and growing and you may still have a great relationship once you are both adults your parents on the other hand should have done better by you the brunt of your anger belongs on them I feel so bad for you your parents need to plan for your sister she isn't your responsibility they also need currents qualified caretaking and water sir aids that they can get a kid is supposed to be growing up it sounds like they lean on you too much some is fine but not a lot NTA this is part of the reason I'm thinking I'll be child free forever like I really want a family but there are so so so many things that can just go wrong splitting up then being disabled how even twins I wouldn't care if it was something manageable but a child for life just seems awful and if I feel this way through just a hypothetical and looking into the future hurting that onto another child by force or guilt is just plain wrong in the stupidest thing ever definitely NTA am i the a-hole for refusing to use the money I inherited from my mother to pay for medical treatment for my half-sister who has a life-threatening sickness she is the child of my father and the woman he cheated on my mother with when I was 25 we found out that my father had been cheating on my mother for years and he had a seven-year-old daughter with his mistress in one split second the happy family I knew was gone and I went through the darkest time in my life my parents divorced and per their prenup my mother walked away with most of their assets since she also contributed more to the family income she never forgave my dad for what he didn't never talk to him again though she grudgingly allowed me to have whatever relationship I wanted to have with him I eventually forgave my dad mostly because I was tired of carrying so much anger and hurt in my heart I talk to him but I want nothing to do with his mistress or my half-sister my mother died last year and left me everything how money her real estate assets and her business which I now own in right I am in a relatively comfortable financial position well my daddy's getting by he was never a good businessman on his own and lost a lot of his money on businesses that later went belly-up this year my half-sister was diagnosed with a life-threatening sickness and she has been in the hospital for the last four months the bills are mounting and my dad came to me for help because they are now in a situation where they are finding it difficult to come up with money for my half-sisters treatment the thing is I don't want to use my mother's money to pay for the treatment of the child her husband had with his other woman though it's not my half-sisters fault it feels so unfair when I think that the money my mother worked hard all her life for will go to a child that neither my mother and I have any responsibility towards and the very same child or the man in the woman who hurt her so much of that I'd really rather use it to grow her company and let my dad and my half-sisters mother figure out how to get money for her treatment they are her parents after all the only thing tying me to her is my father saying she is your sister and if she dies because she didn't get the treatment she needs would you be able to sleep at night am I the a-hole NTA if she dies because she didn't get the treatment she needs would you be able to sleep at night it's wrong off your dad to lay this guilt on you his daughter is his burden while it's not fair for a little girl to suffer I don't blame you from not caring about her well-being no way holes here blood relations don't make somebody family it's unlucky that your half-sister has been put in this position but you're in no way obliged to help her in any way don't feel guilty about being able to do something and refusing to you look out for yourself and people you feel posted no way holes here I don't think he's wrong for asking but you certainly are not wrong for saying no I would feel just as conflicted about it tbh I think the a hole here is the medical system that puts people in severe debt just because they're trying to stay alive edit I can definitely hear the arguments for dad being TAFE for what appears to be guilt-tripping Opie I didn't judge him uh stay because I honestly cannot imagine what it's like to have a dangerously ill child knowing the other child is the money available to help and chooses not to I think it's too complex for me personally to definitively call em Tay I hate the medical system for putting these two in this situation in the first place NTA and I'm so sorry you're in this position it's shameful your father is putting this burden on your shoulders I imagine he is scared for your half sister's life and desperate to find a life-saving solution still very inappropriate and unfair to you though what a heavy situation have you talked to a therapist NTA you had dad cheated on your mother and now wants to guilt trip you into caring for a child that he helped create your dad the guy who ruined his marriage and pretty much any good relationship with you it's sad for the little girl but you have no obligation to her and unfortunately that's the reality she's not someone you know I assume or ever had any relationship with good lord does nobody really see the problem with using an innocent girls life as a way to get back at your father's mistress instead of bending over backwards to get out of helping just do the right thing man I'm sure they are not asking for all of your money but just something to help out you didn't like how your father and his mistress ruined your family break the cycle and be the better man you're the [ __ ] and everyone in this thread saying you're not is also an [ __ ] why do people suck so much edit thanks for the gold and silver and the Platinum this sub really should be changed to r /a Milla girly correct but bankrupt morally because that's honestly what most of these comments seem like does Opie have a legal obligation to help no of course not should they I mean someone is literally going to die so yet NTA as long as it doesn't interfere with your sister getting medical treatment less then figure out the bills millions of parents have to pay their own children's medical bills with no help that's what I was thinking callous as it may sound she is my half-sister by blood but we don't have any relationship she's no different from another child who I don't know with another life-threatening sickness at another hospital it would be great if I could help that other kids but just because I have money to spare doesn't mean I'm obligated to I think I will go against the grain here and Seder as a human being with feelings don't you have the instinct to help another human being sure the backstory makes this situation a bit difficult but the child is not at fault for your father's bad decisions what would you do if it was just a random person in need wouldn't you want to help just a little bit you said you live a comfortable life yet this child has to think about dying because her parents don't have enough money I think any person including your mother would rather help a dying child than a growing company but maybe this is just a cultural thing as I think it would be my first instinct to help a person and then think about everything else NTA the money was left to you by your mother I doubt she'd wanted to be used on the child offer to people that upturned her life also if it's a life-threatening illness she could still die even if you did foot the presumably very large bills it's understandable it's that your dad would ask that to manipulate you into feeling like whatever happens now to be your fault is so messed up it's sad but people get sick and the fact that it costs so much to not dies a problem but it's not yours it's not an easy one but I'm going to say Teufel literally choosing growing a company over your sister's life pretty much everything repulsive about American society is right there no way holes here basically answer this question if she was a stranger and someone close to you came to you and asked for financial help what would you do the honest answer is probably you would hate some cash to a go fund more use your resources to take a day to try and find them help but you would not outright pick up the tab and that's fair heck it's fair even if she was your sister you grew up within your happy little family that no longer exists at the end of the day the real a-hole here is someone is dying there may be treatment and whether or not she gets it is a product of wealth and I'm not trying to be political I'm just saying that you having money should not really matter when it comes to whether she lives or dies so that's not a burden that should be put on you and sure your dad may think but he is desperate looking for something to save his kid's life yeah that's also what I was thinking she's no different from another kid with a life-threatening sickness at another hospital I don't think the parents of a stranger can require someone with money to pay their kids bill just because that someone has money just a heads up your father will likely never forgive you I say this not to guilt-trip you ought to say you're wrong but from his perspective you would be hoarding an excess of a resource you don't need to live away from his child who does need it to live and if she survives without your money then you'll think of it as he forcing him into debts needlessly either way you lose it's completely up to you be prepared to see this bridge burn it adjust based on the grudge you hold against your sister it's not like she asked to be born into a ducked up situation so if she died would you be able to sleep at night knowing you could have helped I mean don't get me wrong it's pretty doubt she that he put that guilt trip on you but it is a valid question too it's not your mother's money now it's yours I'll go with MTA here BC your dad is definitely the a-hole for cheating but you're pretty damn cold-hearted mo it seems so extremely callous I don't have that much distant hate bitterness or whatever it is to not even offer to help with my half sibling dying and our dad's right I wouldn't be able to sleep at night I wouldn't go for broke and bankrupt myself but I would offer as much as I was comfortable and be helping with grants loans Medicare GoFundMe all kinds of support campaigns reddit acts as if children are just awful reminders of the parents actions and don't deserve to be acknowledged let alone included familywize the kid is just a victim of her circumstances VOP also has to ask himself if this is what his mother would want a tow for wearing the joke bikini my friend got me so it was my birthday couple months ago had a party got some gifts my friend Mandy for me a super cute bikini I liked it said thanks she had ripped the tags off but whatever anyway went to the community pool with my roommate wore bikini got in the water roommate immediately as like um girl I look and see that this bikini is now kinda see-through ha ha good joke Mandy anyway Mandy invited me over to her place to hang out with her and her bf and a few others most leavin was still hanging out I'm like hey what if we get in your hot tub I go change after them and meet her bf at the hot tub she's getting new drinks I hop him immediately he's looking at my chest I pretend I don't notice and just make small talk she comes out a few minutes after and just looks in shock eventually gets in euhh is that the one I bought yet I love it I wear it everywhere make up some stuff about how I wore it to the beach some party with lots of guys etc and she's just like oh we're in the tub for 2030 eventually get out and change she approached me after and was like um I'm sorry thought you'd notice but it goes kind of see-through I'm like you know I know why do you buy me a ducking see-through bathing suit she's like it's a joke wait you knew so you just spent last 30 feet flashing my bf on purpose I reply I'm just wearing my birthday gift from her anyway Aitor n ta play stupid games win stupid prizes plus it's not your fault he was blatantly stating of your tits right in front of her e because it still isn't clear to literally anyone I'm saying Mandy has nobody to blame but herself for what happened yeah that's what I told her she didn't like that either lol NTA she knew what kind of gift she was giving you you were just getting her back in a harmless way no one's gonna die from seeing boobs now you can all have a laugh about it no one's gonna die from seeing boobs unless they are operating heavy machinery or walking probably no way holes here she pranked you you pranked her everyone sucks here her for her buying you see through clothing and you feel basically getting naked in front of her and her bf I agree Mandy bought the article of clothing with the intent of humiliating you in front of someone then you wore it in front of her and her boyfriend knowing it would upset her neither one of those things is very nice ahaha ropey this is fantastic I won't give a judgement I'm leaning fairly heavy towards no way holes here but a part of me does feel like everyone sucks cause you didn't purposefully do something that you know would bother your friend she absolutely deserves it though and you simply outplayed her she was playing checkers when you were playing cheese well done no way holes here everyone sucks here if you squint her joke was just as harmless as yours not tasteful emo but harmless and not a hole why I don't see it as much as either of you being jerks and more like a back-and-forth prank now you're on equal ground lol also if a boyfriend was distracted that's on him not you or her edit obviously it's embarrassing in the moment but it's not going have long-lasting effects besides maybe on their friendship lol that's all I meant by harmless that and the fact I don't see that what she did was any worse than what her friend did everyone sucks here and you know it obviously she's teiephone letting you wear a see-through bikini in public but you're an adult deal with it like an adult knowingly exposing your body to people that did not actively consent to seeing it is not the adults way to handle things everyone sucks here you were both shitty friends and thoroughly deserve each other everyone sucks here two wrongs don't make a right your friend sucks for trying to publicly embarrass you with that bikini assuming of course she knew how transparent it would turn in the first case you haven't really said how you knew this was on purpose yet but you suck for flashing them for 30 minutes on purpose in a hot tub after a night of partying both of these situations are about missing consent I get it the boyfriend probably enjoyed it and your friend will get over it but in the end you flash them for 30 minutes without their consent which isn't cool NTA so she was fine with you flashing everybody at the community pool but not her boyfriend seems unreasonable to me throw you made it to the end you're ducking beasts I'll cut you a deal smash LIKE and subscribe for more curated content might it's free and that's a great price

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Published: Tue Nov 05 2019