AITA for being cold to my ex-fiancée and demanding a paternity test after her infidelity? (Reddit)

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[Music] am I the a for being cold to my ex-fiancee and demanding a paternity test after her infidelity so right now I'm in kinda a crappy situation I've been treating my ex-fiancee pretty cold and demanding a paternity test for the child she's caring all of my friends are saying I'm being a major but I don't feel that way here's a story I knew my ex for almost 10 years we go back all the way to high school and have been friends after we graduated I said Duquette and asked her out and we became a couple we dated for almost six years before she came to me and told me she was pregnant I won't lie I loved her at the time and this was actually quite exciting to me so I proposed she however seemed super worried i sat down and talked with her about it I told her that even if she did decide to the pregnancy I would be by her side and still wanted to marry her she was super awkward about it but decided to keep the child and accepted my proposal these past seven months have been a roller coaster she moved in with me and we began getting ready for our daughter's birth and we were planning on getting married after she is born that was until a few weeks ago an old acquaintance from high school reached out to me I was never good friends with him that he said that he felt guilty about letting an innocent man suffer for his and my ex's mistakes this guy claimed that he was the father of my ex's child and that my ex had been lying to me it turns out that my ex and him got reacquainted about a year ago and started having ESI's around the time my ex got pregnant they began having unprotected SES he is not lying about this he sent me photos of them together and showed me texts between the two of them I was able to get my ex's phone and confirmed they were real along with this he sent me a string of Facebook messages of my ex admitting to lying to me because I make more that the real father and she would rather I care for it suffice to say I was ducking best I confronted her she cried I cried it was a mess in the end I broke it off then and there and evicted her from my apartment she's in the process of moving out now but I have not said a single word to her I have pretty much told her that I want her out of my life I also demanded a DNA test the minute the child is born if it is mine I'll help her support it if not then I'm never seeing her again I've been cold to her her and her parents has tried multiple times to work it out with me but I've refused any contact with them at one point she got all of her friends together to try to talk to me and I kicked them out of the apartment with threats of calling the police anytime she's tried to reconcile I've shut it down my friends are saying I'm in wrong here according to them she's pregnant and because of that I should at least be helping her till the baby is born even if it isn't mine I disagree flee but I could be wrong am i letting my own emotions hide the facts from me that I'm onna not the a she has friends and family apparently they can equally help her till the baby is born even if it isn't theirs edit thanks for the gold edit - and my first platinum Wow judging people has been so rewarding today when she gathered her friends they wanted to convey how much she loved me and let me know how sorry she was this is apparently why I have to help her according to them loved you enough to have unprotected ESI's with some other dude and try and keep you on the hook for money duck that they're her friends so they're only looking out for her they don't care about you she's only sorry because she got caught Edit wow I've never gotten gold before thank you you / once time underscore Cola edit - and thanks to anonymous gold and silver givers and there it is the truth not the a she is only sorry because she got caught she's not sorry for cheating on you having unprotected ESI's with someone else deceiving you not up and or trying to place the parentage of the baby on you she's sorry she got busted thank God the other man was decent enough to queue you in on the complete crap sure your ex was bringing to life while mailing your to her cross and she only went to him cuz he makes more money for real even if the guy ducked is at the time GF he still had the guts to man up and save an innocent man I'd say he coolly desertion whooping and a beer probably in that order I dislike cheetahs in general but those that come forward of their own accord are morally much better people than those who hide it until they get caught and then bring in the waterworks sounds to me the other guy wasn't decent but sour and jealous for not being picked a real if I can't have her neither can you attitude the cheetah and the lover both are terrible NTA she cheated and you have proof of it also she did it with utter most malice saying you were richer than the real father and the facts that she is pregnant doesn't make her a saint she is just regretful because she got caught and I doubt that the guy she cheated with wants to be with her now I hope it's not his child so he doesn't have to see her ever again NTA exactly this as far as reconciling doz either she realizes she ducked up at which point it's too late or she expects so Peter continued funding her also Opie's friends are ducked in the head to NTA I agree with all the sentiments expressed here and I have to say I have some respect for the guy that told you he's a for having ESI's with her but he easily could have let you be on the hook for the child good for him also the parents are likely trying to get him to work it out for the same reason he would provide a better life for their grandchild that is what gives me SHP vibes pregnant after cheating and doesn't admit it happens clear who is in the right written proof that she says she is scamming Opie because Opie is richer bull crap bells ringing crap like this happens a lot and a lot of those times the guy never finds out so I don't know NTA you've solid evidence of her infidelity already if it's not even your biological kid why should you be paying for child support if your friends think you're being such an then they can pay her instead according to them it's not about the money it's about the fact that I'm treating the mother of my potential child like crap the mother of your potential child cheated on you and planned to put you on the hook for 18 years of child support money because you make more than the guy she's cheating on you with are they expecting you to be what friendly and sympathetic towards someone like that right it's so ducking mercenary she's like a manipulative psycho gold digger out to trap a man by any means necessary also let's remember she would have made the future child be mistaken about who their real father is - like who gives a crap if her own future kid won't really know their real dad mommy wants a nice lifestyle how about the fact that she treated both the potential fathers like they were disposable or that the child were for sale you deserve a better class of friends not even considering how much of a dumpster fire of a person your ex's I'd like to throw in my lot even if this somehow is your child I would never rekindle a relationship with her I'd pay child support but refuse to even have normal contact with her cheating and then attempting to cheat you out of 18 years of dollars for acing a child duck mat she's a sociopath act like a piece of crap get treated like a piece of crap actions have consequences isn't this crap taught in grade school her friends seem delusional potential child yikes well she was treating the father of his potential child like crap lol auntie a she cheated on you she's ta PS I believe they can now do paternity tests before the baby is born you might want to look into that I did and she refused to tells me more than what the test could NTA at least he told you the truth in the end I would be devastated though this wipes out the meaning of everything you two had I'm sorry Opie sending all the love thank you NTA if your friends are saying urine then you must be leaving something out if your story is legit then you have every right to find out if the kid is yours and cut ties most of my friends are also hers according to them I deserve to feel hurt because of her actions in that if the child is not mine then I have every right to cut her out but most of them are saying that I'm risking my relationship with her if the child is mine apparently I'm in' for in my the mother of a child that may or may not be mine auntie a she made this mess and she needs to pull up her big girl and deal with it she cheated lied and manipulated two men because of her own selfishness you've been together for years and she not only cheated on you but did so unprotected for nearly a year on top of that she admitted that she only wanted you around because you made more money than the other guy you have no obligation to take care of her she has friends and family that can put up with her crap the moment that baby is born you get a paternity test and don't sign a damn thing until you have proof that the child is yours if that baby is yours you need to get a lawyer and set up a custody arrangement so she can't screw you over she has shown how irresponsible and reckless Cheers that child shouldn't have to suffer her mother's consequences if that baby is not yours then you wash your hands of this whole mess and go on to find someone who will respect you in the relationship no one should have to deal with this kind of betrayal and no child should have to be brought into these situations good luck man thanks for watching don't forget to subscribe follow and like our social media channels for more interesting and relative already did videos
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Length: 10min 28sec (628 seconds)
Published: Fri Mar 20 2020
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